The Narcissist's Secret Weapon: Why It's So Hard for Women Like Melody to Leave | BVEP30
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- Narcissist use weaponized honesty to convey emotions that they don't really feel. This tactic is used to confuse their partners into thinking they're actually sorry for what they've done.
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Awesome commentary! Martell actually expected Melody to stay in the marriage and continue to cover him after he cheated. The fact that he’s continuing with his bull 💩 for over two years is ridiculous and sad.
Being raised in single parent home andhis Mom's relationship with her son has a lot to do with Martell's relationship with women. Martell is a product of his home environment, he's not an evil person, he's a product of severe emotional neglect amongst other devastating psychological conditions. He's still a hurting, shut-down infant inwardly. It's so sad🥺. I certainly do feel a deep sense of compassion for him, even in the face of what he's allowed to happen in his beautiful family. It's no coincidence that he and Mel mirror collective consciousness in the patriarchal and matriarchal sense. Control, abuse and misuse of power and position.
Everything you said is true
Warning ⚠️ signs that a narcissist is envious of their victim.
1. They praise your for your success initially, but are unable to keep up the act for long and soon lose interest in talking about it
2. They try to out-do or one-up your achievements or accomplishments
3. They downplay your achievements and positive traits, especially if they are things that the narcissists want themselves.
4. They may say you were lucky to get the promotion, or that the new role isn’t that great anyway.
I think we all have witness Martell saying these things as he made Melody who she is today, her achievements would not have happen without him. We have all so witness Martell not being able to keep up showing respect and gratitude towards Melody's achievements for more than 5 minutes l.
Absolutely he wanted her to acknowledge his hand in her success, always mentioned being the “dominant parent”…whatever that means and things of that nature
IMO, Martell doesn't realize that his evil wreckless behavior is truly a self-destruction. He is stunting his own growth. Martell is an abomination.
It is love bombing. Melody did not know that a narcissist or narcissistic sociopath or malignant narcissist tool is manipulation not love.
Good commentary,it's so funny how Martel's honesty can only go one way.When Mel is being honest to him,he throws a big tantrum and see's it as an attack.
Whew, Melody's level of pain was completely understood by me. Very painful watching her devastation and extremely harder witnessing the effects his betrayal had and continued to have on her *CORRECTION* BETRAYALS (plural). How tragic Martell in a paradoxical sense needed what his "side-piece" offered more than his wife & family COMBINED! Can we acknowledge t just how emotionally, mentally discombobulated Martell Holt is. It's one thing to describe his M.O. as a bonifide narcissist, a whore, BAN, user, a ticking time bomb, fool, no-good ass etc. But can we truly acknowledge the level and depth of depravity that must exist in his soul to behave this way. I'm not in anyway suggesting women should accept the behavior, on the contrary acknowledge it so understand we are not capable of thriving or "living" with it. He's so depraved he sacrifices HIS OWN CHILDRENS emotional, mental security over and over and over again coming for Melody forcing Knox upon them and around them at these crucial.stages of development. He's acting like the enemy of their Souls.
@@p9782 Perfectly said 💯.
Great commentary!
I was in the same situation. Married to the narc for 19 years when the divorce was finalized. He had a child within our marriage. The female that he had the child with was so antagonistic.
Anyways I'm free and thriving. He tries to sabotage whenever and however he can.
Melody referenced you in her stories today, saying how accurate your video is. Smartly, she didn’t directly state who you were since the Scotts and their bandwagon are actively
Trying to have pages taken down! Anywho- you are doing amazing work! So many women are blessed by your platform!
Thank you! Mel is the reason my channel grew in the first place, she's always supported me.
@@mindoflilith Yes I saw her post and knew immediately who the youtuber was. It's how I found your channel. Your reviews are so top notch 😊
I haven’t been over here in a minute, but when I tell you!!!! You are SPOT on! Every single thing you said is FACTS! Happened! My GOD!
Chile since the beginning she has been SPOT ON IT!!!
Most men these days are similar to Martell not worth the headache once I let them go since 2018 I have had no issues it’s too much emotional abuse and mental labor it’s not worth it
I love when you speak on Narcissist behavior patterns.
This was so good.. and this is exactly what happened and happens because you want the relationship to work so badly.. and they look for loyal women.. the opposite of them
Mel listening to your channel
OMG, Lilith! I can’t even count the number of times a cheater has said to me…..”You keep accusing me or not trusting me. So if you don’t trust me, I may as well do what you’re accusing me of.” Oh Geezus!!😡🤬😡
Absolutely! If you’ve never experienced a true narcissist, you could never understand. Some people pass judgment because they haven’t had this type of experience.
Right! Narcissist don't "love" so they have a tough time with remorse. The only thing that drives a narcissist to "act out of character" i.e. display acts of love, is when they fear losing what you provide them. I.e. sex, money, happy & beautiful home environment for his beloved children, adoration/adulation, sense of security etc. Considering Martell cannot connect to women other than to feed his insecurities, his priority is to have *HIS* needs met, WHY because he has a very large gaping black-hole in his soul that works like a vacuum absorbing and sucking energy or sustenance from external sources to supply his excessive inordinate need for emotional security HE DID NOT RECEIVE FROM HIS MOM OR DAD.
Women have a large capacity to give, nurture, love. Women who love too much do so because they/we were not conditioned during those formative years to explore, recognize, vocalize, express honor ourselves in healthy meaningful ways. Or when we tried we were either shamed, beaten or completely ignored. We followed scripts given us via organized yet unhealthy religion, abuse, which left us people-pleasing, low self esteem, ptsd, cold blooded, over achievers, promiscuous, etc. All these triggers result in women being unconscious to those subtle manipulations of narcissist men.
I truly feel empathy for them as well as their victims, I don't believe anyone that is mentally healthy would choose to live like that.
@Tricia Fisher Yes Tricia, survival mode. I have empathy and compassion having myself needed and benefited from therapy. Submitting to therapy is crucial for everyone involved spouse and children. Children will smile, suffer in silence, feel responsible for their parents divorce. I'd always wondered why children would assume it was their fault their mother and father divorced. A therapist once said it's because they lack reasoning skills, having a deep need to find resolve for their broken hearts and overwhelming fear.
Melody posted about you in her stories…thought you should know , well done !
Thanks for letting me know, I have to check my IG.
Yup I was looking for this comment! She did mention you/Lilith and said that you were on point! As always!
Grand Rising Lilth, I think why it was so hard for Mel to leave is because she didn’t love herself enough and she loved the idea she had in her mind about their marriage. We have to remember Mel was 22 yrs old and very inexperienced and in love. Once she started having children which was apart of her dream for their life it was hard to let that dream go. Plus I don’t think she knew about narcissist or narcissistic traits. I was with one when I was 22 and had a son at 23. Until I heard your channel I didn’t have a word to put to what he did to me and why? I stayed with him until I was 27 yrs old and I only left then cause he was incarcerated. After staying with him thru that for a year and when he got out after a while he started cheating I ask him, what about the year I visited the penitentiary every week, bringing our son was loyal to you and he said, that was nice of you. That was the straw that broke my back. But he was lying, writing letters about our future, telling me how much he loved me and then he got out and he was just the opposite. You want to believe his love bombing now that I know what it was because you are in love and you want what he told you y’all would have. I went back twice until I couldn’t do it anymore. But it hurt, I mean really hurt. But I got over it and went on with my life and co-parent with him.
I agree with you but, even women who love themselves can be manipulated into staying with the wrong person if they say the right thing at the right time. There are women who aren't married and don't have children, but they still can't leave their abusive partner, because he knows how to connect with their shadow side, which I discussed in this video. A lot of times we want the men who inflict the damage to fix it for us, and that keeps us attached to a specific outcome regardless of the quality of that relationship. Children and homes and money are certainly a factor, but even women who are dating with no children have a hard time leaving.
@@mindoflilith Exactly 💯. You can have the self love/respect/esteem prior to meeting these mask wearing/covert narcissist. The love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bond, etc. keeps you on the up and down process of a toxic relationship. You are a great analyst!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
@@mindoflilith Mel has made reference to watching a video on her SM that she thought was powerful. I think she was referring to this vid
@@mslele2113 Yes, Melody stopped through, she always supported my channel and is the main reason my audience grew in the first place.
Good Morning! I'm getting ready for work and listening to your commentary. I'm laughing because this is what has happened to me. Outstanding commentary as always. 🔥🎆
Good morning thank you!
Reminds me of someone I used to deal with. Once I got older and more mature I began seeing things for what they were. Even being much older now with a full developed adult brain, I’m still processing things bc things are so much clearer.
Martell new flash shes already gone.
The only weapon formed against Martel and others like him is Karma - karma is playing out well right now - if he’s lucky enough to live long enough when he looks back on his life he’ll realise he lost everything at his own hands - Karma has no end date without acknowledgment and true repentance.
Karma has no end date without acknowledgment and true repentance - A WORD !!!!!
@@thetonishow1817 wheww child ❤❤❤
Good commentary always on point thanks
...if they're really sorry (apologetic) they'd leave you alone! 💯
Oh my God, you are spot on ....
Great commentary and as always Love your insight ❤ at this point I just pray for healing for all parties involved especially ALL of the children
All facts
🌹🌹MOL🌹🌹
As always you have given insight to how these people behave.
Great work! As always ❤
Thanks again!
Martel is not done hurting mel. He will use anything and anyone against her. Including her own children. From the start i been saying mel need to be very careful and file for restraining order
Great commentary beautiful 🥰
Good afternoon Mind of Lilith
Thanks for sharing your point of view. I like the way you think and convey those thoughts. Great commentary, Lilith.
Soooooooo real.
Hi Lilith,
As always you sure be bringing it. Thank you!
My pleasure!
Excellent commentary as usual! Not sure if you knew Mel shouted out this video on her IG ☺
Thank you! Yes, people told me she agreed with my talking points.
Great commentary ❤️
Thank you 😁
@@mindoflilith you’re welcome
She's already gone 😳
Omg I’m libing this
Love you!. 🌘🫂
🖐️ Hi Lilith..🫂🫂🌞👍
Great commentary as always Queen!! Thank you so much for all that you do!
You are so welcome
One day, they will be able to co-parent successfully and use this chapter as a learning tool. Aim to never repeat the same mistakes and value those around you.
It was only hard for Melody to leave at first because they have children together that are still little. If they were in high school or they didn’t have kids she would’ve left a long time ago. They’ve been divorced three years why do this video now?
Because the video is not just about Melody and Martell, there are lots of women experiencing the same thing today. Melody is not the only person who has experienced abused.
I think she’s using a well known relationship to articulate a common thing that people with narcissists may deal with for teaching purposes not as a show commentary.
It's her channel, she can do a video on what she wants whenever she wants. Don't look at if if you choose to
@Ashlyn Hyacinthe exactly, this video is reference material and a dern' good one for that matter.