I was diagnosed with Disassociative Identity Disorder. I embraced it. I embraced and valued every single Identity. I knew that each one came into being to protect me in one way or another. The ones that were the most reactive, held the memories that I had walled off and I felt respect and compassion for them, because they have the greatest burden. Once I established communication with my system, I was able to trust that they were all committed to one healthy goal and work on it, when I wasn't present. I listened to everything that they had to tell me and I did my best to help them heal. Now, that I can remember a lot more of what happened to me, they have gone dormant and I miss them.
That is true. I based the comment on the fact that both Swartz and Anderson either are or have been on staff at Harvard. I have also noticed that other presentations on the web are sometimes from Harvard grads. Sorry for any confusion.
Ha! I’ve always been questioning why I’ve never dissociated although I got a traumatic childhood. This is the first time I’ve heard of sleeping as a way to dissociate - and damn have I slept! My dad always said to day care or the school that every time I got an injury, I became sleepy. And as a kid I always asked to go to bed way before my bed time. Now it all makes sense. Thank you! ❤️
Thanks!--'Consciousness comes first; it is the ground of all being. Everything else, including matter, is a possibility of consciousness. And consciousness chooses out of these possibilities all the events we experience.' Amit Goswami
I recently read No Bad Parts & it was a lot to take in. This video really helped me to understand the types of parts more. I’m a visual person, so the diagrams here were helpful. Thank you!
I am glad that you talked about the Dissociation part. That was the first part that surfaced in my IFS Therapy Session. My second session I backed off. I am not sure if that was the same part or a different part. Still trying to figure this out.
Really learning a lot from this and is helping me understand myself, and others, and brings me hope as well as strategies I can put into practice daily. Thank you
Wow! What a thoughtful and informative video. It really helped me understand IFS. Your clear and concise presentation assisted me in having a fuller understanding of IFS. Blessings, e, ATX
Thanks for the video. You make it so easy to understand. I had an experience with a psychologist that traumatized me; she was pushing me about my shadow, my exiled parts and I wasn't understanding what did she want. Finally, I felt forced to name parts like if I had multiple personalities. It took me a while to realize I was naming emotions, inner critic, traits like personalities. I felt so much pressure and I didn't know how to name them I used animals as symbols, for instance, swan was spirituality, dolphin was joy, lion was strengh...and my mother's voice was a boa constrictor...that psychotherapists almost drove me completely nuts. I still have to deal with my childhood traumas and dissociation but I was having terrible nightmares with reptiles. I don't have so many nightmares and when I have them, they have human faces, I am not dealing with a zoo.
Infographic is great and the way you described many areas is also great, however some biases there I think... Like calling manager functionally dysfunctional (as this is sensitive part of ourselves we are dealing with I feel we need to be careful with every word)... as well as saying that the goal of IFS is understanding the protector parts as key to unlock the exile parts. Altho that is true, isn't the purpose of IFS to talk to the exile parts, befriend, release them, and that would be the whole point of IFS?
I am familiar with IFS from my therapy and from helping others while training for my msw - I was looking for exactly this video to send to someone who might benefit from it- I also felt quite emotional watching it. Really really great summary.
Just curious.. are you reciently a graduate of __ Level ifs Training?. i really like the style of the learning screen with words for options < for parts > to identify with. I've been thinking this for a few months ... Cheers good job.
Not all but many narcissists have some kind of addictions if not many. They can be addictions to substances or without them. I don't know much about IFS but I guess they have strict managers, fearless firefighters and shameful exiled parts but I don't know about the Self. Good question.
I really love IFS as a story, but I've never been able to consciously contact any parts. I have been very frustrated trying to tangibly reach any parts. My inability to contact any parts, makes me wonder if this is all pretend. However, I also can't follow guided imagery or be hypothesized. An IFS advocate could say, my protectors are not allowing me to, but how do I know that's real or just a non provable statement? I should mention one last thing, that gives me hope about IFS. Many many years before I ever heard of IFS, I had an occurrence that really left an impact on me. Here is what happened... I was lying in bed in a semiconscious state, feeling bad about myself (a usual feeling for me), I was thinking about how dumb I was & going over a recent embarrassing moment I had, when ALL THE SUDDEN... I realized there was an automatic "background tape" "that was playing in my mind. It was a voice, but it wasn't coming for outside my head, it was internal dialogue. It was literally saying "you're stupid, you're an embarrassment, you mess everything up, everyone hates you" I remember thinking, as it was happening, this is a direct line of why I feel the way I feel! Even though this internal voice was telling me horrible things, I felt it was a breakthrough that I could tangibly see why I felt the way I felt about myself. HOWEVER, I almost immediately had another thought. That other thought was "this is what schizophrenics go through - I need to shut this down immediately before I end up hearing voices all the time!" I decided right then and there, I would rather live out the rest of my days in shyness and self loathing, then succumb to being a homeless insane person who hears voices. I have never been able to contact to contact that voice again, and I have been trying ever sense I discovered IFS over a decade ago.
i've found then when i go to a breathwork class, after a while of circular breathing i'm able to enter a sort of meditative state which seems to make it easier to have these sort of internal conversations, perhaps a similar state to your semi conscious state, you could give that a try, and also as you could break your agreement with that vow to never want to hear voices, the truth is most people hear voices although many wouldn't put it in those words. I'm just a novice but i thought i'd mention this ✌️
We all have internal dialogue. Also known as internal dialogue, inner monologue is a voice inside your head. It occurs due to certain brain mechanisms that make you hear yourself talk without actually speaking. This “little voice in your head” is a common occurrence, but not everyone experiences it. Your inner monologue can be your greatest supporter and worst critic. It serves many different purposes, such as giving advice, helping with directions, rehearsing tough conversations, and much more. From IRIS reading at the speed of thought.
I liked it until you called Manager parts functionally dysfunctional, this type of language is really pathologising and would not be used by IFS as it could induce shameful parts. 😕
I can easily read or hear his language as purely descriptive and not laden with judgment. Self harming or self-destructive are other perfectly good terms for parts like what he is describing.
Genuine question: I know IFS therapists have encountered the demonic but being secular/atheist naturally struggle to accept that the very thing they have just encountered actually exists...! When in IFS you encounter the demonic (a spiritual entity that needs rebuking or delivering) how do you engage with this without the authority of Christ…The name above ALL names..?
Thank you for this extremely clear and succinct explanation of IFS. One of the best I've watched on CZcams so far, as I continue investigating this modality.
I was diagnosed with Disassociative Identity Disorder. I embraced it. I embraced and valued every single Identity. I knew that each one came into being to protect me in one way or another. The ones that were the most reactive, held the memories that I had walled off and I felt respect and compassion for them, because they have the greatest burden. Once I established communication with my system, I was able to trust that they were all committed to one healthy goal and work on it, when I wasn't present. I listened to everything that they had to tell me and I did my best to help them heal. Now, that I can remember a lot more of what happened to me, they have gone dormant and I miss them.
Bless You Ona Ari😇
The end intent of healing the parts is integrating them in our Self (hearts). If they are dormant it means Self is not ones center yet.
@@MS-zb6gr How do you know.
@@kimlec3592 because I have lived it and still on the journey. There is no end to journey of integration.
good for you .
Nice summary of the model. I was taught that Richard Schwartz discovered and founded this model, not Harvard.
That is true. I based the comment on the fact that both Swartz and Anderson either are or have been on staff at Harvard. I have also noticed that other presentations on the web are sometimes from Harvard grads. Sorry for any confusion.
You are correct.
Yes & he was at Harvard.
I appreciate how you began with the self, then exiles, then protectors.👍
I have shared this video many times. and excellent and concise first introduction to the IFS model
Ha! I’ve always been questioning why I’ve never dissociated although I got a traumatic childhood. This is the first time I’ve heard of sleeping as a way to dissociate - and damn have I slept! My dad always said to day care or the school that every time I got an injury, I became sleepy. And as a kid I always asked to go to bed way before my bed time. Now it all makes sense. Thank you! ❤️
Thanks Kenny, one of the best descriptions of IFS I have come across!
This is such a succinct primer for IFS ! When will you have the rest of the series? Please make it like this one. Excellent work
Thanks!--'Consciousness comes first; it is the ground of all being. Everything else, including matter, is a possibility of consciousness. And consciousness chooses out of these possibilities all the events we experience.'
Amit Goswami
Dissociation is a strategy & a true gift.
Even the videos of Schwarz itself does not explain the theory better than this, amazing work
I recently read No Bad Parts & it was a lot to take in. This video really helped me to understand the types of parts more. I’m a visual person, so the diagrams here were helpful. Thank you!
Oh wow your comment is exactly the same for me! Currently listening to that book and I need to see it visually to truly understand
I am glad that you talked about the Dissociation part. That was the first part that surfaced in my IFS Therapy Session. My second session I backed off. I am not sure if that was the same part or a different part. Still trying to figure this out.
Wow, after reading No Bad Parts it sure is nice to watch this animation. Very helpful. Thank you!
Richard Swartz developed the IFS model
Really learning a lot from this and is helping me understand myself, and others, and brings me hope as well as strategies I can put into practice daily. Thank you
Hey! Thanks a bunch! Great to know it's helping.
Wow! What a thoughtful and informative video. It really helped me understand IFS.
Your clear and concise presentation assisted me in having a fuller understanding of IFS. Blessings, e, ATX
Nice overview that could be helpful to clients and introducing IFS to therapists. Thank you!
Thank you for breaking it down this way. It was much easier to understand.
Thank you so much. One of the best videos explaining IFS.💯
A wonderful resource that I plan to share with my new parts work clients as a primer!
Thanks for the video. You make it so easy to understand.
I had an experience with a psychologist that traumatized me; she was pushing me about my shadow, my exiled parts and I wasn't understanding what did she want.
Finally, I felt forced to name parts like if I had multiple personalities. It took me a while to realize I was naming emotions, inner critic, traits like personalities. I felt so much pressure and I didn't know how to name them I used animals as symbols, for instance, swan was spirituality, dolphin was joy, lion was strengh...and my mother's voice was a boa constrictor...that psychotherapists almost drove me completely nuts.
I still have to deal with my childhood traumas and dissociation but I was having terrible nightmares with reptiles. I don't have so many nightmares and when I have them, they have human faces, I am not dealing with a zoo.
I’m sorry you had that experience!
Infographic is great and the way you described many areas is also great, however some biases there I think... Like calling manager functionally dysfunctional (as this is sensitive part of ourselves we are dealing with I feel we need to be careful with every word)... as well as saying that the goal of IFS is understanding the protector parts as key to unlock the exile parts. Altho that is true, isn't the purpose of IFS to talk to the exile parts, befriend, release them, and that would be the whole point of IFS?
I am familiar with IFS from my therapy and from helping others while training for my msw - I was looking for exactly this video to send to someone who might benefit from it- I also felt quite emotional watching it. Really really great summary.
Excellent video. Thank you.
This is a solid intro to IFS. Thank you!
Excellent intro to IFS ! Well done 👍
love this way of teaching
- thank you
Such a great explanation
Yo Kenny IFS was originated adn developed by Richard Schwartz and you do not give him credit.
Great video, thank you
Yes! I love ifs thank you!
Thank you for the information. It was helpful.
Just curious.. are you reciently a graduate of __ Level ifs Training?. i really like the style of the learning screen with words for options < for parts > to identify with. I've been thinking this for a few months ... Cheers good job.
Not by Harvard Based Educators. It was developed by Richard Schwartz. (He may have went to Harvard, not sure about that.
Very helpful! When will you have the other videos from this series?
I wonder if this can help those who have personality disorders . Like narcissism …
Not all but many narcissists have some kind of addictions if not many. They can be addictions to substances or without them. I don't know much about IFS but I guess they have strict managers, fearless firefighters and shameful exiled parts but I don't know about the Self.
Good question.
Good job
I really love IFS as a story, but I've never been able to consciously contact any parts. I have been very frustrated trying to tangibly reach any parts. My inability to contact any parts, makes me wonder if this is all pretend. However, I also can't follow guided imagery or be hypothesized.
An IFS advocate could say, my protectors are not allowing me to, but how do I know that's real or just a non provable statement?
I should mention one last thing, that gives me hope about IFS. Many many years before I ever heard of IFS, I had an occurrence that really left an impact on me. Here is what happened... I was lying in bed in a semiconscious state, feeling bad about myself (a usual feeling for me), I was thinking about how dumb I was & going over a recent embarrassing moment I had, when ALL THE SUDDEN... I realized there was an automatic "background tape" "that was playing in my mind. It was a voice, but it wasn't coming for outside my head, it was internal dialogue. It was literally saying "you're stupid, you're an embarrassment, you mess everything up, everyone hates you"
I remember thinking, as it was happening, this is a direct line of why I feel the way I feel! Even though this internal voice was telling me horrible things, I felt it was a breakthrough that I could tangibly see why I felt the way I felt about myself. HOWEVER, I almost immediately had another thought. That other thought was "this is what schizophrenics go through - I need to shut this down immediately before I end up hearing voices all the time!"
I decided right then and there, I would rather live out the rest of my days in shyness and self loathing, then succumb to being a homeless insane person who hears voices.
I have never been able to contact to contact that voice again, and I have been trying ever sense I discovered IFS over a decade ago.
i've found then when i go to a breathwork class, after a while of circular breathing i'm able to enter a sort of meditative state which seems to make it easier to have these sort of internal conversations, perhaps a similar state to your semi conscious state, you could give that a try, and also as you could break your agreement with that vow to never want to hear voices, the truth is most people hear voices although many wouldn't put it in those words. I'm just a novice but i thought i'd mention this ✌️
We all have internal dialogue. Also known as internal dialogue, inner monologue is a voice inside your head. It occurs due to certain brain mechanisms that make you hear yourself talk without actually speaking. This “little voice in your head” is a common occurrence, but not everyone experiences it.
Your inner monologue can be your greatest supporter and worst critic. It serves many different purposes, such as giving advice, helping with directions, rehearsing tough conversations, and much more.
From IRIS reading at the speed of thought.
@maryseibel Not everyone has an internal dialogue, it is called Anaduralia
I liked it until you called Manager parts functionally dysfunctional, this type of language is really pathologising and would not be used by IFS as it could induce shameful parts. 😕
I can easily read or hear his language as purely descriptive and not laden with judgment.
Self harming or self-destructive are other perfectly good terms for parts like what he is describing.
You could assume he didn’t mean anything negative.
✅Good video
👍🏼
Asking for a friend....... what is a Self?
And where is it?
I just heard about this yesterday, I am sure it’s well explained, but I am confused😂
I would like to share your video on tiktok, are you agree? are you there so i can write your name? Thank you
Genuine question:
I know IFS therapists have encountered the demonic but being secular/atheist naturally struggle to accept that the very thing they have just encountered actually exists...!
When in IFS you encounter the demonic (a spiritual entity that needs rebuking or delivering) how do you engage with this without the authority of Christ…The name above ALL names..?
It is too late.
this is brain rot
Thank you for this extremely clear and succinct explanation of IFS. One of the best I've watched on CZcams so far, as I continue investigating this modality.