Addressing social anxiety and people pleasing | The Dr. Cloud Show - Episode 157
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- čas přidán 6. 05. 2021
- In this highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show, Breanne is trying to get rid of her social anxiety. As a way to evade her social fears she becomes a people pleaser. Dr. Cloud talks to her about the unique role a good group plays in addressing and working through life’s existential issues.
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Thank You sweet BreAna. Your truth is helping me at 74 to face my trauma and get help today!
I have social anxiety. It effects my life everyday. If someone needs
someone to talk to I'm here!
Wow! Dr. Cloud, you're such a loving, kind, and compassionate counselor.
God bless you.
They way I cried during this convo😭…I been asking God for direction on why I do the things that I do and he led me to this video..im so grateful for your wisdom Dr cloud and Breanna for your transparency..God is so wonderful 🙌🏽
Group therapy works. I realized I had become estranged from society 10 years ago when I was divorced. I started attending a divorce support group about a month ago and such weight has been lifted and I truly feel I belong. It’s had an extraordinary effect and impact on my life and my life as a mother, daughter, friend and community member. I was an extrovert who holed up in shame and I’m so grateful to Dr. Cloud encouraging is to join and experience for ourselves the healing power of being in a safe support group. God bless and keep you all.
I've been through alot of trauma in childhood and yes I went through the same exact thing! I got connected to the wrong church for a few years. 5 years counseling, AA meetings and now right church and man I've seen SO much healing! God bless you sweet girl💓
I only once in awhile feel like something isn't my fault. I have recognized this and I try to tell myself in the moments "It's ridiculous to think like a ,b, or c is my fault"
when I can clearly see I didnt do anything to cause the problem. But it's very hard to get it through my head. It's an automatic reaction for me to ask myself if I caused what happened. It makes my days dreadful. 😔
I know what Bre is talking of.
I know that fear. That stuck. I know the nightmares. I remember the anxiety physical pain for the years after the trauma.
I know the awkwardness in social settings and in relationship
I know what it is to set in groups and my fear. I know what its like to here the experience of a group member tell thier experience that would trigger my own untold story and find I wasnt alone.
I know what it's like to find the love and courage in God, in people and myself, to do what I need to do today..
Thank you Mr Henry Cloud for being a sojourner with me in this♡
With best wishes to you on your journey to healing!
I also loved it that Dr. Cloud inserted the concept of being a sojourner as part of this vid.
So comforting, hopeful, and supportive, while being part of and having the opportunity to listen and learn through the doc's video series along with the shares of others, who also participate in this community. 🙏👍
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. Just by sharing this you are helping others. Dr. Cloud’s responses will help so many. Thank you both.
Bless you Breanna!
Love you! Thank you for all your free support 😃
She was just sitting there watching Arthur, she did absolutely nothing wrong.
no child ever does anything wrong that would "deserve" physical violence done to them. That isn't what he was asking. I think he wanted to know what events led up to the physical abuse. Was there an argument, was he drinking, etc. But if she was watching TV she doesn't know what was going on with him or what might have caused it.
This was great to listen to! Honestly it is my spouse that has all these issues but refuses to get help.. i listen to as much of this as I can though because I want to understand it from his side as much as possible and also try to learn how to help him and not enable him… hearing both sides (dr and patient) like this has been very helpful… praying for healing for all those that suffer this way ❤
🎉 Oh! Bri!!! I wish I could hug you!!! God is so blessing me through you!!! I wAnt to join the webinar !!!
So good. So anxious right now.
Dr. Cloud.... you mentioned 'trauma informed counseling'. Do you have a list of counselors who specialize in this?
Being social - "being a stitch," as Mr. Expert Dr. Cloud says - does not AT ALL preclude social anxiety. Are you kidding me?! I am extremely social, a "social butterfly," if you will, the class clown, even. My anxiety is through the roof. How in the world is "being social" any proof at all that a person has no anxiety? This is ridiculously misinformed and gaslighting, which almost cancels out the surprising gentleness (which is rare coming from you, but now I know you can do it, Dr. Cloud!) Clearly, I haven't found my tribe yet - not for lack of trying. It hurts a lot to hear people talk about "finding a tribe" as if you can just go out and DO it. I've been trying for decades.
By comparing her outgoing social skills with her anxiety, Dr. Cloud let her see that her anxiety was related to something deep in the back ground of her whole life-PTSD from being abused. He can’t just tell people, he guides them in connecting the dots with him
Perfect advice for me 💫💥
She doesn't sound anxious to me, she has all these people in Australia listening, well one person me, Feb 2024, proves we can overcome, I have social anxiety too, all my life, probably why I have no new friends or partner etc. just lost my ragdollcat, he had to go, was pooing on carpet in front of people's front doors in an art deco apartment, not as posh as many in this area, Elizabeth Bay, you may have heard of Kings Cross, red light district in Sydney, come visit, I don't know if USA has art deco, I will google! Yes of course Empire State, in New York! Sorry I do relate, I shake too!
I knew it!
Yes!
Lol good one dr cloud ☁️
I tuned out after a minute, this dude was giving me social anxiety
I wonder how members access the anxiety seminar???
Hey, can you speak about your view on why bad people exist? and why bad things happen to good people?
Sometimes they are created by the environment they survive. God says says In the Bible The rain falls on the just and the unjust - jobs "friends" sat there with him debating over him did he sin somewhere ? ,,,which job is like. Hey ( in my own words ) He still knew His God and His God is for him. Romans 8:28. ❤plz look. It up. I want to say also it's alright to question, that's where we search for answers. Psalm 34 :7 is what came to my mind. - love you child of God.
Let her talk yes I’m not a fan either of that , Lordy I have anxiety from watching this. Sorry but I do
I don’t like that he interrupts so much and adds sarcasm. As a woman I’m not a fan.