A man like that. Never says what you want to hear. Knows how to manipulate the conversation. Asks questions in response to questions. Conversations just go in circles. Wow. Now seeing this, I recognize what an emotionally unavailable man he was. Had way too many of them in my life. I was a Carrie for way too many years🤦🏻♀️
Men are not really complicated. If a man wants to commits to you, he will. He will not run away, be emotionally unavailable, not call you, be ambiguous, elusive, not put a ring on it or whatever. He will be there, available and involved. It's really that simple. The key premise is, IF he wants to commit. IF. In Carries case, he clearly didnt.
I don't accept that saying. Men ARE complicated. The dodging and gaslighting IS the complicated part lol Women are the true "uncomplicated" sex. When we love, we just do. When we don't, we don't. Not to mention we're the ones who request direct communication.
Oh really? If he’s not that complicated why didn’t he leave? Why did he keep stringing her along, etc. if he is “there” he is there. If he’s not, he’s “NOT”
@@QuietlyCurious You can keep telling yourself that and living in denial but you are wrong. Men are usually not that complicated but women twist every little word, gesture, or silent into a big drama. It's women who put their emotions onto men who dont commit. The more illusive the man the more women project their own emotions and dialog and meaning onto the silence. Hard to read men are typically just shallow players. I am a woman who met a few and then wised up. You can too.
@@KM-ul3pf You know nothing about me. Nobody is arguing a woman's responsibility to keep her wits about her. Of course, it's on her if she doesn't get the hint or doesn't have the maturity to disengage herself from a bum. In that regard, every woman does have to "wise up" at some point. You could say Carrie’s behavior is complicated, but then you'd have to say the same of Big's. If a woman’s emotional insecurity is complicated, then surely a man’s waging psychological warfare is too. It’s a 2-way street. Calling women “complicated” while men are just “simple” questions the integrity of only one of the sexes in a situation where both parties' actions & intentions aren't aligning. It's a bullshit indictment.
Yodit Stiphanos I always thought he was very manipulative and dishonest. I don’t believe it’s the worst thing that it didn’t work out in that case, if he’s like Big.
As much as I complain Carrie acted too desperate and needy it’s understandable how hard it would be to walk away from such a sexy , handsome and charming man. It’s like indulging in heaven just as a tease wishing it would last forever.
Relationships with MrBig-alikes are actually addictive. You never know where you stand, trying your best to win him over while he actually lives his life without taking you into consideration. That adrenaline rush is a thing to remember and chemistry might also be extraordinarily. Unfortunately the effort is futile and you gotta stand your ground, have some self respect and walk away from a relationship that won't ever feel mutuality fulfilling. Took me ten years to grasp, their happy ending would only take place on TV.
Exactly. These kind of relationships are like a drug addiction, but only for one party. One person invests a lot of energy into the relationship, while the other person isnt investing any energy and is just basically "along for the ride". The one investing all the energy constantly battles to earn validation because they want that "fix" desperately, which usually comes in the form of breadcrumbs. Also, the one investing all the energy always gets their heartbroken when the other one going along for the ride easily just moves on because they had zero investment in the relationship. Its a very toxic dynamic.
@@Vr4z1el well said !!! It’s sad when the addiction of sexual chemistry is so intense that you can’t get up enough courage to just walk away. It’s like how much agony can one take just to get a certain level of satisfaction.
Carrie was selfish and only wanted Aiden back because he looked sooo good! He lost some weight, got toned and cut his hair. Carrie was always in love with Big. Aiden was just there to boost her ego or to catch her when Big made her fall.
Their relationship was a mess. I think Carrie did love Aidan. Her problem was she didn't know how to be happy. Her insecurities told her Aidan was too good to be true and so she couldn't accept the security he offered her. Big was reliably unpredictable and untrustworthy so the chase kept her interested.
Aidan was terrible. He took her to the middle of nowhere with no AC in summer and expected her to bake pies and wear gingham and give up her fabulous shoes and cocktails. Aiden was Country, Carrie was City and those two would NEVER work together. Trust me. I have seen my friends make the Aiden mistake. It always ends in divorce.
Same. I also get the impression that Carrie didn't grow up in a stable environment. Her father was not in the picture. Maybe her mother dated many "Mr. Bigs" and maybe Carrie thought that this was ok, so she dated men that were bad for her.
I don't think that she's evil. I think she is very immature and has the wrong idea of how a man should treat her. I think that she didn't know that she deserves a good person.
I have my own Mr Big. 12 years and he still has my heart. We have such chemistry it's like an addiction and it's toxic. He is no good for me but dammit if I can't help it. Having a Mr Big is not an easy thing to break because you're always hoping but always knowing... He won't change.
Same here. 10yrs for me. I'm married now but some how he still comes into my life to fuck everything up... I really trying this time around to just move on but it's so hard
@@Brumbasse22 because when you're in it you don't realise it. You romanticise the man he was at the beginning and convince yourself that he'll be that way again. Sooner or later it becomes behavioural, you're conditioned to always care. Even if you have the strength to leave physically mentally he'll always have ground. Even if you find someone who is amazing and treats you right (as I have now) you are still under conditions set that are so difficult to break.
@TA A wow! So rude comment! My comments was 5 years ago. And I got married already now with awesome man , and totally happy with him and our kids. Everything happened in our life is about learning , acception , respect and never give up , then we will find better life after that.
It's horrible that most part of time she didn't say what she wanted and when she finally did he didn't answer her and she decided that he meant to say what she wanted.
Love is not some separate entity that we must be "stronger" or "weaker" than; love is an aspect of us, and it is our strongest. Even stronger than any will to defy it. Definitely stronger than mere attraction or addiction. These two never came _close_ to real love, because all of the above came between them every time.
Yt Yt the problem Is that she never stood her ground whenever she asked. So she ended up repeatedly asking the same questions, getting no answers and then hoping it will get better. That’s why she came across as needy. The answers were always there - in the way he avoided giving a direct answer.
Carrie knew exactly what was going on. She just didn't want to admit it to herself. That's why she keep asking him questions, because she wanted to hear a different answer. Its simple it you got to drag out of a man what he is feeling about you, then he isn't the one. SIMPLE IT SHOULD NEVER BE THIS HARD
I was saved from a man like mr. Big by another man, by a very Man who loves me. The mr.Big one always made me feel such an idiot and yes, I was. I was it because I cheated the man who saved me, my Aiden, with mr.Big, even if I knew he was totally wrong for me. BUT, the difference between Carrie and me is that my Aiden apologized me and I finally understood what love is. It needs work hard, patience, comprehension. Mr. Big likes only simple things... Ladies, be carefull please, don't let they treats you like the last thing in the world because this is NOT love. Hugs from Italy 🌼
Kinda been there-done that and although THANK GOD it didn't prosper, I cannot imagine what women who have affairs with married men and they actually end up keeping them must deal with the rest of their lives. See, if he was a serial cheater to begin with, what makes a woman think SHE -of all peolpe- is gonna change him? If he left a wife (or two) for her, then chances are he's gonna leave HER at one point for another woman, right? Mere statistics.
I love Carrie and Big. She knew who she wanted and she waited for the man if her dreams. What was Carrie supposed to do, marry Aiden and not love him? Aidan, always wanted to change Carrie. She couldn't smoke because he didn't like it. I admire Carrie for waiting for the love of her life.
I have a Mr.Big in my life. 11 yrs and here we are doing the same shit. I can't totally stay away from him. I ghosted him and I was fine until he kept calling me and after almost a year, there I was answeeing his call. Then after months of seeing eachother, we stopped and then again, stopped and it was all routine. He just can't disappear in my life. I wish he's going to marry someone to end this.
I had a situation like that. But it’s very easy to cut someone loose FOREVER if you only want that. You need to do it. He doesn’t have anything to do with it.
Nini LaRouge And a decent man would have given her straightforward answers. She should have inferred from Big’s lack of responses that he didn’t care and walked away.
Carrie & Big always loved each other. He was afraid of being hurt so he kept himself closed off, but he was older than her as well. As we age we respond different than we did when we were younger. Our past depending on how it was makes us more or less open. Big never treated Carrie badly. He was always great to her & no matter how she acted he accepted her for how she was. He was always the calming force in the relationship & rational one. Carries problems also came from always discussing her relationships with her friends & comparing men. Don’t compare & don’t discuss with your friends because us women tend to over dramatize things & we see things different than men. If you have a relationship problem always talk to someone of the opposite sex & maybe someone that can be impartial. It can give u a whole new outlook.
Wow. He didn't tell her he got engaged to a 26 yo and he dated other women concurrently and then each time she was settled in a relationship he pursued her and he didn't have the balls to get out of the damn car because Carrie got carried away with their NYPL wedding? What would you call bad treatment, I didn't t think I wanna know.
I guess no matter what anyone says- every single woman has a Mr Big in her life and would go back to him asap if that would be possible. Carry is just prolonging this painful game…from his side. Carry was in love in MB from the first sight
I love/loved this show back in the 1990's never missed an episode 😍 I wish they'd come back with the same players, or maybe their Children !!! And still have all Original Players in this Series, I absolutely love watching the Rerun's but would love to see them all now maybe giving their Children advice, and Samantha and her HOT Husband can play the cool Aunt and Uncle 😘 Come on bring all the Originals and few extras back on to a New Sex in the City 🤔🤔🤔
The Big/Aidan debate bugs me Carrie was always in love with Big, he stole her heart straight away & she wanted everything back off him @ once. He wasn't prepared to give it all straight away & even married Natasha cos he could'nt give everything away & he knewNatasha couldn't reallyhurt him emotionally,Carrie could. You know or it's pretty obvious if you don't want wot Aidans offering youdon't love him or you'd be walking on air to find such a brilliant man.SATC shows you can't choose who U luv.
If men could harness 1/100th the charm Big has, they would be able to own any woman’s soul. Most women go a lifetime without feeling this level of chemistry. Regardless of the toxic aspects of their relationship.
Denise Branch I did too! We had the most unusual thing. I’m a Capricorn and so was he. I loved his friendship and the sex was good I was in high school. Man the games lol sure was fun though.
Ladies, there is a misconception that people like Mr. Big will only go for Natashas. This is incorrect. Their hearts and intentions are unpredictable so it doesn't matter what position you have as a professional or what you do in life: people like Mr. Big are not healthy for *any* relationship. They are emotionally draining. I had a somewhat Mr. Big in my life (meaning he was not completely like Mr. Big in SATC but had many of his traits). The relationship was toxic because of these traits and it spiralled down terribly. But this experience helped me because I dodged an ACTUAL Mr. Big two years later, and that was a g-r-e-a-t feeling! It's not worth the pain. So if you're a healthy, stable, normal woman, regardless of what you do in life, don't let a Big in it, you will regret it!
yeah, carrie was a real fool. yet i can see why she left aiden,,,he was way too pushy, and she felt trapped. but settling for big's shabby treatment of her, was really pathetic.
laceydays1 i feel like Big gave her what he could and she just was never content. She knew the kind of man he was and she was constantly trying to push him to be something else.
Okay, come on. You prepare fondue, one of the easiest dishes on the face of the Earth, and you still manage to screw it up? Cheese and bread are already delicious, how could melting the cheese make it terrible?
It's cheap revolting low quality cheddar. It's not real cheese, it's plastic. Big is an asshole but he has definite gastronomic standards, which Carrie does not.
Carrie's biggest mistake with Big was how they started. On their first date she wore a dress where she was practically naked then jumped into bed with him. It's no wonder he did not take her seriously. If you are looking for a serious relationship you might want to take things a bit slower. Still no guarantee it will work out the way you want but I think the odds are in your favor.
Yes, heaven forbid women should be honest or authentic or just THEMSELVES! The biggest mistake is believing that if a guy has sexist double standards, he'll shrug them off when you hook up with him. Women are people. WTF is this antediluvian double standard? Real men are not scared of women liking sex.
@@lizziebkennedy7505 The double standard is wrong but it still exist. A woman can be herself all she wants but men buy into the double standard and some men will not see a woman as serious girlfriend material when she jumps into sex on the first date. But sometimes it does work out. There is no formula to follow that will guarantee things will work out the way you want. But as I said the odds are more in your favor of the man taking you seriously when you don't jump into bed on the first date.
You know everybody said Big was "emotionally unavailable." all Big did was not give in to Carrie about marraige. Carrie pushed and pushed him. SHE NEVER LISTENED. Maybe she shoud've asked the reaons about Big not wanting to commit. Right from the start, Carrie pushed marraige. From her POV it makes Big look bad. (Back in the Day I thought Big was cold hearted and evil. After "And just like that" my feelings changed. You can't push a man like Big. He'll run away.
Just like the friendship of those girls, relantionships like Big and Carrie's is BS. After all they went through and given their profiles and recurrent behaviours, there is NO WAY they were gonna end up getting married. Gotta hate Hollywood for making it look like it's all real and possible, huh?
+Marie Bellucci I totally agree. Almost like our intelligence was insulted. Real life Bigs dont have an epiphany where they fly to another continent to express their love to the very woman they have been jerking around for years. She is easy to manipulate because he knows she is crazy about him no matter what the language she tells him to fuck off in. They just remember said woman when they are thumbing through old phone numbers in their phone or when they find themselves in the vicinity of the woman's house, everything done at their whim and convenience. Their happy ending would have been more realistic if it had been a dream sequence and that in itself is a huge hilarious irony.
The show runners were strong armed into putting Carrie in a fairytale ending with big. She was supposed to end the show single and near the wrong side of 40.
+Marie Bellucci it is possible in real life. But it most likely ends in an expensive divorce. And in real life, emotionally unavailable or any other kinds of a-holes aren't as honest as Big about their feelings.
Cont.Charlotte was the same,she married Trey,someone she thought she should marry & thought Harrywashorrible,but thebaldgood sex guywasHER ONE. Carrie had Big sussed early on,he protected his feelings fiercly&she was prepared to put upwith it forperiods of time, then she'd burst, which is whythey split upso often. They were always in an on/off relationship throughout the wholeseries, they needed to grow, which they did, before they could have a grownup relationship.She was an asshole tohim too!
If i were a girl i would choose steve over any of the others and as a man i would choose charlotte as a wife and sam as my best girl friend.....tge rest two r good as frnds
if u are dating someone and you don't want your friends to know, there's a problem.
If you have a 'Mr big' in your life, Please run in the opposite direction for dear life 🏃🏃🏃
Been there done that have the scars to prove it
Don't they end up married?
@@devilpupbear09 Yes they do💖
devilpupbear09 Yes, both the male and female versions do, and normally to desperate pushovers like Carrie.
devilpupbear09 It’s because it is a TV series, in reality, big and Carrie would never end up together
he was always dodging intimacy and commitment even from the way he answered her.. the writers did a good job with him.
I always thought that because Big had money that that played a role in his holding back. Ok....it was wishful thinking.
Carrie was never very straightforward herself.
The thing is, I think people forget this Series was based off Candace Bushnell's Life and own Relationship w/ her Exec?
Everybody has been a Carrie Bradshaw at some point of time. And for those who haven't yet, learn from her mistakes.
Yh ppl react like they've never been like her and get disgusted .
So freaking true..
Lol not everyone.
Nope, not everyone.
Nope! Never, and it is so freaky to see this kind of totaly toxic relationship.
A man like that. Never says what you want to hear. Knows how to manipulate the conversation. Asks questions in response to questions. Conversations just go in circles. Wow. Now seeing this, I recognize what an emotionally unavailable man he was. Had way too many of them in my life. I was a Carrie for way too many years🤦🏻♀️
I thought, they married?
@@lisakellerman7701 not in real life, the people who this is based on did not end up togehter
@@mariemarcusson9087 who is this based on
Same😞
@@mariemarcusson9087 I didn't know it S&C was based on real-life story
It’s so funny I was a teen when this show aired and I thought I understood it - it takes on such a new meaning watching it in my 30s. !!!
So true!
So true. I was so judgemental when I was 18 watching this. In my 30s, I cringe cos now I understand
“I guess we were back together...officially” GIRL HE NEVER SAID THAT
Actions speak louder than words
"Sure I knew it was wrong seeing an emotionally unavailable guy I had sworn off months earlier... BUT HE CUTE DOE"
Story of my life ahaha
Lmao this is so accurate.
Men are not really complicated. If a man wants to commits to you, he will. He will not run away, be emotionally unavailable, not call you, be ambiguous, elusive, not put a ring on it or whatever. He will be there, available and involved. It's really that simple. The key premise is, IF he wants to commit. IF. In Carries case, he clearly didnt.
I don't accept that saying. Men ARE complicated. The dodging and gaslighting IS the complicated part lol
Women are the true "uncomplicated" sex. When we love, we just do. When we don't, we don't. Not to mention we're the ones who request direct communication.
Oh really? If he’s not that complicated why didn’t he leave? Why did he keep stringing her along, etc. if he is “there” he is there. If he’s not, he’s “NOT”
Some men do love a woman/man but have commitment issues
@@QuietlyCurious You can keep telling yourself that and living in denial but you are wrong. Men are usually not that complicated but women twist every little word, gesture, or silent into a big drama. It's women who put their emotions onto men who dont commit. The more illusive the man the more women project their own emotions and dialog and meaning onto the silence. Hard to read men are typically just shallow players. I am a woman who met a few and then wised up. You can too.
@@KM-ul3pf You know nothing about me. Nobody is arguing a woman's responsibility to keep her wits about her. Of course, it's on her if she doesn't get the hint or doesn't have the maturity to disengage herself from a bum. In that regard, every woman does have to "wise up" at some point.
You could say Carrie’s behavior is complicated, but then you'd have to say the same of Big's. If a woman’s emotional insecurity is complicated, then surely a man’s waging psychological warfare is too. It’s a 2-way street. Calling women “complicated” while men are just “simple” questions the integrity of only one of the sexes in a situation where both parties' actions & intentions aren't aligning. It's a bullshit indictment.
Their acting is amazing!
The horrible part is when you end up in love with a man like Big....but no happy ending :(
Yodit Stiphanos I always thought he was very manipulative and dishonest. I don’t believe it’s the worst thing that it didn’t work out in that case, if he’s like Big.
She is worse than him! Far worse!
@@charlesblake2280 how is she worse?
@@userr23456 complete narc she is never happy!
They do end up w a happy ending! They get married💖 this is just a tv show guys, not your life lol
But despite the toxicity Big was literally so captivating and charming and HOT.
As much as I complain Carrie acted too desperate and needy it’s understandable how hard it would be to walk away from such a sexy , handsome and charming man. It’s like indulging in heaven just as a tease wishing it would last forever.
girl he’s sooo fine
Damn right!!! 😂😂💯💯😍😍
Girl ... that's what be getting us in trouble 🤣
He was an empty suit
Relationships with MrBig-alikes are actually addictive. You never know where you stand, trying your best to win him over while he actually lives his life without taking you into consideration. That adrenaline rush is a thing to remember and chemistry might also be extraordinarily. Unfortunately the effort is futile and you gotta stand your ground, have some self respect and walk away from a relationship that won't ever feel mutuality fulfilling. Took me ten years to grasp, their happy ending would only take place on TV.
Exactly. These kind of relationships are like a drug addiction, but only for one party. One person invests a lot of energy into the relationship, while the other person isnt investing any energy and is just basically "along for the ride". The one investing all the energy constantly battles to earn validation because they want that "fix" desperately, which usually comes in the form of breadcrumbs. Also, the one investing all the energy always gets their heartbroken when the other one going along for the ride easily just moves on because they had zero investment in the relationship. Its a very toxic dynamic.
@@Vr4z1el well said !!! It’s sad when the addiction of sexual chemistry is so intense that you can’t get up enough courage to just walk away. It’s like how much agony can one take just to get a certain level of satisfaction.
Love a man in a turtleneck!!
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100%
Carrie was selfish and only wanted Aiden back because he looked sooo good! He lost some weight, got toned and cut his hair. Carrie was always in love with Big. Aiden was just there to boost her ego or to catch her when Big made her fall.
The Childfree Curly Girl She was to Aiden as whom Big was to her.
Yea and he also lost his turquoise rings
Carrie gave away everything for so little.
Bg married Carrie
It's 2021 and Carrie looks amazing in all the outfits
I frickin love all the background music
Susanna Sullivan Sama
Susanna Sullivan one of the most nostalgic aspects of the show.
Chris Noth is one of the most charming men out there.
And certainly one of the most handsome too.
He certainly is ! Even when he was on Law and Order he was extremely sexy . Something about that man and his swagger
@@bergercookie 100%
Big is awful
@@tirtunemdouq yes, but Chris Noth is fabulous.
Big: I can tell you one thing, I sure did miss you, officially.
Carrie: Did you cry?
Big: No, but I did listen to a hellava lot of Sinatra.
chan yokosex
Un pelotudo, en argentino.
Lol he’s such a charmer ! Did she really think he was going to cry 😂
@@danielasaraceno5223 lol
@@bergercookie Carrie was joking
Their relationship was a mess.
I think Carrie did love Aidan. Her problem was she didn't know how to be happy. Her insecurities told her Aidan was too good to be true and so she couldn't accept the security he offered her. Big was reliably unpredictable and untrustworthy so the chase kept her interested.
tigereyes5 Real life Bigs' cheat and the end is inevitable just like his first two marriages.
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Aidan was terrible. He took her to the middle of nowhere with no AC in summer and expected her to bake pies and wear gingham and give up her fabulous shoes and cocktails. Aiden was Country, Carrie was City and those two would NEVER work together. Trust me. I have seen my friends make the Aiden mistake. It always ends in divorce.
Same. I also get the impression that Carrie didn't grow up in a stable environment. Her father was not in the picture. Maybe her mother dated many "Mr. Bigs" and maybe Carrie thought that this was ok, so she dated men that were bad for her.
I don't think that she's evil. I think she is very immature and has the wrong idea of how a man should treat her. I think that she didn't know that she deserves a good person.
Mr. Big is so handsome.
I know it I was just thinking that!! I could just stare at him and be happy!!!
Definitely. I could kiss that pretty mouth of his again and again.
That's why Carrie is so needy around him
Yuck
He’s average at best and his personality destroys it.
I have my own Mr Big. 12 years and he still has my heart. We have such chemistry it's like an addiction and it's toxic. He is no good for me but dammit if I can't help it. Having a Mr Big is not an easy thing to break because you're always hoping but always knowing... He won't change.
Same here. 10yrs for me. I'm married now but some how he still comes into my life to fuck everything up... I really trying this time around to just move on but it's so hard
Same here ... guys we are neurotic. Anyone else would’ve ended things long ago
@@Lccru I think if you're married you shouldnt talk/text to him AT ALL. Not fair to the person you're married to
Why treat yourself this way?
@@Brumbasse22 because when you're in it you don't realise it. You romanticise the man he was at the beginning and convince yourself that he'll be that way again. Sooner or later it becomes behavioural, you're conditioned to always care. Even if you have the strength to leave physically mentally he'll always have ground. Even if you find someone who is amazing and treats you right (as I have now) you are still under conditions set that are so difficult to break.
I love Carrie and Big together 💖
EMPRESS Heather i do too, apparently we’re the minority though lol
I love them together too. Carry didn't settled she followed her heart nothing else matters. Carrie was star of show of courses she gets most attention
Season 2 was amazing.
I always fall in love with a man like Big , hot but ... wrong man hahahahha maybe yes, i am almost like Carrie can't deny the charming of Mr. Big :D
Same here sister!
bcos mostly " a good man " is boring , pathetic and very out of topic :D
Maya Soepangkat zactly! :)
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@TA A wow! So rude comment! My comments was 5 years ago. And I got married already now with awesome man , and totally happy with him and our kids. Everything happened in our life is about learning , acception , respect and never give up , then we will find better life after that.
It's horrible that most part of time she didn't say what she wanted and when she finally did he didn't answer her and she decided that he meant to say what she wanted.
Being like Carrie in teens or early 20's s acceptable. Jeez in mid 30s it's awful. How can someone not think for themselves
We've all been there head over heels for someone who was just bad for us
that blue sweater-cardigan with all the holes (at the start of video) makes me want to go crabbing lol
Love is not some separate entity that we must be "stronger" or "weaker" than; love is an aspect of us, and it is our strongest. Even stronger than any will to defy it. Definitely stronger than mere attraction or addiction. These two never came _close_ to real love, because all of the above came between them every time.
Love them together officially
Ohh my God Mister Big, wearing a turtle neck Shrit is a dream ❤️❤️
Why is everyone saying she’s needy? She simply wants to know where the two of them stand in their “relationship”. Why is that unreasonable?
Yt Yt the problem Is that she never stood her ground whenever she asked. So she ended up repeatedly asking the same questions, getting no answers and then hoping it will get better. That’s why she came across as needy. The answers were always there - in the way he avoided giving a direct answer.
She's pathetic
It’s not unreasonable to have standards, but you enforce them by letting your actions do the talking. Leave the whining and nagging to his mom.
Asking questions instead of living in the moment. There's always a time & place for questions
Carrie knew exactly what was going on. She just didn't want to admit it to herself. That's why she keep asking him questions, because she wanted to hear a different answer. Its simple it you got to drag out of a man what he is feeling about you, then he isn't the one. SIMPLE
IT SHOULD NEVER BE THIS HARD
Big was a narcissist and Carrie a vulnerable codependent
Everyone is tripping over the fondue lmao chillll
i hated what Big made Carrie into: worrisome, sad, whiny... etc
Aw Fuck carrie! she was a narcissist and she didn't know how to set boundaries with big
Love need you now by Lady antebellum Mr big and Carrie great song l sing that song every week
Don't put the time and effort into emotionally unavailable men.......
I was saved from a man like mr. Big by another man, by a very Man who loves me. The mr.Big one always made me feel such an idiot and yes, I was. I was it because I cheated the man who saved me, my Aiden, with mr.Big, even if I knew he was totally wrong for me. BUT, the difference between Carrie and me is that my Aiden apologized me and I finally understood what love is. It needs work hard, patience, comprehension. Mr. Big likes only simple things... Ladies, be carefull please, don't let they treats you like the last thing in the world because this is NOT love.
Hugs from Italy 🌼
He's a master at word salad.
Kinda been there-done that and although THANK GOD it didn't prosper, I cannot imagine what women who have affairs with married men and they actually end up keeping them must deal with the rest of their lives. See, if he was a serial cheater to begin with, what makes a woman think SHE -of all peolpe- is gonna change him? If he left a wife (or two) for her, then chances are he's gonna leave HER at one point for another woman, right? Mere statistics.
I love Carrie and Big. She knew who she wanted and she waited for the man if her dreams. What was Carrie supposed to do, marry Aiden and not love him? Aidan, always wanted to change Carrie. She couldn't smoke because he didn't like it. I admire Carrie for waiting for the love of her life.
Brilliant point...there's nothing like the love of your life
I have a Mr.Big in my life. 11 yrs and here we are doing the same shit. I can't totally stay away from him. I ghosted him and I was fine until he kept calling me and after almost a year, there I was answeeing his call. Then after months of seeing eachother, we stopped and then again, stopped and it was all routine. He just can't disappear in my life. I wish he's going to marry someone to end this.
I had a situation like that. But it’s very easy to cut someone loose FOREVER if you only want that. You need to do it. He doesn’t have anything to do with it.
Tell him that he either marries you or to leave you alone they get Confy.
He is so sweet he didnt offend her at all
I don’t think Carrie was needy....
she just wants answers!
Nini LaRouge And a decent man would have given her straightforward answers. She should have inferred from Big’s lack of responses that he didn’t care and walked away.
Carrie & Big always loved each other. He was afraid of being hurt so he kept himself closed off, but he was older than her as well. As we age we respond different than we did when we were younger. Our past depending on how it was makes us more or less open. Big never treated Carrie badly. He was always great to her & no matter how she acted he accepted her for how she was. He was always the calming force in the relationship & rational one. Carries problems also came from always discussing her relationships with her friends & comparing men. Don’t compare & don’t discuss with your friends because us women tend to over dramatize things & we see things different than men. If you have a relationship problem always talk to someone of the opposite sex & maybe someone that can be impartial. It can give u a whole new outlook.
Jeanie, totally agree with you. Big never mistreated Carrie
Wow. He didn't tell her he got engaged to a 26 yo and he dated other women concurrently and then each time she was settled in a relationship he pursued her and he didn't have the balls to get out of the damn car because Carrie got carried away with their NYPL wedding? What would you call bad treatment, I didn't t think I wanna know.
Makes me laugh my ass off those two.
This scene is so good
OMG I LOVE BIG AND I{M OBSSESED WHIT HIM
If you are seeing a guy and you don't tell your three closest friends your soulmates about it there is a big problem..pun intended
I guess no matter what anyone says- every single woman has a Mr Big in her life and would go back to him asap if that would be possible. Carry is just prolonging this painful game…from his side. Carry was in love in MB from the first sight
Every moment of my life is for real, baby!
... how do you fuck up a cheese fondue tho???
Mr.Big is just as much to blame.
Playing with Carrie's feelings...
Eeew slurpy kissing melted cheddar cheese breath
Exactly what i was thinking
Wow u guys never had fun, did u
i had the same exact reaction 😂
@@vixxp2856 they've probably never kissed anyone 😂
The standing still moment...
...adorable and funny as heck! :D
"Clean."
I love/loved this show back in the 1990's never missed an episode 😍 I wish they'd come back with the same players, or maybe their Children !!! And still have all Original Players in this Series, I absolutely love watching the Rerun's but would love to see them all now maybe giving their Children advice, and Samantha and her HOT Husband can play the cool Aunt and Uncle 😘 Come on bring all the Originals and few extras back on to a New Sex in the City 🤔🤔🤔
Well you sort of got your wish! Except no Samantha
The Big/Aidan debate bugs me Carrie was always in love with Big, he stole her heart straight away & she wanted everything back off him @ once. He wasn't prepared to give it all straight away & even married Natasha cos he could'nt give everything away & he knewNatasha couldn't reallyhurt him emotionally,Carrie could. You know or it's pretty obvious if you don't want wot Aidans offering youdon't love him or you'd be walking on air to find such a brilliant man.SATC shows you can't choose who U luv.
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How could Carrie hurt him emotionally ? It seems like he always hurt her
Addiction # Attraction # my man miss me too officially#
It all came down to communication...big was scared from his divorce
“I don’t know what officially means” OH MY GOD 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Things you do for love.hahaha
If men could harness 1/100th the charm Big has, they would be able to own any woman’s soul. Most women go a lifetime without feeling this level of chemistry. Regardless of the toxic aspects of their relationship.
Big was a narcissist to the T and Carrie was codependent.
this fondue looks disgusting!
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I need to go sleep now😪😪😪
Hm, Big and I have a similar break-up ritual
How do you fuck up fondue??? Its so easy. White wine, garlic, gruyere, gouda and emmentel cheese. Thats it!!!
they're the cutest omg
Aiden and Big wasn't her type. She was outgoing and Aiden wasn't and Big she was changing for him plus putting up with bs too much of it.
I get why she doesn’t wanna tell her friends. I’ve been there.
Weird thing. But they kiss waaay too loud....
Beautiful love u.
Before there was future we had mr.big
I called my ex Mr Big..And it wasnt out of admiration like many thought including him he was successful unavailable a******
Denise Branch I did too! We had the most unusual thing. I’m a Capricorn and so was he. I loved his friendship and the sex was good I was in high school. Man the games lol sure was fun though.
Why didn’t Big have any friends? 🤔
He is rich, smart and handsome! Those people have no real friends! Trust me!
He just wants her to stop talking and I can’t blame him
Ladies, there is a misconception that people like Mr. Big will only go for Natashas. This is incorrect. Their hearts and intentions are unpredictable so it doesn't matter what position you have as a professional or what you do in life: people like Mr. Big are not healthy for *any* relationship. They are emotionally draining. I had a somewhat Mr. Big in my life (meaning he was not completely like Mr. Big in SATC but had many of his traits). The relationship was toxic because of these traits and it spiralled down terribly. But this experience helped me because I dodged an ACTUAL Mr. Big two years later, and that was a g-r-e-a-t feeling!
It's not worth the pain.
So if you're a healthy, stable, normal woman, regardless of what you do in life, don't let a Big in it, you will regret it!
yeah, carrie was a real fool. yet i can see why she left aiden,,,he was way too pushy, and she felt trapped. but settling for big's shabby treatment of her, was really pathetic.
Idk, I kinda liked the way he treated her. Taking her to restaurants etc. Much better than sitting at home with KFC.
laceydays1 i feel like Big gave her what he could and she just was never content. She knew the kind of man he was and she was constantly trying to push him to be something else.
Okay, come on. You prepare fondue, one of the easiest dishes on the face of the Earth, and you still manage to screw it up? Cheese and bread are already delicious, how could melting the cheese make it terrible?
It needs some wine maybe. Go look up a fondue recipe. it's more than just heating up cheese
it's a tv show.......
I know right lol that's what I said. How the hell does anyone screw up fondue?
It's cheap revolting low quality cheddar. It's not real cheese, it's plastic. Big is an asshole but he has definite gastronomic standards, which Carrie does not.
Quando Raffa ti venivo a trovare nella casa in affitto a Chieti alta
Did u cry
No i listened a lot of Sinatra
A guy like BIG is crazy toxic chemistry … trust
Who know the song?
And all her fears were right
Carrie's biggest mistake with Big was how they started. On their first date she wore a dress where she was practically naked then jumped into bed with him. It's no wonder he did not take her seriously. If you are looking for a serious relationship you might want to take things a bit slower. Still no guarantee it will work out the way you want but I think the odds are in your favor.
Yes, heaven forbid women should be honest or authentic or just THEMSELVES! The biggest mistake is believing that if a guy has sexist double standards, he'll shrug them off when you hook up with him. Women are people. WTF is this antediluvian double standard? Real men are not scared of women liking sex.
@@lizziebkennedy7505 The double standard is wrong but it still exist. A woman can be herself all she wants but men buy into the double standard and some men will not see a woman as serious girlfriend material when she jumps into sex on the first date. But sometimes it does work out. There is no formula to follow that will guarantee things will work out the way you want. But as I said the odds are more in your favor of the man taking you seriously when you don't jump into bed on the first date.
You know everybody said Big was "emotionally unavailable." all Big did was not give in to Carrie about marraige. Carrie pushed and pushed him. SHE NEVER LISTENED. Maybe she shoud've asked the reaons about Big not wanting to commit. Right from the start, Carrie pushed marraige. From her POV it makes Big look bad. (Back in the Day I thought Big was cold hearted and evil. After "And just like that" my feelings changed. You can't push a man like Big. He'll run away.
Carrie and bug belong together.
Just like the friendship of those girls, relantionships like Big and Carrie's is BS. After all they went through and given their profiles and recurrent behaviours, there is NO WAY they were gonna end up getting married. Gotta hate Hollywood for making it look like it's all real and possible, huh?
+Marie Bellucci I totally agree. Almost like our intelligence was insulted. Real life Bigs dont have an epiphany where they fly to another continent to express their love to the very woman they have been jerking around for years. She is easy to manipulate because he knows she is crazy about him no matter what the language she tells him to fuck off in. They just remember said woman when they are thumbing through old phone numbers in their phone or when they find themselves in the vicinity of the woman's house, everything done at their whim and convenience. Their happy ending would have been more realistic if it had been a dream sequence and that in itself is a huge hilarious irony.
Jessie K AMEN. It really is a joke.
The show runners were strong armed into putting Carrie in a fairytale ending with big. She was supposed to end the show single and near the wrong side of 40.
+Marie Bellucci it is possible in real life. But it most likely ends in an expensive divorce. And in real life, emotionally unavailable or any other kinds of a-holes aren't as honest as Big about their feelings.
Mehregan
Cont.Charlotte was the same,she married Trey,someone she thought she should marry & thought Harrywashorrible,but thebaldgood sex guywasHER ONE. Carrie had Big sussed early on,he protected his feelings fiercly&she was prepared to put upwith it forperiods of time, then she'd burst, which is whythey split upso often. They were always in an on/off relationship throughout the wholeseries, they needed to grow, which they did, before they could have a grownup relationship.She was an asshole tohim too!
In a world so obsessed with inclusion and “tolerance” why does everyone hate “a way of” love ?
If i were a girl i would choose steve over any of the others and as a man i would choose charlotte as a wife and sam as my best girl friend.....tge rest two r good as frnds
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Chris Noth is a good actor, because we all hate Mr.Big.
I love Mr. Big and Carrie
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A varghese sex
um, what happened to spaces and periods?
Just wanted to say what they wanted to say. Don't care if you have to put in effort to read it.
Imagine eating out everyday because you can’t cook anything ..........
Cont2.Big wasanasshole aboutalot of things butsowas CarrieIdon'tbelievetheydeserve eachother,costhat'sabadway,Ithink,inthe end,theybelongedtogether.This serieswasabout relationships&weall gotintothecharacters/people Realpeoplehavegreyareas.Thereweresome momentswhenBig gestures4Carrie,likeherbirthdayballoons whenuknow hecanbe adorabletoo.Therewasnoroomin Carrie'sheart for anyoneelse,eventho,shewantedthere2b sometimes,soshecouldputBIGbehindher,no onecameclose,EVER Idon'tbelieveitmakesherabadperson