There's a part in "Hannah and Her Sisters" where Mia Farrow as Hannah does a voice over about her parents saying, "They loved the idea of having us, they just weren't interested in raising us." Perhaps that applies here.
nylrob I have read Soon Yi Previns response to Mia Farrow talking about Woody Alan and she describes her as a good mother only for her biological children. She said the adopted children were virtually ignored or misstreated. So I see some irony there.
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits I always said that about having a kid. Im like "I like the naming part and the taking them to do fun things and getting them to say and do horrible acts in public to amuse me" I get those things as an uncle. (except the naming of them, which my neices are very grateful).
Shirley wasn't even interested in her husband or family. Sachi's father wasn't interested in his daughter at all. Makes me suspicious that the only reason they got married at all was because Shirley got pregnant.
@@charlienonya7016--If it wasn't a choice that was even more of a reason to put her with adoptive parents who would have cared about her and loved her.
@@charlienonya7016 WTH? A CHILD is a living being!!!! You are responsible according to law and nature to nurture and protect it!!!! I hope you don't have any children!!!! The baby should have been adopted! At least she could have understood being abandoned more!
Her mother is a anignoramus she never behaved like a lady she was like a child.I wS a little girl when I first saw her I did not like her and I was right .
Sachi, you did an excellent job of raising yourself. I wish you didn't have all the hurtful memories. Be very proud of yourself and realize it's beyond your mother's ability to ever change. Many people admire you far more than your mother.
Good Performer, always like her but if Sachi book is accurate, Shirley care more about herself then her daughter and her father was no better, to feel alone by the people who are supposed to love and protect you is heartbreaking.
My Mother was the same way, decades of therapy to finally say I've had enough, I love her because she is my Mother but I don't want anything to do with her because a great Narcissist will never admit they did anything wrong. My heart goes out to Sachi.🙏❤️
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
@@brigidspencer5123 We don't know for sure if this is true. The media is excellent at making people believe things that are not true. It's one of their main purposes actually.
The kids in "The Children's Hour" would confirm this. They said Shirley was cold and unfriendly on the set, while Audrey Hepburn was friendly and sweet.
Not everyone likes and can relate to young people. It's a sadness to people who are non maternal that they often cannot relate. Let's not judge her too harshly eh. None of us have walked in her shoes.
@@angelwingz892 theres a difference between not relating and mental abuse on a child. Did you read the book? Her daughter was used more as a convenient prop for her fans. Her daughter is way more forgiving than I would be for sure.
What she went through is horrible and nobody deserves it. But people need to put themselves in the actress’s shoes. Hollywood and live in general was very different and a lot harder for these women. They were also being abused
@@monmothma3358 well these women were being abused behind the scenes. It doesn’t justify, but it does explain. You also have to put yourself in that time frame. Hollywood was the first industry that allowed women to be big players in the financial sector. Before movies women hardly worked. If women did work it was usually as seamstresses or cooks or maids. If women had a lot of money and because they are inherited or they married into it. Hollywood was the first industry that really depended on women as much as they depended on men to become a really big financial superpower. That means they were the first women who had to figure out a balance between home life and work life. Because of the mistakes these women made women of today have a better understanding and a better balancing act on home life and work life. Everything isn’t black and white. What these women did to their children was terrible but everything has a silver lining. Because what they did for society is super valuable.
I had to let go of my mother 26 years ago. She didn't care. I had to care enough about me to do what was right for me. My life since then has been calm and peaceful and rich. God Bless Sachi, may she go forward no matter what happened in the past.
I honestly think her parents were a bit crazy. They didn't have a marriage or family...who knows, maybe Shirley Mclachlan also had a dark childhood, and just put on an act of confidence for the world.
Yes. David Bowie said that his mother was cold and unloving and he was always trying to please her. I’m sure that affected him for the rest of his life.
Rather her INTERPRETATION. Sachi's glass is always half empty! That's her choice. If she really LOVED her mother sooo much, she wouldn't have destroyed the chance of a better understanding as they both get older. And believe me, it's possible! ... instead of accusing the other, you try understanding them! As Shirley's friend said: pointing your finger at someone, you always point three at yourself ...
Agreed! Shirley has written about her relationship with Sachi in several books. If you want people to speak kindly of you then you have to treat them well.
Alexandra Wimmer Let me get this straight! There are witnesses that confirm Satchie's story! Satchie herself has tried to make amends with her mother. Yet, you blame her for the downfall of this relationship! Until Satchie turned 21, Shirley was the adult and should have acted as one! This is a story of child neglect and abuse by both parents! Yet, the child is supposed to understand! Just unbelievable! Shirley got what she sewed! Satchie grew up and has tried to make amends with her parents which fell on deaf ears! Satchie has every right to call a spade a spade! People should stop telling victims to move on when they are deserving of an apology!
Ha...🤣 How would you feel if your work in this world, to entertain people and make them feel happiness (& or the sadness of this world we live in), was equated to your personal private life? Think about it, and then stop watching her in the countless films she has acted in, or give her some slack in parenthood. The way she is attacked is kindof par for the course of talented, hard working, exceptionally good entertainers, but it is also very annoying. 🙏🏻
Often times very talented, creative people are just, literally on another planet. They should give their children to a good home, many couples are dying for kids like Sachi.
Yeah, or simply not have kids. If you do put another person into the world, that's a big responsibility. You have to spend that time and give that love.
I remember reading in Maclaine's first book, when she was referring to Sachi, then two years old, that "she would always be around when she needed me, but not whether she needed me or not," and shipped her off to Japan. What two year old doesn't need her mother?
@@baiaforev2407 Key: loving herself to the exclusion of others, even those too young/innocent to understand. ALL babies/children are some narcissistic, but that is for their Survival. As kids get older, they start learning [if properly parented] to look outward, to care about others, so there’s balance. Shirley probably had a rotten home life growing up, which left her focused on her own needs, never really learning to “walk a mile in someone else’s moccasins before you think you know about them or what they need”.
Sachi actually had a small part in a soap opera. She once went to a premiere with her mother (who was being condescending to her adoring fans). Then someone noticed sachi from the show and she herself was swarmed with people. She turned around to look at her mother, who couldn’t hide her fury. You know ur parent has hit rock bottom when they can’t be happy for their kids’ success. Grow up, Shirley.
This backs up everything I was ever told by my aunt. She and my uncle were living overseas, where he was with the State Department. They were at a party one evening when Steve Parker and Sachi were also present, and apparently Parker was really giving my aunt the once-over. He trotted Sachi out to meet the grown-ups, remarking right in front of her that she was a homely little girl just like her mother. My aunt said that long after Parker had gone off in a corner somewhere with a woman, that they basically spent the rest of the evening keeping an eye on Sachi as nobody else seemed to care.
I knew Sachi back in the early 1970s. She's telling the truth. Shirley did visit her at the UK independent school Sachi was at, for one day in over a year. She was neglected. Shirley wasn't ready to be a Mum.
Wow. This is another example of how we put way too much value on actors, way too much, and don't know them from a hole in the wall. Wish I knew this earlier. Would have skipped her movies completely. Hey shirley, this is not about a career choice, this is about your neglect of a human being who needed you, and that was your child.
Your comment is just more of the same lol. You’re once again putting too much stock in an artist to somehow fit your moral compass. Who cares about either of them, honestly?
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
@@coaltin2509 I don't know how old you are but she really was thought of in a certain way, as a likable person. But that may not be true at all. It's being moral in the most ordinary way- to care about your children. It's not a matter of fitting into anyone's "moral compass". Taking care of your children, or caring about your children is the most basic of moralities.
Read the book, deeply disturbing. From other comments I have seen elsewhere, Shirley MacLaine is NOT a nice person at all, which affirms what Sachi has written.
T Kamp Awful woman. Shirley reminds me of my own mother (only *my* mother wasn’t a success in any area of her life except in destroying her own family and those her dared go against her).
Jackue was no better. She slept with all kennedy brothers, was paid $5 million to 'stay' with jack so he would be voted in as president...so high paid hooker, jackie had Mo room to talk.
Millions maybe, but millions which Shirley Maclaine worked for ALL BY HERSELF! So no! she was doing her daughter a great favour! She taught her needy wimpy daughter that she could make it on her own, that she isn't dependent on her mother. After all, Sachi expected to be treated with extra help just for being ShMcl's daughter, while most other star's offspring worked twice as hard to prove they could make it on their own.
Shirley gave her daughter the same level of money, care and emotional support … practically nothing and you think that is OK. There is another word for that abuse.
Alexandra Wimmer why are you advocating so hard for Shirley McLean. Defending someone you supposedly don’t know or just maybe this is Shirley herself. Wouldn’t surprise me one bit after all McLean the narcissist pathetic excuse for a mother as well extremely unbalanced individual hiding behind a fake name to trash her daughter to defend her abhorrent behaviour of a child. And yes I agree with those of you this was child abuse.
Alexandra Wimmer You do realize that only in the US parents aren't required to pay for their children's education. Everywhere else in the world parents are required because parents had the children! It's time the US stop putting their kids off on to society and pay for them!
Yep. But most actual children of vile parents do not have the means to write a book. How about we ut some effort into helping people - especially children - who are actually suffering? Suffering in Hollywood when this woman was growing up meant you got a light blue $50,000 car when you expressly stated that you required dark blue. art of the whole Hot Mess that is Hollywood!
Since you're a man(John stit), I'd like to know dear John, how ShMcl was supposed to achieve to not have a child in 1957? What do you know about contraception of back then? Also, how was ShMcl to know, that her daughter would be her absolute opposite? I think she simply didn't like her daughter; her charakter and personality do not match one bit!
I read Sachi's book a couple of years ago and my view of Shirley changed. Such a selfish person. How can you leave a young child alone like that?? Just horrible. Did anybody else notice at 5:29 when they show the clip from Postcards From the Edge behind Meryl is the LIFE cover of Shirley with Sachi?
@@kirk1007 I believe that Carrie Fisher, on whose book the film is based, likely knew about Sachi's upbringing and added the Life cover with Shirley and Sachi to follow the conversation between mother and daughter (a semi-autographical story about Carrie and her mother, Debbie Reynolds).
This certainly changes my perspective towards Shirley Maclaine. One thing I've learned: some people just aren't capable of loving anyone. Not even their own children. Or themselves. They seek love and attention themselves. Trying to fill a void. OH SHIRLEY, love your daughter. Know your grandchildren. Shirley, if your looking for answers, look towards your daughter and your grandchildren.You might find that one major VOID, is that of your own immediate family. I've always liked you Shirley. So talented and all. Reach out your hand and heart to this hurting daughter. Tomorrow is never promised.
chris olson... what I want to know is where the hell was her uncle. Warren Beatty! Didn't he see what was happening to his own flesh and blood...what a family!
chris olson It was more than her career: it was the fame, the money and the attention she craved and couldn’t or wouldn’t dare give it up. Shirley could of had both had she created some balance for her daughter.
I always thought. S M was bit of a weirdo and never liked her or her brother Warren's movies both seemed depressed looking and believe they didn't like each other much either maybe it's a generational thing with them both SACCHI is not self centered as they both seem to be so hasn't got the problem she shows this in her compassion for her mother and her love for her children the cycle is broken it seems Hallelujah❤❤❤
@@sue9587 Shirley MacLaine sounds like a selfish bitch who should have never had children. You can tell her daughter is telling the truth because she's so uncomfortable speaking about her "mother".
This is so sad. And she seems like a very nice woman...Imagine working as a flight attendant and seeing your mom only in the movies of the flight! I mean, that's really cruel.
@@davidyatesmckay--Sending your kids to college when you're a multi-millionaire is a decent thing to do. You don't owe your children Christmas presents either. Or to provide needed surgery for a family member when you're extremely wealthy. But who refuses to do that?
@@davidyatesmckay: It was dangerous back then. There were at least a couple of plane crashes a year. The late 1970s and 80s were horrific for plane crashes, some caused by terrorist bombs. Not just the number of them but how horribly the people died; incinerated alive, sucked out to fall five miles to their deaths after a bomb made a hole, one person sucked out into an engine. And Shirley didn't care that this could happen to her only child. What an evil witch.
My perception of this actress has now changed completely. What a sad and tragic story, and my heart goes out to Scahi for the lost years of motherly love. Sadly, I've been there.
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
@Michele Wheldon Seeing as how shitty she was as mom, such as LITERALLY LEAVING HER CHILD STRANDED FOR TWO WEEKS it is the least she could do. Truly disgusting behavior.
Unfortunately there are thousands and thousands of children giving birth to children and dropping them elsewhere... the suituation hasn’t changed in the world, young women are having babies with NO intention of getting married or some even including the fathers, and just as many men running from the law that don’t even want to give monetary support much less be a parent. So sad!
It is nothing less than frightening that Shirley left her 2-year-old daughter on a 2-day plane flight. This should have been downright illegal. So she was worried about her daughter being kidnapped, but not too worried to leave her on her own unsupervised in a plane? Stewardesses can't meet the needs of a 2-year-old.
She could’ve at least hired a freakin nanny to accompany her... in fact that would’ve been the best thing in the world for her - so many nannies have been unintentional surrogate mothers for the wealthy.... I’m surprised that didn’t occur in this situation. It would’ve been better than having TWO neglectful parents. 😞
Thank you for writing his book, for all the abandoned children. Abandon is a type of abuse. People who say get over it are not victims of abuse as children. Otherwise they would know that you can't get rid of the child in you (with all the pain and fears) no more than getting rid of an arm.
You can heal to some extent but you can't get rid of an important part of your life. And for a child, a parent is their universe. If Shirley want to help her daughter heal she should really LISTEN to her daughter, own her mistakes and find harmony. And as for the light she's looking for in zombie worlds, she could find it here, on Earth.
Is it possible Shirley never wanted a child... and Sachi was unexpected...possibly she and Parker decided not to interrupt the pregnancy? Her cold indifference speaks volumes. Vary sad for Sachi...if her mother wasn't a celebrity...adoption would have been the humane way to go....however...her Mom is a narccist on steriods and has behaved accordingly. Hopefully Sachi has gotten psychological help and seems to have gone on with her life. Bravo to Sachi.
How I can relate to what Shasha is saying. I had the DISCOMFORT of having met her mother in 1996. She was a "patient" at a resort which I managed. Shirley was the most mean, nasty and horrible patient we ever had. She lied (accused me of calling the National Enquirer to tell them where she was!!!) She complained about the resort "mascot" which was a beautiful grey angora cat....Hateful is what the staff called her. My heart goes out to this lovely and tragic young lady who has the MISFORTUNE of being this "Actress' daughter." I always worried about Sasha, especially after I met and witnessed her mother for being the cold, mean creature she is. And by the way...I have met Shirley's publishers and her crack pot books were written by a GHOST WRITER. God bless you Sasha and your children ...You are very much BETTER OFF without this woman in your life! TRUST ME!!!
OMG! Really a ghostwriter? For ALL of them (she 'wrote' quite a few) I only read parts of a cpl of her books, but I loved them. So Im also not real educated in this, aren't' they required to state that they didnt write the books in the forward or intro?
Thank you for sharing, that woman is the typical narcissist who only cares about herself and will do everything for attention, but life always comes back at us.
all celebrity parents need to look towards Debbie Reynolds.. not saying her relationship was perfect but the unconditional love for her children was clearly visible.
A Aktar: She didn't give her up because she REALLY DOES LOVE HER DAUGHTER. In my 66 years of living and loving, I've raised 4 children. I was a very young mother who knew NOTHING about physical relations. At 16 I was a mother of 2 and running a household. No mother without LOVE, birth's a child if she doesn't LOVE that child. Some simply doesn't let anything get in the way of their goals. Shirley McLain is no exception. She didn't get Sashi alone, even though the father was mentally abusive. We're ALL of US imperfect and suffer from the same dreaded disease of missing the mark. But thanks be to GOD by means of Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior, who will rescue us soon. Hold up your head Sashi. And NEVER forget that she didn't have to let you live; many don't you know. Keep the door open for her and keep your balance and love for your mother!!! I love you and I've never heard of you before now. Love your children with ALL that you have and are. Your reward is with them. Shirley LOVE'S you believe it or not; she really does!!!👍😘🤗💝😌😊😎.
She may have loved her children, but they had a bizarre/chaotic existence, and we all know all the problems Carrie had. Debbie is no ideal for show business parents. Also, just because they look happy, if they do, doesn't mean they are happy.
@12345grov Good Christians should speak what is evident. Of course she is demon possessed. I am very familiar with the Occult, & this woman is being deceived by demonic entities. She needs to be delivered before it is too late.
Why do people only ever believe negative SHIT when there is not one iota of truth?? Shame on all of you and may you never know the pain of being lied about, as so many famous people are.
OMG. SHE WAS VERY TALENTED. I COULD CARE LESS. HER DAUGHTER IS A GIFT FROM GOD. SHE ABANDONED THAT GIFT. I AM NOT IMPRESSED WITH ANYTHING SHE HAS EVER DONE. SHE IS SELF CENTERED TO THE POINT OF DISGUST. GOD WILL NOT HONOR THAT. HER DAUGHTER WROTE A BOOK OF TRUTH. HER MOTHER IS NEGLECTFUL AND TO BE HONEST, WEIRD. SHAME SHIRELY. SHE NEEDED A MOTHER. SHE NEEDED YOUR LOVE. WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR FAME NOW? YOU DONT IMPRESS ME AT ALL
Shirley is very talented, but it's been made clear that her career came first. Her reaction to the book is just more confirmation. Unless you've had a parent like this, it's hard to relate. But Sachi wanted her mother's love and support - which it appears she seldom got. I don't know why some think that if a person comes from a famous and/or well-off family that they had "everything". Money and privilege doesn't make up for lack of love and emotional security.
Muirmaiden she isn't the only mother whose career comes first before family. As somewhat of a defense they didn't have birth control during her time, people now have no excuse.
Shirley earned more money in a year than most earn in a lifetime, she could easily have taken a year off, or a few years and attended to her family. She wasn't the average working person who must remain employed to make ends meet.
No, but a career like hers demands constant momentum. It's the only reason she works more than any other old actress in Hollywood. She's not the greatest, by any stretch. And, yes, birth control has been around since the 19th century.
Her parents didn't use their wealth to protect her either. Which is really strange, you think they would have hired a nanny or babysitter to take her on an airplane or pick her up from school.
Speaking as someone who had this kind of relationship with her own mother, I have to wonder why these women choose to have children when they know very well they are too selfish to be there emotionally for them? It's all about vanity and I believe the most responsible thing I have ever done is NOT have children. I don't want to put my child through what I went through. If you can't handle parenthood, do not become a parent. It's not a failed hobby, a person's life is at stake.
These narcissists have kids because they see them as toys or accessories. And like any toy, the narcissists discard them once they're bored. Also, giving a child up for adoption requires some level of selflessness. And we know that both MacLaine and her ex-husband didn't have a shred of that.
in the years Shirley was pregnant, it could have been an accident, no birth control or abortions. lots of us were accidental babies whose parents did not really want us!
Some women openly admit that they are too focused on their careers to have children. While they are criticized for this, I still say it's better than having children and treating them badly.
The daughter always has a smile on her face. She is healthy and her sufferings are so minimal in comparison to the underprivileged . In her life of wealth, and opportunity, I don't get it.
Shirley was just another one of those women who were not meant for children. Cute pictures making funny faces with your daughter never means she was a "great mother" at one time, after all she is an actress. A damn good one too. I hope she finds forgiveness, but she isn't gonna find it with aliens.
Neither one of her parents wanted a conventional marriage, or wanted to be tied down... and Shirley and her husband seldom saw each other. Then why get married at all, and better yet, why have a child at all if that child isn't one of the top, if not THE top priority.
+Dana J. Forsythe Back in the day you had to be married in order to be in the union. If you wiki actors from back in da day, you see 3, 4, 5 marriages for many of them. It was more of a business deal. And lets not forget beards.
My co-worker Eric Barnard does her hair. He said Shirley is selfish, demanding, egotistical, spoiled, conceited, self centered and absorbed, but very funny too! and cheap!
Sounds like fun, lol. Do you work in a salon in Hollywood? I always enjoy hearing from people who work in the industry; you all know better than anyone what these actors are like in real life.
Forty years ago I worked in a restaurant on the Strip, frequented by Hollywood luminaries, most of whom were quite lovely. I had always loved Shirley's films and had just read her then-newly released book, "Don't Fall Off the Mountain," which furthered my admiration of her. In the book Shirley talked about sitting in a circle with an African tribe and it read as if she had a true egalitarian sensibility toward humankind. And then I waited on her and two gentlemen one night: NO ONE has ever made me feel more like gum on the bottom of their shoe than Shirley. She was dismissive and rude toward me. I still think she is a fantastic actress, but it does not stretch my imagination AT ALL to believe her daughter's account of her as a mother.
Shirley Maclaine epitomises for me just what a first class narcissist is, and so far up her own backside. She gave birth to who appears to be a wonderful daughter tho'. All the best Sachi, to you and yours.:)
If your career is so important, if you are not gonna give adequate attention to your child, why bother having a child? get an abortion, use birth control to prevent a pregnancy, or adopt the baby out.
Oh, Sachi....I had a psychopathic father and a narcissist mother. It will NEVER be about you. It is always about them. When, at the age of 47, I finally confronted my father about his abuse, including sexual abuse, he only said "You don't want to get into a pissing contest with me, little missy". No apology. Only inferring that he knew things about me that he could tell if I dared say anything about him! I was 14 the last time I lived with him! What could he possibly say about a 14 yr old girl? My mother did say she was sorry I had not real parenting about a month before she died. That did give me some closure with her. The point is, if they acknowledge any abuse towards you, it will be because you "deserved" it. I often wonder why my parents had me. I had a brother who was the golden child. I was the scapegoat. I'm going to buy your book tonight and read it. I wonder if your uncle, Warren Beatty, has anything to do with you or acknowledges how you were treated by his sister?
Sociopath? No, I don't think so. She sounds more like a textbook case of narcissistic personality disorder. NPD is on the same spectrum, though. It's considered a lesser form of sociopathy.
Millions of men hardly see their children at all because of their career. Other parents put their children in boarding school or with nannies and this was seen as quite normal at the time. Don't be guilty of applying double standards and don't judge people you don't know. I hardly know any women whose relationship with their mother was good. Think about it - and that you are only hearing one side of the story.
Rachelstorrersings I asked my mother that question when i was old enough to really understand that she did not enjoy being a mother, it was just a trap and a burden to her . Her answer "Because thats what i thought i was supposed to do." I made the decision not to have children because i would most probably felt the same way . Its the most important job, little lives and hearts are forever formed. Dont take it on if u aren't serious.
I had a mother just like this and she wasn't famous or rich. Just really narcissistic people and the saddest part is they never admit any fault. A near death experience won't bring an apology. I cried with this woman bc I know the pain of missing your mom when she just doesn't want her child. It's a seething type of hell. The pain causes lasting lifelong affects.
Oh wow, this is 6 years ago Sachi! First time I saw you through the camera. I didn't even know that you wrote a book about your mom, Sachi!? So good to see your face again and to know that you are a mother of two beautiful children now! It's been almost 30 years ago, we met in CA via my roommate at that time. Thank God, He answered my prayer and let me see you again via CZcams! Praise the Lord! God bless you, Sachi, my beautiful friend with better Japanese than mine! Haha! Love & prayer from Japan
I understand why lots of these stars' kids write these types of books, it's because they are trying some way to 'get through' to their mothers once ad for all. I'm 55 and I have just about given up on trying to ever get through to my mother. She was incredibly abusive towards me and still is and refuses to change or even see the damage she has done. People can easily say get over it or move on but severe trauma and abuse leave a residue that never goes away unless a person represses it and that's never a good idea to do. Sadly, abusers rarely if ever change or acknowledge what they've done, it just doesn't happen. Abusers all seem to be just 100% ego and little else, that is why they are abusers, they are incapable of empathy or remorse.
seawaves66 It seems they are trying to cash in and make money. Her mother's photo is on the cover! If you really want to express something to your mother or father there are much better ways than writing a book for a bunch of strangers to read.
Creata Ann Why do people write novels? Memoirs? Biographies? Autobiographies? Etc. Because most people want to be heard, and share their grief, sorrow, sadness, happiness, regrets, hopes, ideas, thoughts, feelings, achievements...etc. Her book is not something out of the ordinary, it's just her memoirs and thoughts, there are many other books like that. So you're saying that people shouldn't have to write about how they feel or think just because it's inappropriate somehow? And what if a bunch of strangers want to read what other human being wants to say about themselves, their story? Well, guess what? A bunch of strangers did want to read her book because of empathy or maybe even curiosity. Her story is not unique either, generations over generations of humans would keep making the same mistakes over and over again, probably. And there will always be someone out there who feels like you do, and wants to read you, or hear you. And people need money, everyone does, you can't live without it, sadly. So why not sell your creations? Painters do it, writers do it, actors do it...you get the point. I don't see the problem in her trying to make money with that book.
seawaves66 it's that yearning we will never have when we have a mother like this, I did everything for my so called mom only to have her do horrible things to my reputation and ruin my life, they get worse as they get older, the people they feed off of for their narcissistic fuel dwindle so anyone left really gets it, I walked away from mine at 49 I'll never see her again which is healthier for me, but there will always be that weird void even though I know who she truly is.....I feel sorry for Sachi I can relate, it's something you never get over and get upset with yourself for still having "feelings" and "Hope's of maternal love, they aren't capable of love at all and that's the hard part💔
Creata Ann sadly it doesn't work that way, narcissistic parents never come around, they will always be emotionally inept....probably why she wrote it could be to have her mom validate her, they probably don't speak, youd never understand unless you were raised by someone like that, I was and I can tell you it's so hard to explain and people just don't get it, I never wish any child to have an abusive void of love type parent like this arf when you are raised by some one like this its years of self doubt from the gaslighting and emotional tempertantrums they do constantly , takes a long time to realize what you went through when you turn into an adult, you always think it was you who had the problem
It is okay to appreciate Shirley MacLaine as as a performer... I do! She is an amazing actress. But it is also true that she is a narcissist. I am the daughter of one as well. My mother is very like Shirley... beautiful, charming... absent and vain. My heart breaks for Sachi because I understand what it is like to yearn for your mother’s love. It never goes away. It is a hopeless quest, though. A narcissist cannot love you. They do not have the capacity for true intimacy.
I can only speak of my experience but I can only agree with you. I grew up with a narcissistic Father that was also a entertainer and narcissistic. It is lonely and the conditional approval you get is never enough or validating when you get it. Like Shirley my Father is talented and everyone respects and loves him. The worst thing was when my friends became his fans.
Shirley MacLaine should be ashamed of herself. What a beautiful young woman her daughter was. Trust me I know women like her in all walks of life oblivious to the pain they cause. Shirley get your head out of the clouds are you so bi polar and immoral as to be able to watch your daughter cry on television have to write a book to get you to apologize to her. Come on how many bloody mommie dearest are out there who don't have to owe up to wronging a innocent child. Write all,the books you want sweet heart till the diva hears you.
eva magnusson What do being bi polar and being immoral have to do with each other? I never read of her being bi polar. Bi Polar is a illness someone has.
@@ccgrey8731 often with 'immorality' as a symptom...drinking drugging gambling inappropriate sexual relations. But have never heard if SM being bi-polar. Sounds more like a narcissist.
She's not bi-polar; she's just an evil person. Probably a sociopath or narcissist or a combination of both. It wasn't just the way she treated her child; she was always in the sack with other women's husbands, and in typical movie star fashion was rude and arrogant. If it wasn't for all her money she might have dealt with her unwanted child in a much worse way.
I just saw this too.😳 I didn't know either? And, below the video, it says this was actually in 2013. Wow, how have I been out of the loop on this one?🤷♀️
You would think she would be ENLIGHTENED enough to apologize and bond with her own daughter. Facts are facts. A 2 year old on a plane alone all those hours is NEGLECT. She should be examining her life in the here and now instead of wasting all her energy on past lives. Sad she can only deal with fantasy instead of REALITY.
I quite like Shirley MacLaine. The Apartment and Sweet Charity are two of my favorite movies. That being said, I don't doubt for a second that everything Sachi says is true.
Shocking! HOW can parents be like this?! Some people need licenses to be a parent. Luckily Sachi has survived these horrible experiences and has turned out to be a wonderful person.
I love & respect that Sachi doesn’t seem to be riddled with hate for either parent. I’ve never really had an opinion about Shirley., but now I have absolutely NO respect for Shirley whatsoever!!! And where was her uncle...Warren Beatty during that time period?? I know he was busy having his career etc etc...but wow to have such famous & successful people in her family and not be able to depend on any of them is heartbreaking!! 😔
There's a part in "Hannah and Her Sisters" where Mia Farrow as Hannah does a voice over about her parents saying, "They loved the idea of having us, they just weren't interested in raising us." Perhaps that applies here.
nylrob I have read Soon Yi Previns response to Mia Farrow talking about Woody Alan and she describes her as a good mother only for her biological children. She said the adopted children were virtually ignored or misstreated. So I see some irony there.
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits I always said that about having a kid. Im like "I like the naming part and the taking them to do fun things and getting them to say and do horrible acts in public to amuse me" I get those things as an uncle. (except the naming of them, which my neices are very grateful).
Shirley wasn't even interested in her husband or family. Sachi's father wasn't interested in his daughter at all. Makes me suspicious that the only reason they got married at all was because Shirley got pregnant.
Two adults chose to have a baby and then chose not to raise her. Very sad!
How do you know it was a conscious choice?...
@@charlienonya7016--If it wasn't a choice that was even more of a reason to put her with adoptive parents who would have cared about her and loved her.
@@SFVnative not all adoptive parents are good parents, some are awesome and some are abusive.
Too bad you can't sue your parents for negligence!!!
@@charlienonya7016 WTH?
A CHILD is a living being!!!! You are responsible according to law and nature to nurture and protect it!!!!
I hope you don't have any children!!!!
The baby should have been adopted! At least she could have understood being abandoned more!
Shirley Maclaine herself wrote about how she never saw her husband & daughter. I was shocked at that and felt sorry for her daughter.
I have incredible respect for Sachi Parker. She has turned out ok inspite of everything. What a pretty lady too.
Yes it's a miracle that she turned out well
She lived that life and has every right to write about It. Her mother should own up to the truth.
You are right but I highly doubt she will
Her mother is a anignoramus she never behaved like a lady she was like a child.I wS a little girl when I first saw her I did not like her and I was right
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The only good that seems to have come out of this story is that SACHI herself is a loving mother to her two kids.
Sachi is extremely beautiful inside and out! Thank goodness she had her own children that she can shower with love and affection.
Let's wait and see on that one eh.
@@shepherdboy9692 Not everyone will repeat their parents abuse onto their children.
@@jeannetteduette6704p😅q80
Sachi, you did an excellent job of raising yourself. I wish you didn't have all the hurtful memories. Be very proud of yourself and realize it's beyond your mother's ability to ever change. Many people admire you far more than your mother.
I don't think she's reading this.
Good Performer, always like her but if Sachi book is accurate, Shirley care more about herself then her daughter and her father was no better, to feel alone by the people who are supposed to love and protect you is heartbreaking.
I wish I could go back in time to when she was a little girl and give her a big hug and tell her how special she is. This is really heartbreaking.
My Mother was the same way, decades of therapy to finally say I've had enough, I love her because she is my Mother but I don't want anything to do with her because a great Narcissist will never admit they did anything wrong.
My heart goes out to Sachi.🙏❤️
I am so sorry that this happened to you, Sachi.
Shirley McLaine should be ashamed of herself. That poor child had to heartless parents.
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No, she had TWO heartless parents.
@@enlightenment2012 I can’t. This chick is old too. Lol 😂
Shirley, a narcissist to the max, living in her actress image of grandeur, will NEVER appologize to her daughter. Much love to Shirley’s daughter.
Definitely. Self-centred and just plain selfish.
Shirley Temple i meant my error but they do look similar
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
@@brianlittrell797 it's only character assassination when it isn't true and done for malicious reasons.
@@brigidspencer5123 We don't know for sure if this is true. The media is excellent at making people believe things that are not true. It's one of their main purposes actually.
The physical resemblance between mother and daughter is striking.
vistaestrada But her daughter has a beautiful heart!
Except that Shirley's face radiates evil. Her eyes actually look demonic.
Those sparkling blue eyes!
The kids in "The Children's Hour" would confirm this. They said Shirley was cold and unfriendly on the set, while Audrey Hepburn was friendly and sweet.
Not everyone likes and can relate to young people. It's a sadness to people who are non maternal that they often cannot relate. Let's not judge her too harshly eh. None of us have walked in her shoes.
@@angelwingz892 theres a difference between not relating and mental abuse on a child. Did you read the book? Her daughter was used more as a convenient prop for her fans. Her daughter is way more forgiving than I would be for sure.
What she went through is horrible and nobody deserves it. But people need to put themselves in the actress’s shoes. Hollywood and live in general was very different and a lot harder for these women. They were also being abused
@@tsxtina2919Would Hollywood and life in general back then stop a mother from living with her kid and treating her with love?
@@monmothma3358 well these women were being abused behind the scenes. It doesn’t justify, but it does explain. You also have to put yourself in that time frame. Hollywood was the first industry that allowed women to be big players in the financial sector. Before movies women hardly worked. If women did work it was usually as seamstresses or cooks or maids. If women had a lot of money and because they are inherited or they married into it. Hollywood was the first industry that really depended on women as much as they depended on men to become a really big financial superpower. That means they were the first women who had to figure out a balance between home life and work life. Because of the mistakes these women made women of today have a better understanding and a better balancing act on home life and work life. Everything isn’t black and white. What these women did to their children was terrible but everything has a silver lining. Because what they did for society is super valuable.
I had to let go of my mother 26 years ago. She didn't care. I had to care enough about me to do what was right for me. My life since then has been calm and peaceful and rich. God Bless Sachi, may she go forward no matter what happened in the past.
So sad can't understand the mind of people like them in human
I feel like so many people don’t understand how having a selfish, cold, fair weather parent, truly changes your life.
truly does
I honestly think her parents were a bit crazy. They didn't have a marriage or family...who knows, maybe Shirley Mclachlan also had a dark childhood, and just put on an act of confidence for the world.
Classic narcissists, both of them.
@bdazzleddesigns9219 why both of them?
Yes. David Bowie said that his mother was cold and unloving and he was always trying to please her. I’m sure that affected him for the rest of his life.
WOW! Never did I think Shirley MacLaine was like that. Her poor daughter.
not so poor
I believe her and to those who criticize her for writing the book, it's her mother, her life and her story and she has every right to tell it.
I totally agree.
Rather her INTERPRETATION. Sachi's glass is always half empty! That's her choice.
If she really LOVED her mother sooo much, she wouldn't have destroyed the chance of a better understanding as they both get older.
And believe me, it's possible! ... instead of accusing the other, you try understanding them!
As Shirley's friend said: pointing your finger at someone, you always point three at yourself ...
Agreed! Shirley has written about her relationship with Sachi in several books. If you want people to speak kindly of you then you have to treat them well.
Leni G. True
Alexandra Wimmer Let me get this straight! There are witnesses that confirm Satchie's story! Satchie herself has tried to make amends with her mother. Yet, you blame her for the downfall of this relationship! Until Satchie turned 21, Shirley was the adult and should have acted as one! This is a story of child neglect and abuse by both parents! Yet, the child is supposed to understand! Just unbelievable! Shirley got what she sewed! Satchie grew up and has tried to make amends with her parents which fell on deaf ears! Satchie has every right to call a spade a spade! People should stop telling victims to move on when they are deserving of an apology!
Shirley loves only one person: herself.
Ha...🤣
How would you feel if your work in this world, to entertain people and make them feel happiness (& or the sadness of this world we live in), was equated to your personal private life? Think about it, and then stop watching her in the countless films she has acted in, or give her some slack in parenthood.
The way she is attacked is kindof par for the course of talented, hard working, exceptionally good entertainers, but it is also very annoying.
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Sounds like her brother Warren Beatty.
She’s a genius. No one is a saint
And good for her!! She wanted to do great things and that’s what she did!
Got the impression the only people they hadn't slept with were each other!
My heart breaks for her. Abandonment is child abuse! Nothing less!
They were strange parents. Abandoned by one and abused by the other, they treated her like an unwanted suitcase 😣
Often times very talented, creative people are just, literally on another planet. They should give their children to a good home, many couples are dying for kids like Sachi.
Jane S wow, literally? Which planet and how did they get there?
I'm one of the people who want kids and can't have them.
Yeah, or simply not have kids.
If you do put another person into the world, that's a big responsibility. You have to spend that time and give that love.
My heart broke for Sachi Parker. Shirley Maclaine always came across as a person extremely forcused ... on herself. Sorry, Sachi, you deserved better.
They want to be a wanna be Japanese..
I remember reading in Maclaine's first book, when she was referring to Sachi, then two years old, that "she would always be around when she needed me, but not whether she needed me or not," and shipped her off to Japan. What two year old doesn't need her mother?
Yes she does seem to love herself way too much
@@baiaforev2407 Key: loving herself to the exclusion of others, even those too young/innocent to understand.
ALL babies/children are some narcissistic, but that is for their Survival. As kids get older, they start learning [if properly parented] to look outward, to care about others, so there’s balance.
Shirley probably had a rotten home life growing up, which left her focused on her own needs, never really learning to “walk a mile in someone else’s moccasins before you think you know about them or what they need”.
And what normal mother can part with their child?
Sachi actually had a small part in a soap opera. She once went to a premiere with her mother (who was being condescending to her adoring fans). Then someone noticed sachi from the show and she herself was swarmed with people. She turned around to look at her mother, who couldn’t hide her fury. You know ur parent has hit rock bottom when they can’t be happy for their kids’ success. Grow up, Shirley.
This backs up everything I was ever told by my aunt. She and my uncle were living overseas, where he was with the State Department. They were at a party one evening when Steve Parker and Sachi were also present, and apparently Parker was really giving my aunt the once-over. He trotted Sachi out to meet the grown-ups, remarking right in front of her that she was a homely little girl just like her mother. My aunt said that long after Parker had gone off in a corner somewhere with a woman, that they basically spent the rest of the evening keeping an eye on Sachi as nobody else seemed to care.
I knew Sachi back in the early 1970s. She's telling the truth. Shirley did visit her at the UK independent school Sachi was at, for one day in over a year. She was neglected. Shirley wasn't ready to be a Mum.
Oh the friend confirmed allegations Sashi makes...
I was there - I’ll never understand how parents can do so much damage to their children. I am shaking my head wondering - why did have a child?
Thank you for your honesty.
What selfish rotten parents. Poor girl what a sad life and she's managed to come through still smiling.
+Joan Anne Wallace I think she smiles to keep from crying. She seems like a really sweet and sensitive person. I bet she's a great mother.
Sachi Parker. Wow. A beautiful spirit. Such a treasure.
Sachi seems like such a sweetheart. It kills me that her life was so rough and so lonely.
I hope Sachi's's turned out to be a wonderful mother … that it did more than just heal her.
@@jeanoboyle2439 she looks like she is
Wow. This is another example of how we put way too much value on actors, way too much, and don't know them from a hole in the wall. Wish I knew this earlier. Would have skipped her movies completely. Hey shirley, this is not about a career choice, this is about your neglect of a human being who needed you, and that was your child.
Same here sad💜☮️💜❤️💙
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits Shirley can’t be that spiritual to neglect her daughter! Very sad 🌠☮️💜
Your comment is just more of the same lol. You’re once again putting too much stock in an artist to somehow fit your moral compass. Who cares about either of them, honestly?
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
@@coaltin2509 I don't know how old you are but she really was thought of in a certain way, as a likable person. But that may not be true at all. It's being moral in the most ordinary way- to care about your children. It's not a matter of fitting into anyone's "moral compass". Taking care of your children, or caring about your children is the most basic of moralities.
Read the book, deeply disturbing.
From other comments I have seen elsewhere, Shirley MacLaine is NOT a nice person at all, which affirms what Sachi has written.
I feel sorry for the lady and it doesn’t say much for Shirley, but let’s be clear, millions of men do this without raising an eyebrow
Yes, men put their career first and they're hard workers. A woman does it and she's selfish.
She really was though.
True but it is rare bad woman who can do that. Ugh
Horrible mother!!! Jackie Kennedy said, "If you fail your children, nothing else really matters." I would say Shirley MacLaine is a failure
And said anything about Jackie, but she was a present and interested mother. John and Caroline loved her ever after her death.
T Kamp
Awful woman. Shirley reminds me of my own mother (only *my* mother wasn’t a success in any area of her life except in destroying her own family and those her dared go against her).
@@EYE_GOTCHA You're strong to get thought it!
Jackue was no better. She slept with all kennedy brothers, was paid $5 million to 'stay' with jack so he would be voted in as president...so high paid hooker, jackie had Mo room to talk.
Jackie was a walking portrayal of class and beauty!
Shirley Maclaine with all her millions couldn't / wouldn't pay for her daughter's college education?! Ugh.
Nor even pay for her food as a stranded age fourteener. Appalling.
Millions maybe, but millions which Shirley Maclaine worked for ALL BY HERSELF!
So no! she was doing her daughter a great favour!
She taught her needy wimpy daughter that she could make it on her own, that she isn't dependent on her mother.
After all, Sachi expected to be treated with extra help just for being ShMcl's daughter, while most other star's offspring worked twice as hard to prove they could make it on their own.
Shirley gave her daughter the same level of money, care and emotional support … practically nothing and you think that is OK. There is another word for that abuse.
Alexandra Wimmer why are you advocating so hard for Shirley McLean. Defending someone you supposedly don’t know or just maybe this is Shirley herself. Wouldn’t surprise me one bit after all McLean the narcissist pathetic excuse for a mother as well extremely unbalanced individual hiding behind a fake name to trash her daughter to defend her abhorrent behaviour of a child. And yes I agree with those of you this was child abuse.
Alexandra Wimmer You do realize that only in the US parents aren't required to pay for their children's education. Everywhere else in the world parents are required because parents had the children! It's time the US stop putting their kids off on to society and pay for them!
Some people should never have children. There is no excuse for having a child, AND THEN realizing you should not have.
Reincarnation and carrying on. We always learn. Nothing is ever lost.
Yep. But most actual children of vile parents do not have the means to write a book. How about we ut some effort into helping people - especially children - who are actually suffering? Suffering in Hollywood when this woman was growing up meant you got a light blue $50,000 car when you expressly stated that you required dark blue. art of the whole Hot Mess that is Hollywood!
LOL, right, that happens. Prove that reincarnation is real.
Since you're a man(John stit), I'd like to know dear John, how ShMcl was supposed to achieve to not have a child in 1957?
What do you know about contraception of back then?
Also, how was ShMcl to know, that her daughter would be her absolute opposite?
I think she simply didn't like her daughter; her charakter and personality do not match one bit!
Brownie lover
Then read it again!
You can't be that ignorant
WHAT a beautiful woman! Those of us who have experienced parental neglect and abuse know exactly how you feel.
I read Sachi's book a couple of years ago and my view of Shirley changed. Such a selfish person. How can you leave a young child alone like that?? Just horrible. Did anybody else notice at 5:29 when they show the clip from Postcards From the Edge behind Meryl is the LIFE cover of Shirley with Sachi?
Yeah shirley is selfish woman
No doubt Shirley wanted that in there
@@kirk1007 I believe that Carrie Fisher, on whose book the film is based, likely knew about Sachi's upbringing and added the Life cover with Shirley and Sachi to follow the conversation between mother and daughter (a semi-autographical story about Carrie and her mother, Debbie Reynolds).
This certainly changes my perspective towards Shirley Maclaine. One thing I've learned: some people just aren't capable of loving anyone. Not even their own children. Or themselves. They seek love and attention themselves. Trying to fill a void. OH SHIRLEY, love your daughter. Know your grandchildren. Shirley, if your looking for answers, look towards your daughter and your grandchildren.You might find that one major VOID, is that of your own immediate family. I've always liked you Shirley. So talented and all. Reach out your hand and heart to this hurting daughter. Tomorrow is never promised.
Agreed!
Shirley MacLaine proudly says she chose her career over her daughter. Yeah, congratulations on that.
ya - it's totally fine if you want to focus your entire life on your career. But then don't have kids!
chris olson... what I want to know is where the hell was her uncle. Warren Beatty! Didn't he see what was happening to his own flesh and blood...what a family!
chris olson well she believes in karma/reincarnation. So good luck w that as well!!
@@natashab3412 ahahahahahah snap!
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It was more than her career: it was the fame, the money and the attention she craved and couldn’t or wouldn’t dare give it up. Shirley could of had both had she created some balance for her daughter.
"I deserve this" I cannot stomach Shirley Maclean.
Lol thats pure Hollywood. Its hilarious. Lett it go. Obviously her daughter has.
I always thought. S M was bit of a weirdo and never liked her or her brother Warren's movies both seemed depressed looking and believe they didn't like each other much either maybe it's a generational thing with them both SACCHI is not self centered as they both seem to be so hasn't got the problem she shows this in her compassion for her mother and her love for her children the cycle is broken it seems Hallelujah❤❤❤
What a disgrace! I hope Sachi has found some peace and closure.
She had no money for college??? Wtf
The most outrageous I think is that Shirley didn't pay for a college education. Unbelievable
Yes but they had plenty of money to send her off to a boarding school. Selfish and cold hearted.
That's not worse thing that happened to her, abandonment and neglect leave a indelible mark on a child's soul.
1969Vanessa G Amazed she wasn’t sexually abused by pedophiles with no supervision
@@sue9587 Shirley MacLaine sounds like a selfish bitch who should have never had children. You can tell her daughter is telling the truth because she's so uncomfortable speaking about her "mother".
This is so sad. And she seems like a very nice woman...Imagine working as a flight attendant and seeing your mom only in the movies of the flight! I mean, that's really cruel.
Fer Abra....yes........no words....
If you think that’s cruel, you’d never believe my life.
@@davidyatesmckay--Sending your kids to college when you're a multi-millionaire is a decent thing to do. You don't owe your children Christmas presents either. Or to provide needed surgery for a family member when you're extremely wealthy. But who refuses to do that?
@@davidyatesmckay: It was dangerous back then. There were at least a couple of plane crashes a year. The late 1970s and 80s were horrific for plane crashes, some caused by terrorist bombs. Not just the number of them but how horribly the people died; incinerated alive, sucked out to fall five miles to their deaths after a bomb made a hole, one person sucked out into an engine. And Shirley didn't care that this could happen to her only child. What an evil witch.
@@davidyatesmckay I think you missed the point.
Such a shame, I feel so sorry for her, and now I see Shirley MacLaine in a completely different light, not a positive one.
She says “ I laugh now but...”. That will ALWAYS be painful for her.
I wish her all the best.
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So thankful I have sisters to get through our cold/distant mother stories with. So sad this poor woman didn't.
My perception of this actress has now changed completely. What a sad and tragic story, and my heart goes out to Scahi for the lost years of motherly love. Sadly, I've been there.
They are just people, and nasty people...And telling us who to vote for too!
While this might be true, I take it with a grain of salt. Anything that the mainstream media "portrays" I take with a grain of salt. Character assassinations are one of their favorite things to do.
When I was little and I saw Shirley dancing and singing so sparky. I wished that she was my mother but no thank you after knowing this.
Shirley could have at least put her through college.
@Michele Wheldon Seeing as how shitty she was as mom, such as LITERALLY LEAVING HER CHILD STRANDED FOR TWO WEEKS it is the least she could do. Truly disgusting behavior.
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits R u really defending someone who abandoned their own child?
Some people shouldn't have kids.
Bingo. If she wanted to dedicate herself completely to making movies then she should have remained childless.
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Nobody should have kids if they want to love their lives.
My exact thoughts! Why have children if they are a burden in your life. The father is Mr. Idiot!
Unfortunately there are thousands and thousands of children giving birth to children and dropping them elsewhere... the suituation hasn’t changed in the world, young women are having babies with NO intention of getting married or some even including the fathers, and just as many men running from the law that don’t even want to give monetary support much less be a parent. So sad!
If this is only 10% true, I don't know how Shirley
could show her face ANYWHERE!
One can feel the sadness and pain in her eyes 😢 I wish for her and her family eternal happiness 🙏
How disappointing. I've had to reevaluate my admiration for Shirley MacLaine after learning of her neglect of her daughter.
It is nothing less than frightening that Shirley left her 2-year-old daughter on a 2-day plane flight. This should have been downright illegal. So she was worried about her daughter being kidnapped, but not too worried to leave her on her own unsupervised in a plane? Stewardesses can't meet the needs of a 2-year-old.
It WAS illegal but conceited Shirley didn’t care.
I bet the airline agreed that the stewardesses would watch out for h er. Some kids fly today like t hat. I STILL think it was awful, esp at that age.
She could’ve at least hired a freakin nanny to accompany her... in fact that would’ve been the best thing in the world for her - so many nannies have been unintentional surrogate mothers for the wealthy.... I’m surprised that didn’t occur in this situation. It would’ve been better than having TWO neglectful parents. 😞
Thank you for writing his book, for all the abandoned children. Abandon is a type of abuse. People who say get over it are not victims of abuse as children. Otherwise they would know that you can't get rid of the child in you (with all the pain and fears) no more than getting rid of an arm.
You can heal to some extent but you can't get rid of an important part of your life. And for a child, a parent is their universe. If Shirley want to help her daughter heal she should really LISTEN to her daughter, own her mistakes and find harmony. And as for the light she's looking for in zombie worlds, she could find it here, on Earth.
+musiclover6133. Boy, you said a mouthful and so very true! Thank you!!
musiclover6133 so right.
musiclover6133 an arm would be easier.
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They should never have had a child. Utterly heartbreaking ☹️
Is it possible Shirley never wanted a child... and Sachi was unexpected...possibly she and Parker decided not to interrupt the pregnancy? Her cold indifference speaks volumes. Vary sad for Sachi...if her mother wasn't a celebrity...adoption would have been the humane way to go....however...her Mom is a narccist on steriods and has behaved accordingly. Hopefully Sachi has gotten psychological help and seems to have gone on with her life. Bravo to Sachi.
The problem with a tell-all about Shirley MacLaine is that it won't hurt her career. She's old, her friends are all dead, and she has nothing to lose.
...What career? She's a has-been albeit a very talented one.
Yes, she lost my atmiration. Had l known this story l would not have paid to see her on Broadway
she's lost me
How I can relate to what Shasha is saying. I had the DISCOMFORT of having met her mother in 1996. She was a "patient" at a resort which I managed. Shirley was the most mean, nasty and horrible patient we ever had. She lied (accused me of calling the National Enquirer to tell them where she was!!!) She complained about the resort "mascot" which was a beautiful grey angora cat....Hateful is what the staff called her. My heart goes out to this lovely and tragic young lady who has the MISFORTUNE of being this "Actress' daughter." I always worried about Sasha, especially after I met and witnessed her mother for being the cold, mean creature she is. And by the way...I have met Shirley's publishers and her crack pot books were written by a GHOST WRITER. God bless you Sasha and your children ...You are very much BETTER OFF without this woman in your life! TRUST ME!!!
well FFFFFfff her,,, as a writer,,, That is BS,, OK,, the TRUTH comes Out,,, GOOD!
OMG! Really a ghostwriter? For ALL of them (she 'wrote' quite a few) I only read parts of a cpl of her books, but I loved them. So Im also not real educated in this, aren't' they required to state that they didnt write the books in the forward or intro?
Thank you for sharing, that woman is the typical narcissist who only cares about herself and will do everything for attention, but life always comes back at us.
I also read that she stole a friend's experiences in Peru and wrote Out on a Limb.
Yes, maybe she was lucky Shirley left her with the father.
all celebrity parents need to look towards Debbie Reynolds.. not saying her relationship was perfect but the unconditional love for her children was clearly visible.
And yet her daughter Carrie Fisher wrote Postcards from the Edge.
A Aktar: She didn't give her up because she REALLY DOES LOVE HER DAUGHTER. In my 66 years of living and loving, I've raised 4 children. I was a very young mother who knew NOTHING about physical relations. At 16 I was a mother of 2 and running a household. No mother without LOVE, birth's a child if she doesn't LOVE that child. Some simply doesn't let anything get in the way of their goals. Shirley McLain is no exception. She didn't get Sashi alone, even though the father was mentally abusive. We're ALL of US imperfect and suffer from the same dreaded disease of missing the mark. But thanks be to GOD by means of Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior, who will rescue us soon. Hold up your head Sashi. And NEVER forget that she didn't have to let you live; many don't you know. Keep the door open for her and keep your balance and love for your mother!!! I love you and I've never heard of you before now. Love your children with ALL that you have and are. Your reward is with them. Shirley LOVE'S you believe it or not; she really does!!!👍😘🤗💝😌😊😎.
ok but it clearly didn't work did it .......shall we list the problems carrie fisher had
She may have loved her children, but they had a bizarre/chaotic existence, and we all know all the problems Carrie had. Debbie is no ideal for show business parents. Also, just because they look happy, if they do, doesn't mean they are happy.
But she never said it was about HER mother
Yes, I'm glad I chose my children, over the singing career I could have had. The joy of having loving children is much greater joy!
keep singing ... they grow up!!!
With all her spirituality and she doesn't get "love is all there is." Shirley u have to do a lot more work on yourself!
@12345grov Demon-possessed. She needs Jesus or she will die in her sins.
@12345grov Good Christians should speak what is evident. Of course she is demon possessed. I am very familiar with the Occult, & this woman is being deceived by demonic entities. She needs to be delivered before it is too late.
@12345grov Ithinkyou need Jesus Christ as your Savior & to be filled with his Spirit.
I don't think any of her spiritually is real now. Just for attention. Sad
This angers me. It's apparent Shirley Maclaine is all about Shirley. So sad. And now it's also very apparent she was and is delusional as well.
Why do people only ever believe negative SHIT when there is not one iota of truth?? Shame on all of you and may you never know the pain of being lied about, as so many famous people are.
I would say the guilt drove her nuts..........but I don't think narcissist experience guilt.
Hey griffin: her abuse has been backed up by family friends of McClaine's.
OMG. SHE WAS VERY TALENTED. I COULD CARE LESS. HER DAUGHTER IS A GIFT FROM GOD. SHE ABANDONED THAT GIFT. I AM NOT IMPRESSED WITH ANYTHING SHE HAS EVER DONE. SHE IS SELF CENTERED TO THE POINT OF DISGUST. GOD WILL NOT HONOR THAT. HER DAUGHTER WROTE A BOOK OF TRUTH. HER MOTHER IS NEGLECTFUL AND TO BE HONEST, WEIRD. SHAME SHIRELY. SHE NEEDED A MOTHER. SHE NEEDED YOUR LOVE. WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR FAME NOW? YOU DONT IMPRESS ME AT ALL
Is she though?
I feel so sad for Sachi and admire her for her positive attitude 💔
You can see the sadness in Sachi's face, I really feel for her.
I lost respect for Shirley because of this!!! Some people should NOT have children!!!
I lost respect after those worthless books.
@@paintinganimalsonrocks7633 actually...her 1st book, Out on a Limb, was the beginning of a spiritual journey, that I'm still on! Good book.......
Chatty Cathy what kind of “spirituality” results in neglecting and abandoning your own child???
What made you respect her in the first place?
@@calisongbird Spirituality what we make of it but her priority was messed up.
Common some women don't out their kids first.
Shirley is very talented, but it's been made clear that her career came first. Her reaction to the book is just more confirmation. Unless you've had a parent like this, it's hard to relate. But Sachi wanted her mother's love and support - which it appears she seldom got. I don't know why some think that if a person comes from a famous and/or well-off family that they had "everything". Money and privilege doesn't make up for lack of love and emotional security.
Muirmaiden she isn't the only mother whose career comes first before family. As somewhat of a defense they didn't have birth control during her time, people now have no excuse.
Shirley earned more money in a year than most earn in a lifetime, she could easily have taken a year off, or a few years and attended to her family. She wasn't the average working person who must remain employed to make ends meet.
No, but a career like hers demands constant momentum. It's the only reason she works more than any other old actress in Hollywood. She's not the greatest, by any stretch. And, yes, birth control has been around since the 19th century.
Sometimes kids need to actually BE RAISED so they can function in the world. Shirley McLaine is a narcissist.
Her parents didn't use their wealth to protect her either. Which is really strange, you think they would have hired a nanny or babysitter to take her on an airplane or pick her up from school.
Speaking as someone who had this kind of relationship with her own mother, I have to wonder why these women choose to have children when they know very well they are too selfish to be there emotionally for them? It's all about vanity and I believe the most responsible thing I have ever done is NOT have children. I don't want to put my child through what I went through. If you can't handle parenthood, do not become a parent. It's not a failed hobby, a person's life is at stake.
These narcissists have kids because they see them as toys or accessories. And like any toy, the narcissists discard them once they're bored.
Also, giving a child up for adoption requires some level of selflessness. And we know that both MacLaine and her ex-husband didn't have a shred of that.
in the years Shirley was pregnant, it could have been an accident, no birth control or abortions. lots of us were accidental babies whose parents did not really want us!
Some women openly admit that they are too focused on their careers to have children. While they are criticized for this, I still say it's better than having children and treating them badly.
@@GailChadbourne It still doesn't excuse treating her daughter like trash. Sachi's parents had enough money to at least avoid neglecting her so badly.
It's refreshing to see such a good direct reporter and Shirley MacLaine is obviously a narcissist poor child/woman struck out with both parents
Shirley MacLaine really is insane. Seriously.
The daughter always has a smile on her face. She is healthy and her sufferings are so minimal in comparison to the underprivileged . In her life of wealth, and opportunity, I don't get it.
I wish you well Sachi. You deserve to be happy.
Yes, Sachi. Ditto on what tlana EQ said above. Best wishes, dear heart. I wish I could have helped you.
Sachi is so gracious. It's obvious she still loves her mom.
people?
its shirley maclaine?
we all know shes strait up nuts
always has been
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I really feel for Sachi. I think Shirley Maclaine should take a leaf out of all her New Age crap and SAY SORRY.
Yes. True❤️💜💙💚
Shirley was just another one of those women who were not meant for children. Cute pictures making funny faces with your daughter never means she was a "great mother" at one time, after all she is an actress. A damn good one too. I hope she finds forgiveness, but she isn't gonna find it with aliens.
Well said.
My gut tells me that Sochi is a wonderful person, though.
At least she had only one.
Neither one of her parents wanted a conventional marriage, or wanted to be tied down... and Shirley and her husband seldom saw each other. Then why get married at all, and better yet, why have a child at all if that child isn't one of the top, if not THE top priority.
+Dana J. Forsythe Back in the day you had to be married in order to be in the union. If you wiki actors from back in da day, you see 3, 4, 5 marriages for many of them. It was more of a business deal. And lets not forget beards.
Sam Tenuto the rich could always get abortions
rich people have objections to aboriton also, atleast they can.
@@MatimoreAgain what are beards? Gay men who marry women?
I thought the same thing. Selfish Shirley should have stayed single.
My co-worker Eric Barnard does her hair. He said Shirley is selfish, demanding, egotistical, spoiled, conceited, self centered and absorbed, but very funny too! and cheap!
Sounds like fun, lol. Do you work in a salon in Hollywood? I always enjoy hearing from people who work in the industry; you all know better than anyone what these actors are like in real life.
If Shirley gets wind of this, Eric will likely be out of a job. You should have kept your mouth shut. Sounds like you betrayed a friend.
L G you can get
Remind me to NEVER share confidential information with YOU!!
Forty years ago I worked in a restaurant on the Strip, frequented by Hollywood luminaries, most of whom were quite lovely. I had always loved Shirley's films and had just read her then-newly released book, "Don't Fall Off the Mountain," which furthered my admiration of her. In the book Shirley talked about sitting in a circle with an African tribe and it read as if she had a true egalitarian sensibility toward humankind. And then I waited on her and two gentlemen one night: NO ONE has ever made me feel more like gum on the bottom of their shoe than Shirley. She was dismissive and rude toward me. I still think she is a fantastic actress, but it does not stretch my imagination AT ALL to believe her daughter's account of her as a mother.
Good luck waiting for an apology from a narcissist since they’re never wrong.
Shirley Maclaine epitomises for me just what a first class narcissist is, and so far up her own backside. She gave birth to who appears to be a wonderful daughter tho'.
All the best Sachi, to you and yours.:)
If your career is so important, if you are not gonna give adequate attention to your child, why bother having a child? get an abortion, use birth control to prevent a pregnancy, or adopt the baby out.
Dont kill the baby. Don't abort the unborn child. Adopt him or her out.
Makes me wonder what type of childhood McClaine had. In any case, there is no excuse for the neglect of Sashi.
Oh, Sachi....I had a psychopathic father and a narcissist mother. It will NEVER be about you. It is always about them. When, at the age of 47, I finally confronted my father about his abuse, including sexual abuse, he only said "You don't want to get into a pissing contest with me, little missy". No apology. Only inferring that he knew things about me that he could tell if I dared say anything about him! I was 14 the last time I lived with him! What could he possibly say about a 14 yr old girl? My mother did say she was sorry I had not real parenting about a month before she died. That did give me some closure with her. The point is, if they acknowledge any abuse towards you, it will be because you "deserved" it. I often wonder why my parents had me. I had a brother who was the golden child. I was the scapegoat. I'm going to buy your book tonight and read it. I wonder if your uncle, Warren Beatty, has anything to do with you or acknowledges how you were treated by his sister?
That is brutally heart wrenching. Maclaine must be a sociopath.
Matthew Hall Oh you have NO IDEA!!!! A human without a soul!
Narcissist
Sociopath? No, I don't think so. She sounds more like a textbook case of narcissistic personality disorder. NPD is on the same spectrum, though. It's considered a lesser form of sociopathy.
she obviously had a child she didn't want
I agree with the brutally heart wrenching part. How very sad.
Why have a child at all? Really selfish 😢
Rachelstorrersings exactly, what is the point?
She probably wasn't planned but she could have given her up for adoption since they were not available to be responsible parents 😞
Millions of men hardly see their children at all because of their career. Other parents put their children in boarding school or with nannies and this was seen as quite normal at the time. Don't be guilty of applying double standards and don't judge people you don't know. I hardly know any women whose relationship with their mother was good. Think about it - and that you are only hearing one side of the story.
@@fluffyfour yes, only one side of the story. The child's side, who had no say in how she was being treated, a helpless little baby.
Rachelstorrersings I asked my mother that question when i was old enough to really understand that she did not enjoy being a mother, it was just a trap and a burden to her
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Her answer "Because thats what i thought i was supposed to do." I made the decision not to have children because i would most probably felt the same way
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Its the most important job, little lives and hearts are forever formed. Dont take it on if u aren't serious.
I had a mother just like this and she wasn't famous or rich. Just really narcissistic people and the saddest part is they never admit any fault. A near death experience won't bring an apology. I cried with this woman bc I know the pain of missing your mom when she just doesn't want her child. It's a seething type of hell. The pain causes lasting lifelong affects.
Oh wow, this is 6 years ago Sachi! First time I saw you through the camera. I didn't even know that you wrote a book about your mom, Sachi!? So good to see your face again and to know that you are a mother of two beautiful children now! It's been almost 30 years ago, we met in CA via my roommate at that time. Thank God, He answered my prayer and let me see you again via CZcams! Praise the Lord! God bless you, Sachi, my beautiful friend with better Japanese than mine! Haha! Love & prayer from Japan
I understand why lots of these stars' kids write these types of books, it's because they are trying some way to 'get through' to their mothers once ad for all. I'm 55 and I have just about given up on trying to ever get through to my mother. She was incredibly abusive towards me and still is and refuses to change or even see the damage she has done. People can easily say get over it or move on but severe trauma and abuse leave a residue that never goes away unless a person represses it and that's never a good idea to do. Sadly, abusers rarely if ever change or acknowledge what they've done, it just doesn't happen. Abusers all seem to be just 100% ego and little else, that is why they are abusers, they are incapable of empathy or remorse.
seawaves66 It seems they are trying to cash in and make money. Her mother's photo is on the cover! If you really want to express something to your mother or father there are much better ways than writing a book for a bunch of strangers to read.
Creata Ann Why do people write novels? Memoirs? Biographies? Autobiographies? Etc. Because most people want to be heard, and share their grief, sorrow, sadness, happiness, regrets, hopes, ideas, thoughts, feelings, achievements...etc.
Her book is not something out of the ordinary, it's just her memoirs and thoughts, there are many other books like that. So you're saying that people shouldn't have to write about how they feel or think just because it's inappropriate somehow? And what if a bunch of strangers want to read what other human being wants to say about themselves, their story? Well, guess what? A bunch of strangers did want to read her book because of empathy or maybe even curiosity.
Her story is not unique either, generations over generations of humans would keep making the same mistakes over and over again, probably. And there will always be someone out there who feels like you do, and wants to read you, or hear you.
And people need money, everyone does, you can't live without it, sadly. So why not sell your creations? Painters do it, writers do it, actors do it...you get the point. I don't see the problem in her trying to make money with that book.
seawaves66 it's that yearning we will never have when we have a mother like this, I did everything for my so called mom only to have her do horrible things to my reputation and ruin my life, they get worse as they get older, the people they feed off of for their narcissistic fuel dwindle so anyone left really gets it, I walked away from mine at 49 I'll never see her again which is healthier for me, but there will always be that weird void even though I know who she truly is.....I feel sorry for Sachi I can relate, it's something you never get over and get upset with yourself for still having "feelings" and "Hope's of maternal love, they aren't capable of love at all and that's the hard part💔
Creata Ann sadly it doesn't work that way, narcissistic parents never come around, they will always be emotionally inept....probably why she wrote it could be to have her mom validate her, they probably don't speak, youd never understand unless you were raised by someone like that, I was and I can tell you it's so hard to explain and people just don't get it, I never wish any child to have an abusive void of love type parent like this arf when you are raised by some one like this its years of self doubt from the gaslighting and emotional tempertantrums they do constantly , takes a long time to realize what you went through when you turn into an adult, you always think it was you who had the problem
they are narcissistic sociopaths = very hard to feel love from them or love them when you know the truth of who they are!
It is okay to appreciate Shirley MacLaine as as a performer... I do! She is an amazing actress. But it is also true that she is a narcissist. I am the daughter of one as well. My mother is very like Shirley... beautiful, charming... absent and vain. My heart breaks for Sachi because I understand what it is like to yearn for your mother’s love. It never goes away. It is a hopeless quest, though. A narcissist cannot love you. They do not have the capacity for true intimacy.
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Absolutely true. Narcissistic parents don’t love anyone but themselves
They don't even love themselves. They worship themselves, but not love. They don't have the ability to "love" at all.
I can only speak of my experience but I can only agree with you. I grew up with a narcissistic Father that was also a entertainer and narcissistic. It is lonely and the conditional approval you get is never enough or validating when you get it. Like Shirley my Father is talented and everyone respects and loves him. The worst thing was when my friends became his fans.
@@jacquiethielen I hear you my father wasn't famous but he didn't love me. And when he talked to me he always found ways to put me down
I've never liked Shirley MacLaine or her narcissistic brother Warren Beatty. Sachi, you are better off without her.
Sachi knows she"ll never get the closure from her mother. I hope she finds the strength to give herself the closure in time.
Shirley MacLaine should be ashamed of herself. What a beautiful young woman her daughter was. Trust me I know women like her in all walks of life oblivious to the pain they cause. Shirley get your head out of the clouds are you so bi polar and immoral as to be able to watch your daughter cry on television have to write a book to get you to apologize to her. Come on how many bloody mommie dearest are out there who don't have to owe up to wronging a innocent child. Write all,the books you want sweet heart till the diva hears you.
eva magnusson What do being bi polar and being immoral have to do with each other? I never read of her being bi polar. Bi Polar is a illness someone has.
@@ccgrey8731 often with 'immorality' as a symptom...drinking drugging gambling inappropriate sexual relations. But have never heard if SM being bi-polar. Sounds more like a narcissist.
Unfortunately there's mommie and daddy dearest everywhere mine as a daddy. He's no longer in my life
She's not bi-polar; she's just an evil person. Probably a sociopath or narcissist or a combination of both. It wasn't just the way she treated her child; she was always in the sack with other women's husbands, and in typical movie star fashion was rude and arrogant. If it wasn't for all her money she might have dealt with her unwanted child in a much worse way.
Damn....
I didn't know this about Shirley McClain...
Heartbreaking life for her daughter.
I just saw this too.😳 I didn't know either? And, below the video, it says this was actually in 2013. Wow, how have I been out of the loop on this one?🤷♀️
I believe in reincarnation and I also believe in karma - yours is coming, Shirley, with a vengeance!
Yes. I never wish anyone bad- just what they deserve. That usually does it.
...Even Joan Crawford paid her daughter's college tuition before she dropped out and returned years later.
You would think she would be ENLIGHTENED enough to apologize and bond with her own daughter. Facts are facts. A 2 year old on a plane alone all those hours is NEGLECT. She should be examining her life in the here and now instead of wasting all her energy on past lives. Sad she can only deal with fantasy instead of REALITY.
Past life: Concentration camp guard.
Next life: Sewer rat.
Next life: Hollywood liberal (who knows better than you).
I quite like Shirley MacLaine. The Apartment and Sweet Charity are two of my favorite movies. That being said, I don't doubt for a second that everything Sachi says is true.
They're only movies and we're talking about life.
They may only be movies but they do continue to give pleasure to millions of us who need to escape life.
@@davidyatesmckay--Not according to people who knew them both.
What a beautiful daughter
Shocking! HOW can parents be like this?! Some people need licenses to be a parent. Luckily Sachi has survived these horrible experiences and has turned out to be a wonderful person.
Shirley MacLaine is close to becoming a parody of herself
How awful for the daughter to be neglected in this manner!
I love & respect that Sachi doesn’t seem to be riddled with hate for either parent. I’ve never really had an opinion about Shirley., but now I have absolutely NO respect for Shirley whatsoever!!! And where was her uncle...Warren Beatty during that time period?? I know he was busy having his career etc etc...but wow to have such famous & successful people in her family and not be able to depend on any of them is heartbreaking!! 😔
Whatever happened to her, something went right, because Sachi seems like such a sincerely nice, warm and honest person.