Why Bother With Marriage?
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2016
- From many points of view, marriage is a costly hassle that makes no sense. Why, then, might there still be good reasons to get married?
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"It’s tempting to think of marriage as old fashioned. Why not just live with someone and be done with it? What need for a public ceremony? Why the weird traditions that people normally keep away from: all those churches, temples, hymns, vows and prayers? Marriage must be a silly relic from the religious childhood of humankind, not designed for the more logical modern world..."
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If you are bored with the single life, marriage is a great opportunity to create debt, children, and stress. Just do it. Nike.
Exactly I like an easy life and I can get stress at work for free
The point of life is to spread your genes and advance the species. If you fail to do this, then all you have achieved would have been for nothing.
+Lucifer Morningstar So a person's life has no meaning if they don't have offspring? I disagree and there are plenty of other humans having offspring. Personally, it's just not for me.
Or the wedded can choose not to have kids or get into debt, really cuts down on stress
+Lucifer Morningstar That is fine for the majority but my life is more about having a good time. See as many bands as I can, read as many books as I can and climb as many hills as I can and leave nothing behind. I do not even want a headstone. It will be like I was never here.
I'm honest enough to admit that I'm too selfish to want marriage or kids. I enjoy my solitude. I have my work. I have my hobbies. I'm fine.
I can sympathize.
Based and lifepied
Same
But if everyone said they don’t want kids wouldn’t humans eventually go extinct?
@@r3b22ber3 Yes, but we are far from having that problem now.
Never sign a contract where the other person gets paid to leave.
Yeah
💯
I'll remember that regardless of marriage
Fact
Lol
The only people who benefit from marriage are Lawyers
And women
О, Ткаченко шоу смотришь?
@@shekubooti8623 when they divorced they get most of the money
@@shekubooti8623 yes tf
No
everyone: being married sucks! Never get married!
Me: I don’t want to get married
Everyone: whaaaaat?! Why?!???
Same with school and jobs. Parents especially bitch nonstop how much they hate it, then wonder why their child doesn't like school or their job.
This x1000000000.
Then don't get married, but how can you back up what you say without having been married? Answer, you cannot, so you make things up like a little child.
@@jimgallagher5902 you sound like you fell for the marriage trap and now you're miserable lol
@@jimgallagher5902 Maybe you should READ what the person said. "EVERYONE: being married sucks" Meaning EVERYONE who is married is telling him "it sucks! never get married" A wise man learns from his mistakes, a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. Now as for me, i've been through two major relationships (7 and 10 years) most marriages don't even last 7 years, so when I say marriage sucks I speak from a position of experience. I can tell though that you are the type of person who will just reply with some lame attempt at an insult cause you really have no point to make, just wanted to point out the flaw in your logic, or lack there of.
Marriage is great if you want to lose your house, your income, your kids, and your dog.
Don t touch my dog
My dog (my grandmother's dog, but I visited every Sunday, so it was like having my own dog) passed away over a decade ago.
So good luck getting my dog, divorce lawyers. God isn't gonna just let lawyers take dogs out of Heaven, lol.
AAAAAAAAAYEEE
Your dog?
You mean marriage is great if you don't divorce.
No one has ever told me “dude you need to get married, it’s awesome!” 😅
I I yup misery loves company!
@@donesy125 FACTS!
😂😂😂😂 exactly
You haven met the right people perhaps? I met a happy couple in La and he said the secret was compromise compromise compromise
@@maryerickson9681 yep. But which partner is compromising?
Honestly, what's the point of getting married when the chances of getting a divorce is so high? It doesn't seem worth it if you really think about it.
Jordan Peterson explained it well, marriage puts a limit mark, a fencing around you and your partner. Its why the ring is oval an you say vows
Marriage is suppose to mean "I am not leaving no matter what"
Its too easy to pack your bags when you are just living with someone, not the same when you are married. Money aside.
People these days are too quick to quit or look for a more "fun life" specially women.
Young and naive, the worst combination
@@shqiptariidukagjinit5650 It's not all about love. People really change
@@btf1287 Make laws favorable to men and then we will talk. Your stupid emotional manipulation along with that tradcon jordan peterson doesn't mean anything
@@shqiptariidukagjinit5650 u act like people don't change.
Like a wise man once said;
"Marriage is grand. Divorce is hundred grand ".
quantomic1106
That’s a new one for me! FUNNY!!!
Vincent T. Are you high. It’s like 1-3k
*l o l*
No, a moron said that...you know, like you!
@Aaron Kiker : Really? How about providing back up for these "FACTS"? I await your reply with FACTS!!!
I'd rather be single and miserable than married and miserable
sad but totally true, I know, well now I know
Agreed
I'm single and content, but so many of my friends are either married and miserable or in a relationship and miserable. I have few friends and happy relationships.
Sounds like your friends jumped into relationships without knowing what makes them happy and searching for that.
+legisnuntius Oh shut up you idiot.
My parents were arranged to be married and they still remain unhappily married for 35+ years!
lmao
Hilarious and sad at the same time. This should be repeated many times over as the other rosy trope is usually bandied about. "Arranged and they ended up oh, so happy." BS.
That is like a drop in the whole ocean.
That sums it up... They stick together because they are scared of being alone
After reading all the comments, I feel a sense of togetherness with all of you,... I enjoyed reading the comments more than the video🤣🤣🤣
Sameee
Ditto!
I don't hate marriage but I feel like I don't fit in the mould and its my personal happiness that matters and not what others want.
@The 1995 Stoic It's 2021, it's not just women who are responsible for household chores. It's fair they're split up. It's my opinion though and I ain't going to be touching any dishes if I get married. Yet again, marriage is overrated anyways. Especially with guys that think like you. Maybe some women don't mind doing all the housework, but I do. For all you know I'll probably be the main bread winner if I get married. I mean I'm already running a business now while in school.
@@angy101rulz I'm happily single, self-supporting and no kids.. I do my own dishes and my own laundry. Problem solved and alimony avoided. 😊
My favorite is "You haven't found the right one yet"
That one always makes me laugh, the right one doesn't exist because everyone changes over time.
Wow, you're wise, that one too is my favorite. The right one is yourself, everyone does change overtime that's why marriages are unnatural.
I agree that the phrase is not realistic but everyone doesn't necessarily change for the worst and people don't change to become a completely different person to who they really are.
I murdered the right one a long time ago so that I'd never have to admit to having met her. (I'm kidding- the honest statement is that she never existed). Single and happy!
@@deydraniadiancecht8298 Murdered??!!! Check your spell checker lmao
@Shorty I agree with that, people tend to change no matter what the circumstanceand it's true women have divorce and family courts in their back pocket, if they want equality give that shit up.
All the married people I know complain about being married.
Same, my parents included
Bad Ass Marriage is the worst thing anyone could ever do
Bad Ass usually the women are happier than the men because they have one dude on lock down and can use his money. Men are way more miserable because they are in bondage. Why any man would agree to get married is fucking beyond me.
do you know anyone who doesnt complain?
Mostly the men complain cos it's shit beyond shit
Chances of development increase hugely when we don’t keep running away to people who falsely reassure that there is nothing wrong with us.
This is a brilliant insight, and I wish I could "like" it more than once. Most relationships are an easy way to gain validation for our imperfections and buffer us from the painstaking effort of knowing we aren't all that special and that most of our attitudes suck and need improvement.
But it's always the wife who finds something to complain about. No matter what you do.
I love this.
@@tarikay93"it's always the wife"
I for one enjoyed being married it lasted 60years until I lost the love of my life I wish more could enjoy the union
I think marriages just like yours are wonderful… And I think we do as humans need companionship. I think the issue is that nowadays there’s so much challenging the institution that it’s hard to find what you had. People are constantly moving onto the next thing with dating apps that are in their phones, they get divorced the second something goes wrong, and there’s been institutional imbalances with women and men and things like divorce. I think the question is how can we find companionship without all of the modern day headaches? Because as humans we need companionship like what you had :-)
Thank you for sharing. I'm looking forward to being married, it's something I definitely want to do. I watched this video so I could see a different perspective and enter the union armed with more than the fantasy that is usually portrayed. Sharing your life with someone and growing with them is a beautiful thing. Nothing beats life-long friendships, and marriage is probably the life-iest long-iest one there is. Lol why are all these other people so bitter about it? Why are single, never been married bitter about it? I suppose going into anything with the wrong/unreasonable expectations will always result in unhappiness.
@The 1995 Stoic And you live in the land founded by criminals , rapists and racists? Much better i suppose?
@The 1995 Stoic lool so your slating where all of humanity comes from then... Dummy
I think ill be single my whole life. I cant deal with people, the only person im comfortable with is myself.
that will be the best decision that you ever made
because once you get involved with somebody legally.... you're fucked
I will do the same.
your comment don't make any sense
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Jeff Fuehr why
I think most people just marry out of tradition. They don't think about what it really means or if it's even needed.
I think people need to find out why marriage is so incredibly beautiful and important and it's value. Marriage isn't just a piece of paper
@@JU-ki9wb in that case people should marry without the piece of paper.
My friend is going to be married this fall. I asked him why? And he was like why not? Everyone is doing it but it's really stupid unless he's big religious christian which he's not. It's really just about stupid expensive paper nothing more nothing less. Do I need a paper to be friend with someone? I know people were marrying for centuries but now it just feel like wasted time, money.
@@alexandersebela370 every woman knows in her heart that when you marry her she gets enormous security in multiple ways including but not limited to financial, social. She will never consciously think about it that way nor will she ever let you think that way. And if you do think that way she would probably either leave you or convince you to get married
@Yogesh X i know but this time it's turned around my friend Is pretty poor and he found rich girlfriend maybe that's why, he's male golddigger :D
Marriage is nothing more than an economic contract. Once the contract is over, you will lose half of your money through alimony, child support, and custody over your kids. And just because you’re married doesn’t mean that your partner is going to be loyal.
Marriage it's self is not the problem. It's the person "THEY" chose, settled, tolerated, was given an ultimatum, scared to be alone, to marry.
You're right, marriage is not the problem, Divorce law's are... women know this or learn it from......who?
amazing a comment that is actually intellectual
Most people in relationships are not whole with themselves.
If two people are whole with one another and are able to be fine with being alone, trusting, focusing on the good,to be aware of how things are, and trying to improve on the bad in the relationship together.
Then there shouldn't ever need to be conflict in the relationship. It should just be happy times without the need to find someone so called "better".
Marriage should be decentralized and community centered. The government shouldn't get involved AT ALL with people's personal lives. That means, no alimony, or child support, or welfare checks if you get divorced. There should be NO inherent incentive to get divorced.
@@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737 Well you don't know the condition of my household. Of you knew it you won't be making this statement.
Stay single.
Your pockets will jingle.
Yep, jingle with coins, but not paper money. Singles are the largest type of poverty stricken folks.
@@jimgallagher5902 Wrong.
Jim Gallagher is a chump.
Jim Gallagher spotted the beta male
@@jimgallagher5902 speak for yourself, mate 😉
But if people don't get married, how will the Divorce Industry survive?
+The School of Life That still doesn't mean there is an entire industry dedicated to making profits out of destroyed relationships.
Exactly and for that reason alone I urge everyone to steer clear of marriage. When assets bought before a relationship has even started to get included as marital assets there is something wrong with that industry.
Exactly!
+misfit then get a prenup
lavishgirl Prenups get thrown out almost all the time, they are rarely worth the paper they are written on.
The comment section is much better than the video.
Damn, all my interest in marriage was blown away when I looked at my own parents while growing up. The truth was, after all before me all the time.
Same here,
Same yara
Yall have bad parents
Me too ❤
Marriage is a joke period.
Right who wants to give up their freedom and be someones doormat
Chiefs Kingdom :Keep trying little boy...you won't make it. Ha Ha Ha!!
@Chiefs Kingdom : You've spelled your own name wrong: It is correctly spelled thusly:
Chief is Dumb
No, Catspaw is a joke period, as he had his period before he wrote the above.
And Cats Shit just had his period so he is a little cranky.
Marriage is the first step to Divorce
- Ron Swanson
To be born is the first step for dying
Sorry, stupidity is the first step to divorce, so you certainly apply!
Anna is the first step to stupidity.
Stupidity is the first step towards divorce, so you are all set baby!
Ron Swanson is the first step to stupidity. I guess he got you good, huh?
In my entire 20s, I was never single...I was first in a relationship and then eventually got married. It wasn't a bad one, but it didn't work. The divorce was painful and for a brief while after that, there was terrible loneliness and existential dread. Fast forward a few months, and I feel I have grown more as a person than I ever did being in a partnership. Yes, you do learn things like patience, tolerance and cooperation in a marriage. But that's only because those traits work for the marriage. Being single, however, teaches you far more important lessons such as resilience, introspection, strength and is a fantastic tool for spiritual growth.
Thank you for sharing.
No women is ever single. Who filed for divorce? :)
Maybe you could help me out then
I feel nothing but anger and resentment to my ex and its been more than half a year now yet I still sometimes feel like complete shit...
I remember the times I had with her and how she's now with the guy that she literally straight up replaced me with and I just start boiling from anger
I don't even care about her, I would never even want to be with her again but for some fucking reason I can't let go of the betrayal that I feel...
@@NakedAvanger Betrayal was what shook my marriage too. But I never felt angry because in my heart, I always believed that I was in no way less than the woman who replaced me. When you feel you are in no way lacking compared to any other person, you slowly allow strength and healing to enter. This might not come about overnight. But try visualization in a calm frame of mind. Project your own completeness, regardless of anyone's action or attitude. And more importantly, even if you do not feel it strongly at the moment, mentally affirm, "I forgive this person, and I choose to move on. I have a better life with better people and better experiences waiting for me. So I am going ahead with my journey." Forgiving and projecting kindness on the ones who hurt us is the greatest tool there is to feel incredibly empowered. You got this and you can do it!
Although my post says 'a few months', it took me a year and a half to even be able to function. It takes time. Be gentle with yourself.
@@NakedAvanger The truth is Whiskey, people often have mixed desires and intentions, It can be hard to know what to want and what to do, this is why there is so much overlap between being with someone, and being with someone else, It ain't nice for the person left behind, but it is an understandable conundrum, It can also be hard to know if what you feel is resentment from the fact that you were replaced, or the fact that you were left, at the end of the day though, they are really the same thing. You cant blame someone for not wanting to be with you anymore, nor can you blame someone for promising you forever, for they really believed it at the time, these things are often learned in hindsight. But there is something that I do know that is often learned later in life, Love changes, the thing you thought was love at the start fades, you become the same person, their body is your body, and with that the attraction leaves. What is left over, determines whether or not you really were in love with each other in the first place. You can still love her, but you cant be in love with her.
"We'll always stick together" just sounds like naive, wishful thinking to me.
That's because it is
@@diomerda111 Sure, in a lot of cases. I guess what I mean is, you can set yourself goals but never account for other people just because you want them included.
I've been with the same girl for 26 yrs and we're not married.
then she's the one
Depending on where you live, you could still be subject to common law marriage.
23 years here, We've been through ups and downs in that time, But stuck together, Some of the other couples we have known getting married was the beginning of the end.
You're common law. If you separate, you'll experience most of the problems divorcing couples have to deal with.
+InandaroundTO Not where I live.Common law don't exist.
Stay single healthy and wealthy.
Abso-f#ckin-lutely!!! High five!
With some exceptions, this doesn't work. Study after study have shown that married folks make more money that singles, and have much more enjoyment.
WRONG. A trove of studies PROVE that married couples are wealthy in general, while singles are poor.
@@jimgallagher5902 those studies are bought and paid for by the money making divorce industry. But hey if you want to commit financial suicide go right ahead. I like my 3 houses 3 cars and freedom.
@@parzeveltheblunt139 Bullshit!!! At least TRY to make an honest statement: Try this one, dumbass :www.truthorfiction.com/divorce/
My family and relatives are always surprised whenever I say "I'll stay single" and start to lecture me about the "benefits" of engaging in a relationship. Ironically and funnily enough, they are the very same people to indirectly teach me how relationships really work through everyday activities while not realizing it. What's worse, even though, they also learned some of the bad aspects of it through time, and yet, here they are, still trying to plunge me into the deep end.
This.
I feel like at the beginning of a relationship you’re fully fascinated about each other. That fascination stems from love. However, as time goes on you get married and start living together. You’re always around each other when not working and you both seem to know most things about each other. So friction starts to occur because most people are addicted to being fascinated and forever lusting a person. This cannot realistically continue for long periods of time especially in a marriage. So people start to complain about each other. It doesn’t mean the couple doesn’t love each other however a lot of the novelty of the relationship has been completed. Another example of this type of relationship is between your parents. You love them dearly but you can’t stand being around them 24/7. You’d rather contact or see them on a time that suits you.
the idea is that that complaining period you describe (called the power struggle stage by psychotherapists) is eventually resolved when you learn to love the person for who they are without trying to change them, and they accept you without trying to change you. Then you enter a period of stability and the relationship improves from then on. But many couples can't move past the power struggle stage either because they are fundamentally incompatible or because they give up too soon or because they don't understand these stages and how to ask for help.
So you’re saying that married people should live in different homes, maybe see each other a few times a week.
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youre probably muslim.
im not taking anything from a muslim.
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I don’t wanna work that hard
My step dad got divorced recently he lost all his children, has to pay thousands of dollars in court and lawyer fees and is going through depression, Marriage doesn't sound so fun to me.
Sorry to hear that. Stay close to him. He needs support.
No, FAILED marriage doesn't sound fair to you. Since you've not even TRIED marriage you have no right or even ability to write intelligently and factually about marriage.
You are right, it isn't fun. But more importantly, why was he divorced? Did an angel come down from heaven and serve him with divorce papers, or did he maybe have some responsibility for the divorce?
And that happeneed how, Jefe? He did NOTHING to cause the divorce? Yep, he did, and that is the part you won't disclose as it would make the divorce seem the right thing to do.
Can u stfu for a minute holy shit, Are you just triggered that the “dumb” People and the “cunts” are the ones who ACTUALLY do experiences. THEY are the ones working on Marriages, Sex, And etc. So don’t complain that you can never be able to get any Dogshit with ur “nopes”
Marriage is like a walk in the park... Jurassic Park.
Steve Zanadon
Yeah, “oooh,” “aaah,” that’s how it always starts. Screaming and running come later.......Lost World Jurassic Park
Lol
🤣
Steve Zanadon lmaooooo I literally laughed out loud!!!!!!!
Lol... I have to read your name twice making sure that you are not the other Steven... You know...Spielberg..
Marriage is outdated.
My parents married 35 years into their relationship purely for legal reasons - it makes inheritance and wills so much easier to write.
it also musta been sensual or sexual.....otherwise, you would not be here writing about marriage and that of your parents.
I won’t even marry for that reason. My common-law relationship is enough. Don’t want to be part of a system I detest
@@J.S.3259 fair enough, we used it for a holiday :’)
As a person who had married once and divorced, my advice is to take it slow as fuck, don't let anyone's words get into your head or the tradition of having to get married takes control of you.
Marriage and relationships are a scam. Focus on developing yourself
Yep, focus on being alone 100% of the time and sexless. Wow what a life that will be!! NOT!!
In today's world I couldn't agree more my friend.
@@Silverwind1989 what the hell should you do then?,get shattered? it looks like men do want love, a partner, sex etc. but now it looks like you cant trust a female...without getting cheated or divorced. then better have that one good night and then dump her or if you cant get that far then be happy that you wont have to expirience the madness and depression of getting cheated on or divorced
sasa ha you just said the pure truth
@@jimgallagher5902 hookers always be there and stay young forever
Marriage "survived" because of our culture: movies showing happy couples, magazines and TV saying that you can only find fulfilment that way.
Seriously, kids, if you find someone you really "love", don't get married. Just date, go out and so forth. Marriage is hell.
marraige for me has been bliss. Sorry you can't find it that way
+Leanne Marie Would it not be bliss if you were together without state recognition of your union?
yes it's state recognition but for my husband and me, it's been far more than that. We view marriage in a spiritual sense so marriage is sacred. Our faith binds our marriage and there's so much meaning to it and that's why my married life has been bliss.
So would it have still been bliss had you gone through the ceremony, proclaimed your vows before church and god, and not signed the legal state document which is secular and has nothing to do with faith and spirituality?
I'd actually beg to differ. Recently I was listening to a psychology podcast about how a guy figured out that when we limit our choices we become more satisfied with the choice that we do make. Marriage is that limiter. The scientist who came up with this even put it to the test and married the woman he was living with for years and is much happier than before. Of course, it does come down to the relationship. I hope things can improve for you
At one time marriage may have been necessary, but no longer. Singles get along just fine without marshmallows.
I, personally, find myself leaning against tradition due to my upbringing. However, I still want to get married.
I do not find myself wanting to follow impulse or just casually entering sexual relationships with others. I wish to simply have a single person that I can fully trust, rely on, and unite with in this world. And let them trust and rely on me.
Our wedding does not, and will not be grand, our rings won't be worth a fortune. I'm fine with a simple wedding, even without family or friends. When I look at my wedding ring, I do not want to admire its beauty or care about its design, but want to be reminded of the person wearing the other ring, the memories we had together, and my love for them. Even if I have a plentitude of money to spend, I do not want other people's opinions or material goods to be what defines our relationship.
I want to marry a person who accepts me for who I am and what I value, and who I will become in the future. I'm willing to accept them them same way in return.
I'll be trying my best, even now, for the sake of all this. For the sake of my future wife and family.
Oh dear lord, you my child will see a world of pain with that attitude. I pray to God to give u strength to bear the hell which is about to come to you
you have all the right reasons for getting married. you are on the right path. cheers!!!
@@soumyaagrawal1758 lol u are giving him a horrible advice. This poor guy needs to know reality bro
@@KARTIKEYA007 i think you've been through some bad shit
@@soumyaagrawal1758 why do you say that?
This video makes me want to avoid marriage even more.
Which is good for Davey, as no woman anywhere wants him.
@@jimgallagher5902 it's not an insult, you know...
@@jimgallagher5902
No woman? I doubt that
Having a stable job is good enough for women to want a man like that
@@jimgallagher5902 why don't you put up a picture of yourself Jim and let us all see your ugly face. You hide behind a keyboard. And you obviously have a lot of time on your hands. You sound like you have issues. Because most people don't go on youtube to write comments antagonising others. They have better things to do
@@jimgallagher5902 Why are you mean to everyone ?
So.. its more romantic NOT to marry, since you choose more freely to be with that person despite all the hurdles.
More hedonistic.
Exactly, you trust the other person enough that you don't need to marry them to make sure they stay loyal
old memes are cool
So.. not marrying is setting yourself up for failure. Meaning that marriage is indeed nothing more than a ball and chain. Literally.
that's why over 50% of marriages end in divorce...
Why do we associate reckless behavior as "romantic"? Is it more "romantic" to sleep with someone without protection and end up pregnant when nobody wants that? It's non sense to glorify stupidity. "We're gonna love each other forever!" No, you fucking won't. It's like saying "I'm gonna win the lottery!" Sure.
I’m fascinated by our culture’s implication that we only have two options: get married or be single. Where are the lifelong, committed partners who decided they didn’t need paperwork in their relationship? 🤔
Committed, lifelong partners is the oddballs of society. Most people only follow what they are used to anyway. I thought a "marriage" is between two people, independent of religion and the government.
THIS!!!!!
me and my boyfriend are that, we call our dynamic a "free relationship" you see, emotionally we are monogamous but physically we can be intimate with others without it affecting our love for each other, we never plan to marry because I believe gay marriage is a sin and my boyfriend just doesn't like marriage, we've been together for 8 months and we truly love each other💕❤
@user-nn5bx4pi6e that's perfectly fine for straight people but me and my boyfriend can't get married, gay marriage is a sin
In the end, my marriage was no more of a commitment than any other girlfriend.
Not having children was the best decision I ever made.
either she drinks the pill.....or you wear trojans.
What's ur age?
it will be if you get divorced. You dont have to share your pensions, assets, house, cars and other possessions when you break up with your girlfriend. If you break up with your wife the government is giving her all of that plus your going to be paying thousands more in alimony and lawyer fees.
@@boston312. I was referring to how people will still just walk away. My wife got nothing in our divorce but her grandmothers chair.
The single wish to be married. The married wish to be dead.
@@jimgallagher5902 Fuck off,you turd of shit,Im surprised if no one has even reported you yet.
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Yes, but only if they are married to you.
No, but everyone wishes you would go away little boy.
The above was said by Ann Landers, so I guess Moron473 is a fan of women's advice.
Almost every guy I work with that is married is miserable and says “if I could do it all over again I wouldn’t “
Well, thanks to that sort of info as well as knowledge of the MGTOW guys who have been run through the grinder, we have the choice to....
Be 💲MART! ! ✌️☮️
Then your guys are either stupid or chose poorly.
Jim Gallagher you’re a miserable bitch. Stop pretending to be man on here.
Honesty at it's most truthfully funny!
@Koal Kottentail Good comment Koal.
I made a proposal to my girlfriend several weeks ago. I knew she wanted to marry me but i struggled with that decision for a long time. We're together now for almost 7 years. One reason for that was the belief that the relationship would spoil my self development and life goals. But at some point I realized that a sincere relationship is the best way to work on yourself. It's easy to get along with yourself. Overcoming superficial arguments and dealing with real feelings and fears is best achieved in a trusting relationship. You never reach that point without a partner that does not reflect your behavior and values. But this kind of relationship does not neccessarily need to be a marriage. So I have respect for everyone who does not want to marry.
Are you still married?
Why do people get married anymore, sex is readily available, loyalty doesn’t exist, financial security can be achieved being single. In the old days, marriage was done out of necessity to provide for stability and financial well being but nowadays, you don’t need to be married to achieve those things.
Yeah
Exactly, it's served it's purpose and we've evolved.
A friend of mine committed suicide as result of alimony and custody.
Meriom Nazar sounds like he was a coward now he’s probably in hell 🔥
@@magnificenttruthseekingque403 ... That is about the dumbest comment I have ever seen. You must be a little girl, still wet behind the ears!!
Child support is so high in Maryland it is essentially alimony.
i am considering suicide myself. the whole system is unfair on so many levels. also if women wants equality why is it men should pay all that stuff ?
@@lastprophet9904 Exactly...l was essentially sending one paycheck over to the ex and trying to live on the other. In large part you are a prisoner. If you move or take another job that doesn't pay as well, you still have to pay what the court says your potential earnings should be or be thrown in jail.
I think some people marry and have kids because they don’t want to be lonely. Not because they necessarily want kids.
Agree. Marriage has also been called a 'social safety net' after a certain age, and I do think that's right and a major factor in people's decision to marry, if not a subconscious one.
I think you have nailed it. I think loneliness is the real reason. The rest is all PR.
Yea but you can just be in a relationship then. There problem solved
No. It's called human nature. Question what has removed you from it?
in my country, people get married and have kids so that when they get old they would have a "life insurance/caregiver".. they treat their children like they are their insurance or caregiver. "hey you should chose us your parents, your lover can be replaced, but you cant replace us, we are the ones who replaced you, so the money you are saving for your future, just give it to us help us pay the bills and pay for our medical bills, don't save"
More and more people aren't bothering with finding love and marriage anymore, because they're now waking up and smelling the coffee, meaning they're now becoming more aware of all the stress and depression that comes with marriage, kids, child support, stress, infidelity, etc. Don't bother falling for someone who high chances are, a gold-digger. I am 30 and single and I don't regret it.
Am gonna be you, and am gonna be wealthy enough to used my time and money for my best hobby and health.
@My achilles heel that is a common occurrence sadly. Marriage should not be forced but it is forced in some way or the other by family and outsiders as well. Why are people still so obsessed with marriage? The boomers have paid their fair share of suffering by marrying and they want others to do the same.
Marriage is like a Tornado: "In the beginning there's a lot of blowing and sucking, Then you lose your house".
Wise
Haha!!
That’s really ideal.
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What I got: Marriages will make it harder for you to get away from weak-willed, highly indebted, naturally flighty individuals. ...and this is a GOOD thing???
Ah, so it's your worldview of "humanity is cruddy" that prompts this. I disagree and can think of several examples of long lasting relationships w/o marriage that degradates this line of argument (David Letterman for starters). However any other "institution" that has a 50%+ level of failure with such devastating results for those involved would doubtlessly have been raided by the FBI and closed for business by now.
Also, that highly indebted bit? Check your own video at the 1:56 mark.
I was quoting that statist myself until recently. Divorce (at least in the US) is actually closer to only 1 out of every 4 marriages. As for the making it hard to leave bit, I kind of view it as school. It is probably going to be stressful and we'll want to quit at different points but that doesn't make it bad. It just makes it a difficult thing that, if approached right, can be very good and maturing for us.
I get that Dallas. I see that view point and have considered it in the past, but I can't come around to it. Not given the immense strain divorce inherently puts on most people. That's not even to mention BAD marriages (think spousal abuse) that continue because of expected behavior. As a kid, I had a friend, who's step-dad was abusive to her kids (my friend), openly cheated on her, but she didn't divorce because, in her estimation, "it wasn't what God wanted".
With regards to the divorce rate, we could spend long hours into the night discussing the merits or lack there of of various methods, but while 21-22% of those who've EVER divorced (not including married/divorced in multiples which is statistically higher) I do go by the cohort measure rate (which can itself be picked apart 100 which ways) which takes trends and applies them to today. Quoting the Univ of Denver's Scott Stanley "It represents a sophisticated projection of a calculated risk, much like projected life span for babies born today" Heck, if you really want you can take the refined divorce rate (marriages ending in divorce within a given year) then it's only 1.9%. But I'll be fair and make a small retraction as that rate has fallen in the last several years to 40-50%.
"Can be" and "Is generally" are two entirely different ideas. Human nature can be incredibly dark and depraved. Human nature is generally well-intentioned and forward moving.
Man: "I will never get married"
People: "Good for ya bro! Sameeee!!!"
Woman: "I will never get married"
People: "wAit uNtiL yOU tUrN 30 dEAR. yOu'LL rEgrET iT"
Lmao. I turn 38 this year and it's been the happiest time in my life. I've traveled around the world, single, childless.
The Period Blade is a moron. He (she? it?) makes things up with the futile hope of sounding smart.
Uh oh, your comment triggered a snowflake. Period jokes...so cutting edge and original lol. Glad you're happy with your life, hun.
@@jimgallagher5902 Alert, triggered idiot here. Can't help to feel so angry huh? Stuck with your hopeless marriage life?
I hope I can say the same thing in 20 years.
I'm 25 and i can proudly say i never want to get married. Who wants to clean up after a grown ass man. LMAO
Seen it many times people "living their best lives" walk out and find out they threw away their family for someone who was exciting for the moment but ultimately they are alone and have to forever live with the consequences of splitting their family. Its not something that should be entered into lightly.
speak for yourself. All this alone shaming never made sense to me. As an introvert I love my solitude and alone time.
I think those people are few and far between
So far as I can tell, from what I've witnessed with married couples, including my own parents, marriage is the committed and passionate study of how to hate one particular human being right down to their molecules.
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I don't understand the point of marriage. if you love the person then just spend the rest of your life with them. You don't have to spend 5-10k on a wedding. You can get married without officially getting married. If you want you can buy the rings as a symbol of your love.
Right a signed piece of paper documented record contract is not a symbol of love. Love is love itself and thats it. So thats what i would say if someone proposed to me. SO if you love me we can still be together we don't need to be married.
well said
Geez the whole video was about the explanation of the POINT of being married.
You're signing to sustain your wife, kids and new husband once she decides you "don't cover her emotional needs" when you come back from your 12hr job.
You're right
If being married and having children makes you happy then DO IT. If living the single life makes you happy then DO IT. Bottomline everyone has the right to live whatever way they wanna live it. Different things makes different people happy and NO ONE is in position to judge how someone else should live their lives if it makes them happy.
Fatal Wreck Exactly. If you're feeling like you're being enslaved if you get married than don't do it. If you love someone so much you would do anything for them do it(yes there is a chance you might divorce or she might cheat on you but that's true commitment). Why is this so complicated for everyone?
You two are so logical I feel like I found my soul group lol I feel exactly the same!
@Fatal Wreck: Damn straight =)!
There is noone that is not made more happy by being loved and accepted. And feeling secure in that they will continue to be loved an accepted, even if feelings change.
Do it if you want. But be educated on the pitfalls of divorce for men. So many people get married for terribly naive reasons and thus the divorce rate is around 55-60%. Of that number around 70% of divorces are initiated by women. And they'll take half your shit, the house etc etc
If you get married, the odds are THIS WILL happen. And this is why I will never marry.
Marriage is a dated social convention that bores me. I am much happier being a single academic.
Same.
Stay single and wrap it up! Children will bind you even if you don't marry.
First, the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...then, the suffering!
Legendary comment lol I'm gonna have to steal that
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Then begans the *"Ring of fire"*
What's up with that? Why so many rings?
Also handcuff rings sometimes haha
If you get married, know this: Feeling of being in love eventually disappears by the time.
People get married for love???
Moron of the North: No, it doesn't, unless, like you, one is stupid enough to prefer big boobs rather than intelligence and decency in a woman.
Exactly! Oxytocin levels drop.
Shut up, you liar. You are not married, and even if you were, the feeling of being loved would be erased in ANY woman by your thorough wimpy manner.
@Jimmy Strudel LOL! Fucking simp. Men don't marry for love you jackass. Men only marry to make their woman happy. It's still all about her. And most of them will regret that absurd amount of stupidity later on in life whether they're divorced or not.
Never wanted to get married. No wedding, no white dress, no party. “Marriage” is an economic proposition for some. It’s just a comfortable lifestyle. That’s all.
Honestly as a 22 year old I haven’t ruled out marriage out of my future for a few reasons..
1. Life can get difficult and lonely, it would be great to have someone there to pick you up and inspire you when things get rough
2. Having fun and making memories together; if the two of you are both committed and realist you’ll know that marriage isn’t always going to be great and it’s going to take work sometimes, but it’s worth the bond.
3. Financial reasons: two incomes would make thing a hell of a lot easier
4. Having someone to discuss your decisions with. 2 heads are better than one
5. A best friend for life
6. Splitting responsibilities at home
im glad theres still ppl like you, no matter how outdated or whatever ppl say. Ppl seem to forget there are ppl who WANT to get married and build a family
Why not just get a partner? Why do you need to get married?
Depends who you get with. I know those who are miserable and prefer to have chosen better.
@Mir what are wifey activities? Like cooking and cleaning? Its not 1960, im not a man child like my father who can't cleanup after himself or cook a simple meal and needs a servitude wife to do it for me. If I were to marry she would need to bring a lot more to the table than just cooking, cleaning, shopping etc.
@@HotMonkeyDik I hope you're bringing equally to the table.
I always made fun of people who were old and never got married , Now I understand them and il probably never get married.
I'm single and I still think the comment section is full of people with ridiculous bias against relationships and marriage because they had issues.
No I was anti marriage at school and gets mentioned when family meet up that I have never deviated from this point of view and held it even before I had a first girlfriend.
I am not anti marriage just anti marriage for me. My parents were married for a long time and only death separated them but I have been against the idea since school so your evaluation is incorrect. I have never been married so I have no issues with it in the way you mention. I just don't hold with many traditions. Marriage, Royal Family, Religion are for me all outdated concepts. They were for the previous generations but not mine.
agreed
+john mcintosh No I speak for myself but I do think there has been a shift away from supporting traditions like monarchy, religion and marriage and statistics bear this out.
I have literally zero reasons to get married. Just why, to make it hard to leave? That's not a recipe for a happy relationship
Marriage is so overrated, it's also very expensive & unnecessary. There is no need to get married, unless you're extremely religious. There's absolutely nothing wrong in being in a long loving relationship with someone, that's true love
Exactly
Fornication is a sin.
@@musaib34 I pity you people
@@musaib34 wake up
@@jaqenhgar why do you say that ?
I just wish to be dead because everything in life is pointless
I used to be there. I feared death, but saw no point in life. Everything came from nothing, so everything was useless I thought. All of this pain for no reason, might as well seek pleasure constantly and dilute myself...wouldn't want the insanity that occurs due to silence and the thoughts in my head.
I hoped in nothing...well...sometimes I hoped in technology and what it might be able to do for me someday. My views were often self contradictory, and yet I thought I knew the truth.
I hated the genuine Christians and thought they were stupid...holding to their puritanical ways in vain...full of hope all in vain.
I thought I would do the world a favor by devoting my mind to learning. I sought to expunge the world of religion, it all looked like a self destructive conglomeration of useless teachings from the men of the past trying to explain the world around them. We should be devoting our energy to more useful things, right? Science has figured it all out, right?
I was disturbed to find that everything was more complex than I guess I had originally presupposed. I couldn't stop in my quest to know more as much as it hurt me.
...then what do you know...I came to know Christ! The sun rose and slowly illuminated everything, knots became untangled, dirt and dust was cleaned up, a certain pain ceased as I felt filled right. I can't describe it without sounding crazy, but I've been ecstatic ever since.
Any pain I experience now is almost nothing when compared with the darkness that once filled me.
Sorry if this is too much...understand that I am passionate.
@@BarryWillBuck if any religion or philosophy helps you keep your sanity , I'd say it's good for you.
Many people hate religious beliefs but I think if it gives you clarity in life it's worth it.
@@BarryWillBuck Beautifully expressed, what gives you clarity and purpose, as long as it doesn't hurt a neighbor, I say go for it.
@@BarryWillBuck salute to you, you explained this. Not many people can do this. And well said. Anyway im in favor of marriage bro.
@@gonzbergtv yup
The problem with marriage... is the fact that monogamy simply does not work, human nature is not suited for monogamy. Marriage is outdated now in the times of tinder, snapchat and outright promiscuity. Divorce is now very easy. If one huge reason that people stay together is because it's hard to get out of, well, that only demonstrates its failure. Any argument for marriage being successful is quickly rebuked by looking at divorce stats. 50% of marriages end in divorce. And that doesn't include the marriages where people cheat and stay together for the kids, or stay together even though they are not fulfilled. Locking your self in marriage with one person is dumb, especially as a male when the court systems are set up against you. All I see these days are serial monogamists going from one person to another, thinking that it will work this time, each time disappointed. Also, the video says relationships help us become whole... This is the wrong reason to pursue a relationship.
well said
so you don't desire monogamy, or you just "know" it doesn't work?
because saying i know this isn't gonna happen doesn't mean you truly want it to happen,
you would be just telling yourself, it isn't worth it
It's 42% of marriages that end in divorce, which means while it's not for everyone, it can still be life-worthy engagement for some.
And if anyone thinks that another person has to make you fufilled, then it's the mistake of them and not their partner. Relationship and partners are not the end all and be all of life. Nor is poligamy or staying single. It's just a wide array of decisions in life, that brings good and bad into it.
I couldn't agree more. Simply archaic.
Please tell me what *exactly* human nature is. Seems that it is rather arbitrary.
Marriage survived because you get a tax discount :)
If you want tax breaks - incorporate. (c) Doug Stanhope
The same tax benefits apply to civil partners too. At least in the UK.
Don't pay taxes...
Fuck the IRS.
In Capitalist America, you don't fuck the IRS.... The IRS fucks you! :P
+Swaroop Repaka I haven't paid taxes in years
The thought of being with someone 24/7 is something I don't think I'll be able to do too much emotional work and I'm not good at that plus the commitment is too much better being alone ✌😂😂
Just be with someone who has the same mindset or at least someone who respects your mindset.
The problem is, there’s no reason to get married. It’s an unnecessary risk. Why add a government contract to a relationship?
I think marriage is still good,but it's something people should wait on and not rush into.
Agreed
+ToxicKillzHD timing is everything
It's not good, it was been when women needed men and not anymore. Unless you are good with all odds going against you.
+BeeleeDatPleighboi 100 the reason most marriages fail is because people think they know what they want.the want someone thats looks perfect, financial matches them.but it all comes down to timing. taking time to talk.taking time to wait.how do we really know what we want.by taking time waiting.and for most of all the world.its just hey I have to have somebody
+bitter blue looks like someone's had some issues
If I didn't believe in marriage, I'd probably relish the idea of being single. What I don't understand are people deluding themselves into believing swiping right and sleeping around is going to make them happy. Maybe marriage isn't for you, but dating someone until you see their first flaw is the saddest, most childish mindset. I feel like that's the most likely future for those who scoff at marriage.
***** That's definitely true. Marriage is not for everyone. It seems people don't have the attention span and too many options for even a meaningful relationship.
it's less about commitment, and more about the disasters that are all too common in divorce courts. everything but splitting the 50% of my assets sounds about marriage, but I do really like my stuff.
You are the first person I have found who shares my mindset. I believe in marriage. I don't believe a relationship can last a lifetime. People don't understand how beautiful a relationship can be. WIthout someone being there for you, you feel worthless. Everyone needs a parner. And having different partners for the rest of your life will make every other elationship less meaningful. It will make you bitter and uncaring towards others. Thats the way I see it.
John Xray I tend to believe in marriage, but I think it's okay if people are committed and don't get married. But I just spent my twenties watching people on tinder and okcupid, it's just so sad and pathetic. They don't want to be let down at all, they can't handle disappointment or self-awareness. It seems maybe like a millenial thing. But a real relationship is about learning to love someone's flaws and expose your own. Those dating sites are incestuous and depressing, friends end up dating the same people, no one grows from the experience, somehow protection from disease is no longer the norm. I know I sound old and prudish, lol. But come on, you can't have nothing but pleasure in this world. We're going to be some lonely people in the decades to come.
Exactly, and this hedonistic mindset so prevalent in the West today is one of the main reasons behind plummeting birth rates, divorce, and absent fathers. Meanwhile, cultures with much less tolerant and progressive worldviews are breeding like mad, with tight family bonds, and are rapidly displacing native Western people in their own countries. Leftism, feminism, hippy-ism, free love, whatever you want to call it, truly is a cancer on Western society.
Omg i regret spending 5+ years thinking about marriage, because family member saying to me always "there's no succees without marriage" I forgot what i wanted in these years thinking about marriage and finding a women. The older i got more people seems to get married i become only one who isn't married, started to feel big anxiety because i started to get older as well.
I'm 30 years now and single man and i dont please people anymore how i used to before and peoples face has somekind hate towards me and try to controll me. But i know this right path for me, i can feel it. I dont want marriage just to fit in, i care waay more about my happiness.
This is good
This is great my family did the same made me feel guilty for being single now I'm married and miserable just like going to college because my parents told me to now im in student loan debt
@@mateoc7808 Im so sorry to hear that you are miserable and married. I hope you get your happiness back!
@@mateoc7808 most larents dont know whats best for us. If you dont want to go to college, dont go. If you dont want to get married, dont get married. Do what makes you happy on earth, we are all guests.
This video is totally oblivious to the reality of marriage. There is no deterrence to divorce and its not just old fashioned its a bad deal for all (esp. Men) and needs to be reformed.
What is the number one cause of divorce?
Marriage!
Ha cuz thats the only way you can get a divorce
*WAIT*
Yup. Just like being born is the number one cause of death.
+Love Graham. You've had it bad I take it? This really is a place where men congregate to blame women (in cases of legal rights of men vs women that can sometimes be fair), but know that whatever pain you went through will disapppear in due time. Look, I'm not trash. Don't let resentment get the better of you.
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Marriage is bad, I have seen it through my parents eyes. I don’t want to replicate that suffering, not for me, not for anyone else.
Don't lose hope. My father abandoned my family for some harlot. But I haven't lost hope in Marriage, it depends on who else in your life you should look to. Most religious people I have met have healthy marriages you could look to them. Statistically speaking we are at both at a disadvantage cause neither of us had great examples but then we should look to others for this. Another thing I have heard is that it is best to marry young so that A your less set in your ways and B You'll be more likely to listen to elders advice on marriage than if your older and more likely to think you got it.
Sorry your parents were incompatible, but this is NOT the outcome of most marriages.
I experienced it with my parents too; they are incompatible with each other. They stayed together “because of the kids” and pride. I never wanna relive that.
So, you are saying your mom & dad were a bad match. So what? Just because your parents didn't make it, don't be a wimp and assume you can't.
@@jimgallagher5902 why are you going on stupid rants on marriage? Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Just be silent and go be toxic somewhere else
I am 43 and never been married, and i am glad i never will
You can agree to spend 50 years or the rest of your life with somebody without signing a marriage document. By making the choice to commit without the traditional or legal strings attached it really puts the focus on the relationship itself which if you're in it for the right reason is the only thing that matters.
Or if they insist on the legal bind, they should be free to sign a contract, but not the marriage contract which imposes government rules on your relationship. They could negotiate the terms of the relationship and consequences of leaving it, and then making it an official contract. Still way more reasonable than the traditional method
my thoughts exactly
Why bother being married and having kids when you can be single and enjoy life?
It's beyond me why any man wants to lose his freedom and be someones slave.
@@jimgallagher5902 sex is completely unnecessary
@@user-xi8yh8qi9j Yes,why have sex, when you can watch hentai, wich is art
@@jimgallagher5902 lol you actually think single people don't have sex? 😂😂 what reality are you living in?
@@ancientastronauttheoristss9345 Where did you get your moron's view? I never said anything of the kind, little boy.
all I heard was blah blah blah your dad isn't coming back
Roasted
Sorry 'bout that, Obama...
ever again!
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That One Black Kid LMFAO
Never enter into a contract in which one party benefits from breaking said contract.
Waste of time. All your assets and hard work will just go to the woman not you
Honestly, I thought the whole idea of the video was ridiculous. Call me old fashioned, but I think getting married is a beautiful thing when you find the right one.
yeah, i think so too. a lot of people that are against marriage change their minds at some point anyways, especially when they meet someone special.
+. Never and I have met special people and some think they will change me and one H asked me about my attitude to marriage on the fourth date. I told her and we never went out again though did end working together closely for 2 years.
misfit i didnt ask for the story of ur life tho
+. I was just using an exemplum to show I had met special people so your point does not stand for me
+. PS No need to be rude though
Being married with children sounds like hell on earth
Children aren't hell on earth. They can bring a lot of joy into your life.
children are awesome! but most women on the other hand. nah I'm good.
So bad that they made a TV show out of it called "Married With Children." Yup! Just ask Al Bundy.
Never met anyone who regretted having children, Met plenty who regretted not having them.
@@kerryfoster1 Are you sure about that? I've met way more older people who regret not buying their dream car or booking a once in a lifetime world cruise than those who say they regret not having kids. Who gives a shit about kids? Can kids make me money? No? Then fuck having kids.
My parents separated after 35 years. Imagine, they both changed, or more accurately, discovered things in each other they regret staying together all this long time. My dad's family is very traditional while my mom's is liberal. Traditional families stick together even if they're not happy. Liberal ones know they're not happy and keep things on paper while each living their own.
Getting married to a wonderful guy brought me into the best years of my life. We're still going strong. ❤️
You are such a party pooper. Go somewhere else!
Let us be.
Must be nice lol
Hey, it’s great that it worked out for you, but the benefits do not outweigh the negatives. Too much to lose, too little to gain
@@darrenlamb2277 bitter? Are you joking?
Lol wait another ten years
Marriage is just a great way to permanently ruin your life.
@@jimgallagher5902 well if you marry a good person, then it is
But it's very likely the person you're getting married to is a bitch/asshole
@@samsamatar3573 Jim is a spam account of a woman. For whatever reason, she's angry and appears in every comments, shaming men with the same things over and over again. Just ignore her. You're welcome, I just save you some precious time.
@@user-xi8yh8qi9j there's no such thing as good person for marriage bitch wake the fuck up
I'm 51. I said if I wasn't married by 30, I would never do it.i have never been engaged. Marriage is just a legalized, socially acceptable form of prostitution. I'm a free spirit. I'm not going to change. I'd rather stay single
hows that kind of form?
Auddy Zhi marriage is the longest form of prostitution because men marry with a false ideology that there will be an abundance of sex ... the women marry for the purpose of using her vagina as collateral to obtain resources and financial security ... Then when the women hits 30 her biological clock kicks in she wants children then the needs of the man r no longer important compared to the needs of the child his sexual desires are no longer main priority then 10-20 years pass the women has menopause which causes her estrogen levels to decrease significantly making her lose total desire to have sex and with that being said she also becomes bipolar and angry 24/7 this is why most divorces occur because the man ends up “cheating “ (finding a method of pleasure due to his stable testosterone levels ) and trying to escape verbal abuse from the female during and after menopause ...
POETIK WARRIOR that's complete bollocks. If you had been married you would know that by the time you are married sex has taken a back step and more important issues to deal with which cannot be ignored. Stick with paying for prostitutes - you will never know the happiness of long term relationships, or children or grandchildren. You are already too old.
Then how will your GEN continue..........
everydayfun it won’t ... human civilization is over populated as it is
I’m a 25 year old woman and in a relationship for almost 4 years now. I am very happy and contented with just dating the love of my life (he is 30 years old). We are not planning on getting married but we are very open in having kids in the future. Life is good
@Turk February why she is garbage?
lucky man
I'm better alone,I don't like the concept of marriage
Marriage is useless unless you are religious, and the whole "i want to marry because i want to live my whole life with someone" is just nonsense. If you cant live with someone without having signed a paper before, you have to reevaluate your conception of a relationship
With less societal expectation that the two people will stay together, more people will avoid staying together. And a healthy marriage with strong parenting produces the best children.
I'm not religious in any way and marriage isn't important to me exactly in the sense that I know it's just a piece of paper but I think that if you're with someone you're genuinely completely in love with you want to be as close with them as possible and marriage can be (but doesn't have to be) a way to feel even more like a family. Maybe that's just a fantasy and doesn't matter in realistic everyday kind of sense but if you're in a healthy secure feeling relationship prior to getting married and you feel as a couple that it is something you want to do, I think people should go for it. It can have cultural and family benefits.
Dance God not always true
Peachy Cheri 🤔🤔🤔
Have you ever been married?
I disagree with this video, people who need marriage to be faithful and a good partner need to take a long hard look at themselves, not tie themselves to another person and set themselves up for failure. They deserve the costly process of divorcing.
Most people will marry cuz they think they have found the right person & that they love that person so much that he want to commit himself or herself to the person for good so probably its an unconscious will, but when things turn bad it doesn't mean that they are bad persons or evil or that they 'deserve' costly divorce or whatever ... anyway I believe that marriage still here today cuz it's our very pure human nature ... marriage is & has always been the cornerstone of human existance ... though I don't think I'll ever get married ;)
+ahmed said I disagree that marriage is a cornerstone, historically it has been important to control reproduction and females and to regulate exchanges and relationships between groups.
Only in the past century has the character of marriage changed, now the only reason is supposedly love, but I don't consider marriage a demonstration of love, I think that idea is absurd, love isn't demonstrated through marriage in my opinion.
If you love someone, you should just be with that person and share your life. I don't consider marriage necessary for that.
+T3MP0 You dont need marriage to demonstrate love ... no you dont in most cases I agree with you ... however, WE as a society do need marriage, you see when I said marriage is a cornerstone I meant that A family which is a result of marriage is the very basic unit in any civilized society that without it things could get pretty chaotic & unstructured in a way. this is why I'm seeing that marriage & family in the way we know it is the cornerstone of our existance.
Yes, family is a building block of any society. BUT, different cultures have different ideas of what marriage implies, and even, of what a family means. Our western culture nowadays doesn't necessarily need people to be married to be a family.
That's why I think marriage is obsolete, the ceremony, the tying yourself to another human being forever, the money spent on it, the hardships of divorcing, all of that stuff is not necessary. We don't need to get married. Families we need, marriages we don't.
I don't mind things being "unstructured", they are the sign that things are changing. When the structures you are used to living in change, you are obviously going to feel they are chaotic. But I think it's positive that marriage is being revealed as to what it is: a fraud intended to take all of your money away and bring you a shitload of problems that are not necessary to have. Sure it can give you happiness, but so can being with the person you love without being married.
I just like to think about how easier would lots of lives be if people could just separate themselves when they can no longer be together.
This, of course, if you don't have children. If you have children getting married is necessary because it is a sign of compromise and that you are committed to be under judicial scrutiny if you don't care about your children.
your fucking stupid, this imganiary thing called "marriage" should not be the thing that dictates if you stay loyal to your partner.
marriage is the dark secret behind the continuity of humanity
. Kids are either a commodity or a fun experiment fir kid loving couples
. Breaks relations with close ones like siblings
. A thin line between coercion and consent since intimacy us the requirement whether love or arranged
. Undermines your own existence as you give your other half to another person (we came into this world as a whole)
This has to be the biggest crock of bull I've ever heard.. All modern marriages is, is a bet that someone won't take half your stuff
Prenuptial agreement could help with that.
These comments are great! People are finally living in reality.
Yep, all those who know mgtow is bullshit are living in reality. Thanks for the compliment, although, since you are a pussy mgtow (redundant) you'll never realize reality comes.
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Imagine supporting the mass rape and murder of women.
This is 2020. Why does everyone still obsess over finding all of the answers required to "find the perfect love match?"
Want my honest advice, guys? Give up on dating! Save your time, save your money and save your energy. Life is too short.
Yep, all the non-mgtows are living in reality.
No, except for mine, all the pussy non-men mgtows are living on planet stupid and loser.
If I had known all this information before I would have chosen differently, marriage is overrated indeed.
I can tell that the commenters who hate marriage are the losers in the same. Sometimes good guys get screwed in a marriage, but much more often guys, like my brother, can't keep their dick in their pants, and then the woman, rightly so, rejects him. The opposite happens as well, but neither is a reason not to get married, but it is a reason that, if you are GOING to get married, to choose your spouse well. I did and I am experiencing wonderful, fun, enjoyable times, and I have been married over 20 years. Look, guys marriage is not the enemy, but picking your spouse based upon breast size is a loser every time, and this is what too many guys, like my brother, do.
And why didn't you know all this information? Plenty of men have known it over the centuries, and either went ahead of avoided marriage.
Nope, it is not. If you are a loser, and/or your wife is a loser, marriage failure is 100% your fault. If you look at facts, which is the last thing mgtows do, you will see that divorces and other marital issues inevitably arise out of choosing a mate to marry for dumb reasons. My older brother married a woman just because she lived in a very nice home, in a place he could not BEGIN to afford, and for no other reason. This type of idiocy is why most marriages fail.
@@jimgallagher5902 Jim Gallagher is an unnattractive woman pretending to be a beta simp.
@@jimgallagher5902 Jim Gallagher is an unattractive wall smasher with a yeast infection pretending to be a man with one testicle.
So you're telling me marriage is expensive and that you have to pay another person's bills and that there's not even a real reason why you do it other than tradition and not trusting yourself? Nu-uh I'm not doing that shit.
No fault divorce killed it for me. Why would I sign a contract with someone who can break it with no negative consequences for them?
Yes your right, not worth the risk.
Marriage is unfair for the man.