I understand why people say that moms know best. But in reality, they're still human. No one is right, all the time. Moms can still be prejudice, irrational, insecure, overprotective, unreasonable, etc. Generally speaking, it is good to consider their perspective. But people shouldn't take their opinions as fact.
You are so right, my parents till now are rejecting my husband because he is from a country they don’t like. They didn’t even give him a chance to introduce himself to them. Till now they haven’t met him.
I hear this segment and I’m crying my eyes out. I miss my mom and talking to her. I miss hearing her advice and giving me words of affirmation and assuring me that things will get better. Even if your mom gets on your nerves, cherish her. You never know when’s the last time you’ll hear her voice.
So very true. My mom was the best. I miss her a lot, but the good thing is that she knew I loved and respected her while she was alive. Don't take them for granted..they are not perfect, but neither are you and in many cases they've given you the best while taking the left overs.
Grisel Blanco , I did too! My mother passed over 3 yrs ago & we were really close. She was one who didn't hold anything back. I know most people consider that blunt but I love people like that b/c I'd rather someone be upfront with me than be fake. My mom kept it real & I truly miss her & her advice. 😢
BeautySyndromeBaby tbh Freddie and Jeanie went in together planning not to have children, so in reality he wasted his own life. But we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors so we both have no idea of the circumstances
Naomi P a lot of what she was saying i had a feeling about already. i used to feel like she would put up a front about how happy she actually was in the relationship. Especially when she would talk about wanting marriage but still in a 5+ year relationship not heading towards it. He probably only proposed because of how they would talk about him on the show.
i don't remember exactly since its been a couple of seasons. i believe that they (i think mostly tamar) was asking adrienne about her relationship with lenny in terms of how long they were together and why he hadn't proposed to her about being together for 5 years.
Roxana Romero yes . On tia’s yt she talks about her favorite memory with her father is her father daughter dance. And she wish he was still here :( they also posted on Instagram. It’s been awhile now
This is so true but I choose to be private. Once you start telling your Mom/family your business especially about your love life everyone is quick to start judging and throwing opinions out for free. 🤨😒
Omg your comment is so accurate! I recently spilled the beans about my love life to my family and now I'm hearing all the judgement. Next time, I am keeping it private!
Definitely. I feel like they talked a lot about the emotional factor here, but what if your mama don't like him bc he's a different race, religion, his personal beliefs, his background, his job, etc. Maybe straight up she just doesn't think he's cute and she doesn't want ugly grand babies? 😂😂😂
YOUR absolutely right. My mom didn't like my husband when we was dating because she was jealous that someone else was taking up my time and it wasn't her she didn't like him still after we married UNTIL 4 years later after all of a sudden I needed a lung transplant and he did EVERYTHING and stood by my side every night in the hospital for 3 months and she saw just what a man he was. If I listened to her inn the beginning I would have missed out for no reason at all. So yes its definitely a case by case decision
I really like this, especially what Adrienne said. But sometimes, Mom doesn't know best, because they are not there all the time. A mom's gift of discernment is not always fool proof because people are complex and can change for the better. My sister married a guy with a bad past, and my mom hated the situation so much that a wall came between them and they didn't talk for a long time. After my sister's 8th wedding anniversary and second child, my mother realized the guy is changed and said sorry.
i understand mothers worry, i am a mother myself. However, my mother didnt approve of my husband at first when I introduced him because of cultural differences. So much that she didnt even show up at my wedding. But I knew my husband was the right one and now hes her favourite son in law...So I dont necessarily think mothers always know best, based on my experience.
Same here. My parents did not care for my first boyfriend. I was 21, he 22 and they were like don’t put your eggs in one basket, there are plenty more guys out there. My mom especially, “ I don’t like his hair, his sense of style, he only cares about one thing etc. “ Well 7 years later, that first boyfriend is now my husband, a teacher and currently works with my mother, who is also a teacher. And my parents LOVE him now!!! Sometimes you just got to push through what your parents believe if your belief is greater than theirs. Also patience is a wonderful tool in this situation !!!!!!
You will live with him not your mum. I believe it isnt their place at all. I would never let a love go for my mum. I didnt choose my dad either, so let me live.
Usually mothers have legit reasons why they don’t like your partner. I mean my mum is really smart and can smell a rat a mile off, so if she could sense something she would say.
Some parents are also abusive and controlling/narcissistic. Parents are just people too and have insecurities and their own intentions and sometimes humans are selfish.
I understand what a lot of you guys are saying but from my experience, if my grandmother doesn't like someone, run for the hills. That woman is NEVER wrong about people.
When you’re grown they can’t dictate your life anymore. Sometimes they know you’re not in a good situation but, you have to know that for yourself. Not just because your mom says so.
What Adrienne says is so true!! The wrong person can def make you feel like you’re cold and distant when all you actually want is true love and affection! If Israel really brings out the best in her than all the more blessings to them
Yes moms could feel pain that you are going through. My mom until now, still hate my first ex bf. It was 12 years ago but still, she didn't forget the hell I've been through because of that person. Their opinions are very important but it is still your decision at the end. If they truly love you, they will respect your decision and will learn to accept it.
It makes me cry when Adrienne talked about her mom. I’m scared when my daughter gets older. This also made me think of my mom. When you with someone with a negative energy it changes you and you become that energy. I really believe that mother knows best.
I thank God that my mom met and loved my (now) husband before she passed away. They were able to bond for 4 years. In hospice, she introduced him to everyone as her son years before we were even engaged. I’m at ease knowing that she approved and would’ve wanted us to marry. I know that she’s smiling down on the life that we’re building together.
Like Loni said if your parents aren't sleeping with him then they have to let YOU be the adult that you are and make a mistake if that what it is. I'm a parent and my job is to be there for my child and to provide her with the security to know that if he does break her heart like I expected but do not wish on my child, I will be there always. My mums parents weren't supportive of my dad and 27 years later here they are still married.
But it would still hurt you to see your kids get hurt, and you would wanna protect them, right? If you could somehow prevent your kid from getting hurt by someone you feel ain't right, wouldn't u do everything to try and prevent that?
SilverTongue Yes of course when it comes to natural disasters, fires, etc, but someone they love? No. My daughter is my child, but she's a human being with her own mind & heart. My job is to raise her well so she makes good decisions, but part of that is trusting myself AND her. Cos I can't protect her from everybody and I want to so while she is a young child I will. But once she's 21 and a legal adult in my culture if she chooses to love someone I don't like I'd rather love her so much she leaves on her own rather than forcing her to do something just because I think it's a bad idea. I've learned this from my friends. I have close friends who I worry about, but I'm not God. I'm not so perfect that I can save people with their own mind, free will, and sense from their choices. I CAN love them though and be there for them like I will always be for my child. Cos there's always the what if. My granddad tried to have my dad arrested to keep him away from my mum and it didn't help. It resulted in a 30 year marriage lol.
My uncle said in front of me and my mom "your momma don't like your boyfriend, but hes a good boy. I can tell he loves you and treats you right. Your mom is probably judging him Until he proves her wrong. But either way, it don't matter. At the end of the day, you're having sex with him or doing whatever with him. Never decide to be with someone based on someone's judgement. You have to learn. You have to have your own heart break. You have to experience this for your future." Needless to say, me and my boyfriend are going to make 4 years in June ! And my mom let him moved in (we sleep in separate bedrooms) because he has no one in this city. His family left to another state.
Ain't no way.! I'm assuming your about 18 and he's about 19/20 bc there's no way in the world a grown man would be staying in my house.... And with that being said I'm also assuming they think/know y'all having sex and I know parents can't control every thing we do but she's basically saying get my daughter pregnant I don't care...
chelsea Moore never really heard her say that but I would ask her just in case that's in her priorities. Like I said, to each their own. Don't assume stuff about my mom, you don't know her, me or my boyfriend. Just because you have different perspectives or a different opinion, you don't have to come off rude. I think it's more of a respect relationship. Saying "he can stay but he has to pay rent. He can eat but he has to help out bringing up groceries." I respect my mom. You can think whatever you want about me. But don't talk about my mother or assume what she wants just like you wouldn't want anyone to talk about yours
My mama might not like my man, but my man loves eating what my mama made, if you get what I'm saying 😏😏 PS I love #HoeChronicles and I read your comments religiously
Moms know best BUT mine is too harsh/expects people to be perfect and is very judgmental, projects her insecurities so I’m very skeptical with what her judgements are....
K de la Cruz lol is a Virgo? 🙂 or maybe she has that sign in her chart somewhere ... look up the actual number day she was born, that will tell you a lot
This is what I said to my 19 yrs old “if someone taking you away from GOD he is not for you” by all mean also a friends. I didn’t have growing these godly talk with my parents. Ever since I was born-again my life about God doesn’t mean I know everything. Yes--Doesn’t mean we don’t eat with sinners. Best things to do pray for everyone listen to THE HOLY SPIRIT. The end of the day we are not fighting against Flesh and blood. Bible said Ephesians 6:12 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Even every since I become Christians my husband’s family don’t still approve me. We been married for 20 yrs. One thing I told my daughter if God wants her to have someone perhaps lead them to God and marriage not just dating or sleeping around. We have trust and obey GOD. We need to pray for each other. Not all us Grew up in church even if we have we have backslide. That’s why this Scripture nail in my heart ❤️ we walk my faith not by sight.
Dear @The Real Daytime thank you for listening to your fans (me) and making the segments longer, now we can fully understand where the topic started and what everybody said and hear everybody's opinion😆👊
I've been through the hardest heartbreak but what's killing me more is if I'll b there for my daughter in the future to help her go through it ! God it was so hard i don't wish it upon her or upon anyone !
My mom has been married 4 times. Not taking advice from her. I’ll make my own decisions and live my life for me so that if something doesn’t work out I can blame myself.
For me it was both of my parents. If they didn't like him, I wouldn't be married to him right now. My parents are my best friends, so yes their opinions where a deciding factor, and still is regarding other issues❤
Yousra El amen same here! I need their blessings and input they are here before me for a reason they are wiser and full of helpful insight. My god given guidance❤️
Most times a parent is only as happy/joyful as their saddest child! So for me I want their insight, and SOLICITED advice. If they don't like him I prally don't either. WE A UNIT!!
It’s sad to see how many people are not in control of their lives. If you not runnin yo life baby you ain’t livin!!! The truth is you attract what you are, and whatever you believe to be true will come to be.
"When you get the right kind of love that you truly need, it brings you back to the person that you truly are." - Adrienne I'm going to have to write that down. Deep on a whole 'notha level!
If you love someone and your parents do not understand, try to listen to your parents and ask them why and see things from their perspective. Because honestly, they’re probably right.
h Bag not necessarily. At the end of the day parents are also humans capable of being very irrational, immature, and very judgmental of their children's boyfriends or girlfriends.
Hearing this topic makes me emotional. I was in a long term relationship and it didn’t work out. I got into another relationship a while after and my mom made a comment about “I hope you’re making the right decision this time, because I can’t get emotionally attached to too many people”. And that’s when it hit me..my parents are affected by who I date, too! Especially if they like the guy, which they always have. People: be careful about who you make official in your life
My family hated my first boyfriend who I was with for 3 1/2 years and engaged to. I stayed with him almost just to try to prove them wrong. They were so right about him, but I still feel like I had to go through that relationship anyway.
brittany wallace Exactly! I had to learn that the hard way. Not only did my family not like my boyfriend, but none of my friends did either. We were together my junior and senior year of high school. By the time graduation came, I literally had no friends. It was so sad and pathetic. He always made me feel like everyone was jealous of us, and it was us against the world. I wish I hadn't of been so naive. If I could go back in time, I would rather have my friends than him. However, being in that relationship is what led me to my wonderful husband today, who everyone loves, so I guess it was all meant to be.
Jenny Eddins there's a difference between one person not liking your significant other because they're over protective and everybody not liking your significant other if you're in Tire family and all your friends didn't like him you were blind and that's on you but my mom literally doesn't like anybody I date and quite frankly I don't like anyone she dates so I don't want nor ask for her advice and when she gives it without me asking I ignore it... mom knows best is not always true
I loved this one. My mom wasn't like that nor my dad. I had the discernment to know, this is the one and in July it'll be 15 years. When you know, you just know!
My mum has never liked any of my boyfriends. And not because she senses something weird or wrong. She always says stuff like “ he’s not good looking” or “ he “ doesn’t earn enough money” she goes far sometimes. She deliberately disregards my relationships. My dad on the other hand, as protective as he is, he senses which ones are good which are bad, and he openly tells me.
I agree with all of them, but the person i could relate to more is Adrienne. She spoke about the same situation i was in when i was with my ex boyfriend's. She's 100 percent right. When you with someone with negative energy it changes you and you become that energy. Mommas know best!
I think what Adrienne said hit me. I was in a relationship my first one and I thought to myself man I really was a totally different person with him. I became irate, always angry and upset about something because I wasn’t getting what I thought I deserved. So yes when you start to feel out of place then yes that person is definitely not for you and that’s more than okay!
LittleBanana She's not lying. It's really how it is here. Even bringing a man home is VERY important once your parents see him you have already secured a marriage
Akbbba 1 our friends point of things & we don’t listen. Y’all know damn well y’all not listening EVERY SINGLE THINGS your mother tells you when it comes to these men. Let’s be real lol
My sibling brought a new guy to meet the family and he was read severely by my mom... the worst. I'm an aura individual and sensed a few things. Long story short, sibling asked my thoughts. I stated he wasn't for her, and we had a fallen out. A few years later, she revealed the relationship is over and court. I know folks don't consider family, but I do because they see and sense things when I'm blind.
asma al how can you dismiss the opinion of thr one human that has carried you in her stomache for 9 mths, and that breast fed and nursed you when u were little and weak. If there's ONE opinion to consider it should be your mother's, but time will teach you that lesson.
My mom never approved any of my ex boyfriends. She still does not like my current boyfriend of 12 years. Well...she more just doesn`t care about him. She will never be happy with anybody. One was to tall, one was ugly to her (oh yes, like that was her problem), one was to short,....who cares what she thinks.
Yes it is by choice. Why should we tie the knot? I know a lot of couples who have kids my age and are together for 30+ years that never married. Besides a wedding costs a lot of money that we dont have.
Adriane and Loni your beautiful restless what you weigh. Don't ever let these haters get to you!!! My question is why don't someone just delete them so that you guys don't have to see that hate?
'I have your heartbeat inside of me" damn i felt that.
lush larry seriously omg.
Jeannie and Mama mai are so deep. I just love them.
Oh my fucking Lucifer you're so fucking weak
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Just kidding
I understand why people say that moms know best. But in reality, they're still human. No one is right, all the time. Moms can still be prejudice, irrational, insecure, overprotective, unreasonable, etc. Generally speaking, it is good to consider their perspective. But people shouldn't take their opinions as fact.
Jessica Locy 💯
well put!
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Jessica Locy NOW THAT'S A FACT.
You are so right, my parents till now are rejecting my husband because he is from a country they don’t like. They didn’t even give him a chance to introduce himself to them. Till now they haven’t met him.
I hear this segment and I’m crying my eyes out. I miss my mom and talking to her. I miss hearing her advice and giving me words of affirmation and assuring me that things will get better. Even if your mom gets on your nerves, cherish her. You never know when’s the last time you’ll hear her voice.
Grisel Blanco I'm so sorry for your loss.. And thank you for writhing this. A lot of us need to hear it. ❤
So very true. My mom was the best. I miss her a lot, but the good thing is that she knew I loved and respected her while she was alive. Don't take them for granted..they are not perfect, but neither are you and in many cases they've given you the best while taking the left overs.
Grisel Blanco , I did too! My mother passed over 3 yrs ago & we were really close. She was one who didn't hold anything back. I know most people consider that blunt but I love people like that b/c I'd rather someone be upfront with me than be fake. My mom kept it real & I truly miss her & her advice. 😢
Annette Jones I’m the same way as you. My mom was my best friend. She passed away 10 months ago... I don’t know that I’ll ever get over her loss.
Grisel Blanco sweetheart i pray God wraps you in his arm s during this difficult time..💜
Jeannie's advice was excellent like yes hunayyyyy
NFarah haha I like when she say's Hunnaaaaayye.😂😂😂
Im gonna be lowkey mad at jeannie if she marries another man and then has kids with him, :(. wasted freddies life. lol
leximakeupful Very immature..not funny at all. She is so fucking immature. Glad Kenny left her ugly face and personality. with Kenny.
Right??? I almost feel like making it my ringtone xD
BeautySyndromeBaby tbh Freddie and Jeanie went in together planning not to have children, so in reality he wasted his own life. But we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors so we both have no idea of the circumstances
Well said Adrienne, well said👏👏👏👏
Vladime Young-Sang soooo very well said!
Really interesting hearing more about Adrienne's relationship with Lenny.
Naomi P I have a sneaky suspicion that she kinda resents or resented him for making her wait 6 years for a marriage proposal but i could be wrong.
Naomi P a lot of what she was saying i had a feeling about already. i used to feel like she would put up a front about how happy she actually was in the relationship. Especially when she would talk about wanting marriage but still in a 5+ year relationship not heading towards it. He probably only proposed because of how they would talk about him on the show.
nikkicole54321 what did the girls used to say about him on the show?
i don't remember exactly since its been a couple of seasons. i believe that they (i think mostly tamar) was asking adrienne about her relationship with lenny in terms of how long they were together and why he hadn't proposed to her about being together for 5 years.
I wish Tamera's parents would just make one appearance. They sound so amazing!
i saw tameras dad on the reality tv show one time n they are on tias youtube show sometimes
They re divorced
Roxana Romero her father passed
@@BucckeyTemple whattttt when!!!!! I just saw the video where she talked about her parents divorcing.
Roxana Romero yes . On tia’s yt she talks about her favorite memory with her father is her father daughter dance. And she wish he was still here :( they also posted on Instagram. It’s been awhile now
Adrienne’s makeup is amazing wow
TheElsaAlvarado she does it herself everyday!
Right? The dark look is gorgeous on her, wowwwww I'm shook
We'd. . I dispike gr8l
TheElsaAlvarado yessss!
It’s always on fleek
This is so true but I choose to be private. Once you start telling your Mom/family your business especially about your love life everyone is quick to start judging and throwing opinions out for free. 🤨😒
Omg your comment is so accurate! I recently spilled the beans about my love life to my family and now I'm hearing all the judgement. Next time, I am keeping it private!
VERY TRUE
Yess
Right.
thats why i pick my own man
If my Mom doesn’t like my man it’s a wrap byeeeeee
Lea Adusei 😂😂
Lea Adusei SAME
Low key same 😳
Me too
Me too because my mom is such a great and nice person that if she doesn't like you there must be something wrong with you that I am not seeing.
My mom is good at reading people so I do trust her judgement she hasn't lead me astray all 20 years Iv'e been on this earth
sundrop sounds like a great mum bless her 😄
Shelly Qay thank you she is
sundrop My friend's mom and grandma knew her man was no good before they even got to know him. They really can sense these things.
Omphile Moerane how?
@@marcusmelton2295 Female intuition is a very scary thing.
This is a case by case decision
Definitely. I feel like they talked a lot about the emotional factor here, but what if your mama don't like him bc he's a different race, religion, his personal beliefs, his background, his job, etc. Maybe straight up she just doesn't think he's cute and she doesn't want ugly grand babies? 😂😂😂
YOUR absolutely right. My mom didn't like my husband when we was dating because she was jealous that someone else was taking up my time and it wasn't her she didn't like him still after we married UNTIL 4 years later after all of a sudden I needed a lung transplant and he did EVERYTHING and stood by my side every night in the hospital for 3 months and she saw just what a man he was. If I listened to her inn the beginning I would have missed out for no reason at all. So yes its definitely a case by case decision
Crystal Nguyen lollll ugly grand babies 😂 good one
Lakeisha Smith wow.. sometimes not listening is actually best .. glad u have a good man by ur side 💛
Ema Star 😊 Thank you
I really like this, especially what Adrienne said. But sometimes, Mom doesn't know best, because they are not there all the time. A mom's gift of discernment is not always fool proof because people are complex and can change for the better. My sister married a guy with a bad past, and my mom hated the situation so much that a wall came between them and they didn't talk for a long time. After my sister's 8th wedding anniversary and second child, my mother realized the guy is changed and said sorry.
i understand mothers worry, i am a mother myself. However, my mother didnt approve of my husband at first when I introduced him because of cultural differences. So much that she didnt even show up at my wedding. But I knew my husband was the right one and now hes her favourite son in law...So I dont necessarily think mothers always know best, based on my experience.
nhaliii no they Don't lol, sometimes it is their own emotions talking,instead of discernment to use tamera word.
Your mom was judging culture not character
Same here. My parents did not care for my first boyfriend. I was 21, he 22 and they were like don’t put your eggs in one basket, there are plenty more guys out there. My mom especially, “ I don’t like his hair, his sense of style, he only cares about one thing etc. “ Well 7 years later, that first boyfriend is now my husband, a teacher and currently works with my mother, who is also a teacher. And my parents LOVE him now!!! Sometimes you just got to push through what your parents believe if your belief is greater than theirs. Also patience is a wonderful tool in this situation !!!!!!
true, but selena's mom had to help her through rehab, when her and justin left her sort of brokenhearted so i feel 4 her mom
You will live with him not your mum. I believe it isnt their place at all. I would never let a love go for my mum. I didnt choose my dad either, so let me live.
Usually mothers have legit reasons why they don’t like your partner. I mean my mum is really smart and can smell a rat a mile off, so if she could sense something she would say.
Xk8rsx personally I would marry someone regardless of what my parents think and I will tell you why it’s my decision not theirs
soapqueen2008 I agree with you
Some parents are also abusive and controlling/narcissistic. Parents are just people too and have insecurities and their own intentions and sometimes humans are selfish.
YES !!!!
Silver Bat Mine
I understand what a lot of you guys are saying but from my experience, if my grandmother doesn't like someone, run for the hills. That woman is NEVER wrong about people.
"When you get the kind of love that you need it brings you back to the person you truly are"
When you’re grown they can’t dictate your life anymore. Sometimes they know you’re not in a good situation but, you have to know that for yourself. Not just because your mom says so.
Awww Mama mai 😢😢
*_A: When a parent sees their child hurting, they hurt too._*
*-Not all parents care. 😔💔*
Maria Ray ikr
This
What Adrienne says is so true!! The wrong person can def make you feel like you’re cold and distant when all you actually want is true love and affection! If Israel really brings out the best in her than all the more blessings to them
Kaykay Lo yuppies
Love Jeannie moms voice
Yes moms could feel pain that you are going through. My mom until now, still hate my first ex bf. It was 12 years ago but still, she didn't forget the hell I've been through because of that person. Their opinions are very important but it is still your decision at the end. If they truly love you, they will respect your decision and will learn to accept it.
ATrueLove,com same!!!!! Lmao omg.
same
Trueee
It makes me cry when Adrienne talked about her mom. I’m scared when my daughter gets older. This also made me think of my mom. When you with someone with a negative energy it changes you and you become that energy. I really believe that mother knows best.
I just hate when parents try to control everything in their children’s life even when they are grown . Or maybe it’s just African parents
ypm 123 tell me about it... African child struggles smh
You are not alone. Indian parents are like that too if not worst. Sigh :(
Caribbean parents too
Mexican parents too.
Arabic parents toooooo!!!
My mum recently told me that if I ever left my girl she would disown me 😂😂
Tamera is rocking them grey hairs! I actually really like it lol
Adrienne looks amazing!!😍😍😍
SOMETIMES moms know best SOMETIMES. At the end of the day that is your man, not hers and u are old enough to make your own decision about life
Ana Dé yes girl.
I love how Tamara speaks of her mom
I thank God that my mom met and loved my (now) husband before she passed away. They were able to bond for 4 years. In hospice, she introduced him to everyone as her son years before we were even engaged. I’m at ease knowing that she approved and would’ve wanted us to marry. I know that she’s smiling down on the life that we’re building together.
Omg Adrienne’s part is sooo true I can relate 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Like Loni said if your parents aren't sleeping with him then they have to let YOU be the adult that you are and make a mistake if that what it is. I'm a parent and my job is to be there for my child and to provide her with the security to know that if he does break her heart like I expected but do not wish on my child, I will be there always. My mums parents weren't supportive of my dad and 27 years later here they are still married.
But it would still hurt you to see your kids get hurt, and you would wanna protect them, right? If you could somehow prevent your kid from getting hurt by someone you feel ain't right, wouldn't u do everything to try and prevent that?
SilverTongue Yes of course when it comes to natural disasters, fires, etc, but someone they love? No. My daughter is my child, but she's a human being with her own mind & heart. My job is to raise her well so she makes good decisions, but part of that is trusting myself AND her. Cos I can't protect her from everybody and I want to so while she is a young child I will. But once she's 21 and a legal adult in my culture if she chooses to love someone I don't like I'd rather love her so much she leaves on her own rather than forcing her to do something just because I think it's a bad idea. I've learned this from my friends. I have close friends who I worry about, but I'm not God. I'm not so perfect that I can save people with their own mind, free will, and sense from their choices. I CAN love them though and be there for them like I will always be for my child. Cos there's always the what if. My granddad tried to have my dad arrested to keep him away from my mum and it didn't help. It resulted in a 30 year marriage lol.
It only matters to me if I like him and if he treats me right. My family has poor judgment
Yeah but sometimes there are crazy moms who want no one for there kid but them
Joseph Crespin I agree
True
Adrienne that was deep girl. You got me all in my feelings.
My uncle said in front of me and my mom "your momma don't like your boyfriend, but hes a good boy. I can tell he loves you and treats you right. Your mom is probably judging him Until he proves her wrong. But either way, it don't matter. At the end of the day, you're having sex with him or doing whatever with him. Never decide to be with someone based on someone's judgement. You have to learn. You have to have your own heart break. You have to experience this for your future." Needless to say, me and my boyfriend are going to make 4 years in June ! And my mom let him moved in (we sleep in separate bedrooms) because he has no one in this city. His family left to another state.
Andrea Pachas That’s so cute. How old are you?
Yeah foreal.. a grown man moving into your moms house should be a no.
sdee to each their own
Ain't no way.! I'm assuming your about 18 and he's about 19/20 bc there's no way in the world a grown man would be staying in my house.... And with that being said I'm also assuming they think/know y'all having sex and I know parents can't control every thing we do but she's basically saying get my daughter pregnant I don't care...
chelsea Moore never really heard her say that but I would ask her just in case that's in her priorities. Like I said, to each their own. Don't assume stuff about my mom, you don't know her, me or my boyfriend. Just because you have different perspectives or a different opinion, you don't have to come off rude. I think it's more of a respect relationship. Saying "he can stay but he has to pay rent. He can eat but he has to help out bringing up groceries." I respect my mom. You can think whatever you want about me. But don't talk about my mother or assume what she wants just like you wouldn't want anyone to talk about yours
Thank you all for the advice. Love Adrienne's hair style.
Jeannie comes through every single time! I absolutely love what she said!
Adrienne took the words right out my mouth. I stand with Tamera and Adrienne on this topic!!!!!!
I’ll always listen to my moms advice 💯 Taking it is another conversation... that I’m not having cause my mouth is too full to talk 😏 #HoeChronicles
I fucking love you 😂😂👏🏼👏🏼
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My mama might not like my man, but my man loves eating what my mama made, if you get what I'm saying 😏😏
PS I love #HoeChronicles and I read your comments religiously
OMG I'M DEAD ON THE FLOOR
Tamera is a well brought up woman -she reminds me of me and seems to have parents who raised her with great values like my parents ❤️❤️
Adrienne I can relate on such a deep level. Mamas know us the best and I'm so grateful to have one, and to have one who wants the best for me.
Moms know best BUT mine is too harsh/expects people to be perfect and is very judgmental, projects her insecurities so I’m very skeptical with what her judgements are....
K de la Cruz lol is a Virgo? 🙂 or maybe she has that sign in her chart somewhere ... look up the actual number day she was born, that will tell you a lot
K de la Cruz My mom too 😞😣 it’s hard even liking a guy sometimes bc of her
Just do you best and remind your mom that you are doing your best but you value her opinions too.
Being a mom and getting out of a bad relationship this really touched me
This is what I said to my 19 yrs old “if someone taking you away from GOD he is not for you” by all mean also a friends. I didn’t have growing these godly talk with my parents. Ever since I was born-again my life about God doesn’t mean I know everything. Yes--Doesn’t mean we don’t eat with sinners. Best things to do pray for everyone listen to THE HOLY SPIRIT. The end of the day we are not fighting against Flesh and blood. Bible said Ephesians 6:12
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Even every since I become Christians my husband’s family don’t still
approve me. We been married for 20 yrs. One thing I told my daughter if God wants her to have someone perhaps lead them to God and marriage not just dating or sleeping around. We have trust and obey GOD. We need to pray for each other. Not all us Grew up in church even if we have we have backslide. That’s why this Scripture nail in my heart ❤️ we walk my faith not by sight.
Dear @The Real Daytime thank you for listening to your fans (me) and making the segments longer, now we can fully understand where the topic started and what everybody said and hear everybody's opinion😆👊
I've been through the hardest heartbreak but what's killing me more is if I'll b there for my daughter in the future to help her go through it ! God it was so hard i don't wish it upon her or upon anyone !
Adrienne dug deep this segment. That was a great testimony.
Listening to this clip made me appreciate my mum more.thank you
My mom has been married 4 times. Not taking advice from her. I’ll make my own decisions and live my life for me so that if something doesn’t work out I can blame myself.
Good topic mom knows best wisdom..
The Real's youtube channel has amazing timing for me...always posting certain topics at the exact period I need them. Thank you so much
For me it was both of my parents. If they didn't like him, I wouldn't be married to him right now.
My parents are my best friends, so yes their opinions where a deciding factor, and still is regarding other issues❤
Yousra El amen same here! I need their blessings and input they are here before me for a reason they are wiser and full of helpful insight. My god given guidance❤️
Same here, I have a good relationship with my parents. They mean the world to me, so whoever he is will have to be comfortable with them as well.
I’m happy Adrienne is opening up about how trash her relationship with Lenny truly was.
Adrienne, I can relate to this so so much. Thank you for speaking on this topic❤️
this segment is on point!! this applies with your friends too! my mama always right I'm just stubborn as hell
Most times a parent is only as happy/joyful as their saddest child! So for me I want their insight, and SOLICITED advice. If they don't like him I prally don't either. WE A UNIT!!
It’s sad to see how many people are not in control of their lives. If you not runnin yo life baby you ain’t livin!!! The truth is you attract what you are, and whatever you believe to be true will come to be.
Sometimes when you find someone it encourages you to grow as a person. Most mom's just want their 6 year old version of their daughter/son forever
Just like Tamera, my mom also has the gift of discernment. I have asked her to be very vocal when i bring somebody home. I don't have time to waste.
"When you get the right kind of love that you truly need, it brings you back to the person that you truly are." - Adrienne
I'm going to have to write that down. Deep on a whole 'notha level!
If you love someone and your parents do not understand, try to listen to your parents and ask them why and see things from their perspective. Because honestly, they’re probably right.
FACTS
h Bag not necessarily. At the end of the day parents are also humans capable of being very irrational, immature, and very judgmental of their children's boyfriends or girlfriends.
Book Bag in my experience parents only think they are right
i agree and you wont see true colours until things get serious.
Hearing this topic makes me emotional. I was in a long term relationship and it didn’t work out. I got into another relationship a while after and my mom made a comment about “I hope you’re making the right decision this time, because I can’t get emotionally attached to too many people”. And that’s when it hit me..my parents are affected by who I date, too! Especially if they like the guy, which they always have. People: be careful about who you make official in your life
Adrienne looks stunning.
Thank you for this everything you ladies said hit home . Just thank you
As a mom, this made me cry when Adrienne talked about her mom. I'm scared when my son gets older lol. This also made me think of my mom.
Moms always right❤ but lessons are best learned thorough experience!
Ok Adrienne! Preach
Idgaf it’s my relationship. I’ll listen to your opinion but it’s my relationship
ItsTheBullSix I agree.
My family hated my first boyfriend who I was with for 3 1/2 years and engaged to. I stayed with him almost just to try to prove them wrong. They were so right about him, but I still feel like I had to go through that relationship anyway.
Very true, but if you start to notice everyone close to you doesn't like him. You probably blinded by love
brittany wallace Exactly! I had to learn that the hard way. Not only did my family not like my boyfriend, but none of my friends did either. We were together my junior and senior year of high school. By the time graduation came, I literally had no friends. It was so sad and pathetic. He always made me feel like everyone was jealous of us, and it was us against the world. I wish I hadn't of been so naive. If I could go back in time, I would rather have my friends than him. However, being in that relationship is what led me to my wonderful husband today, who everyone loves, so I guess it was all meant to be.
Jenny Eddins there's a difference between one person not liking your significant other because they're over protective and everybody not liking your significant other if you're in Tire family and all your friends didn't like him you were blind and that's on you but my mom literally doesn't like anybody I date and quite frankly I don't like anyone she dates so I don't want nor ask for her advice and when she gives it without me asking I ignore it... mom knows best is not always true
This is a great topic to discuss, greetings from Ghana to the real squad. Love y'all
Thank you for sharing your family with us Tamara.
All of them have excellent advice....this has to be one of the best girl talks
I loved this one. My mom wasn't like that nor my dad. I had the discernment to know, this is the one and in July it'll be 15 years. When you know, you just know!
My mum has never liked any of my boyfriends. And not because she senses something weird or wrong. She always says stuff like “ he’s not good looking” or “ he “ doesn’t earn enough money” she goes far sometimes. She deliberately disregards my relationships. My dad on the other hand, as protective as he is, he senses which ones are good which are bad, and he openly tells me.
I loved this Girl Chat and loved what everyone shared ❤️
Preach Adrienne. So much growth from you. ❤️
I love how Jeanie talks about God
I’m with Adrienne! I been there and I learned it myself! ❤️❤️
Awwww Jeanie’s response was so heartfelt. I felt that 😫😫
they getting deep on this, #realtalk
I clicked on this video so fast , I. knew there'd be a Mama Mai impression...love them to death....😂😂😂😂
And Adrienne is SOO right.
I love Tamara’s mom’s advice, I wish she was my personal guru
I agree with all of them, but the person i could relate to more is Adrienne. She spoke about the same situation i was in when i was with my ex boyfriend's. She's 100 percent right. When you with someone with negative energy it changes you and you become that energy. Mommas know best!
I think what Adrienne said hit me. I was in a relationship my first one and I thought to myself man I really was a totally different person with him. I became irate, always angry and upset about something because I wasn’t getting what I thought I deserved. So yes when you start to feel out of place then yes that person is definitely not for you and that’s more than okay!
This really made me cry 😭 I love this ❤️
Aawh Jeannies story was touching and sad You'll get there sweetie keep your faith up boo! ❤
Wow Adrienne, I can totally relate to what you said
Beautiful topic beautiful conversation
Mom knows best!! They know you inside and out. You might be blindsided but mother’s have their eyes on the prize for YOU!
This episode out of all their episodes so far, is the one i can relate to the most 😢😭
Tamera and Adrienne you spoke...❤❤❤👏👏👏👏
Adrienne🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾well said...
First time I've been touched by Adrienne's contribution 😢
In Africa parents approval is very very important..
So sorry but parents are right when it comes to this type of things
Are you from every part of Africa?
LittleBanana This a general thing for most Africans, not every African but most Africans..
LittleBanana She's not lying. It's really how it is here. Even bringing a man home is VERY important once your parents see him you have already secured a marriage
Farisanani Angel Matshona True
Mexicans too!!!
I agree with loni who cares , my mom is not dating my man
asma al RIGHT
Akbbba 1 our friends point of things & we don’t listen. Y’all know damn well y’all not listening EVERY SINGLE THINGS your mother tells you when it comes to these men. Let’s be real lol
My sibling brought a new guy to meet the family and he was read severely by my mom... the worst. I'm an aura individual and sensed a few things. Long story short, sibling asked my thoughts. I stated he wasn't for her, and we had a fallen out. A few years later, she revealed the relationship is over and court. I know folks don't consider family, but I do because they see and sense things when I'm blind.
asma al how can you dismiss the opinion of thr one human that has carried you in her stomache for 9 mths, and that breast fed and nursed you when u were little and weak. If there's ONE opinion to consider it should be your mother's, but time will teach you that lesson.
My mom never approved any of my ex boyfriends. She still does not like my current boyfriend of 12 years. Well...she more just doesn`t care about him. She will never be happy with anybody. One was to tall, one was ugly to her (oh yes, like that was her problem), one was to short,....who cares what she thinks.
Magdalena Ozbolt boyfriend of 12 years? Girl is that by choice? Y’all not gonna tie the knot or do you not believe in marriage?
Yes it is by choice. Why should we tie the knot? I know a lot of couples who have kids my age and are together for 30+ years that never married. Besides a wedding costs a lot of money that we dont have.
Magdalena Ozbolt 12 years and no marriage?! wow
Why do you have to get married anyway?
Magdalena Ozbolt you keep telling yourself that. whatever makes you feel good 😂😁
all the girls look amazing! Loved this segment, so true what jeannie was saying.
Adriane and Loni your beautiful restless what you weigh. Don't ever let these haters get to you!!! My question is why don't someone just delete them so that you guys don't have to see that hate?