Solitude and Self-Realization: Why You Should Spend More Time Alone
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I like your videos but some of your sentences are cut off at the begining.
"For with" so many people in a state of disgarmony in the modern world, ......
Can someone tell me what is the function of "for with" at the beggining of this sentence?.
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Last summer I rode my bike alone across France sleeping by the river or in fields. Best thing I ever did.
Greatly rewarding to embark on a solo bike packing adventure! I did this 2 summers ago, across Rocky Mountain National Park in Colorado, across the desert plains of western Colorado and ended in eastern Utah. Though it was only an 8 day trip, it was quite challenging and worth the mental and physical anguish. Peaceful solitude is a glorious experience.
Brent Hobbs sounds nice but isn’t that kinda dangerous 😭😭😭
Ana !! Sure there is an element of danger that comes along with such a journey, but the potential risk I see as exciting. Of course preparation is vital when deciding to a solo trip like that and for the most part you can set yourself up for a successful journey. I recommend it to anyone that loves riding bikes and enjoys a good challenge
@@Ana-brwn did you just describe LIFE!?
i'd be afraid of ticks.
“Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born.”
― Nikola Tesla
Joseph Go and how many people are inventing when they’re alone...
The devil’s inventions most probably considering god already created everything required. Ideas are dangerous
@@reikaratnam I guess the devil created the phone/computer you're typing from, the car you drive, and the thousands of other inventions you use...
@@reikaratnam I like that way of thinking. We can never improve on God , it always backfires
@Language and Programming Channel you will. Just go with the flow accompanied with deep passion
I suppose that people who find it difficult to stay alone are somewhat too afraid not of loneliness itself, but rather of themselves
Exactly.
Yes. Carl Jung said "People will do anything, no matter how absurd to avoid facing their own souls"
@@vivekamar99 That is a fantastic quote. Thanks for sharing.
@Just a tortured and broken Soul sadly, yes
I see your point, but the courage it takes to be alone by choice is something to scary.
Remember the example about the shell; we are so used to the feeling of safety provided by the company of people who may even hinder our happiness and fulfilment, that we do not want to risk losing it by cracking the shell.
“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” -- Blaise Pascal
I've never heard that auote before. I've often thought the exact same thing though. 🤔🤔
And that was before social media
Nice quote
Agreed
Especially if that "Room" has bars in the window
As a Truck driver who spends 90% of my time alone I have to agree whole heartedly with this message. I used to cling to social media to fight the loneliness but after closing my Facebook and Instagram accounts I feel at peace being out here. No more fake empty relationships even those with so called family members and so called friends. I have to work on myself without being stunted by technology or modernity. I am that I am, at peace.
Feeling alone in the company of others is the worst thing... being by yourself is clearly superior.
You got it man. You got it. But give room and have empathy and understanding for others.
Getting off Facebook was the best decision I'd made in years. Living in a smaller universe makes it easier to fall asleep at night.
@@notbrad4873 I agree. Not to be ignorant and to still critially think and vigilant but to not allow information that you have no control over to affect your psych.
I truly resonate with your comment. Check out Shunyamurti, Sat Yoga Institute and understanding the letting go of the delusional egoic mind. It has a profound impact on your awareness. God bless
“Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living." -Einstein
So true Joseph Go, but it makes life hell for those who may love you and what time with you. My wife is a saint X 38 years. Gratitude.
@@jimboheadspace1788 A lot of people came to the conclusion Einstein's first wife more than contributed to his first release of theories. That is why he gave her all the Nobel Prize money.
loner is a really bad bad term to depict the bliss of your own company for me.
This quote is so on-point
Even though einstein was a POS, this quote is decent
By removing distractions and turning inward, we come to realize that true happiness and power comes from the inside, not from acquisitions and successes.
I totally agree with you.
Unfortunately, we have been taught to attach a lot of importance to relationships and social acceptance, which I think is what you refer to as "distractions".
If only they taught us to value our inner essence...
True. As Carl Jung said "He who looks outside dreams, he who looks within awakens"
Define success. You define attaining happiness and ‘power’ (again, define this) as success and are thus contradicting yourself.
Sevilla21 They won’t because that will raise humanity’s consciousness to a holistic state, which is something that certain forces don’t want us to have. hence the reason why it’s forced that you look and search for everything in the external instead of the internal.
the most fufilling days have spent alone having activities that help me then am more liilely to come intot contact with the right types of people - i have intutively known if for a long time but this video put it into real clarity - certain people will drag you down
Lone walks in nature are some of most beneficial things a soul can do for itself
True true true
Yes indeed.
Totally agree and something I need to thrive as a human. Listening to some really good old school trance touches my soul too in much the same way.
Very true!
A couple years ago I ended a relationship (an engagement actually) with a narcissistic and mentally unwell man. I very soon after realized that many of my friends, co-workers and family members were also no good for me; were keeping me stagnant let's say and were unappreciative or even resentful of me. Since I cut them out of my life or at least limited my contact with them and started spending more time with just myself, I have become so contented. I've actually been more open to engaging with people and I listen to my instincts now, which allows me to avoid negative people from the get go. It's awesome. I love me. And I hope you love you.
Kendra D wow awesome 😎 that’s what it’s all about-sounds so simple, but if you grow up not knowing and not doing that it can be epically difficult. Thanks.🙏🏻❤️
This whole commented resonated with me currently. Every single bit. The relationship, the friendships and even family members. This is where I am right now, exactly as your comment stated. 💜
Kendra D That is SO inspiring! thanks
Kendra. Same here I have been in a few toxic relationship I had a friend I helped
And his trouble became mine the police were involved
Big problems. A few toxic women. That cost me money and
part of my soul
I'm just getting over this I am now on my own. I feel alone at times. But alone and lonely are two seperate things
I would rather be alone than in involved in a toxic relationship
There are many vids on U tube that talk about toxic relationships
Regards cliff australia
@@theworksofstephenmckimmie4972 Stephen families members can be toxic. I have told my sister and husband
I'm not a conduit for there hang ups since I have kept away my life is not as anxious
Family members can sometimes be toxic.
Regards cliff aust.
It depends on how you spend your time alone. Doing sth you wanted to start doing or improving it, meditating or practicing introversion and observation for sure will be benefitial. But going aimlessly through the internet for hours, for consecutive days ('ve done that) is beyond detrimental. In that case, I'd rather spend some time with people who maybe can help me to accomplish some goal,or just hang around.
That's not the type of "alone time" this video is talking about. Most times, people will be in direct or indirect contact with others in internet, for example, with friends in social media or online games. The video talks more about an introspective type of solitude, where there are no distractions, there's only you, being yourself, and reflecting on your character.
Good point.
I spent the entire day with my animals, doing yardwork. This is a typical weekend for me.
I'm a bit of an introvert, and the weekend is my time to recharge.
I only found this video when I sat down on the porch to drink my afternoon coffee.
Ian Corral That’s like, your opinion, man.
that's some truth right there. To benefit from the solitude he's talking about here takes disciplined loneliness, not just porn, cheetoes and video games.
@Ian Corral People do not " know" you. All they can base their view of you on is a mere snapshot of you reacting to a current set of circumstances. They do not have the bigger picture of what it is to be you. They do not know the particular experiences in your life which have led your unconscious mind to react in any way. Most of why we think or behave in a certain way is hidden. Often even to us....
"I am alone, but not lonely"
- Heat 1995
This explains why too much social media makes someone anxious, everyone is spreading their poison.
I find myself caught up in it too. I had to learn how to disconnect from time to time.
Your content is amazing by the way.
For real, too much social media will scramble your brain.
“Beware those who seek constant crowds, for they are nothing alone.”
@@niteip187 because these attention seeking people are always looking for validation, I am and can be quite happy spending time alone, sometimes it's hard to be alone but other times it has a charm to is often forgotten
George Mutambuka fomo and comparing your life to what other people are doing is what happens naturally as you consume social media. it can be very emotionally draining if you aren’t aware of how it’s affecting you and altering your state of mind if say, you see a post of your friends at a party and didn’t invite you or if you’re unhappy w your life and you see others doing all the things you want to do and then jealousy followed by self loathing deepen the depression. One caught in this trap might only feel better by posting something themselves or forcing an activity just for the picture and the dopamine reaction that comes after people notice an awesome picture. It becomes an addiction to attention and especially those w a weak sense of self. It’s def not all bad but if you’re one of the more sensitive or emo types of people you gotta be aware of what things cause you to lower your vibe and either stay away from it altogether or limit your consumption. and then do other things in between that lift you back up. I actually feel sorry for the people that are constantly on certain apps trying to escape an unhappy existence or the self whores hunting 4 validation from people that mean nothing to them in their real every day lives.
@@Geep1778 So true.
@@GeorgeMutambuka I got rid of all my social media and I don't miss it. The only thing left is what I need professionally. I'm starting to treat news the same way.. I've got enough to worry about, I don't need the extra stress.
Did anyone else see this and think “how tf did he know exactly what I needed”😂
Avoidance personality is NOT a disorder! I t's a skill.
Same here!
Synchronicity ?
Mighty Edits
YES! I feel exactly like this with my family. I can’t wait to move out in a few years
He did that a few weeks ago with his piece on the body and how we need to exercise and strengthen our body in order to support a healthy mind. He has the ability to know exactly what you need and then he delivers!
Moved away from everything and everyone a bit over a year ago. Quit smoking and toxic substances like alcohol. Established a workout habit. Thought what hobbies or skills would be interesting AND beneficial to my life to learn, picked up a few and have practiced daily more or less. Sounds good right?
But the thing is - I am alone 24/7 , almost zero contact with others. Normally, I enjoy being alone, but being so all the time, makes me feel disconnected from the world. It all starts to become pointless. Even when I imagine for example accomplishing something HUGE that would help the world - without the other humans to share it with, it would become useless and have no meaning.
So I've learned from this experience that we need to interract with other people in meaningful ways to feel balanced and happy. Before moving, I kept telling myself that others are obstacle and I don't need anyone, all I want is to LEARN and grow. But heh....I feel like the intrinsic motivation to grow is because we want to grow TO have something useful to contribute and lift others up etc. Doing it for selfish reasons can only sustain you so long.
You are right about what you are saying, we always have to be capable to apporach other people. If something is important to us, you can be sure that is a ton of people who appreciate the work we are putting into the things that matter to us, because it also matters to them.
Helping others or making the world a better place is highly overated...Why do you care one bit for people who don't give shit about you and would be amused watching your demise? Your need to share with others is a symptom your life became too easy, you need some pain and deprivation to set back your priorities straight again... The man is the only creature to make the same mistake twice.
get into a sports club or join groups discussing interesting topics around your area. If you feel like it, do some social work (volunteer), those are nearly always good and helpfull ppl you can have a talk with on many things. Select the ppl you want to keep you company and boom~
True, the problem is in us. If we do not interact with others, and act in a healthy manner, we cannot improve.
I think the point has been missed... the end goal is balance. It's not wrong to desire to interact with others sometimes. But to NEED it... to REQUIRE it in order to feel sane, whole, or validated in any way is not necessary nor is it healthy.
Many claim that it is good to talk to someone if you need it. This gets misinterpreted by using words that assign moral polarity to it. Instead of saying, "good", it should instead say, "nice, "pleasant", "enjoyable" etc...
Even if you feel restless, anxious, on edge... even mad when alone for too long, that's merely evidence that you are not well. And it's not a state of unwell that comes from being in solitude. It just becomes more noticeable because of the solitude. It was there before. It must be conquered. It's not fun. But the other side brings such peace and meaning... everything that's been eating at you finally makes sense... everything is understood. This is a psychotic break.
This is honestly one of the best channels on CZcams by far.
Useful and non corrupting to be sure, an Antidote to the cultural Frankfurt school undercurrents of today's society...
This and Einzelganger have been great
I spent 9 months abroad in Spain and I felt like my personality evolved much rapidly than when I was in the states surrounded by friends and family.
“loneliness express the pain of being alone and solitude express the glory of being alone “
Exactly
"Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god. ”Aristotle
Why not the third, a philosopher? - Nietzsche
I have spent 90% of my life in solitude, I have learned a lot about myself, now, I want to actually socialize a lot more, with normal people that reminds me that life, doesn’t have to be that complicated.
For me its about balance now. I tried marriage twice and right now I couldn't be happier.
sir thats cool have a good day
Same here ^^
That’s how I’m treating this quarantine my college is online for the entire year and I’m expecting/hoping next Fall(my senior year) to go back on campus and socialize a lot after this training arc
Always alone since mom died.
Being a backpacker since my 30's, being alone or hiking with one person, seeking adventure as well as solitude has been the "game-changer" in my life. I had an opportunity to devote myself to a career in electronic engineering but having just finished massage school, I didn't know what to do. But a friend needed a hiking buddy for a South Rim backpacking trek and I accepted his offer. After hiking for three days in the Canyon, it came to me, with clearity and assured confidence. I was to become the massage therapist I wanted to be. Being alone much of the time in the Grand Canyon open my mind to such beauty and unimaginable "space" and true liberty that I knew working with others in a quiet, private setting was preferable to working in a sterile, white laboratory doing boring, redundant tasks, day after day.
I could be like an old mountain man, and live in solitude with the wilderness
That is my dream jeffro. Regards cliff aust
same here..only mountain women
In an ideal world it's probable, in this world it's trespassing.
Those are the sexiest Men.
@@myhounddog 😀
''This solitude is a world in itself, full of wonders and resources unthought of...'' ~R. Tagore
Do u know abt tagore?
💯💯💯💯💯💯 instead of avoiding heartbreak, I've learned that sitting with God alone, through the pain allowed me to reconnect with the full truth of who I am deep down
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." -Sartre
@Snails40 makes sense to me , it’s basically saying you’re not a good person or you don’t truly love yourself.
This
This quote hangs on the wall in my study. Truer words were never written.
Moving away and about to lose all my friends. Needed this.
cherry b take the time to know who you are. I’m sure you’ll make new friends eventually. I know what that’s like.
good luck! don't fall into love till you settle in your new city; thats the mistake I made.
A96V33 Ok boomer
A96V33 what does “friend” mean to you? What you describe sounds like the people that you know the faces of, but not the spirit or backgrounds.
Shirohige May I say, going to a city was perhaps your first mistake.
The nature of cities work against our biology and make it very hard to meet our needs.
Me: stays alone 90% of the time
AoI: you should stay alone more
Completely alone?
Well, it is not 90% with me, but I do enjoy my alone time and consider it to be my most productive and introspective time.
Boob Ross what do you do when alone is the real question. Wasting time on the internet is not really being alone. Being alone and cultivating your self realization is what the video means. I admit I am guilty of spending lots of time alone but wasted
haha same here
“Boob Ross”
Introspection is a "shadow-filled hallway" that most fear... I have always silently relished it, for it is through exploring that "hallway" that I found what I needed... Not in outside influences, but within myself. Others have always proved themselves to be wholly wanting & never satisfied... I am enough for me & neither want nor need anything from "them"... including approval. I realized this in my teens, and now in my sixties, I am quietly content that I quietly stood my ground for me all these decades. You will never find what you seek in another, until you find it within yourself. 💜
How refreshing, to hear some support for some alternative to love and relationships being the center of our lives. It’s something I’ve secretly wanted and known for a long time, but when everyone is telling you that everyone must eventually realize that relationships are the ONLY thing that brings true and lasting happiness, and that it’s the meaning of life...you doubt yourself.
This man. Amor Fati. I'm going through self-imposed mental issues. I over think things and it's a constant fear outcomes that aren't real. . But I'm learning to love my life regardless of what society thinks.
I spend most of my life alone, its amazing
I love soltitude , knowing thyself is far better than focusing on other people and world around you, you gain immense knowledge and inculcate artistic and literary skills in you 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
Nice bit 👍
Well said
I share and live your thoughts exactly. I am an artist and will soon finish my first novel. Here's to you!
But do not forget you also lose out on social interaction if you push it too far; it is healthy to have both.
@@hintofdwight Thanks for the reply interesting to hear your opinion. It may be some people feel the need to to be more social than others. I know of people who live completely alone and are non the worse for it while others suffer. Must make allowances for people to be different. The mind has no needs other than those it makes for itself including the need for social interaction.
Solitude is a necessary aspect of the human experience and learning to exist with your thoughts without the digital and social distraction allows you to reach higher aspects of self realization and push past yourself.
I work for myself and am alone 98% of the time, it is what I need to create, I believe this practice is vital for some who have disciplines that can observe and self correct poor habbits. Solitude is essential, but in the modern world I feel many of those like myself turn to screens of solitude, this is not the same thing as I am alone outside on my farm, observing the ebbs and flows of nature and boiling down patterns that reflect in every aspect of life. Computers lead to a desire to connect with others online, it is best to only use the Internet as a tool for reinforcement of belief such as this video, but not as a platform to build your character from
Computers lead to anxiety and self doubt, you farm is clearly a superior environment more in tune with reality.
"...be still and know that the kingdom of heaven is within you..."
Operating from the position of Love instead of fear is key in these confusing times.
This is true. I'm disabled and do not work. I'm also Agoraphobic and live alone. I do everything that needs to be done myself, as I have no family. I read and do various forms of art. I immerse myself in history. I could never go back to how I once lived. I'm 56 and I prefer to be alone.
I am only 16, but this is what I want one day.
i've been on a spiritual (and humorously, financial) journey for several years as I exit my teenagehood and i've come to realize a few things.
i can only improve myself and my craft when i'm alone for extended periods of time. the more time i spend with other people, the more i begin to feel myself melt into them and become immersed in their strengths, problems, quirks and weaknesses. Time spent in solitude has allowed me to forge a strong sense of identity, while simultaneously placing a hard social bubble between me and other people. i find it hard to bring myself to actually care about other people, when my heart is filled with finances, spirituality, video games and routines.
solitude builds character like nothing else. i feel like a person *in* the world than a person *of* the world, and that brings with it a fantastic sense of independence. I've noticed that my friends who can't stand to be alone for extended periods of time or begin to feel depressed the longer they go without human contact are creatures of the crowd. without the group, they feel like nothing, and thus the mindshate beckons.
What I keep struggling with is the feeling of being worthless when I spend some time alone, as if being alone wasn't my choice but a punishment that I deserve. That is why I think that the longer I keep away from people whose personality may hinder mine, the stronger that feeling becomes.
I felt some relief though in the part you quoted which said that we overestimate the value of love (as in personal relationships) because we've been taught that that is the key to being happy.
Amyway, I'll keep fighting off depression and anxiety. These videos are no cure, but they certainly help a lot.
Thank you!
I highly recommend you check out “Minds in Unison” CZcams channel. This channel focuses on reprogramming your subconscious mind to overcome any struggles you may be dealing with. There is a specific video titled “Heal your past and let go of your pain”. Listen to that for 21 nights, and I guarantee you’ll begin to see improvement.
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Sevilla21 i’m hurting too. i hope you are well. we all wish to be happy.
Your depression is the result of the mental indoctrination to make you believe your well being and peace of mind depends on others loving and caring for you when reality and common sense teaches you otherwise. Wake up, you are the only and best friend you will ever have in this world. Your health and well being is 100% your responsibility and no one else.
Damn you have a lotta work to do if you think this a punishment. The Most High don't take it to kindly when you resent Him.
Academy of Ideas and Einzelganger are my two favorite things on the internet. Thank you so much for the service you provide.
You should check out Pirsuit of Wonder
School of Life
Redfrost
I love the misfits
You can never be alone. There are always angels with you, recording your deeds if you care to find out. There is an unseen world, but how many of us believe in it?
I guess not to many mythology fans here.
"I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude" - Henry David Thoreau
My solitude draws me nearer to Jesus. I will never replace His company with anything else. I have no time. He keep be busy. With Him I traveled through storms, winds, soft breez. I laughed I cried. He took me to the deep earth, to the heart of existance, to the conscience of the Allmighty.
This quarantine has really changed my outlook on life and I'm very grateful for it.
I've been a fan of this channel for some time now. This episode brought me to tears, it so aptly describes my life's struggles. I feel less alone & more hopeful after listening to this. Thank you.
Your struggles are not quite unique as you would like believing since in the end we all are dealing with the same shit, only with different levels of awareness. Welcome to fight club though.
This is something My Dad taught me how to do. He taught Me only to depend on Myself, how to help others and most importantly, how to be a Man. I do Enjoy these videos, there is a lot of Truth in all of these videos.
I'm 50 and I've come across many folks in my age range who oddly don't really know who they are or what they stand for or why. They've never spent the time unpacking themselves. They're in bad relationships and or cycle through them, or quickly go through them. I don't believe that to be healthy. We're all always learning or should be...questioning what we know and believe. It's not just time alone...you need to read and learn new things. Take up a new hobby or sport, volunteer.
work to unpack your own shit, sport.
Yes. It is so important to know what you love, to have passions. Everyone I know who despises being single lack this trait.
Isolation is a gift,
Over the past 5 years I have gone about isolating myself and I am now the happiest I have been in my 50 years.
Based wizard
@@mr.bruhmoment4732 oddly enough though the people I separated myself from was family.
@@toothlessjoethehouso1147 was your family causing you any toxics that made you decide to isolate yoself from them?
This video spoke to every fiber of my being in my 67th year of life. Now its my time for that retreat, that rebirth, its time to break out of that comfortable shell and break free of the chains, its time to live my final quest in life. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! 🙏
I think the lack of self realization happens alot during the high school years. Lots of intelligent, talanted, authentic people dumbed themselves down to fit in. Some only hung out for status and prestige.
"I'm not lonely, I'm solitary."
-- Henry Rollins
"solitary confinement leads to solitary refinement".
Thank you, your lectures are great❤️
From Pakistan🇵🇰, a Nietzsche fan...
Its necessary to say (re-enphazise, actually) that solitude without a serious and complete reflexion about oneself, without detachment from all digital devices and technological fancies doesn't develop any spirituality, and may even make one more dumb, and overall unconscious of oneself. In other hand, talking to people, "suffering patiently from the other's vices" (in the christian sense), *leaving the goddamn phone*, getting out of one's cave and really practicing charity frees one from the tiny shell in which him habitually lives, and brings maturity to every person.
To summarize, solitude needs to envolve mental seclusion and spirituality, prayer and reading, while (alongside with it) one ought to actively engage yourself in the world by helping others and loving them, instead of simply labelling them as "stupid".
People need to learn how to help themselves
@@reikaratnam Everyone has what it deserves...the world is perfect in that regard.
"Spirituality" is overrated and books are the internet of the past. Why do you care so much for people who don't give a shit about you and would be amused watching your demise? Your virtue signaling only shows your life became to easy and that you need some pain and deprivation to set back your priorities straight again...
This is so true. I could see lot of unconscious arrogant people who lack social skills and hates people are trying to say that they prefer being alone because the people are stupid and not worth connecting with.
So true. I'm surrounded by small, unimaginative, spiritually desiccated minds.
I hardly ever write any comment but this video deserved it.
I am a proponent of this way of life, and indeed, there is no joy and meaning in any other way of life greater than this.
Such a life, for the sake of comparison, can be compared to living a life in the state of 'flow', blissful and fulfilling, regardless of the result or achievement.
I’ve never learned so much about myself when I had a constant on the go life. I went with the drift. Taking quiet time alone I could think and slow down and process my thoughts, my knowledge, and steer to what I wanted in life. It’s amazing of how much things I missed and what I didn’t realize about my wants and what I didn’t want. I became much stronger with self- realization and awareness. It led me to the conclusion of choice. Refreshing!
Good for you!
We want to be selective about what enters into our consciousness.
When we are alone, we can fully control what we learn, think about, and do.
That's why this is not taught at school... Or university.
I stayed alone too long and lost social skills that I used to have and it is now much harder to connect with people. This then caused pretty bad social anxiety that I didn’t have before. I thought I was bettering myself and leaving behind friends that were holding me back but there were unintended consequences. Be warned.
Social skills and "friends" are overrated... Doing business makes more sense.
It is difficult to take the first step, but after taking decision to prioritize my self-care and focus on the inwards. I have become more self-aware, I also have realized that passively/actively giving too much time to people who are not align to our journey , is same as being un productive .
I feel that this video came just in the nick of time for me. It has been the first week of self intro speeches for me in a University first year speech class. From most of the speeches I found most people in the class were empty on the inside and only cared for vanities. They just care about posting their glamorous lives on social media, traveling, and just indulgence in empty pleasures. After realizing this I felt ostracized a bit. That I just didn’t fit in or was accepted. However, after watching this video I realized that what I am doing now isn’t wrong. That solitude isn’t always bad but in fact it actually helps me to achieve confidence in my true self and identity. I appreciate this channel and all the sources provided here.
Thank you
You are not like the herd, blaze your own path. Though, give the herd grace. They don't know what you know, think what you think, see what you see. Never stop growing.
Yeah being ahead of the crowd can be annoying and lonely. But there are areas where they are ahead and you still have things to learn.
I think most people don't realize why they fear to be alone. For being alone forces you to be with you, and being with you can be scary. You'll come to face yourself, in every way possible. Distraction of others is the death of ones own self.
This video describes my whole life, just now I become emotionally dependent about a terrible relationship, I have never had any friends I can't get along well with my family, i believed to find my light, my first love when I knew him I'm so wrong... I can't concentrate in other things, I never find solicitude fun at all, but today I need to achieve something different, things must change. I love this channel.
Being alone has allowed me to see how much I've hurt people including friends. Even the seemingly small things. I had to accept the pain of what I had done. Now, I try to give back something positive.
Thanks! I am commenting to let you know that I myself am instantly drawn to your videos now because of the invaluable knowledge I learn each time, thank you very much for the hard work and keep it up!
New AOI! Grabbing my popcorn 🍿
Elisha mah man, you are our Yoda.
Balance. Become comfortable with yourself and your own counsel. Talk things over with people who are well balanced themselves. Don't go too far one way or the other.
This spoke to me. I love being alone! I am on a path of deep self improvement after a lifetime of allowing unhealthy people into my orbit. I frequently feel conflicted though because everything I read says that deep relationships with others are the key to happiness. Just try and find information in our modern world that tells you being alone is healthy for you!.. I am happier and healthier mentally than I've ever been without many people in my world!
This is one of these channels that regularly put out high quality content. Keep up the good work!
Internet doesn't count as solitude me thinks. It's a strange stimulation and the feeling alone with and without contrasts significantly....in my experience
In the end the internet is mental noise.
I spent a year traveling alone out west in Colorado, New Mexico, Utah, Wyoming and Oregon. The whole time camping, hiking and living in/with nature. It was by far the best and most enlightening experience of my life. The experience changed me and helped me to grow as a human being in so many ways. My life has been much better since then. It is absolutely amazing how much nature and aloneness can teach you about yourself and life in general, if you let it.
Solitude is the price of greatness
It's nice to have my own recent experiences summarized in a neat video. Since returning home from travel and seeing all my childhood friends again, I've noticed just how much the reality of your social circle contaminates your own reality. It's great to see everyone in the beginning then you quickly get to see where their heads are at.
They are ultimately good people. But if I spent any more time with them than what what was absolutely necessary, I'd be just as prone to the same attitudes, outlook, prospects, beliefs and intelligence that they have. They'd sit around all day drinking, smoking or wasting away in front of a screen instead of putting energy toward things that can change their circumstances. The phrase "rubbing off on you" is not just a joke. People can and do rub off on you and it takes real energy not to be brought down to their level of reality. People think kids are impressionable but it goes right into adulthood and beyond. Sometimes old friends have to moved along so you can go make something of yourself.
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL!!! Thank you so much.
When you’re constantly surrounded by people, you let other define you.
This video should be mandatory viewing before anyone uses or views any other social media.
People waste so much time buying into the BS about being "happy" and finding a "soul mate", and so much of instagram and facebook is a facade. It's no wonder people feel dissatisfied comparing themselves to influencers who are pretending things are perfect, to get more engagement, often in their own pursuit of a shallow goal.
EDIT: Look at me with my negative energy outlook.... damn. Don't listen to me.
Negativity has its place, as does positivity. Don’t discount the value of something just because it wasn’t made of sunshine, we should remember that rain also helps the plants grow. :)
The whole purpose of man is to serve God and to live a righteous life in obedience to the laws of God through the power of His Spirit. When you find Christ you find who you are, and truly live a full and fruitful life, which is completely satisfying.
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I find that most needed wisdom comes from my own depths during solitude in nature. Most people don't seem to really understand this and I get heavily criticized for it frequently but it brings me such peace. The poem The Peace of Wild Things by Wendell Berry describes it all perfectly for me.❤✌🐾
You are revealing too much of your self to the world... Ever asked yourself why?
Don't even tell them a thing nor take in consideration their opinion. They just want to implant their ideas on you. Remember, no matter how they make it look "opinions are just opinions"
I swear,the timing of these videos is just unbelievable.
"Freedom comes when you learn to let go. Creation comes when you learn to say no." ~ Madonna's Power of Goodbye
Solitude doesn’t feel lonely anymore
That's right... What now feels lonely is the other people.
And yet the only true mirror we have is reflected back to us from engagement with others. Time alone is useful, but reality demands we step out of our cave and come back to the market place.
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THANK YOU FOR NOT USING DEMONIC AI NARRATION! It's so hard to find now. Your authentic human voice is a gift to humanity.
I have always lived a life of solitude, read books and lived a life of enrichment and self reflection I don't see friends but feel enriched and in some way powerful
This video perfectly aligns with events in my life it's as if I've heard just what I needed to hear about the subject that miraculously I already knew and was actively taking the steps to progress without consciously knowing it. As if a mysterious force is watching over me making sure the path ahead stays clear so that I may reach a destination of my own destiny. Of course I don't know if that's true but allow me to explain. Ever since I left college I did so with the purpose of cultivating my own creativity to do something with the precious life we are all given to not let obstacles that seem big be impossible to phase through. I wanted to sing, to write, to build and to experience my plan was vague and my life was unpredictable anyone looking at me from the outside would have thought I was reckless and moronic for making the choices I did. Anyone on the inside would have thought I was saddened and desperate. I knew that none of those things were true to me. A person I loved very deeply was hurting and disturbed by events that felt out of her control I stayed with her to help out but she shunned my decisions from time to time and spoke of the struggle I would have to endure for leaving college which I explained would be nothing compared to the struggle I would endure If I hadn't followed what I felt to be right. The home I stayed in was consumed in panic and dismay, it was almost as if stress was picking away at the paint on the walls, I was living in a state of decay and my messy surroundings reflected that. I couldn't keep my head straight I would fall into bouts of nervous depression in which I would try to shake it off like water on a dogs back. Sometimes I was consumed and angry at people and actions I couldn't control this made me feel helpless but still I knew I had to proceed. At the time i had surrounded myself with like minded artists and musicians who had all been creatively endowed some producers some singers some rappers some designers. With them I felt a sense of place and commonalty I wasn't alone I was in pursuit together with people I called friends and brothers. I knew right then and there that I had to be grateful no matter the circumstances, it may sound corny but this idea liberated me from a self destruction that would have decimated myself and others. In these people I found liberation and eventually an even greater love for my craft I wanted to be good to become great and to work on mastery. So I have isolated myself while keeping in touch and working with the friends. 'Without knowing it and being close to the point of giving up..... I found a group of like minded people that liberated me...... and I pursued mastering my dream in isolation which has lead me on strings of self discovery and given me peace as well as confidence.' Somehow things worked out even though I find myself fighting to stay motivated and positive sometimes I am happy and excited for what comes next . I am at a point now where I see no end to what's possible. I wrote in my journal recently that "I feel like a wave trying to reach it's way past the beach and onto the dry land, everytime I make the effort and crash onto the shore I am pulled back, I am restricted unable to fight the forces of the ocean I belong to. But what I didn't realize in my desperation to make it onto land was that I was pulled back into the body of the ocean a place of infinity. Within it's endless currents I can go anywhere." This was significant for me to recognize because I was so desperate to just reach land that I didn't realize I had the vastness of the ocean to explore. Anyway I still have much to learn and do and Academy of ideas is a good place to collect myself and stir the brain. I like to listen to the philosophical ideas of wise men who have experienced life in the same way many of us have. I guess all I can say is be kind and tolerant of other people and don't give up while you are alive.
Wow. I see you. What an incredibly powerful stream of consciousness to share with us. Thank you.
These videos always come at a perfect moment in my life
gary o'leary maybe lol
they seem to know just what one needs how ? i dont know
This one hit different. This explains exactly what is happening in my life and could not be more eloquently verbalized. Thank you for your tireless contribution. Your work is essential. 🏆
Marvelous. It was Emerson’s Self Reliance that started me on my journey. TS Eliot’s The Cocktail Party played a great role in solidifying it. It was his response to Sartre’s No Exit, arguing that Hell is not other people, but that Hell is oneself, if the self is not developed.
I'm still recovering from the insanity of the family Christmas party.
People are crazy, this world is sick.
Christmas is a tough time for most of us, but it shouldn’t be. People have to avoid expectations to avoid unnecessary mental trauma.
I didn't choose the loners life, the loners life chose me
You chosed by letting it choose for you.
You produce consistently high quality videos - thought-provoking content with beautiful paintings. This channel is one of CZcams's blessings.
I attended group therapy for a while and observed a common complaint about visiting family members over holidays.
They often feel injured or depressed afterwards. I think family acrimony is manifest by the so called 'pushing my buttons' syndrome. Family members often disguise deep rooted resentments and know how to create negative stress triggers against each other. I know this firsthand.
On account of this created crisis, many people are home alone and are okay with that. Rather than feeling lonely, holiday solitude can be seen as a reprieve from such stress and tension. You could bring a friend, neighbor, or say Church member to your family get together and they may well serve as a BUFFER to that kind of negative situation.
A few Thanksgivings ago, I had no place to go until I was invited to join a family for Thanksgiving dinner. The family was delighted to have a guest and it was quite pleasant.
"Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I'm God's lonely man." -Travis Bickle, Taxi Driver (1976). 100% recommend that movie to anyone who hasn't watched it
Robert i’ve seen it many many times and it’s an all-time favorite I was actually a teenager in the city when that was being filmed in mid 70s many memorable scenes and Travis was certainly a frustrated social misfit but he ends up being the hero and getting the girl...poetic justice
i’ll be watching tomorrow
Very good point!!!
Solitude and learning to accept one's self (warts and all) is tricky but absolutely necessary.
And, eventually, we start to see more than just the broken bits. 💪👍😎
Of all the problems I have, this isn't one of them. Rather than spending too much time around people who bring trouble upon me, I spend far too much time alone and had found myself unable to properly hold conversation until about 28 years old.
I love to run alone, test my stamina & explore my innerself.
And I like hot dogs with mustard sauce, like the ones in the pink panter cartoons.
Some bramacharya will suit you fine by the way.
Makes me want to break up my engagement with future wify. Very painful to have such contradicting feelings and never to realise them. Much suffering. Going to get married in a few months, but I've never been single in my conscious life and I have this nagging feeling that I'm making a mistake. Been close a few times but when it gets to I decide it's better to stay and im fine but just for a while... Pff I feel so pathetic sometimes and filled with anger.
Oooops best be as open as you can intuition is powerfu whilel commitment under duress or false pretenses holds no integrity
Please consider being both true to yourself and possible future partner
Received the video notification while hiking alone and self reflecting. Oh, how the synchronicities sink in so nicely.
I love these videos. It makes me just start thinking about a lot of things and realise things. Though I feel like I’ll have to watch it again so I can actually listen to it all.
You know it’s great content when it makes you think, then would want to watch it again as well to get everything out of it.
Be careful not to spend too much time alone, though!
Feeling the extreme of this, it gets scary if you're not equipped with methods to deal with emotions that arise from loneliness. I don't know if there is a light at the end of my solitude. Even the Buddha eventually found his enlightenment when he accepted a return to the world - with balance.
@@gee_ That is the key - balance. Too much isolation can be poisonous to your mind. Too much socialization can be poisonous to your individual spirit. It seems to me that isolation is for reflection and socialization is for action. There is a time for both!
Too bad, I'm autistic
Me: The only person I spend time with is a bad influence on me
This video: Spend time with yourself
Me: Who did you think I was talking about?
oof!
rekt
If you don't even like yourself then you really should start to work on that.
Then stay off social media it’s giving you bad ideas
Being alone is a Superpower.
describing my life right now ... chilling to hear someone else talk about it ... amazing to think there's other people that understand