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Disabled ADULT told she’s not allowed in the pub without a parent
“We’re a pub not a creche.” What do you think about this? Has anything like this happed to you before?
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I get infantilized just about every time I go out in public.
Also their is always someone to ask some intrusive questions like asking me how I use the restroom.
They couldn't even be bothered to spellcheck that announcement - it's "accompanied", not "accomponied" - so why should they be taken seriously?? 🤦
I was told once I would be in the way at the pub at this hour it was midnight, I was with friends and just trying to have fun. Yes it was busy like any pub. But this was so rude and humiliating that they did not want me in the pub because some drunk people might get hurt because of my chair sticking out! I had no words but we went to a different pub as I do not want to go to that one again!
I feel aged when I use a mobility aid at the grocery store. I hear "madam" constantly and it took awhile before it registered that they were wanting to ask if I needed help. I still hear that a lot near the registers as the staff are eager to escort me to a shorter line or a disability friendly checkout, but when I first started shopping again after surgery every time I went into a different department of the store an employee would appear to ask if I needed help in their area. It was unnerving and I didn't want the help, but some of the shelves were out of reach so it was nice that they were nearby, though I think they were tidying up the isles more to be available than for a need to do it. The staff stopped asking and just said hello after a few weeks but they were more visible than is typical for the store. It does seem that some places seem to expect that disabled people must have someone accompany them so they can function, but to make an announcement that a disabled adult needs to have an adult with them is something that if said or posted should give an immediate "did I say that" from the person making the announcement. I've gone to places and asked if it's handicapped accessible and been told "yes, you just need to get down 3 stairs" or told yes, only to find that in order to open the disability access door someone needs to go up 2 flights of stairs to enter the building and then go through the building to open the back door (my local town hall and post office building which thinks it's accessible). It's annoying to know that I need someone else to open those doors, but to actually be told you need an adult to accompany is offensive. If I had that happen when I was 18, I wouldn't have gone anywhere, at 49 I'll tell them that the 3 stairs means that no it's not accessible because to someone in a wheelchair it might as well be 100 and I've learned that if I need to access the local gov facilities that they need a reminder that they are not accessible and that I expect the door open when I get there . . . yes, I can be obnoxious but these places need to here these things to understand.
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Most older pub owners are usually not highly educated though not necessarily stupid.
This is absolutely mad that in 2024 disabled people are subject to this type of discrimination. I as a newly disabled person struggle a lot everytime I need to travel to London using the tube, and my main concern is "what if I get stuck because there's no lift?" 😖
Such a worry. Puts me off public transport 😔
I literally would be housebound without car. I’m not a wheelchair user (yet), but have many debilitating conditions, which makes incredible difficult to get out. Unfortunately most of people who is not an amputee or paralysed considered as fakes, and nothing wrong with them. I’m often even accused with shoplifting, because my big bag (for toiletries and changing, which I have to have with myself in case I don’t reach the toilet in time) and that I spend too much time in the shop… yes, I’m slow and used to check the labels, not just for the date and price but what ingredients they have or other necessary information. Have Can’t Wait Card, what not always recognise and think it’s just an alibi to go into restricted areas, sometimes having stairs to climb. I cannot even imagine how I could manage in a wheelchair, because it’s already hard enough!
@@Wheelsnoheels Been to Manchester, Liverpool, Leeds etc on a trains with no problems I do avoid peak hours though. Only issue was once a train stopped due to line repairs at 11.00pm and arranged a bus to take the passengers to the next stop. The bus was not wheelchair accessable. We will get you a taxi they said. Taxi showed up at 4.00am it was long a night!!
A big thing is genuinely remembering that all it takes is one car crash, one illness or one incident to become disabled. If you only care about yourself, at least fight for more inclusive things because if something happens, it will suddenly affect you too. If you care about others, do it because you have empathy and because you want other people's quality of life to improve.
thanks for sharing
I was ID checked yesterday, I'm mid-40s. I tell people the chair takes 10 years off, they don't believe me till they see it.
I use a walker. This works the opposite!
@@RebeccaGogovcev I use a walker sometimes too, although I don't think I've tried to buy anything age restricted while using it. I shall have to experiment!
@ShakespeareOfBorg I'm curious too. I don't use a chair yet. I have MS.
In what world would the staff not help Jenny?! I'm disabled myself but if I saw someone having to crawl up stairs, I'd at least offer to help them up. That is literally the bare minimum.
The staff should be absolutely ashamed of themselves!
Gem I adore the content and just last night I attended a venue and was told I couldn't wear my comfortable boots because they weren't smart shoes. I explained how due to my eds I had dislocated my big toe joint and couldn't fit my foot into my smart shoes. The owner of the venue came and I explained why I was wearing my version of an ugg boot. Fortunately he was very understanding told the doorman that it was a disability issue and I was permitted entry. This could've spoiled my evening but the owner gave me drinks on the house all night as a way of saying sorry. Proof some people see beyond and go beyond for disabled people.
If some other patron had been wearing a 'moon boot' or plaster cast, do you think they would have received the same comments about footwear as you did?
it just takes some common sense and compassion sometimes , glad you had great night, a win 🙂
I havent gone out alone for so many years. Being stranded somewhere bc there is a navigational barrier I couldnt account for is one of my biggest fears as a disabled person in public spaces.
It’s DISGUSTING to laugh at someone period A. The lift wasn’t working when she started up the stairs, B. You shouldn’t laugh at people anyway and C. (Not in this case but still) some people don’t want to use lifts they WANT to challenge themselves to get up steps. We shouldn’t laugh at them for doing a challenge. The staff that laughed are disgusting and should know better. I’d ask for their names and who is their boss then report them and ask that they go on a training course about disabled people.
agreed it shows a lot of ignorance, thx for sharing
LOL I live in a very small town with 2 restaurants. Until recently I had never been to one of them (a bar restaurant) because they only use the street level when they have live music in the evening which is about once a month. Otherwise they are open daily but only serve upstairs.
So for over a decade I lived 3 blocks away and never ate there.
I was complaining about that to a neighbor recently and she got a funny look and said "Why not just use the elevator?"
I was gobsmacked. They have an elevator?! I asked where the elevator was and she pointed to the stairs and said"The doors are right under the stairs there.
Sure enough, there's an elevator there. Sigh.
Jen, there is other inaccessible issues that I have come up against, like a continual wait for an accessible home
The home issue. In Qld Australia they only want to have double storeys. They'll pull down often reasonable homes and replace with two double storey ones.
Her name isn't Jen, it's Gem.
@@pjaypender1009 I know, auto correct..
I'd love electric charge points out and about for my wheelchair, why should cars and phones have charging but not wheelchairs.
Yeah that would be good?? Is it a special outlet you need?? Or a standard outlet?
@@Wheelsnoheels I'm not sure how they work but I'm often caught running on almost empty in my wheelchair and it would be great to have places to pay and fill my battery on days out.
I don't know what type of outlet you need, but if it's a standard outlet, then there might be stores that would allow it especially if you are a frequent customer and it charges fast. The big grocery stores and warehouse stores (Sams, cosco, bj's, etc) often have electric scooters for customer use at the enterence and probably wouldn't mind you charging there. Restuarants often have outlets throughout the area for the vacuum cleaner and I've occasionally been allowed to charge my laptop at those outlets while having a meal, so that might work though the outlets are not always close to the table so transferring out of the chair to sit at the table while it charges might be a problem. It doesn't hurt to ask at places, there will probably be more no's than yeses but just a few "yes" answers makes a difference.
@@vm1776 mostly no due to pat testing rules and also cost of electricity. It's embarrassing when you get told no and imagine if every Tom dick and harry filled batteries for free. I've found IKEA allows it. But we live in a country with electricity points for cars and mobile phones but not mobility points where we can purchase refills. Madness
This would be a game changer.
I wonder if electric wheelchair users are limited in how far out of their house they can go because of the battery life issue.
I've had such a time with our local council over playgrounds. Our local council who took out a main playground that was very nicely wheelchair accessible and had a fence all the way round. Sadly no play equipment for disabled children though. So when a new playground was proposed we mistakenly thought it would be better. Nope. A brand new playground that is only wheelchair accessible in a few places, no fence at all (obviously affecting all parents of fast running toddlers too!) and only one basket swing suitable for disabled children. One. No other consideration at all. I could no longer take her to the park by myself in my chair. I needed a supporting adult. Their decisions affected not only safety but my autonomy in creating a care support need that was not already there and would cost me money. Their reply to my letters was that they had provided funding to a special needs centre. I replied that that was all very well, but it wasn't publicly accessible nor did it address the lack of access for disabled parents. This was a few years ago and now they just ignore me and the other parents who write to them.
Typical politicians. Like asking in the supermarket why the milk is bad and them replying by telling you they have bread...
the lack of concern can be so hurtful, thx for sharing
As a wheelchair user, I hate lifts! My real gripe is where there’s only one lift and no alternative. I always prefer ramps. If a lift is absolutely necessary, there must be at least 2 that are not in any way co-dependent.
a ramp is less likely to go out of order 🙂
A ramp from one floor of a building to the next would need to be about 150 feet long to stay under the 1 to 12 maximum slope for a ramp. How's that supposed to work?
I was just going to post, “and…" But I worried that you wouldn’t understand. There will be times when a lift is unavoidable, but there are many buildings where ramps have made the unnecessary. It’s really more a case of having the correct mindset.
Could the station staff not have told her that the lift was getting repaired and would be up soon?
That Lift had been broken for Months!!!! Yet when they saw the woman shuffling up the stairwell it was because of her they Actually took Action found someone to repair the Lift as they knew she was filming and they were trying to do damage control but failed miserably! It only took the station staff 15 mins to get someone to fix and lift working again despite the fact it had needed fixing for momths!
you would think so
@@whereloveblossoms Wow! How shameful of the transport authorities. No major change has ever happened from people being 'nice' - it always seems to take a radical act to bring forth change. Then we get trolled for being 'angry' because pwd (and women) are not supposed to get 'angry' according to our patriarchal societies. We are supposed to be 'grateful' (puke).
@@lupeyloops246 100% Agree its disgusting! Especially in 2024!
Actually they had the number of the disabled at 15% of the population before the pandemic and 25% after the pandemic according to the Center for Disease Control. The sad part is people don't understand unless it affects them. I really appreciate what you do. We have to show them what it is like from all kinds of disabilities so they can try to understand the difficulties we deal with everyday.
Went out to eat with my family yesterday for grandfather's birthday. The restaurant was so tightly packed everyone kept bumping in to my wheelchair, the ramp to the front door was so steep that it was a real safety hazard and I had to walk to reach the non-accesible bathrooms. I felt really awkward and judged by the staff because they couldn't properly walk past me. And to ad insult to injury, a group of people decided that despite there being a huge front yard and stairs, the access ramp was the right place to smoke. It's just so frustrating!
WTF? Grrrrrrr
that does sound frustrating I've been in similar situations ,thx for sharing
Local restaurant, restrooms, not able to close stall door, if someone opened the restroom main door, they restaurant had a view of me.
@@clarettaskelly709 I'm so sorry to hear that! That's unacceptable
I really don't understand why it can't just be standard to make all charging stations a standard (accessible!) width and place things at a standard height.
Having the spaces be an accessible width would benefit people with mobility aids, yes, but it would also benefit anyone leaving their vehicle while it's charging who has kids or animals with them. Most charging stations along long stretches of road over here in North America are going to be at truck stops with bathrooms and food service. People are going to take the whole family out of the vehicle while it sits there for half an hour or more charging. It also opens up a guaranteed gap for people walking through the parking lot.
Making things a standard height would benefit not only people sitting in mobility devices and people with limb differences, but also just people who stand significantly shorter than average. Standard heights also means muscle memory will aid in completing charging tasks in low lighting and won't lead to injury because you just shoved your hand into a pole when you were expecting a movable object to be there. Plus, I don't think I've ever come across a gas/petrol pump that didn't put the dispenser cradles at roughly the same height. I've seen plenty of stupid curbs and oddly placed screens & card readers, but the dispensers themselves are pretty standard.
Thats disgusting that the adult had to have a parent or guardian with them
Hi Gemma, I’m mobility disabled and just changed my EV to a hybrid. Why? Because the charge cables are incredibly heavy and difficult to manoeuvre. I struggled so much with them. I used Instavolt as they were almost always in good working order but I’m finding the full hybrid so much better. I would not recommend an EV to anyone with mobility issues as there is hardly any space to get around the car to initiate a charge, the charger is too high, some cars (mine was an MG Excite ZS EV) have the charge point under the front grill, also not easy to open as you have to thump it to open the spring opener. I now have a Renault Clio full hybrid and it’s so much easier. I’ve only had it three weeks but I’m so pleased with it. It is also for travelling distances as full electric on a long journey is not easy. You’re always planning the next charge stop. I love your vlogs and find them so helpful! Vanessa (Aussie living in Yorkshire).❤
thanks for sharing that's good first hand info, i think i would prefer the hybrid also
That is so wrong Gem, disabled people are wrongfully discriminated, it’s 2024 not 1824! 👨🏻🦽
Totally. So sad this continues to happen 😭
I was born with my disabilities I would never make fun of you I think you're a gorgeous person Gemma
You don't look like a mother you look like a beautiful woman Gemma
The real kicker is that it is 2024, and we have not learned from our past. The electric vehicle market is relatively young instead of accessibility, being thought of in the beginning, it’s still an afterthought it will only cost more money to make things more accessible in the future (especially when we ALL have to start using electric vehicles )
It should be law that new inventions have to be disability friendly, eg: braille, wheelchairs, accessible doors and seats, maybe even hearing aid bluetooth compatibility.
true.
I’m in my 30’s. When I was in my late 20’s and buying things some places were ok and let me buy things, others asked for ID. My local asda when I was at college let me buy alcohol without ID but once when I tried to buy a craft knife from my local Wilko as I’m a crafter I was asked for ID. Thankfully I had my passport in my handbag. I look slightly younger than I am because I had stunted growth due to a brain tumour (now removed) when I was in my teens. But I moved in 2020 and now EVERYWHERE i buy things that are age restricted I get asked for ID not just sometimes. It can get frustrating at times. Even freeking buying food from Ocado I get asked for ID at the door if My mum has ordered alcohol & my parents are out when the delivery comes I sometimes get asked for ID.
I'm in the USA and alot of places have a policy that they card you if you look under 40 or under 55, that way everyone expects to be carded and no one should be offended. But the gas station in town put up a sign that said they card you unless they know you are over 75. So now you see people getting their license out as they walk across the parking lot and the clerk doesn't have to ask she can see it right away. In our state the drivers licenses and non driver's id's show the information horizontally if you're over 21 and vertically if you are under 21 and if under age 21 it states on there what date you'll turn 18 and what date you'll turn 21 if you are under those ages when you get the id. I found this interesting to see that my kid's id's were formatted different than mine but it makes it very easy for a cashier at a glance to see if you're under age.
it must get very frustrating ,thx for sharing
@@vm1776 well I’d rather everyone got ID’d/carded than in uk where they just look at you. Some people look older who shouldn’t have things and some look younger. I like the “we make everyone” so no one can feel discriminated against.
I hope someone watches this in government. Because its just the tip of the iceberg, disabled people can make a real positive difference to society if only we are given an opportunity.
The Tory government care least of all!
Agree. I think it is a problem in a lot of countries. Sometimes small changes in workplace and transport options could mean the difference between someone with a disability being able to work or not.
I think you look young… You have good skin. I was last ID’d at 42! Saying that, the lady who couldn’t enter the pub without a parent or guardian is completely shitty.
As always Jen I really enjoy the video. That’s really frustrating that as you said accessibility is still an afterthought even with new technologies like the charging vehicles and I think that the train station should have someway of holding those employees accountable for laughing at Jenny. That’s definitely not acceptable customer service policy.
agreed thx for the comment
Me and my husband went to the Egyptian museum went up the lift in my wheelchair we loved everything that was in there but when we was ready to come downstairs in the lift it had broken down omg how am I going to get downstairs now with that 4 Egyptian men 2 on each side carried me in my wheelchair down some huge steep concrete steps to the bottom floor I thought they were staff but no they were just visitors like we was I could not thank them enough for their kindness that day true gentlemen 😊
We have a hybrid and live in the USA and we would not get a full electric car living here. I am in a wheelchair.
I have a motability car and it is due for renewal. Trouble is the advanced payments are very biased toward an electric car(I have spinal difficulties and so need a 'tall car'(can't bend back at all). To the best of my knowledge there are NO disabled bays with charge points in my area. It bad enough that whilst an able bodied person can park in a long stay car park and come to town for the day, A disabled person cannot (max 4 hrs in all disabled bays).
That’s so true. I’ve not really thought too much about ev’s, but there are some difficulties cropping up 🤯
Max 4 hours in disabled bays while long stay is inaccessible sounds like illegal discrimination to me...
@@Mx-Alba They get around it by saying there is places where you can park for longer. Trouble is the two places are at the far ends of town (not the middle) and they are just a lay-by that others including taxis can use. no extra room and you fight for a place. Often if I have managed to park there, you come back and the person behind has not left any room so I can't get in and have to wait (often an hour). The crazy thing is that there ARE disabled bays in the middle of town that are put of the way. Cause no problem and were originally no time limit (behind the Odeon cinema. This was great because twice a week the cinema had 'silver saver' on two films, one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Carers would leave us at the cinema and go shopping. meet up again at lunch then have the afternoon free for themselves. Knowing that the person is safe and entertained. The council stepped in and changed the bays to 4hr max. As a result of this the cinema has LOST a lot of people and stopped putting on the silver screen apart from once in a week. So insane council strikes again!!
@@salan3Yes, heaven forbid that people find something that works!
@@Wheelsnoheels I've recently left the motability scheme after many years because of the 'forced' move to EV's. I live in a rural area and charging points very few and far between. I was speaking to my mechanics this morning about EV's and he said he had more worries about how quickly a mobility impaired person could exit the vehicle if it were to catch fire. There have been cases locally where vehicles have gone up in flames rapidly. The whole thing needs a serious rethink. I haven't looked into EV fires but it is certainly worth looking into.
I had a similar experience like Kesey but I was discriminated against my disability with my assistance dog in training.
I was going to my local Wetherspoons to meet my friends I had my assistance dog in training with me she had her bandana on saying she is off duty and the manager stated she is not allowed in unless she has photographed identification stating she was a asstance dog i told the manager that if you are owner trained you don’t get id and under the disability discrimination act you don’t have to prove that she is a assistantce dog. This victimised me and. Belittled me
that sounds terrible im so sorry to hear that 😒
Crown n Cushion?... I'm guessing it wasn't a wheelchair cushion then?... I thank you... I'll show myself out!
I am disabled person I know what it is like to be discriminated against my disability ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
As someone below stated, we're all one illness or accident away from being healthy to being disabled.
These people who laugh need to remember that anyone can become disabled at any time. Hope they never have to but you just never know
Thank you for making these videos. I’ve been a subscriber for a few years now. I’m not disabled but I learn from you. I wouldn’t be aware of just how difficult our world is to navigate for the disabled without you bringing it to my attention. Thank you for opening my eyes.
thank you for watching
Wonder if London marathon will give equal prize money to other disabled athletes
as far as im aware its for all elite athletes www.bbc.co.uk/sport/athletics/68367195
There is a parking garage in Fort Lauderdale that puts charging stations in the handicap parking spaces!
My parents have an EV, we were at a charging point one time she g ets back in the car after finishing charging and says "there is no way you could own an EV, theyre completely inaccessible!". Its really frustrating!
Going out with friends in a wheelchair we can't travel together as only one wheelchair space is allocated per bus / some trains... taxi's won't often take me as my wheelchair doesn't fold. Also speaking of busses the new bus-stops round my area don't have a accessible ramp, they've been build.... 5m away from the station but there's mud in between so i can't actually get to it.... I'm in horsham in a new build too so there was hope! :S
it really puts me off public transport but for some people its the only option so more thought really needs to go into these new builds , it can be so frustrating
Disgusting illegal discrimination. Howevwe, better than getting upset, do not patronize, do not put your money, at assholes' businesses.
Even my mother finds it normal that the world is not accessible. It is too much hassle.
systemic ableism is very hard to undo, sorry to hear that
Regarding the sporting prize money, we first need to get all elite female athletes to be paid the same. If we can't even get this sorted I'm not sure when we'll get to making sure elite disabled athletes are paid the same.
yes as a women also i agree women should be paid there equal worth
Hi I became wheelchair user with sci after an operation but because this happened when I was 69 I found that because I was retired I couldn’t have mobility payments and I also couldn’t get a reduction on my road tax because I didn’t have mobility allowance so once we are retired it seems like we aren’t worth thinking about.
I love your channel and find it very helpful.
my Grandmother had parkinson's and was in a similar situation to yourself , it doesn't seem fair if you've paid taxes all your life,thnka for sharing
Another informative video I learnt a lot I’m a 90% wheelchair user with my limited arm movement and the fact I can’t move my head at all an electric car as of now would be completely unusable to me.
thank for commenting
I live in Texas, very recently I was in the hospital, apparently I had a spleen infarction and my body keeps making blood clots. When they brought me to my room they hooked me up to an IV with heparin. They helped me to the bathroom and seen me use a cane. I came in with my wheelchair as I’m an ambulatory wheelchair user.
They put a bedside commode next to my bed since not only was I hooked up to an IV I informed them I’m a fall risk, because they seen me use my cane to go to the bathroom they felt I could walk. That was until one nurse seen me fall onto the bedside commode. She made sure I had the fall risk sign put on my wrist and I was told to call them when I needed to use it.
The next day a nurse came in and asked me how I was doing .I told her my back hurts. ( I have back issues along with other problems that make me a fall risk. )
She replied “Why don’t you just get up and walk over to the bathroom?”
I replied I would Love too. However, I’m connected to this IV contraction that I am not suppose to detach because of the heparin that’s saving my life. So I would need help, and if you haven’t seen (I showed Her My wrist ban with the yellow fall risk sign) I replied I’m a fall risk. I never know when I’m going to collapse. My knees , hips, legs or back could give out on me at anytime. That’s why I’m told to call for help. I’m tired of the mixed messages I keep getting from this staff.
So if you want me to get up with this IV in my arm and attempt to disconnect this from the wall and go to that bathroom by myself when I’m told Not to put myself in a position of falling or being around sharp objects because the blood thinner could cause me to bleed to death then fine.
She then apologized for that remark.
Some nurses are not the brightest bulb in the pack I've found or she mustn't have had much of a "handover" of patients when she started duty.
I've never in all my life, experienced this... I don't think
Wow 😮
I thought I had been it easy. I hope she gets justice for that. I am not a drinker but I would respect the wheelchair person but discrimination is upsetting.
Personally Having FND I Have Learnt If I Just Speak up & ask For Help , While not expecting that the world is made to mach me . Most Of the time people help me & apologise to me for having to ask for help . Yes we Are disabled & yes it is hard but we can’t expect that the hole of the world is made for us too
There's nothing green about an electric vehicle. From the mining of cobalt to the need for coal & oil fired power plants to power the EV.
its a big broad issue
@@Wheelsnoheels EV studies prove that they pollute 1,850 times more than gas powered engines. If you want a fast car that goes from 0 to 60mph in 6 seconds, that's cool, I'm all in with that. But ev's are not green-friendly.
It really looks like a lot of work for Jenny going up those stairs especially for someone who is disabled and also in my late 30s myself that you still look really lovely and you look more like if you're in your late 20's.
Because I am a large gentleman who has to a wheelchair there has been many times that I have been refused entry into a restaurant or shop, because the location is unwilling to accommodate us
I was speaking to a group of social workers. I reminded them that as we all drive to work, they are all one drive away from joining my club. I asked them what choices they would like to have made for them.
Re charging points, Motor slitty are pushing's down the electric viable route. Why are they not campaigning?
Great video
I had to ask a fellow customer in a supermarket to get something down from a top shelf yesterday for me. She did it happily and then patted me on the shoulder and said “Oh, you are doing so well” as if I was 5.
I’m 58 and honestly, doing a bit of shopping on my way home isn’t something I need to be congratulated on. I find it so wearing having to deal with this sort of thing every day.
Exactly this. 😕🌹
While on the other hand I, with mental disorders, NPD and social phobia, would LOVE to hear someone congratulate me for daring to go shopping on my own. I'm often dismissed or misunderstood when I ask for help with things, since my disabilities are invisible, and everyone assumes I'm a typical uni-student that has "normal" capacity. And I ask for them to show me something, or to repeat things, and they get angry and rude because they don't understand why I act the way I do. I'm always terrified and in an anxiety state when I speak with strangers, so it's not so easy to make them understand I'm ill and have special needs. I wish there were some magic words I could say and everyone would understand, be nice and helpful towards me.
Worst part is I'm extremely sensitive to other people's feelings, so if someone is rude to me I break down. The anxiety, guilt, justified anger and depressive emotions run so high and take so long to fade out, so my entire day or even several days are destroyed. And I will avoid doing whatever I tried to do, just so it will not happen again. I hate interacting with strangers out in public. I'm so unsafe.
Coolio, thanks for the playlist! And, of course, for the nwe video!
GRIDSERVE UK has a charging forecourt at Gatwick Airport. They have *one* accessible bay, but they do help Disabled drivers who can't get out of the car charge up.
thanks for sharing
Hi, that is all well and good, but I can guarantee that the person in the shop will be multi skilled in all aspects of the site. What happens when you are ready to be disconnected and they are dealing with a line of customers? One is now stuck and are effectively a hostage? Do you call 999? They are not likely to have just one person on standby to disconnect you. If I am proved wrong then I apologise.
It makes me so mad that people with disabilities are still being treated this way. What is this, the 1950's? Much of society is incredibly ablest and thinks that people with disabilities are less than human.
Able-bodied people have no right to tell disabled people when they need assistance or caregiving. Period.
Totally
I don't have a physical disability but I do have an electric car and indeed, a lot of charging points are not wheelchair accessible. So far, I think I've only seen one case of an actual intentionally accessible charging point, at a large Tesla Supercharger, where two of the bays were exclusively reserved with wheelchair accessibility in mind. Most roadside slow chargers (11-22kW) have "normal" parking spots and you often have a curb to contend with.
thanks for commenting
My advice for an electric vehicle would be to find a hybrid that doesn't require charging. There are hybrids that charge the battery while driving. A friend has one and it works great.
Fully electric are fire hazards, same for electric bikes (I unfortunately require an e-bike or I'll end up back in the wheelchair full time as a regular one is costing my body too much effort).
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To say that an adult over 18 must be accompanied is ridiculous, as you said in the video, if the disabled person needs a carer for that visit they will bring one! Plenty of people with a wide range of physical, intellectual and/or mental health related disabilities can go out independantly. Also, if we were to play along with this daft rule, what makes the adult accompanying the disabled person qualified to do so? Why don't the friends that this young woman was meeting count as accompanying adults as they must have been over 18 to be allowed in under the new ruling? Again not that she should have had to be accompanied to be allowed in.
Not that I believe this young lady had been behaving inappropriately, but if somebody with a disability is behaving inappropriately (provided it is not part of their disability eg someone with tourettes having loud tics that may involve words or phrases that someone could consider offensive should get a pass since its a part of their disability that they cannot help), they should be treated like any other patron would in that situation. What I'm trying to say is if someone is behaving abhorrently and disrupting the other patrons, eg being violent, abusive or destroying property etc then sure it would be fair for the landlord to bar them as they would anyone else, but that would be a ban because of bad behaviour, not just because of a disability and there is a huge difference. The way the young lady was treated by the pub was cruel and humiliating, I really hope that she and her friends take their custom elsewhere in future.
I did see the orriginal post about the lady in the underground and while the situation with the lift itself was awful, the comments section was absolutely disgusting, I mean truly vile. I can only hope that despite the comments being full of trolls, its still engagement so hopefully it will still push the algorithms to show these posts to more people, and maybe, just maybe they'll be seen by someone who will take the message on board and consider the accessibility needs of others. That lift though had apparently been out for about a month, yet within 15minutes of the lady starting her stairclimb on her butt an engineer had arrived and got it working again. That tells me that TFL couldnt be bothered to fix it so just left it and suddenly called the engineer when they realised someone needed it. Also for fire safety reasons surely the station should have an evacuation chair to assist disabled travellers in the event of an emergency, why couldn't the staff have got that and actually helped her instead of standing around laughing, being useless and obnoxious? Of course TFL commented on the post saying they they were sorry and would investigate etc, which then lead to countless replies from disabled people who had been failed by TFL, recieved similar responses from a TFL representative only for nothing to happen. One person has even made 6 reports of 6 seperate occasions of ableist abuse from the bus driver on a route they needed to use regularly only to hear nothing until the 6th and worst incident involved the police and thats the only reason any notice was taken of that complaint. I think that sums up perfectly how much TFL cares about accessibility issues and the comfort and safety of disabled passengers.
Yes, Yes, YES! Sister tell it-Sound it from the East to the West all the way around the World take out the barriers keeping wheelchairs, using walkers, canes and those with invisible disabilities. I’m not in my chair (my chariot) unless there is a lot of walking involved. My mom had Poliomyelitis as a kid she used an iron lung for quite a long time her entire left side was affected. She had many corrective surgeries to extend her left leg as she grew but she had a, “baby foot” there were no rehabilitative surgeries developed at the time to correct the size of her foot. She started using an electric indoor scooter and latter a wheelchair when she was in her late 40’s. There were many place she could not enter before the State of Ohio, USA attacked and removed barriers everywhere if it was open to the public the building was legally required to be accessible it took 10-15 years complete the mission the the mid 1980’s. Wright State University was built as a totally accessible campus with adapted sports gymnasium, dormitories, and classrooms! Unfortunately the rest of the U.S. lags behind but there is progress and we keep fighting for EQUALITY IN
i use public transport but the stations usually have 1 lift per platform - we should have more lifts in case one breaks down - good example of DLR which upgraded some stations have two lifts each platforms but I agree its needs addressing for example follow DDA laws - if we added ADA law or more simllar - its enforces right of disabled people and make places accessible so I hope Goverment understands why we need accessible - we need is more lifts - not just single lift serving the platforms because one lift can break and create barriers for disabled people - if there was 2 or 3 lifts then its more accessible
Also with aging population the demand for lifts may increase.
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Last year I was told that myself and other disabled people who needed a campervan, due to not being able to camp in a tent, could no longer attend the, Yorkshire Pudding Rally, put on by Magic Action Promotion Ltd on behalf of the East Yorkshire Motorcycle Action Group, because they are no longer allowing customers campervans on site.
They say this is due to H&S as it is a small site.
It is a 3000 limit event. Bands, traders, and marshals, can attend in campers.
I drive a Ford transit long wheel base, which takes up the same space as a 4 man tunnel tent, and there are no limits on how many of them are allowed.
I have complained to no avail, even though this is a clear violation of the Equalities Act 2010.
As always a great video!
My son is fives and uses a manual wheelchair. We are thinking of selling our house and leaving the country we live in to go somewhere that is more accessible for him. 2/3 of the shops in our small coastal town are up steps to the main entrance and there are no ramps or accessible entry.
Exactly we need more diverse disability access and yes I agree with the accessible playground I was a disabled child too I had trouble getting up on the playground structures luckily most of my classmates knew about my disability and two of the girls in my class would help me and I’m still friends with them today and I would have trouble getting onto the swing because the fifth graders would put them high and being the shortest child in the class that has Hypotonia and can’t really lift herself up and it made it really hard because the swing kept moving luckily one of the fourth grade girls still friends with her too had helped me.
As for seeming like a minor I got seen as an underage person well into my 30s not having mobility aids, I am just short (1,58m/5’2”)with a babyface and a young voice.
A day after I turned 30 someone needed to check my walls for cracks in my rental, first question was “hi is your mom or dad home?”
I just smiled said “no I am the main renter please do come in.” (He was announced in a letter there was to be some building work nearby and for insurance reasons they wanted to see the state of my walls in case vibrations would cause cracks or so).
Also as for disability while mine is hidden I can attest am disabled, not allowed to drive a car because I lose control over movement at random, I can’t use a bicyle on my bad days (no not even a tricycle as someone once suggested for me because it isn’t a balance problem, but a control of body movements problem so I’d have it on a tricycle as much as a regular sadly). I do love kickscooters because I can stay on the side walk and adjust, so am trying to find some nice ones I can use around town to be a little faster than walking, perhaps foldable (but with air tires!) a bit so I can take it on public transport easier, as those things actually do aid me so I guess one could say a 🛴 is my aid even if a little unusual… but then I have a rare movement disorder so ah well whatever works best for a person, right?
I have children talk to me as they think I'm another child.
thanks for sharing
On the flip side with the ev charging points, I've seen Carparks in my town turn formerly blude badge/accessible spaces being turned into EV only spaces that yes are wheelchair accessible(but not restricted to blue badge holders), but now there is no accessible space in that car park for disable people who do not have an EV. I also have major concerns re phasing out internal combustion engines as most people on my street do not have drives. I need to park directly outside my house because of the distance I am able to walk combined with the huge amount of energy (that I just dont have) it takes to get my wheelcahir in/out of the car, if I cant park close enough to the house I cant go out. If by some miracle the council where to put onstreet charging points on my street and one was close enough to my house to be useful for me, I wouldn't be able to park outside my house anymore because everyone else would be using it. I'm not saying they wouldn't be entitled to use it, but others parking outside my house would essentially make me housebound.
I noticed Gem got a house with a disabled parking bay in front. Could you raise the issue with the Council?
yes this is true i did request a parking space with the council , that would be an option although it is not specifically mine other disabled drivers have used it at times @@TheMazinoz
In South Australia there are conditions where people can have a 'permit parking space' whether it is for local residents (not visitors) or pwho hold a permit to park or perhaps have a DPB (Disability Parking Bay) placed in front of your home. During construction of a disability-friendly home in my neighbourhood, the local Councillor was investigating the need for a DPB to be created. If you have evidence that you need a dedicated space on your street near your home, there must be some regulation or loophole that can be exploited to achieve that - or (hope of hopes) create a new bylaw for everyone in your situation.
i dont have a wheelchair but i have a leg brace and a walker. there are times i have had to get up and down stairs at train stations staff have never laughed and other people have helped. that was horrifying to see the staff acting like that. oh the normies should remember that they are one slip from ending up with mobility aids. it feels to me like they are so scared they are overreacting.
Thanks!
Oh wow thank you so much for your support
I have solar panels (way to expensive) , but I don't want to pay the high price for these EVs.
I have a hybrid focus Estate. So far it's been brilliant. I dont have to charge it as it does it whilst driving, I just fill it with petrol. I personally would never go full electric as not only do I think theyre unreliable but also dangerous. You can barely hear them therefore making them a hazard for vi blind folk and wheelchair users whose vision is restricted by height.
My concerns are exploding batteries, ability to escape from an accident with automatic doors and windows and getting hacked. But blind people must really be worried. I know they really listen at crossings etc for motor sounds.
thanks for sharing
I have live in carers and often have to pay full price for a carer to come with me even if they don’t do the activity and just sit and watch. On top of paying double on public transport to get there it often means I flat out can’t afford to do things like my peers. The amount of times I’ve been told “we don’t think this place is for you” because of my accessibility needs is unreal. For context I’m actually able bodied but it’s my brain that’s not OK. On the flip side, when a place embraces my differences or my needs I’m over the moon and will make an effort to visit that cafe or gym for example. I joined a leisure centre about 6 months ago and they’ve been proactive about reaching out, asking me what they can do to make sure it’s accessible and safe for me, and let me know I’m valued there.
Also my team and management at work are amazing at helping me access work and feel like an equal employee. I’m so grateful. But the buildings team keep overriding this, they won’t make the toilet accessible for me so I have to have £30,000 a year of access to work support worker so I can go to the loo at work… it would cost like a grand to make the building adjustment I need…
I also noticed that EV charging points replaced handicapped parking spots so even less parking for us
i have noticed this happening to
I've noticed this as well
I remember that station staff on the tyne and wear metro reportidly turned away people that needed to use the lift when the station was exit only due to escalator faults, when the lifts at other metro stations in newcastle city centre were out of service (one station had broken lifts, the other station was modernising its lift, the only working lifts being at the exit only station, and the station where you would have to take a 30 minuite jorney just to get to the platform of the station that is exit only, as you wouldn't be able to change platforms at the station with the out of service lift, oh, and even if you would have been able to use a cheaper ticket if the lifts were working at the other stations, if you did decide to take that 30 minuite jorney, you would need an all zone ticket)
I have an electric car and recently took it on holiday for a week. None of the charging places were accessible, and if I didn't go with mum I wouldn't have been able to do it. It's so bad I won't go further than I can without using a public charger any more. When I get my next car in a years time I'll be going back to a hybrid or petrol.
Thank you for these videos. 💖
I had a “best friend” discard and shun me in February and say that I should be locked up long term in a psych ward simply because I couldn’t reach my therapy team and dared to break my silence by texting my innermost circle because DIDN’T want to leave life early even though my brain was trying to convince me otherwise.
Oh, and this happened less than 48 hours after coming home from busting my ass to make her milestone birthday at Disney World everything she wanted it to be. SMH
I couldn’t give a single 💩 about Disney and did it all for her with enthusiasm and an open mind. But I can't break my silence to save my life?
(No, I don't expect my besties to be my therapist, just a simple ounce of compassion was all I wanted)
So sorry you went/are going though that. Friendships are hard. I struggle with them. I hope you are as ok as you can be. 🙏🏼
Hi Gem, great video. I have been banging on about public charging points for a bit! As you say this is new technology so why not make it accessible for all.
Once again the government have been weak and have not insisted that all public EV charging bays are accessible. Instead they recognise the problem and are encouraging the suppliers/installers to "Do the right thing" and make them accessible which of course they wont because if they make every bay bigger, they may loose out on installing about four or five bays and thus loosing money.
There is a British Standard that covers EV Charging, but it is a standard only that and installers are not bound to follow it. It will only come into being once it goes to court and the installers are questioned as to why they did not follow the standard. To bring it to court will me you or I taking out a private prosecution of the company involved. Which will not happen as we do not have the time or the energy to do this, so this will continue. What is even more surprising is that the majority of installations are allowed under permitted development on sites, so the local planning authority don't want to know either!
What disabled people really need is a body like Trading Standards, whereby all access failures in all walks of life could be reported to and they be given powers to prosecute the offenders. This could range from guide dog refusals to taxi's to railways and to EV charging points. If companies had this threat over their heads, then change would come very quickly.
OK, rant over! Alex
Good idea. Also what if a group of people affected by a disability banded together and got a lawyer to take a class action against a company?
that's a great comment Alex thanks for sharing
@@Wheelsnoheels Thanks Gem!
That's gotta have been nervous laughter, when it dawned on the ppl at the station that the broken lift got mended the SECOND this poor girl got to the top of the stairs!... no one really actually thinks that's funny...right?
Crazy thought here, but surely asking for ID would have sufficed :P
it wasn't and age issue it was a disability issue , though she was of age the pub still insisted she needed a parent with her
Yesterday I had an experience with TFL. I had been out for the day and I was just getting the bus back so I could get the train. I went into the disabled loo at the bus station, it was right by my stop so it took me 10 seconds to get back from leaving the loo. I was literally leaving the toilet when the bus pulled up. My partner said my girlfriend's in a wheelchair and she's just coming, can you deploy the ramp. I was seconds away. He mouthed something, shook his head and drove off, leaving me stranded. He must have seen me. My wheelchair is bright orange and I was in a bright green coat. The loo was maybe 10 metres from the stop.
It was awful. I was so upset and we had to get a taxi so we wouldn't miss our train.
That is sick my father was in the Vietnam War my great uncle Paul was in World War II may God Rest his soul between the both of them I was taught to talk in the right light So I have what they call a photographic memory where you can remember a lot of things I'm intelligent I've met people look stupid before
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Wheelchair user here. I'm still on the fence about the laughing... I feel like it was more of a natural response than a joke at her expense. Just kind of like a haha the irony " haha I'm sorry you just had to crawl up the stairs" I'm not that person so I couldn't say definitively but I feel like that was the tone. Please don't come for me but I feel like I probably would have had the same response. I feel like I actually have had that same response to myself in that same situation.
national grid has stated that the electric grid cannt cope with ev charger points and nor can the demestic supply to homes -- they are cause power outages/blackouts due to over loading the grid - plus companyies are not being paided for the electric charge points usage (electric being used) plus most are not safe to use due to people being electricuted and over problems like cables being stolen
Yes, copper theft is a problem in Qld Australia. They even dig up cables for the copper.
it seems there are some big issues here about going electric, thanks for commenting
Please could you do a video on disabled toilets in restaurants.
i will see what i can do 🙂
@Wheelsnoheels Great topic! I live in a city which prides itself on its food culture and yet so many restaurants do not provide accessible toilets. The worst is when they furnish their restaurant so tightly that once people are in their seats there is no way to get access between the front door, the table and the toilet! One gets trapped and then the indignity of having to ask multiple people whether they would mind getting out of their seats in the middle of their dinner is mortifying. Not only that, from an onlooker's perspective, it looks like *I* the wheelchair user is the problem troublemaker disturbing the peace when the problem is the establishment.
Hi
I'm seeing your videos on CZcams for quite a while now and I like the work you're doing for disabled people.
I also a disabled and using electronic wheelchair. As I'm Muslim and went to perform my umraah to Saudi Arabia this month but while I was coming back airport officials didn't allowed my wheelchair batteries on airplane saying batteries are not allowed.
As I don't have a platform to raise my voice I want you to talk about this issue in some of yours and ask for suggestions what should we do if something like this again
Regards
Remember the older Superman movie with Christopher Reeves well I was at the Special Olympics when I was very young around the USF SunDome they have an oval erase around and Christopher Reeves actually pick me up before he got kicked off at 4:00 that was the worst thing that ever happened
People think you look like a what? Sorry I didn’t get that. I honestly thought you were in your mid 30s. I’m 38. You definitely don’t look like a child. That poor, poor girl having to crawl up those steps and then have grown men laugh at her!! This world really disgusts me how they treat us
Some bars are very funny butt even at an older age I don't drink that much if I'm going to a bar is probably a Chutes and darts
I also find that when people talk to us weather we’re asking what way something is etc they talk to my husband but a lot of the time they don’t look down at me it’s so rude I feel like shouting hi am here as well I can listen too another one is say we’re in a queue and a person says looking down at me it’s all right for you your sat down god I could scream it’s bloody rude I hate it
When I was younger my mom made me actually go to this Nursery and my sister both so I was on top of the slide and this kid shows me right off the top of the slide bust my head open Oscar that happened my sister got up and made him not working done that do you acting like he was her UFC component
EV’s are made to doomed …
How do I say this nicely? Uh... Are you planning to keep that intro?
It would be very upsetting, as an adult to be denied entrance to a pub. It was mentioned that the young lady had some child like behaviors. I would hope that she would be allowed to go in if she sat with her friends. Though I can see how the pub might not admit her if she wasn’t with friends...I feel like if she were by herself with her somewhat child like behaviors, she might fall prey to sexual assault, etc.
+Wheelsnoheels *I brainstormed an accompaniment to "Theme from **_Disability News_** ( Vocal / Bebop )" crediting yourself as Composer and Lyricist.* Have ye a Mechanical Copyright Protection Society (MCPS)-, Performance Right Society (PRS)- or Phonographic Performance Limited (PPL)-affiliated Publisher? If not, I'll brand this songlet "Copyright control."
i don't a hundred percent understand would you like to email me the mp3 if there is one ??
@@Wheelsnoheels *I'm constructing said theme proposal in Cakewalk Music Creator 5 - at least I was, before the ASUSⓇ CM1630 went down for S.M.A.R.T. calling out a failing SeagateⓇ ST31000582A (the original HDD that shipped wi' the CM1630).* Considering a stock-upgrade HDD of 2TB, as Windows 10 SNAFU'd attempting a Security Update (the Recovery partition in the original HDD is undersized).
*Update:* Said computer is back up as of 14 March 2024.
To be fair, lifts break down. I think we failed to celebrate the fact that they actually cared enough to get it working again even if they were a little late to the party. I would have been amused by the situation too, so I'm not upset that the workers laughed. They weren't laughing at the disabled person, they were laughing at the irony of the situation.
As a disabled person myself who has faced all the frustrations of trying to navigate an inaccessible world, I have found that humor and looking on the bright side is sometimes the best way to deal with things. 😂
I do hope it was ONLY the irony of the situation that they were laughing at. It is hard to tell from the video, the intent of the laughter.
@@Kitty76037 True. I have chosen to assume the best. I have had a few bad experiences as a disabled person, but by far the vast majority of people have gone out to their way to be helpful to me. 🥰
@@ChelleOnWheelsI thought this too. Black humour, though it can at times seem insensitive.
Hi Gem, all I can say about your first 2 stories ………DISGUSTING!!