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China's Gold Digger Industry: More Than Money, They Take Lives | Asmongold Reacts
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- čas přidán 5. 06. 2024
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1 minute in... that's not a gold digger, that's a Gold Mining Company CEO.
Yeh "Fing Chu Gold Mining LLC" 😆
Great line!! A Gold Mining Co CEO!!
International Gold Mining Industrial Complex 😂
She went from gold farmer to owning a diamond mine.
Shortest date ever - Girl said "I really like you because you are successful and can support my lifestyle".. She seemed confused when I immediately drove her home rather than the restaurant and said it wouldn't work out.
It's not wrong for a woman to be up front about wanting a man who can provide, but a woman also has to bring something to the table. Otherwise, she's a dependent, not a wife. A lot of women think they are the table, and that's just not it.
why even drive her home? you are being calculated in a cold way, why not be calculating yourself
@@raze956serious red flag.
@@acbeaumo "Support my lifestyle" doesn't mean she wants a man that provides, it means she wants a man that gives her whatever she wants whenever she wants. Not wanting to spend thousands of dollars a month in whatever new trendy accessory a woman wants to buy doesn't mean a man is not a provider. If you think that's how it goes then you need to grow up.
Smart man. Her wanting you to support her lifestyle means she's a taker and not a giver.
"Do I look like I can't afford it?" Ma'am you're using someone else's money.
That's their mentality there. All about image and appearances. She earned 5000 a month but wanted to buy 115,000 worth of non essentials.
@@MisterHowzatonly some of the influencers in China are like that. Luckily not all. Many Chinese women are not gold diggers, but pursue a masters degree and work their way to the top. They don’t have a children wish anymore because life is hard there. They work for their own money now
@@truehappiness4U I didn't say they're all gold diggers. I said their mentality is about image and appearances.
Still for sale though?
But they are still chinese lol @truehappiness4U
First guy is the True Alpha 😂😂 Dude walked out and said bye.....
No, that's not Alpha. That's Sigma.
Alpha would be the one, where the girls would voluntarily *pay for him.*
Yeah, I said he's so mean but so cool all at the same time. 🤣🤣🤣
It’s a comedy skit. There are lots of them on Chinese platforms.
an alpha would not be with her in the first place
he is just respecting himself
staged
It's insane that they made this entirely about women commodification, when guys are being reduced to wallet.
Plus, it's women commodifying themselves. Like, who they really trying to blame for that?
@@thefalsehero "who to blame"
CCP and the parents killing of the girls during the one child policy days. Now there is a huge surplus of men and woimen just ca pick and choose the best one out there and are doing so. But you can't critisize the "peolpes party" or the parents in that country, so just "blame women".
@@brammeijboom-mj9ld 51.24% men to 48.76 women in China. Google is free.
@@brammeijboom-mj9ldself control is a thing but blame everyone else
They always do it. Whenever they hate men, they call it internal misogyny. Expecting a guy to break his back and provide everything for a woman? Internalized misogyny.
DO NOT SIMP. Got to admit some of my hope in humanity was restored by the first guy telling the girl to pay for her own shit. I respect that man I don't respect simps. Retain your honor and dignity men.
I watch Asmongold. So, am I simping?
why were they filmed in the first place? that's just a rage bait for views. don't be naive.
@arudenko87 if the camera is working too well , thats suspicious. Faked 'real story' is a whole genre even in China
I doubt none of these simps care about your respect, or anyone else
I’m not very good with awkward situations so wherever I see simping going on, man or woman, I can’t watch it. My wife can’t understand why I can watch horror/action movies and not a comedy that has some cringy shit in it. Can’t do it.
A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.
😂😂😂we are trying
If you can?
Modern Chinese culture.
Zugzwang
Zugzwang is a situation found in chess and other turn-based games wherein one player is put at a disadvantage because of their obligation to make a move;
In China, not helping the elder is a real common thing
Guy driving saw a old lady down so he helped got her medical help
But later was sued by the old lady, she blamed the guy that help, accusing he is the one that hit her (while he didn't)
but the court ruled the guy must pay the old lady because
"he helped the old lady, he must be the one that hit the old lady, he helped because he must feel guilt"
this shit happens all the time in China so it became common when old people are hurt or down they walk away
Weird country.
You must've missed the ending to that court case. Evidence showed the guy was actually the one hitting the old lady, this was discovered later and supported the court ruling.
But it did start a lot of distrust and given some old scums scammy ideas.
It not just China. These days, helping is a crime.
@@blackups__6554 alot of women are getting robbed in front of dudes. Dudes don´t do anything because for all we know thats the ex boyfriend and you´re on the hook for assault. It´s not just china that´s f´d
@@blackups__6554no this specific case of helping needy people on the streets is recently very common in China. I see sorrowful vedios of old people who fell down and can't get and no one would help them becuz of this stupid laws. It's like metoo in west, just that here anyone can do it to anyone.
"do I look like I can't afford it"... yes you do look like YOU can't afford it because its SOMEONE ELSE paying for it.
Zero problem with the change of interests, every relationship is in many ways, true love is rare. But both parts need to do what they promised and not deceive each other. Many sugar Daddy do this everyday. Beauty x money. And many works better than averages marriage...
i like this comment lol.
Sounds like every twitch streamer when they say they make their own money
It's same thing
women love spending other peoples money, resources, and sanity.
"Trust me bro I can fix her..........on second thought"
And thats is why I say you choose to put a ring on that thing ... and what came after is the effect of the caused ... Putting a ring on it.
So yea you choose to be poor, you choose to live in that card board box for the greater good. ohhh for you family this that daughter this that.
You made a choice
on second thought my wallet and credit is crying
This dude lol
Wild to think that as a man you need to have a contract at the ready that you must let a Woman sign before dating her.
The contents of the contract would have to look savage & macho probably but otherwise, how can a Man even be safe to merely give a Woman a chance nowadays?
Societys are so sick and hostile to Men now you gotta use much more protection than just a condom.
Why is the level of risk going up for something that should be romantic and the peak of aspired adulthood?
Nope still broken...
I'm a woman speaking here. Do be careful and avoid those kind of women. It will do both other men and women a favor to avoid further degradation and save you from heartaches.
The reality is, no matter what you give to a person: millions, a car, luxuries and a house: it's never really working. Modern dating is already beyond fucked up that people are already fed with this idea of how you should be rich, handsome/beautiful and any other superficial qualities. This is why people themselves end up with superficial relationships.
We should just go back in the days where dating used to be as simple as meeting people from a common place. Instead of finding the best man/woman, just find someone that brings out the best out of being together.
Tell that to the Woman because their expectations cant be met
Men and women both need to stop using eachother.
@@specialsnowflake9757 i wish it wasnt that way but you have to play the game. Especially with modern woman entitlement.
@@Maximum7077 The only way to win is not playing
@@serioustable8659 this doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Maybe it sounds good on a fortunes cookie but not in reality lol
A friend's brother who works in mainland China told us that many women ask how much you earn and how much do you have in your bank account before you can ask them out.
i want to know, in western countries whether the girl will care or not about the family background of their partner before they get into a marriage? rich or poor? does it have any crime history? education background (which imply the intelligence quotient of the partner)? dose the parents need the support in the future (such as the parents have some disease or disability).
in China girls are care about this kind of things, because there are many girls have a miserable life after they get to the marriage if their partner's family or the partner itself isn't good enough.
@@pipiqiqi4010获得很惨有西方普通人惨？国内女性被资本和毒鸡汤还有自我物化成什么样？
@@pipiqiqi4010 Some do, some dont. Some do based on whatever the background is, like not wanting to date someone that grew up in a trailer park or some such. I dont think its a culture in America though. Its more a person by person thing. There are some folks that would jump on someone that grew up in a trailer park but managed to claw their way out using that exact mindset compared to the mindset of "Oh, his family is trailer trash." as a rejector instead.
I mean there are some folks you can find probably anywhere that some of their first top 10 questions asked are
How much do you make monthly?
Whats your checking acct balance?
What types of jobs do your parents/siblings have?
And honestly those are just red flags to me and any sane person if those pop up in the first couple dates. If your only qualifiers for a date are related to finances, you shouldnt be using dating apps or blind dates, you need to go to Ho Academy or online courses and figure out where target rich environments for your requirements are. Sure, there are rich people on dating apps. 1 in 250,000 or so accounts, not bad odds, but chances are they know how to spot golddiggers online based on profile information anyways.
Sounds sad @@pipiqiqi4010
Is rude
As a veteran Chinese, I certify this video. Check the marriage number and ratio in china guys, they’re plummeting. Gender wars in china are as notorious as in south Korea. Girls love money, but guys can’t afford the money girls demand. Which brave boy would dare to propose? So love is the least factor in marriage. House, cars, and registered permanent residence are top priorities. Compared with real girls, virtual girlfriends are far better.😂
competitive but keep modest..... loving my culture especially traditional oriental culture...for me also help to keep me modest... but i think Confucianism a bit different....south korea also has strong Confucianism
@@vlogscomsean y u baiting for replies with coy pasted shit? 😊
Not only the girls but also their families. Friend of mine wanted to propose but her family said he needs to own a house and 6 digit bank account for them to approve…
That's how it is everywhere but I can't blame them for wanting a good life but at the same time girls don't wanna work for their lives men have to
as chinas neighbour can confirm
I mean asmon should know about chinese gold diggers already.
Underrated 😂
🤣
Chinese ones were just his most recent too. All the relationships hes showed a bit on stream over the years were with obvious clout chasers/gold diggers. He definitely got a type. Gotta do what you gotta do
😂😂😂
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"We all develop skills to acquire capital, sometimes it is learning C++, sometimes it is learning makeup." I am rolling on the ground.
it's true tho
To be fair, they probably mean makeup artist. I refuse to consider scammers being actual job, it's like saying robbing people is a professsion.
And I am learning both lol. But makeup isn't that fun, Python, C++ and ML is.
China's entire culture is based on prosperity and money. This sort of stuff is bound to be rampant there; however it happens everywhere to varying degrees.
But how come u demand multiple of what u and ur date/partner earns? if u earn a 1K dollars u can't ask for a 5K bag, it's just not a choice. Unless u wanna go in debt or u wanna wreck and dump the guy.
The problem is much deeper In Chinese society: when a male baby was favored and baby girls were killed because men were seen as blessed and money breeders. Such demographic imbalance, in such a patriarchic society, makes girls/ women value men by their money: when a woman is viewed as an asset she will get the highest auction price!
这跟文化没有关系跟环境社会保护讨好女性还有中国女性是世界第一地位，还有就是他们被资本和毒鸡汤洗脑还有自我物化
Is based on greed. And only greed. Everything is seen as a comodity.
That's poor mentality. Someone that wants to have things instead of do things.
Not that modern America is any better.
The US is just the same.
This is something Asmon experienced first hand just recently with Kaise.
Whos kaise? sorry I'm out of the loop
She's a twitch streamer and Asmongolds ex girlfriend or whatever they had going on@@orwhynotrandom
That was cold lol
Yeah he was literally a victim of this.😂
Asmon aint buying shit for anyone tho😂😂
Men at check out: "Not today, I have a headache"
Underrated comment
😂😂😂
For me: "not today, I have a nuke"
😂
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥
This went from 1 child policy to now 0 child policy
Chinese women are also vicious to each other... I knew this girl who was dragging along this guy who let her spend everything on his card, she told me she did not like him but he's been helping her so why not. Long after I broke up with my boyfriend, he expressed interest in me as he probably realized he was being dragged along and there was no future with her. She sabotaged our relationship. She didn't want him but she didn't want him to be happy either. I gave a golden career opportunity to this girl and she never ever thanked me and cut contact as soon as she secured a good job. She made sure noone was happy in the end but her. There are many stories like that about asian women I knew. They are very competitive and opportunistic, they can act sweet but you only know if someone is genuinely kind by their actions.
Not just Chinese women lol
"Don't to try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other." --Al Bundy the wise.
Generally true of the Chinese/Hong Kong women I have met. Have not met enough South Koreans to form an opinion. Japanese women were by far the best, IMO.
@@RicardoSantos-oz3uj that is not true, most of the women I meet are very sweet. The brain is wired to remember the bad experiences to not get hurt again. In my experience, white women and asian women who grew up in Asia tend to be the most hostile. Not sure why but many extremely cut-throat and competitive. Isn't limited to only Chinese women either
@@joedoe4595Japanese girl are good but they cheat on you. Many of them are likely to date other men while they are already in a relationships and it’s quite common in Japan society. But other than that Japanese girl are better in Asian
That's not Golddiggers that is just working streets without standing on the corner.
Yeah.
That's exactly what Golddiggers are.
Golddiggers are "working women" who upsale the Girlfriend Experience to simps for ridiculous prices
wtf bruh it is a Golddiggers lOL
You just described a gold digger 🤓
asmon once say: the most punishing a game gets the more the players are going to seek a way to avoid being punsh at all. Irl game gets to hard, a big chunk of the generation stop playing at all.
accurate
I always find this a little disingenuous.
Assuming a man is in a position to court a mate.. they would already be put together enough to attract them in the first place right?
There is a difference between quitting the game and not taking care of yourself... And quitting the game but still ready to play.
How many men have quit but refuse to even keep themselves together and choose vices and convenience over mental health and stability?
@@mitchellterry4961 Yup, they aren't quitting and waiting for a patch, they uninstalled the game
@@mitchellterry4961They fall down into a mental hole they cant get out of. Most men dont receive the mental support they need and would often just be told to suck it up and be a man. Sometimes, people just cant do that and they become contented with what they have and as you say "quit" the game.
@@mitchellterry4961 i agree with this, a healthy society teach man to improve and women to not let their demands posses them, gotta find the middle . i guess we can only say something is bad once the population start to go down
@@mitchellterry4961 It's not quitting the game if you are still ready to play. Then it's just uninstalling the game but still paying for the subscription.
Them not keeping themselves fit and healthy is the ultimate expression of them having quit the game for good, that they tried the grind following the traditional path towards marriage and starting a family, but somewhere along the way they got kneecapped. Once kneecapped, you can never run as you used to, never fight like you used to and that takes some guys out for good.
Guys, as a woman myself PLEASE DO NOT SIMP. It's okay to buy something that's is expensive (but you can still afford and bought in considerate amount) but please DO NOT spend your money on this type of girls/boys because it's only gonna hurt u and your wallet, and trust me they won't be with YOU because they wanted your money only. If a woman wants to be a high-maintenance girly, they will earn the money themselves and won't make their partner pay for it all the time.
And if you are those people who are like "But I like paying her things!" or "He told me he wanted to 'take care of me'" well, I only have one word for you, please have some DIGNITY.
People kindness aren't something that can be USED for your own advantages... And for the guys who are still in denial, I just gonna wish u luck man. I don't know how many times I encountered my boy bestfriend getting angry even depressed, because at the end their partner left them when they ran out of money or other privileges.
对于正常人来说，这种人和诈骗犯差不多。不劳而获是被人诟病的，但毕竟人口基数在这，总是有一小批人不要脸的人。
i feel bad for the store clerk who has to now cancel all those charges and then restock those items.
nah it's fine, it's their task. I would rather be happy doing that , knowing a normal dude didn't get screwed over.
MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets. It's a growth industry for a reason, friends.
It is way, not wallet
@@anushagr14 😂. For sure he knows it
Well they arent guarding them very well if theyre opening them to internet dads to show then how to be a successful man
@@guyfromdubai brah, no mgtow pays for PUA shit
@@anushagr14It's a joke and it flew over your head
Minimum height requirement of 6ft tall men in China is wild demand 😂
It's not that rare in the richer province. Height is directly correlated to your nutrition intake after all.
@@mira-raraand having an anime girl as a pfp is directly correlated to not having a father figure growing up
@@donseavey3704 I'm not a murican, that correlation doesn't work on me.
@@mira-rara what a low effort come back, maybe if your parents saw you as a person and not a accessory growing up you would have ended up more competent.
@@mira-rara height is genetic
No this s*** is no joke. When my dad who is in his 70s married a 40-year-old Chinese woman, I was sceptical. However my dad is an older man and I want him to be happy. I'm aware my dad has 2 pension and he has a good job. He was in the military twice over did over 20 years twice. And he is a clinical criminal psychologist. I noticed that his house had no pictures of her and her son. And they have been married for over 5 years.
My dad has sat me down and asked me to take care of her if he passed away. You guys I'm 10 years older than she. How am I going to take care of her. She needs to take care of me.😂😂😂😂😂 When he passed away she will have the million dollar house and his half a million life insurance. The children get $40000 from his previous marriage. I'm not taking care of nobody but myself😂😂😂😂😂.
哈哈，要听你爸爸的话哦。
My dad got married to a much younger woman, she’s a few years older than me. She gets everything and I get nothing. It’s not because she’s a Chinese woman, this happens everywhere.
I understand the frustration anyway, she needs to help. She’ll disappear from your life anyway 😂
@Collerz7 yes, you are right. Just speaking on this context. However, greed has no race.
Your dad is delusional, who tf expects their children to take care of some gf they have absolutely no relationship to and is the beneficiary to his massive wealth when passing?? Does he hear himself??? I'm a woman btw, wtf is he on about?
Run after Money and Women will run after you, then you can choose as you desire
- Sun Tzu, Art of Gold Diggers
nice
Men are reduced to being nothing more than wallets, feminist don't have a problem with that.
I ask sometime if fem care about their sons.
Well from the women's perspective the major con is that they are literally surrounded by incels.
Why do you think feminism doesn't have a problem with it? If men are wallets and women are gold diggers, doesn't that imply that, by default, its still the men who have more money in that society?
@@aviatedviewssound4798 They think they do but they don't. It's a sickness in the heart.
@@user-df4kf6fg7hTalk to a few modern feminists and you will know they don't have a problem with that. And no. It doesn't imply that men have more money.
I have money, but I would rather donate all of it to charity than give it to women like these.
Don't bro, most charity is scam 😂
Charity is a scam too, most of the charity money goes right into the pockets of the people running it, activists, and dirty politicians
I retired in my 40s.
I don’t do charity.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 I am on the same path. If anyone wants to give to charity, that's nice, but official charities are a scam now indeed, so they should be avoided. If you want to help people and your community, just get out of your house and look around. There has to be something you can help with (which will also improve your neighbourhood for you as well). E.g. I have a small plan of improving the local basketball court. With 500 dollars you can buy new nets, fix some of the paving and install 4 solar-powered flood-lights. Things like that give a better meaning to life, retirement or not :)
would you kindly explain your road to success for me a fellow traveler?
The first man is awesome.
Clerk: Sir, the total is 115,000 yuan.
Man: Sure, but why are you telling me? Tell HER.
While this may be true, ChinaObserver is a propaganda channel. I would take it with a grain of salt, for example majority of the youth does not believe in the 'let it rot' movement, its a monitory group but this video make it seem like its the norm.
😂
I saw a video from SerpentZA where he went to a Chinese marriage market where people advertise their daughters to be married and the only real criteria is how much do you make and how much property do you own so that when they (The Parents) retire you can also afford to look after them. Its not just the wife leeching its also her parents.
yes, because both sides move into your house and each gets a room and hey cook and clean and take care of the house so you can work or both of the parents can work, grandparents live together with you and take care of the child while the parents work
@@irinaparent9066 no they expect you to hire help while they leech
@@irinaparent9066 CCP society 💀
And they wonder why their birth rate is declining, holy shit
@@irinaparent9066and it’s unnecessary unless you’re poor
When your bag is so expensive it comes in its own bag.
It made me think I was in wrong occupation... (IT instead of making women bags)
41:27
My little 90s brain couldn’t help but see a missed opportunity for “OVER 9000!!”
FatCat should have invested that $110,000 in a small coffin apartment and renovated it with galvanized square steel, screws borrowed from his aunt, and eco-friendly wood veneers.
I think you need $12 million for that
That chick is making 5000 yuan a month = 690$, 115,000 yuan = 15,871$ for her shopping spree because "it will match in winter"
Lmaooo, just for WINTER. I'd never buy clothes just to match a season except for how useful it is for a season.
@@sunlightcrusader like MAYBE a long coat or a scarf but 5K+ because it matches the season? Hell no
@@Arcademan09 I am not afraid to buy second hand clothes even. I really wish I was a girl extremely often and I'd STILL behave like this. If/when you die, you die no matter the clothes or dresses you wear.
Worse thing is she'll only match it *this* winter. She'll most definitely complain about them being "out of fashion" once 2025 hits and she'll repeat the cycle.
I have met these types of girls in China. One of these girls used her fathers money and spent more than $6k per month for shopping and beauty products while being a student. And she treated his father like shit, ignored him, lied to him. Huge red flag. From the moment I found out how much money he gives her and that she has no appreciation, lies to him, etc. I knew she will pull this off on me as well someday.
it's not unusual for women from poor countries to marry almost exclusively for money (usually to a foreigner) but the gold digging starting to be normalized is a huge issue
Well good luck to 98% of other women.
Pft, tell that to the men going to Philippines as passport bros.
can confirm!
ming and future the besties are here
@@Ming1975 this, or asian folks who flew to russia and ukraine for framing their next wife
lol i spend like 40 hours worth of research before i buy a backpack for 50 bucks..
At least back packs are very useful! Good work researching
Male influencers teaching men to make a lot of money.
Female influencers teaching women how to get all the mans money.
Lets be real, that is why men prefer to pull girls in gatcha games. Based in this video its much less expensive.
😂😂😂
that's the Hoeflation you get after decades of one child policy
@@ronin1648 你说的根本不靠谱
Hoflatiom exists without the one child policy. Look at any other country. Hoflation is a world wide issue@ronin1648
You're gosh damn right.
That first guy is a model for men across time and space. But you just know that the same lady will be back, at that same store, with another guy who _will_ pay for that.
“He should have said he loved his wife, then he would have looked good to his wife while he is AoE farming”…..goddamn I love asmongold
Remember, when looking for a relationship, you aren't competing with other potential partners, you are competing with them being alone. Men would rather be alone than be a slave to their partner and their job that sustains the relationship.
Then you haven't been to China my friend. Because the stuff shown in the video is only working, because so many guys are willing to do it.
In the essence yes. But it s an increasing trend. It simply depends on the pov of the person aboit relationship
Some men and some women anyway.
Ehhh maybe like 20-30% of us are okay with being alone than settling. The rest feel the need to be in whatever relationship they can get even if they know no love is involved and lots of money is
Disagree. For the majority of men it's hard to be alone. (Meanwhile the majority of women never will be and they are more ok with being alone(since well they can just change it from "alone" to "with someone" without any effort)).
Gotta love the "its horrible men being mysoginists"... and yet you look at the places making these claims and ask girls what they want to be and a LOT of them want to do things like go into fashion, cosmetics, "beauty" "hair stylist", etc. All the very things you are blaming on men. Men aren't telling you to do these things, its other girls/mothers/aunts encouraging such hobbies and careers still getting girl to want to do things like this.
Yes guys appreciate good looking women, but you can't blame men on the situations that women CHOOSE to put themselves into. There are no men FORCING girls to be gold diggers.
One world that women hate, accountability. Even if she agrees with you she is the wrong, she will find a way to blame you for something else.
Similar can be said about so-called socialists and capitalism.
i do agree on other girls pushing the behavior, Knew this dude, cool dude but he was struggling financially and was seeing this asian girl. The girl straight up told him, you don't like me enough, you dont buy me things, My mom said a guy that really likes you will buy you alot of stuff, if hes not go find another guy.
I can argue men push women into such behavior... By not intervene into thier character development
Men taught women how to be humans, not anymore, because "it's harmful to say no to them"
Friend, this is very 1st level thinking. We live in a patriarchal society. If women could wave a magic wand & suddenly not have to bear the children or menstruate & we’d be larger, stronger, taller & make 30% more money, we’d all do that. But we can’t. So we do the best within the patriarchy that we’re part of
I dated a GD last year! My story is similar to the first guy!
1st date was pleasant she spoke about being financially conservative and portrayed herself as a down-to-earth, independent woman! Two weeks later (after a few more dates) she called and wanted to meet for lunch at an outdoor premium shopping mall. She led me into a high end boutique where the sales woman already had her order bagged and waiting on the counter. I started window shopping (waiting for her to conclude her transaction) until i noticed that both her and the sales rep were patiently looking at me as if they were waiting. I headed over to the counter and the lady asked me how did i want to pay for the $3700 order! I kindly smiled and laughed as i casually walked out the door, jumped in my car and bounced!
She called me later and stated that i embarrassed her in front of the sales rep and asked if i thought she was worth a “measly” $3700! I said N O P E ! That was our last date!
4:46 The way he says “China” there kills me 😂
"Real life is Fate Grand Order, there is no pity system"
Words to live by.
It has pity system now but 330 rolls or 900 SQ is a joke.
True ...
Just watched a video on Population collapse, this is perfect.
MOON? lol I did as well lol
lol watched it yesterday
people are saying no we are not but each day people die and each day people are born. But with how stupid we are becoming more people are dying than being born specially when people don't want kids no more and blame their expensive.
Yep. His videos are really something. But this shows the “Western Modern” Woman is almost completely global. Even in the East we are seeing this.
A good watch.
The divorce/separation rate when the woman is seriously sick/ she is the cancer patient was 20.8 % compared to 2.9 % when the man was the patient/sick person.
Conducted by researchers at three medical centers -- the SCCA, Huntsman and Stanford University School of Medicine. THE CONCLUSION : "Female gender was the strongest predictor of separation or divorce in each of the patient groups we studied," said *Marc Chamberlain, M.D., a co-corresponding author and Director of the Neuro-oncology program at the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (SCCA). [ Chamberlain is also a Professor of Neurology and Neurosurgery at the University of Washington School of Medicine. ]
The study, "Gender Disparity in the Rate of Partner Abandonment in Patients with Serious Medical Illness," was published in the Nov.15 issue of the journal Cancer. The other corresponding author is *Michael Glanz, M.D., of the Huntsman Cancer Institute at the University of Utah School of Medicine. [ SOURCE: Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center ].
You cannot see this is staged? The cameraman has setup all the camera angles before the video started. Why believe in fake pranks?
This guy passed his critical thinking class.
@@sor3999 which guy?
@@SimonCUhe’s talking about u dude
@@Bolteco2003 ok.. but it's obvious this video is staged... So many staged videos in CZcams just to get views. All golddigger videos in CZcams are staged.
@@SimonCUnow, it seems like you are failing the critical thinking class 😂
I almost got caught up with a girl I knew who expected to get the "princess treatment" She and I knew each other for many years from middle school, and as adults we reconnected. She was in a weird place, as was I, so we naturally looked out for each other in a way, but as we began our entanglement, red flags immediately came up 1) she's always talking about how if she didn't get enough of my attention, she'd talk to other guys 2) she was always talking about designer this, designer that, etc 3) I've never been one to share pictures of the sensual nature, and she had sent me hundreds 4) she was into astrology
Safe to say I cut things off, she became super toxic, and I've since gone full no contact. Stay safe out there guys.
bruh those 4 points are like half the female population. sure you're not gay or something?
Astrology was the biggest red flag.
LMAO astrology 😂
@@HamHamHampster yeah, when they say it´s mercury retrograde it basically means "this week I´m gonna treat you like crap"
@@lepindre9193 It is. It's a sign she doesn't tackle her own problems or issues head on, but likes to blame it on a bunch of hocus pocus.
Women: Don't treat us like objects!
Some women: I cost this much.
Gold diggers give all women a bad look, hold your friends accountable gals. Many men are giving up on having a relationship altogether, and soon, it'll be hard even for good women to find men.
Thanks for making the distinction that it's some women. It's definitely not all, not even a majority, but american social media and the cultural shift we're seeing in parts of Asia are black-pilling the younger generations, which is a huge shame.
So what's your advice to young men just go ahead and play Russian roulette with your life have you have a 1 and 3 chance of it actually working out ? And if you're wrong you lose everything and homeless and are jumping off a bridge just like that guy, I don't think you're going to get a lot of takers to play this game anymore
@@Spartacus547 Stop going for looks, being shallow. Most attractive girls are very quickly "corrupted", so find someone who seems to steer away from the norm. Someone intelligent, down-to-Earth. Who has ambition, and don't just want you for their money, but to make their own as well.
It's also a double-edged sword, where most men can't handle a woman earning more than them etc., so you also have to exude the same qualities yourself. Be real, mature, if not intelligent then smart, don't sleep around if you don't want a woman who did the same etc.
It's hard, especially when young. I was a bit ahead of all this shit, and I couldn't stand the drama, so I turned down the few women who decided to approach me when younger, and I stayed by myself, until I found a girl with the same worldview as me, when I was 21, and we have now been together 7 years.
I have been with 2 women, my partner with 1 (so just me, and I had just one other woman, I also tried to make it with for 1 year, but didn't work out), but I don't think you need to be THAT prudish. That was me and my partners choice, but I recommend sleeping with nothing more than 5-ish people before 20-25, and as few as you can.
You can also just say fuck it, sleep around, find a girl who does the same, and see if it works out, clearly looking at the world, it sometimes does. I merely stated my approach, and I intend to be with my partner for the rest of my life, and we are trying for children in a few years.
Gold digger friends don't care about other women, Bill Bur explains it well
@@amoebasheep This level of gold diggery? I'd agree with you. However divorce is a huge issue, still a form of goldigging and all too common. Men everywhere should 'protect themselves at all times'. America has exported a lot of trash, but women are still women wherever you go. It IS a shame, and will correct itself, but not anytime soon unfortunately.
In my province(in China), getting married is an expensive thing. It needs to spend at least 50000 USA dollars.(A man in China almost earn 8000 USA dollars per year) That’s why I decide to marry a woman who is not from China mainland 😂
Good on you smart man 👍
Yea but this is true for every culture. Even here in the US, all American men become instant simps when they see a very cute, pretty young Asian with silky smooth and milky white skin with long hair e.g. Korean, Chinese or Japanese. I'm surprised it's so easy to control men that me and my friends find very amusing.
Simping is a miserable reality everywhere.
its not as popularised, but alot of women simp for men in japan at dating cafe's, there's even stories of women scamming simps online to pay their dream date at a dating cafe for a guy, kinda wild
@@spuffles2104 Yeah host clubs in Japan are wild. I have heard interesting stories about the well less known female simping.
It's so joever, since even those who claim being red pill are simping
“He is AOE farming” 🤣 💯
Everyone is talking about Kaise and I agree but cmon. Everybody knew it from it the start. Look at Asmon look at Kaise in what world does that make sense. Y’all just cheered him on because it gave you hope
Skynet cannot become self-aware fast enough.
Agreed
I know someone who almost went through with an arranged marriage. It turned out that the woman and her mother brutally murdered her previous husband to gain his fortune, so he bailed thinking the same would happen to him. My friend and his family literally found this out the morning of the wedding, so they just secretly hopped on the first flight back home they could get.
That's wild
Country?
How come they aren't in jail yet??
@@abel6298 King James was an active homosexual King who modified, altered, and intentionally edited the original text and scriptures; a political tool for power and control. *Read the Ethiopian Bible and study the history of how the KJV Bible was actually created. (P.S. The only Mason allowed in my home is a canning-jar.)
Literal female serial killer.
This generation of women desires independence and preferential treatment but often avoids taking on responsibilities
They want equality without equal contributions.
Often?
They just want rights but not duty
They want all the reward and none of the risk. And I would say they never take responsibility
Accountability is the modern woman’s kryptonite lol
The “fat cat” died in deed, there’s a death certificate, but the Chinese feminist will not accept that and say the girl done nothing wrong
Actually, the police did the investigation. He sent her money. Yes. She sent him money too. She introduced him to her family but in the end, the relationship didn’t work out and he decided to end his life. The sister just uploaded the things that made the girl look bad. You can search for the police report for more info.
@@kristinyuipolice reports are worth nothing honestly.
He helped her fund her dream and he got nothing in return
I'm a man and I've listened to Qu Qu's classes. They're legit. I'm like "yeah if a girl does this I'm gonna fall for it even if I know it's a trap"
“Cultural violence” being used to describe the photography/modeling industry is one of the wildest things I’ve ever heard. I hate the re-defining of terms like “violence”.
It’s exploitation and self-exploitation. Words have meaning and I hate the Gen X- Gen Z tactic of re-defining words to exaggerate their point of view because they’re not literate enough to express themselves.
meanhile gen alpha is barely reading
They're redefining words because their mental gymnastics need them to. They already have an outcome decided, "women are oppressed". And when they see women succeeding they need to redefine what success is.
they like to try and rebrand different things as violence because if they describe it as what it actually is people will see how silly they are being off rip
And it's not cultural violence to profit from the desperation of young men? GMAMFB.
Turning the dictionary to mush is the Marxist tactic -- control the language, control the culture.
Problem is, their entire strategy only works in mostly agrarian societies which aren't specialized -- so you can obliterate huge populations and never see a problem.
But in specialized societies, there can be some roles which only one man in 100,000 can do. If you accidently liquidate that guy, your revolution runs out of resources. There are many jobs which are existential for a nation -- like artilliary shell engineers and machinists. Ours are aging out. This caused us to fall way behind Russia.
I'm here to defend gen X. I was a bmx bandit. We used to patrol the roads, throwing rocks at cars, hustle kids on bad trades for basketball cards, and pillage the local supermarket for chocolate.
There was no exaggeration of words. We terrorised the local neighbourhood with water bombs and glove guns. D&D sessions could finish in fistfights. Please redact gen X from being pretenders, or I'll go egg someone's house and blame it on you 😂
This is also happening all over Taiwan, Singapore, and Hong kong.. it is getting bad here in Thailand also.
The swing back is coming, it will be memorable and worldwide, CZcams nuked my previous comment lol
@@triggeringsmuganimepfp7611what do you mean?
In Thailand it’s usually gold digging for foreign men especially white men but for the rest Thailand is fine. Gold digging among the Thai population is relatively small.
Also korea and japan.
Thats why man in asia are more willing to spend on gacha game.
You know what's funny is this has been happening before the west started it. But in the west they are doing it all wrong with clowning their man.
Just never give them money or luxury goods. Just meaningful gifts and your time.
It is not about being suprise, it is about being moved by that - choosing to act like tolerating that is soulless
"She tryna line up the next one" - exactly what I thought bruhhhh
Its funny how women didn't like being treated as a commodity and traded, then got more rights and freedom, and then a lot of women chose to use loyal fans to willingly become a commodity. The only thing that has changed is they get the better end of the deal, so it wasn't about being a commodity, it was about the money for some of them. Crazy.
nailed it. a huge portion of them willingly commidify themselves under their own volition. while many claim they dont want that
At least before they could (reasonably) blame patriarchy lmao
Almost like nature or something.
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥
I recently watched a CZcams commentary channel explain how only fan actually works, and many are not making bank. They just think they will, but is a scam.
I think there is a culture difference here. There are a lot more men than men in China, 1.1 males to 1 females in most areas, 1.4 males to 1 females in rural areas. It is due to sexism during the one child policy and in rural areas, aka they would kill female babies of abort female babies. Women of marrying age in China now are either single child who are really wanted by their parents, or rich because their parents can pay the penalty for having 2 children. So the Chinese women now are ‘high maintenance’ since they are used to being spoilt or are nepo-babies.
"People" say it's a waste to watch you.
I beg to differ.
I learn quite a bit about myself by watching you admit your mistakes and correct those that are clearly emotionally invested in a subject.
You're a good man from what I've seen the past few years. You are lucky to be in the position you're in and you don't take any of it for granted.
Keep yourself healthy mentally. That's all that matters...but I'm sure you know this.
That is how it is done. Take them shopping but just watch how they pay. Hats off to his genius move.
You absolutely cannot turn a 403 into a housewife. If you think she's at home cooking, boy, you're in for a big surprise when you happen to come home on your lunch break one day.
403? Oh wait I think I get it 😅
You've got it backwards. it's 304
@@GlennYarwoodi do-OOOOOOOOOOH, is it becausethey read from right to left instead of left to right?
@@michelecastellotti9172 punch 304 on your calculator and flip it upside down
.......you mean 304
2:00 that escalated quickly i did not see that chad move coming! i got freaking whiplash from how fast that changed lol
“Questioning if society is sick” yep.. the answer is yes.
Been with my husband for 14 years now. We met at the age of 16 and 17 and were 30 and 31 now. When we meet new people and were asked how long it’s been people are always shocked and say “that’s so long and rare nowa days” and it makes me sad when I hear this because I just know dating and marriage is not how it used to be and a lot of it is because of crap online brainwashing people and ruining their confidence and filling people with brainwashed views. As a woman I’m always told by other women I should want more out of my life and I shouldn’t be the way I am .. which is basically wanting to be married have a family and look after that family .. that’s somehow wrong now and I’m seen as strange ? Society is very broken. I blame many things such as toxic feminism and also those red pill guys as they are both just the same coin but different sides .. but it’s more tipped in women’s favour and feminism right now in society so the red pill guys get called out were as the toxic feminist does not and that is not fair. This is what happens when your fed activist propaganda 24/7 on Instagram and TikTok and Twitter and you allow your echo chamber to distraught your view of the world and what is really going on. There’s no coming back from this at least not in our life time .. the effects are to much and too deep right now
Similar here, I settled with the first girl I fell in love with and never used dating apps etc, I spend all my time with her.
I agree, some online groups are looking more and more like cults that don't see people on the other side as people, equals or relatable.
The unspoken agreement in Society today is "women get to do whatever they want and gold dig while elite men get to sleep with whoever they want and not offer a commitment". What happens is this benefits the minority of men and the majority of women who are making money off of them. The problem with feminism specifically is it just categorically ignores the other 90 percent of men but under this unspoken agreement it's not kept in check.
Society without virtues subsidies them with love for material goods. This is the sign of a failed and soon fallen society.
not really , isn't chinese always like this? since The Han Dynasty era?
OK then, clarify this. What is virtous? Virtue implies morality and morality is culturally subjective. As it has always been and always will until we become the borg.
Your argument holds no water in 1 easy counter.
@@6ic6ic6ic To say that morality is culturally subjective would require you to believe bad cultures don’t exist. And if you acknowledge that bad cultures exist, you can’t say their opinions on what is right or wrong is valid.
If you genuinely believe a culture which promotes child sacrifices is virtuous in anyway then you are the immoral one. If you defend a culture which believes in putting people into camps for immutable characteristics as good, then you are bad. You claim to dismantle an argument in 1 counter, but any normal person with a brain can tell your position is absolutely insane. Objectively bad things exist, things that ruin the lives of everyone for no benefit. Values that counteract this to improve life for all are virtuous, even if not obvious at first.
@@IslamistSocialist371 not really though? idk the issue with chinese history is ccp destroies soo many of it during cultural revolution making trace back real hard
Also heard society tends to collapse around the time gender and sexual freedom is prominent
They don’t want romance love or companionship. They just want $$$$
they want everything, just that money being the top of the list.
I heard that in Poland those kind of expensive shops are a money laundering stations
This is different though, to whatever capacity that it is. With Chinas social credit score, this is exactly the kind of thing you would expect it to address. It'll be interesting to see these sorts of civil issues play out as their system develops, and it'll be curious to see what kind of effect it has on their culture as well
As Chinese, I can confirm. Simp culture is dying out after Covid.
Rought 10 years ago, we got a sub-culture saying "woman only need to be beauty, man just need to pay it off".
After COVID things has been drastically changed. Now is more like "Your LV, Gucci, or Chanel can buy me a 17900+4080 and a couple games on Steam. Dafuq I need you for?"
What’s a 17900+4800?
@@jasonm2245 typo 17900. It should be 14900, which stand for intel 14900 CPU and Nvdia 4080 GPU. In another word, top level gaming rig.
This is SUPER common in China lived there for awhile. China is so money focused with relationships. These stories come from young people with super wealthy families coming from real estate and "old money". Marriage in China is so expensive many young people just kinda date with marriage in mind but never marry unless they have money. Marriages with no money often end in divorce which is common everywhere
You are wrong, brother. China is really big and the society is very complicated. The silent majority is not what you think.
That's because women see men as a wallet, not as a mate.
The gold diggers do not understand love. They will never be happy. They will never understand what it means to stick with your spouse through thick and thin, through better or worse.
If you think East don't have 304's. There's a lot. Korea/Japan/China.
Y'all better fix your location, because Southeast Asia is the Bastion of girls that live normaly.
the ratio asmond hears about women having bad relationships over men having bad ones is due to the fact that women dont mind putting all that business out there and playing for sympathy points. Men, once they get over it will just move on and never talk about it again.
i could tell you all about how my first serious relationship, the girl ended up putting an expiration date on our relationship and if i didn't do something to change her mind, it was over. i could tell you all about how a girl coaxed me to lose my vcard with her only to dump me the next day and was already with the next dude the day after that. or about the girl who left her baby daddy to get with me telling me they were not an item, only to have him calling her that night over it. also found out she had trains ran on her at one point. lol, the numbers are likely pretty even between the genders of how shitty people are in a relationship.
Lol, so based. You basically tell your closest friend if anyone unless it was so public that people ask why you are not together. What is there to talk about? Whine? Look for sympathy? Better get over with it and move forward asap.
so true. Women are usually telling everyone what happened (or even lie about it just to get thise sympathy points) most men i met, friends etc that broke with someone dont even talk about it and just let it be. I has a girlfriend and i broke up with her, i never talked about all the stupid things she did, i just continued with my life. And she was talking behind my back to everyone telling everything and even lying about some things.. And also it doesnt help that if you go and start talking about that, some people see you as a loser because "men dont cry about that, or stop being a baby" and women its the opposite, they complain and all men are behind her listening and putting attention and saying how right she is even if she is not
It's similar to these Tate seminars. It's not changing the coursse takers in any way, it's just rounding them up into a queue. The teacher gets a slice of their income, and they get a feeling of community in "catching rich guys", who are jsut some inheritors of wealth who would take ANYBODY and have the money to spend IF there's a woman to take it. These gold diggers just have the mental comfort of making an effort to being closers to the top in their own school of fish.
If you don't simp, fr, wtf do you think people are gonna do with money? Literally nothing is worth buying except these sweatshop Gucci bags with a number on them.
Lol that's rough. I hope you got better at picking up red flags.
Women tend to name and shame or try to bring in public scrutiny into relationship. As a guy you're suppose to take the pain and move on.
0:52 four thousand dollar bag?? It better hold my responsibilities and fatigue as well.
It better take away my depression too, wtf
And it must play Crisis at 5000 fps. :) I just thought how powerful a computer for 4k buckarenos would be.
4000$ bags are cheap,now a day a Chanel bag can cost up to 10,000$ and Hermes ,around 20,000$.
If you read ANY Korean or Chinese Manwha/Manhua, that shit runs rampant. Guys with a low paying job spending their last on the girl and getting run over by her for her to leave the guy for a rich guy. Art imitates life.
如果你懂中文，你会发现这种现象没有前几年那么严重了，因为很多人移民去了美国😅
A lot of Chinese novels have a broke MC that has a hot girlfriend that breaks up with him for a rich guy then he gets rich via past life or system. Recently there were a lot of novels of MCs that get special powers the more children they have. I wonder if the government had a hand in that because it all came out of nowhere.
As someone who grew up in mainland, I was shocked when I moved to HK and how generous and considerate HK girls are, comparing with my previous 25 years experience with mainland girls.
It's worse in America
Well l see it this way. When grandparents had to live in the great leap world, parents got the expiriance of seeing the end of it (my dad met my mom in 1979, l was born a year later) then there is some CRAZY baggage to have. I loved my grandparents, but from an 80s point of view they would act insane. My mother lived almost 50 years outside of mainland and she does stuff (collect stale bread, grinds them down and holds the stuff in hars) which to an outsider may seem crazy too. And my parents are well off mom us a professor emeritus, dad had a good career as an official and later businessman. The lived expiriance of someone who was a teen or young adult in the 60s is so mindblowing different it is hard to describe.
As a westerner in hk: i love hk girls. Not just for the looks. They just are easy to hang out with and don't seem to want to be treated like a princess.
@@sloesty chill girls are the best
Don't believe him. There is no national distinction in this matter. There are a lot of bad women in Hong Kong.
This is why I laugh hard any time a young guy says he is going to "get a nice girl in Asia".
Yellow fever is one hell of a drug. Also probably thinking they’re more feminine then own area
yep you got to keep update on the dating culture. Even in Asia they already being what the western girls are doing but with western girl is just clowning their man and regret not saving them self.
Or Europe.
I had a friend like that. He assume they’re more feminine.
@@Alex-jb8wrMore feminine, maybe. But I think it's weird that they often expect that Asian girls don't care about money, when money is way more important in Asian nations.
Do you know? When my parents got married, they only needed a bicycle and a few loaves of bread. Nowadays, people get married for at least 100000 RMB. Having a car and a house indicates that capital has entered China.
Reasons why you never piss of your Chinese girlfriend. She take your credit card to Louis Vuitton!
There is no competition if you choose not to compete 😌☕
Happening in Korea too. Lowest birthrate in the world cuz u need to be in the top 10% to get a woman. And if u in the top 1% u prob have multiple women. Its consider a prerequisite to own a million dollar home in seoul to marry a korean woman. And korea has the highest rate of college educated women in the world who dont work. Cuz once they get married they retire
Kpop drama is probably a major factor why that is happening.
So why educate yourself
@@aminoacid6177 girls when guys aren't a pirate vampire mafia lord.
@@Dylanfrias24It’s time to return to Joseon
@@aminoacid6177 yup culture and media is a huge part of it here in america too with influencers.
I'm a woman and married for 24yrs and I have 1 "good clutch bag" and 99.9% of the time I use a bookbag.
If I owned a purse that cost over 100$ I'd be too afraid to use it.
most women want men with good stable income before committing to a relationship. there is no escaping it. no matter where you are.
'MY FAIR LADY' is a film from 1964 about taking a working class woman and making her a posh Lady, it's not a new thing.
We also had Finishing Schools, wiki says there mostly all gone post 1960's.
It's actually about dude making a bet with a friend that he could turn a gutter trash girl into a member of high society. She starts out as a joke but learns the real value of herself. Its one of my favorite movies.
@@apotheases It's a fun way to say 'we all saw it as kids, it's not new', did a search and there's a lot of old videos from the 50-60's of Finishing Schools on youtube. The BBC one is funny.
edit also yep it's a relay good film, watched a trailer and looks like there's a new high quality transfer. Ill have to see if I can find a copy.
I was obsessed with that movie growing up, and it completely fucked my accent
As a HongKonger, i think the situation showed in this video is exactly modern China society, basically the chinese girls are obsessed with money, they love luxurious stuff, but they don’t gain much salary from their jobs, so they want to find a wealthy boyfriend, whenever the boy cannot buy them bags and other stuff, the girls will break up with the boys and find another wealthy guy.
I heard that the boy need to pay 500,000 RMB(Around 69,000 USD) to the girl and her family before the wedding in China otherwise the girl will think that the boy “does not love her”, I think that’s a robbery more than wedding, in 21st century China girls are more superior and they think that boys buying stuff and giving them money is their responsibility, that’s ridiculous.
But I’m glad that nowadays the boys have clearer mind, they rather stay single forever, and that also explained why the birth rate in China decreases drastically in recent years, not because they are unable to give birth, its because dating costs a lot more money than taking care of a child, so no boys wanna date.
Vietnamese too
@@majormarketing6552that’s sad, but i think most East Asian countries have this social norm
Hong Kong is just as bad if not worse no? Fertility rate there is currently 0.75 births per woman, lowest in the entire world.
If you "heard" and are from "Hong Kong" completely destroyed your statement. You probably aren't chinese and instead talking common tropes that isn't based on any fact from your own life.
"does it look like i cant afford it?"
Proceeds to not being able to afford it
A friend told me that:
“Women’s value is their youth and their looks”
“Men’s value is what they accomplish in their career”
Its unfortunate Asmon thinks hiring a maid to clean his house is a waste of money but took a one of these girls on a date recently. Mans preaching wisdom but still falls victim to this scam.
Oh, he KNEW it was a scam, he simply enjoyed his time doing so lol
Asmon probably didn't even tell her his rich?
😂
How is that Unfortunately? A maid is a waste of money as you're capable of cleaning your own space. Taking a girl like this out isn't as much of a waste as you're getting company out of it.
Just a date.
His home and he does whatever he wants.
No marriage. No commingling or cohabitation. No kids.
Seems like he has that Free Agent Lifestyle to me.
Shout out to Coach Greg Adams.
The girl at the start of the video made 5,000 chinese Yuan, which is roughly $690 USD She wanted to buy 115,000 Yuan in product, which is roughly $15,871 USD. If she bought literally NOTHING ELSE, it would take her almost 24 months just to buy those items.
The store clerk was even trying to check her, probably she got the vibe the guy wasn't going to pay. Bro saw that she went full gold digger and decided to just let her reap the whirlwind.
But how could some one who earns that much even possibly be considering designer clothing? I would be worried about affording basic necessities at that salary.
@@GusFring1992if a society sees men as wallets she isn't operating in reality just what he can give her