Self-Silencing: Stoic on the Outside and Broken on the Inside
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
- Do you relate to the feeling of showing up stoic on the outside, but feeling broken on the inside?
I think a lot of people have learned to not show certain parts of themselves, because they weren't welcomed and therefore self silenced. Especially as in general in our society emotions aren't really appreciated as such.
When this spills over to our creativity as well, we lose the whole range of our expressiveness. It's important to find the courage and take a risk once in a while, showing a different side to ourselves, that's maybe less professional and put together.
I will soon be offering an online workshop on this matter. Stay tuned!
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For me in general, I keep it in. Yeah. I’m respectful for doing so. I mean if I would to show it, people also will complain for being “toxic” etc. so am I already doing what they want? (and they still complain)
That is why humanity is “toxic” in general. 🙏
Yes, you've got a point. It's really hard to get it right. We definitely don't wanna be toxic ourselves, but it's great when we find spaces where we can be honest and kind at the same time. 🙂
Yes, Thank you! :)
@@patsyballantyne9886 You’re welcome ☺️
i would rather appear crazy then not to be silent when i feel broken. people wont like it and is hard to find someone who listens but if you keep quiet i think it is worse.
There's definitely a huge downside to keeping quiet, I agree. Maybe it's a bit both, depending on the space we're in. But I admire your approach. 😘
Liebe Anja, ich finde auch, dass wir mehr Authentizität brauchen. Thriving instead hiding!
Genau 😘
Hallo Anja! I agree with you. I lately feel sad and hopeless but try to show a happy face when feeling the contrary inside. people knew me all my life as the positive/happy guy and want to keep seeing it . If I don’t smile everyone is immediately asking what’s wrong. It must be my curse of having been a positive person previously and now going through a tough 2 years. Thanks for speaking out for many of us! LG nach Portugal aus Spanien ! Andreas
Hi Andreas, I am so sorry you're going through feelings of sadness and hopelessness. They are tough to deal with, I know them well. Most of us do! It seems like you have a lot of awareness of what's going on. Which is precious. Personally I think it's important to find at least one space, where you can express all of you. Even if, that's a journal for example. Maybe at some point in the future those parts can become more integrated, allowing you to be both. Happy at times and sad at others. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're for sure not alone in it, even though it might feel like it at the moment. Liebe Grüße zurück nach Spanien. Anja
@@anjakersten vielen Dank für deine lieben und aufmunternden Worte, liebe Anja! Du hast Recht, wir sind nicht alleine in diesem Dilemma.LG und schönen Abend.Andreas
I don't know what it is but every video you post is oddly specific to my experience. It's getting kind of eerie. But I appreciate it.
Lol, I promise I am not spying. Maybe we are all much more alike than we often think. I am so happy you're finding some value in what I have to share. 😘
I relate to every word of this. I'm looking forward to your workshop!
Ah, thank you 🙂
Thank you, Anja. ❤
@@jenniferwooliscroft5778 My pleasure 😍
No, i was once stoic and then i was broken by life. I no longer have the resilience i once did.
Obviously you would know better, but we only said toodle-oooh, when saying goodbye.
Lol, thanks for the hint. The one I was using is tüdelü which a dear friend of mine invented and it can be said at any occasion, when wanting to contribute something different. 😉 But I guess it just sounds the same.
@@anjakersten sounds the same. Like akoha, good for coming and going (:
and honestly i do not like when people hold it in. i have no clue what is happening. you should always express all, just finding a good way to do it. but do not pretend and hold it in :(
I know what you mean, it's when you never know what's really going on with the other person. At the same time, sometimes these survival patterns are so ingrained, that some people just never feel safe enough to not hold it in. It's kind of beyond conscious control.
Everyone at work always says I'm never in a bad mood. Just because I don't show it or put it on other people doesn't mean I'm not!
For me in general. Yeah. I’m respectful for doing so. I mean if I would to show it, people also will complain for being “toxic” etc. so am I not already doing what they want? (and they still complain)
That is why humanity is “toxic” in general. 🙏
I am sure everyone at work really profits from you being in a good mood and bringing a lot of great energy. I hope you have spaces where you can feel relaxed enough to sometimes share your struggles and what's really going on. I know it's so difficult! 💜
@@waykee3 true. You cant please everyone
@@anjakersten thank you! Stay well