There was a girl at my school who wouldn't talk to anyone throughout all of elementary school. Most people, actually everyone, just "forgot" she existed and went about their day, but I made it a point to smile and say hello to her every single day, even though she said nothing back. After an entire year of saying hello to her, she finally let out the quietest "hi", but it was such a beautiful moment. I just smiled and said "see you tomorrow!", but I was so happy for her on the inside. She wouldn't talk to anyone except for her family and two children at school who were family friends. Despite this, she always said hi to me after that first time, and I'll always remember her!
Same happen to me I remember having a quite girl in my class too I tried to talk to her tell she smile one day it was really happy, I remember she asked me to help her with closing her shirt's sleeves button too :)
someone in my class does this to me and asks "how are you?" or just a hi. not everyday but frequently. i don't show it but it makes me feel so happy and that i'm not forgotten by everyone. thank you for being nice to her:-)
it's not normal sadly, I was like this since I started school and it did fuck up my life and growing up process quite a lot. I didn't get any treatment for this problem so I just kept living with it and now I'm an adult with even more problems that would most likely be not that severe if I had lived differently at that young age.
@I love you!! have read the Bible about Jesus healing because you attacking for no reason all I said is Jesus is the cure so if someone is depressed your going to tell people His healing is not eternal
Yeah. She has an incredibly severe form of social anxiety. I also have social anxiety. This "cure" may make them talk, but it's absolute fucking torture for the kids. I feel so bad for them.
i hated when i would talk in school because there would always be somebody that would say "oh my god you talk" i hated when people told me that, it made me not want to talk at all
as a person with selective mutism *THIS* is not how you should “cure” kids. i’ve had to do something like this when i was younger and honestly it probably even made it worse
I wasn’t diagnosed with selective mutism but I definitely had similar stories as these kids and I completely agree. I didn’t have to go through something like this but I can tell you it probably would’ve caused deep trauma. I’m so glad I had a good child therapist.
I agree. I had selective mutism as a child that eventually went away, but the severe social anxiety stuck with me. I think this method would have been too aggressive for me as a kid.
Same rn i am doing better with a therapist 1 on 1 and sending videos to my teachers it really is very hard but i hope soon i will be confident in my voice and eventually talking like nothing ya know
It depends .. this is a form of exposure therapy which is used for a lot of phobias and anxiety disorders and is a documented, approved method for treatment. Of course, just as with any treatment, the success varies with the individual and needs to be adjusted as such. Thus, what might work for one kid might not have worked for you
This "shyness" should be dealt with in a space that these kids can "open up" when they are ready. I know if I was put through that as a kid and was forced to speak when I didn't feel comfortable I would of completely shut down. Extroverted people don't understand what its like to be the quiet type and to feel uncomfortable in social interactions and expects everybody to be like them. We need to look inside these kids and understand their perspective and work with them accordingly to what holds them back. A structured environment where they feel safe, where they can take the time to speak no matter how long it takes to get their words out. Need to develop socially with their peers and then other people they don't know. Every tiny step is a huge step for them, consistently is the key.
Bro i was exactly like them when i was a kid maybe i was worse and i wish my parents did this for me you donot know what is it like to have a social phobia you donot understand any thing so please just listen not any thing else
@@canavero4288 yea i'd just freeze in front of the camera and ask my parents to go home, but i don't think i have their same problem (i can often talk to strangers, i get anxious and sometimes freeze when people expect me to say/do something and i have to do it)
@@canavero4288 For this scenario, it seemed to help them. Y’all do realize there’s different therapies for selective mutism right? People actually have to try these out on kids to see if it would be the best thing to help them and overall I think it did a good job. For me I had extreme sever mutism that affected the relationships with my parents because I didn’t talk to them either, they never encouraged me to talk or took me to therapy to help me and that ended up with me going to school bullied because I rarely talked. I wish my parents helped me like that because now as an adult with social anxiety, I’m going to therapy and it had helped me tremendously, probably could’ve helped me not go thru all of the trauma I had throughout my life if I did went as a kid.
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@PaceMaker76564 I've never heard about this EFT tapping, how does it work? But yeah man, I feel your pain. I also think sometimes that I won't ever be normal in that sense. The worst problem is that I want to be a businessman, and I would need to be even better than regular people in communicating and general social confidence. But I've been making small daily progresses in the last months, and I think that if we dedicate about like 3 years of our lives just pushing through the pain and bettering ourselves, we would get there. It sounds brutal but it's the effort of a life time. And if I could give you some practical advice, start by going to the gym and fixing your diet. The body transformation is a huge boost of confidence, man. I trust that when I achieve the shape that I want, I'm gonna feel way more comfortable with people
I don't think most people realize how hard this is for them, I was tearing up watching this because I'm so proud of them. I was shy as a kid but I had crippling social anxiety for a few years as an adult, like as severe as this. I pretty much had to design my own exposure therapy because I couldn't bring myself to even call a therapist. What brave little kids, good for them for powering through it.
What did you do for a mock exposure therapy? I’m 16 and have suffered from selective mutism almost my Whole life and I have gotten diagnosed with it years ago and went to therapy for a few months but we can afford it no longer 😞
I've watched it a few times. I swear seeing Jake is like looking at myself as a kid, same body language and facial expressions, same level of anxiety and quietness. I wonder how they are doing now it's been 10+ years. I hope they continued to gain confidence.
The same for me.. I can`t call the therapist, but I am ashamed to ask my dad to it, because I am a a grown woman. But he always says I don`t need it anyway, I am normal, I just need to go out more. But I don`t go out because I can`t not because I don`t want. And then he says-If you truly want, you would go out. But sitting mostly at home for almost 10 years was defintely not my wish. I`m 30 now. He refuse to understand. My biggest dream is to become normal, enjoy life, work, meet people, travel, celebrate, find a partner. But I really don`t know how. Because people in my society are mean and arrogant mostly and it is so hard to open to them.
I think it was proven in the documentary that its not a camera that freaks them out. You don't have to interact with a camera. Its being around people that is difficult for them.
Me too, my classmates who I don't even know ask you me,"why are so quite, why don't you talk?" I just smile at her, but in side I just wanted to say, "why do you talk so much?"
Here's a tip, I don't usually talk irl, but if I do then I just write what I say on a piece of paper. I've written why I'm like this to my teachers. Occasionally they'll call on me. I'm only comfortable talking to my friends and family.
I was always called "the shy kid", and the teachers always told me how cute it was and how much better they thought it was than being a wild kid. That made me even more shy, and now I think I might've even developed social anxiety disorder.
i’ll really sorry for you. i don’t feel uncomfortable talking to people but i get pretty nervous making eye contact when talking so my eyes drift a lot. i’m making an effort to make eye contact but it takes a lot of concentration lol :/
i relate to this in some way.. i was a shy kid but most of all i was just very quiet and i always got praised for it by adults, so i stayed super quiet. years went by and i never learned proper social skills or never had to go out of my comfort zone, and now i'm anxious all the time and everywhere 😮💨 0 character development lol
I have social issues and usually everyone in school never notices me. I remember I spoke during a group project and they all looked at me saying "oMg sHe sPokE" and making jokes of me because I rarely ever spoke and I just nervously laughed and went straight to the bathroom. ;-; I'm so lonely lmao
I remember when I was on my way to get to the bus and like my old principal from a few years ago came to my old school and then I accidentally talked idk how but everybody was looking at me if I was a nobody 😃
The problem is, I WANT to talk. When I hear people talking about something that I’m interested in and know a lot about I’d kill to jump into the conversation. But I just can’t, and that’s the worst feeling in the world.
The sad thing is that a lot of people don’t even know that social phobia is a thing. They just think it’s purely anxiety or shyness when it’s much more that that. It’s called a phobia for a reason. It can be clinically diagnosed.
...I have social anxiety, I hate it, I dont get how these kids can through it, social anxiety is extremely hard for me, It has gotten worse this year. Last year, if i got called in class to answer a question, I would blush. But this year for some reason, if i get chosen, i blush, my heart beats super fast and loud, and my eyes would tear up, if they kept asking, I might cry, but luckily my teachers notice and ask someone else... Speeches are coming up for me and I dont know how I can go through it. Last year, i wasnt this bad, and I almost cried, but made it through, this year it has gotten worse, and i might cry...I hope i dont as a group of girls in my class bully me, and If i cry...itll get so much worse... I hate myself...I have severe depression, mild anxiety, severe social anxiety...well those are the ones I know of, i might have more im not sure...
When I was little I just thought I was really shy since that’s what I’d always been told but as I grew up I thought it would get better but it just got worse and worse till I was at the verge of tears when I just had to order food. That was when I realized that it was much worse then that
When I was 5: She's shy When I was 6: She's shy When I was 7: She's shy... I think When I was 8: *diagnosed with asperger's autism* ... When I was 9: She's just shy (As told from my mom's POV)
In case anyone wants to know what’s going on in their head during that “painfully long silence” as someone with selective mutism, I’ll tell you. Usually I’m just repeating the word in my head trying to convince myself to say it, sometimes I even count down trying to say it. Others times I try to say it and it just comes out as mouthing the word, you can see this happen to Jake at 5:17.
My daughter is like this she doesn’t talk in school. At home we talk about it and she tells me she wants to talk and she wishes she wasn’t this way. I try to encourage her but I don’t want to be overbearing and make it worse.
this is exactly what happens to me!! i haven't been diagnosed with selective mutism, social anxiety or any of the kind but everyone knows me as the 'very smart, quiet and shy person'. i do think i have social anxiety or even selective mutism but i'm too scared to tell my parents because they're probably gonna get mad at me, one time it was the first day of school and my mom asked if i was excited, (i really wasn't) and i said 'i hate talking to people, and i don't like being around people'. my science and french teacher also asked the whole class to write on a sheet of paper stuff about us, for example, what we like to do, where we're from etc etc and the last sentence was 'things to ABSOLUTELY know about me', i didn't hesitate to write that i get very nervous around people and that i never raise my hand in class, that i also stutter a lot and i can't speak in front big crowds of people. i guess like that my teachers and mom can pick up clues that i hate being around people and possibly one day i'll maybe get diagnosed with social anxiety.. i just wanted to share this because it felt great getting it off my chest, really sorry if i bothered you!..
@@martsii has it gotten better as you get older? My daughter told me she raised her hand in class the other day. I was so happy for her but in my heart I think she just told me that to please me. I don’t believe she is raising her hand. She has no friends Bc she can’t speak. My heart breaks for her. I can’t imagine not having any friends. She must feel so alone. How old are you if u don’t mind me asking
@@noellefrank2573 actually, it's gotten worse as i got older, (don't feel comfortable sharing my age sorry, but i'm currently in high school if that's a hint) if i was you, i would also believe she's just saying that to make you proud considering how shy she is and how she has no friends, i do have a friend (we used to be friends last year, she just came up to my locker and said hi to me, we went to our class together and we kind of reconnected from there on. if she didn't come up to me, i would probably still have no friends..) and yes, just seeing someone you care about suffer especially in these kinds of situations sucks a lot, also because you can't really help. but i hope your daughter gets better and someday becomes friends with someone 💖💖🙏🏾
@@martsii well I’m really glad you shared that with me Bc it makes me feel better knowing that my daughter is not alone. Hopefully you find some joy in knowing you aren’t alone and you definitely do not have anything wrong with you. You are made exactly the way you are supposed to be and you are perfect the way you are. Everyone grows and learns as they get older and I’m sure you will look back one day and be a stronger person Bc of what you have went thru!
You’ll get used to it! I had BAD social anxiety, to the point where I couldn’t leave the house. Now I’m a social person and I can perform on stage. It takes time and forcing yourself to get outside of your comfort zone. You can do it. It won’t come immediately, and it will take time.
I've always been like this when I was young, very conscious of my surroundings and how I looked. My insecurities and my view of this world started when I was 7. My mind was of like an adult's.
@@xerrekim9711 same here. They’re like “aw you’re shy that’s adorable!” When I was literally traumatised to the point I couldn’t talk. I don’t blame them, not a lot of people know about social anxiety but it’s pretty annoying
theres normal people who are just shy, and theres people with selective mutism like me, where we WANT to talk but get seized with anxiety when someone asks us to speak. i dont know what to do :)
This brought me to tears. I remember being that kid in elementary. I didn’t talk to anyone for a whole school year and had to repeat because my mom thought it was best. I still struggle with anxiety till this day.
@@SuperMarioSignature They have social anxiety. Shoving a camera in their face and making them talk under extreme conditions could mentally torture them and leave lasting problems. It's not just a "fear" it's a serious disorder that needs work and time to overcome. Obviously we can't just "cuddle" them, but they need to be treated in a way that'll help them in the long run instead of possible making it worse.
@@eveilyc okay look, I was born with social anxiety that's so severe that I can't even go to school without having an anxiety attack, much less talk or make a single friend. Point is, I know exactly how it feels. I get that the camera is making their anxiety feel worse, but it will honestly just speed up the process. I think the additional pressure is good because it helps them get used to more extreme conditions. I actually wish someone would have done this to me at such a young age.
Super Mario Signature no it won’t. Having anxiety doesn’t make you a professional lmao that’s like telling a depressed person to just be happy and expecting it to speed up the process
@@larrybarry5303 But... You completely misunderstood what he said completely. It's more like a depressed person telling another to do something they enjoy instead of laying around doing nothing.
i'm a introvert too but i don't have social anxiety. introversion is when you gain energy from being alone and recharging - that's all it really is. i agree that most introverts tend to be reserved and quiet at first but they can be social too. being an introvert or extrovert doesn't have anything to do with social anxiety - there's loads of extroverts who have social anxiety
@@pp-nm3bk I feel like some people who are introverted think that they are just super introverted when in reality they just have social anxiety. They may still be introverted, but still.
I have anxiety. I remember a couple of occasions with a math teacher I had in 10th grade and it was one of my worst school years alongside 7th and 8th grade. This math teacher has made me break down into tears multiple times. All but one of those times was I able to keep myself from breaking down in the middle of class. This one time, I just couldn't take it. He made me go up to the board 3 times. First time I went up, he told me to work out the question on the board. Second time, he told me to go up again because it was wrong. At this point I was extremely embarrassed and just wanted to hide. Third time, he didn't ask me to go up again but he made me feel extremely embarrassed for getting the answer wrong again and that was when I finally just broke down. I had two friends sitting on both sides and they were trying to comfort me, which I really appreciate that. There was many other occasions like this, but I would cry at home and not in class. It was honestly a miserable year. He also had the audacity to say he was trying to help me when the school year ended, but that's just not how you go about it, ya know?
This is why it kills me so much when people are so horrible to silent kids in my classes. They're silent for a reason, and shooting them down for talking isn't gonna help.
AllonsyEmily Just got to this video and it's breaking my heart to think that there are many children out there with the same disorder as my youngest child, she has social anxiety and cannot go out alone she always has to be accompanied either by her dad or myself, It doesn't bother me that she needs to over come this on her own and despite it being over ten years now, she is doing very well the only thing that hurts me so much is that she doesn't have any friends her own age.
AllonsyEmily I completely agree as I had the same problems these kids had when I was their age but did I get the same treatments? no, they thought I was the problem and sent me to special classes and kept me their to see if my confidence will build to whence I go into regular classes... but I couldn't of course as my self-esteem was going down day in and down out by all the bullies who thought they were better than me and I was shit, so their you go.
do you have a clinic? very well said but I have no idea why you said it!! I know people who have social anxiety, don't have friends and are very comfortable being the way they are.
I'm 18 and have severe social anxiety and the worst part is that, with me, it increased with time, like, when I was a kid, I was quite confident and would easily get along with other kids but as time passed by and I became older, my social anxiety became worse especially when I'm talking to girls that's when the anxiety really kicks in and because of that, girls don't feel comfortable around me. I don't know what they think but the worst part of being socially anxious is that people take it in a wrong way and perceive you of being rude or showing attitude when you just can't talk. Now I'm 18 and my anxiety has sparked to a whole new level. I just want to feel normal in public like a normal human being and live a normal fucking life 😢
I was always shy and known as “the weird kid”. And when I was in 6th grade, ( we’re gonna call her Sandy lol) Sandy came up to me during lunch and sat with me when nobody did, we’re best friends now. I’m so glad she sat with me.
for reallllll!! Honestly I feel like having Anxiety is a trend now and people just say they have it to feel cool Ig. It’s really stupid because people really struggle with these kinds of stuff.
I can relate some of the girls in my class say they have anxiety but no doctor ever told them they have it but I was diagnosed with anxiety since I was a toddler and I didn't say my first word until I was four so really they think having anxiety a few times their whole life means they are diagnosed with anxiety but they aren't I mean theirs goes aways mine doesn't and will always be their
As someone with social anxiety, I can say that this is very helpful. It is like doing a trick on a skateboard. You might be scared of getting hurt at first, but with repetition it becomes very easy to do. I do think that the cameras might of made it harder for the kids to get the courage to speak. But if they can handle the cameras then talking without cameras will feel much easier.
when i was in middle school, i was a very shy , quiet person in school, and a lot of people forgot I existed, and it was super rare to find someone shy as me in school
Yea it is hard I never see any people in school Just like me. I see some Shy people there but they still able to Talk to people and I Can't talk to people at all without feeling anxious my is Socially anxious
I feel so bad of what these kids have to go through. I'm so glad and proud that they managed to find the courage and bravery to overcome this. I understand how they must've felt during their first time experiencing stuff like this. It happens to all of us. Getting stressed out from social interaction like that.
i am dealing with anxiety and social anxiety. i can’t even walk in public without thinking people are looking at me or talk in public unless spoken to. I’m scared of the public period. i’d rather be home in my room alone.
Man these poor kids... As someone who was born with social Anxiety I completely understand how these kids feel. I'm 17 and was officially diagnosed at 8 years old. Everyone before thought I was just "extremely shy". I wouldn't speak at school, eventually i would slowly get used to the environment and I would talk to only specific people (they would have to start the conversation, of course). But honestly I feel so so terrible for these kids not only do they have to talk (I usually feel sick, nauseous, and the worst butterflies I'm my stomach) but they are being filmed and put on television. This would make me feel even worse. Of course every person is different but I do think they should possibly go to a therapist, and get a proper diagnosis instead of being forced on camera to talk.
Gamèlyzed the children are scared to be around other people, they get nervous around people. So obviously they’re gonna he nervous about being put on national television.....
I’m a triplet, and I’m terrified of socializing, so I’ve grown almost entirely dependent on my sister because we’re in the same grade and everything. Like, when she stopped playing soccer, I stopped playing soccer. I have to sit with her at lunch, and it’s so awkward because I’m too scared to talk to her friends even though they’re all really nice to me. If she’s not in the same class as me, I don’t have anyone to be pair up with for projects. Everyone gets super frustrated with me because they don’t understand what’s going on in my head. I can’t do anything on my own, and I’m going into my junior year of high school. I’m going to have to learn how to become independent before I go off to college on my own, but I don’t know how.
39 years old and I still suffer from social anxiety to this day. Even a trip to the grocery store. The sound of people laughing makes my blood pressure sky rocket because I feel they are laughing at me. The worst thing you can tell someone with social anxiety is to be more outgoing, talk to people.
THANK YOU. Facts. I’m introverted and have extreme social anxiety, telling me to be outgoing wouldn’t work. It would just make me feel like something’s wrong with me
I can relate to so much like my dad tells me “try to be more outgoing” like I’m a really nice person but it’s just that I don’t know how to start a conversation and I just get nervous because I feel like I’m gonna seem dumb
@@gvmmy_bear same here. I always worry that I sound weird or stupid. And a lot of the time when I do talk I talk really quietly and that makes it worse
I asked for therapy but My parents can’t afford it, I can’t talk to people outside my friend group, Or cancel plans last second, I can’t even reply to a text message I overthink to much, I used to have therapy for my adhd, but I developed new problems after I stopped going
Dom Vyv for the young girl it would’ve taken a HUGE amount of courage to come back! She wet her pants and still came back to finish what she started! So yes happy tears that she was able to find the courage to continue. Kudos to her.
I sympathize with them. Also (at least for me) pointing out my silence made it so much worse. In middle school, whenever I’d speak, they’d make it such a big deal and honestly it just made me draw more in to myself. I guess for younger children though, that praise is what they need.
For me, when people praise me for doing things I don’t want to do or is hard to do, it makes it even more “embarrassing” or “harder” for me if you know what I mean.
If I was that kid who experienced the awkward silence, I would sit there comfortably staring death into the adults to make it awkward for them. If they don’t move on, then they don’t. We have lives, you can’t keep us there forever.
@@music0cool well dam the people who make words really like to fucken mix shit up... last i remember my teachers told me anti meant the opposite of something and social meant relating to society or its organization... "anti social"?
I have had Selective Mutism since Primary school ( which I still do) and that would happen all the time, I would always feel embarrassed and my eyes get watery.
I’ve never felt shy before that I can think of. It’s always been interesting to me. What a great job to have to help children open up in hopes that they can enjoy life even more
I'm a adult with this and is truly not easy at all having social anxiety as a adult it is pretty difficult and challenging each day it does make me pretty sentimental and makes me feel alone all the time
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Im naturally quiet. I enjoy silence. If i have something to say, i say it. But nowadays people are afraid of silence and constantly say im too quiet. Maybe everyone is too loud. Ever think of that?
+Farmer Nate interesting points ,if anyone else wants to discover exercises to overcome shyness try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my buddy got great results with it.
Being heard and not judged is so important. I feel like one of the biggest reason people opt to stay quiet is because... speaking is hard enough. And when they do muster enough courage to finally speak they get ignored, bc they were quiet or judged cos they dont speak more or get told their opinion is stupid... and that create more fear. So this group is amazing in that the kids have a safe environment to practice in where they are always heard and appreciated
I hate when people say 'why doesn't she talk?' 'Stop being rude.' 'HeLlOoO?' 'Why are you so quiet?' EDIT: I've been hearing a lot of you say your stories and I just wanna say, people will carry on like this. But you, you are strong. You should be proud you have dealt with this that far. You all are beautiful.
I got 2 Zappo candy sticks from the office ladies for helping them with something and as I headed for the exit, this random 7th grade girl opened it for me and then said “omg hey can I have one zappo plz plz plz”. Without even thinking, I just let her have one. In my head I thought “excuse me what the hell who do you think you are to open the door for me just to ask me for a zappo?” - but hey it’s just a candy. not going to ruin my life forever so it’s fine now She then hugged me and thanked me and walked off.
This is so generalized- people w/ selective mutism aren’t scared of talking to people, they want to talk to people but relapse into mutism because they’re afraid of the triggers; of having a panic or anxiety attack, which is terrifying for a child. Not saying that this doesn’t work, but instead of addressing what response they have from triggers, why, and helping them learn to cope and overcome them, they’re just teaching them to push past it. They end up never understanding how or why, so mutism can come back in that situation
In grade 3 for like 4 months straight I had panic attacks every day and when I think about it, it makes me really sad and angry. But now that I think about it that might have been a trigger but idk
Apparently it’s also said SM is/can be very misunderstood/misinterpreted. I have it and I’m not going to bother typing another essay about it but: • Freeze response activates when you’re expected to talk • Similar to social anxiety with a few differences • Can be misunderstood/misinterpreted It’s getting worse every year. It’s gotten to the point where I’m fussy with my appearance, and so conscious, now to the point I stay home for the tiniest things, though of course I value my learning but my anxiety and fear of judgement prevents me from going to school - it might be hard to understand if u don’t have it, but I hope someone can relate to me ¿
Yes thx for bringing this to light. i had SM growing up. very little is known about it... maybe i should add a video on my story along with anxiety... wow... when i was a kid it was unheard of but bit by bit its coming to light... wow...
one of my biggest pet peeves as a quiet person is whenever I'm talking and someone didnt hear me so they ask "what did she say?" To someone else when I'm right there. It makes you feel invisible
You deserve respect. same things happen to me, but I'm nervous and talk too fast, and I don't mind them asking ME "what did you say" because it's not their fault, but they don't ask me, they give a weird look and ask each other. Look, I was the one that was talking, so I know what I said, why can't you just ask me? Smh why do people even do that
People aren't perfect, and can make simple mistakes like that all the time. Maybe they aren't used to you or maybe they don't want to make you repeat yourself. It is important to take the time to understand why they do these things and not just judge them.
I don’t have a social phobia, but I have a stutter. Meeting new people can be terrifying. It’s hard to Get the words “hi” or “hello” out of your mouth. So your just left there being stared at. It doesn’t exactly boost your confidence.
screaming and cheering when someone with extreme social anxiety finally talks is not it lol *Edit:* ok I honestly don’t know what the hell I was talking about and I obviously have no experience at all with professional psychology. SO I just wanted to make it clear that it was just a statement and there’s no facts at all behind that statement because, you know, it’s a CZcams comment and you don’t exactly go to a CZcams comment section to look for facts for a school project or whatever, just to make it unnecessary clear🌚🌝 Okay that was all I’ll shut up
Yeah right. It makes make feel abnormal and different like the same response isn't given to anyone else. Its just like being the centre of attraction. Its crazy or maybe I'm crazy...
@milk That’s what I was thinking! I don’t like talking and I’m the type of person who can go the whole school year without talking. Whenever I talk, people be like, “Wow! You can talk?” “That’s the loudest you’ve ever talked!” And that’s really annoying; it just makes me not want to talk more.
Yeah they should have acted like it was normal and carry on, I was a quiet kid I was in dance high school and I reminder when I finally wanted to say somthing in a group and the teacher literally was like every one quite quite she about to speak for first time in blue moon and whole class got quiet look to me I played off by little chuckle said what I said but didn’t say a word after that lol but not as Shy anymore.
my voice is really quiet so when the teacher asked me something I would answer and she would be like “speak up please” and everyone would look at me it’s so awkward 😬
Same with me... and then theres those times when they still can't hear you and it's a cycle of "sorry, what was that?" "I cant hear you, say it again" " I still can't hear you!"
I had this little boy in my 1st grad class that would not talk. I really felt bad for him because the teacher would always yell at him, pushed him around (physically) until he cried. So I quickly made friends with him and one day I was walking somewhere and I saw him he still was quiet but he was smiling. His mom said he only talks to her. I wish I could see him but I left queens and the P.S 21 school.
it makes me so happy to read through these comments and feel like they mirror EXACTLY how I feel. I don't have selective mutism but definitely social anxiety. My parents told me I didn't once which fucked with me for a long time and made me ask myself if I was an introvert or if I was just shy, but I'm not. I want to talk to people but sometimes I just can't get the courage to. Walking up to people is probably the hardest thing for me to do whether I actually know the person or not and it all has to do with feeling like I have to have something important or relevant to say. In reality I probably don't need to but I can't convince myself of it. There's only been one person who's shown me I don't need a reason to approach them, I just can and it'd be ok. I pushed them away for a while because I felt like they were just being nice and didn't actually care to talk to me but every time I'd see them and I felt like talking, I'd try to go up to them and was met with a very welcoming atmosphere and this 'act' never fell. Since then we see each other a lot less due to schedules and I've realized that just because they're welcoming does not mean they care because I can often say something loud and clear and they won't notice whatsoever and they don't actually try to talk to me much anymore. But by sheer luck I have another group of friends that I'm trying to overcome this stuff with. It's not perfect and my brain still tells me they don't care, but they've told me they do and every attempt I make to talk to them is met with some form of conversation. I like to just jump into conversations they're having when I hear something I can add on to, but I'm hoping I can gather the confidence to approach them more (which may be harder because I have a crush on one of them, lol).
Forreal I have social anxiety and my teacher one time tried to have me read in front of the class I ended up fainting and not talking for two weeks because of that also had to do intense therapy 😔
It's exposure-response therapy, it's a legitimate strategy for getting over phobias of any kind. Can't get over your fears without confronting them and the idea here is that you're confronting the fear in a controlled environment that actively encourages your progress.
they need something like this for teens, like 12-19 so they can get over social anxiety because oh my god I would sign up so quick, I'm sick and tired of almost passing out because of fear every time I have to talk to somebody new
Taylormine ! You probably don’t. I’m 15, most of kids our generation believe that feeling a little anxious or a little sad makes them “special” and that they have some sort of Anxiety or Depression. No, we are all naturally a little anxious, some more than others, and we all feel a little sad and anxious.
@@user-wx1oy6zn7u i have been diagnosed with anxiety, I take medication for it daily, I had therapy for a long time, and i had to move schools because of it. Yes, I do have it.
@@potatosalad3097 thats true, but don't tell someone they don't when you have never talked to them. If someone was asking for help to know if they had it, sure, there argument is vry valid, but when I am talking about my everyday struggles with social anxitey I don't want to hear someone say "you don't have it." I get told that often even though I do and its aggravating. But if they said that to someone who doesn't know if they have it, rly valid!!!!
L you do realize that people are diagnosed though right? and anxiety and depression getting treated can prevent bad things happening because it’s the root of some problems for some situations that happen in school.
well great news you will be an adult either you are already or you will be very soon and then you can gain the MANLY or WOMANLY courage like the rest of humanity to stop being anxious all the damn time good for you :)!
They’re so rude tbh. I have to deal with them all the time and it just makes me want to talk less and less every time someone says it. Just because I don’t talk that much doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings. If they didn’t exclude me like an outcast then maybe I would talk to them.
I have social anxiety too, but it's not even that extreme. I hate people and whenever I get bullied, I tried to talk to every adult from school, but they were not helpful. I've had extreme trust issues and suicidal thought since I was 13. And sadly, I understand those kids. I just want to help them.
Shorter than short My mom is really mean to me about it and dosent understand an she’s thinks I’m joking around and she will tell me stop. It’s like people think we choose to be like this.
When till the end of high school I used to only talk to people I trusted, when I even had the thought of talking to someone else, I just started shaking and took every opportunity to leave. All of this ruined a part my life. Seeing these kids make even the slightest step, brought me to tears.
One of my classmates actually never spoke to anyone besides her close friends and when she talks, she would speak very softly but she’s getting better now
Damn it, I always get emotional at this video. I feel like I'm watching myself as a kid. Even down to the body language and facial expressions, I was literally just like them and it's bittersweet watching a report about them working on their anxiety.
I feel sad watching this...when I was in school I NEVER talked I had NO friends and couldn’t hold a conversation because I was too scared. But then I met Addie, a girl who was kind and was easy to talk too. She didn’t mind that I was quiet. Now, thanks to her I everywhere and I’m not even afraid too! I’m pretty talkative and can hold conversations easily. Addie if you reading this, thanks for always being there!
I know this is an old clip, but I really don't think they should've put in the footage of the little girl having an accident. They didn't have to show it. It's humiliating enough to happen in front of people, but then have it filmed, too? Jesus. They could've just said it happened, but cut away. Poor kid.
I don't have that extream but I'm really shy girl I can talk to my classmates ...but the real problem is that when I go in front of my class to explain anything my brain stops working and I just stand like statue "it's very embarrassing moment" after preparing myself and practicing..even I can't answer the question my teacher ask me even when I know answer and he/she stops questioning me because he/she know that I will not going to answer them... I also have really big fear of crowd...I can't walk on street alone because Im fear of strangers and I start to behave like fool ""embarrassinggg really really embarrassing ""
I have always been a shy child, just talking to people would make me cry. Now I am 26. I feel for these children because this was me when I was a little girl.
Whenever people say "omg they talk" or "they're so quiet" I don't think they realize it made me not want to talk at all
I am potentially autistic and I sadly have to deal with this a lot. Smh
Say it louder for the people in the back... prolly wrong saying to say but I feel the exact same way
@@Coco-bl8zg I get that I might be autistic or I could have adhd I'm not sure yet and I'm kinda too scared to ask for diagnosis so I'm just stuck
Omggg yeees
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i dont like how people are "you should talk more" but when you try to talk you get interrupted and get talked over.
It's really annoying. It always happens to me.
THIS
Kids at my school said that to me but they complain whenever I speak or try my best at P.E class
YES THANK YOU OMG
SO TRUE
There was a girl at my school who wouldn't talk to anyone throughout all of elementary school. Most people, actually everyone, just "forgot" she existed and went about their day, but I made it a point to smile and say hello to her every single day, even though she said nothing back. After an entire year of saying hello to her, she finally let out the quietest "hi", but it was such a beautiful moment. I just smiled and said "see you tomorrow!", but I was so happy for her on the inside. She wouldn't talk to anyone except for her family and two children at school who were family friends. Despite this, she always said hi to me after that first time, and I'll always remember her!
Same happen to me I remember having a quite girl in my class too I tried to talk to her tell she smile one day it was really happy, I remember she asked me to help her with closing her shirt's sleeves button too :)
thank you for doing this and for seeing her!
thank you so much for doing that i know i would of really appreciated that if i were her
someone in my class does this to me and asks "how are you?" or just a hi. not everyday but frequently. i don't show it but it makes me feel so happy and that i'm not forgotten by everyone. thank you for being nice to her:-)
that's so sweet :)
It’s been 9 years and ABC still doesn’t know how to spell “Extreme”
LMFAO STOP
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“Extremem”
LMAOOO
lmfaoo
9 years later and they still don’t know how to spell extreme
Joseph Da boi lmaooo
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Extremem
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I noticed but I thought it was just some fancy word.
plot twist, theyre normal and everyone else is annoying af
69th Like. Ur welcome
Nah, social anxiety makes people disfuncional af and limits their success in life
Bruno Schweiz did you not get the joke or are you responding to a comment that was recently deleted by someone
Yassssss
it's not normal sadly, I was like this since I started school and it did fuck up my life and growing up process quite a lot. I didn't get any treatment for this problem so I just kept living with it and now I'm an adult with even more problems that would most likely be not that severe if I had lived differently at that young age.
Kid: Has social anxiety
Reporters: *shoves camera in face*
There is no cure, when he’s comfortable he’s gonna be comfortable.
You can create a environment to help them but you can't force them.
Jesus is the cure
@I love you!! I didn’t say such thing I said Jesus is the cure I never said you will be healed completely like perfect God bless
@I love you!! are you even a Christian?
@I love you!! have read the Bible about Jesus healing because you attacking for no reason all I said is Jesus is the cure so if someone is depressed your going to tell people His healing is not eternal
she peed her pants she was so nervous... that's a lot more than being shy.
Lindsay M. That made me tear up
Lindsay M. It made me sad for her
Yeah. She has an incredibly severe form of social anxiety. I also have social anxiety. This "cure" may make them talk, but it's absolute fucking torture for the kids. I feel so bad for them.
That’s my cousin right there, she literally has to be homeschooled.
@@mich497 that's so sad. How old is she now? And if you don't mind me asking, does she talk to family members often?
i hated when i would talk in school because there would always be somebody that would say "oh my god you talk" i hated when people told me that, it made me not want to talk at all
loo._ yo EXACTLY OMG
Same
relatable af
loo._ yo I swear!!!! That was my whole middle school life
This is how I feel everyday at school.
as a person with selective mutism *THIS* is not how you should “cure” kids. i’ve had to do something like this when i was younger and honestly it probably even made it worse
I wasn’t diagnosed with selective mutism but I definitely had similar stories as these kids and I completely agree. I didn’t have to go through something like this but I can tell you it probably would’ve caused deep trauma. I’m so glad I had a good child therapist.
I agree. I had selective mutism as a child that eventually went away, but the severe social anxiety stuck with me. I think this method would have been too aggressive for me as a kid.
Everyone isn’t like you
Same rn i am doing better with a therapist 1 on 1 and sending videos to my teachers it really is very hard but i hope soon i will be confident in my voice and eventually talking like nothing ya know
It depends .. this is a form of exposure therapy which is used for a lot of phobias and anxiety disorders and is a documented, approved method for treatment. Of course, just as with any treatment, the success varies with the individual and needs to be adjusted as such. Thus, what might work for one kid might not have worked for you
This "shyness" should be dealt with in a space that these kids can "open up" when they are ready. I know if I was put through that as a kid and was forced to speak when I didn't feel comfortable I would of completely shut down. Extroverted people don't understand what its like to be the quiet type and to feel uncomfortable in social interactions and expects everybody to be like them. We need to look inside these kids and understand their perspective and work with them accordingly to what holds them back. A structured environment where they feel safe, where they can take the time to speak no matter how long it takes to get their words out. Need to develop socially with their peers and then other people they don't know. Every tiny step is a huge step for them, consistently is the key.
Bro i was exactly like them when i was a kid maybe i was worse and i wish my parents did this for me you donot know what is it like to have a social phobia you donot understand any thing so please just listen not any thing else
@@someone-iy6km i have social anxiety and this method would have made me completely silent. This is not a one size fits all solution.
@@canavero4288 yea i'd just freeze in front of the camera and ask my parents to go home, but i don't think i have their same problem (i can often talk to strangers, i get anxious and sometimes freeze when people expect me to say/do something and i have to do it)
@@canavero4288 For this scenario, it seemed to help them. Y’all do realize there’s different therapies for selective mutism right? People actually have to try these out on kids to see if it would be the best thing to help them and overall I think it did a good job. For me I had extreme sever mutism that affected the relationships with my parents because I didn’t talk to them either, they never encouraged me to talk or took me to therapy to help me and that ended up with me going to school bullied because I rarely talked. I wish my parents helped me like that because now as an adult with social anxiety, I’m going to therapy and it had helped me tremendously, probably could’ve helped me not go thru all of the trauma I had throughout my life if I did went as a kid.
Being an introvert isnt the same as having anxiety, you can have amxiety and be an extrovert.
I don't think it was right to film her peeing her pants, she must've felt so exposed and scared.
And they wonder why she doesn't speak
@@lindilotter6042 exactly
Lindi Lotter ahha I speak now tho 🙃
@@mayyajade wait omg it's u???
One Hour Audios yea
I can't even walk without being anxious in public
Same
ME TOO:(
Notification Sqaud same and it’s ruining my life 😭
Me too
That sounds like anxiety
Having social anxiety I feel so deeply for these little kids ☹️☹️
ASSICON SYRUP AUR BRANOCON SYRUP Se Thik huwa, Mera 15 sal ka beta hai use hamesha se, dar laga rahta hai, uske hat pair me jhanjhanaht hona, hat pair me kampan hona, jee ghabrana, man bechain hona,bahut he pasina aana, ye sab problem tha doctor ko dikhane ke bad use brain me blood supply thik se na hone se fobiya, aur Anxiety hai, unke dawa se thik nahi huwa phir use Ayurvedic Dawai Me ASSICON SYRUP AUR BRANOCON SYRUP 6 se 8 mahine diya Abhi wo Bilkul thik hai Such me Bahut he
Effective Dawa Hai, jarur lena
are you also that?
Same:(
i have it, and i just fucked my entire life up. hope this kids fixed it while there was time.
@PaceMaker76564 I've never heard about this EFT tapping, how does it work?
But yeah man, I feel your pain. I also think sometimes that I won't ever be normal in that sense. The worst problem is that I want to be a businessman, and I would need to be even better than regular people in communicating and general social confidence.
But I've been making small daily progresses in the last months, and I think that if we dedicate about like 3 years of our lives just pushing through the pain and bettering ourselves, we would get there. It sounds brutal but it's the effort of a life time. And if I could give you some practical advice, start by going to the gym and fixing your diet. The body transformation is a huge boost of confidence, man. I trust that when I achieve the shape that I want, I'm gonna feel way more comfortable with people
I don't think most people realize how hard this is for them, I was tearing up watching this because I'm so proud of them. I was shy as a kid but I had crippling social anxiety for a few years as an adult, like as severe as this. I pretty much had to design my own exposure therapy because I couldn't bring myself to even call a therapist. What brave little kids, good for them for powering through it.
What did you do for a mock exposure therapy? I’m 16 and have suffered from selective mutism almost my
Whole life and I have gotten diagnosed with it years ago and went to therapy for a few months but we can afford it no longer 😞
I feel like its better to Overcome this naturally instead of being "forced" like that program. Some learn faster than others
Also depends on who you hang with
I've watched it a few times. I swear seeing Jake is like looking at myself as a kid, same body language and facial expressions, same level of anxiety and quietness. I wonder how they are doing now it's been 10+ years. I hope they continued to gain confidence.
The same for me.. I can`t call the therapist, but I am ashamed to ask my dad to it, because I am a a grown woman. But he always says I don`t need it anyway, I am normal, I just need to go out more. But I don`t go out because I can`t not because I don`t want. And then he says-If you truly want, you would go out. But sitting mostly at home for almost 10 years was defintely not my wish. I`m 30 now. He refuse to understand. My biggest dream is to become normal, enjoy life, work, meet people, travel, celebrate, find a partner. But I really don`t know how. Because people in my society are mean and arrogant mostly and it is so hard to open to them.
*kid with social phobias”
abc: shoves a camera at his face.
Mickey Yo Picket it’s selective mutism
Kristoff Hakso from anxiety
I think it was proven in the documentary that its not a camera that freaks them out. You don't have to interact with a camera. Its being around people that is difficult for them.
Exactly that shit pissed me off
Kristoff Hakso look at the title and then come back
I hate hearing "why are you so quiet?" "Can you say this word" for me it's like your being treated like a kid. That's how bad my social anxiety is
Same! I ended it myself in 5th grade, but 2nd grade - 5th grade I was silent. I’ve been asked this so many times is soooo annoying.
same
Me too, my classmates who I don't even know ask you me,"why are so quite, why don't you talk?"
I just smile at her, but in side I just wanted to say, "why do you talk so much?"
Story of my life
Here's a tip, I don't usually talk irl, but if I do then I just write what I say on a piece of paper. I've written why I'm like this to my teachers. Occasionally they'll call on me. I'm only comfortable talking to my friends and family.
I was always called "the shy kid", and the teachers always told me how cute it was and how much better they thought it was than being a wild kid. That made me even more shy, and now I think I might've even developed social anxiety disorder.
i’ll really sorry for you. i don’t feel uncomfortable talking to people but i get pretty nervous making eye contact when talking so my eyes drift a lot. i’m making an effort to make eye contact but it takes a lot of concentration lol :/
i relate to this in some way.. i was a shy kid but most of all i was just very quiet and i always got praised for it by adults, so i stayed super quiet. years went by and i never learned proper social skills or never had to go out of my comfort zone, and now i'm anxious all the time and everywhere 😮💨 0 character development lol
Sheesh the teachers thoughts kinda make sense but like at least they should attempt to not say it out loud smh...
I have social issues and usually everyone in school never notices me. I remember I spoke during a group project and they all looked at me saying "oMg sHe sPokE" and making jokes of me because I rarely ever spoke and I just nervously laughed and went straight to the bathroom. ;-; I'm so lonely lmao
You ok?
Keep in mind that you are not alone in the world who has these problems. That might help you a little.
Same thing happened to me in school. It's so embarrassing.
I feel you. school is the worst with social anxiety. I got those kinds of comments too and they made me hate everyone even more hah
I remember when I was on my way to get to the bus and like my old principal from a few years ago came to my old school and then I accidentally talked idk how but everybody was looking at me if I was a nobody 😃
The problem is, I WANT to talk. When I hear people talking about something that I’m interested in and know a lot about I’d kill to jump into the conversation. But I just can’t, and that’s the worst feeling in the world.
datbig304 Just make eye contact until they start talking to you
S M Isn’t that just kinda creepy? Just staring at someone without stopping
INESSA 😳😳😳TALK TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE....
Yes that would’ve weird
INESSA don’t jump into people’s conversations that’s weird lol
@@SM-ht7qf they say this what the fuck u want u fucm, im like wsssup u wann go
The sad thing is that a lot of people don’t even know that social phobia is a thing. They just think it’s purely anxiety or shyness when it’s much more that that.
It’s called a phobia for a reason. It can be clinically diagnosed.
...I have social anxiety, I hate it, I dont get how these kids can through it, social anxiety is extremely hard for me, It has gotten worse this year. Last year, if i got called in class to answer a question, I would blush. But this year for some reason, if i get chosen, i blush, my heart beats super fast and loud, and my eyes would tear up, if they kept asking, I might cry, but luckily my teachers notice and ask someone else...
Speeches are coming up for me and I dont know how I can go through it. Last year, i wasnt this bad, and I almost cried, but made it through, this year it has gotten worse, and i might cry...I hope i dont as a group of girls in my class bully me, and If i cry...itll get so much worse...
I hate myself...I have severe depression, mild anxiety, severe social anxiety...well those are the ones I know of, i might have more im not sure...
When I was little I just thought I was really shy since that’s what I’d always been told but as I grew up I thought it would get better but it just got worse and worse till I was at the verge of tears when I just had to order food. That was when I realized that it was much worse then that
@@pineapples3312 Same...Everyone jus called me shy, and quiet, but thats not the truth, i have social anxiety.
This was me In kindergarten and i didn't start talking until second grade and even then i didn't talk in sentences
When I was 5: She's shy
When I was 6: She's shy
When I was 7: She's shy... I think
When I was 8: *diagnosed with asperger's autism*
...
When I was 9: She's just shy
(As told from my mom's POV)
As someone who also has a phobia of socializing, making comments about me being quiet or making me socialize will not help.
In case anyone wants to know what’s going on in their head during that “painfully long silence” as someone with selective mutism, I’ll tell you. Usually I’m just repeating the word in my head trying to convince myself to say it, sometimes I even count down trying to say it. Others times I try to say it and it just comes out as mouthing the word, you can see this happen to Jake at 5:17.
My daughter is like this she doesn’t talk in school. At home we talk about it and she tells me she wants to talk and she wishes she wasn’t this way. I try to encourage her but I don’t want to be overbearing and make it worse.
this is exactly what happens to me!! i haven't been diagnosed with selective mutism, social anxiety or any of the kind but everyone knows me as the 'very smart, quiet and shy person'.
i do think i have social anxiety or even selective mutism but i'm too scared to tell my parents because they're probably gonna get mad at me, one time it was the first day of school and my mom asked if i was excited, (i really wasn't) and i said 'i hate talking to people, and i don't like being around people'. my science and french teacher also asked the whole class to write on a sheet of paper stuff about us, for example, what we like to do, where we're from etc etc and the last sentence was 'things to ABSOLUTELY know about me', i didn't hesitate to write that i get very nervous around people and that i never raise my hand in class, that i also stutter a lot and i can't speak in front big crowds of people.
i guess like that my teachers and mom can pick up clues that i hate being around people and possibly one day i'll maybe get diagnosed with social anxiety.. i just wanted to share this because it felt great getting it off my chest, really sorry if i bothered you!..
@@martsii has it gotten better as you get older? My daughter told me she raised her hand in class the other day. I was so happy for her but in my heart I think she just told me that to please me. I don’t believe she is raising her hand. She has no friends Bc she can’t speak. My heart breaks for her. I can’t imagine not having any friends. She must feel so alone. How old are you if u don’t mind me asking
@@noellefrank2573 actually, it's gotten worse as i got older, (don't feel comfortable sharing my age sorry, but i'm currently in high school if that's a hint) if i was you, i would also believe she's just saying that to make you proud considering how shy she is and how she has no friends, i do have a friend (we used to be friends last year, she just came up to my locker and said hi to me, we went to our class together and we kind of reconnected from there on. if she didn't come up to me, i would probably still have no friends..) and yes, just seeing someone you care about suffer especially in these kinds of situations sucks a lot, also because you can't really help. but i hope your daughter gets better and someday becomes friends with someone 💖💖🙏🏾
@@martsii well I’m really glad you shared that with me Bc it makes me feel better knowing that my daughter is not alone. Hopefully you find some joy in knowing you aren’t alone and you definitely do not have anything wrong with you. You are made exactly the way you are supposed to be and you are perfect the way you are. Everyone grows and learns as they get older and I’m sure you will look back one day and be a stronger person Bc of what you have went thru!
It’s been 7 years and they still haven’t fixed the title.
You’ll get used to it! I had BAD social anxiety, to the point where I couldn’t leave the house. Now I’m a social person and I can perform on stage. It takes time and forcing yourself to get outside of your comfort zone. You can do it. It won’t come immediately, and it will take time.
Lauren :) the hell are you talking about. op is talking about the *’extremem’* in the title..
hot cheetos I commented something else talking about my anxiety so I think they meant to reply to that one haha
they can't
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Those kids now vibing during Corona time
Penelope Sims im really not tho I would rather be in school ahah- (maya from the video)
Nah, home better.
Yeah, home better
@@mayyajade wait are U the girl in the vid!?!??
Supremajullibeama / yea
I've always been like this when I was young, very conscious of my surroundings and how I looked. My insecurities and my view of this world started when I was 7. My mind was of like an adult's.
Same,I was always very mature as a kid. While also being shy and insecure.
Same,and it is a result of abuse and trauma for me. I wish I was talkative
this is going to make them feel like they’re being humiliated
Imagine what it will feel like for them when they grow up.
@@sylviaisafoot6570 I think they already grew up by now. They are probably like 16 which is where I'm too
@@Hale-ed8eh Yeah, ur right. Oh that's cool! Happy sweet 16!
are u a child psychologist?
Did they tell you this?
People: “aw, they’re shy hehe☺️ ”
Kids: *internal screaming*
Relatable have a nice day.
Nice profile pic
Literally
Fr. People always call me shy, but I just have social anxiety.
@@xerrekim9711 same here. They’re like “aw you’re shy that’s adorable!” When I was literally traumatised to the point I couldn’t talk. I don’t blame them, not a lot of people know about social anxiety but it’s pretty annoying
Let me set this straight:
SHY and ANXIETY ARE DIFFERENT
yes kind of
theres normal people who are just shy, and theres people with selective mutism like me, where we WANT to talk but get seized with anxiety when someone asks us to speak. i dont know what to do :)
@@anagonzalez-mm4szdude same. Like I WANT talk, but I cant
@@nicachepe YESSS
Im both
I’m also impressed that the kids say “something different” instead of just going with the first option and ending the conversation. ❤️
Scared of others to judge their choice, they prefer to not do it so other people won't be mad at them that they've choosen one of the options.
This brought me to tears. I remember being that kid in elementary. I didn’t talk to anyone for a whole school year and had to repeat because my mom thought it was best. I still struggle with anxiety till this day.
“They are so shy they can’t even talk without crying!”’ *i know! Let’s shove a camera in front of them and make them talk*
They have to face their fears lol. If you want to cure it you can't cuddle them.
@@SuperMarioSignature They have social anxiety. Shoving a camera in their face and making them talk under extreme conditions could mentally torture them and leave lasting problems. It's not just a "fear" it's a serious disorder that needs work and time to overcome. Obviously we can't just "cuddle" them, but they need to be treated in a way that'll help them in the long run instead of possible making it worse.
@@eveilyc okay look, I was born with social anxiety that's so severe that I can't even go to school without having an anxiety attack, much less talk or make a single friend. Point is, I know exactly how it feels. I get that the camera is making their anxiety feel worse, but it will honestly just speed up the process. I think the additional pressure is good because it helps them get used to more extreme conditions. I actually wish someone would have done this to me at such a young age.
Super Mario Signature no it won’t. Having anxiety doesn’t make you a professional lmao that’s like telling a depressed person to just be happy and expecting it to speed up the process
@@larrybarry5303 But... You completely misunderstood what he said completely. It's more like a depressed person telling another to do something they enjoy instead of laying around doing nothing.
When I was young my voice was quiet and whenever a teacher yelled at me I started having tears in my eyes
You might have something called Higley sensitive person disorder
Pelin Gundogan ikr
Sensitive people gang ❤️
Ayyy #sensitivegang
Sameeeeeee
As an introvert, just let us be alone.
There's a difference between social anxiety and being an introvert, just saying.
i'm a introvert too but i don't have social anxiety. introversion is when you gain energy from being alone and recharging - that's all it really is. i agree that most introverts tend to be reserved and quiet at first but they can be social too. being an introvert or extrovert doesn't have anything to do with social anxiety - there's loads of extroverts who have social anxiety
That’s, unfortunately, not how life works.
@@pp-nm3bk I feel like some people who are introverted think that they are just super introverted when in reality they just have social anxiety. They may still be introverted, but still.
@@pp-nm3bk no!! there are anxious introverts too
I have anxiety. I remember a couple of occasions with a math teacher I had in 10th grade and it was one of my worst school years alongside 7th and 8th grade. This math teacher has made me break down into tears multiple times. All but one of those times was I able to keep myself from breaking down in the middle of class. This one time, I just couldn't take it. He made me go up to the board 3 times. First time I went up, he told me to work out the question on the board. Second time, he told me to go up again because it was wrong. At this point I was extremely embarrassed and just wanted to hide. Third time, he didn't ask me to go up again but he made me feel extremely embarrassed for getting the answer wrong again and that was when I finally just broke down. I had two friends sitting on both sides and they were trying to comfort me, which I really appreciate that.
There was many other occasions like this, but I would cry at home and not in class. It was honestly a miserable year. He also had the audacity to say he was trying to help me when the school year ended, but that's just not how you go about it, ya know?
Exactly. I always felt bad after too
@@ElemonAdventures ikr
He deserves to be fired
This is why it kills me so much when people are so horrible to silent kids in my classes. They're silent for a reason, and shooting them down for talking isn't gonna help.
I had this problem a lot growing up. I have social anxiety.
AllonsyEmily Just got to this video and it's breaking my heart to think that there are many children out there with the same disorder as my youngest child, she has social anxiety and cannot go out alone she always has to be accompanied either by her dad or myself, It doesn't bother me that she needs to over come this on her own and despite it being over ten years now, she is doing very well the only thing that hurts me so much is that she doesn't have any friends her own age.
AllonsyEmily I completely agree as I had the same problems these kids had when I was their age but did I get the same treatments? no, they thought I was the problem and sent me to special classes and kept me their to see if my confidence will build to whence I go into regular classes... but I couldn't of course as my self-esteem was going down day in and down out by all the bullies who thought they were better than me and I was shit, so their you go.
do you have a clinic? very well said but I have no idea why you said it!! I know people who have social anxiety, don't have friends and are very comfortable being the way they are.
I know right. Im quiet at school, and when i talk people are like "omg you can talk, maya?!"
stop shoving a camera up someones face that has this issue
ikr
Unrelated but I love your pfp
@@soapiistars444 thx lmao
Right cus that just make things more difficult for them I just hate that like wth y’all think we is famous or something😖
I was waiting for someone to say this AHA
I'm 18 and have severe social anxiety and the worst part is that, with me, it increased with time, like, when I was a kid, I was quite confident and would easily get along with other kids but as time passed by and I became older, my social anxiety became worse especially when I'm talking to girls that's when the anxiety really kicks in and because of that, girls don't feel comfortable around me. I don't know what they think but the worst part of being socially anxious is that people take it in a wrong way and perceive you of being rude or showing attitude when you just can't talk. Now I'm 18 and my anxiety has sparked to a whole new level. I just want to feel normal in public like a normal human being and live a normal fucking life 😢
I feel you, l think going to therapist to help you will benefits you a lot. Have a nice day Asad.
I was always shy and known as “the weird kid”. And when I was in 6th grade, ( we’re gonna call her Sandy lol) Sandy came up to me during lunch and sat with me when nobody did, we’re best friends now. I’m so glad she sat with me.
Just so you know, being shy isn't weird most people are shy😄
cute
The sad thing is that 13 edgy kids think THEY’RE the ones that have anxiety and brag about it
The REAADS crew nah they think they have anxiety and no doctor told them they have it. They don’t think being nervous exists
The REAADS crew yee yee lmao
for reallllll!! Honestly I feel like having Anxiety is a trend now and people just say they have it to feel cool Ig. It’s really stupid because people really struggle with these kinds of stuff.
Imaan Achikzai lmao couldn’t of said it better myself
I can relate some of the girls in my class say they have anxiety but no doctor ever told them they have it but I was diagnosed with anxiety since I was a toddler and I didn't say my first word until I was four so really they think having anxiety a few times their whole life means they are diagnosed with anxiety but they aren't I mean theirs goes aways mine doesn't and will always be their
This shouldn’t have been filmed, it must be so hard with all those cameras
I think its too much now for the kids being forced to talk with social anxiety:(
As someone with social anxiety, I can say that
this is very helpful. It is like doing a trick on a skateboard. You might be scared of getting hurt at first, but with repetition it becomes very easy to do. I do think that the cameras might of made it harder for the kids to get the courage to speak. But if they can handle the cameras then talking without cameras will feel much easier.
I think its important to other people and parents to know about this kind of issues
Audio Destruction Ok, that’s a good way to look at it, but camera crews are so intimidating, so I’m not sure
Cameras prob help with the situation
when i was in middle school, i was a very shy , quiet person in school, and a lot of people forgot I existed, and it was super rare to find someone shy as me in school
That would probably be me but I’m tall so that made a lot of people talk to me idk why but I know that’s a big reason so I got over it
Yea it is hard I never see any people in school Just like me. I see some Shy people there but they still able to Talk to people and I Can't talk to people at all without feeling anxious my is Socially anxious
I feel so bad of what these kids have to go through. I'm so glad and proud that they managed to find the courage and bravery to overcome this. I understand how they must've felt during their first time experiencing stuff like this. It happens to all of us. Getting stressed out from social interaction like that.
i'll talk if they'd STOP STARING AT ME
I understand this at a personal level in school
Same
I relate at all levels
Kagura - / if you have trouble with eye contact then you might also have another underlining condition besides the one mentioned in the video!
Ikr
i am dealing with anxiety and social anxiety. i can’t even walk in public without thinking people are looking at me or talk in public unless spoken to. I’m scared of the public period. i’d rather be home in my room alone.
Same.
Same, only time I didn't feel like that was on antidepressants but the side effects were horrible for me
SAME SAME
Your me
I'm not scared of it, but I prefer to be left alone.
I did cry when mom said "I'm so proud of her" it really took a lot of courage 😭
Man these poor kids...
As someone who was born with social Anxiety I completely understand how these kids feel. I'm 17 and was officially diagnosed at 8 years old. Everyone before thought I was just "extremely shy". I wouldn't speak at school, eventually i would slowly get used to the environment and I would talk to only specific people (they would have to start the conversation, of course).
But honestly I feel so so terrible for these kids not only do they have to talk (I usually feel sick, nauseous, and the worst butterflies I'm my stomach) but they are being filmed and put on television. This would make me feel even worse. Of course every person is different but I do think they should possibly go to a therapist, and get a proper diagnosis instead of being forced on camera to talk.
people might think it’s funny but people have no idea how hard it actually is and how serious of a problem this is .
We are in our thirties, and my brother still makes fun of me to this day because I had selective mutism as a child.
@@caitm8209 thats torture
i suffer from it every day, though it isnt as severe as these people
idk why i dont talk either
its hard to explain
Especially when people know about it and just make fun of you about it
Bruh it hurts
“My kids are scared to go to school cuz of the crowd”
“Let’s put them on tv that’s smart”
Lightウ
boomers logic
Two very different things but okay
Hi you...I love your profile pic...I was scared to go to school...I hated it...
Gamèlyzed the children are scared to be around other people, they get nervous around people. So obviously they’re gonna he nervous about being put on national television.....
Ikr
I’m a triplet, and I’m terrified of socializing, so I’ve grown almost entirely dependent on my sister because we’re in the same grade and everything. Like, when she stopped playing soccer, I stopped playing soccer. I have to sit with her at lunch, and it’s so awkward because I’m too scared to talk to her friends even though they’re all really nice to me. If she’s not in the same class as me, I don’t have anyone to be pair up with for projects. Everyone gets super frustrated with me because they don’t understand what’s going on in my head. I can’t do anything on my own, and I’m going into my junior year of high school. I’m going to have to learn how to become independent before I go off to college on my own, but I don’t know how.
Sounds like your parents fucked up. Life's hard, deal with it.
39 years old and I still suffer from social anxiety to this day. Even a trip to the grocery store. The sound of people laughing makes my blood pressure sky rocket because I feel they are laughing at me. The worst thing you can tell someone with social anxiety is to be more outgoing, talk to people.
lmao going out actually helps but it should be done gradually. i am sorry at age 39 it cant help you now your brain has crystallised
THANK YOU.
Facts.
I’m introverted and have extreme social anxiety, telling me to be outgoing wouldn’t work. It would just make me feel like something’s wrong with me
Me: I'm very shy
Therapist: Try talking to people
Me: Really.
I can relate to so much like my dad tells me “try to be more outgoing” like I’m a really nice person but it’s just that I don’t know how to start a conversation and I just get nervous because I feel like I’m gonna seem dumb
@@gvmmy_bear same here. I always worry that I sound weird or stupid. And a lot of the time when I do talk I talk really quietly and that makes it worse
@@-mushroom7757 omg sake with meeee! I hate it! 😭😭
@@gvmmy_bear same
I asked for therapy but My parents can’t afford it, I can’t talk to people outside my friend group, Or cancel plans last second, I can’t even reply to a text message I overthink to much, I used to have therapy for my adhd, but I developed new problems after I stopped going
I literally cried when she had an accident and still had the courage to come back and try again! That would’ve taken immense courage for her!
Casidhe McNeil right :(
Casidhe McNeil Ikr :(
Casidhe McNeil thank you for caring 🥰.
Seriously? That made you cry? Is that a good thing or bad thing?
Dom Vyv for the young girl it would’ve taken a HUGE amount of courage to come back! She wet her pants and still came back to finish what she started! So yes happy tears that she was able to find the courage to continue. Kudos to her.
As a social anxious person, I can say that being encouraged is the worst thing ever, I feel weird
same like ur supposed to feel happy and proud but i just feel so dead? idk the word
because no one else gets praise for it, so you end up feeling like you are not normal
I sympathize with them. Also (at least for me) pointing out my silence made it so much worse. In middle school, whenever I’d speak, they’d make it such a big deal and honestly it just made me draw more in to myself. I guess for younger children though, that praise is what they need.
Is there a cure for people who talk to much? There's this clown in my chemistry class
I gotchu first knock em out then you gotta grab a scalpel and cut out his voice box
Yeah that's relatable, there is a dude in my English class that keeps asking people to spank him
@@-SweetCheesecake- wtf
yeah it's called duct tape just wrap it around their head
😂😂😂
For me, when people praise me for doing things I don’t want to do or is hard to do, it makes it even more “embarrassing” or “harder” for me if you know what I mean.
It's really hard to explain that feeling especially to other people, but I know what you mean. I feel it all the time.
Yahh i know what you mean its like so weird for me
@@YumeDream39 ..same
i know exactly what you mean im the same way
IKKKK
Everyone would be social if the extroverts will stop judging them
Extroverts are so fucking annoying
It dont work like that
I still have it even if they're not judging me.
If I was that kid who experienced the awkward silence, I would sit there comfortably staring death into the adults to make it awkward for them. If they don’t move on, then they don’t. We have lives, you can’t keep us there forever.
'has severe social anxiety/phobia, antisocial'
boomers: *oH tHEyrE sHY* 👁️👅👁️
Exactly that's my brother T_T
You mean asocial, antisocial means criminal or immoral activity haha
I swear I heard their voices
@@music0cool well dam the people who make words really like to fucken mix shit up... last i remember my teachers told me anti meant the opposite of something and social meant relating to society or its organization... "anti social"?
LMAOAOAO STOP
when the teacher says "huh? speak up.. everyone, raise your hand if you didnt hear one word that came out of their mouth.'
that’s so degrading 😭 Happened to me once and I almost burst into tears right in the middle of class
I have had Selective Mutism since Primary school ( which I still do) and that would happen all the time, I would always feel embarrassed and my eyes get watery.
I HATED THIS
That has happened to me in preschool too many times, my teacher really disliked me
Wtf who does that? That’s so fucking rude! My teachers always just say “a little louder for the kids in the back!” In a nice tone holy crap
I’ve never felt shy before that I can think of. It’s always been interesting to me. What a great job to have to help children open up in hopes that they can enjoy life even more
I'm a adult with this and is truly not easy at all having social anxiety as a adult it is pretty difficult and challenging each day it does make me pretty sentimental and makes me feel alone all the time
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I hate it when people tell me "talk more its rude not too" ITS HARD!
Exactly.
It's rude to NOT talk more? I'd say it's more rude to just keep talking.
It's not hard to talk, it's hard to get yourself to believe that others won't judge you in a bad way
Same my dad says that and tells me to stop hiding myself but I’m scared of crowds and open windows if people are there,._.,
It’s tiring
Im naturally quiet. I enjoy silence. If i have something to say, i say it. But nowadays people are afraid of silence and constantly say im too quiet. Maybe everyone is too loud. Ever think of that?
I know im quiet to. I speak when i want to, but i dont speak worthless things.
+Farmer Nate interesting points ,if anyone else wants to discover exercises to overcome shyness try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my buddy got great results with it.
+Farmer Nate Nah you're probably too quiet, if you think of the human race we need to communicate to survive.
+Farmer Nate Same her. I have a hard time starting a conversation and talk to anyone unless they ask me questions.
Same here I like being quit to
Being heard and not judged is so important. I feel like one of the biggest reason people opt to stay quiet is because... speaking is hard enough. And when they do muster enough courage to finally speak they get ignored, bc they were quiet or judged cos they dont speak more or get told their opinion is stupid... and that create more fear. So this group is amazing in that the kids have a safe environment to practice in where they are always heard and appreciated
this made my day, social anxiety is a very rough thing that i can deal with, but im so glad these kids got to communicate and make friends.
Ah yes shoving a camera in a kids face that’s terrified of strangers made ur day
i have severe social anxiety and public school “preparing you for the future” doesn’t help.
Oh god, I know.. Doing presentations and recitations are the worst.. I always feel like I'm going to throw up or pass out when I do them..
Missy Woodham right, someone’s I just took a 0 because I could not do it
@@trippinondashroomies2474 DEF taken a zero before for choosing not present something to my class...
That’s your problem. Lol. It’s helped everyone else...
Hela shut the hell up you don’t understand just shut up😂
I hate when people say 'why doesn't she talk?' 'Stop being rude.' 'HeLlOoO?' 'Why are you so quiet?'
EDIT: I've been hearing a lot of you say your stories and I just wanna say, people will carry on like this. But you, you are strong. You should be proud you have dealt with this that far. You all are beautiful.
This is how my life is in school every day
LunarMoonXD I KNOW RIGHT LIKE PEOPLE, STOPP LET PEOPLE TAKE TIME
My mum every time I don’t have anything to say.
LunarMoonXD EXACTLY LIKE omg stfu 🤦♀️ wHy aRe yOU sO qUieT- they love to test my patience
LunarMoonXD I know right
Those kids are so lucky that their parents understood and sought the right treatment instead of using the common saying like they'll grow out of it
I have social anxiety and I wouldn’t even ask for something different I would just take the bubbles and go
I got 2 Zappo candy sticks from the office ladies for helping them with something and as I headed for the exit, this random 7th grade girl opened it for me and then said “omg hey can I have one zappo plz plz plz”. Without even thinking, I just let her have one.
In my head I thought “excuse me what the hell who do you think you are to open the door for me just to ask me for a zappo?” - but hey it’s just a candy. not going to ruin my life forever so it’s fine now
She then hugged me and thanked me and walked off.
Same
This is so generalized- people w/ selective mutism aren’t scared of talking to people, they want to talk to people but relapse into mutism because they’re afraid of the triggers; of having a panic or anxiety attack, which is terrifying for a child. Not saying that this doesn’t work, but instead of addressing what response they have from triggers, why, and helping them learn to cope and overcome them, they’re just teaching them to push past it. They end up never understanding how or why, so mutism can come back in that situation
exactly
In grade 3 for like 4 months straight I had panic attacks every day and when I think about it, it makes me really sad and angry. But now that I think about it that might have been a trigger but idk
Apparently it’s also said SM is/can be very misunderstood/misinterpreted.
I have it and I’m not going to bother typing another essay about it but:
• Freeze response activates when you’re expected to talk
• Similar to social anxiety with a few differences
• Can be misunderstood/misinterpreted
It’s getting worse every year. It’s gotten to the point where I’m fussy with my appearance, and so conscious, now to the point I stay home for the tiniest things, though of course I value my learning but my anxiety and fear of judgement prevents me from going to school - it might be hard to understand if u don’t have it, but I hope someone can relate to me ¿
@@beanhead7632 I can relate to you. I ever dropped out of uni two years ago because of it
Yes thx for bringing this to light. i had SM growing up. very little is known about it... maybe i should add a video on my story along with anxiety... wow... when i was a kid it was unheard of but bit by bit its coming to light... wow...
one of my biggest pet peeves as a quiet person is whenever I'm talking and someone didnt hear me so they ask "what did she say?" To someone else when I'm right there. It makes you feel invisible
You deserve respect. same things happen to me, but I'm nervous and talk too fast, and I don't mind them asking ME "what did you say" because it's not their fault, but they don't ask me, they give a weird look and ask each other. Look, I was the one that was talking, so I know what I said, why can't you just ask me? Smh why do people even do that
People aren't perfect, and can make simple mistakes like that all the time. Maybe they aren't used to you or maybe they don't want to make you repeat yourself. It is important to take the time to understand why they do these things and not just judge them.
@@waluigi3515 but, it hurts our feelings when theh say that.
yeah.. like when you're presenting infront of the class and you're trying your best and someone say "Speak louder!"... and everyone starts laughing
We R The Youth I just wanna cry every time this happenssssss
I see myself in him as a child. Never thought there's such a thing. Thanks!
I don’t have a social phobia, but I have a stutter. Meeting new people can be terrifying. It’s hard to Get the words “hi” or “hello” out of your mouth. So your just left there being stared at. It doesn’t exactly boost your confidence.
screaming and cheering when someone with extreme social anxiety finally talks is not it lol
*Edit:* ok I honestly don’t know what the hell I was talking about and I obviously have no experience at all with professional psychology. SO I just wanted to make it clear that it was just a statement and there’s no facts at all behind that statement because, you know, it’s a CZcams comment and you don’t exactly go to a CZcams comment section to look for facts for a school project or whatever, just to make it unnecessary clear🌚🌝 Okay that was all I’ll shut up
Yeah right. It makes make feel abnormal and different like the same response isn't given to anyone else. Its just like being the centre of attraction. Its crazy or maybe I'm crazy...
It really isn't
For u maybe, but it clearly helped them. It’s different with children.
@milk That’s what I was thinking! I don’t like talking and I’m the type of person who can go the whole school year without talking. Whenever I talk, people be like, “Wow! You can talk?” “That’s the loudest you’ve ever talked!” And that’s really annoying; it just makes me not want to talk more.
Yeah they should have acted like it was normal and carry on, I was a quiet kid I was in dance high school and I reminder when I finally wanted to say somthing in a group and the teacher literally was like every one quite quite she about to speak for first time in blue moon and whole class got quiet look to me I played off by little chuckle said what I said but didn’t say a word after that lol but not as Shy anymore.
my voice is really quiet so when the teacher asked me something I would answer and she would be like “speak up please” and everyone would look at me it’s so awkward 😬
Ikr it just makes everything worse.
Same my voice is deep and quiet so it just makes it worse😐
mxlanie the speak up dumbass
Same with me... and then theres those times when they still can't hear you and it's a cycle of "sorry, what was that?" "I cant hear you, say it again" " I still can't hear you!"
Maybe speak louder then
I had this little boy in my 1st grad class that would not talk. I really felt bad for him because the teacher would always yell at him, pushed him around (physically) until he cried. So I quickly made friends with him and one day I was walking somewhere and I saw him he still was quiet but he was smiling. His mom said he only talks to her. I wish I could see him but I left queens and the P.S 21 school.
it makes me so happy to read through these comments and feel like they mirror EXACTLY how I feel. I don't have selective mutism but definitely social anxiety. My parents told me I didn't once which fucked with me for a long time and made me ask myself if I was an introvert or if I was just shy, but I'm not. I want to talk to people but sometimes I just can't get the courage to. Walking up to people is probably the hardest thing for me to do whether I actually know the person or not and it all has to do with feeling like I have to have something important or relevant to say. In reality I probably don't need to but I can't convince myself of it.
There's only been one person who's shown me I don't need a reason to approach them, I just can and it'd be ok. I pushed them away for a while because I felt like they were just being nice and didn't actually care to talk to me but every time I'd see them and I felt like talking, I'd try to go up to them and was met with a very welcoming atmosphere and this 'act' never fell. Since then we see each other a lot less due to schedules and I've realized that just because they're welcoming does not mean they care because I can often say something loud and clear and they won't notice whatsoever and they don't actually try to talk to me much anymore.
But by sheer luck I have another group of friends that I'm trying to overcome this stuff with. It's not perfect and my brain still tells me they don't care, but they've told me they do and every attempt I make to talk to them is met with some form of conversation. I like to just jump into conversations they're having when I hear something I can add on to, but I'm hoping I can gather the confidence to approach them more (which may be harder because I have a crush on one of them, lol).
**has social anxiety**
the therapist: mAkE eM tAlk iN frOnT oF eVeRyOne bY foRcE
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Forreal I have social anxiety and my teacher one time tried to have me read in front of the class I ended up fainting and not talking for two weeks because of that also had to do intense therapy 😔
It's exposure-response therapy, it's a legitimate strategy for getting over phobias of any kind. Can't get over your fears without confronting them and the idea here is that you're confronting the fear in a controlled environment that actively encourages your progress.
Weifs literally everyone knows that... this comment was a sarcasm🤦♀️
"Did you try exercising?"
they need something like this for teens, like 12-19 so they can get over social anxiety because oh my god I would sign up so quick, I'm sick and tired of almost passing out because of fear every time I have to talk to somebody new
Taylormine ! You probably don’t. I’m 15, most of kids our generation believe that feeling a little anxious or a little sad makes them “special” and that they have some sort of Anxiety or Depression. No, we are all naturally a little anxious, some more than others, and we all feel a little sad and anxious.
@@user-wx1oy6zn7u i have been diagnosed with anxiety, I take medication for it daily, I had therapy for a long time, and i had to move schools because of it. Yes, I do have it.
Taylormine ! I mean you can’t really blame them, every teen has “social anxiety” these days.
@@potatosalad3097 thats true, but don't tell someone they don't when you have never talked to them. If someone was asking for help to know if they had it, sure, there argument is vry valid, but when I am talking about my everyday struggles with social anxitey I don't want to hear someone say "you don't have it." I get told that often even though I do and its aggravating. But if they said that to someone who doesn't know if they have it, rly valid!!!!
L you do realize that people are diagnosed though right? and anxiety and depression getting treated can prevent bad things happening because it’s the root of some problems for some situations that happen in school.
I used to be like this when I was younger, it’s nice seeing other people release that such problems exist and helping people with them.
It made me happy to see them talking. Getting these kids attention at at young age will be incredibly beneficial to their success in the future
These kids are so lucky that they got helped
I am 17 years old and I still have severe social anxiety
well great news you will be an adult either you are already or you will be very soon and then you can gain the MANLY or WOMANLY courage like the rest of humanity to stop being anxious all the damn time good for you :)!
@@gooeydewys5151 Nope, doesn't stop just because you become an adult. (:
Mood :((
I’m 13 and have severe social anxiety too, I just wish I never had it, with school and any social stuff normal kid would do I can’t
@@mumumumey dang bro good luck on your freshman year of highschool mine was bad
I never really talk in school that theres always someone who says "i didn't even notice she was here because she never talks"
Jeon kookie yeah same it makes me feel bad :/
Same ;-;
Same-
those people are so annoying i just want to beat them up
They’re so rude tbh. I have to deal with them all the time and it just makes me want to talk less and less every time someone says it. Just because I don’t talk that much doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings. If they didn’t exclude me like an outcast then maybe I would talk to them.
As a former "shy kid" this is the worst possible attempt at a 'cure'
Agree it would have traumatised me for life
What did you do to burst out of your "shy" bubble..cause I too was a shy kid but I made it a goal to talk to atleast one new person everyday
I have social anxiety too, but it's not even that extreme. I hate people and whenever I get bullied, I tried to talk to every adult from school, but they were not helpful. I've had extreme trust issues and suicidal thought since I was 13. And sadly, I understand those kids. I just want to help them.
The worst is when my parents don't even try to understand what I am going through.
Shorter than short its a bit hard for people to understand, because for regular people, its so incredibly easy to be social.
I am sorry. Things WILL get better. Don't give up.
Zulul Scout teach me plzzzzzz
Shorter than short BOIIIII EXACTLY
Shorter than short My mom is really mean to me about it and dosent understand an she’s thinks I’m joking around and she will tell me stop. It’s like people think we choose to be like this.
If I was in a classroom with a bunch of other socially awkward kids, that would be the dream since we understand eachother😊
Everyone would start communicating in telepathy I reckon.
@@caitm8209 Exactly
My best friend and I connected on having social anxiety
Ella Valere the same thing with my friend and I
That would be really awkward for me
When till the end of high school I used to only talk to people I trusted, when I even had the thought of talking to someone else, I just started shaking and took every opportunity to leave.
All of this ruined a part my life. Seeing these kids make even the slightest step, brought me to tears.
this isn’t a very good way of “curing” social anxiety
sometimes exposure therapy can make things worse.
"He doesn't speak for an entire school year"
Is that me?
SAMEEEEE
I’m an ambivert, ( a mix of a introvert and extrovert ), so I can at the same time feel your pain and not.
@@otterlilyx I am as well. Before I used to be straight introverted.
I didn’t speak to anyone until 6th or 7th grade...
I'm severely introverted 🥺
i talked to my mom about my social anxiety yesterday and she told me to “get over it” and suddenly everything fixed itself🤪🤩🥳
Omg same !!! One day I was having crying panic attacks at school and then my mom told me that and I haven’t had one since ✨✨✨✨
I cant tell if these comments are sarcasm or not
@@Galaxykittycat33 it's sarcastic.
@@Galaxykittycat33 I cAn'T eItHeR
Elibeeli
One of my classmates actually never spoke to anyone besides her close friends and when she talks, she would speak very softly but she’s getting better now
Let her know how her getting better is a positive thing to you and how it makes others feel I'm sure she'll appreciate it!
Damn it, I always get emotional at this video. I feel like I'm watching myself as a kid. Even down to the body language and facial expressions, I was literally just like them and it's bittersweet watching a report about them working on their anxiety.
I feel sad watching this...when I was in school I NEVER talked I had NO friends and couldn’t hold a conversation because I was too scared. But then I met Addie, a girl who was kind and was easy to talk too. She didn’t mind that I was quiet. Now, thanks to her I everywhere and I’m not even afraid too! I’m pretty talkative and can hold conversations easily. Addie if you reading this, thanks for always being there!
i need someone like Addie :(
@@diyanahaqilah same
Your welcome calisa :)
Diyanah Aqilah everyone does
We are all proud of you ❤️
I know this is an old clip, but I really don't think they should've put in the footage of the little girl having an accident. They didn't have to show it. It's humiliating enough to happen in front of people, but then have it filmed, too? Jesus. They could've just said it happened, but cut away. Poor kid.
I know. Fuckers
The kid must have watched it too
Lisa S shit. I used to have accidents in school and was bullied for it. I hope no one saw this and knows her and has made fun of her for it.
i know!! for how much ABC claims to care about cyber bullying they seem to do it alot themselves, and to a child no less!!
Lisa S yes I agree, I feel so bad for her.
I don't have that extream but I'm really shy girl I can talk to my classmates ...but the real problem is that when I go in front of my class to explain anything my brain stops working and I just stand like statue "it's very embarrassing moment" after preparing myself and practicing..even I can't answer the question my teacher ask me even when I know answer and he/she stops questioning me because he/she know that I will not going to answer them... I also have really big fear of crowd...I can't walk on street alone because Im fear of strangers and I start to behave like fool ""embarrassinggg really really embarrassing ""
Same problem, can you contact with me , contact number on my profile
I have always been a shy child, just talking to people would make me cry. Now I am 26. I feel for these children because this was me when I was a little girl.