Polyamory, Open Relationships & Throuples, Oh My! Exploring Non-Traditional Relationship Structures
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- čas přidán 7. 04. 2024
- In this episode, Tashira and Margo dive into non-traditional relationship structures, including discussions of polyamory, open relationships, throuples, triads, and more. Expect lots of Tashira's signature venn diagrams, and more along the way.
Disclaimer: As two geriatric millenials, neither of whom participate in polyamory or open relationships, we know our knowledge on the topic is somewhat limited. Please reach out with your follow up questions, or experiences if you feel we've missed an important aspect of this conversation. Our goal is always to be as inclusive and comprehensive as possible.
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I will say this is a VERY important topic; because it has to COME out of the primitive time. The KEY to all of this is honestly!!!! We have been raised in most household as a relationship is one on one. When we as human can and able to LOVE, HAVE FEELING, ETC for more than one person. Thanks for the topic
Men/husbands don’t want to open marriages up because just like with everything else woman end up being better at the game than their egos can handle. Bloop!
As always a great show ladies. I left my like to help pay my CZcams tithes for JustUsPod. Love yall. ❤️
CZcams tithes love that! 😂 Thank you!
We can. We want to be on the other side.
You know MALES think they have MASTERED the relationship thang. But women can be more HONEST if we choose to; but most people don't think people can have more than one lover, partner, etc
@justUs podcast Ooh Wee yall have really only touched the surface with this topic. As an avid traveler and explorer of other cultures and religions, I often wondered are our thoughts a true representation of us as women or our Western Civilization cultural norms. We often say we are a product of our environment and a lot of how we think and things we do are a direct result of how we were raised at home, in church, taught in school, etc. This very topic was a thought that occurred to me on my first trip to the UAE back in 2014; where I did a tour and was told that men could have as many wives as they could afford as long as they could provide for them equally. I was told, the government pays for their first home after marriage and it is customary that the man has on average 3 to 4 wives; yet, adultery is illegal and punishable by law. So me as a territorial, protective woman I wonder would being Muslim and living perhaps in Dubai give me a sudden desire to want to share that which I cleave to and have become one with? For me, Ion't thank so!!!! But do these women, who have known this style of life to be a societal norm ever desire monogamy?
I LOVE this episode! To see two AMAZING women with so much knowledge and influence share discourse around a topic that they don't necessarily partake in with such class and grace is SO refreshing! I absolutely LOVE IT HERE! Thank you for holding space for all of humanity! As a married woman that some would deem traditional coupled with a love of lifelong learning I am thrilled that you continue to take up space in such an intentional way. THANK YOU!
Glad you enjoyed it!
17:26 I’m with Margo! I’m not judging or shaming anyone for how they decide to manage their relationships/lives. BUT…Where do the non-monogamous find the time to nuture a relationship with multiple people, especially if you all dont live in the same home?
Time is not found, it is made.
This was such a rich convo! I would love to see a part two with people who are poly because with you both being monogamous, the convo can only go so far. Love yall!
so true! great feedback.
I fully agree with Margo, I don’t like crowds in my relationships
lol!
Margo said she is not Suzanne Somers (may she RIP) but Three is Not Company it's a Crowd and she don't like crowds. Margo you are hilarious and I don't even think you realize how funny you are and you don't even try.
Warren Buffett had an "unconventional" marriage. He started dating his second wife while he was still married to his first wife. They met in the 70s and didn't marry until 2006, after his first wife passed away in 2004. Supposedly, his first wife introduced them. Apparently, the trio even sent out Christmas cards signed "Warren, Susie and Astrid.
wowwww no idea!
To the STI discussion, many folks in this lifestyle take PREP to ensure they don't contract HIV, have birth conrol to ensure no unwanted pregnancies, and figure most everything else is treatable and consider it a risk they are willing to take.
I am Margot and she is me...cause ma'am pick somebody else. Love these adult conversations.
This was such a great exploratory conversation. I must say, the 'fits were fitting!!!!! Love both looks! ♥
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank YOUUUU, Tashira!!! I’m gonna call that man and tell him to come on and TOUCH ME!! Ooo Lord, we thank you for the revelation!!
37:48 “I need to be the star!” SAY THAT Tashira! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Birkin not bail!! Love it! This was a good conversation. Thanks for sharing 😊
Exactly!!
I’m with you Margo! I don’t got time and I don’t have kids 😂 also, I have to be really into you to spend time with you, whether sex is involved or not. I don’t like shallow relationships. I have 5 friends and a husband and my family/extended family and I can barely manage these relationships.
Love this conversation. It was super informative and it felt like a safe space to discuss sexuality and gender
I think it is good (as the person with monogamous intentions) to have open and continuous communication and understanding with potential partners about said intentions. Then it is up to the potential partners to choose to be in a relationship with said person.
This is always one of the first things I lay on the table. If this is a deal breaker then that person is just not for me.
Ethical monogamy is having the hard conversations, negotiating (and sometimes renegotiating) the terms of your relationships and everyone being onboard and having their needs met.
It took my brain a while to digest the difference between polyamory and polygamy (a la Sister Wives). The latter has the community factor as it applies to running a household and raising children. I can actually see how some can find value in this from that perspective. Not for me but I can understand it.
Whew… one of the few spaces on the interwebs allow for nuance! Thank you both! Huge fan and love seeing you both in the studio, can we get a standing fit check on these episodes? ❤
Thanks for watching!
Yes working on it and will do!
Tashira introduced me to Cloth & Paper in one of her Politics & Fashion video, and I’m in the sunken place with them. The thing is I don’t have an active life but it’s something about the products that I became a Legend within months 😁🥰
This episode was eye-opening, and I enjoyed it immensely!
Interesting to see adult conversation, happy to see, not everyone satisfied with one
I don’t know why but I like Tashira sitting on the right and Margo on the left 😂 the whole episode I was thrown off ❤ but great episode
we are switching it around, but will return to our old spots next time. thanks for the feedback~!
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Interesting convo, thanks
Thanks for listening!
Loved this episode!!!! Did not disappoint☺
I love this discussion and I have SOOOO MUCH to say lol I've gain so much insight on this subject in the last few years.
To Margs question "where do you find the time" I'd ask... when you had 1 baby did you ever think you'd have time for 2? I know I didn't!
You allocate the time ❤
This is such a good point. And you nailed my nick name. Love it!
Great conversation ladies ❤.
You both look gorgeous!
Thank you so much 😀
thank you so much. I think it is funny? that for this convo of all of the ones we have i am in a full suit. It wasnt intentional!
I love this!!! Your conversations are so involved with such substance. I'm at a Big Age where I am good at being Super Selfish and Single. Lol
selfish is not selfish, if you know what i mean! you know what you need. love this for you.
Some men just get off on the sneaking around, which is why they that's particular man did not jump on his wife's suggestion for an open relationship
Whew! This is good discussion and very insightful to learn the ways we define relations now. Honestly, I’m still working on the skill to hear something that doesn’t align with my choices while not
judging. Most respect to those who opt for it because it does fit their choice.
im not a people person, seems like so much work for me personally. love the blue dress so much. id love to wear it alone in my house.
Love you guys ❤❤❤❤
GREAT episode ladies starting with these stunning outfits! The topic is definitely well-presented! Thank you!
Redefining LoVe @ a BiG Age was phenomenal 🌹
thank you SO much.
It was the after school voice for me! I love y’all!! Keep up the great conversations lovely ladies!
We will!
Loved this episode!! ❤ You ladies are amazing!!
thank you!
Because discussing and agreeing to an open relationship is in direct conflict with his understanding of himself : he is a loving devoted husband who just get swept away by passion. Again and again. He doesn’t MEAN to cheat. So agreeing to an open marriage and laying down ground rules is exactly the opposite of what he wants.
B side: if the marriage is open - that means the wife can step out as well.
As someone who has traveled across Africa how will you differentiate polyamory from polygamy?
Polygamy is actually legal marriage..where a man marries more that one wives....the other is not marriage it’s just both partner has multiple partners no legal joining
very pretentious humans. we select the things that are of the least value to us to "open". no one "opens" their bank account to the public, no one wants a home without doors and windows, yet "love " is claimed to be "OH! pen". Disguising our wounds.
can't wait to watch this, being in one of the mentioned in the title...i'll chime back later after watching.
really nothing to add because every time I wanted to comment you spoke in that legal way I'm familiar with my husband, in the sense that you cover your "well when they ask this im gonna hit them with the big joker" to make sure you get your "big 3 (points/statements)" across and the other person not speaking at the time chimed in with what I wanted to add lol great episode.
Being in an open relationship has made my relationship stronger in ways, with the amount of communication and how that's made the uncomfortable conversations easier to address when it comes to *just us* two (see what I did there?), though I'm still working on my delivery as I can be direct AF.
It's not an extended hall pass or permission to cheat because there's still rules and boundaries that are in place. You both spoke on "how do you have the time?" "What about STI's?" and a few other questions along there and all of those are the reason why I ask people to forget what they see on TV because some of us are picky (Ace here) and it's more like "you have the option to explore if you find yourself in a position AND want to because I don't own you." We are in bed early these days and up early with full schedules these days and it started as a third on occasion. I'm older and my husbands first relationship and thats going on 14 years, married 7. It's shifted to travel open...together or separate. Great episode.
Margo said “Sheathing” and I died cause it’s *Stealthing*
When a man removes condom during sex without his partners knowledge or consent.
Sheathing is a whole other thing lmao
wait! it is??? oops/
@@margolindauer yea I didn't want to put that on youtube but its on urban dictionary and sounds silly honestly (sheathing)