YOUNG MILITARY WIFE Q&A | what it’s like to be a military wife/marine wife
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- čas přidán 18. 11. 2020
- Young military wife q&a! Today I’m answering all of your questions about what it’s like to be a military wife. I’m going to talk about being a what it's like living on a military base, what to expect as a military wife, and how we manage being apart. If you’re a soon-to-be military wife this video is for you, and will hopefully answer any questions you may have about what to expect as a military wife. In my military wife life, things are always changing, and I wish I had someone sit down and tell me what to expect. I hope this video does that for you :)
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Are there any questions you guys still have??? If you’re a more seasoned military wife and I missed an important point please share that too!
These are such cool and interesting videos!
I'm so glad you think so! I'm always worried I'm scaring away people who follow me just for the organization videos when I share military related content, so thank you for sticking around :)
@@AllisonMcPhail not at all! It’s obviously a huge part of your life, and it’s great to get a little insight! My husband was a US Marine for 10 years prior to us meeting and i always wonder what it would have been like to be with him then!
do you prefer shopping on base or off base? what are some good/bad surprises you found while being a military wife?
@Yara I'm so glad I can fill you in a little! It would be safe to assume that you're life would a lot more chaotic if you guys were married then!
My boyfriend is away at Marine Bootcamp. we've been together almost two years but we're friends before that. I want to marry him one day. I kept seeing videos about how dating or marrying a service man is a bad idea, so your videos help soothe me and calm my nerves ! So thank you!!!
Seasoned spouse here, a lot of really good tips. My main suggestion is to be flexible and have humor in everything. Military life is sporatic and insanely frustrating. I really appreciated you mentioning having friends outside of the military. Don't be afraid of civilians, I have made so many wonderful friends at all of our duty stations. If you have little kiddos, join your local Y. (obviously not right now, but in the future!) They have childcare and you can have an uninterrupted shower or even just sit in the lobby and read a book. It's two hours of uninterrupted time, I used to work out and knew my children were safe, it was heavenly. Also, don't be afraid to live off base, too. They take all of your BAH and that is money that you can have working for you. If your rent/mortgage is below the BAH limit, you won't pay out of pocket for utilities. This is something my husband and I do, and it has been so fun living in different communities. Just some thoughts, good luck to all of you new spouses, my family and I are encroaching on retirement and could not be more excited. haha
Exactly! What great advice about the Y! Thank you for sharing!
I was a military wife for 24 years. It was the most difficult but also the best life. Get involved with your spouses unit, volunteer if you can. And remember your life is what you both will make it. I miss the life everyday.
Thank you for the advice Lea!
Watching this 3 years later and this has been the BEST advice I’ve heard since being a military wife. So real and to the point. I appreciate the tough love you share in this.❤️
Being flexible is the biggest thing I tell everyone!! I used to be so scheduled and stress if things didn’t go how they should, and since my husband joined the military I have learned to be much more flexible, but I think that’s positive!!
I agree! Learning to let go of control was the first thing I learned because I'll never be in control of his schedule!
I love how much information you share!! thank you so much
As a new military spouse, I loove these kinds of videos!!💓💓 great advice!!
So glad you like these videos! Maybe I'll do more in the future!
I love this video.. literally the most accurate and candid information. Super important
Glad you think so!
Im a new military wife and my husband will be leaving for basic training soon and I didn’t know what to expect, watching your videos definitely help me understand what to look forward to.
Also I just binge watched your videos for the past two days lol super entertaining!!!!
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you! I hope that time flies for you and your husband during this time!!
"As a military wife you are still a civilian, not your spouse's rank" this is the best way I've heard anyone put it! My boyfriend of 3 years just went to Marine basic, so I've been finding videos, and yours are the best I've seen so far!
Thank you so much Kim!
So much of this lines up with my life plans more than i thought- omg lol, My boyfriend is currently in boot camp at Parris island and idk you never know what could happen im just get getting prepared
I love when you talk about military wife stuff, super relatable 🥰 but I do think some things are different because your husband is an officer vs. an enlisted Marine
Such good advice!! Thank you for making this video!
Thank you Cassie! I’m glad you liked it!
You aced these questions and had some really good advice. I was raised in the military, dad was Army career 32 years, then I was an Army wife. Being raised in the Army I think made me more of the independent type of wife when I grew up. Seeing how mom handled dad being away helped me know it's ok they are away, entertain yourself and keep busy and the time will go by faster than if one sulks all day. So, with my experience you explained it like it is, gave excellent advice which is totally needed for "new wives," and yes, knowing Jesus helps so much, you definitely have your act together! Kudos to you! I enjoy watching you and it brings back memories for me of good times. I am 68 now so it's nice tune in to your channel and take a trip down memory lane.
Hi Nancy! Thank you so much for your kindness. I’m so glad I was able to take you down memory lane 😊
You’re not your husbands rank, you didn’t go through training👏🏼yes!!!
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God yes! This drives me crazy!!!
omg.. I LOVE this comment 😂
I’m a veteran and was an army spouse for a little while, and it’s not the easiest life. I don’t miss the schedule struggles at all, but I’m glad you’re thriving in this life! ❤️❤️❤️ if you have questions I can always try to help (what I can share with the differences of our branches)
Thank you so much! I'll be sure to reach out to you with any questions I have!
i absolutely love the way you explained having to be your own person while they’re are apart. the way you handle your sadness, very healthy. thanks for all the advice ❤️
Thank you for watching! I'm so glad you really liked some of my answers! I was worried I might offend some people 😅
@@AllisonMcPhail not at all! and you shouldn’t worry about that too much. there will always be someone who doesn’t agree but i think you’re doing a hell of a lot more help then harm. and i love it :) thank you!! hope you have a great friday!! :)
@@alyssafrields6171 Day = made Thank you Alyssa, your kindness is going such a long way for me today :)
@@AllisonMcPhail aw yay :) that makes my day!
I totally agree to enjoy the moments you are together. Conner has been on 2 deployments for 6 months and we already know he’ll be leaving again, so it’s been tough, but we are thriving here in California with as much time we have had together and as a family recently!❤️
2 deployments under your belt already?!?! You're a rockstar! I hope Disneyland opens up soon and can be a good distraction for you then!
@@AllisonMcPhail yeah his last job was intense🤣but yes I’m hoping they’re open before he leaves again so he can go and then I’ll be there all the time with Ryder when he’s gone!
I love this video. So real and raw.
Especially about the fact that spouses are civilians lol
Thanks
My husband is at basic right now for the Army and all your videos make this time so much easier, thank you so much.
I’m so glad I can keep you company during this time! I hope time flies for the both of you!!
My husband is also in basic right now at fort benning! I started watching military wives early this year and has made the difference I feel 😄
I'm so glad Kelsey! Who are some of your favorites to watch?? I'm always looking for more people to follow :)
@@AllisonMcPhail where are you guys stationed now?
@@kelseyrae792 where are you stationed now?
Allison.. I finally got my couch!! 😅 Mine is from Ashley Furniture and so far- I really like it. Make sure to get one that comes apart into pieces so you can rearrange it :) so excited now!
Yay for finally getting couches!! I love the idea of rearranging it! I'll look into that for sure!!!
Love your vlogs and all your other videos! My husband says I should vlog since I’m watching vlogs all the time and I’m like I wouldn’t even know where to start!
Do it! Look up Cathrin Manning - she has a great channel about starting and running a YT channel yourself!
@@AllisonMcPhail I really should I have nothing else to really do right now since my job just closed down again thanks to the pandemic! I’ll definitely check out her video
@@nicoleboutin7566 Good Luck!!!
The animals make it better. My husband is not military, but he has a crazy schedule, and I'm a stay-at-home wife. Our dog is currently sitting at my feet while I work on craft projects, and the cats are snoozing in the other room.
I don't know if you're comfortable doing this, but I am so curious about the commissary. I love watching grocery shopping in other places and wonder if the commissary is more like a grocery store, or a big-box store with everything, or like a military surplus store. If you ever want to do a shop with me at the commissary, I think that'd be fascinating, but I also understand if that's not ok to share! :-)
I'm so glad we have our dog now! It's going to make the time apart so much easier! Good point! Also I absolutely hate shopping at the commissary, so I probably won't film anything there, but ours is just like your typical grocery store!
im on camp pendleton too!
How could anyone dislike this video ??
Absolutely informative! Best advice, make friends outside the military! Keep some privacy. If you are not flexible and independent think long and hard about this life. This life can be lonely. Learn to budget, you might dream of owning your own home someday.
Loved this video! Just found out that my fiance is going to be staying in Quantico for his next MOS, so I'll be moving there to join him at the end of March! We met when he was stationed at Camp Pendleton (my hometown is San Diego). Wish you were still in Virginia so we could be friends!!
Thanks Emily! So happy you enjoyed it! Ahhhh You'll love that area in the Spring! Make sure to check out all the parks there! That area has some great hikes. Hahaha you missed me by only a couple months!
Thank you for your answers!👏👍😍😘🌹
Of course! You're welcome 😊
@@AllisonMcPhail 😘💖🌹
What about a career as a teacher do you think I would be able to make that work with moving to different bases and states ???
I Just Love How you Have Explain the Life of a Military wife
In telling others how to Act Respectfully
This is very important !!! 1st of all being a Christian and Putting God 1st Is the number One key
Thank you for Sharing this story of yours
I believe that it will Show others
How to maintain and Deal with Military life... My father was in the Navy and My Fiance is a Navy Vet
But the Funny thing About that is
A lot of your Lifestyle Still Reflects from the Military lol 🤣
In a Very good way...
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I love your answers to the questions. My fiance is in Afghanistan and I had to realize that I am a reflection on him. So I had to change as far as not saying too much to protect him. It's hard because since he's away I have too be strong for him. If that makes sense. But, watching your blogs do help me a lot.
You are so strong for going through all of this time apart! I'm proud of you!
@@AllisonMcPhail Thank you so much❤
Deployments are definitely hard! Hugs to you!
@@hutthuttlife731 They are so hard. Then you can't bring your emotions to the person that's deployed. That's one thing that I had to go to counseling for to talk to this person so I can deal. I just didn't want to put my problems on him and he had to worry about his safety and everyone else. So when he ask me how I'm doing its always okay or good.
@@niemasaunders7669 it’s okay to let him know you’re struggling sometimes. I me@n, it’s always good to have someone to talk to outside of the situation, and I wouldn’t constantly talk about how hard it is for you to him, but you shouldn’t have to hide it all the time either.
How long did it take for your on base housing to take effect
How did you turn youtube into a career? I’m about to be a military wife and content creating has been my dream!
My husband is in boot camp in San Diego. Should be graduating in Jan. He asked me what bases to put down that we would like and I have no clue. What are your favorite or do you think would be good
That's hard for me to say! It really depends on you two. You can google a list of Marine Corps bases and decide based on that. If you want to know what we chose, Camp Pendleton in San Diego was our second choice and Hawaii was our first choice :)
Hi! My boyfriend is at boot camp and about to graduate in December! I was wondering what Christians MOS is?
Christian’s MOS is low altitude air defense
How long has your husband been in the military ?
I love the fact you touched on spouses throwing their husband rank around. It’s annoying. Yes, being independent is highly recommended
How did you find out all this stuff about being a military wife?
My boyfriend will be on board for 4 months and no communication with me at all. How will I survive this?? Pls help
Your fiddle is so cute 🥺😍
Thank you! He's my first, so I'm doing my best to not kill him!
@@AllisonMcPhail you’re welcome. I got my first one a few months ago. He got root rot twice but I figure out a good watering schedule that works for him and he’s doing well. They seem to be really forgiving plants. Or at least give you signs with enough time to correct the issue.
@@dominiquedixon Good to hear! I bought this guy maybe 2-3 weeks ago and I'm not sure if it's the weather or what, but he still hasn't needed to be watered... fingers crossed I'm doing the right thing by holding off
Hi, what job does your husband have in the military?
Did you change your name? :/ have to?
I have nothing to do with the military - I’m not in it, I’m not a mil spouse, I’m not a military brat - nothing. However the MILLISECOND that you said “cringed tiktok” I though of “he’s a marine”!!!!!!!😂
Lololol that’s exactly what I was referring to 😂 so glad you got it!
Ha! Yes!!!!! You are NOT your husband’s rank 😂😂😂
BIGGEST take away from this video!
Did you guys get married before him becoming a marine? If so, how did y’all do it? My bf is a marine and im thinking we’ll prob have to do a proxy marriage and then go from there in order to be living together
We got married while he was going through training. Our wedding was before he was sent to another training.
@@AllisonMcPhail so did you do a proxy marriage?
@@alexas34 I'm not sure what a proxy marriage is. We had a wedding where someone from Christian's church married us in front of our friends and family.
@@AllisonMcPhail oh I guess I’m confused because you said y’all got married while he was at training so I didn’t know how y’all could be together for that haha. A proxy is where one person stands in for the other and marries you both. I guess it’s all done online and then the certificate is sent to both people
@@alexas34 Ohh gotcha. He was in between trainings. So he had gone to OCS over the summer and then our wedding was about a week or 2 before he started at tbs.
Ha cringy video 🤣 I’m also a Marine Wife on Camp Pendleton. Call United Concordia for your dental if you didn’t know.
IFYKYK... And I definitely need to pull it together with Concordia - just need to find the motivation to call them 🤣