Just to clarify something, as I've gotten a lot of comments regarding this: this video is about enjoying alone time, not about living alone. I do not live alone, and I never said I did. You don't need to live alone to enjoy spending time alone. All comments implying that my video is misleading will be deleted. Thanks for watching.
@@rob_cdFor me it started around age 44. And I was a huge extrovert before that. I’m 50 now and my home is my fave place to be and I crave alone time. I am blessed that my husband understands this. ❤
Alone, but never lonely here. I love the quietness, the drama-less life. Being around others causes me anxiety. I can feel judgment every time I'm around other people and I just don't need it in my life. Love being me without the judgment.
That is so perfect! I notice that my friends look at me and vision my life from their perspective without really understanding me and my perspective. I love being alone and I am not lonely. Others wear me down.
I’m an introvert as well. I love silence, seclusion and solitude..I just dont enjoy the company of most people..my parents told me as a teen that there must be something wrong with me. They just didnt understand that I was perfectly ok..it makes me sad knowing that people still think that introverts have something wrong with them with them or are depressed…
Same here I was alwaays told that I had to learn to enjoy gatherings of people, wich I can not see the point of. I am now 52 and are still being told this by my mother...
When I meet new people Iam overwhelmed of what they say and do and I come home and review it for many days why they said what they said .people affect my nervous system and so I avoid talking to them asmuch as possible Iam an introvert ithink
Nothing wrong with you at all!! I think we introverts are exceptional. Self sufficient and really enjoy our own company. What could be better than that?!
As an introvert, I do hate that people think there is something wrong with being satisfied spending time alone. When my husband died three years ago after being married for 47 years I was able to adjust to being on my own. I don’t always like it, I miss his company so very much. But I am ok making my way on my own and many, even my own family, do not understand.❤
Its not people that think somethings wrong,its the extrovert narcissist. Thats what they do pretend its you that has some issues,projection is how they deal with the shame.
@buckeye7192: "As an introvert". You may be an empath, not an introvert. Read my comment (above) to eternity with jesus777", especially if you dream in color. Also, your husband may be close to you and can help you in times of troubles. Look for him in your dreams. Talk to him when you feel his presence, then pay attention to your dreams. I wish you well. PS: I love my alone time and spend almost all of my time alone.
I love to 5alk to strangers when I am out away from home I have no friends and my neighbors are not friendly. When I come home from being home around strangers I am exhausted
@@janeck.8695 Yes I agree - apparently I am an empath and we are like sponges around people sucking up words and implied meanings everywhere which is exhausting hence alone time is necessary 😀
I used to think I was an extrovert but what I realised is that I enjoy brisk interaction for about an hour then I need to be alone for the rest of the day 😂
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It's called balance. Everyone has a different balancing point but I do believe either extreme (wanting to be alone all the time or needing to be with lots of people all the time) is unhealthy. All my family are dead except one sister who choses to be estranged. plus I am a senior so I get my social interaction working part time in a store. A few hours a day with a steady stream of people, which I enjoy, then coming home to the blissful quiet of my home where I pursue solitary interests. The balance is right for me. I dread when I have no work and I am completely alone 24/7. That is not my balance.
My wife took that happiness away in an instant after 17 glorious years with dogs. Now I'm much more introvert, prone to tears and despair, much less active.
What I would give to live in a French cottage like that, in France - where my ancestors came from! That aside, I started being in introvert when society gave too many pressures on family - probably 30 years ago. I was a stay at home Mom and cared for my family. I now live in a home built in 1757, live as a modern day minimalist with 27 acres of woods and 5 acres of farm land. I rescue thrown away farm animals. I bake my own bread, grow my own herbs, dry my clothes on a line, dry my lavender and herbs, collect the eggs from my chickens who I adore. I seldom go outside my farm land - Maybe once every other week to get groceries of things not grown here. We live in harmony here. This is my sanctuary.
I know how you feel, as I only go out of my very rural home to walk my dog Madge, and to take the rubbish to the end of the lane. My home is my sanctuary, and I do not like going far from it. xxx
I’m an introvert, no husband, no children. It’s just me, myself and I. I have friends but not any close friends. Most of my friends are married, live out of state or are committed to someone and my time with them is limited. I don’t crave anymore to be somewhere doing something either by myself or with a friend. I’m 77 years old and just plain tired. I want to be more healthy. I long to have more energy to live each day productive and satisfied that the day was fulfilled. My peace is not in the city I live in but being with nature away from computers, the internet and iPhones. My peace is in the Africa bush with its wildlife, with the wind blowing in my face and a camera taking my best photos. I savor every moment living my best and feeling alive in the Africa bush.🦁🐘🦒
What a story similarity to myself, but one thing I concern about is when i get sick and no one to call for help, I know 2 people as kind of my friend, but we don't see each other or don't get connected much, maybe 4 times a year we talk, but other than that, nothing or no one else's. Any advice? Thank you ❤️
Hello, I can relate. I live in a big city and on my street are ALL married couples. Some are in their 30's and early 40's and all their friends are also people in their ages and they have their young children or teenagers. Yes, there are some older people too in my block, but they are always with their grown kids and grandkids. Since I am now a senior citizen, I feel I really have nothing in common as I have never been married and no kids or grandkids. There was one lady in her early 60's I used to talk to sometimes but even though she doesn't work (her husband works) , she was always busy every day taking care of her grandkids and then busy with her husband when he comes home from work. So I just felt she didn't really want to be friends, or have anything in common with me, because she is always busy with her family members. So it is hard to find friends anymore and I am alone most of the time. .
@@mariobruno5606 Yes, I am in the same situation. I have absolutely no family at all, not even a distant one. I have two cats. I don't even have a car so I can't really get out too much, especially with extremely hot weather around 100 degrees or more and too hard to take buses in this weather. I have to go out for groceries once week and post office next to market. I worry too, if I got sick what would I do and who will take care of my two cats. It is a hard life actually to be in this position. I don't have neighbors to talk to. They are busy with their jobs, spouse, kids or grandkids and all their family. I am like a lone sheep. . .
I love being on my own, I have a little dog,so I walk in the woods alot. Gardening, sewing are my pleasures. I have family whom I love dearly but being alone gives me inner peace ❤
At 67 I wish I had your insight at a younger age to nurture my inner ter soul. Always a ppl pleaser feeling guilty to care for myself. Never too late to find what makes you happy!
I am a introvert, it comes from being a only child. I have been accused of being stand offish or stuck up. I just am happy with my own company and family . I have a husband four kids and 8 grands. They are who I want to see .
I was always judged as being stuck up when in reality I was shy. I still am on occassion. I don't like crowds or get togethers. I retired az an elder caregiver where I worked one on one. Now when I go out to grocery shop or do errands I feel exhausted not because of the physical, I just feel drained being in stores that are always crowed
@@debc315Yes, stores and shopping centres are incredibly draining. I have a very short battery and feel anxious very quickly. Too much going on in those situations.
@@c.o3301 That is so true. I still enjoy shopping but it is not with the peace and joy the way it used to be. I am thankful that Our Lord provides for our needs. Peace was shattered last fall in Maine here after two mass shootings that occured not too too far from where I live and shop. If I didn't know Jesus as my Risen Savior I would be living in fear every moment.
My son is my only child. And he is an extrovert. He tries to be friends with all the children and adults he meets. He has problems. He did not speak until he was 4 and had a hard time understanding speech. But this did not stop him from making friends. He was just born an extrovert.
I can not tell you how much your lifestyle resonated with me.I have been called a "weirdo" because I enjoy solitude and my own company. I thought there was something wrong with me. But your video validated what I always thought: that being alone is fine.There is nothing wrong with me. Thank you for sharing and showing me that there are many other people like me. Beautiful video.
Lovely video. I am an introvert and am productive and peaceful when alone. However I have been happily married for 50 years this October. He understands me and he is a bit like me. He is not threatened by me needing space and our time together is wonderful.
You are lucky. 38 years married and my husband still doesn’t get me, he often calls me weird…lol. I don’t care what anyone thinks anymore, and I don’t go places anymore if I don’t want to. The first half of my life I did what others wanted me to. This last half of my life, I am only going do what I want, what makes me happy and if that is being by myself so be it. I hardly ever feel lonely, I enjoy my own company.
@@poodlegirl55 Same. Married 45 years. We love our time alone and with each other. We are both home body’s, love puttering around In the yard. Sitting out on the swing watching the dragonflies flit about the yard. Perfectly comfortable with complete silence. I know some family members think we are boring because we never go anywhere. But, we love being home and together.
As an introvert I was as a child made to feel that there was something wrong with me and told that I should stop being so shy talk more and that I lacked confidence. This was from my extrovert mother as well. Very damaging
@@susanhunt8594 I always remember my mum saying "you must toughen your heart dear". Something to this day I don't know how to do (you can't learn that)! I prefer my solitude 😀
Live with my two doggies and its my heaven on earth. I had horrible relationships with the men I had in my life. Worked through damages and its best im alone. Im best on my own. I am a very creative person and i need to nurture that part of me.
I have always been an extrovert but as I age I realize I have nothing in common with any of my friends, I started being more satisfied being alone. I too crave silence and being alone and it’s been difficult for everyone to understand since I have entertained them most of my life. I’m a people pleaser by birth and little by little I’m learning to say no. I envy the people who are true to themselves in the early part of their lives and not waiting till your 63.
Thank you for this. I had my heart broken ten years ago and decided the pain was something I would never wish to endure again. Since then I have found solitude and time to heal. I prefer my life now and at 70 years of age will probably be alone for good. I have happy memories too that I can draw on and a life well spent. God bless to all those who are alone. Be in good heart. X
An extrovert said to me that me wanting to take a nap would be a boring concept to her. I told her it's not boring when you are sitting outside, looking at my beautiful yard, reading a good book and dozing. I think she almost understood the concept. I just found your channel. Thank you!
I value silence above all else, I am finding it really difficult to find a home I will be happy in. My society keeps building new estates and the houses are all crammed together, shared driveways and neighbourhood fences to encourage community. Makes me feel more isolated. A world built for extroverts.
I soo can relate. My little town was soo ideal for quiet living now all the beautiful farm lands gone turned into sub divisions and homes crammed together. It’s soo sad bc now our little town is sooooo crowded to just go to grocery store post office.
It gets more difficult in India. No laws on the noise levels and no strict civic sense or rules. I won't give you details. But, please pray for me. I am a woman just like you. And I crave silence in nature.
After being a solo parent of 4 I love my solitude. People don't understand, they think it means depression, I am never depressed ! I have friends and belong to a crochet group. There isn't anything wrong with being alone if you like who you are.😊
What a beautiful place. Thanks for sharing. I'm an introvert too. I grew up as an only child, have no spouse or family but still okay with it. Peace, quiet, freedom, my cat, plants and Mother Earth is all I need. I feel more alone in a crowd.
“ feeling alone in a crowd” is what I am feeling these days. Age 80 and informed on current world events, it is easy to have uneasy settings with people who aren’t informed . I know this isn’t rare. Sad that I have had to come to conclusion to remove myself from some social settings with long term acquaintances.
@@sharyndonner6178 I have done the same, removing myself from more people and social settings. It's difficult to have conversations with those who have difficulties understanding the truths about our reality. If I had one regret in my life it would be that I didn't have the wisdom in my earlier years like I have today. I was so naive about the world back then. Life would have been so much different if I had the knowledge that I have today.
This really hits me in the heart spot! I have been working on pushing myself to improve different areas in my life and honestly, I am happiest when I am just sitting at home, reading a good book. Thank you for making this video 🥰
"it may seem like not much is happening, but in my head it is always in motion" is a beautiful way to describe with the missunderstanding that I've dealt with my whole life. Well spoken, and it's such a sad thing that many do not understand that.
I prefer my and my kids company...we have a lovely time together and always make the best of it...even if we don't have much🏡🌻. I like being alone,but yet i am not lonely...have a wonderful weekend🏡🌻💕... That place under that huge tree was beautiful🌳
Thank you so much for making this beautiful video! There is so much shame surrounding being an introvert as a child, you feel as if there's something defective about you. The more we accept ourselves as introverts, the more others may accept us. And if they don't, we still win because we learned to accept ourselves! 💖💖💖💖💖
She loves silence just like I do. The problem is when I don't want to speak, people around me think there's something wrong. Why can't they just understand, I don't want to talk. I prefer to keep quiet. It's a hard balance to strike, keeping them "happy" around me .
I'm a solitary man in my own French country home. I love having friends and family visit and stay, but ultimately I prefer the tranquility of solitude too. Lots of love to you. ❤🙂
My childhood: Alone time with the family dog, playing with my Barbies, sewing Christmas gifts for family members, making homemade concord grape jelly with the neighbors grapes or baking an apple pie to rival the one grandma used to make, bike riding anywhere and everywhere, because we could do it back then and make it home safely by nightfall, listening and singing to music, sometimes writing my own songs, and drawing whatever drew my attention to on that day, nature or the neighbors house, the picture on a greeting card, even my sister's doll baby. When the sun was good and hot I got my vitamin D from sunbathing while reading a good book. Those were the good old days.
This lovely film says so much that others, including myself, don't say for themselves. In a world that seems to thrive on noise, hurry and as the Irish say 'magpie chatter' any alternative life choice is looked upon with suspicion and often ridiculed. So well done Whimsical Berry, there are more of us that seek the things you eloquently describe, than you can imagine.
There's a difference between taking time for yourself and being alone all the time. Eventually you realise that live is one continual repeat. People really do need each other
I do understand you completely, I love my own company and enjoy it, the peace and quiet moments , the sound of the birds, it's just precious. Thank you for sharing your video, it's a plus.❤
I've attended and led over 35 silent retreats and the practice has served me well. I live alone because of family bereavement... I love my solitude..it sparks creativity!
always been introvert.. realized: more people more competition who is the loudest, who is the greatest clown, who is the person who everyone follow people in big groups are unneeded drama, usually pretty fake and toxic relationships drugs, alcohol, partying till 4am... waste of your time, money and health.. all just distraction from life and slowing you down to reach your goals building your ideal life.. small circle of friends and just your company and if you are pet person yes have a pet its enough for me! me and my dog explored new place in the forest it was lovely, peaceful day
I AM NOT AN INTROVERT, BUT I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY. MY THOUGHTS, BOOKS, MUSIC,...ARE MY COMPANY. SINCE I WAS A KID, I REMEMBER TO BE ALONE IN MY ROOM, READING OR JUST ENJOYING THE SILENCE. SOMETIMES MY MUM USED TO CALL ME, SAYING GO TO PLAY WITH THE OTHER KIDS,...TODAY I AM MARRIED WITH MY FREEDOM, MYSELF. IT IS THE HAPPIEST TIME OF MY LIFE. I AM 55Y, 2 KIDS, WHO HAVE THEIR LIVES. I AM LIVING IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY, ALONE!
I just found your channel and I pray I have peace, solitude and tranquility one day. Husband has a disease and I am on call as I am in same house. I am so very stressed, in my heart I dream one day I can enjoy the peace I so want. Blessings to you, you are blessed. Hi from Texas, I love what you say, and share. Thank you.❤❤❤
So much like me..I have a very blessed life..love being alone..I find my self interesting, and always am busy, doing what I love.. I was married 43 years..until death do us part..no children..72 Now..finding new freedom for me.❤
I'm a little hermit and I enjoy it utterly! I'll see people, oh once or twice a year, but mostly it's just me, my bloke and a great cup of tea! Let the world mock me, I am happy, it's good!
I am 68…married….my daughter is grown, educated, and on a great path..but what I crave most in my retirement is to be alone with peace and quiet…no computer…no electronics…just at home with myself …and my wife. We are returning home…to the desert….to starlike skies…to nature….to solitude…to a world of natural wonders….i love nothing more than reading a book…and letting my imagination run wild….just me and my thoughts…my dreams…and my desires….alone…..
I literally don't give a fig what people think about the way I live. I used to be a party girl until I had a bad accident and almost died. I took it as a sign to reevaluate my life and who I'd become. I stopped partying, started to hang out in my own company and got to know the real me without all the distraction. I sold my flat and now live in my van with my dog, Moo. At 56 I'm the happiest I've ever been wandering from place to beautiful place in nature. Being an introvert, to me anyway, is a gift I treasure. ❤
Thank you so much for this reassuring video and indeed all the positive comments fro others. From childhood, I've been happiest with my own company and have never, ever felt lonely From childhhod, I've been made to feel weird, abnormal, peculiar, selfish etc for not wanting people around me constantly. So it's lovely to know that I'm not alone in my craving for solitude!
I need to be in the company of very compatible people to feel happy and to choose to sacrifice my pleasant solitude which is very fulfilling for a while. These types of people are extremely rare, those who can offer me such an experience comparable to my joyful life alone. I never feel lonely by myself.I do feel frustrated or angry however when I am around 95% of people. Their ideas actions and words do not match mine. So it is very negative for my soul to hang around such people, groups or crowds. I find my company the best ! And also my animals and plants are a very good company. Only 5% of people I can stand interacting with without feeling disgusted afterwards.
I’ve turned into an introvert with age ..I am 62 and soooo at peace with my alone time now ..my social battery gets depleted quickly ..I get some solace and feel rejuvenated 😊
I love being alone, I am not lonely. I get a wonderful peace within my soul.I don't enjoy socializing, only one on one. I am married and have a 27 yr old daughter, she is not too much of and a introvert she likes her alone time, but thrives better with her friends around. My husband is and introvert too. My elderly Mother lives with us now. and it is so hard for her to understand why we dont talk all the time. But I just can't its wearisome to me. I'm glad she is here, but miss those wonderful days of being alone.
I am an introvert. Pretty much always was. I was married for 51 years. The first 13 years he was in the Navy and I was never really comfortable with having to do so much socialization. When he retired from the Navy, he went to work for AT&T, and again there were required parties, which I dreaded every time we had to go. he finally retired from there. We moved into a motorhome and traveled the United States for 14 years until he passed away in 2016. Yes, there was some socialization, but we could pick and choose what we wanted to do and the longer we did it the less we were inclined to join in. When he passed away, I moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter and bought a Townhouse. I pretty much kept to myself, since I tend to be a lot older than most of my neighbors, and my immediate neighbor, who is not friendly at all because she worked. I have trees behind me, and I was always happy to just be out there with the birds and squirrels, etc. Then my neighbor retired and all of a sudden after six years of never talking to me she started getting very friendly because she’s alone and has no family down here. She had to have a procedure done and told me she had no one to take her so I took her. Then I find out later that she does have a few acquaintances, and one offered to do it. well then she got friendly with the lady on the other side of her and I stayed away from her because she is a clairvoyant/channeling/reiki healing. I could not deal with that. Well, every time my neighbor sits out in the evening she text me and tells me to come out and I don’t know how to nicely tell her I don’t want to. the other night I was getting ready to take a shower at 6 PM because I wasn’t going anyplace. No one was coming over and she texted me and told me to come out and I said I was getting in the shower. She said it’s too early for you to get in the shower. Put your clothes on and come out. and I thought lady you’re not my mother number one and number two I’m 82 years old you’re 59 I don’t enjoy sitting with you. I am just so happy to be in my home and do some little crafting that I do. Trying to learn how to do simple watercolors and practicing calligraphy. While listening to soft music. It has gotten to a point where I dread taking my dog out because every time I do someone hears me go outside and they come out and start with all this drama that’s going on in the neighborhood. I just want to be left alone. I wish I had a stand alone house but with the economy and price of homes, moving is not an option. Thanks for listening.
It's awesome that I can sit in silence & feel so comfortable, I can enjoy my thinking time in solitude sipping tea or looking at nature, I can move about alone & enjoy the simple things along the way. I am never bored, even if I am not doing anything! I don't need much because so much is within me. I am ever so grateful that I have been created by the AL'Mighty to be this way..... Shalum to all you introverts, you are blessed!
Ironically, its nice not to feel alone in my introversion! You may find the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain to be helpful too. I finally felt that my own quiet nature was seen and validated after reading this book. I really enjoyed your video.
I am an introvert as well and I would love to live where you do! As you said when you’re alone you aren’t lonely and I’m the same way. I have friends who can’t understand why I like to be home and alone so much. The world beyond Ho e is so busy and noisy I have to have my alone time to recharge as well❤
I moved from a very urban area to a rural, mountain town in another state. My closest neighbors are cows now. It's wonderful. Haven't heard a police siren, ambulance siren, or planes flying overhead in years. Love it.
I'm old now and like nothing more than being left in peace, without others judging, complaining, ordering. Just my music, instruments and books. My one wish is to have my dog back because my life collapsed after she left.
As I’ve reached my 30s I’ve realised I’m an introvert. I love meeting other introverts because we can understand each other, and I’ve come to appreciate the way I am ❤
I too am an introvert. I do enjoy friends and family in small doses I seem to have a hard-wired maximum of 2 hours before I start to go crazy and want to leave and be alone.
"Just the right people is enough for me" ~ Yes. Thank you for sharing your peaceful way of living unabsorbed by all the noise in life. Peace & Blessings💞💫🙏
Alone on a hill looking at the ocean. Sitting by a creek with my feet in the water while I watch animals go about their lives. Always a book at hand. A quiet meal. That's me.
Finding this video has made my morning. I’m 74 been married 56 years and don’t like crowds etc. I have very few real friends who I know I can trust. I’ve always been made to feel ashamed or guilty because I prefer walks in the country or on the beach in winter when it’s empty. I felt inadequate because I wasnt in the ‘in crowd’ but now I’ve discovered so many people are the same and I feel that’s it ok to prefer a quiet life. Thank you and bless you.
Thank you so much for this beautiful, delicate and honest film. I am also someone who doesn't get my energy from people..... in fact, l sometimes need a few days of solitude to balance out social interactions. At the age of 59 l have grown to cherish this quality in myself and l don't feel that l "have to fit in" anymore.
I’m an introvert and moved from Belgium to the countryside in Sweden. Being alone is standard for me, winters are extremely alone. You’re so beautiful!
Hello from Canada. I am definitely an introvert as I work from home and all of my spare time is spent in my garden with the birds, butterflies, and squirrels. I have a comfy sitting place and I read and write. During our long winters, I use our spare bedroom which I've turned into a library. My husband is a dear but I don't mind that he works long hours and I have the house to myself for much of each day. I do worry about the time when he retires. He needs to find a hobby so that we each have our own time and we can come together in the evening and share our time then; like we always have.
I too, was always told I was an odd child. I am still told that now at 54. Never watched tv. Read books. Don’t like technology. Just want a simple, quiet, drama free life. I am always told that I deserve a holiday. I don’t want a holiday. They stress me. I just want quiet and calm. My dream is to live in a quiet secluded place with no noise or people close by. Wishing peace for everyone here who needs it.❤
I may be way off but, I empathise with this sisters choice of life style. I myself inadvertently disconnect from the people around me and find a simple way of living connects me to a deeper things. This sister must have such an amazing sense of peace….
Мне кажется, что интровертов на самом деле очень много. Просто действительно, с самого детства нам внушают, что это плохо. Но с приходом интернета многие перестали общаться вживую. Винят в этом интернет, но думаю, это происходит потому что так многим комфортнее, безопаснее, так многим проще быть более честными и настоящими, не подстраиваясь под кого-то. Я тоже интроверт. Я люблю одиночество, потому что оно делает меня свободной. Спасибо за Ваше видео, оно чудесно ❤❤❤
I'm happy with my own company and resonate with this. I guess the only trouble with this mentality is when most people still seem to appreciate one or two special people in their lives. Probably those people very much appreciate you too. If you always took the mentality that you're happy with your own company how would you have met them? I have a friend that is a musician and used to play out all the time, giving many people joy. He subsequently met his partner at a large gathering, and gradually decided he was happier just with her at home growing food, home schooling his children and became cynical about all the festivals and parties he used to go to. Of course, without those gatherings he wouldn't have had the family he now enjoys. I feel there is something selfish in not contributing to social life as much as you can, partly because you never know when you might meet someone that brings a fresh and valuable perspective to your life - none of us know it all - and because social gatherings are necessary for people to meet one another; even introverts may well want an intimate relationship at least, and an introvert at a party will certainly value the presence of another introvert that they can escape to a quiet corner with to catch a breath. I know because this happens to me. But this criticism is aimed at myself as much as anything. I have a dream house on a bit of land where I grow vegetables and have a smalle forest that I planted. I love the peace, and escape from judgement. I recently became quite paranoid from going to many social gatherings and then feeling like I'd been excluded. Strange considering I like being on my own anyway. The easy thing would be to say I don't need any of that, I'll just stick to myself and my routine. But I don't think it's the right thing to do. Groups of people have toxic characteristics. I think it's inevitable people strive for heirarchy, probably unconsciously, within groups, and this leads to jealousy, competition and other undesirable characteristics. But they're comprised of individual people that have their struggles the same as everyone else, you can contribute to their wellbeing by being understanding, and get a better perspective of your own issues by dialogue with others.
I feel fortunate to have been able to have so much alone time as a child, thanks to a single mother who worked all day, and grandparents who were happy I could occupy myself most of the time. The worlds I created then, alone or with a few well chosen friends, were all I needed to feel full. I never felt loneliness. Never had a moment where I didn’t have something to do when solitude came calling! Now, as an adult, I strive to maintain those same vast inner worlds. More than a decade ago, I met a woman as introverted as I am though, at times, she still wrestles with what society “expects of us” and with her more social upbringing. We’ve built an art practice that allows us to work from home full time and our days are often spent pursuing new ideas independently and together, working on our garden, caretaking our two cats and visiting with the birds and other small creatures we’ve drawn to our backyard. Of course, we each allow for plenty of individual alone time as well. Both of us love to write and to explore our inner worlds in that way as well. I can’t imagine my life being more full, nor adding much more to it. Silence and solitude are treasures. Each day is full. Thanks for sharing your own moments here. Be well!
Just to clarify something, as I've gotten a lot of comments regarding this: this video is about enjoying alone time, not about living alone. I do not live alone, and I never said I did. You don't need to live alone to enjoy spending time alone. All comments implying that my video is misleading will be deleted. Thanks for watching.
Nasty and intolerant.
The older I get the more I crave solitude. I like being by myself and I like being a homebody.
Me too. And I love to be home as well.
How old are you? I'm wondering when this starts to set in. In my 40s, I'm the same way.
@@rob_cdFor me it started around age 44. And I was a huge extrovert before that. I’m 50 now and my home is my fave place to be and I crave alone time. I am blessed that my husband understands this. ❤
@@DKR-1881 I love home too. Cooking hobbies and tidying up. i
After traveling so much in my forties and earlier fifties, I am the same. I love being home with my animals, husband, and youtube😊.
Alone, but never lonely here. I love the quietness, the drama-less life. Being around others causes me anxiety. I can feel judgment every time I'm around other people and I just don't need it in my life. Love being me without the judgment.
I like quiet time, and people don't bother me as long as they are well-behaved.
Exactly ❤
Exactly😘
Same. Well said
That is so perfect! I notice that my friends look at me and vision my life from their perspective without really understanding me and my perspective. I love being alone and I am not lonely. Others wear me down.
I’m an introvert as well. I love silence, seclusion and solitude..I just dont enjoy the company of most people..my parents told me as a teen that there must be something wrong with me. They just didnt understand that I was perfectly ok..it makes me sad knowing that people still think that introverts have something wrong with them with them or are depressed…
Same here I was alwaays told that I had to learn to enjoy gatherings of people, wich I can not see the point of. I am now 52 and are still being told this by my mother...
When I meet new people Iam overwhelmed of what they say and do and I come home and review it for many days why they said what they said .people affect my nervous system and so I avoid talking to them asmuch as possible Iam an introvert ithink
I suspect that many of us were taught to believe we were "broken", just because we are different. And Beautifully Different, I believe. 🌻
Same. The older I get the more I like being alone. I like solitude. I don’t like going out with people as much.
Nothing wrong with you at all!! I think we introverts are exceptional. Self sufficient and really enjoy our own company. What could be better than that?!
As an introvert, I do hate that people think there is something wrong with being satisfied spending time alone. When my husband died three years ago after being married for 47 years I was able to adjust to being on my own. I don’t always like it, I miss his company so very much. But I am ok making my way on my own and many, even my own family, do not understand.❤
Its not people that think somethings wrong,its the extrovert narcissist. Thats what they do pretend its you that has some issues,projection is how they deal with the shame.
@buckeye7192: "As an introvert". You may be an empath, not an introvert. Read my comment (above) to eternity with jesus777", especially if you dream in color.
Also, your husband may be close to you and can help you in times of troubles. Look for him in your dreams. Talk to him when you feel his presence, then pay attention to your dreams.
I wish you well.
PS: I love my alone time and spend almost all of my time alone.
Being around others wears me out. Then I seek solitude to charge my batteries. Thank you for this video.
I love to 5alk to strangers when I am out away from home I have no friends and my neighbors are not friendly. When I come home from being home around strangers I am exhausted
I feel exactly the same people being around people drains me I feel empty after a day around people
@@janeck.8695 Yes I agree - apparently I am an empath and we are like sponges around people sucking up words and implied meanings everywhere which is exhausting hence alone time is necessary 😀
I used to think I was an extrovert but what I realised is that I enjoy brisk interaction for about an hour then I need to be alone for the rest of the day 😂
Same ❤😂
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It's called balance. Everyone has a different balancing point but I do believe either extreme (wanting to be alone all the time or needing to be with lots of people all the time) is unhealthy. All my family are dead except one sister who choses to be estranged. plus I am a senior so I get my social interaction working part time in a store. A few hours a day with a steady stream of people, which I enjoy, then coming home to the blissful quiet of my home where I pursue solitary interests. The balance is right for me. I dread when I have no work and I am completely alone 24/7. That is not my balance.
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Who else is an introvert?
Definitely me❤
Everybody watching this. 😃🥹
me, and getting more so as I get older,
@@SIERRATREESsooo true! I dream when I watch these videos. I feel like I can finally breathe again. 🥰
Me ❤
Me and my dog is happiness
Oh that sounds good.
My wife took that happiness away in an instant after 17 glorious years with dogs.
Now I'm much more introvert, prone to tears and despair, much less active.
What I would give to live in a French cottage like that, in France - where my ancestors came from! That aside, I started being in introvert when society gave too many pressures on family - probably 30 years ago. I was a stay at home Mom and cared for my family. I now live in a home built in 1757, live as a modern day minimalist with 27 acres of woods and 5 acres of farm land. I rescue thrown away farm animals. I bake my own bread, grow my own herbs, dry my clothes on a line, dry my lavender and herbs, collect the eggs from my chickens who I adore. I seldom go outside my farm land - Maybe once every other week to get groceries of things not grown here. We live in harmony here. This is my sanctuary.
That is my dream too
Sounds like paradise 😊
I know how you feel, as I only go out of my very rural home to walk my dog Madge, and to take the rubbish to the end of the lane. My home is my sanctuary, and I do not like going far from it. xxx
I’m an introvert, no husband, no children. It’s just me, myself and I. I have friends but not any close friends. Most of my friends are married, live out of state or are committed to someone and my time with them is limited. I don’t crave anymore to be somewhere doing something either by myself or with a friend. I’m 77 years old and just plain tired. I want to be more healthy. I long to have more energy to live each day productive and satisfied that the day was fulfilled. My peace is not in the city I live in but being with nature away from computers, the internet and iPhones. My peace is in the Africa bush with its wildlife, with the wind blowing in my face and a camera taking my best photos. I savor every moment living my best and feeling alive in the Africa bush.🦁🐘🦒
Your life sounds amazing!
What a story similarity to myself, but one thing I concern about is when i get sick and no one to call for help, I know 2 people as kind of my friend, but we don't see each other or don't get connected much, maybe 4 times a year we talk, but other than that, nothing or no one else's. Any advice? Thank you ❤️
Hello,
I can relate. I live in a big city and on my street are ALL married couples. Some are in their 30's and early 40's and all their friends are also people in their ages and they have their young children or teenagers. Yes, there are some older people too in my block, but they are always with their grown kids and grandkids. Since I am now a senior citizen, I feel I really have nothing in common as I have never been married and no kids or grandkids.
There was one lady in her early 60's I used to talk to sometimes but even though she doesn't work (her husband works) , she was always busy every day taking care of her grandkids and then busy with her husband when he comes home from work. So I just felt she didn't really want to be friends, or have anything in common with me, because she is always busy with her family members. So it is hard to find friends anymore and I am alone most of the time.
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Yes, I am in the same situation. I have absolutely no family at all, not even a distant one. I have two cats. I don't even have a car so I can't really get out too much, especially with extremely hot weather around 100 degrees or more and too hard to take buses in this weather. I have to go out for groceries once week and post office next to market. I worry too, if I got sick what would I do and who will take care of my two cats. It is a hard life actually to be in this position. I don't have neighbors to talk to. They are busy with their jobs, spouse, kids or grandkids and all their family. I am like a lone sheep.
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Have you always lived in Africa? Have you traveled much out of the country? It does sound like a peaceful place where you live.
Ive always loved being in my own little bubble and world. Even as a child.
Me to
Me 3
Me 4, except isolation is worse.
I love being on my own, I have a little dog,so I walk in the woods alot. Gardening, sewing are my pleasures. I have family whom I love dearly but being alone gives me inner peace ❤
At 67 I wish I had your insight at a younger age to nurture my inner ter soul. Always a ppl pleaser feeling guilty to care for myself. Never too late to find what makes you happy!
I enjoy the company of animals.
Pets understand you without saying a verbal word and give unconditional love.
I love finding others who are similar to myself.
My sentiments exactly ❤
I do too. I spend a lot of time by myself. I love my CZcams channels and community. I think I like my own tribe.
I am my own best friend. I am alone but never lonely and I live without radio,tv, clock and until this year a calendar.
@@annea7526 You will like Rumi ❤
I'm an introvert when I'm with too many people even family I become anxious
Same ...... I can't wait to be away from people at the end of my workday ..... I relish the peace & the quiet !!!!!
I like to be with family at Christmas. Then I might not see them for month's and that is ok.
I am a introvert, it comes from being a only child. I have been accused of being stand offish or stuck up. I just am happy with my own company and family . I have a husband four kids and 8 grands. They are who I want to see
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I'm the same 4 kids 8 grands. Noone beside immediate family gets me.
I was always judged as being stuck up when in reality I was shy. I still am on occassion. I don't like crowds or get togethers. I retired az an elder caregiver where I worked one on one. Now when I go out to grocery shop or do errands I feel exhausted not because of the physical, I just feel drained being in stores that are always crowed
@@debc315Yes, stores and shopping centres are incredibly draining. I have a very short battery and feel anxious very quickly. Too much going on in those situations.
@@c.o3301 That is so true. I still enjoy shopping but it is not with the peace and joy the way it used to be. I am thankful that Our Lord provides for our needs. Peace was shattered last fall in Maine here after two mass shootings that occured not too too far from where I live and shop. If I didn't know Jesus as my Risen Savior I would be living in fear every moment.
My son is my only child. And he is an extrovert. He tries to be friends with all the children and adults he meets. He has problems. He did not speak until he was 4 and had a hard time understanding speech. But this did not stop him from making friends. He was just born an extrovert.
I can not tell you how much your lifestyle resonated with me.I have been called a "weirdo" because I enjoy solitude and my own company. I thought there was something wrong with me. But your video validated what I always thought: that being alone is fine.There is nothing wrong with me. Thank you for sharing and showing me that there are many other people like me. Beautiful video.
Lovely video. I am an introvert and am productive and peaceful when alone. However I have been happily married for 50 years this October. He understands me and he is a bit like me. He is not threatened by me needing space and our time together is wonderful.
You are lucky. 38 years married and my husband still doesn’t get me, he often calls me weird…lol. I don’t care what anyone thinks anymore, and I don’t go places anymore if I don’t want to. The first half of my life I did what others wanted me to. This last half of my life, I am only going do what I want, what makes me happy and if that is being by myself so be it. I hardly ever feel lonely, I enjoy my own company.
Sounds wonderful. And ideal.... 😊
@@poodlegirl55 Same. Married 45 years. We love our time alone and with each other. We are both home body’s, love puttering around In the yard. Sitting out on the swing watching the dragonflies flit about the yard. Perfectly comfortable with complete silence. I know some family members think we are boring because we never go anywhere. But, we love being home and together.
As an introvert I was as a child made to feel that there was something wrong with me and told that I should stop being so shy talk more and that I lacked confidence. This was from my extrovert mother as well. Very damaging
Me too. Still hurts me today and I’m in my 70s.
@@fluffylee41Yes I agree I find people draining too🤦
That was me as well as a child. It never goes away does it, I’m 74.
@@susanhunt8594 I always remember my mum saying "you must toughen your heart dear". Something to this day I don't know how to do (you can't learn that)! I prefer my solitude 😀
"Beware the barrenness of a busy life" -- Socrates -
I love solitude and what everything that comes from being an introvert 😊
Live with my two doggies and its my heaven on earth. I had horrible relationships with the men I had in my life. Worked through damages and its best im alone. Im best on my own. I am a very creative person and i need to nurture that part of me.
I'm so pleased to be amongst fellow introverts 😊
I have always been an extrovert but as I age I realize I have nothing in common with any of my friends, I started being more satisfied being alone. I too crave silence and being alone and it’s been difficult for everyone to understand since I have entertained them most of my life. I’m a people pleaser by birth and little by little I’m learning to say no. I envy the people who are true to themselves in the early part of their lives and not waiting till your 63.
Thank you for this. I had my heart broken ten years ago and decided the pain was something I would never wish to endure again. Since then I have found solitude and time to heal. I prefer my life now and at 70 years of age will probably be alone for good. I have happy memories too that I can draw on and a life well spent. God bless to all those who are alone. Be in good heart. X
Thank you and God bless you too
An extrovert said to me that me wanting to take a nap would be a boring concept to her. I told her it's not boring when you are sitting outside, looking at my beautiful yard, reading a good book and dozing. I think she almost understood the concept.
I just found your channel. Thank you!
“Just the right people, it’s enough for me”👌🏾
I value silence above all else, I am finding it really difficult to find a home I will be happy in. My society keeps building new estates and the houses are all crammed together, shared driveways and neighbourhood fences to encourage community. Makes me feel more isolated. A world built for extroverts.
This is so true! Unfortunately...
I soo can relate. My little town was soo ideal for quiet living now all the beautiful farm lands gone turned into sub divisions and homes crammed together. It’s soo sad bc now our little town is sooooo crowded to just go to grocery store post office.
It gets more difficult in India. No laws on the noise levels and no strict civic sense or rules. I won't give you details. But, please pray for me. I am a woman just like you. And I crave silence in nature.
After being a solo parent of 4 I love my solitude. People don't understand, they think it means depression, I am never depressed ! I have friends and belong to a crochet group. There isn't anything wrong with being alone if you like who you are.😊
I need a crochet group too. I feel lonely without one. I think every person needs one.
What a beautiful place. Thanks for sharing. I'm an introvert too. I grew up as an only child, have no spouse or family but still okay with it. Peace, quiet, freedom, my cat, plants and Mother Earth is all I need. I feel more alone in a crowd.
“ feeling alone in a crowd” is what I am feeling these days. Age 80 and informed on current world events, it is easy to have uneasy settings with people who aren’t informed . I know this isn’t rare. Sad that I have had to come to conclusion to remove myself from some social settings with long term acquaintances.
@@sharyndonner6178 I have done the same, removing myself from more people and social settings. It's difficult to have conversations with those who have difficulties understanding the truths about our reality. If I had one regret in my life it would be that I didn't have the wisdom in my earlier years like I have today. I was so naive about the world back then. Life would have been so much different if I had the knowledge that I have today.
@@matrixabandonedanddissolve9172 I have the same regret
You have a beautiful life.
There are a lot of us introverts out there. As one, I need more videos like this that I can enjoy and relate to. Thank you.
What peaceful and beautiful pictures of a woman happy with herself.
This really hits me in the heart spot! I have been working on pushing myself to improve different areas in my life and honestly, I am happiest when I am just sitting at home, reading a good book. Thank you for making this video 🥰
"it may seem like not much is happening, but in my head it is always in motion" is a beautiful way to describe with the missunderstanding that I've dealt with my whole life. Well spoken, and it's such a sad thing that many do not understand that.
I totally get it!
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I prefer my and my kids company...we have a lovely time together and always make the best of it...even if we don't have much🏡🌻.
I like being alone,but yet i am not lonely...have a wonderful weekend🏡🌻💕...
That place under that huge tree was beautiful🌳
Thank you so much for making this beautiful video! There is so much shame surrounding being an introvert as a child, you feel as if there's something defective about you. The more we accept ourselves as introverts, the more others may accept us. And if they don't, we still win because we learned to accept ourselves! 💖💖💖💖💖
Definitely me too. I have always preferred my own company when I get the chance.
She loves silence just like I do. The problem is when I don't want to speak, people around me think there's something wrong. Why can't they just understand, I don't want to talk. I prefer to keep quiet. It's a hard balance to strike, keeping them "happy" around me .
I have this with my large family too🤦
Seeing your two bikes lined up together is a picture that says everything. Love it. ❤
I'm a solitary man in my own French country home. I love having friends and family visit and stay, but ultimately I prefer the tranquility of solitude too. Lots of love to you. ❤🙂
'Your childhood defines who you're going to be as an adult.' - That's very true!
My childhood:
Alone time with the family dog, playing with my Barbies, sewing Christmas gifts for family members, making homemade concord grape jelly with the neighbors grapes or baking an apple pie to rival the one grandma used to make, bike riding anywhere and everywhere, because we could do it back then and make it home safely by nightfall, listening and singing to music, sometimes writing my own songs, and drawing whatever drew my attention to on that day, nature or the neighbors house, the picture on a greeting card, even my sister's doll baby.
When the sun was good and hot I got my vitamin D from sunbathing while reading a good book. Those were the good old days.
This lovely film says so much that others, including myself, don't say for themselves. In a world that seems to thrive on noise, hurry and as the Irish say 'magpie chatter' any alternative life choice is looked upon with suspicion and often ridiculed. So well done Whimsical Berry, there are more of us that seek the things you eloquently describe, than you can imagine.
There's a difference between taking time for yourself and being alone all the time. Eventually you realise that live is one continual repeat. People really do need each other
Hi 👋Pretty Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
I am for sure an introvert. I love people, but do not need to seek them out. I feel connected to them without having to be among them.
Great perspective to have, same here and loving it!
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I do understand you completely, I love my own company and enjoy it, the peace and quiet moments , the sound of the birds, it's just precious. Thank you for sharing your video, it's a plus.❤
I’m a true blue introvert.. and I love it ♥️
I agree. I love my alone time. Trusting the people in this world has never paid off for me. Lucky , I have a wonderful family
For me, my garden and my plants are happiness in life.
Beautiful.
Me too, and like to eat my own veggys
No one else to worry about. You can watch what you want on t.v. , go out when you want, it's great.
The older I get and realize the brevity of life. Good self care is something I'm not ashamed of but proud of.
I've attended and led over 35 silent retreats and the practice has served me well. I live alone because of family bereavement... I love my solitude..it sparks creativity!
always been introvert.. realized:
more people more competition who is the loudest, who is the greatest clown, who is the person who everyone follow
people in big groups are unneeded drama, usually pretty fake and toxic relationships
drugs, alcohol, partying till 4am... waste of your time, money and health..
all just distraction from life and slowing you down to reach your goals
building your ideal life..
small circle of friends and just your company and if you are pet person yes have a pet
its enough for me! me and my dog explored new place in the forest
it was lovely, peaceful day
I AM NOT AN INTROVERT, BUT I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY. MY THOUGHTS, BOOKS, MUSIC,...ARE MY COMPANY. SINCE I WAS A KID, I REMEMBER TO BE ALONE IN MY ROOM, READING OR JUST ENJOYING THE SILENCE. SOMETIMES MY MUM USED TO CALL ME, SAYING GO TO PLAY WITH THE OTHER KIDS,...TODAY I AM MARRIED WITH MY FREEDOM, MYSELF. IT IS THE HAPPIEST TIME OF MY LIFE. I AM 55Y, 2 KIDS, WHO HAVE THEIR LIVES. I AM LIVING IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY, ALONE!
I just found your channel and I pray I have peace, solitude and tranquility one day. Husband has a disease and I am on call as I am in same house. I am so very stressed, in my heart I dream one day I can enjoy the peace I so want. Blessings to you, you are blessed. Hi from Texas, I love what you say, and share. Thank you.❤❤❤
Same here....husband disease and am on call in the same house. You are not alone. We can do hard things. Peace to you.
We are not introvert , rather
We don't able to find that sort
Of people which our minds prefer
So much like me..I have a very blessed life..love being alone..I find my self interesting, and always am busy, doing what I love..
I was married 43 years..until death do us part..no children..72
Now..finding new freedom for me.❤
Hi 👋Pretty sweetie 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
I'm a little hermit and I enjoy it utterly! I'll see people, oh once or twice a year, but mostly it's just me, my bloke and a great cup of tea! Let the world mock me, I am happy, it's good!
p.s. I go barefoot all over too! Lovely!
Same!! ❤
I am 68…married….my daughter is grown, educated, and on a great path..but what I crave most in my retirement is to be alone with peace and quiet…no computer…no electronics…just at home with myself …and my wife. We are returning home…to the desert….to starlike skies…to nature….to solitude…to a world of natural wonders….i love nothing more than reading a book…and letting my imagination run wild….just me and my thoughts…my dreams…and my desires….alone…..
I literally don't give a fig what people think about the way I live. I used to be a party girl until I had a bad accident and almost died. I took it as a sign to reevaluate my life and who I'd become. I stopped partying, started to hang out in my own company and got to know the real me without all the distraction. I sold my flat and now live in my van with my dog, Moo. At 56 I'm the happiest I've ever been wandering from place to beautiful place in nature. Being an introvert, to me anyway, is a gift I treasure. ❤
Thank you so much for this reassuring video and indeed all the positive comments fro others. From childhood, I've been happiest with my own company and have never, ever felt lonely From childhhod, I've been made to feel weird, abnormal, peculiar, selfish etc for not wanting people around me constantly. So it's lovely to know that I'm not alone in my craving for solitude!
Oh my word . So felt this today. Conversation is exhausting sometimes. So resonate with your words.
I need to be in the company of very compatible people to feel happy and to choose to sacrifice my pleasant solitude which is very fulfilling for a while. These types of people are extremely rare, those who can offer me such an experience comparable to my joyful life alone. I never feel lonely by myself.I do feel frustrated or angry however when I am around 95% of people. Their ideas actions and words do not match mine. So it is very negative for my soul to hang around such people, groups or crowds. I find my company the best ! And also my animals and plants are a very good company. Only 5% of people I can stand interacting with without feeling disgusted afterwards.
I’ve turned into an introvert with age ..I am 62 and soooo at peace with my alone time now ..my social battery gets depleted quickly ..I get some solace and feel rejuvenated 😊
I love being alone, I am not lonely. I get a wonderful peace within my soul.I don't enjoy socializing, only one on one. I am married and have a 27 yr old daughter, she is not too much of and a introvert she likes her alone time, but thrives better with her friends around. My husband is and introvert too. My elderly Mother lives with us now. and it is so hard for her to understand why we dont talk all the time. But I just can't its wearisome to me. I'm glad she is here, but miss those wonderful days of being alone.
I am an introvert. Pretty much always was. I was married for 51 years. The first 13 years he was in the Navy and I was never really comfortable with having to do so much socialization. When he retired from the Navy, he went to work for AT&T, and again there were required parties, which I dreaded every time we had to go. he finally retired from there. We moved into a motorhome and traveled the United States for 14 years until he passed away in 2016. Yes, there was some socialization, but we could pick and choose what we wanted to do and the longer we did it the less we were inclined to join in. When he passed away, I moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter and bought a Townhouse. I pretty much kept to myself, since I tend to be a lot older than most of my neighbors, and my immediate neighbor, who is not friendly at all because she worked. I have trees behind me, and I was always happy to just be out there with the birds and squirrels, etc. Then my neighbor retired and all of a sudden after six years of never talking to me she started getting very friendly because she’s alone and has no family down here. She had to have a procedure done and told me she had no one to take her so I took her. Then I find out later that she does have a few acquaintances, and one offered to do it. well then she got friendly with the lady on the other side of her and I stayed away from her because she is a clairvoyant/channeling/reiki healing. I could not deal with that. Well, every time my neighbor sits out in the evening she text me and tells me to come out and I don’t know how to nicely tell her I don’t want to. the other night I was getting ready to take a shower at 6 PM because I wasn’t going anyplace. No one was coming over and she texted me and told me to come out and I said I was getting in the shower. She said it’s too early for you to get in the shower. Put your clothes on and come out. and I thought lady you’re not my mother number one and number two I’m 82 years old you’re 59 I don’t enjoy sitting with you. I am just so happy to be in my home and do some little crafting that I do. Trying to learn how to do simple watercolors and practicing calligraphy. While listening to soft music. It has gotten to a point where I dread taking my dog out because every time I do someone hears me go outside and they come out and start with all this drama that’s going on in the neighborhood. I just want to be left alone. I wish I had a stand alone house but with the economy and price of homes, moving is not an option. Thanks for listening.
I hear you. I sometimes wear this tshirt around that says on the front: "I like dogs and maaaybe 3 people."
Make a calligraphy sign for your yard and point it in her direction.
"We Introverts Love Our Alone Time".
It's awesome that I can sit in silence & feel so comfortable, I can enjoy my thinking time in solitude sipping tea or looking at nature, I can move about alone & enjoy the simple things along the way. I am never bored, even if I am not doing anything! I don't need much because so much is within me. I am ever so grateful that I have been created by the AL'Mighty to be this way.....
Shalum to all you introverts, you are blessed!
Ironically, its nice not to feel alone in my introversion! You may find the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain to be helpful too. I finally felt that my own quiet nature was seen and validated after reading this book. I really enjoyed your video.
Thanks for the recommendation 👍
I'm like you an introvert. ❤
Yes to everything you said. I'm just the same
I am an introvert as well and I would love to live where you do! As you said when you’re alone you aren’t lonely and I’m the same way. I have friends who can’t understand why I like to be home and alone so much. The world beyond Ho e is so busy and noisy I have to have my alone time to recharge as well❤
I moved from a very urban area to a rural, mountain town in another state. My closest neighbors are cows now. It's wonderful. Haven't heard a police siren, ambulance siren, or planes flying overhead in years. Love it.
Hello 👋Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
I'm old now and like nothing more than being left in peace, without others judging, complaining, ordering. Just my music, instruments and books.
My one wish is to have my dog back because my life collapsed after she left.
As I’ve reached my 30s I’ve realised I’m an introvert. I love meeting other introverts because we can understand each other, and I’ve come to appreciate the way I am ❤
It’s lovely. What a beautiful video.
I too am an introvert. I do enjoy friends and family in small doses I seem to have a hard-wired maximum of 2 hours before I start to go crazy and want to leave and be alone.
I find the inevitable micro aggressions I get from them, too much, and in the cost benefit analysis, solitude wins hands down.
There is so much truth in this video. Thanks for expressing just how I feel as an introvert. 😊😊😊
"Just the right people is enough for me" ~ Yes. Thank you for sharing your peaceful way of living unabsorbed by all the noise in life. Peace & Blessings💞💫🙏
Alone on a hill looking at the ocean. Sitting by a creek with my feet in the water while I watch animals go about their lives. Always a book at hand. A quiet meal. That's me.
평화로운 아늑한 농가의 분위기 좋아보입니다.
행복한 주말 보내세요!
Thank you for entering my life today..
I had to stop the video to comment! Just BEAUTIFUL. I wish I could live in the quiet countryside.
Finding this video has made my morning. I’m 74 been married 56 years and don’t like crowds etc. I have very few real friends who I know I can trust. I’ve always been made to feel ashamed or guilty because I prefer walks in the country or on the beach in winter when it’s empty. I felt inadequate because I wasnt in the ‘in crowd’ but now I’ve discovered so many people are the same and I feel that’s it ok to prefer a quiet life. Thank you and bless you.
I appreciate you having shared these beautiful moments with us. Thank you. The Garden Tiller Boy's mom.
Thank you so much for this beautiful, delicate and honest film. I am also someone who doesn't get my energy from people..... in fact, l sometimes need a few days of solitude to balance out social interactions. At the age of 59 l have grown to cherish this quality in myself and l don't feel that l "have to fit in" anymore.
I’m an introvert and moved from Belgium to the countryside in Sweden. Being alone is standard for me, winters are extremely alone. You’re so beautiful!
Having a wonderful inner world that no one tramples on, makes fun of, or judges....I just love being me- I find myself fascinating!😉
Hello from Canada. I am definitely an introvert as I work from home and all of my spare time is spent in my garden with the birds, butterflies, and squirrels. I have a comfy sitting place and I read and write. During our long winters, I use our spare bedroom which I've turned into a library. My husband is a dear but I don't mind that he works long hours and I have the house to myself for much of each day. I do worry about the time when he retires. He needs to find a hobby so that we each have our own time and we can come together in the evening and share our time then; like we always have.
I too, was always told I was an odd child. I am still told that now at 54. Never watched tv. Read books. Don’t like technology. Just want a simple, quiet, drama free life. I am always told that I deserve a holiday. I don’t want a holiday. They stress me. I just want quiet and calm. My dream is to live in a quiet secluded place with no noise or people close by. Wishing peace for everyone here who needs it.❤
I may be way off but, I empathise with this sisters choice of life style. I myself inadvertently disconnect from the people around me and find a simple way of living connects me to a deeper things. This sister must have such an amazing sense of peace….
That resonates with me on a personal level.Thank you for sharing❤
I’m an introvert and have always enjoyed my alone time as does my wife. We think it’s healthy to enjoy one’s own company. Thanks
Thank you, I needed to hear this, as someone who is trying to accept my introverted nature.
Esse cantinho para leitura e tomar um chá que lugar perfeito. Linda paisagem!
This is the life I want. I have always been an introvert. I love silence and Peace.
Such a beautiful video, both physically and mentally.
I recognize myself 100%
Regards from Sweden
Мне кажется, что интровертов на самом деле очень много. Просто действительно, с самого детства нам внушают, что это плохо. Но с приходом интернета многие перестали общаться вживую. Винят в этом интернет, но думаю, это происходит потому что так многим комфортнее, безопаснее, так многим проще быть более честными и настоящими, не подстраиваясь под кого-то. Я тоже интроверт. Я люблю одиночество, потому что оно делает меня свободной. Спасибо за Ваше видео, оно чудесно ❤❤❤
I'm happy with my own company and resonate with this. I guess the only trouble with this mentality is when most people still seem to appreciate one or two special people in their lives. Probably those people very much appreciate you too. If you always took the mentality that you're happy with your own company how would you have met them? I have a friend that is a musician and used to play out all the time, giving many people joy. He subsequently met his partner at a large gathering, and gradually decided he was happier just with her at home growing food, home schooling his children and became cynical about all the festivals and parties he used to go to. Of course, without those gatherings he wouldn't have had the family he now enjoys.
I feel there is something selfish in not contributing to social life as much as you can, partly because you never know when you might meet someone that brings a fresh and valuable perspective to your life - none of us know it all - and because social gatherings are necessary for people to meet one another; even introverts may well want an intimate relationship at least, and an introvert at a party will certainly value the presence of another introvert that they can escape to a quiet corner with to catch a breath. I know because this happens to me. But this criticism is aimed at myself as much as anything. I have a dream house on a bit of land where I grow vegetables and have a smalle forest that I planted. I love the peace, and escape from judgement.
I recently became quite paranoid from going to many social gatherings and then feeling like I'd been excluded. Strange considering I like being on my own anyway. The easy thing would be to say I don't need any of that, I'll just stick to myself and my routine. But I don't think it's the right thing to do. Groups of people have toxic characteristics. I think it's inevitable people strive for heirarchy, probably unconsciously, within groups, and this leads to jealousy, competition and other undesirable characteristics. But they're comprised of individual people that have their struggles the same as everyone else, you can contribute to their wellbeing by being understanding, and get a better perspective of your own issues by dialogue with others.
Me 🤚🏻 it’s nice to know there are others like me👍
I feel fortunate to have been able to have so much alone time as a child, thanks to a single mother who worked all day, and grandparents who were happy I could occupy myself most of the time. The worlds I created then, alone or with a few well chosen friends, were all I needed to feel full. I never felt loneliness. Never had a moment where I didn’t have something to do when solitude came calling! Now, as an adult, I strive to maintain those same vast inner worlds. More than a decade ago, I met a woman as introverted as I am though, at times, she still wrestles with what society “expects of us” and with her more social upbringing. We’ve built an art practice that allows us to work from home full time and our days are often spent pursuing new ideas independently and together, working on our garden, caretaking our two cats and visiting with the birds and other small creatures we’ve drawn to our backyard. Of course, we each allow for plenty of individual alone time as well. Both of us love to write and to explore our inner worlds in that way as well. I can’t imagine my life being more full, nor adding much more to it. Silence and solitude are treasures. Each day is full. Thanks for sharing your own moments here. Be well!