Run with endurance: my coming out story.
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- This is my story: what I have learned, and how I believe it can help the church.
If you need connected to resources in your area or need someone to talk to, please do not hesitate to contact me: nirrepis@gmail.com, or find a forum at the Gay Christian Network website.
Songs used:
Needtobreathe. "Spare the Time" from "The Heat". Copyright 2007, Atlantic Records.
Twenty One Pilots. "Addict With a Pen" from "Twenty One Pilots". Copyright 2009, Tyler Joseph.
Sigur Rós. "Glosoli" from "Takk." Copyright 2005, Sigur Ros.
Gungor. "Beautiful Things" from "Beautiful Things". Copyright 2009, worshiptogether.com songs.
There are so many other people to thank, including but not limited to: Tyler S, Alan C, Miranda F, Catie F, Schuyler K, Nathan O.
Thank you Perrin! couldn't agree more! Your story just resonates inside me, like my story... You are very intelligent and God has really made some work in you. This video is a huge blessing.
So so proud of you Perrin! It's people like you who will humanize what it means to be gay so that others will understand. May you continue to grow in your journey.
Perrin, I just came across your video, watched it and went onto your FB page. You are clearly a kind, gentle and beautiful soul. I'm sure your story has helped others and that's the point of these coming out videos. Hopefully you've also found someone to share your life..
thanks for this beautiful testimony, as you said sharing this is helping a lot of people, me included
I wouldn't qualify myself as a standard christian but I definitely believe in God and had a traditional upbringing. At 1st I was just pretending to be straight but being untrue to myself was quite depressing. Since "praying the gay away" never ended up working and that I was taught that gay and religion didn't mix I slowly lost my relationship with God knowing that I will never be living a life worthy of His standards (according to the idea of religion and God that were given to me through my life).
I recently started to realize that I was allowed to enjoy life and that I deserved to be happy just just like everyone else. After so many years of "self-issues" I'm just starting to love myself an be happy (I'm 24). For now I'm single, and I'm loving it (I'm kind of a loner...). I know that eventually I'd love to have someone by my side and with whom I'll be able to build a life with.
Who knows if/when I'll meet him? I don't but at least I'm slowly building up my relationship with God after having let him completely out because I was taught that people like me "broke his heart".
Anyways great vid thanks for sharing your experience.
The Episcopal Church now has gay marriage. This past Valentine's Day, Saturday, 14 February 2015, my mom and I attended the wedding of her Episcopal priest to his partner with an Episcopal bishop's officiating over the wedding. It was lovely ceremony, and the congregation turned out en masse to show its support and love for them.
Perrin, wow! If I had to make a coming out video, it would sound 99.9% like yours. You are, by far, the only person I have listened to, since coming out four years ago, who have said exactly what I would say. Amazing! Very well thought out and delivered. Thank you for sharing, what a blessing!
Brad, I'm so glad you feel that way!
I came out to my family when I was 22; today 17 years later I have the same boyfriend as I did back then. I don't often see these videos on CZcams, but yours made an impression and as Brad Oxford said: "You have said it exactly as I would have said it". Thank you. Best wishes for you and your future happiness.
+jespermehlsen That's great to hear! I wish you and your boyfriend all the best.
PERRIN -- Very articulate, clear, honest and interesting. You have excellent communication skills -- and thinking skills as well. -- Donald in Great Britain
Very well done here, this is very detailed and analytical, and I am putting it on my "Coming Out As Gay" CZcams Playlist. It should benefit gay Christians in particular. ... Oh, and chastity never works for anyone!
You are the man!!! I am proud of your openness and hope that this video helps support tons of people!
Wow, what an insightful, intelligent, well spoken man you are. You give a good message and should be shared. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your perspective and honesty. Thanking you for being a true Christian. May God continue to bless your journey.
wow so touched by your courage...you have articulated what it means to be a believer in Christ and gay with a clarity that I see as inspired....I was outed a few years ago and was forced to start a journey that I was trying to hide from...God was gracious and has used what was intended for evil to his glory though...your video certainly has encouraged me.
This video is so spot on and very representative of my thoughts and views. I am 48 years old and have just now come to grips with who I am!
Perrin, thank you for this. You certainly did your homework and research for this video. I began teaching young people before you were born and began counseling before you were born. My entire adult life has been working with youth. I have a Master's degree in the Humanities with a specialty in theology and psychology. I am certified for teaching in science. None of that means anything without a prayer life, in my opinion. I am a follower of Jesus but not of organized religion. You said everything very well here. I just need to add my own witness from my studies, my interaction with youth over many decades and my love of Jesus. I am convinced that homosexual orientation has no more to do with morality or choice than being born left-handed does. It is all simply a matter of genetics. At one time in the educational system, teachers were charged with the task of 'reparative therapy' for those students with the 'condition' of being left-handed and to make them 'normal' and re-train them to be right-handed. My point, Perrin, is that even in the 21st century some in the human species are still amazingly uninformed. At some point in the future, mankind will look back at this time period and be dumbfounded that humanity could have been so ignorant as to not recognize that homosexuality and heterosexuality are simply two different sexual orientations, one not better or worse than the other, simply different forms. Thank you, Perrin, for your thoroughness and generous tolerance in this video.
This has been the best coming out story I've seen on CZcams. Thank you for presenting your story so well.
I have to say kudos to you for maintaining a relationship with your church. I have not done as you did and pretty much left the church, however, my relationship with God is stronger than ever. Being gay and a Christian during my teens was at first a confusing time filled with self-doubt, condemnation, self-hate, shame, and guilt. I desperately wanted to not be gay, but I realized after I left the church and from what I feel from God is that he made me the way I am and there's nothing wrong with me. Once I truly accepted this, I never had a doubt since. I can't tell you how freeing that is. I just wish I could find a church home that taught a similar doctrine that my Pentecostal church followed, but that doesn't exist in my area. However, I wouldn't trade those years in the church for anything. Despite my turmoil over being gay, it was the best years of my life.
God IS with you friend! Never doubt that....I am a Gay Christian who has been through Ex gay ministries and I came out the other end knowing GOd Loves me, it is so tragic when close Christian friends reject us due to their "obligation" to condemn us because for some weird reason their want to judge instead of show Agape Love is stronger than supporting their friends God go with you in your walk and may He use your Life to reach out to the hundreds of gay Christ believing folk who REALLY know what it means to cling to the Lord
Dang Dude, that was Awesome! I had a hard time coming out to myself. I really liked the fact that you covered about not trying to recruit others, have promiscuous sex, etc. That best describes me too. I am not religious myself but have my beliefs and high morals. You're really a great inspiration for everyone especially others into religion.
Now that is a coming out video, good job! I subscribed. I could relate to many things you have said. I realized when I made my coming out video that I should be so lucky to have so many supportive people around me. I'll stay tuned to your channel!
Thanks so much for sharing! You hit so many points that I have been thinking about too. Can't wait to share this vid with my friends so they can better understand what I've been going through. :)
Excellent! Proud of you. Great vid.
Thank you for this video, it's amazing!
I just found this video. As a Christian, I can identify with everything you said. 2014 was a very difficult year for me. I experienced the worst depression of my life and during this time a friend who knew of my struggle and was trying to encourage me, took her own life. I nearly followed her 13 days later. Coming out of that has made me reevaluate my life and decide that it's time to take control of my life and stop living it for everyone else. For too long I have denied myself for the sake of protecting everyone else's feelings. I understand that just as it has taken time to accept myself, I have to allow those I love and who love me time to come to terms with that as well. In the end, I am responsible for being true to myself, the way God created me, and not responsible for how others react to the news. BTW I am 49 years old and feel as though I have never had a life. I have come out to some friends and family over the course of the past year, but not to those closest to me. I will be 50 in January of 2016 and have decided to fully do so before my birthday. The years I have left will be lived authentically. Thank you for sharing your story. Best wishes!
+Tim Watkins She was being supportive to you of your depression but days later she took hers? Why?
+Allen She lefta note for her 17 year old daughter, but no one knows what it said. When I heard the news, it was as if someone had taken a bat and knocked the wind out of me. I didn't know she was struggling with the same thing I was. This was totally out of character for her. She's the last person I would ever have thought would do something like that. I miss her so much.
Perrin - I really appreciate your honesty! I am also a gay Christian, and it's definitely not an easy road. I know you said you read the Justin Lee and Matt Vines books. I'm curious if you have read Wesley Hill's Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality, or The Plausibility Problem: The Church and Same-Sex Attraction by Ed Shaw - both men are gay Christians who argue for celibacy for gay Christians, and discuss ways the Church needs to step up to help gay Christians have their intimacy needs met while remaining celibate.
Very well said, Jesus knows our hearts , he died for our sins no matter what they are and I think if you try to be the best person you can be in this life and help others and dont judge others. I am in the same boat as you and I stuggle with all the same things. If the worst thing is loving another person I dont think thats so bad.
God loves you because he's a good father! :)
i truly do wish you the best. i had to let it go. i realized that it did not make sense for me to continue to seek after a system that did not support me when there are those that do.
very nice thoughts and your story is so touching,why aren't there more videos recently?
Thank you so much for your story, which mirrors my own, except that I took 63 years to come out. I am now happier than I have ever been with a partner. You are fortunate having a family who can accept you being gay. Mnay do not.
Great vid mate, I don't believe adults should be single, that's not normal, if your gay or straight, people need a partner to share life with, it takes 2 as the song says, best wishes, go and enjoy life dude, best regards from blighty ( UK)
I hope you make more videos, I watched your SOS vid from 8 yrs ago and the Nelly song and thought both were Great. Where are you from bud ?
I almost feel sorry that you are caught up in that whirlwind of what a Christian should be and you needing that to be yourself. I only hope that by now, 2018, you have come to better terms with accepting yourself as you are.
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I want you to know that I have down syndrome and that is my disability and this video is really good because you mentioned about mental health and your video and when you made this video it Chyna got me thinking about that nobody knows what is normal what is abnormal so sexuality is normal what should I be any different From anything else when it shouldn’t be any different from anything else at all
And I want you to know that you’re not just that I also want you to know that this video is inspiring enough for me to tell you that it is normal to ask questions about sexuality and if you make a video about that and use the comment you all know that I fully agree with you God does not hate you for it being who you are or anyone for that matter does God hate me for having down syndrome know it’s just his plan for me to have Down syndrome just like God has a plan for you to be gay so what is normal why can’t people understand that even in the church
Nice coming out story man. I love seeing other people's coming out stories. You should definitely check out my coming out video on my channel!
I slightly resent the implication that Christians are spokespeople for morality. Please know that non-Christians and Atheists can be honest, moral, ethical people. Why would any gay person choose to subscribe to oppressive Christmas dogma? Sin is so overrated.
+John C I completely agree with you. People don't need to adhere to Christian doctrine to be amazing, moral people.
+Perrin Robinson So true. And Jesus had this much to say about homosexuality - ZIP
+John C I had the same thought everytime I hear gay and Christian.
Fun fact: Jesus did mention Born Eunuchs- LGBT people in a positive light
3:31
1:08 What it means to be gay
Perrin, really enjoyed your video, well said. I would like to follow your instagram and was wondering if I sent you a follow request would you accept that? Please let me know.
yes of course
Thanks Perrin, I will send the follow request now.
Honest vid but you Christians have to get a grip. Such a beautiful teaching of love but it seems 99% of you don’t practice.