What Does Integrity Mean?
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- What does Integrity really mean? We'll define it, give explanations, examples, and stories to reflect on your own personal integrity. Free Download pdf Confident Speaking: www.alexanderlyon.com/
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"Integrity" means not trying to pass yourself off as something that doesn't even exist. I'm talking to you "communication professor". Integrity means not running a conservative blog that you try to pass off as professional advise.
I don't hide the fact that I'm a Christian on my channel or in my professional life. Everybody knows that about me. I talk about it openly all of the time. If anybody is bothered by it, that's not my problem.
@@alexanderlyon Being Christian does NOT mean being a Reagan worshiping , goose stepping propagandist. As I say, you misrepresent yourself. You are nothing more than an ultra right wing Republican and you have no credentials to be offering advice to others about anything. Got it..."professor"?
Your blog is phony. It's just a way of spreading your ultra conservative christian message and is therefore dishonest. You are not qualified to judge a baby contest. You are nothing but some right wing dude with a video camera. Right "professor"?
@@josephblowhard1659 Joseph, Alex Lyon is a college professor who has a PhD in communication from the University of Colorado. His channel offers excellent advice. I am sorry that you are so easily triggered by a kind man who wishes blessings on the people who are watching his videos.
@@Sailineasy I totally agree. This guy has committed himself to integrity, sees its importance, and so advises others to do the same. His personal angle on this as a Christian or conservative is perfectly valid. I’m neither a Christian nor a conservative, but I respect the values and the message, rather than attack a good man who gives sincere life advice that is valid across the board.
Integrity: Doing the right thing when no one is looking and no one will ever know. I taught my kids integrity is not "not stealing a cookie from the cookie jar because you might get caught", instead..it's "not stealing a cookie from the cookie jar because you know it's the wrong thing to do".
Yes, perfect example, chelle.
Great explanation. It's hard doing the right thing, due to being imperfect, that and living in a world that tries to paint the picture: "What's bad is good, and what's good is lame."
All too often it tries to push the idea that doing the wrong thing will be to your benefit, the same lie that Satan told Eve, in Genesis chapter 3.
Cookie your children take is their house,you cook for them and they're allowed to eat.
Great video, that last story was powerful.
"I will never lie for you, and I will never lie to you"
BOOM.
Yes, boom! Nicky Gumble has some amazing stories. I was really impressed by that one because it says it so perfectly.
Integrity and honour was such a huge thing in my family growing up. The first thing I thought of when you started talking was the saying "Character is what you do when nobody is watching." Great video.
Most of the time I find it easy to have integrity, really it is natural to me...but somedays it is really difficult and I do my best but sometimes I am not perfect and I bend the truth too far....I clicked on this video to remind myself of what it actually means. I think integrity is so admirable and I found this reminder great! Stay principled and have the best integrity you can muster and be honest with yourself when you think over your actions.
When I critically think about it, I feel like my Integrity needs work. I can be so much better than what I am today.
Integrity stems from the Latin word 'integer' which means whole and complete. So integrity requires an inner sense of 'wholeness' and consistency of character. When you are in integrity, people should be able to visibly see it through your actions, words, decisions, methods, and outcomes. When you are 'whole' and consistent, there is only one you. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance. You don't leave parts of yourself behind. You don't have a 'work you,' a 'family you,' and a 'social you.' You are YOU all the time.
this made me cry i need to be like this
Very well explained. Thanks for sharing
@@bectspsa You're very welcome. Have a blessed life.
I absolutely loved this and wrote it down word for word to not forget it.
@@maryspengeman1040 it’s amazing and inspiring reading your honest words. I hope you are able to balance it all cos you deserve to be your best self anywhere 🤍
Integrity is my life. I practice every day with professional and personal interactions, sometimes it's hard but I do it anyways because I feel guilty otherwise. Thank you for a great message.
Thanks for sharing, mala.
That's awesome Mala.
@@alexanderlyon Welcome ,Makes me work harder . Thanks. Please let me know if there is plans in the future for Mr. Lyon’s lectures in person not via Zoom in California.
@@MasterTalks Thank you.
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha "Integrity is my life" Ha hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
New subscriber here. I love finding all these videos on character traits. I just started a blog and one of the topics I cover is teacher character to children. So important and not valued enough these days.
Add on as i'm watching - And it's really interesting that you mentioned your inner world affecting your outer world... that's the exact approach I take. In addition to teaching families/children character, I talk about mindfulness and EQ, as well as how the two are connected. You have to be whole within yourself to be able to interact with your outer world and other people effectively.
Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking.
Man, you have a really suitable speech for a podcast/radio: calm, soothing and of course great storytelling! 👍🏽
I appreciate that, Meetinder. Thank you.
I'm a 40 yr. old self proclaimed Daddy's girl and he has the most integrity of any man I know😊 This man has found loads of people's lost stuff on the side of the road and he calls it road kill (MN, people here) anywho, my Daddy with help of law enforcement has returned people's ice agers and boogie boards and many other things. He never ceases to amaze me with the lengths he'll go to try and get people's belongings back in their hands😊
Great video Alex, integrity is so important for sure!
Hi, Brenden. Great to hear from you, as always.
Totally appreciate your insights. They are good to assess others but more importantly, myself!
Great insight about Integrity. Simply Wow…thank you Alex’ The Communication Doctor.
Glad it was helpful, Krishna.
Yes yes, Internal consistency keeps me live based on my core values. Thank you.
THANK YOU for explaining! I find this very helpfuL. Sometimes we meet situations in Life where it calls for our Integrity and sometimes we forget what its called or how to name it, specially when like me, i transferred countries and just get lost of words.
That was a great explanation about integrity. this will help a lot for my job interview tomorrow.
If there is no integrity, I am not attracted to the situation, or the person, or persons involved. This is something you can not force. I will deny you everytime.
"People who can't do an honest reflection of self are going to get stuck and its going to be hard for them to grow and mature."
My grandfather is the person I admire because he has integrity
This is something that should be taught in elementary school, high school, college, government, and business in general.
Some people don't go their🙄
Or even educate themselves
They should put that in their cv's
A person with Integrity is a true believer
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More like this please. “Virtue” in its many varieties need more screen time.
Thank you. I did a video on What is Character several weeks ago.
@@alexanderlyon I’ll check it out!
Integrity is nothing more than an internal effort to be part of a whole, often visible by others... An honest effort to play an integral role in some aspect of your life. Integrity at home is different than integrity at work.
People really seem to prop this definition up and make integrity seem like someone who is morally perfect. I find it to often be the opposite. Often the person with integrity ends up getting stepped on.
Sure, you’ve got some good points, and if you think of integrity as a personal moral boundary rather than an absolute moral position in all circumstances, it might align closer to your perception of that definition.
I think being consistent with one’s moral values gives them integrity, as long as they broadcast their values. I’ve known good criminals and bad cops, bad priests and honorable thieves, the integrity doesn’t come from always doing good or bad, it’s from being consistent with yourself and sticking to your word.
I cant really say where my head was when i wrote that a year ago, but I do agree. My definition of integrity stems from people I look up to. Someone that sticks to their guns, but is ultimately willing to fall on the sword for the greater good. @@DavGre
My boss is always in a shit storm and no matter how bad he always comes to terms. It's not often people get to say that but I do admire him for it.
Just found your channel and was contimplating whether to subscribe when you ended with “God bless”. Amen brother! Subscribed! Ive watched and learned alot, plus you have great content, production, writing and editing. Keep up the good work.
And ZERO credentials.
@@josephblowhard1659 A PhD in communication from the University of Colorado and a Masters degree in Speech Communication from Cal State Northridge is "zero" credentials? I am sorry that you are so angry at Christians.
@@Sailineasy I'm sorry Christians are so poorly adapted to modern life that they must live in a cocoon of lies. As for your buddy with the "credentials"; I would need to research those institutions but American education is generally a joke anyway. He talks like someone who has something to sell. He has zero objectivity; - a dead giveaway. This is B.S. Republican propaganda masquerading as something serious and legitimate. The Right simply cannot be honest. Everything must be a sleazy underhanded trick. That's how you win elections too.
Thank u so much sir..I am preparing for Indian civil services and we have ethics as one of the papers ..so I often get confused with different terms....ethics,moral,value...and btw different values..like integrity,probity,objectivity, etc...so this is of huge help. ❤️
did you ever embarrassing situation suggesting lack of integrity at home or outside
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Great video! Thank you!
This was good!
I’m waiting for a video where you comment about Oprah. She's so powerful and one of the greatest speakers. Congrats!
Thank you so much for this video
A GREAT VIDEO AND THIS IS JUST ONE OF FOUR CHARASTICS I LIVE BY. THE OTHER 3 ARE PRINCIPLES, HONESTY AND DECENCY. IF WE ALL LIVED BY THESE NO MATTER HOW WEALTHY WE ARE, WE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD!!!
I love It and i myself i consider as a woman of integrity . I got wonder why men treat well and do proud of me . Since my chilhood . I do what Is right and i am honest . Honest yo goodness goodness to holiness . I think thats the quality that the men love It . I meet wonderful men with higher position work as a domestici but they loves me . Integrity id fundamental . Thank so much .
I am exactly the 1000th like! Thank you for what you Do! God bless!
Awesome! Thank you for the 1000th like.
If you find a watch buried in the sand at the beach, nobody owns that. You don't lose a watch at the beach and then find it again.
That's a bad example of integrity. That's a good example of ignorance.
Without hope, without witness, without reward
Thanks for the video!
Thanks, Anthony.
Many years ago I was driving in my truck and I saw a purse in the middle of the road. For some reason I had a strong sense that the purse must have fallen off the back of some woman's car.
The Curiosity to see what was inside was very strong but, my next thought overcame my curiosity and I began to think of how much time it would take to return the purse to its rightful owner.
As a business owner, I've always worked harder than most and struggled to find enough time in a day to complete all of my desired goals, so maybe that could also have contributed to my thought process.
? Would I still react the same today as I did 20 years ago.
Unfortunately, this world has changed for the worse and because of this, I think if I found a large sum of money, I just might do a little research on the person in order to find out about their character, just in case they use their money for evil purposes and if so, you can figure the rest out for yourself.
Brisket with integrity. Thank you. Make a great day
Awesome video man! You earned another sub :)
Awesome, thank you!
really good video .
thnx a lot
Great and deep video on integrity👌thanks for that🌟
Glad you liked it.
Thank you for your help for My presentation
Great talk. A question for you and you and anyone in the comments: would you stand up against somebody who was hurting an animal right in front of you? A dog... a pigeon? You likely care about animals but if you eat their bodies or pay other people to exploit them then you are not living in integrity with yourself and your values. We don't need as much protein as everyone thinks. Humans can actually live on just potatoes and not be missing any protein. And we have so many delicious plant based meats. Human rights are animal rights.
hi,,,
integrity vs follow the rules and law, how can we differentiate them !!!
Marvellous Video
i wanted to use the one ophra stated on my essay, but i need to cite it. do you know where I can find it or how to cite it?
Hi Sir, I like what you said about integrity, and I already sunscribe your channel. Can you please tell me how to display integrity traits in an incoming interview, thank you very much.
Great lecture
Glad it was helpful!
What if dishonesty is a core part of the immediate society you live in and you being honest will only get you isolated or killed?
identify the cultural source and battle it! that's what I do.
Good day, Dr. Alex Lyon!
I am a third-year student of Bachelor in Secondary Education Major in English. As part of our program, we are to create researches that will help in the betterment of education.
In line with this, I sent a message to inform you that one of your videos will be utilized in our study. Our research is entitled "Communication Styles as Basis for Lessons in Language Learning." The researchers aim to come up with learning materials that incorporate the communication styles of online influencers. We thought that teachers must adapt and make use of the communication styles used by online influencers to catch the students' attention and interest.
I hope we will receive a positive reply from you, Sir. Your confirmation will serve as big help to our group. Thank you very much.
Keep safe. God bless!
Sounds like an interesting project!
@@alexanderlyon Hello, Sir Alex. We are through with the final defense. We received a grade of 95.
please videos about ways of problem solving, negotiation skills, critical thinking o share them with me if they are in your playlist
I have a video on Group Problem Solving Steps that might help: czcams.com/video/EUAKPg4uIFE/video.html
Love this
Thanks, Daniel.
Thanks Sir
Thank you
I think you were using my grandpa as an example. On Sunday mornings feels for a walk around the beach with a metal detector thing..
Bad grandpa !
Ha. No judgement. The metal detector looks fun. I can see why some people like to do that. It's just not for me.
Its in connection whit the source being a part of it al and reflect your feal outward
You put forth some convincing arguments, I especially enjoyed the story about the lawyer.
I personally find it very difficult to stick to any particular set of moral values in the long run, though, since there will always be times when those values are tested. Lying isn't always wrong. Helping a stranger in need isn't always wise. Never indulging in sweets has it's downsides. And so on, and so on. There's also the risk of mistakingly following a set of harmful principles, and refusing to reflect on these in the moment because you've chosen to stand by your integrity, thus not growing as a person.
While there's no denying some of the pros of having integrity, I also fear it turns you into a very square and inflexible person, which can damage both your professional life and personal life in the long run. I can't help but wonder if the pros really outweigh the cons. Any thoughts on this?
Me. I am actually happy with myself 🎉
If you could apply that to the music of Harrison Birtwistle would ew find something to extrapolate as ‘integrity?’
i dont have any people not much with integrity every time my teacher leaves the class my bad classmates would forget everything about integrity and they are very noisy
Two old school friends of mine had fallen out I found out because I visited one of them after years. She was angry I think. She said I" know know a big secret about her' oh! I replied "do u want to know what it is" No" I replied xxxxxxxxxx
How does this blend with subjective moral reasoning?
Nice🔥
Yeah Alex is the best for sure!
My husband is a Man of Integrity!
You are fortunate!
Exactly
People when they're hungry they will ignore integrity . This is long story for explanations. Everyone steal in their life even few times and some never stopped stealing until they die. Don't forget children they don't know what is integrity.
I often practiced integrity in ways that I can’t explain to other people. My inside is undivided and I want to live that way.
hi my name is Bareerah Ali l am 12 years today I have done one Integrity that my mom told me not to touch the laptop till l get back and it totally work
Hi, Bareerah. Thanks for commenting.
@@alexanderlyon your welcome sir
I thonk most of us do about certian things. I think its easier to see where integrity is lacking.
Buffet has integrity!
Jon Snow from the Game of thrones season 7 episode 7, It proves the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness:
Tyrion Lannister: Have you ever considered learning how to lie, Just a bit?
Jon Snow: I am not going to swear an oath I can not uphold, Tall about my father if you want, Tell me that’s the attitude that got him killed. When enough people make false promises, word stop meaning anything, then there are no more answers, only better and better lies, and lies won’t help us in this fight.
Person of integrity - VP Leni Robredo of the Philippines. She owns up and does not put blame on others.
I am honest with myself and others. I am integrity.
What if that Rolex watch along the beach was lost by someone? You do not have the thinking to pick it up and look for the owner? Will I lose my integrity if I pick it up and return it to the owner.
If you find and bring it to the owner or a beach lost and found or the local police, I'd say you have your integrity intact. The key to the example is that there's no where''d personally keep the watch.
Should one have integrity to those who treat others in bad faith?
Our integrity is an internal quality. There are lots of ways to maintain our integrity when dealing with others regardless of their character.
Hopefully Coach Alex maintains his integrity throughout his CZcams career, lol..
Swavvi from Baps seems to have integrity
Oh shoot, I didn't know the Janitor from Ned's Declassified got a PhD and started a CZcams channel
I myself
now imagine integrity when it comes to knowledge!
if i found money on the road, i won't hesitate to take it and use that money.
Probity!
Alhamdulillah I do have thinks to god
I would have picked up the watch in order to find its owner.
That's a fair choice too. Lost and found or local police departments are good for turning in found items.
@@alexanderlyon You could run an ad in the paper, too. I would try to leave a note on the beach where I found it as well, but it might be difficult to secure it.
I have it
That's great, Lani.
Oh boy !
Well I love your videos but have issue with this one as it pertains to doing the right thing . I have zero issues with empathy or integrity but it’s been my downfall in organizations that value the bottom line more . Companies say that want honesty but they are very willing to bent reality to make the monthly goal
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So no one believes in blessings ?
Randy Marsh knows a thing or two about 'tegrity
"After seeing what integrity means"
You are filled with Integrity
That is very kind, frosteh. I appreciate that.
Instead stealing defined by knowing the owner and intending on taking from them but if they make their own mistake for possibly lack of care or focus on themselves that their punishment is finders keepers, if you don't know the owner and you find it in the sand and don't pick it up it could be lost forever but God gifted it your way, if you find the owner then yes you can give it to them but sometimes you never find the owner and also sometimes another man's trash is another man's treasure. I think you used a bad example to discuss the meaning of integrity
Pick up the watch and take it to the Police. Why leave it there.
Yes, that's a great option. The point is, I wouldn't ever pick it up for myself. In real life on the college campus where I teach, I bring items to lost and found a few times per semester.
Integrity really depends on where you live. Imagine you are a Jew living back in Nazi Germany. How long are you going to make it telling the truth?
And this isn't a rhetorical question to me because I am living in Ukraine right now where neo-Nazi organisations are reigning. You are literally taking your life in your hands here if you are speaking your mind.
Hi, Zen. You raise important and interesting points. I have a few thoughts. But, I won't pretend I really understand the context in Nazi Germany or in Ukraine right now. I'm only speaking from my own experience. First, integrity does not necessarily mean always *_speaking out_* . In fact, it very often means doing the right thing even when (or especially when) nobody is looking. Sometimes it is a better path to take proper action but out of sight. There were many people who stood up to and subverted the Nazis behind the scenes. Second, yes, integrity may sometimes mean speaking out or taking action knowing it comes with great potential personal consequences. There is frequently a price for doing the right thing. It still may be with it, however. History has shown us that if we surrender the ability/right to speak out as a society, then we will very quickly lose all other rights that follow it. To paraphrase Martin Luther King Jr., "Life isn't worth living until you have found something worth dying for." So, yes, there have been many times in history--like Dr. King, the people who openly stood up to Hitler, and many others--where people have taken their lives into their own hands by living a life of integrity. Third, from a bigger picture, there may be ways to speak up that get a message out there in society that does not have the same immediate risks. For instance, communicating online does not carry the same real-time risks as showing up at a public protest. Forth, I believe that the key for 90% of the people I know is to work first on clarifying who they really are, what they stand for, and their inner world. I think it is important to first settle whatever inner conflicts we might have about our priorities. Perhaps the worst fate I could imagine is getting swept up in a cultural wave mostly because I didn't know who I was or I was afraid to speak up for what I knew was right. It is easy for me to talk tough because my life is not being threatened. But, I'd like to think I would stick by my core beliefs whatever the cost. The individuals who settle those questions for themselves do not seem to fear even death the way many people do. I don't know if I could actually do that but I hope I could be like that if tested. Either way, these are important issues, though, Zen, and I'm glad you're bringing them up. There are no easy answers but the questions themselves are worth wrestling with.
I disagree with this. It's confusing morality with integrity. It should be possible to be bad and yet hold integrity. The lady can decide to pocket the money and keep her integrity as long she didn't lie about it. Handing back the money was a moral decision.
Moral uprightness is an inseparable part of the dictionary definition I shared @:19. I didn't make that definition up. You'll see that morality is included in most dictionaries as part and parcel of integrity. You can look up the word yourself. But, more than that, the example demonstrates that she is not divided between her inner convictions and her outward behavior. Integrity, thus, is also about being whole and internally undivided. She made the decision without hesitating. That indicates integrity.
@@alexanderlyon Not most, but some dictionaries. Example from Cambridge 'the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that you refuse to change'. It only mentions strong moral principles and not any quality of soundness, uprightness, good or bad. All the definitions I've seen mention having moral principles, adherence to those principles and honesty. But since moral polarity is only in some of them, that makes me question whether it should be included.
I think you're right. one can have integrity based on love for the human race or based on hating your fellow human being. when you think of Jimmy Bulger for instance, described as strictly criminal, or the movie American Gangster or the theatrical role of the Joker - they're too men of their words. just contrary to the rules publicly preached by their culture. which happens to be dominated by the ideology of patronizing the public, the people. universally and systematically. at the core, at the highest levels of power clearly satanic. and that with godly integrity.
My kids show integrity every time we’re at the store & I high key try to steal but they’re loud & say “don’t forget to scan this mommy!” Like okay you’re right 🧍🏻♀️💀
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I think that these examples are kind of black-and-white.Having integrity doesn't mean things stupidly honest. And you can have integrity that is different for different people. Principles do not have to be applied so widely to call it integrity. Different principles of integrity apply to different people.I think what you left out of your example is incorruptibility.
Yes, I agree that incorruptibility is only implied in what I said but should be said directly.
Acá no más hablan inglés wtf
I love 95% of your talk. But your first story is questionable. If I were walking down the beach and saw a beautiful shell, a message in a bottle, and a Rolex watch, none of those things are mine until I pick them up. Even the watch is mine unless the owner is still alive and wants it back. The likelihood that someone is looking for the watch is pretty high, so I do my due diligence to try to find the owner or have a logical place to turn in the watch like a Beach Patrol office. If the person is found then I have done the owner a great service. So as the statement goes in your story, "I would not pick it up" does not sound like integrity to me, sounds like highly disciplined individual that does not want to be of service. Maybe they want to be a hermit without guilt, then they would not even pick up the beautiful shell and miss out on the up close investigation. Everyone lies about what we are the most immature, insecure, or attached to an appearance that is other than what the truth is. If the character in your story is a real person I feel that they need could use someone to help them get a little more real.