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CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E12: What happens when there isn't space for dad?
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- čas přidán 4. 04. 2019
- On this episode of On The Red Dot, not everyone in the Heng family is happy with Dad’s increased presence. For the Lim children, the euphoria of their newer and big house starts to fade. Meanwhile, eldest sister Izzati Zainal, her report card is back spelling bad news.
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Despite her grades, im pretty sure izzati will turned out to be the best out off all her siblings. She is the best in manners and attitude, even people in the comment section love her in comparison to the other teenagers in this documentary even without knowing her.
Trueee
Totally agree. Dunno what kinda wool the mother tries to pull. Crying doesn't help. Support and work on the child's weaknesses do.
I start watching this today and i like izzati so much. I want to hug her!
agreed, she and her sister are so well behaved and responsible. it is strange to say the malay family has the wrong way of parenting but yet their kids turn out to be the most polite, responsible and connected. apart from crystal, i find all the other kids and teens problematic.
obviously, the malay family is doing something right.
@@hilmir Shouldn't give all the props to the parents. Some people are just born to be naturally more mature than others.
Pity izzati... Should encourage her, not using things like 'if you love me study harder'
She should be studying for herself, not the parents.
@Sook Yee ..ur rite; ..reading was used as a form of 'punishment' when i was a kid.. & ive had a resentment towards reading my whole life because of it..
It's called emotional blackmail, it's sad that they use that as a form towards their child to convey a condition of their love... Didn't know love was ever defined by grades
Exactly.
She’s actually a senior in my school lol anyways she graduated already last year. I’m Sec 4 this year hence she’s a year older than me
faehim Mirza do you know whats her instagram?
The 2 malay sisters are very well spoken and independent, hope pakcik gives more rein to them over their siblings.
Mother, please don't play the guilt game with izzati. You were part of the problem. Do you think it's easy to live with a step dad. Perhaps you need to pay more attention to her
Yes, or give full custody of both daughters to their father, their "real" who cares for them, father. Which the stepdad doesn't!!😡
Izzati and Izzah are sooooo selfless. They always think about their mom and siblings despite having their own struggles too.
Feel so sorry for Izzati.. She is already so gd. So sensible. N the mum just said 'you dun love me?' I know its stressful on the mum but u cant just say the kid dun love u just because they failed their subjects. Failing subjects n love is 2 entire different things. It will be so stressful for Izzati as well. Think about her mental health.
I was her age and I had 2 subjects that I would constantly fail...no amount of nagging could get me to pass my mandarin or maths (I barely passed my N level math), grateful my parents didn't want a trophy child unlike her family. and the "good grades means u luv me" thing pisses me off,I am surprised izzati hasn't shut away from her family yet.(any national exam can drive people crazy)
@@dt4654 , i am her age right now and going through a similar thing , like just 2 subjects that i cannot pass , i spend most of my time on them and try so hard but i always just end up disapointing my parents , but i feel so bad for her still.
kay hi Well-said and so true!
@@daniella3116 jiayou. Must take some time to be alone and destress. If not will be very stress in the long run.
@@jy6784 i do take some time to rest , thank uuu though xo
Totally agree after reading the comments.... The Zainal family stepdad legit doesnt really care much abt izzati or the other stepdaughter. the way he conversate w the wife, shows that he doesnt care and might want to save money for his own children oni... The mum is in a wrong too... Shldnt say such words to her own daughter. You love me you shld get good grades. but i feels this dont even link. i can say i love my mum but sometimes i cant even get a good grade no matter how i tried. does it mean i dont love my family? HAISS. this kind of mindset rlly has to change man the zainal
I feel like her stepdad doesnt even care for his whole family
NonStopSpicyTom
Ikr. I bet he only care about his biological son and having fun
From a woman’s point of view I don’t blame him. If I were him I wouldn’t care about my step kids but only my biological children, and I agree with your comment about the mother. I feel that the mother is too weak to make her own decisions for her oldest daughter. (not the husband’s biological child) 16:56
I am amazed by Zainal....the Mum is trying to do the right thing and he is hopeless!
I hate it when parents uses emotional blackmail to get what they want for themselves, making the child feels guilty for everything instead of finding positive solutions.
The two teenage girls of the malay family is real poor thing. They have to do so many things n multitask. Especially when the stepdad being a control freak. Both are not able to speak up for themselves becuz they love thier mom. U girls can do it!! Don't let negativity affect u both. You're both mature, independent and such a caring sister. God bless u both.
The David's family. For the eldest daughter, girl I feel u. U feel lonley and the attention isn't towards u. But don't worry has u grow up u will be used to it till than smile and try your best to speak up to your parents!!
hello? it's their mother putting the pressure on the 2 daughters. babysit, help with household chores and need to study after that? "with this kind of results, do you love me?" no one would ever talk to their daughter like that, is like you only care to be entitled or just being a dictator? love isn't put together with studies. if they want her to improve, then they should leave her alone and stop pressurizing her!
@@AtinzMizuki maybe it's both the parents
@@AtinzMizuki Coming from a Malay family myself, honestly speaking, idk whats wrong with Malay families. They expected so much and yet at home, they literally push all the housework and babysitting to the students. I mean like how the heck you expect us to do well if you keep on giving us so much responsiblities. And conveniently, when we didnt perform up to the standard 'Oh its you never put enough effort. You dont know how to manage your time. You hang out with your friends always' I'm just like 'No, shit. You keep on giving us work to do. Are you blind or what'. I screw up my A levels thanks to my dear family because of all the responsibility that was suddenly pushed to me during my exam period. I literally cried every night thinking what did i do to deserve this. My future is in jeopardy because of them. I honestly dont even know what to say.
I would have these girls as my daughters. They are a credit and am surprised that the mum cant see that. shame on her.Well done girls, do your best and be happy.... be happy and look after yourselves.and the so calleddad..he is selfish
@@AtinzMizuki i dont see anything wrong for a mom to get the 2 elder daughters to multitask. My mom trained me that way too but i'm not a loser coz i gained so much after i hv my own family. I'm able to mutitask in my worklife n oso at home, isnt that benefits me? At that age, yea, sometimes u get frustrated but as it becomes an everyday thing, u gets better n adapt to it. Look at the positive side too..🤘
Why would one bring down their child by saying "do you love me with this kind of grades?" You mean love is defined by grades? And what is the step-father doing? If his main role is to support the family by providing care and supervising the children, while the mom works, then why are the girl's results still stagnant with no improvements? When the mother wants to hire a tuition teacher for the girls, why does the step-dad stops her? And expects the mother to supervise their child while working?? If you can't support the family unit financially, at least support each individual in the house mentally, emotionally and physically. The mother has to learn a different approach to guide the girls in their studies and to be honest, besides being biased towards his biological children, i really dont know what is the role of the step dad in the family. In my opinion the malay family is really dysfunctional.
nowdays grades is not important. Because some people have good grades but do not love their parents.
yeo123 it’s Esther that I feel sorry for really. She looks exhausted.
Also the Stepfather needs a kick on the ass.
@@beezlebub9 right! I feel he purposely don't wanna give her daughter the tuition she needs because he probably wants to save that money for his own kids!
@@stellalLee-vs6gp Grades are important in societies where you can literally get 99% on a course and still fail, if everyone else got 99%, it's a dog eat dog world in these countries
All you want is her to do well? What about the chores and baby sitting her younger siblings? You implicitly put all that pressure on her.
Let’s see if Zainal would be so laid-back if his Son is struggling in school ?
gracechampagne ikr
yeah its the typical asian dad mindset.
because most girls are married off, pop out kids and become housewives, they only prioritise their sons to be more important as they will become the "head" of the family.
i am male, but i find it pretty archaic myself. toxic masculinity making fools out of men.
I am sure it’s not because of that but rather they are not his own daughters. I am so he is much stricter with his biological daughter!
No he will blame the two big sisters for not teaching him 🙄
It actually shows how unprepared and unplanned some parents are. This short documentary is only showing others how they need to plan parenthood instead of “owning trophy kids”
but some dream of having "trophy" kids...
I guess. But I think this show is at least more like “real” life. And not a made for TV show, like the Duggars. (Look how they turned out) they were faking how perfect they were, and how well they could handle 20 kids. But they had a deep dark secret. At least this seems real. Not perfect. Not even close. As you have pointed out. But that seems more real to me.
What, what does the Zainal family's father figure do?! He doesn't take on responsibility at all!
Useless man. Not working, does not care about the step daughters that needs help. Ask the wife to work and tutor them while he shakes leg and enjoy life ? What a trash !
His two step daughters are NOT allowed to scold "his son" when they are babysitting the kids as he (step-father) gets very upset, they also try doing their homework while babysitting but since his child likes to make a mischief of himself once the parents are gone that's hard for the girls
As I mentioned in the previous episode, the two older girls should be allowed to reprimand their younger siblings when they are doing something wrong. Otherwise, I don't think they'll truly feel like a part of this "family".
Edit: I wonder if things are better if they visit their biological dad.
@@Luthaniel83 Useless? Your sexism is showing. If he looks after the house as well as any housewife does, what's the problem? So all housewives are shaking legs and enjoying at home? Or if one were to indulge in your fallacy, does having a vagina make enjoying life at home ok then? Fix your biases before you go judging others.
@@slaiyfershin this is not about sexism. There are very diligent house husband but Zainal is clearly not one. When you got a child struggling in school, future is being affected and your wife asked you to step up. What was his reply ? Ask the child ??? The family probably has financial difficulties sending the kid for tuition for it is expensive, so she asked him to step up. But what was his reply ? Useless guy, lazy and so laid back till the wife broke into tears seeing his response. Now not only must she work full time, but come home to tutor her 2 daughters after a tiring day of work. What is Zainal doing then ? Better off divorcing him !
I met a Chinese electrician in Malaysia. His family was not rich and he married late. He is now over 52 years old, and his three daughters are under 6 years old. However, he still insisted on having more children until he got a son. I asked him if he could afford his kids' higher education and he said "I don't care, that's their problem". He is clearly a very irresponsible father. In general, the more children you have, the less intimacy between husband and wife, it also means the relationship will usually become worse. In my perspective, I see ZERO benefit of having many kids in modern society, it is bad for both the children and the parents.
The pakcik really don't seem to understand Izzati and Izzah at all. How can he decide for them if they need tuition or not and how can he just put the burden on to the Mum? Regardless of the brand or price tag, tuition helps in the littlest and different ways for different kids. For some, it may be the only two hours they revise and study the subject. For some, it can help clarify doubts. Izzati seems to be a diligent student who also puts a lot of pressure to do well on herself - to be failing her subjects this way is a alarm bell that she needs help and tuition may be the answer, not simply ask her to "study harder".
"study harder" doesn't mean anything if she doesn't do well on tests..some people are just bad at tests and need more help than useless "encouragement" from a useless father.
@88mariko88 if it was so easy to get married 😂
Don't put pressure on her like that. She tried. Lower your expectations and give more positive words of encouragement.
The Hengs don’t seem to be a happy couple. They seem to be putting on a strong front for their children while suppressing their inner frustrations and sorrows.
It is quite apparent and you could tell from the dark eye rings around the parent’s eyes. With the children so restless, I can understand too.
Every couple goes through this. I think it’s more apparent in large families as they have less time to hide it but it’s not an exclusive club. My wife and I have a small family of 4 right now and we’re young so we have yet to experience this. My parents had 7 kids though and when I was about 15-19 they went through a real rough patch. Beyond happy now but you have to get through the hard times. They seem to have what it takes. I think they’ll be fine :)
"With this kind of results... do you love me?" Typical Asian parent XD
Typical asian parents is bring out flip flops
@@jakefromstatefarm7363
My parents is take out belt and chase me around the corridor
yea but they didnt cane me before
I find that Esther has a lot of resentment for her husband and her life situation. she mentioned a couple of times wondering what if she stopped at 3 kids.
and her face is getting blacker and blacker with each episode. this episode at the chalet, she is literally over the whole thing, her family, the filming crew, planning for the chalet, cooking food.
a lot of attention went to zainal and zaleha's misparenting. but highlighting esther's plight, she about to break liao.
she used to be a school teacher too, so all you teachers who have to face a hundred different kids each day, you learn to switch off while still doing your job.
she probably switched off after kid number 3, poor thing.
hahahaha i love how the dad made the itenary into a presentation😂😂😂 omg its literally as if im watching a dad making a business pitch to his own kids😂
It shows how professional he likes to be
I feel sad for izzati, she has to help with chores and taking care of her step siblings, if I was her parent I would understand and try to manage her time
Dear Izzati, Izzah and Crystal : you have what today’s education and money cannot teach or buy, and that is taking ownership, gratefulness and yet having a heart for others. Everyone is dealt with different resources and circumstances in life and all we can do is to do the best we can and let God do the rest.
To the mom Saleha and Esther: much respect to you as a mom. In hindsight, there’s always better ways to be a mom but being a mom is always a higher calling.
Disgusting, does grades define who you are? No. The Malay sisters are so hard working and caring. You expect her to study when she’s left home alone with her siblings? And having to take care of them? Haiz...
Yeah if you only look at their grades you’d never know that they’re hard working, polite, kind, and inspiring.
Crystal is mature but I believe her aim might be to study hard and earn big buck so she can move out of this cluster family. 😐
yeah she figured it out, she needs to study to get out.
that is why even now she is not close to her horrendous siblings, so they cannot claim anything for her success later on. the thing is that she can even say, "i am the eldest, i studied hard and am responsible. i set the good example which you guys did not follow."
you can only tell that at one point of her success, the other siblings or even parents will try to leech or guilt trip her to take care of them.
but this poor girl is studying so hard to save herself. wish her all the best, she has the best chance of making it out alive in one piece. hahaha.
Their house is actually the nicest and most spacious!
Is there a way I can contact Izzati’s family? I’m a part time tutor and I would love to tutor Izzati , free of charge. I can the resilience in her eyes that she wants to do well. I totally understand how stressful O levels can be because I struggled with it myself as well. From 4NA to 5NA, the jump was quite big. I would love to help Izzati with her math and science if possible :)
This documentary is actually probably a couple years old already, it was shown on TV before.
Huang Huang Ahhh I see. Thanks for letting me know :)
chill u look too desperate sir, clearly in her result slips 2018
Yep this documentary is super old because izzah's school(east view sec) alr merged with another school
@@devljz8242 what thing desperate? ppl wanna do good deeds offer free tuition u label them as despo? ffs u damn toxic af sia.
Why is the father of the Malay family not working?! His poor wife
He drives Grab night shift
Ok, both go to work and let the kids die at home to appease your sexist mindset.
slaiyfershin lol both kids are still dying arent they? even with the dad at home. anyways, the dad is working night shift yet expects the mom and eldest child to carry the burden. not sexist.
@@nwxzzz how are they dying? The older ones help manage the young ones when dad is out working. If dad really goes for a proper job, he wont be home even before the older daughters get back.
Your 'die' is exaggeration. My 'die' is literal.
he IS working. grab driver at night, cooking, cleaning etc in the daytime.
Daddy Lim is really a great father ❤️ I can sense the love he has for his wife and his kids and all he does and earn is to spend on his family 😢❤️
Zainal rly doesn’t hav any sense of urgency for his daughter’s grades
Maybe because the two elder girls are his step children and not his biological daughters, prolly views tuition as a waste of money...
Hell he doesn't even allow his step daughters to scold his son from his previous relationship
@@stopbenedict2310 The son is from the current relationship, no?
@@slaiyfershin no only the youngest is the daughter of their current relationship
@@user-sy6zx9xj2c sorry, you are wrong. they each have two kids from previous marriages and three of the youngest are their own.
zaleha has two girls from her prev marriage. zainal has two boys from his, but they are not shown.
in one of the family photos, you can see two boys with their faces blurred out.
LOL ZAINAL IS SO SELFISH!!! THE WORSE HUSBAND EVER
It's a pity that she studies hard just to please her parents instead of herself. I really felt pity for Izzati. She's already diligent enough to study. Using "do you love me" or "you don't pity me" method will cause emotional distress to the girls which were clearly shown when Izzati felt sad to see her mother cried. FYI, even if you have good grades or study until university won't help you to secure a better future. The workforce prefers someone who has experience and lesser people who are freshly graduated. AND! The fact that the step-father doesn't allow the girls to raise their voice or scold the younger siblings is wrong. They should have the right/authority to do so as they are like the mirror image of their parents. I can imagine that once the younger kids grow up, they will talk back to the older siblings and show no respects to elders. As for Izzati and Izzah, they will drift even further away once they enter adulthood.
For Ambrosia's case, putting up a defense is normal but putting too much is way off the limit. Throughout the series, I can see that she's a bit rude esp. to her mother when she casually calls her father as "Your husband". It literally shows that you have no respect for the one who endured 9 months of pain to give birth to you. It could be that she's facing a change in puberty or it's just that she has low self-confident.
Whatever that I have said here is purely based on my opinions and interpretation on what has been shown in the video. So yeah.
Govt expect us to have a bigger family, look at all of them how insufficient the space is. And the children, one mother how to jaga and help them get good results.
MrBoliao98 Happens mostly in singapore lol
@@nwxzzz that's why the birth rate low
govt shld make prices lower xD
Ambrosia really needs to stop quarreling with her little brother over the tiniest things, gosh. Annoying girl.
My Sister is the same hahaha.. middle Child syndrome
My older sister was like that at 14 too. She turned 15 this year and is 10x better now. Maybe puberty hormones? Idk.
Gosh.. this is a kid you're bullying. Aren't you embarrassed?
I can tell y'all: emotional blackmail can affect someone so much that when they maybe in this case, keep failing, they'll blame themselves which is the worst thing ever. I really hope that people don't have to go thru this. I don't want people to experience the bad things I did and other peeps did , that hurt us mentally.
If I got 58 first my mum say alhamdulillah at least pass hahahha can go next level already good one
right? their mindset is horrible lmao
bile anak successful, both nk claim achievement dorang. but bile anak fail, masing-masing salahkan each other.
Izzati and izzah are so good
is so cute to see the father doing presentation slide for a family outing
Budak tu kena tolong kemas rumah, kena tolong masak, kena tolong jaga adik2, plus kena belajar pandai. Kalau mesin pon dah rosak sey, ni kan pulak budak belasan tahun. Kesian aku tgk Izzati dgn adik dia tu.
Wow that mother talks of failing but so far she's failing as a mother! The level of guilt she's instilled into her daughters is disgusting! They wanted to move with their father yet they felt guilty at the thought of their mother and step father who they don't even like being in the same room as, struggling with the kids, that's not their problem! I'm guessing the mom knew they wanted to move with their father and lectured them on what would happen if they do! Cried and asked why did they want to leave her? Did they love her? Used the I'm gonna have to quit to take care of your brother and sister, I just had a baby so it's gonna be harder and we we're gonna struggle money wise! She mastered in the guilt trip!
Hate this kind of comment... "If you love me... Study hard.. " when your child already trying hard and expect to get some encourage from your parent.. But at the end they just saying that kind of comment...
Izzati is such a good daughter, sometimes grades aren't everything.
The reason condoms exist.
Some people shouldn't have kids.
They should have planned at least
Izzati's actually really good already though.....she's so well-mannered, helps out with all the house chores and even after her mom says these kind of things, she still can think well and wants to do better. I feel like the parents should not say these kind of things but instead understand where she's struggling in and help & encourage her.
i really hope Izzati grows up to understand that the singaporean education really isn’t for everyone. some of us struggle to understand certain concepts, some of us manage to do better in this environment. but even if she doesn’t make it, it’s okay. how you study, doesn’t equate to if you love your parents or not. kids do struggle quite a bit too yknw? who wants to fail? nobody. so i truly hope her parents understand that sometimes she’s trying too.. and she’s just not cut out for this.. and it’s OK.
the guy doesn't even hold the umbrella for his wife and wants so many children because he desires it. Yet, it's his wife that's bearing all the responsibilities. Typical Singapore man...
i disagree with the last line
So what’s a typical Singaporean woman like?
@@NookTommy older generation: submissive to the male.
Typical Singaporean women:
Laze around, watch Kdramas, working at a dead end office job, buy stupid shit non-stop off taobao, no financial security, insurance or savings.
Expects rich, handsome, tall husband who would cook and clean, have unique hobbies like skiing (which the women don't do) and yet be submissive to her, while she proclaims how hard her life is to her equally vacuous friends.
@@eddy-currents Perhaps you are referring to some girls of the younger generation? I know soooo many SG women who are not like that. I wish I could do even 1 thing you mentioned. But never had much time on my hands except to work 6 days a week in poly to support myself through sch because my mom was too poor to pay for our sch fees. The 1 day I didn't work was because of a long school day. Immediately after finishing my exams, I started looking for a job. Was sole breadwinner for family, caring for ill mum and late grandma until I married at 28. I have worked since I was 16 and never took a break from work until Sep 2018 to look after my ill mum and 3 young kids. Things didn't work out with the helper hired to care for my mom. There are several women I know who have suffered many tragedies in life and things start turning around for them only in their 30s.
"No I don't need tuition. I need time to study, I have none. My free time is used on house chores, and baby sitting my siblings, one whom is a toddler. And all because you and step dad wanna go out and have fun."
To mak Izzati, what your daughter needs is ATTENTION & LOVE. Ape guna dia study pandai-pandai tinggi-tinggi dekat university kalau tak rasa kasih sayang from her own mother who busy working everyday. Sorry saying from my own experience 🙂
My auntie divorced and married to an English man many decades ago. He was a very kind person. He chose not to have more kid and he took care of his step kids as if they were his own. In my opinion, the step father of Izzati and Izzah did not treat these girls like his own kids.
Izzatti is super mature! If I’m her mum I’ll be so proud of her! Parents should speak to her teachers to find out more. It may not be as bad as they think.
The mom is putting too much on the oldest daughter’s shoulders. Just because she didn’t do well doesn’t mean she didn’t try bc I can tell she worked rlly hard and it was stressful for her. I can relate bc there will be so many subjects I try my best on but the results aren’t as what I expected but it doesn’t change the fact that I put my best out there. Instead of making her feel bad about herself the mom should’ve comforted her and encouraged her to do better in the future
Izzati's mom reaction when seeing the report card is truly the same with my mom's reaction when seeing my report card tho,i know how it feels
Lol better you ask your daughter if they have problems not asking “ if you love me?”.
parents of izzati are so mean to her. the way the mum said “i just want her to go the poly route and do something that makes me happy” was questionable.. shouldn’t izzati be choosing a course that she herself likes? why does it matter if u like it or not? also not u studying?
and just because izzzati’s results weren’t as high as the amount of effort she put in, was it necessary to ask “with this kind of results, do you love me?” that’s CRAZY! to relate high results = love for parents. so every time i fail a subject i hate my parents. every time i score well i love them? as if results are that easy to control?
poor girl i hope some day her efforts are recognised. she’s doing the best she can and deserves the best.
He wants a sixth child...😂
And what's up with the dude saying there is no point arranging for tuition. At least give it a try. There r many places offering free tuition.
So,the malay family... only the mother work? The step father only goyang kaki? I'm a malay also.. but looking at the malay family... smh!!
fatim ah he drives at night.......
She failed because she’s looking after your other children and she’s very unhappy
Despite the grades I think Izzati will become a successful person
why do Malay mothers always say, "do you love me?" when teenagers are expressing their thoughts?
I don't like the step dad. He just don't want to spend money on his step daughter
Ya And His The Worst He Needs More Responsibility
Blowing up that swimy thingy was so funny 😶 😂.
hey sis, you should totally leave this man with your two daughters. you don't need this man and can do so much more on your own.
At 6:32, u guys forgot to blank out the child's NRIC number on the report book. Take note.
im blessed my parents arent like that :,))) i hope izzati will stay strong
Izzati & her sister are awesome girls. They are well composed and well mannered. They r a big help in their family but bear in my mind that they are ur kids too, d eldest 2... god bless these 2 ladies❣️
This is my 2nd comment about the stepfather and in this episode im here to say that he's hopeless + useless as a (step)parent. Wants to be a househusband but 0 for effort. Lol.
Hello uncle wake up your idea! 🙄🙄
Reading comments and theyre mostly about the stepdad and how the mom is emotionally blackmailing the daughter.
While i definitely agree, i hope these 2 parents do not take this chance to further use this negative public opinion on them to put pressure on the daughters at home. Like they better not make the daughters feel bad cuz it's none of the daughters' fault that the negative lights' on dad/mom.
I wish the 2 daughters the best in studies & life 🤗
He had the audacity to ask the mum to supervise the daughter. Why can't HE do it omg??? And when she suggested tuition, he kept blocking her idea at every turn. Like you don't wanna help, fine but you're stopping the mum from seeking help elsewhere??? Dude. What exactly is his problem???
@@ebonyloveivory Ikr i dont see what roles he fit as a father.
If he dsnt want to help he could at least try to say the right things or nothing at all when the mother tried to find options to help her daughter improve her grades.
Hopefully reading everyone's comments serve as a wake-up call for him.
you all can say bad things about the malay family. but their kids are the most well rounded throughout, polite, responsible and work hard, even though maybe not academically gifted.
so despite all your backseat judgements, the malay family is doing something right. the kids from the Heng and Lim family, apart from 16yo Crystal, the rest all got behavioural, attitude problems.
@@hilmir Are you the father lol but anyways ok i said what i had to say and you said yours congrats 🙄👌👌
“But im in ur Instagram right?”
“But i got alot of accounts what”
LOL
I was very very very turned off when Izzati's mum asked, "Do you even love me?" when she learnt of Izzati's exam grades.
GOOD LUCK IZZATI!!! I did my olvls last year ~ tbh my mid years was quite bad too but it's okay!!! there's still prelims and the most important is olvls itself
It’s ok izzati try harder the next time round I also scored quite bad for my exam 2 F9 and a D7 in my report book still haven’t settle the situation plus my F9 is below 20. Don’t be sad
Will she have the next time round is the question
It’s ok izzati, I flunk my o levels big time, 13 years later I’m doing pretty well in life 😄 as Long you work hard, life will work out
mY CUPBOARD HAVE A HOLE!
A glory hole that is
i feel so bad for izzati, at least she tried
these forms of parenting are questionable. your kids are going to grow more distant with you in time.
Man this 4 part series rlly made me realise how lucky I am to be the only child...
Me too
lol, that zainal guy. just lol. sorry, i feel the need to make the obvious slightly more obvious.
Okay the stepfather is a monster
Hes The Worst Monster
Don’t see this enough in the comments section but good job David! Guy is really trying and it’s really heartwarming to see :-)
If you guys didn’t see, the grades ( top to bottom) was, C5, A2, F9, F9, F9, E8 and C5. (SA1)
Izzati tried her best. you cant just SEND HER TO TUITION. Be like my mum. She's strict but kind.
Heng's Family, the day will come you, as a father, will look back to see your lost time with your children and how much you would want to redeem those times you hv lost but couldn't. Appreciate your time with them, and appreciate and be thankful you hv a wonderful n great wife, and mother to your children. Wealth n prosperity cannot be bought, prioritize your family n children, pay attention to the eldest daughter, have individual times with them to talk to them heart to heart. Bring them up well is the most successful n fulfilling thing in life. You are doing well, keep your efforts up, appreciate n cherish them
be strong izzati..you have far more potential in the future, with those kind manner and attitude you will go far. Don't let few poor exam results get in your way.
izzati and izzah's parents... no words
My father is the Lim family. Love the dad being the best provider of them all.
it is strange to say the malay family has the wrong way of parenting but yet their kids turn out to be the most polite, responsible and connected.
apart from crystal, i find all the other kids and teens in the other two families problematic. laziness, attitude, health problems, fighting, rudeness etc.
obviously, the malay family is doing something right.
mom:how do you feel about having your own room?
melody: i need a new cupboard..my cupboard HAS A hole!
Oh my goodness the fathers in this show need to stop trying to control everything and give more practical help. All of the older children seem so depressed and overwhelmed and need love and support not constant criticism. This is why I think having a big family is not fair unless you know you have the resources. Children are a lot of work, time and money. The fathers don’t seem to be making an effort to understand how the other members of the family feel. I struggle at times with two kids who are generally well behaved so I can’t imagine how challenging it must be with this many. Once you have children I think you have a duty to consider how your decisions will affect them. I felt sorry for Izzah who is trying and wants to do well but is obviously struggling and finding things hard but her parents berate her rather than love and support.
manz,, i wanna give izzati a hug,, i did rlly badly for my exams in sec 3&4 and i still did okay for Os and went into poly,, shes receiving too much stress just to live up to hers and her parent’s expectations. :(
Maybe the mother should throw the whole stepdad away...
I feel bad for Izzati. I feel her. She studied but she still failed and her mum said that she don’t study hard enough because she dont love her..... Although Izzati’s mum is like this Izzati still feels bad and blame herself. Childhood aren’t supposed to be like this :( and the stepfather gosh... no words for you man you obvly don’t care cause she’s not your biological daughter. A good father is someone like Bryan’s father (the father speaking mandarin near the end) he just wants his kids to be happy and he works hard without asking anything back from them. That’s how a parent should be like you should know when to stress on your child and when to comfort them not always stressing them and blaming your child.
Just grind out past year O Level papers, especially 2018's Math paper. Know your weaknesses, make sure you got your strengths on lockdown then you can focus on your weaknesses, topic-wise then subjects-wise. Mid-year and prelims are usually one of the harder exams for a good scare so definitely don't need to worry but don't let your guard down because Cambridge can drop some questions from 15 years ago which you've not seen in the TYS. Also, pray for the bell curve to not mess you up cuz that thing can pack a punch. It's a good thing that the mother shows her true emotions because it serves as a pushing force for her child to get that last bit of effort into studying.
WHAT is Report card got to do with "LOVE mama?" school report card?
astounding that nick has the ambition to buy a house for each of his children
Poor family's daughters become the mother's free maid.
Rich family's daughters have freedom like the sons.
Poor family always sacrifice the daughter.
Poor family treasure the son.
Rich family treasure the son.
I think when the mom said "do you love me?" i felt that.my parents use to say that....
don't ever ever use that line: do you love me or not, how can you love me if u failed?? instead of guilting her, encourage her, if she needs help, provide it. gawd i hate that
I feel so sad for the young girl failing her subjects. Educational standards today are far toooooo demanding and stressful for a young person. My heart goes out to her. She should be encouraged not given a choice for conditional love.
"To send her for Tuition" does this mean to get a separate school teacher to help Izzati with her studies? If this is what it means, then she really needs a school teacher or separate school teacher. What's sad is that her step-father can't see that she can't study by herself. She really needs all the extra help she can get which means more talking to her teachers at school and weighing out options for academic support and less time being a mother to her younger siblings at home. It's painful to see that she feels she's a disappointment to her parents. No child should feel that way just because of school grades.
The heng family is almost like the loud house 7 kids 1 boy 6 girls lol
Just putting this out there
Secondary school mid year, end year and preliminary exam results are not really good indicators of how well the students are doing, they are typically way way harder, I'm not even exaggerating, I got 25-35 for my l1r4/5 for prelims but for olevels 11/16
Olevels are way easier and students should practice with actual olevel papers