Should You Chase Girls? | The Cat Trap
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A successful seduction requires you to let go and stop chasing. You must let a woman come to you and express her interest in you by allowing her to chase you. If you fail to allow this transition to take place, don’t be surprised if the woman loses attraction for you and pulls away. The moment you focus on the relationship is the moment a woman starts to lose attraction. It’s tempting to tell a woman how you feel about her as though this will somehow soften her emotions and make her easier to seduce. When a man is focused on the relationship, he derails the seduction process. The woman used to dream of the day when a man would come along and sweep her off her feet. But when that day finally arrives something inside the woman tells her that love shouldn’t be this way, and she’s right, it shouldn’t.
A series of studies published in the European Journal of Personality observed that less available men are perceived to be more attractive and desirable. The researchers also discovered that people are willing to spend more money on less available people. In one of the studies, men were ranked as having either “low,” “intermediate” or “high” availability. The female participants in the study were then asked whether or not they would be willing to spend their money to take one of the men out to a “fast food,” “casual,” or “fine dining” restaurant. The results of the study showed that the female participants were much more likely to take a man to a “fine dining” restaurant if the man had “low availability.” This further explains why nice guys finish last. If you’re too available, women can’t help but see you as low value and less attractive. If a woman’s chasing you, she’s going to value you; and if she values you, she can’t help but find you attractive.
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All these videos can be summarized with three words
“don’t be needy.”
Yep!
Drax Tuskino I think the video helps by showing examples of this phenomenon. Or else some people won’t quite understand what not being needy is.
Yeah yeah... only women are allowed to be "needy". yada yada
I think the more appropriate word id HASTY
Correct sir..
Showing her that you care is now considered a "bad" thing. What has this world come to smh
Tell me about it bro. It's so crazy that being good to your girlfriend is actually bad for the relationship...wtf
Only in relationships. You have to find a good balance. Don't overdo it and don't do so little. As a rule, just don't place a woman up on a pedestal.
@@trustfund82 Definitely only care a little. Bitches love that
Truth is.....its always been like that. Female nature to attraction has never evolved beyond this.
It's always been that way. Neediness kills attraction in women in turns them off = no sex or contact. In guys we still wanna fuck, but don't want to deal with them. Neediness ruins the entire image of you in a woman's mind.
Lots of guys out here chasing 🐈....instead of their own dignity.
Or a bag
betas be chasing them bitches lol
All this talk about toxic masculinity and these girls don’t know they’re toxic to themselves!
They're like creatures from chernobyl
The Shiny Vaporeon Fan what do you mean
They are toxic even to other women. That's why women can't get on with each other.
You Bloody right,mate
Toxic masculinity is a funny concept. Do what we want and we won't be interested. Don't do what we want and we'll be interested but we'll call you Toxic for it. Does provide cover and plausible deniability. She can always complain about how much of a jerk he was, to her girlfriends and beta orbiters, if things don't work out.
Focus on yourself! Build your legacy. Women and everything else will happen naturally
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me Yes sir! 🙏🏾 preach my brother
no they won't, because the man need to be good attracting women in any case. money, status and that kind of shit won't help in attracting women. there are plenty of successful and wealthy men who have to pay to get some ass.
@@osse1n you have my respect brother!!😊😊😊
@@MikiMaki76
Wise words. Unfortunately, most men don't get it. Material goods may help in the short run, but in the long run being alpha is all that matters.
Yeah brother 👍👊
He should never have taken her on the trip to begin with. Never spend your money on someone until they show that they deserve it.
Or make them pay for the trip! i.e we pay 350 each
Exactly. It's all about the context. Unfortunately men have such low self esteem that they're always trying to bribe women with gifts and expensive trips, too much attention, etc
@@Jay-yy7uk its because many guys were raised only by women and saw this bvehavior in disney movies .. if you havent got a male role model, you dont know better
@@Jay-yy7uk you said it: bribe.
Correct. Plus it sets a bad precedent. Done wrong and it puts the freeloader on a pedestal. Human nature tends to disrespect things not earned, where there is no sacrifice.
this video is giving me flashbacks... this is just what i needed to hear. Looking back i was so weak. Now i know better
AGREED
Been there too. Uhg. Never again.
I was being so nice to a girl and I ended up being sad and lonely. Thanks to this video I’m gonna be stronger now
Same here. I think we all learn from experience
He would’ve been infinitely happier spending the 5,000 on himself. A cheap motorbike, PS5 and great food for a few months. Loads to do with 5k
"First you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the women" Scarface Al Pacino
Joe Flaherty that’s true. I don’t want a girlfriend or wife. I just wanna be her friend. They will never get bored of you.
As you loose money , then you losse power, then you.loose women ___
Words of WISDOM...
Joe Flaherty thx,you reminded me to watch scarface again
@ ALL women, every race, every culture every age since the dawn of Christ are deeply interested in how much money a man has or at least what his prospects are to eventually have money. It's in their DNA.
The one who always ignores whether it's a male or a female , don't act needy in front of them , mention it for once or just start ignoring them and focus on yourself , your partner will come to you crawling 😂
Lol "girlfriend". 4 months, no sex. Sam should reevaluate his definition of girlfriend
Exactly.
no kiss either, dafuq
Lmaooo
Girl friend. A friend that is a girl
😂😂😂😂the fact that he stayed 4 months without sex or kiss showed her his simpish nature
Find a Women who isn't a stuck up narcissist. Someone who is mature enough to respect you and matches your own empathic qualities. Pretty simple.
do you have a scanner for that? cause in the half year honeymoon phase that woman is hiding under her well practiced cloath of lies
@@YeplaaaThat would be why they're called "wolves in sheeps clothing" hence why they're often unpredictable energy vampires that are completely devoid of love or any real empathic human emotion. They don't know how to love, nor do they even care about you or your feelings, as you are nothing more than a shitty household object to them in their eyes. Try to learn more about cluster b type personality disorders such as (Narcissistic, Borderline, Histrionic etc) and you'll be able to spot the red flags very early on in a new relationship. One of the easiest ways to tell is if she treats you like a god in the beginning without even knowing you, then it's a major red flag. Maybe she strangely has so much in common with you it's like you've found your soulmate? there's another. Does she make up stories by claiming that each one of her exs were abusive to her just to reel in your adoration? there's another. Etc etc. Stay away from anyone who exhibits these similar behaviours.. especially if they barely even know you in the beginning.
@@michaela3711 www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4hpmg2/theory_the_betaization_process_stages_of_female/
I don't know about generalizing women ending relations badly, to be narcissists and so on is the unique answer.take a look at this; www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4hpmg2/theory_the_betaization_process_stages_of_female/
@@YeplaaaI was mainly referring to Cluster B type disorders. I wasn't generalizing all females or saying that everyone who exhibits these traits is a Narcissist I'm saying that people like this in general are usually incredibly toxic and it never ends well. Therefor spotting similar red flags early on in a relationship will save you BIG TIME if you already know enough about NPD/BPD etc.
difficult to find. But you are right
This just proves love isn't real.
Intelligent men don't waste time with women. Life is great and there are a lot of things to do and to learn
if you have to beg for love or affection, it’s not a relationship
NEVER, NEVER chase a girl. Don't be needy. Don't be clingy! If she doesn't show any signs of interest she won't be worth the effort. Always respect yourself first. YOU ARE THE PRIZE not HER!
Sooooo true.😘😘😘
No one person in a relationship is the prize...that wreaks of narcissism.
first problem sam made.... staying with a women who wont put out.... for 4 months.
I did the EXACT same thing. Dated a crazy horse girl on 20+ dates for four months. She was on SSRI's and had no libido because of it. It really pissed me off that she constantly teased about sex, but never proceeded with it because she said "she wasn't ready"
insane i won't date a girl who won't put out at the end of the first date
Men don't chase, only pursue. You do the effort and ask her out, if she isn't sure or flakes just put the ball on her court and if she's interested she'll reach out, or not. In both cases you save your time.
💯
Quit chasing girls in high school. Best thing I ever did.
Facts
We get judged based on the value of our time. The more value your time has, the more valuable you are. People with high value time are either rich, content or both. People will wanna spend time with such a high quality person and will be willing to pay the price for that
wow, very well explained.
I really hate how a woman's mind works. Even when I am in a relationship I don't feel like it is the relationship I want.
Haha yes they are beautiful but so fkn annoying!
lmaoo bro
Great video. Attraction and that love sparkle DIES especially in long term relationship. You need to pull away so she wont get bored of you. Im using this style with my 7year girlfriend. Dont act needy. Let her buy / pay for you. She must be the one investing. Of course you need to reward and balance it.
I don’t understand why someone would spend $5k on their girlfriend? Women have vastly reduced their quality over the last two generations. They are just not worth that. First date that used to be worth fine dinner AND a movie now is just worth a Starbucks coffee. Taking girlfriends on vacation is now worth Netflix. The guy in this example was overpaying.
Let me introduce something called twitch . .
She was most definitely talking to other guys on her phone during the holiday.
Let them prove to you they are worth your love - never rush into it, everything you say and do for them should feel natural and truthful, not forced in a way where you feel like doing certain things will keep them.
Unless you have some sort of celebrity status or you're extremely handsome, women are not going to chase you. At best, they may drop some hints that they're attracted. Don't sit back and wait because you'll probably will be waiting for a long time!
That is not what is meant by let them chase you
Trueeee
Well the man has to initiate the first contact because women are to scared of rejection but after the initial contact the man has to pull back and be sparing with his attention, this communicates he is high value and not a needy simp.
And to add to that herevis another psychology fact: if a woman has 80% interest in a man she will make it easier however if she has only 10% interest in a man like a crush it will be very difficult for the man
Annie are you okay, Annie are you okay, are you okay Annie ??
You have been hit by, You have been struck by, a smooth criminal!!
💀💀💀😂😂😂😂😂
HEEHEE
Annie is a smooth criminal
You had me singing.. 😂
Don't be needy and focus on yourself/ style
The guy’s to blame because he’s motivated by lust not love, or even friendship. He believes he can buy the girl with treats. The girl is hurting and bruised from previous relationship fails, and can see through it all. She went along probably because she wanted to give him a chance to prove her wrong, not because the treats are so “sweet”. But, he failed by exhibiting impatience. Impatience is a no no. Love is patient.
This is from your book atomic attraction. I’m blown away on how informative/good that book is (audiobook). Amazing Book!
despabikes are you on insta?
The book is clutch
You're quite right: give her space and time and she will come back looking for you!
How we can know if she will come back?
no, she will most likely not. Only reason for her to come back would be because she didn't find anything better and not because she suddenly realized how much she loves you. Never take a girl back.
This is why you don’t get invested too much in one particular woman
Too right, mate.
It's frustrating, because I agree with this video. The logic behind it is correct. Sadly, the REALITY of the matter is: if you are a guy....getting a woman to pursue YOU is extremely difficult and unlikely. Especially if you live in America, where it has been drilled into the very fiber of our being that it is the MAN'S job to pursue the woman. Waiting and hoping for her to show interest in you and/or make the first move....will most likely leave you alone for years and years, unless you have insane luck on your side.
The problem is that in the US there are many players out who constantly hit on girls everywhere, even on a public street. US girls are simply used being cat called and flirted with. They are far too used to this, so they don't see any reason to be pro active. They know there will always be a guy ready to flirt with them. Guys who don't approach them are thought to have no interest
The only rule necessary when it comes to women is to consistently remain in your own power and let them come to you. If you can't handle that, don't date.
Hey Chris! Thanks for sharing your knowledge
I'm currently facing the situation, and im on no contact process, been 5 days already since we broke up. I watch your videos everyday to motivate me and keep me going.
Rayne Naga how’s your ex gf now? does she contact you?
@@adiaizuddin87turan7yes she does
You are on the right track brother. Let her chase you. Once she contacts you, reward her.
She contacts me constantly now. And she's coming back. From my experience no contacts does not imply any specific period of time but of you ya'l broke up give her time and space, it's painful but gotta stay strong, she will miss you and will text you or call you. That's when you starts to reply
Thanks for the free content, I have purchased your book and your advice not only works with relationships, but overall just becoming the best you can be. Do you make these animations yourself?! I am looking to start an online business myself. Cheers!
thank you for your videos my friend they help alot
Brother, you and Alpha Male Strategies kill it all the time. Much respect from Uzbekistan.
Dude... you describe my life before I met your channel. Thank you so much for exist!
It's funny when you said that: When you ask a girl of our relationship status she will get distant from you. . . This litterally just happened to me. She told me she loved me but she didn't know how to love and we've been broken up ever since. Good relationship, but the women couldn't take minor criticism and I've moved past it. His advice is on point folks
Love these videos straight up 🤠
Great video. Powerful and true.
As a guy also trying to teach others, I dig your content brother. 👊 I appreciate when dudes try to think of different concepts and ways of delivering a message, it helps others who may not learn it in one way but suddenly really understand it when learning it another way. By using actual made up characters you give people a more first-hand way of experiencing your teachings, and possibly re-live their own lives and mistakes which will double down and make them really get it. Great stuff man, I could never do this like you but I appreciate the genuine content. Keep up the innovative content brother 🔥💯
Seduction Unleashed Thanks for the support. They’re not made up characters though. These are based on true events. Just names have been changed with permission from the people involved.
Gotcha bro, no worries. Keep it up fam 👊🔥
Your videos are amazing this is like the second video I seen
Great work ✊
agreed with the whole video although the 80/20 rule need context. FELLAS: This rule only apply to women that has very high interest or you're already sleeping with them. Try this on new ladies and you'll never get anywhere. It's ok to do a little more pursuing in the beginning. Lol all this overcomplication make me laugh
Men listen to this guy! He is so right! This works so well
GREAT CONTENT...THANKS
And thus, we have diminishing birthrates, and confused parents and grandparents.
These woes do not only afflict the "chasers" as you put it, put those of us that have followed this advice as well.
To chase or not to chase, there is no question, end result is the same.
From the conversations between my parents, aunts/uncles, and finally grandparents: Out of a family with 11 (Yes eleven) grandsons, not one of us grandchildren have children of our own.
I, being third eldest, pondered the following observation: When have our parents shifted their mindsets from hoping their children were NOT having sex, to hoping they do?
I have similar experience with a girl I showed care and love. To the extent of writing exam for her. I gave her my time and money hoping to settle down with me. To my greatest surprised she pulled away from me telling me not to disturb her again. Then am going for no contact right now . I am grateful for this platform. This no contact is total. I have started healing myself and I regret for my ignorance
Im happy that have found u since this week 💙
Sam could have spent those $5,000+ at a cathouse and get more than his money's worth.
And no, it's not a joke.
Your advice is really spot on!!! Have read your book 2 times, on my third read already
Gaganpal Singh are you on instagram?
@@rajanchaudhary3202 yeah... Its gaganlycan
A relationship of four months, and no sex, not even a kiss. Is this real life ?
Happens a lot in the more conservative societies
@@gaganhk8176 nice answer
@@NoDramaAllowed yeah man especially in hindu, Muslim communities
The dating scene is almost non existent and somehow marrying a total stranger is the only way to lose your v card. Divorce is also a taboo and that is messed up.
Is this just fantasy?
She wasn't responding the way I liked her to so I deleted her number and told her to kick rocks..
With a Woman NEVER reward her with your presence or time if she show disrespectful behavior...TRUST ME THEY WILL TEST YOU AND IF YOU ARE WEAK YOU WILL GET EXPOSED AND SHE WILL LEAVE YOU.
GORRILA BLACK, JACK Jesus Christ who hurt you???
@@hpewjm I spent a lot of money and time on her and ger son. She don't gives me any respect to me now.
@@qnyt dude she sees you as a provider without any respect. just GTFO NOW
I love the flower pot at 2:27 . Can’t get enough of these cartoons
Great advice
Thank you. :)
It feels good not being a beta Male, If that were me those thoughts wouldn't be on my mind, cuss sex nor kisses wouldn't matter to me at all. If anything I would be the one to pull away myself an just go on no contact until things clear up. Idk about you guys but a man can't let his feelings get the best of his manly pride.
Idk if anyone will agree with me about this or not, and idc either! However, I believe the same goes for men too: for some reason, I fucking hate it when women text me unneeded stuff that has nothing to do with anything important between us or setting up a date!
These videos explain why I’ve overlooked so many dudes that were, apparently, expecting me to chase them. Boys, if you aren’t careful, this will come across as uninterested!
A person should respect each others instincts
Wow this is great
Excellent!😎
great advice mate, I’m off to get me a woman now!
Great chanal brother new sub😀
Walk away never look back cut off contact with them and everyone they know.
Chris is a genius he is right!
This is also called the nice guy approach
Good video..I have a question..I always go out with girl as first date but second make a second date with her..what should I do?
damn that dude is so beta.
OKAYYYY but you are also beta. You I’ve seen 2 beta fuckers in and under one video. Must be a fucking record. You betas make me sick.
@@sterlingarcher2653 says the internet troll.
@g singh Alphas are supposed to focus only on themselves lmao
Let others crawl through Hell themselves
Its the only way to get stronger
Relying on others will keep you reliant and weak
Nice, i learned alot. Wait a minute... Why is this on my recommended?
Chris, you're fucking awesome. I really like your videos. All the things you say work excellently. Thanks a lot.
Amazing
well what to do when shes not interested and not bother chasing you at all?
If your dating for four months and not sleeping together. Your just mates!
Supply and demands, never realised it works in socialization too
Never invest to much to a girl . Let them invest on you first .
THANKS MAN I LOVE YOU 😘😍
thanks
Get the kindle book its worth it !
If you have to Chase someone then your wasting your time
the animation is so cool.....
It's one hell of a cycle I'll tell you that much.Not that I have done it but my friends do that
If she ain't giving it to you - it means she's just using you for emotional support simple
Why on earth did he not realise the holiday looked like a massive bribe?
Chris. I really want you to answer my question. I have no money to pay for the emails. A girl sent a request on Instagram but I didn’t accept to or refuse it. But we look st each other everyday. Should I wait until she reaches out to me personally? Or should I just accept her social media request
just accept
I just cant apply this to real life, can i?
This is in your book!
Very very true.
My girlfriend has mental health and she says the arguing is bad and she said she cant do this anymore and she said “i love you and always will and want to be with you but I can’t”???Last time we broke up I left her and she came running back, will she do the same this time??
80/20 rule wow love it. Wish I knew some of this stuff earlier
Is your no contact strategy just for the beginning of a break up or forever until they hit you up I've heard u say both I prefer until she hits you up
move on with yourself immediately
if she reaches out someday and you still remember her, it's up to you to put her into a casual rotation or ljbf
Hi Chris, how are you and what did you have for breakfast today?
nice guys never win 😂
Dignity is my number 1 priority
It all makes sense now
I want to say many men are guilty of this Nice Guy Behavior. It is behavior that kills women's attraction. For the most part it is not their fault because society and the media conditions them the myths/lies that women are attracted to looks, money, nice guys and that women should be treated like princesses. Also school or household do not teach boys about what they should be learning about masculinity, attraction, dating and relationships. With behavior witnessed in this video demonstrates why divorce rates are high as well as why women pull back and go cold.
To break down this video shows that Sam is guilty of the typical nice guy behaviors
1. He confesses his feelings too soon
2. Gives up his power just to be liked or Gives just to Get
3. Makes himself too available and shows he is willing to do anything for this woman therefore pedestalizes her.
Other behavior he exhibits is begging her to have sex with him that really shows that he is "Weak as F--k!!!!!!(SIMP)
The thing that he has to do is use the 80/20 principal which is equivalent to "LESS IS MORE!!!!!"
What Sam should have done was get Annie to Invest in him. Get her to see if she is willing to Invest in him. If not he should let her go work on himself be on his path, purpose and mission as well as keep his options options open so he can attact other women.
To Sum it up
"ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE
IT CANNOT BE NEGOTIATED OR FORCED!!!!!"
The cat meow 😺 scared the crap out of me!!!!
You're the man coach! 👍👊💪 Keep up good work.