Part 1 - My Parents Are Trying To Name My Baby??
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“If i want your opinion I will ask for it. Otherwise no.”
My sister got bullied out of using a beautiful name she loved because her MIL didn't like it. I fully support anyone who wants to keep a baby name a surprise, assuming it is a well thought out name.
Exactly. In general, 99.9% of the time everyone should stay out until the parents are naming the kid something that’s going to get the kid tortured at school. Some countries actually have laws that controls the names lol
I don’t even care if it’s well thought out. Your baby-your name for it! Call it Waffle or Shalamoi or Pepperridge. Who cares? your choice.
*AITA for telling my parents and my sisters that I don't need them to name my baby and I will never use one of the names they suggest?*
'I'm 18f and my boyfriend and I are expecting a baby. His family are so kind and supportive but most of mine are not, with the exception of my two brothers who are great. The rest of my family say we are too young and have second guessed all my choices, from researching formula because I won't be breastfeeding to the names we have looked at. I moved in with my boyfriend a couple of months ago which was a little earlier than we had planned but we both wanted to get away from the comments. We have started buying stuff and we know we're having a little boy.
My parents and sisters originally told me when they heard I was having a boy that I should name him George after my great-grandfather. I told them we weren't looking for name suggestions and asked them not to push the issue. Then they asked what the name we were thinking of was and I said we weren't going to share until he's here. That wasn't taken well and they decided we must have an awful name lined up and they made a list of suggestions for us with names such as Simon, Malcom, Edward, Fredrick, James, Jonathan and Desmond. I told them again that we did not want or need names suggested because we had our own ideas.
I ignored them the next couple of times they mentioned names. But then Christmas Day they had a field day because my oldest sister grabbed my phone while I was in the bathroom and she searched for the list I had on there. We were at my oldest brother's house btw. She showed mom and my other sisters and she tried to involve my brothers but my oldest brother told them they could leave if they started shit at his house in front of his family. But they did start shit and asked me what the hell I was thinking and demanding that I choose one of their names.
The names that set them off were Sloan and Finley. They were the two I had on a list on my phone. My brother did have to kick them out in the end because they said I could not ruin my son with a name like that and then said my boyfriend was a bad influence because he wants another dumb name like Jaxon. I told them I was just as much a part of the naming of mine and my boyfriend's baby and just because the names aren't to their taste doesn't mean they have the right to insult us.
I had to block them on my phone since Christmas because they were going crazy blowing up my phone. But then I got an email with an even longer list of names two days ago. So I unblocked them temporarily and in a family group chat told them that this is my baby and I do not need or want them to name him for me and I will not entertain a single name on their list and because they have annoyed me, I will never use one of those names ever. I blocked them again and my brothers showed me screenshots of where they are going off. They find it funny but I know they had to mute the chat. I feel kinda bad now and my parents and sisters are calling me out.
AITA?'
*Reddit Verdict: Not the A-hole*
It's like boundaries don't even exist anymore
Nta. The parents are thevones who name their baby, not the relatives. OP is wise not to share the name they have in mind.
Deeeesmond the moon bear.
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As someone who grew up sharing the same name as other family members...please don't do that. It was confusing and frustrating and I felt like I didn't get to have *my own* identity, separate from the two other people I was named after. As for the rest of it, YOU are the baby's parents, so YOU get to do the naming. Inform the OB/GYN or delivery room staff that you REFUSE to allow anyone else to name the child. You can also refuse to allow people into the delivery room, either by naming people to be kept out, or by naming people to be allowed in. Hospital staff are usually fantastic about keeping out the people the pregnant person doesn't want in the delivery room...and yes, you can sue if they let them in anyway. (Not talking about them barging in, but being let in. If they barge in, you & the staff should be yelling Code Grey for Security.)
(BTW, THIS INCLUDES MEDICAL FAMILY MEMBERS, IF YOU DO NOT WANT THEM IN YOUR DELIVERY ROOM. This is particularly important for medical staff to remember now that HIPAA has been enacted. Doesn't matter if your Father or Father-in-Law is a famous obstetrician, if YOU do not want him in the delivery room with you, he HAS to stay out. Just remember, you have to ASSERT that with the staff, and make sure they put it in writing in your medical notes.)
NTA you' two will do great with your little one. Advice: you got this never let anyone tell you two how to care for your baby.
Tell parents they had the chance at names tell sis an bros that when their or their other half have a baby they get to name the baby
Try not to argue with anyone. You're going to need all the help you can get. People always suggest names, they can't help it. Smile and say you'll think about it. You don't need to tell them you thought about it for a nanosecond and decided Hell No almost before they finished speaking. Also, don't get fixated on a name, you might change your mind once you see your little boy. I did
I got name suggestions for my kids. I didn't think anything of it. I considered some of their suggestions but didn't tell the names until the babies were born because I didn't find out beforehand what I was having.
When i was pregnant with my daughter they weren't routinely doing testing that revealed the sex of the child in advance. My husband wanted to name the baby after his father if it was a boy since his father was deceased. When it came to choosing a girl name he wouldn't get serious and kept mentioning absolutely ridiculous names. I finally said fine I'll choose it myself, and I did. Some people just can't resist trying to 'help'. I hope all is well with your family. Stick to your guns and name your son whatever you want; do things your way. Don't let them bulldoze you into doing something that you won't be happy with. God Bless! ❤
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not the antagonist to every parent right wrong or indifferent has the right to make decisions for their own child
Tell your sisters that they can use those very names on their own children. A wonderful part of having a baby is choosing the name that you and your BF want to name him, not what everyone else wants. Not their baby, not their decision.
Lets remember she is extremely young and a first time parent. The family isnt being ah they are genuinely concerned about her child. They are suggesting she pick a traditional name so tbe kid isn't bullied.
I would politely suggest them to go make their minor kids that go parent their minor kids that way etc etc etc. When they ask
You are an adult & will soon be a mother. Good on you for sticking to your plan.
Breast feeding can help both baby and economy. Since its free food for at least a year. Formula is very exspensiv.
Yes , because as you will learn its not what you say but the way you say it
Kindly breastfeed your baby even just for 6mos, babies who are breastfed up to 2 years are proven to be healthier.
Just smile, tell them no, sweetly, then do what you want. You are PREGNANT! For the sake of the baby, avoid family stress. People have no way of answering a sweet smile in conjunction with the word "no" you might even consider, a sweet smile and the words "no thank you" with any suggestion. If they want to argue, answer with a sweet smile and the words "no thank you". 😘 Get it?
You are in a runaway car heading right Head on into a brick wall and all you’re worried about is some name thing.
I feel sorry for your child.
Stay strong girl ❤❤❤ you'll both be absolutely fine!!! Believe in yourselves and each other ❤❤ XO
I like malcom.
NTA.
You are an adult now, right?
Just MOVE AWAY & CHANGE YOUR #.
You dont like family, dont have family.
Easy Peasy Lemon Squeezy.
Exactly. My husband and I cut certain family members out of our lives when they were a cancer on OUR family. It's been 30 years and I don't regret it at all. Our three children have grown into healthy, happy, productive members of society and we don't miss those family members one iota. Raise your child in the best manner you CHOOSE.
They are probably suggesting because you are 18, have gotten pregnant, and they are questioning your choices and that would include your choice of names. Not saying they are right or wrong, just saying there’s your reason why.
YATA. Just tell them that you’re the parents and will name your child alone. No need to be mean to them.
Yes there is. They are against her, bf and baby. They chose a side and get no say in anything. Maybe pay attention.
Nta
Does it bother you that much that they give their opinion? Surely it has. Good intentions. You listen to them, you even write down the names and even the formula milk brands. At the end of the day and with your partner you choose what you want to do and everyone is happy... It's more simple. Have a nice life
It’s called setting boundaries, and boundaries should be respected.
No, this is bad advice. Don’t let ppl violate any of your boundaries
From what you have said yes you are
YTA. I see nowhere in which your family isn't being supportive. 18 is young to have children. I was 23 when I got pregnant with our first and I still had no clue what I was doing. The way you treat your parents and the fact that you're considering formula before you even know if you can breastfeed, and are not married tells me that they are absolutely right about your level of maturity. Marriage protects the husband and wife and children.
Formula only keeps perfectly healthy babies alive and thriving. Anything less than optimum health in a child and formula spells disaster. EC is a leading cause of death in infants under 6 months old and is directly associated with formula use. There is more than enough information at this point for any truly concerned parent to at least plan on breastfeeding. I'm not saying you have to if it doesn't work out. Not everyone can including myself, at least exclusively. However, there is a big difference between being unable and unwilling. One is a tragedy, the other is a disgustingly selfish choice.
Legally, marriage doesn't mean much anymore, but if you have any kind of faith whatsoever that promise before God that you will stick together in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, until death do you part give that relationship a heck of a lot of staying power. Again, you not seeing this is a bad sign.
I wish you both and your child all the best, but please remember that your parents once had to raise children and may have some idea of what they're talking about. Show a little gratitude and humility instead of thinking you know everything.
YOU are the asshole here, not OP. Her parents are too. Suggestions are understandable, Demanding they get to name your kids, AND treating your soon to be a mother family as though they are too young to care for themselves then they have a job and are responsible enough to get their own place makes the parents TOXIC AF
Did you even read the entire post? Because the majority of what you’ve written has absolutely nothing to do with what was the actual problem: OP being constantly harassed by her family telling her what she can and can’t name her son. They are not shaming her for choosing not to breastfeed, like you. They are ordering her to choose a name that they get to decide, for some reason, not her. So I guess you also allowed your family to choose your children’s names, and had absolutely no input whatsoever in what they were called, because you agree that you were clueless and weren’t responsible enough to pick your own child’s name?
Sister who snatched the phone needs to be perma blocked!
Fake stories with AI. Pathetic
Pathetic?
Oh wise one, how can you tell its AI?
Here is the story: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/195rj0u/aita_for_telling_my_parents_and_my_sisters_that_i/