Use These Steps to Prepare for Difficult Conversations | Dr. Henry Cloud
Vložit
- čas přidán 15. 11. 2022
- Click here to take our Boundaries in Relationships course for free! www.boundaries.me/relationships
In this highlight, Dr. Cloud goes into part two of his session on having a difficult conversation. This one is all about preparation.
How do you bring your best and keep your fear in check when entering into a difficult conversation? First, you have to have a difficult conversation with yourself. Sometimes we do that by talking with someone that isn’t involved in the situation to bleed off that frustration. Make sure you're talking it out with someone whose only motive is the best outcome. Secondly, we need to take some time beforehand to get clear about what outcome we want. Third, we need to practice it or even write a script to keep on topic during that conversation. Bleed off all of the emotion, if you've been hurt those wounds could be fresh and you don't want to start with anger. And last, start with the end goal in mind by affirming the relationship and bringing loving, positive energy to it. Jesus said let us get the log out of our own eye first, then we can see clearly to help others.
Click here to watch part 1: • Learn How to Create a ... Use These Steps to Prepare for Difficult Conversations - Zábava
“Let’s seek to understand, before seeking to be understood” ❤
Thank you
This message is so powerful. I do have the responsibility to clear my own head, and “bleed off” the heavy painful emotions, before I can even attempt to communicate (with clarity and ownership.)
Deeply grateful Dr Cloud for the wisdom you've shared in this episode: to be clear-headed first before engaging in a difficult conversation and to begin with the end in mind and then try to understand before you could be undetstood. Timing words for me Dr Cloud! Massive thank you 🥰😍😘
I learn so much from you Dr Henry Cloud…. Excellent communication is the key …. May everyone seeing this find good solutions to all circumstances 😊🙏🌷
I need to hv a difficult conversation with my husband & I’m not In a good head space & I hvnt been! I’m unhappy & the longer I wait to hv the convo , the madder I get! I just need to get it out cuz it’s hurting me more to keep it in than to let it out! I’m tired of talking to myself but I do know I’m not perfect
This is how I feel most of the time. I avoid to try and decompress but if I go in calm or angry I get the same pushback… I get gaslit and minimized no matter how I approach it so I just stopped even trying to be calm.. I just yell how I feel in anger and am in this perpetual state of just being angry
Conversations are hard when theirs confrontation but ease into it and think and pray 🙏🏼 before u speak be clear headed and
proverbs 3:5 🙏🏼
Thank you.
No sound doc! I think I got the message today!
So I bought your book about Boundaries .
Have to admit you bust our 🏀 with the constant references to the Bible
Amen
bc thats the basis of mankind, thats why, its the MANUAL for the operation of relationships. try, be kind, be clear, if they wont listen or b reasonable, walk away and dont return.
heres another useful verse "speaking the truth in love" and guard your heart and 2 Tim 3:5 AVOID nasty people! theres NO mandate for staying in any relationship where the other party is mean, nasty, violent, vindictive etc towards you. state your case, forgive, if they continue to act nasty towards you, avoid them altogether. yes, even family members. just visit the family that treats you decently independantly of the other nasty ones. a great christian channel focusing on when/why to walk away is the Kris Reece channel. its brilliant.
Hello doctor cloud, I need to have a difficult conversation with my adult daughter of 32, however, trying to have a conversation with her is nearly impossible. She literally interrupts me in every single sentence. And then she twists the meaning of what I'm trying to say, as though she can climb inside my head and know exactly what I'm thinking, or how I'm feeling.
I've determined that I need to have that difficult conversation through a letter. My question is, how long should I give her to respond before I follow through with any decisions that I must make.
Thank you for everything that you do, you have definitely helped me to keep things in the right perspective. Be blessed!
i have the difficult conversations via text. if they read the text then call me, i dont answer, i just text them and say, a text is better, pls reply by text. THAT way they can b held accountable for what they say, instead of saying whatever they want in a verbal active conversation then denying it later on. very useful and keeps emotions to a minimum.
Read proverbs 3:5