Should You Sever Ties With Toxic Family?

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  • čas přidán 24. 11. 2023
  • How do you deal with toxic family?? Do you tolerate... or eliminate? Join us as we dive into this loaded topic that may help save your holidays.
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  • @user-uj8gu1hs5g
    @user-uj8gu1hs5g Před 8 měsíci +63

    This was an amazing education. I want to say publicly that i forgive all, and renounce all bitterness. Also, i repent and ask forgiveness of any sin i have committed against anyone. In the name of Jesus. Amen.

  • @tumelothatedit3484
    @tumelothatedit3484 Před 8 měsíci +27

    Toxic people are exhausting I just cut off keep quiet and keep moving.

  • @marcosgomez8618
    @marcosgomez8618 Před 8 měsíci +24

    Luke 12:51 " Do you think I come to bring peace on Earth? I tell you, not at all.I came to divide the family" If your family is toxic, it's okay to separate from them. You must continue your journey and do right

    • @LoanShoppingExpert
      @LoanShoppingExpert Před 7 měsíci

      No; you must honor your father and mother no matter what. You may have to figure out a way to do that without harming yourself, but you gotta obey the 5th Commandment.

    • @Adtheos
      @Adtheos Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@LoanShoppingExpertbeing hostile and harboring evil feelings and desires would constitute dishonoring them. Distancing, within reason and through prayer and without resentment is not dishonoring them.
      If the parents then come and want to make amends and fix things, but the kids do not want to, that’s dishonoring them.
      What do you think is honoring and dishonoring them?

  • @JE4-1
    @JE4-1 Před 8 měsíci +42

    A narcissistic parent is the worst thing to happen to a child , I would never wish that on anyone.

    • @lovelv1278
      @lovelv1278 Před 7 měsíci

      It IS . MY MOTHER IS A COVERT MALIGNANT NARCISSIST. the very fact that I’m STILL ALIVE is the testament of my STRONG SPIRIT AND BEING PROTECTED . The devil gave birth to me . Sister and brother are narcs and they did everything as well to destroy me . Sister in law is a narc as well . They are all possessed and chose the dark side long ago . Now I’m planning my escape from this house bc I live w my narc mother . The devil never sleeps that’s all i can say!

    • @kristinloucks2084
      @kristinloucks2084 Před 7 měsíci +1

      I have a narcissistic father and I can't get him to leave me alone. All he does is tear me and my son down and get our nerves all tore up. He has no respect for our boundaries either.

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 6 měsíci +1

      ​@@kristinloucks2084 That why this message may be beneficial to and for you if that is the case. The Holy Spirit may be telling you that you need to go no contact. And if that is the case then it is okay to do so. You need to do so without fear, guilt, shame, worry, embarrassment, fear of other opinions, or whatever the case may be. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. AMEN. GOD TRULY DOES LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU AND SO DO I. THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH. AMEN. ❤❤❤

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 6 měsíci

      ​@@kristinloucks2084 The enemy wants you to think or believe that you don't have a choice or say in the matter. But you DO have a choice.

    • @biznachos1
      @biznachos1 Před 6 měsíci

      Amen

  • @user-jj5fy7se4o
    @user-jj5fy7se4o Před 8 měsíci +11

    Thank you so much for this repeat message. It's my story. Different characters, same situations. My son relinquished his young teen daughters to us because their evil, demonic stepmother was brutal to them. He gave them the choice to leave. Now years later when daughters are grown with families of their own he insists we coerced the girls and talked them into leaving his toxic household. I'm also now leaving this toxic relationship but waffle back and forth. This message gives me courage to continue on with limited contact.

  • @g-bgcg
    @g-bgcg Před 8 měsíci +11

    I like what you said about The toxic family members form unholy alliances because their demons know each other”. So true. We have a family member that is atheist and is into witch cults and satan. This person has created so much strife in our family with drama, lies and emotional assaults. I prayed and prayed about what to do because most Christian’s will tell you to just deal with it and showered them with love. Well, that doesn’t always work. Sometimes you have to walk away from that person in order to protect yourself and your family OR maybe God will orchestrate for that person to not be in your life anymore. It’s been several years of no contact and it was the right thing for me to do based on God answering my prayers. Always pray about what to do. Seek Gods word and then obey what God says to do.

    • @macb-mamas
      @macb-mamas Před 5 měsíci

      Agreed! Not only that, but if you just go along to get along they will not be held accountable. Even if they don’t admit their part or apologize they will know you are not someone they can control and that you see through their manipulation.

  • @cecilianbarrett6417
    @cecilianbarrett6417 Před 8 měsíci +5

    This was shared here yesterday, but I just ran across it while scrolling through fb.
    I caught it shortly after it began, and was going to wait for it to be available so that I can go back and watch the whole sermon in it's entirety.
    I came here and was thrilled to find it already up & available.
    This message is definitely a much needed on-time word for me!
    Praise God for knowing just what we need and when!!
    This is a hard one! It just is! I've been through this very thing with what little family I have left about a month ago.
    I wanted so badly to see them come to Jesus themselves!!!
    Over time it became clear that this was being used against me.
    It wasn't until I had to get honest with myself when Jesus showed me I have been a hindrance to them if anything.
    By allowing toxic behaviors to continue I was not only enabling them, but even worse I had became a hindrance to them.
    I was leading them to believe that Jesus was okay with it.
    I cannot wait to start this and watch all the way through.
    Thank you for this message here! I greatly needed to hear this!

  • @19miraclesarehere
    @19miraclesarehere Před 2 měsíci

    Wow! That's exactly what I asked God for. I even didn't know there were sermons about this topic. Thank You, Jesus! Thank you, pastor Mike.

  • @DrewAM365
    @DrewAM365 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Pastor Mark this teachings are so profound as I have witnessed toxicity especially in the church. These conflicts are even worse within families of mixed races, I had a black friend married to a Caucasian woman the family was small town religious likely somewhat prejudice. The wife's family controlled everything from where to live meaning where they could work to events & holidays...and the control got worse as children were born. My buddy once told me I usually just do what the wife wants b/c of her family...and to keep her happy. He didn't have a good support system from his family and we his friends were not well informed to notice or were not aware to seek knowledge and how to help but in the end he sat in a vehicle with a plugged co2 exhaust and took his life...to this day I think the overbearing extended family made him take his life. At the funeral these people were totally expressionless its like they were glad he was not around.

  • @LoanShoppingExpert
    @LoanShoppingExpert Před 7 měsíci +9

    I'd like Mark to do a sermon on children who have abandoned their parents and/or treat them with disdain.

    • @user-uj8gu1hs5g
      @user-uj8gu1hs5g Před 7 měsíci +8

      Because there is almost always a reason for this happening. Like narcicist or abusive parents. If a child's hatred for you extends beyond puberty, you are the problem.

    • @LoanShoppingExpert
      @LoanShoppingExpert Před 7 měsíci

      It's many times a difference in political ideology, especially in the current political climate.@@user-uj8gu1hs5g

    • @sharonolveradesign3403
      @sharonolveradesign3403 Před 7 měsíci +2

      My mother recently died. I suspect she managed to keep the family together. Over the year I have figured out that one of my siblings is a damned narcissist and so is our father. I think they are triangulating against me and my youngest sister. Since mom’s passing, everything I have believed and chosen in my life (aka my faith) is under attack.

    • @biznachos1
      @biznachos1 Před 6 měsíci

      We have the internet. You can check the ACE study. Did you and the biological father get a divorce? That'd be a great start.

  • @BeccaNiederkrom1
    @BeccaNiederkrom1 Před 7 měsíci +4

    I walked away from my Christian family that could not stop abusing myself and others.

  • @markjayw666
    @markjayw666 Před 8 měsíci +8

    Psychologically tested sociopaths yes. They will never change.

  • @DG-ri1lp
    @DG-ri1lp Před 8 měsíci +50

    My daughter is a narcissist. My heart gets broken every time I see her. I keep trying so I can see my grandkids. It’s so hurtful though because she wants to blame everyone for her problems instead of taking responsibility for her self 💔

    • @mimigrace7591
      @mimigrace7591 Před 8 měsíci +6

      My sister is like this. She has 6 kids and won’t let us see them. It’s so sad. I’m sorry. So cruel.

    • @daughterofyah80
      @daughterofyah80 Před 8 měsíci +9

      I completely understand your pain. Prayers for you and your daughter.

    • @killymorrison2136
      @killymorrison2136 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Mark killed off a church. Wow, he moved on like it was nothing ..shame on him

    • @karindasmith8349
      @karindasmith8349 Před 8 měsíci +3

      My sister is the same. Exhausting!

    • @garydemski6879
      @garydemski6879 Před 8 měsíci +4

      Killed off a church???

  • @DrewAM365
    @DrewAM365 Před 7 měsíci +1

    My own story I met a gal @ church noticed the strain b/t her and her family. These folks had a righteous religious complex, I noticed their family was literally all about them, and were pretentious smiling in my face but saying wild mean things behind my back full of gossip false accusations and total disrespect was sown b/t her family and I. I'm not perfect or error-less either, but it felt prideful and prejudicial and we separated, I was upset but considered myself fortunate. The gal later realized her family sabotaged her relationships & sowed discord..her words. Lesson learned & agreed I would recommend to sever ties with toxic potential families even toxic friends. I learned if there is no healthy positive support system if its not building you and growing you but backstabbing confusing hurting or creating anxiety the relationship is not worth it. I learned to also seek relationships with people of greater wisdom and intellectual capacity than you whom are encouraging...much better than to be stuck with close minded folks who fit that old saying "GREAT minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, SMALL minds discuss people." I don't say this to dredge up the past of which is forgiven but to inform and enable these much needed discussions and sermons.

  • @theresahill508
    @theresahill508 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank you thank you thank you for this message!!!! God divinely ensured that we listened to it.

  • @tonybinder9392
    @tonybinder9392 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I remember this series well. Perfect for this time of year. Pastor Mark I hope you vacation is and went well! God bless everyone!

  • @madetofitout
    @madetofitout Před 8 měsíci +2

    Perfect timing. Thanks for the confirmation.

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Forgiving isn't forgetting. In fact, I pray that I remember what some relatives are capable of doing.

  • @OldGuyAdventure
    @OldGuyAdventure Před 8 měsíci +7

    Mark describes what the government is like in Canada.

    • @77greengiant
      @77greengiant Před 8 měsíci +2

      I will never forget when the Canadian government freezing the bank accounts of Christian non profits. Wanting to help truckers survive through the pandemic. With fuel food for families.😢

  • @Momofukudoodoowindu
    @Momofukudoodoowindu Před 8 měsíci +11

    Is this a re-upload? I think I've already listened to this one.

    • @jeriannmahnich
      @jeriannmahnich Před 8 měsíci

      I said the same thing… Yes, this is a repeat from his Genesis study. I’m sure because it’s Thanksgiving, a holiday weekend.

  • @santiagogarza6573
    @santiagogarza6573 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Amen and amen 🙏 🙌 God Bless You Brother.❤

  • @christbasedhealing
    @christbasedhealing Před 7 měsíci

    Great sermon. Thank you for speaking on this topic 💞

  • @armas151
    @armas151 Před 8 měsíci +3

    Please, Lord Jesus, help me to one day meet this wonderful church.

  • @petacountryman2166
    @petacountryman2166 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much Pastor Mark👍

  • @rayah8809
    @rayah8809 Před 8 měsíci +7

    Moses was seperated from his own family. If he would not have chosen GOD, HE would have never completed what he was sent to do.

  • @ceceliachristy8785
    @ceceliachristy8785 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank you. Amen.

  • @chrislilienthal4592
    @chrislilienthal4592 Před 8 měsíci +6

    My roommates family is like that they enjoy the hate but claim to be Christians
    Can’t shake hands with the devil and serve god

    • @jeanalice4732
      @jeanalice4732 Před 8 měsíci +1

      What. Are they hating?
      Technically I hate liars conartusts sexual degenerates greedy slanderers etc.. not to mention those who are abusive to others causing trauma loss etc . Being silent just is enabling such dysfunction. Plus it expands the toxicity.
      So being hateful to these ppl and situations is NOT EVIL! Look at those who were being exposed by Jesus. Obviously they didn't like Him! Not want Him around. HE saw the EVIL in their actions and words who is the user!??

  • @vickiereel6385
    @vickiereel6385 Před 8 měsíci +2

    💯 especially if there is abuse of any kind

  • @rhondapraise
    @rhondapraise Před 7 měsíci

    The Music...is NOT my Taste!!! 😮 But the "Sermon Topic" IS EXCELLENT...!!! ❤🙏🇺🇸 🇦🇷

  • @TheSiobhanJackson
    @TheSiobhanJackson Před 8 měsíci +6

    I'm not sure if you guys know that Jay Z worships the enemy. If you did, I'm sure you wouldn't have added his sample to your intro...😕

  • @JeanneDecklar
    @JeanneDecklar Před 7 měsíci +1

    wow. this is my life. I wish I could get help.

  • @andrewmallard1974
    @andrewmallard1974 Před 7 měsíci +2

    You know Abraham and lot separated because of problems there are ton s of examples of separating from toxic family members and for the peace of both families

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 Před 6 měsíci

    Jacob was that way because of how his mother and father interacted with him.

  • @Chevron1
    @Chevron1 Před 7 měsíci

    I cut off ties with my sister. She was so upset over it, (or maybe angry) that my other sister and both their kids cut me out of the family. It was not a perfect family to start with. Those two sisters always left me out of any plans anyway. I never knew what a scapegoat was, what a narcissist was… it’s took me 11 years to figure out I was dealing with narcissistic, manipulative sisters. I became a scapegoat. I blamed myself for years for “losing” my sisters. Hated myself. Wished for death. Now I realized it wasn’t all me. I am still healing. It’s best I’m not around them. I have tried to patch things up but the matriarch sister said no one wanted me around. I hurt “the family” too severely. I pray for them but I am going forward by God’s grace. No more blaming myself. It’s not all my fault. The matriarch gives large monetary gifts to my adult kids if they include her in their lives. I struggle because I’m scared she will turn my kids against me. But it is in God’s Hands.

    • @kristinloucks2084
      @kristinloucks2084 Před 7 měsíci

      I'm sorry you went through this but I'm glad you finally saw the light! I understand how you feel. I got a sister that's done this to me too. I've removed myself from the entire family bc of her. She's the ultimate reason why I'm divorced now plus she made my teenage son suicidal. That in a nutshell is the reason why I will never go back.

  • @marcosgomez8618
    @marcosgomez8618 Před 8 měsíci

    Yes

  • @rachelross5829
    @rachelross5829 Před 8 měsíci

    I can't wait to watch this. Was just talking about how I'm not even praying for Satans children much less let them near me. The bible is misenterpreted and I'm over it.

  • @sharonolveradesign3403
    @sharonolveradesign3403 Před 7 měsíci

    He mentions that if you’re married, your priority is your spouse. Is that still the case if you and your spouse does not have children?

  • @Kairos-001
    @Kairos-001 Před 7 měsíci +1

    It’s my wife who over 10 years is not who I married, got healed and delivered me and now I see past being sick until I had cancer . How can I leave, she snaps daily and pastor has nailed it!

  • @A_Pie323
    @A_Pie323 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I know people who air dirty laundry publicly, such as public Facebook posts. It’s so cringey and embarrassing. They also twist the truth, take things out of context, and only share limited information, to people who don’t know, or fully understand the situation. Behavior like that is a major RED FLAG.

  • @annakhmelev4931
    @annakhmelev4931 Před 7 měsíci

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🙌🏼

  • @neighborlyconcrete6865
    @neighborlyconcrete6865 Před 7 měsíci

    Because of the thumbnail at first glance I thought this was a collaboration with Mike winger

  • @zac2877
    @zac2877 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I only came to say that I like the picture of Nancy pelosi on the front of this video 😂

  • @eatpraylovetube2146
    @eatpraylovetube2146 Před 7 měsíci

    ❤❤❤

  • @tasuda9786
    @tasuda9786 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Well.....Esau married the Hittite women, Leah was assigned to him as a youth, that's why Rebekah used covert action. That's why Laban did what he did also. Other than some wrong assumptions, this is pretty good sermon. I reckon.

  • @nancyf2665
    @nancyf2665 Před 7 měsíci

    I married into this stuff....left after 27 years... Now the ex is turning into his father

  • @funkyskypilot
    @funkyskypilot Před 8 měsíci

    Hmm. ⏰ 🔔

  • @Seekdnb
    @Seekdnb Před 7 měsíci

    Uncle! 😂✝️💜🙏

  • @HugoGonzalez-wz8jg
    @HugoGonzalez-wz8jg Před 7 měsíci +1

    Wow they sound like narcissistic people!

  • @Auto33333
    @Auto33333 Před 8 měsíci +10

    No,, you pray for them and never stop.
    Do you distance from them ? It depends what the toxicity is .. our job is to help them, but if they are abusive, yes

    • @pc-xz3ou
      @pc-xz3ou Před 8 měsíci +6

      Pray for your enemies

    • @Auto33333
      @Auto33333 Před 8 měsíci

      @@pc-xz3ou yes we do

    • @markjayw666
      @markjayw666 Před 8 měsíci +8

      LMAO, you really think you can help a toxic person? They must help themselves. Treat them like a “tax collector.” 😉

    • @jeanalice4732
      @jeanalice4732 Před 8 měsíci +3

      What did Jesus do!!!???
      Towards the pharasiees.
      Not

    • @jeanalice4732
      @jeanalice4732 Před 8 měsíci

      The successful religious leaders of Jesus time saw Him as Toxic!!
      Evidently their followers thought so too ..🤔🤢

  • @atlantaswelder
    @atlantaswelder Před 7 měsíci +1

    I love this story! YES you can be a trickster. However; there are consequences. 20 years in Exile and 20 years of karma.
    BEWARE of deceit! 1 Peter

  • @killymorrison2136
    @killymorrison2136 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Rochelle, there is a massive podcast cast on what this man did to 20,000 people at marshill Church .my lord, this man may sound bold in christ, but he's an angry, scared man .he walked away from tearing faimlys up ,left to come hide where I am az...it would have been nice for him to ask forgiveness .but he'll know .there good people that walked away from their faith because of this narcissistic man ...I'm sorry but. God has a day for him .Rochelle becareful ..look up the rise and fall of Marshall pod cast .all of it

  • @mimigrace7591
    @mimigrace7591 Před 8 měsíci +8

    My sister married a “good Christian man” and he only wants his family. He moved my sister to his family three hours away and they will only come in for 1.5 hours every 2 years. They have twisted the narrative saying my mom is crazy and controlling and abusive. This is NOT TRUE. My husband and my brothers wife both love my mom and hang out with her easily. I don’t get to bond with or know my nieces or nephews. It’s so hard and sad. I’m writing this for people to know it IS NOT always the mother-in-law!!! Sometimes your siblings just marry CRAZY PEOPLE.

    • @mando2.049
      @mando2.049 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Yikes I just moved my family aka wife and kid far away from both our extended family’s which are my mom my wife’s mom and my brothers and sisters and my wife’s brother and sisters. Life’s better this way people should move far away from in-laws and just have family reunions every 3-5 years.

    • @mimigrace7591
      @mimigrace7591 Před 7 měsíci

      @@mando2.049 from this comment and lack of any empathy- I’m sure your family is glad you moved.

    • @vanessa5554
      @vanessa5554 Před 7 měsíci +1

      I am sure this is not the whole truth because married couples that get along well with their in-laws and siblings aka extended family are close. It is simply truth. I hope you may realize your parents role in this division

    • @mimigrace7591
      @mimigrace7591 Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@vanessa5554 you are completely ignorant about the situation. I clearly stated that sometimes your sibling mg Marty’s someone crazy. It is not always the PARENT. You’re trying tell me the situation without knowing the people or the story. Very ignorant.

    • @vanessa5554
      @vanessa5554 Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@mimigrace7591 Patterns never lie. People don’t pick up and move far away as possible unless family is horrible to them 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @Freeman_Actual
    @Freeman_Actual Před 8 měsíci +3

    Sermon starts @ 06:40 if you want to skip the pointless, anointing sapping kids at the beginning

  • @philhoxsey12
    @philhoxsey12 Před 8 měsíci +3

    Love your sermons Pastor, but don’t love the childishness and the beginnings with the two kids..

  • @lisabaeskens4941
    @lisabaeskens4941 Před 8 měsíci

    Open doors allow demons to enter into families. Un forgiveness, bitterness, pride and selfishness can lead people to make some very wrong decisions. Including estrangement from family due to listening to Evil mean people. We ALL need to have that intimacy with the Holy Spirit so we don’t fall into the trap Satan sets. My family n I are in great mourning because of our daughter leaving over a year ago. She listened n believed “Mean” people. Our hearts are shattered ONLY GOD I trust that a complete MIRACLE of restoration is soon coming.

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 Před 3 měsíci

    Great sermon but I felt a little uncomfortable with this married man and another woman stepping in for his wife to do the intro. I think it should have been another man with him (out of respect for his wife) or two women doing the intro together! 🙏

  • @goberrich91
    @goberrich91 Před 8 měsíci

    I have heard that , it's not biblical .

  • @killymorrison2136
    @killymorrison2136 Před 7 měsíci

    He talks like he cares about your men ,but he is a wolf in sheep's clothing

  • @michaelasmith6785
    @michaelasmith6785 Před 7 měsíci

    Your introduction was very prejudice and ignorant. Let's get back to the original Gospel which doesn't support far leftist views nor right but glorify Jesus. May the Holy Spirit lead and convict everyone to truth.

  • @WORDversesWORLD
    @WORDversesWORLD Před 7 měsíci

    Why in the hell would you teach this when you have said Christ has returned?