My Baby Doesn't Sleep Ive Tried It All

Sleep deprived and baby boy of a former athlete. Why did he never seem to sleep like other babies. For all the mumma and pappas out their who need to hear this, they will sleep, and it will just be when they are ready.
This was a video for my channel, ‪@thismummaworks293‬ but in honestly I can't find log in . So its going up on here. Just a little shout out to support those who need to hear this.

[@emmawhite5993]

So lovely to hear your story ❤
My son was born in March 2022 and for the first 4 months he woke every 2-3 hours during the night (which is about average I think!). He would only sleep for 15 minutes during the day unless he was attached to the boob. I couldn’t do ANYTHING all day.
Then from 4 months old he woke up EVERY SINGLE HOUR ON THE HOUR, every single night! 😭
And once it reached 4am he would wake up every 20-30 minutes 🤪
I tried everything and nothing worked until he learnt to sleep at age 1 🥲
It feels like it’s never going to end 🤪
Sending you love ❤
Wish I’d stumbled across your video when I was in the middle of it!

[@cakemebysurprise]

Hi Emma, it just isnt talked about enough. All "experts" do is try to sell ways to us how to fix it, when there are babies who just dont sleep, no matter what. Its just their nature. I am so happy that at the 1 year mark it is better for you. You made it through the first year, but i know it must have taken its toll, and even now you will probably need some healing! I know that it took me a long time after to feel settled, and have horrendous anxiety and panic attacks now. Sending my love ❤️

[@emmawhite5993]

@@cakemebysurprise Thank you so much for the reply! Yes that’s exactly it! The loss of all that sleep for so long, definitely still makes me anxious about getting no sleep to this day! So much so, that I’m always nagging his Dad at the weekends that we can’t go anywhere at certain times because if he doesn’t nap properly during the day, then he sleeps absolutely rubbish at night!
I still sometimes feel so alone because of incorrect family ‘advice’ and then I’m judged for being so stringent on his nap schedule and I’m told he doesn’t need to nap anymore when he DOES (else low and behold I’m the one that has to suffer and go to work on no sleep!😡 …I’ve really got to learn to ignore it!)
And yes it does need to be talked about more. I had a few conversations with health visitors thinking they would miraculously help me (how stupid that was! 😂)- One day I phoned them because I was DESPERATE at that point where for 3 months solid, I’d had a total of about 2 hours sleep a night broken up into 20-30 minute intervals. This was at the point when he was 7 months old and all the health visitor told me to do was feed him FIVE solid meals a day. Which was ridiculous because I could barely get him to eat 3 meals (he always had loads of breast milk and formula, plus small amounts of solids so I knew hunger wasn’t the issue)
It just felt like the whole system was such a joke and I was so alone. Another HV told me to try getting his Dad to put him to bed. But that resulted in me getting EVEN LESS sleep across the night because he was upset I was ‘gone’
So I never bothered addressing it with HVs again and just accepted I was alone.
At my most desperate point I tried controlled crying which I was totally against! He slept for 7 hours for 2 nights and then it was back to waking every hour again. Before that I bought a book called ‘The baby sleep solution’ which focuses on gentle sleep training. That worked for 2 nights too where I got 6/7 hours sleep and day naps longer than 15 minutes. But then it was back to waking every hour (or less)
It was relentless. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. It was like torture 🙈
But I survived and it’s made me stronger 💪(And weaker at the same time 😂)
I always wanted to be a Mum but it’s not for the faint-hearted! 😂
Lots of love xx

[@cakemebysurprise]

Your story is literally my story ❤ from the relentless no sleeping, to HV just telling me, thats whats breastfed babies do. I called the Crysis hotline in tears once and they sais put him in his own room, to leaving him to cry it out, and he wailed for 45 minutes. It was just awful and how can a child understand that. Yes, we got through it but i think alot of happy times were missed through the trauma of it all.
Definitely stick to whats best for you. You need to do what is right for you in order to function through the day. Its very easy for people to have an opinion when they havent experienced anything like it. Xxx