Delayed Realization after Narcissistic Abuse

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  • čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
  • #avoidantattachment #narcawareness #attachmenttrauma #avoidant #narcissist #attachmenttheory #traumabond #toxicrelationship #fearfulavoidant #narcabuse

Komentáře • 3

  • @george-trad
    @george-trad Před 22 dny

    OMG, this is exactly what I am going through and it’s tearing me to pieces because I was discarded and didn’t realize the narcissistic abuse that was inflicted on me until I took the time to reflect on the relationship. I haven’t been able to forgive myself for the abuse that I tolerated, but didn’t realize it at the time. Believe it or not one moment ago I was thinking why is there no videos about this on CZcams and yours just popped up.

    • @lovin.lisa101
      @lovin.lisa101  Před 22 dny +1

      @@george-trad that is wonderful! What you experienced is common in narcissistic abuse. Most people do not realize their ex is a narcissist until they breakup, go no contact, & process it. It's bc the abuse causes cognitive dissonance, delayed realization, & you are in constant fight or flight, which lowers your functional IQ so you can't make fgood decisions for yourself.

    • @george-trad
      @george-trad Před 22 dny

      @@lovin.lisa101 thank you for clarifying. I’ve never been in a narcissistic relationship so I had no idea what to look for and didn’t have my guard up. I didn’t realize the abuse until about a month after I was discarded when i went down the rabbit hole looking for answers. The sad part about all of this is that my ex has no idea that she is a narcissist. Her public persona and private persona are very different. No one would ever suspect or believe me if I said she was a narcissist. Part of me wants to reach out and let her know how she treated and disrespected me. In a way I believe it would give me some closure. If she ever does reach out, I probably will let her know. It’s been four months of no contact. She did bread crumb me a week after the abrupt discard and I left her on read. At the point I wasn’t aware that i was in a toxic relationship.