Relationship Roles and How We Split Them | Who Wears The Pants EP. 19
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- čas přidán 17. 01. 2023
- In episode 19 Josh and Abbie discuss their roles as spouses. The shed light on what is expected of each other and how they divide up the work load for a life of happiness and health in their sometimes chaotic world.
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ABOUT US: Hi guys! We are Josh & Abbie Herbert! You might know us from our viral TikTok videos. We are known as that TikTok couple that is always doing the latest trends. We are so excited to have you on this journey with us.
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1/2 way into this, This MAN is the best! AND this chick NEEDS TO STEP UP HER PART OF THE RELATIONSHIP Big Time!!!
If she edits the content/Sponsers I understand time consumption...
But Ms. Herbert, You need to get WOKE, take on More Responsibility, Especially with another child on the way & Grow Up!
MR HERBERT- Father to your children, not Dad to your Wife, Dare you to take off 2.5 weeks & Stop ✋️ doing what you do & DO YOU BOO! And watch a change come from Miss Spoiled "I'm a Mommy Model"...
This may sound harsh, but dang Woman, You Are Borderline Gaslighting in this relationship !
Best wishes & much-needed Prayers unto your Family!
Ohhh my goshhh, I wanted to just listen and enjoy the podcast but I get anxiety and stressed out in how much she interrupts him😭
I love you guys and I mean this is in the utmost respect, but the dishes left on the table or dirty in the sink Abbie, that's where I'd draw the line. That doesn't take too much time. It's disrespectful when someone is cleaning up and you're leaving those out purposely. Props to Josh for doing so much. What a great husband!
Once somebody who is famous or popular, does something wrong and everybody notices you guys all have something to say don’t act like you’ve never made a mistake or done that before you can’t think they’re perfect
@@sadieolivia4768 they put it out there, of course there's going to be comments. No one's perfect. I was just stating an opinion. Nothing more, nothing less.
22:17 IF HE WANTS TO TELL A BOOK LET HIM STOP EMBARRASSING HIM just cuz he tells his opinion or storys different....dont mean he's wrong
I so appreciate the beginning where Josh is sharing some pieces that could be grounded in anxiety. I also have anxiety, and can completely relate! It is so tough. On the outside, it can appear "easy" to not engage in certain things, but it's a lot more complicated and heavy in your head.
Appreciation for josh💗
Damn why he can’t explain it how he wants . I actually enjoyed the storyline cause it was very detailed& in dept .
She just kept interrupting him, like just let him talk. And yeah I was also interested in the story
same
I relate so much to Josh regarding anxiety and having days that you just want to keep to yourself and not talk to anybody. Props to him too on the cooking part, my husband does all the cooking here.
what does she mean it takes “too much time” 😅 cant run water in your bowl when you’re done? at some point this feels super disrespectful
Agree. I think Abby thinks she’s “too good” for Josh (clearly not in personality, but looks) so thinks he should worship the ground she walks on. A grown woman not running water in a bowl when her husband is already doing everything else is absolutely disrespectful.
@@nlm3415 literally no, she’s so grateful for him and everything he does and it was very much articulated in this episode
@@jazminehernandezz duh of course she says that while the camera is rolling. Notice she says “I’ve never told you that before” or “I’ve never said that” bc she’s saying it for the views, clearly.
When she says " I ask my mom how do you do it with dad??" But. She. Is. Exactly. As. Her. Dad's. Description 😬😬. It was just very disappointing as I thought she was relatable. But is just a typical catered model :/
I love that you guys each have things that you do to balance things out. I was a stay at home Mom and did the cleaning/cooking/taking care of the kids while my husband went to work. (We were very blessed for that) He would obviously help with the kids when he was home or fix broken things. He's an electrician. When our youngest daughter got into first grade, I went back to work at one of the grade schools in town, so we didn't have to worry about someone watching the kids before and after school. Now I am disabled and it sucks because I feel bad that my husband has to do most of the cleaning and go to work, plus he has to do side jobs because I can't work. I do still cook and do laundry and some cleaning. Our kids are older, so I don't really have to "take care" of them anymore.
This happened with my toddler when I was pregnant.
She woke up in the middle of the night the last trimester, I would rock and read her a book - we do it nightly anyways - and normally that would work to put her back to bed.
If she leaves her bedroom she wakes up for the day.
Shes now a very proud big sister of a 5 week old brother.
"We are also stay home with Poppy".. Abi words things in a way that suit her at that point of time. Her Mum is the full time Nanny of Poot.. and so yeahhhh.. I guess you do stay home with Poppy.. but your Mum is her paid Carer. Josh is far clearer and more transparent..
Such a fan, been listening to each ep at least three times each. Even downloaded all eps on my phone. I love your podcast!!!
100 % agree :) Their podcast is amazing right! :) they inspired us to start a podcast ourselves about relationships, marred life etc :)
Wow guys love the episode!❤️ I live with my boyfriend almost 2 years. We study and our weekdays are sometimes chaotic so we decided to implement cooking for 4/5 days in advance. This helped us to save money and time. About chores around the house if any of us see something out of order or something that needs to be done we do it and if any of us can’t do it we ask the other one to help. We both do almost everything and it works. I can say I do more cleaning than him but he cooks lunch dinner and I take care of breakfast😊we have a rule to not use the phone when we are eating and so far has been great. It was his idea which I loved! Sending love and hugs to your family ❤❤❤
I would love an episode about anxiety and mental health. My boyfriend has struggled with anxiety too and, especially at the begging of the relantionship, I didn't know how to support him in the right way. In a couple you need to support each other during mental struggles and many times we don't know how to, even if you have the best intetions you can make the situation worse. I would love a discussion about what Abby does when you have panic attacks or anxiety to help Josh. It isn't really a discussed topic and I think you are the right couple for it!
Totally understand Josh’s social anxiety and the control aspect. I struggle with this so much. I also think I should just approach them so they don’t think I am rude and avoiding them or something. It’s so weird. I wish I just didn’t worry about stuff like that but I do.
It's like watching a comedy show with your podcast. 😂😂You are both so down to earth. It's so refreshing to watch you guys. ❤❤
I have to agree with Josh on the “this is good, this is bad” opinion because I always see conflicting things about food/drink and at this point I don’t know what is true so I’ll just eat whatever tastes good to me 😂
Josh is an amazing hubby. Aside from looks, his heart is so loving. My hubby is also short, but amazingly talented, sexy and handsome. He also helps me a lot but I am a pretty tidy and controlling person. Honestly, sometimes as women we do not realize how lucky we are to have a man that truly loves you. And does everything for us. I work and have 5 children 2 with my current husband that has helped me raise them.. we went through a rough path and I thought I was going to find someone better but honestly no one will love you that much to put up with all the things you do. Be kind, humble, pray, and support one another. Team work is the best kind of work.
Praying for you both
Josh was "like definitely offended her", I absolutely enjoy all your videos with such unique personalities.
Love your pod cast !!!
I'm glad to hear this podcast it's so sooth and chilling, All I've to do is to put my headphones and listen... although I'm new to this channel I got to know The Herbert's through YT shorts recommendation after opening their channel and knowing about their content I liked it and yes also I'm really a fan of podcasts like most of the people like listening to it and I really liked these couples for that they do the podcasts on channel which so good and interesting for the viewers including me, well these are the first couples who host the podcast on their channel like it gives you a chance to know more about your creators, the way they see the life from there perspective the way they talk, they laugh, they share about themselves in reality, so it's such good thing that creators are looking up to it. On usual basis we see couple creators making entertaining videos, random shorts, Q&A, Vlogs, Reviews or more of the any other random video. But the podcast is something new I got to see I'm pleased that creators are doing there best and giving best to the community they built. And I'll surely say I liked the idea of "Who Wears The Pants", I just started out with this episode and it just gave me calm vibes. I would like to say thank you to them for taking their time and making the content. Now resuming the podcast.
peace out ✌
Abbie is very relatable with the “It takes to much time”
Love the Herberts ❤❤❤
I grew up in a family where Dad worked full time and Mum was a stay at home Mum that did most things - Everything involving looking after two kids, cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, paying bills, yard, gardens, pool, pet care.. and Dad worked, did every bit of house maintenance (inside and outside) when things broke etc and car maintenance. 40 years into marriage and it is pretty much the same. I do think that dividing chores etc would be challenging if both partners work out of the house full time though.
Just found y'all a couple days ago and I think it's terrific the things y'all talk about. Very open and honest. If only everyone can be this way. And your daughter is absolutely adorable. Lots of luck and soak the dishes it's so much easier. I'm a germ freak too. I don't leave dishes but if I had to they would be soaking with soap and water 💧 🤗😆
I swear our spouses would be best friends! 😆
Love you guys 💕💕
They are such an awesome couple and the reason why we decided to start a married life podcast ourselves :)
Love u guys ❤❤😊
I love watching these and how real and genuine you guys are. Definitely manifesting a husband like josh 🙂
Its alright Abbie! Better late than never😊 love you both❤God bless
So Abby is just plain spoiled.Or maybe just lazy.🤷♀️ Saying it takes to long .What does she actually do?
same question here. i think she is just lazy and spoiled
I agree with you. I did not realize Josh does all of that.
I'm starting to wonder too.. plus she has her Mum as a full time Nanny. And still can't rinse her bowl. It's very selfish too.. that she's so anaemic that she may require transfusions while pregnant.. but still wants to eat what she wants.. "Macca's because she likes it".. She made Josh's non drinking achievent a little about her too.. bringing it back to her.. when she's had a whole podcast on that. I remember her saying she used to manipulate her Mum to the extreme.. and it seems she does that with her Mum still.. and Josh too. She really let it slip when she said "I don't like cooking.. but I like to be in the kitchen with Josh" 😭 Josh does a lot is the impression I get. If she wasn't so beautiful to look at.. she'd be viewed as an unlikable and self centred brat when she acts like this...
She does a sponsered skit about ingredients delivered home to making cooking easier. Claims that "her" issue is how long cooking takes. Then later reveals she does not cook or help with household chores at all. makes the videos of her pressuring her husband for a baby as he's saying no soooooo 😬😬😬
@Diane Gradwell lol.. did she really block you? Ahah. I don't know if she's a narcicist.. I think she seems genuinely nice.. but maybe just a little spoiled and controlling. She's super young still.. and I think she still has some maturing to do. She clearly loves Josh so much.. and I think that this particular podcast was done with the pre-planned thought of seeing if she could get some of us to react.. and it worked, lol. Probably the more they are exposed to public opinion.. the more enticing it is to play with it.. control it- benefit from it.. entice traffic in the comment's section etc. One thing's for sure.. she is super smart.. as is Josh 😅
Do you think that was a long enough ad? I do
so what does abbie do all day? 🤔
It seems whatever she likes doing.. I'm sure she does stuff.. but if she likes to do it...
Great podcast
That is so true Josh!
BTW Josh, you remind me so much of Ashton Kutcher. Looks, personality, facial expression, all.
You guys are the cutest couple with the cutest baby. So fun to watch❤!
Josh, how do you not get resentful doing all that you do around the house? (From a fellow spouse who is the josh of the home)
She runs their social media (it takes à lot of work) and is pregnant most of the time. Why will he be resentful?
@@dinem4624 They both do the social media.. plus they have editors.. and Abi's Mum is the full time Nanny of Poot...
@@natalielawrence8809 OK but why would he be resentful ? Women did the chore for 3000+ years so why would à man be resentful about doing them now? I just didn't get the point.
@@dinem4624 I'm not the 'Natalie' (the OP)- so you would have to ask her. I daresay, for very obvious reasons though.. although, it seems as though Josh has the temperament where he just embraces it.. and goes about his day.. (and night) because it seems like Abi runs the show regardless 😅
@@natalielawrence8809 Natalies full time job is hating Abby I guess.
Hey Abbie and Josh! I recommend listening to Janet Lansburys podcast called Unruffled and listen to her episodes on hitting! I also bought our son a board book called hands are not for hitting and it quickly became his favorite book. Hope this helps! Love the show ❤️
This girl needs to grow up. entitlement has expiring date, he won't tolerate her eternally
If my husband doesn't remember a man's name he calls them all buddy. Maybe Josh can do that.🤣😂
I love how Abbie doesn’t do anything and keeps saying “it takes too much time” lol 😭😂
Love you guys! ❤️❤️ we appreciate you Josh!
I’m an only child (Emily) & my fiancé (Cody) is not. I always get told I’m mean/a bully and what not and behind closed doors it’s much different. It’s hard for me to show affection in front of others and I see so much of myself and my relationship in you both! (Mostly Abbie lol) My fiancé also takes care of most of the household things and I felt out of place thinking I’m a lazy wife and what not. Anyway thank you for making me feel normal and like the things I’m doing, do matter. You guys are so real!!
If you can’t do normal household chores and you make your partner do everything than you are most definitely lazy.
@@jennifercolangelo1723 hmm never said I make him do anything, was simply highlighting what he does for me if I’m down. get a life Jennifer & remember talk shit get hit bitch 🥰
@@codypolk7631 you never once said he does it when you feel down, you said he does most of the chores and that you heavily relate to Abby’s relationship where it is clearly one sided and that you feel lazy. What are you 12?
@@jennifercolangelo1723 I was just leaving a nice comment and you were hateful. God bless you!! I will pray for your soul!
@@codypolk7631 I wasn’t hateful, just don’t think people should be validating laziness/a one-sided relationship.
So basicly Abby does nothing.And Josh does it all.
Abbie always saying she doesn't have time, where does your time go??!!
Hey Abbie and Josh. Abbie, can you link your podcast outfits on your like to know it? I love this outfit!
This will be a good episode for us too :) great idea
This video was literally explaining how Josh does absolutely everything and Abby does nothing except breastfeeding and work. I’ve never seen a more one sided relationship, how can one person be that lazy/selfish they can’t help with normal tasks
She is growing a baby inside of her just think abt that
@@sadieolivia4768 this is their whole relationship dynamic not just while she is pregnant
Abbie is very lucky! Josh is me in my relationship!
also stop interrupting him!! let him say and tell his stories however he wants. You're so obnoxious, and you think it's funny to cut him off and embarress him but its not. Can we just get a josh channel without abbie
So, I can and will do anything for my boys except for vomiting. I can clean it up but I just can’t comfort them while being sick. I mentally just can’t. Please tell me I’m not the only one.
Everyone drinks iced tea coffee juices and water ! If that upsets that person that is their problem! Do not worry about it! Just drink your favorite drink what ever it is!!
Am I the only one who remembers Josh had a candle company??? Is that still a thing?
Probably he is the best husband but she’s not the best wife.
i really like you guy's but...youve been doing the podcast long enough to iron out the kinks .
and some of the annoying habits that make the listening experience ... become frustrating.... and hard to keep the attention....
ABBY.....STOP DEBATING EVERY SINGLE THOUGHT....OR OPINION THAT JOSH HAS..... U LITERALLY...TAKE EVERY WORD TO LITERAL....AND DISSECT IT DOWN.... WHICH CHANGES HIS ENTIRE NARRATIVE AND SHUTS HIM COMPLETELY DOWN.
UR INTERPRETATION MIGHT NOT BE HOW HE SAYS THINGS OR SEE'S IT......STOP INTERRUPTING HIMMMMMMM
NOT EVERYTHING NEEDS TO BE CORRECTED BASED ON UUUUU AND HOW YOU SEE IT
HE'S TALKING....ITS HIS OPINION STOP TELLING HIM HE'S WRONG ABOUT HIS OWN REASONINGS
AND STOP TALKING OVER HIM DO YOU REALIZE YOU CUT HIM OFF......
TAKE OVER HISSSS ENTIRE THOUGHTS.... AND HE NEVER FINISHES IT BECAUSE YOU DISSECT IT TO NOT BEING RIGHT
LET HIM TALK NOT EVERY THING HE SAYS....
NEEDS TO BE A CHALLENGE OR DEBATE . .. STOP BEING A RIGHT FIGHTER
AND YES....HE'S STARTING TO GET FRUSTRATED WITH YOU
THIS PODCAST WILL END IF U DONT CHANGE IT and stop taking every word so literal
Yes to all of this ☝️!!!!!
@@stoutie18 i just read the comment and i REPEATED myself 3x dang i must have been really frustrated lol
and thanks!!
Congrats Josh with not relying on that 🎉
I don’t like this 😂💯. Any other man would’ve been left
What was the baby’s name?
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Great episode guys! it's a good idea for our podcast too :)
@54:28 . I really do love abbie , but josh please look into what made you vomit these words . Have a discussion. U dont all need to stick to these roles for the rest of your lives its ok to change things up and be the person you want to be before its to late 🌹
Good example for your child that not only mum has to do eveything around the house! Abby, make sure you spend time with Nate otherwise one day you will regret! You can take him for a walk with Poppy it's not a big deal!
Poot is still seeing a woman do alot around the house.. because Abi's Mum is Poot's full time Nanny.. plus she sleeps there half the week.. so she's still seeing a woman do alot around the house.. but just not Abi. Josh and Abi's Mum do everything that Abi doesn't like doing- that's all.
I am Herbert I am Herbert
What do you use instead of toilet paper???
Umm. water?
Do
no clothes been ruined that's false ... once clothes are washed a few times they dont run
stop it
Damn she just loves hearing herself talk, I swear. Just being this early in the video- 22:24-trying to listen to Josh and she cannot stop budging in. It’s disrespectful & you should work on that peace and love
Okay and the “it takes too much time” regarding filling up the yogurt bowl with water so it can prevent crust in the morning….like you’re so entitled. It takes 10 seconds, less time then it would take to clean the crust that’s going to need more TLC
Being consistent on the NO'S are very important. both parents have to enforce the same rules
if no touching..... then NO dont let her do it cuz it's funny STAY CONSISTENT GET A TIME OUT STOOL 2 yrs old.....2 minutes
I love Abby so much, I am similar to her & my husband is very similar to Josh. You don’t know anything about their actual lives it doesn’t matter how much they post on social media. You can tell they love each other & Poppy. Let them do what they want!
I had to stop listening to this she just sounds so spoiled!
So men can’t gag at diaper changes and women can? Lol
Why does she hate her husband so much? It genuinely baffles me .
I don’t want to be rude, but can’t you realize that you are completely normal people with completely normal lives and no one at a certain point cares?
Everyone saying “Abby does nothing and Josh does everything” should remember that in a lot of heterosexual relationships the situation is opposite and no one cares bc women are expected to do house work and men are allowed to do nothing.