How I Got My Babies To Sleep Through The Night - By a Real Twin Mom
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- čas přidán 27. 07. 2024
- We got our twins sleeping through the night at 6 months old! and everyone always asks how we did it...
This is the episode where I break down how we gradually implemented good sleeping habits from as early as 6 weeks old so when we attempted sleep training at 6 months old, it was actually gentle and quick!
We've created an in-depth Gentle Sleep Training Guide that lays out everything discussed in this video and so much more. I tell you all the details about what our experience was like sleep training twins down to the number of minutes they actually cried during those few nights.
I also give twin specific advice, general tips, theory and action behind all of the steps which are laid out for you.
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I've tried the sleep training and honestly even though everyone says you must do it, it's worth it for the sleep etc etc. it's totally against your instincts to listen to your baby cry for you for 4-12 minutes. I did it with my first son and yes it "worked" however a year later, when he'd have night terrors he ended up regressing and getting loads of anxiety around falling asleep on his own! My mama instincts said F*** the sleep training he's in my bed, all his anxiety disappeared. Be careful of listening to "modern parenting" listen to your instincts. No one can tell me it's normal to let your baby or child scream for you. No ways! With all due respect of course 😊
I appreciate how straight forward you are, as a twin mama I thank you!!
I can relate 100%. I did gentle sleep training so I could be a better mum. The preparation steps you dd are so important and it's so good to hear someone explain it that way. Well done. This video is so helpful and so honest ❤
Thank you Katie !!! Your method worked amazing!! My twins are sleeping through and nap time is also so much easier now!!!!
Hey Katie, my daughter is turning 6months next week and I can’t recall the last time I slept through out the night. This has really affected me on my job now that I’m back from maternity leave and now this is my last result. I have to get it done coz i feel like I’ll go crazy if I don’t.
Wish me success and I’ll be back to update on my success.
Oh mama I can’t even imagine having broken sleep like this and having to show up for work everyday. The pressure must be overwhelming. Please DM me on instagram or email me if you need any help x
Fantastic clear explanation for any parent choosing to follow what clearly worked for you. I'm approaching retirement age and am a fan of sleep traing (even though I hate that term). I've spent decades working with very small children and their parents and there just doesn't seem to be words to describe the positive difference in children and parents once everyone is getting regular and sufficient sleep. Just so much happier.
Before I had my own baby I received some very wise advice which I followed strictly. Ensure your baby learns early the difference between night and day. Day time was light, talk, music, t.v phones so much going on and i had my baby with me everywhere, holding, hugging, singing talking however come around 7 pm only their physical needs met. Feeding changing but nothing social. I ended up with both babies (not twins) bed at 7pm up once for a feed all done and back to bed in 20 minutes and then around 6.30 am normal day starts. The night feed is done very low key no screens, no adults talking just boring dark no stimulation so baby always nodded back to sleep quickly.
I NEEDED THIS VIDEO!!❤❤❤❤ thanks love!
I think what you are trying to do is commendable. I wish there would have been more informational access when I was raising my twin sons (they are now 23). You are giving other twin moms ideas to feel supported which is wonderful. I hope during your journey, you will come to understand some flexibility. Routine is what saved me too, so I know how critical that is. I also know it doesn't need to be exact. Bath time is a great que to signify bedtime, I used baths for the same reason. As far as the sleeping goes, I disagree with you 100%. You will blink your eyes & before you know it, they are grown & gone. I tried sleep training & it worked very well. For people that can overcome the separation heartache, this is perfect. For me, as far as sleep goes, I chose the style, "the family bed". I slept with my boys until the day they told me not to, which happened around 11ish. I would encourage every person on earth to use this method. The western culture is the only culture that tries to separate themselves from family starting from birth. Other cultures will have many generations living under one roof while we try to immediately separate ourselves from our own. My boys grew up very well adjusted because of this. Both graduated with honors & distinguished honors, both had very successful sports careers with golf & lacrosse, both are strong, good looking & kind with MANY friends, both do first responder helicopter & water rescue for the USCG. They both had very generous partial scholarship offers, but chose the military instead. I share this with you, for a VERY IMPORTANT reason. You will wake up one day & you will be shocked. Your boys will be grown. The hugs & touching become very minimal, the kisses become non-existent, the conversations feel like pulling teeth & their friends become priority. From birth to the age of 10ish you have magic time. During this magical time, they have minimal inhibitions. They aren't concerned yet about what others think. You can still touch & smell their sweet skin. They can still snuggle up to you confidently. They can still sit on your lap or be picked up. They still believe in Santa, the Easter bunny & monsters under the bed. These first 10 years of life are more formative than you realize. The magic of the first 10 years is what will "make the man" (in my opinion). Out of their ENTIRE LIFE, you get 10 magical years......that's it. You only get 10 years to throughly enjoy the true fruits of you labor (literally). Smell them, touch them, whisper with them, giggle with them, do all the sweet things that can only be done in those 1st 10 years. Mark my words, it flies by. You get only 10ish years out of approximately 70, to enjoy those magic. I encourage EVERYONE to do this, not just twin moms. Enjoy those 10 years of magic, it will be gone in a moments time. You will be so grateful you did this.
✌🏼❤😊.....💙💙#twinboys
Interesting…
I’m with Kate on this one…
I’m not going to kick u out the house, but I think both baby and parent are much happier with a fulls nights rest. Some people literally can’t function through sleep deprivation.
But I am happy that worked for your family and it was successful 😊.
Also, as a “couple” getting the babies to be sleep trained etc allows you some bonding time with your partner. Which is extremely important as well. I definitely don’t see any negatives about sleep training.
My mom put us in the crib etc and we are all successful. We talk everyday. No less love because she didn’t watch us sleep 🤷🏽♀️. I will say that if we were every scared etc we could sleep with them. 😊
Just remember kids do grow up, but there is beauty in that too! Just capture as many precious moments as you can. But moms…. Never ever feel guilty for allowing yourself some comfort and mental stability. Lol even if it’s just sleeping 8 hours… that alone can be an oasis and every mom deserves that in whatever “form” she chooses to have it!
This is such a sweet comment. Thank you for sharing❤
Many thanks for this video! I wish I watched it earlier 😢
That's THE notion to start sleep training after a sleep regression. My daughter is 1 year old and we still co-sleep. We tried sleep training but she cried terribly for 2 hours straight! And my husband and I gave up after night #2. And yeah, we had all the preparation stages already implemented.
I hope that one day it works for us too. Maybe it's just not the right time 🤔
“It’s not luck”, I SO feel this!!! I had bad anxiety before having kids and sleep deprivation was a big fear of mine. We also were committed to helping our children learn healthy sleep habits and sleep from 7pm-7am! I get annoyed when people say I’m lucky. No…I worked damn hard to establish that!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was wondering how much of your PDF covers naps? We have a great night sleeper, but the contact naps are killing us.
Hey Katie! first off: congrats on your content, I have been following you throughout my pregnancy and your posts have given me an upbeat attitude every time my double pregnancy started to worry me. Now my twin boys are 6 and 1/2 months old and I have started sleep training. One of them falls asleep immediately, the other one cries A LOT when I leave the room and can not be settled without me having to pick him up, talk to him and nurse him. (despite feeding him just minutes before). I got all the other points checked: bath time, quite environment, white noise, dark room, pacifier.. everything. So my question is: could some more sensitive children be affected by this method? Could it cause a sort of (night-time only) separation anxiety -despite me being constantly with him during the day-? Can't wait for your answer! All the best from Bucharest, Romania
As a Mom who did what she is stating, she is spot on!! And I did it when there were no tools but Dr.Spock 1981 book 📖 and your own commitment to be consistent with sleep 🛌 schedules and sacrifice.👍🏽❣️
Hi Katie. My toddler is 17months. He slept well until 7 months and it has changed since then, wakes up between 5-8 times a night. I know he is very much aware of his surroundings and only a little bit of milk soothes him. Will the time period(minutes to check in) for the sleep training be longer if they are older? He normally cries himself into a historical state . After they fall asleep, how do we get them back to sleep when they have their wake ups in the night? Without milk
Hey Katie what do you do for naps? Did you put them in their cot and leave them to cry it out also? Xx
My twins are turning 8 months old 3 days from now and I havent sleep trained them yet. We co-sleep. The twins also sleep beside each other. Twin A wakes up every 2 hours now. Husband an I are really sleep deprived now. Can we sleep train while co sleeping? Or do we need to make another separate room for the babies?
I do literally everything you do for my 6 month old twins and they still wake up at 5:30pm. Their bedtime is 7:30 and we also bathe every single night. Tips?
Can you start the "pre-training" before the 4 month regression (creating those night time routines) so that once the 4 month regression is done, you can start sleep training right away? Or do you suggest starting those routines during the 4 month regression like you did + sleep training at 5-6 months?
yes! I definitely think could start gradually preparing them before and then sleep traing then when they are 4 months plus. You can sleep traing while they're still having night feeds it just makes it a little more complicated! I think we still would have waited until they were 5.5 - 6 months regardless just based off when they were able to be night weaned but thats up to you!
I’m worried my baby will hit his head on the crib during sleep training. He’s currently sitting up and crawling (9months) and crib is lowered to appropriate height, but I’m concerned and wondered if you have any good tips on this! I am also currently giving him a bottle to fall asleep but want to move away from that as he’s now getting teeth. Thanks for any tips you can share!
How do you stop the boys from grabbing and hitting each other, climbing within an inch of their lives, or not coming back to you upon calling them when run off?
Love this! What about the when they wake up in the middle of the night? The same thing?
Yes! During the sleep training, every waking moving forward you start your intervals over
@@raisingthebuntwins do you start them over at 4 minutes, or always at 12 minutes once youve hit that?
Hi I just saw you au pair guest house vid. Wondering how you moved to Australia? I haven’t watched any other of your vids so not sure if you’re married to an Australian. But we are Americans that may want to make the move the the Gold Coast
Having a husband to help you is kind of lucky . Cuz the switch up is real .
My mother never thought to try and monetize my infant years
Thank god 😂
Do you still use white noise? I have a one year old that I’m starting to wean off after seeing some concerns about long term use
oh really? I havent heard anything about negative effects from long term use. and yes we do stil use it. maybe I will look into it though! thank you
I feel like I messed up so bad with my twins I'm a new mom of twins and because of postpartum we didn't bond for the first 4 months so I wasn't able to do a routine on them and now I barely get 4hrs of sleep in a day
It is not your fault, there is no messing up at this point everything is possible. Sometimes even doing everything by the book won't give results. Just take it easy on yourself, try to find someone to watch them for some nights so you get some rest. Don't worry it all passes and you forget about it, mine didn't sleep all night ling until 14/15 months or so, and still wake up multiples times when they are sick.
My twins have been in the same room since birth.. and they’re 11 months now and successfully sleep trained .. but they still wake each other up 😅 I don’t know how so many twin moms get their twins to sleep through each others cries.. every sleep regression they wake each other up😅
Ugh I don’t even know!!! This part must be luck 😂 thankfully they’re sleep trained that’s half the battle !
My twins are 13 months old. I need to sleep train because one is still waking but I keep feeling like it’s too late.
It’s definitely not too late! And it could get way worse and harder as they get older 😢
My guide is for up to 18 months / 2 years. 13 months is still a very good age x
My boys are 2 now and have been sleep trained since 5 months but unfortunately every milestone my one twin hits he has this night waking around 2-230 for 2 hours and we get ourselves in this horrible habit of rocking to sleep for 2 hours and it’s killing us, I just know if I let him cry It out at this age in the room with his twin that the one who sleeps amazing will wake from his cries. It’s like 2 nights a week he does this off and on. Like if I walk in the room at all in the middle of night he screams murder until I hug him. He goes to bed on his own wide awake every single night. Do you have any suggestions!?
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It doesn't last all that long, guys toughen up....your life couldnt look more fluffy.