The final decision: to freeze or not to freeze? | Should I freeze my eggs?

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  • čas přidán 23. 09. 2018
  • Filmmaker and reporter Nicole Ellis visits a psychologist who specializes in fertility counseling to help her make a tough decision. She also leans on her best friend and family to help her navigate the difficult next steps in her family planning journey. Subscribe to The Washington Post on CZcams: bit.ly/2qiJ4dy
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Komentáře • 52

  • @madelineschuttauf681
    @madelineschuttauf681 Před 4 lety +36

    This series was wonderfully done and I’m so happy this wonderful journalist put this together. This is not talked about enough

  • @adrianaquin
    @adrianaquin Před 3 lety +12

    This series was such a blessing to me! So insightful and heartwarming. God bless you Nicole!

  • @mariannefalzon5809
    @mariannefalzon5809 Před rokem +6

    I know it has been 4 years but thank you for doing this series. I would love to know if you ended up going ahead with the egg freezing?

  • @JH-rm9cr
    @JH-rm9cr Před 5 lety +18

    Thanks for sharing your journey, whatever you decide to do you have a beautiful family that will support you no matter what and thank you for opening up a conversation that I had no idea I cared so much about

  • @mckenziehagenbuch2848
    @mckenziehagenbuch2848 Před 3 lety +6

    The village stands behind you!! This was terribly empowering as someone watching this video who may need to make the same decision as you 5 years down the road. Thank you for sharing yourself in this special collection!❤️

  • @TiktokTita
    @TiktokTita Před 5 lety +17

    Thanks for sharing your journey, it's an important one that a lot women cab learn from.

  • @beautyintheeats
    @beautyintheeats Před 5 lety +12

    Absolutely beautiful and informative series...

  • @prasidam9845
    @prasidam9845 Před 16 dny

    This documentary is so empowering and wholesome. Thank you for this much needed information.

  • @thesudesh1234
    @thesudesh1234 Před 3 lety +6

    after watching this entire series i am so great full to be part of this journey but what i see is money is the only problem.

  • @humblegoddess
    @humblegoddess Před 3 lety +2

    Beautiful series. All the best on your journey Nicole

  • @kel6357
    @kel6357 Před rokem

    This is AMAZING!!!!! This conversation needs to be talked about more. Honestly. Superbly done.

  • @anikaventura
    @anikaventura Před 7 měsíci

    Beautiful series. Appreciate Nicole for her bravery to share this.

  • @shreshtakota9031
    @shreshtakota9031 Před 4 měsíci

    super helpful, thank you for educating young women like me

  • @francesmagro5468
    @francesmagro5468 Před 5 lety +7

    I've been in therapy for 20 years. Lost my medicaid last year so I can no longer afford to go, plus I'm off my medication. I just pray now & I'm hanging in though I really can't wait for the next reality. I hope this girl freezes her eggs if she is certain she wants children some day. For me motherhood was the most sacred experience in my life.

  • @erikunixarias
    @erikunixarias Před 5 lety +13

    Adoption can be another choice.

    • @resilience4lyfe331
      @resilience4lyfe331 Před 5 lety +12

      erikunixarias why do people think adoption has anything to do with having a baby? It’s two totally separate things in my heart & mind.. That comment really is insensitive

    • @GearZNet
      @GearZNet Před 5 lety

      Charla Gotier Maybe she shouldn’t reproduce.

    • @cay820
      @cay820 Před 4 lety

      Charla Gotier or spend a fortune having babies or paying a surrogate or having failed pregnancies. Adoption is still a worthwhile choice.

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 Před 2 lety +2

    she should have interviewed a single mom who is renting to get an idea of if she could handle it.

  • @vagabond5510
    @vagabond5510 Před rokem

    Incredible, I was crying almost all the time. There is another option - to choose different country with lower prices for egg freezing, I just don’t get why nobody think about so called medical tourism. While it is much more affordable procedure in my country, I’m still hesitating on what to do, because hormones affect fibroids which I have and I’m 35+ to do this

    • @Uber1937
      @Uber1937 Před rokem

      Supongo, entre otras dudas, porque no puedes saber cuál será la legislación del país cuando decidas "ponerte" los óvulos.

    • @SG-xb7de
      @SG-xb7de Před 4 měsíci

      I'm 39yrs turning 40 in another 7-8 months. I haven't even met the right one & don't know when I will. Not willing to settle for less just for the ticking clock. Really contemplating the risks of getting my eggs frozen now vs going natural. By God's grace, I have healthy menstrual cycle & lifestyle. On one side, I do desperately want to have a legacy for my genes, on the other hand I don't want to risk my health by freezing eggs, which at this age may or may not have success either. Should I just trust in God & be positive if God blesses me with babies naturally? If not, I'll adopt. My PCP will be referring me to the fertility clinic tomorrow. I'm leaning towards not getting my eggs frozen. Any advice?

    • @vagabond5510
      @vagabond5510 Před 4 měsíci

      @@SG-xb7dewell it’s not generally recommended to do egg freezing later than 37, instead you can freeze embryos. But for this you need a donor’s sperm. If you really ready to be single mom by choice than go on, and for this you may use different option of assisted reproductive technologies like insemination, it doesn’t require hormonal stimulation.

  • @el5406
    @el5406 Před 5 lety +2

    Some woman go to Spain to freeze their eggs.

    • @resilience4lyfe331
      @resilience4lyfe331 Před 5 lety

      e l and some wealthy also do a lot of things! Lmao like going to Central America or Mexico for paid surrogate rent-a-womb services....

    • @el5406
      @el5406 Před 5 lety

      Charla Gotier yeah. In Spain it's a lot cheaper. I think I might go to a clinic in Sevilla. But idk if I really want to do that because I'm not sure if I want to have kids.

    • @Uber1937
      @Uber1937 Před rokem

      ​@@el5406 Soy española. Corres un riesgo, porque no sabes la legislación que habrá en el momento que quieras utilizar esos óvulos congelados.

  • @jimindecarlo9356
    @jimindecarlo9356 Před 5 lety +9

    Rich people problem.

  • @vanessat9309
    @vanessat9309 Před 4 lety +1

    Baby cries and obviously wants to nurse. Mom says "I wish you could communicate!"

  • @ToneLouk
    @ToneLouk Před 4 lety +9

    This is an absolute Frankenstein nightmare! Life was never meant to arise out of the cyrogenized depths of a sterile laboratory. Instead of undermining the natural order of the universe, perhaps we should encourage the healthy union of adults in their reproductive prime.

  • @CalledForSuchA7imeAs7his
    @CalledForSuchA7imeAs7his Před 5 lety +3

    Great series. She gave me Ayesha curry vibes

  • @keefn8
    @keefn8 Před 5 lety +11

    Something doesnt add up. She looks like that, has that much wealth, and at 30 is still single and childless? Am I the only one confused by her situation?

    • @resilience4lyfe331
      @resilience4lyfe331 Před 5 lety +9

      keefn8 have you heard of preschool to prison pipeline? You can’t look at one problem with no regard to other problems ... there are communities depleted of (only kids & geriatrics) men, add to that the numerous dating/marrying other than their own community. Etc it’s not her fault! Many Black women are single.

    • @GearZNet
      @GearZNet Před 5 lety +3

      It’s self-imposed

    • @ManyMannyMan
      @ManyMannyMan Před 5 lety +3

      @@resilience4lyfe331 how did I know black men dating outside their community was going to make an appearance somewhere. Have you ever considered WHY black men make that decision, why data shows that black women are the least messaged on dating sites and the women that get married the least?

    • @odetochef
      @odetochef Před 4 lety +5

      @@ManyMannyMan Did YOU feel attacked by Charla's comment?

    • @denisewhite3902
      @denisewhite3902 Před 4 lety +12

      She has wealth? How did you figure that? & you think something is wrong? Newsflash women that are ‘all that’ are usually picky. Why do you think it’s the average/ plain and homely looking women that are usually taken? Or women with no ambition? lol. Women aren’t like men. Even the fattest woman has more options than the average man. So if a woman is single it dosent mean something is wrong with her. It means she’s picky. 😴

  • @lalos3813
    @lalos3813 Před 2 lety +3

    Elephant in the room is why doesn't she get a man? Or develop the traits that high quality men look for in women? Kevin Samuels would help her big time. If she put as much effort in her job as she did in finding a man, she'd already have a kid.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Před rokem +1

      Maybe she doesn’t want one yet? Some don’t know. They just want to save the eggs just incase 😂