If you're out there, somewhere feeling lonely, you're not the only one...

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  • čas přidán 27. 06. 2024
  • Feeling lonely is a universal experience, literally every human being has felt this sense of isolation , even in a sea of people. There are some great tips and new perspectives about loneliness that I think you'll love in this video. The only reason I can dive into the sense of loneliness is because I get lonely. Simple.
    Chapters:
    00:00 - It's Not All Your Fault
    Diving into what loneliness really means and being real with the feeling or *sense*.
    02:30 - The Reality of What We Want
    We want people to see us, to really see us. Not our looks, not our accomplishments, but who we truly are in this world.
    05:00 - No Seriously, It's Not All Your Fault
    What you are experiencing in loneliness is so complex and it's not always simple to solve.
    07:00 - What Can We Do About It?! Great Strategies
    Offering practical advice and strategies that have helped me navigate out of loneliness, aiming to help others find their way too.
    10:30 - The Importance of Community and Connection
    Finding a sense of community and making true connections where you feel heard and seen can be powerful tools in combating feelings of isolation.
    13:20 - Tips for Reaching Out and Making Meaningful Connections
    Practical tips for reaching out, engaging in activities that foster connection, and how to start building your support network.
    16:00 - Conclusion: You're Not Alone
    Wrapping up with a message of hope and solidarity, encouraging you to share your stories and support each other in the comments or with me.
    BEING HUMAN PODCAST
    iTunes: apple.co/3uJeCt2
    Spotify: spoti.fi/2IdKz3m
    Listen Everywhere Else: anchor.fm/scottstemarie
    Scott speaks across North America about emotional wellbeing, mental health and our innate need for connection. His history with mental health challenges have allowed him to develop a strong sense of empathy and compassion with his audiences and those he works with personally. Music is his true obsession as he plays the guitar, drums and sings.

Komentáře • 102

  • @depressiontoexpression
    @depressiontoexpression  Před 2 měsíci +14

    If you've ever felt lonely, know that you're not alone. It's a difficult sense to describe, but we've all been there. Share your story in the comments below. Let's create a community where everyone feels seen, heard, and supported. Here are the helpful resources I mentioned:
    Join the Waitlist: 8 Weekly Calls With Me: www.scottstemarie.com/8weekswithscott
    Monthly Calls: www.patreon.com/scottstemarie
    Online Therapy 10% off: www.betterhelp.com/depressiontoexpression

  • @Hyth-is5ht
    @Hyth-is5ht Před 2 měsíci +36

    I really don’t know who i am anymore, can't feel happiness and joy in me. I have a job but don't see purpose, i just feel fine when am sleeping. But am still hoping for a zeal of being happy one day

    • @derekmalunow8962
      @derekmalunow8962 Před 2 měsíci +3

      I can relate to your sentiments

    • @followyourdreams8673
      @followyourdreams8673 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Me too. Sending positive thoughts.

    • @kithu1231
      @kithu1231 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Love you friend..i am 35 i am in the same situation as you are..big hugs and positiveness.

    • @perrycoffey5410
      @perrycoffey5410 Před 2 měsíci

      If you live in America my advice leave the country and move too a Nordic country

    • @kymgarcia09
      @kymgarcia09 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Same here. Finally got my dream Job but I dont see the point.. nothing makes me feel happy nowadays

  • @LurkingLinnet
    @LurkingLinnet Před 2 měsíci +8

    I feel privileged that I found you. No exaggeration

  • @bigchief2331
    @bigchief2331 Před 2 měsíci +13

    31M, been lonely all my life. And lately it is weighing on my mind quite heavily. I don't really have anything to live for, and time is passing by quicker than ever. It's really unsettling, I just can't relax or stop thinking about how lonely and pointless life is.

  • @tinathegreat88
    @tinathegreat88 Před 2 měsíci +10

    Been lonely my whole life. I think it’s true when you and others say it doesn’t matter how many people are around you but it does matter whether you’re seen and heard. It’s only the rare times I felt seen and heard that I didn’t feel lonely. Thank you for putting this video out. It helps others know they’re not alone in loneliness. I’ve signed up to the waiting list for the 8 week coaching. Could do with some support. I don’t want to give up ❤

  • @user-ix4wn1th5m
    @user-ix4wn1th5m Před 2 měsíci +6

    I'm in my sixties. I have never felt so better before in my life. I have been through what you are describing. I don't feel lonely anymore. I am happy living alone and doing my own thing now. I don't want any persons issues and troubles. I can remember wanting to be liked and validated when I was young. I wouldn't want that misery back. We are all alone. Even if you have many friends and a good relationship, you are still alone. I am responsible for my own happiness.

  • @LurkingLinnet
    @LurkingLinnet Před 2 měsíci +3

    Just something I wanted you to know Scott 💟
    You know, empathy can be faked emotions can be acted too but when we associate a whole emotion with a person then we are also figuring out the way we see them as a person, for you I associate you with 'Care' A very positive emotion and then the dominos fall it leads to more positive emotions like love...nothing matters to you, then all the external physical appearances and flaws fade not that they become non existent but they blur in comparison, you see the beauty of the human heart in its entirety and for once you don't sink and die with the bad but you can begin to acknowledge the good.
    Thank you for this experience.
    Thank you for being who you are, for being authentic.
    Thank you for being expressive.
    Thank you for being sensitive.
    Above all, thank you for putting yourself out there!
    Your words add value to my life and the lives of others watching.
    Indeed, you make this lifetime worth living through living in lots of ways. Keep living. Amen. 🕊❤️

  • @LaughingLead
    @LaughingLead Před 2 měsíci +5

    Today has been particularly challenging for me, but your assistance has made a significant difference. Thank you sincerely. It seems like this sentiment is widespread but often remains unspoken, leaving individuals to feel isolated in their experiences without knowing how to articulate them.

  • @tarinaaleamoni
    @tarinaaleamoni Před 29 dny

    Had a hard day and catching myself starting to have one of my spiraling moments where I feel so confused about life and career, depressed, and so anxious. I keep going back to gratitude for the little things around me, even if it’s so hard in the moment. I can objectively see how I feel like I’m in this little dark cloud bubble and I see the world so so differently from everyone around me. I am on a work trip in a beautiful city with beautiful weather right now. I have shelter, food, and water to drink. Everything is as it should be. Thank you for your wonderful videos and always reminding us that things are okay even when they don’t feel that way.

  • @rebecca8866
    @rebecca8866 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I wish you were my boyfriend honestly because you are so understanding. I listen to your "it's okay" video all the time when I am having a panic attack and it helps a ton. I hope I end up meeting someone as intelligent and caring as you are. I need that in my life so badly.
    Many blessings your way 🙏

  • @phily8093
    @phily8093 Před 2 měsíci +8

    I long for death now. I've nothing to live for. My life is utter misery, with my mental health, physical condition and circumstances, and it is only going to get worse for each year I have the potential to survive. I'm a disgusting, broken, lifeless husk. I mean nothing to nobody. I'm unloved and unlovable, and when I was younger, I couldn't understand people being less afraid of dying. I'm not afraid anymore. It's living more this way that scares me.

    • @Danait30
      @Danait30 Před 2 měsíci +1

      as humans we were created to worship god. when you separate from god all you want to do is die, and literally everyone feels that, I was like that too, but when you follow god you can be crippled , literally have nothing and still have peace and joy. I encourage you to get close to god because if you die without knowing him you might end up in a worse place than you are right now.

    • @phily8093
      @phily8093 Před 2 měsíci

      @@Danait30 I don't believe that we were created to worship God. That seems like an even more pointless existence, and to think we are the product of such a needy, controlling and narcissistic creator, to bring life to an entire race of people just so they could eternally congratulate them is something I can't sign up to. I don't like myself, but I've never knowingly caused harm to anyone. If that is not enough to avoid Hell if there is one, then again, God needs to have a rethink. I wish you all the best with your beliefs, and if your faith brings you comfort then I'm glad, but with people having constant suicidal thoughts, telling them they might also be going to Hell is not the morale booster you might at first imagine. Take care

    • @Danait30
      @Danait30 Před 2 měsíci

      @@phily8093 I get what you’re In all honesty you got no choice. If humans were so good you’d have so many people helping now, you wouldn’t be alone. Humans are vile and evil and innately selfish. In the end all we have is god. He is the only one that loves us unconditionally while people will just leave us anytime we are no longer useful to them 🤷‍♀️, or at least put us down and look down on us. Even in the beginning they may help but they will actually resent u and get tired. But god never does. So what harm is it to believe in him ? He is literally the only one who 100% cares about you… except maybe your mother but like I said all humans are limited in their love. That’s my opinion though 🤷‍♀️.

  • @ushakiran8078
    @ushakiran8078 Před měsícem

    You know scotty.. i just broke up with my friend. In five months we became so close. Cannot live without each other kind. But his arrogance and anger and action he does when he gets angry. Abuses. i just felt like walking out.. i felt so much lost . Depressed.. now i realised after sitting infront of you. There something beyond love that is "myself".. i realised he is not worth. I don't have to spill myself just because i need love.. now im peaceful.. thanks scotty.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @arinajackson4675
    @arinajackson4675 Před 2 měsíci +8

    your channel helped me so much man. keep up the great work. 👍🏼

  • @valeriespain8740
    @valeriespain8740 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Scott you are truly a blessing!!! Please continue to do what you are doing because it makes a difference in this world! Be blessed ❤

  • @androidsamsung298
    @androidsamsung298 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Sometimes, i get goose bumps because I feel like you're reading my mind. 😅 But your videos always cheer me up. This is not just a video. It's someone's soul-saving video. It's a light on this chaotic world. Thank you always! Scott!! 😊 One of your supporters from korea 🇰🇷 ❤

  • @yesheramb
    @yesheramb Před 2 měsíci +1

    I would love that meditation, you've always been someone i really look forward to in times of adversity, thankyou!

  • @kashika_strawberry.lipstic4624
    @kashika_strawberry.lipstic4624 Před 2 měsíci +1

    hey scott! loved this video. came by right when i needed it. please post the meditation you were talking about. im sure it will help a lot of people

  • @paulstauffer5984
    @paulstauffer5984 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Scott, You are such a gem 💎 in this world . Thank you for continuing to share your gentle & compassionate wisdom and humor with us !! ❤ ~Judith

  • @Abby-ix3gs
    @Abby-ix3gs Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks again, Scott, my Canadian brother! You always help me so much! Your videos are gift from God! ❤ I love you & pray for you. ☀️ And by the way, I also love hearing you sing.

  • @Sunshine77746
    @Sunshine77746 Před 2 měsíci

    This video was very helpful. I feel you described exactly what I’m going through and it brought me some comfort. Thank you so much. 🧡

  • @Flamingogirl913
    @Flamingogirl913 Před 2 měsíci

    This video popped up at the exact moment I needed it. I give so much love and yet it is so hard for me to find it myself. Thank you for your videos.

  • @Caesarona
    @Caesarona Před 2 měsíci

    It's truly heartwarming. your content has resonated with me and helped me reach new levels of enlightenment. Keep up the amazing work Scott!

  • @MollyHarrah
    @MollyHarrah Před 2 měsíci

    Hi Scott,
    I just found your channel. These are thoughts I have thought of. I’m glad you brought these topics out in the open.

  • @bunnygirl121765
    @bunnygirl121765 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Thank you...much needed.

  • @nomg563
    @nomg563 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Thank you Scott🤗

  • @user-ft6gr4lr9p
    @user-ft6gr4lr9p Před 2 měsíci

    Ah I love listening to you Scott! You’re so raw and honest, which is very refreshing. ❤ One thing that always made me feel lonely is when I dated past people who didn’t really see me, but were drawn to some facial feature.

  • @LurkingLinnet
    @LurkingLinnet Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Scott...I just loose all my words when I come on this channel...all I could ever utter is a thanks

  • @lalithakrishnamurthy9663
    @lalithakrishnamurthy9663 Před 2 měsíci +2

    I have everything and I have nothing that I care about and one person who care about me there is nothing there is no one it’s like meaningless life like floating above the ground without your feet feeling the earth under you ..uncertain about the next minute and at the same time have everything in life wierd feeling don’t know how to get out of it .feeling alone and lonely as hell!livig in hell already!!!!

  • @trust.it.444
    @trust.it.444 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you, Scott.

  • @kerrygrandahl7643
    @kerrygrandahl7643 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Would love a meditation video!

  • @yasesaka
    @yasesaka Před 2 měsíci +4

    How great the way you speak is like seriously. I've been cashing my passions for 4-5 years by myself despite of all other people's judgments which I've never cared before. Anyways, I'm super healed by myself and I'm glad that I've explored the way I'm currently in finally.

  • @phwayfav4235
    @phwayfav4235 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank u Scott. U save my life today.

  • @Thekingisback-du4jn
    @Thekingisback-du4jn Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Scott i got emotional at the end god bless you 🙏🏿

  • @Blueowl896
    @Blueowl896 Před 2 měsíci +4

    I am married but so lonely. I have lost myself totally. We dont spend any time together anymore. He just sits in front of comp and plays games. Each time I take it up its the same excuses and explenations. My depression and anxiety is taking over. 😢
    It feels he does not c me anymore..

    • @danoncho
      @danoncho Před 2 měsíci +4

      You will be okay. This is normal experience caused by how complicated people are. And when there are TWO? Wow, communication is a very tough art! It requires knowledge, wisdom and patience from both sides. It is not easy to meet a person wise in interpersonal communication, and no one will ever be perfect in those skills. But, we can always learn, grow and improve!
      It is OK to feel tired from trying to build a family alone. It is about two. And when someone doesn't listen about other's hurt, it is not about acceptance and respect at all. Maybe, the person is hurt in his way too? We can always offer our help, but if it is rejected, maybe it is time to think on what's truly important for you in your own life. You can find your peace inside. Because in the end, you are whole person with your own goals and desires.
      So, free yourself. Ask for help, acceptance and love. Everybody deserves that. Be yourself, and if you don't remember who you are - ask yourself about it. Because your real self is still there, and that's why it hurts. When you will find your inner compass, you will find decisions right for you. Your own way 🧭

    • @Blueowl896
      @Blueowl896 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@danoncho 🥰 thank you so much

    • @danoncho
      @danoncho Před 2 měsíci

      @@Blueowl896 👍

    • @me2846
      @me2846 Před 2 měsíci

      agreed 100% mental health is worsening for me 😭😭😢😢

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz Před 2 měsíci +1

    There a lot of people living alone, having no friends, but some people still have a spouse, kids, pets and friends. I envy them. I think I am OK and deserve a spouse and friends but I don't have them.

  • @asterix3191
    @asterix3191 Před měsícem

    this was life changing thank you for this video

  • @Jim-rh2nh
    @Jim-rh2nh Před 2 měsíci

    This was such a great video! Our inner A-hole critic is super harsh sometimes for sure! One thing that helped me is to picture mine as like a big cartoon villian, like the bad guy from Minions, and I began to not take him so seriously

  • @lisaa6099
    @lisaa6099 Před 2 měsíci

    Thanks so much for this , bless

  • @karasmusic123
    @karasmusic123 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you! ❤

  • @veronica_960
    @veronica_960 Před 2 měsíci +1

    These words are...wow

  • @hawksu
    @hawksu Před 2 měsíci +1

    I am currently on antidepressants, your videos help me a lot.

  • @tamerastone4732
    @tamerastone4732 Před 2 měsíci

    Ur awesome!!! I use #4, alot!!! Thank u!!!

  • @mirandolinacloutier-mira
    @mirandolinacloutier-mira Před 2 měsíci

    I love my life 🙋‍♀️🙏thank you

  • @user-jl7cb1fg2r
    @user-jl7cb1fg2r Před 2 měsíci

    14:00 yes ❤

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I like your guitar

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I see the hard things l put in as far as educating myself

  • @glitchbanana
    @glitchbanana Před 2 měsíci +2

    I'm distracted by that person in the mirror with the headphones on lol

  • @fatmafarag683
    @fatmafarag683 Před 2 měsíci +4

    I can relate so much cuz this asshole visits me when I play the piano as I've been playing for over 10 years now and don't know much about theory and stuff :)
    Thank you for sharing this!

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    Am dealing with the same thing

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    It's very difficult

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    That's how l feel

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I usually embroidery 🪡 like a butterfly or something

  • @soham_das2005
    @soham_das2005 Před 2 měsíci +1

    scott sir who is that in the mirror?

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I have delt with cheesy things and the scenarios

  • @katherinemnusa
    @katherinemnusa Před měsícem

    I love your videos…you rock❤️‍🩹 I need a friend like you

  • @Stinkycatmeow
    @Stinkycatmeow Před 2 měsíci +1

    Everyone ask for a meditation

  • @Stinkycatmeow
    @Stinkycatmeow Před 2 měsíci +1

    Is that a Roomba in the background

  • @sandrahealy3539
    @sandrahealy3539 Před 2 měsíci

    😊😊

  • @neolacastelino5082
    @neolacastelino5082 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I have a question in mind, ppl around me emphasize on having a life partner like a husband/wife is really essential or else life is lonely?
    Wat is your take on this?
    May be its really mandatory.... to be committed.... as i believe u too are brother.

    • @7fall
      @7fall Před 2 měsíci +1

      Be committed to yourself first. You must become someone that someone else would cherish to have. This means mental, physical and reputational health are in order. Good income, house, car, etc. and wisdom to prevent goldd1ggerz and manipulators from stealing your hard work. Today, frankly I recommend not marrying unless you’re a vvomen. Easiest way to lose everything as a mman is to marry. Find purpose within yourself, as it takes several lifetimes to even scratch the surface of activities and hobbies let alone books and music and instruments etc that you shouldn’t even have time for vvomen.

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I do get lonely way too lonely l must be in bad company

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    It feels unbearable

  • @sophiapde9369
    @sophiapde9369 Před 2 měsíci

    You forgot KC and the Sunshine Band 😊.

  • @sylvielabuzikova1818
    @sylvielabuzikova1818 Před 2 měsíci

    I think I love U 😊 U R awesome 😊 U R helping me in hard times for 4 months already ❤ thank U !!!!!❤

    • @7fall
      @7fall Před 2 měsíci

      U R gud @ words

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    It is so much criticism l can be my own critic

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    I do feel like there are a lot of actors at play

  • @missrd395
    @missrd395 Před 2 měsíci

    I am just wondering, is the majority that feels lonely single?? Or do people feel that too when having a spouse and family? Please comment❤🙏

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    Or l crochet

  • @djtrakakadrunkpoet8598

    I feel like im just something easy to dislike .Porn and couples and relationships and rejection has really soured my confidence. Whats the point

  • @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj
    @FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj Před 2 měsíci

    Sorry l can't spell right