Men only behave secretively when they have something to hide. I know this from personal experience. So glad I choose to level up and love myself again. Wrote a book, became a coach, started a CZcams channel, and will be starting my own online academy 2021.
So happy to be apart of the The Blessed Tribe. Coach Tony gives us an excellent standard to go by now as we begin new relationships. Thank you Coach Tony Many Blessings to you and your family always. 🙏🏽❤️
My EX use to sleep wit his phone....he left one weekend and came back to echos in that house....I had packed and bounced....he was definitely cheating....! He hate me to this day for loving myself and not taking abuse from him.....I never looked back ✌
Str8 facts! I feel God gave it to us bcuz men will follow logic rather than intuition bcuz to them that's illogical. Problem with that...intuition has never failed. Ladies no matter what always listen to that inner voice/feeling.
Everything Tony said is true! This was also my experience unfortunately-I filed for divorce immediately after I caught my ex husband texting another woman while we were in the bed together and I was reading a book. I’m grateful for the marriage/divorce experience however as I’ve grown tremendously-personally, professionally, spiritually, bought my own home and dream car, put my daughter through college and got 3 promotions all after the divorce! Most importantly I now have PEACE! As Tony would say-“gone bout ya business”! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
The phone is how I found out my ex husband was having an affair. The turning of the phone screen, putting the phone face down, taking phone calls outside, taking the phone EVERYWHERE he went, sleeping with the phone, never wanting to talk because he’s on the phone, and changed the passcode on his phone and other Apple devices since they are linked. Honey, that phone will tell it all!!
The way Tony is with his wife is the very reason why him and men like him will always have haters. At the same time, windows of heaven pour down and into their lives. Faithfulness will always be rewarded, it's a universal law and principle. His marriage is proof that God redeems, restores and repays our mess ups and repentance. Their is hope! The tide is turning! Thank you Tony for being so transparent!
@@brendaleverick3655 You may have to get distance or remove the people who are unfaithful in your life as well in order to receive your blessings because they could be blocking your blessings also.
How can a Man trust in Christ when he restores and repays those who have broken others? Where is the Harmony for those that were hurt? Does Christ send them the same favor? If so what is the point of following Christ when we are going to get the same share? This has me in despair.
That's really how it is when you're in love! Then, when my husband yells at me for calling him and then hangs up on me. Then just went answer! It is heart crushing! I still have my soul!
The same here.. my ex asked me: " Is it a problem?" he got so mad! He cheated all the time and he was on dating sites while in a relationship with me..His reaction was: Oh that's 2 years old account 😂😂😂 but he was active! Later he said: "I did it on purpose because I knew you'll looking for me"😂😂😂 Ladies trust your intuitions!!! He will call you insecure and unstable! Noooo, listen to your second brain🙏 bye bye AJR ( his nick name on dating sites) 57 years old grown/ momma's boi🙈😂😳
Yep my ex-husband never left his phone around. He was cheating our whole marriage. He is now with the woman he cheated on me with and has been living with her since I left him. He has admitted that he is also cheating on her and he has a second secret phone that he keeps just for cheating lol. She wanted my problems, she got’em!
She's crazy to believe that she could date a married man and he left his wife to be with her and he would be faithful. That's a fool. Same way she got it, same way she'll lose em
Tony not lying, I was Ms New booty. Luckily I found out he was married before anything life altering at least for me happened. He said they was divorced and literally would spend nights out answer the phone all times of night. It was crazy to me when I discovered he was married. Absolutely no respect for his wife. Scared me honestly that a husband could treat his wife so poorly.
Proud of you for accepting the lesson and releasing the shame. May the Lord continue to strengthen you and heal you so you’re able love like you’ve never experienced this stuff again!
@@rochelledavenport4054 i agree, that’s our society. but no marriage is worth my peace of mind! I like sleeping peacefully at night knowing no one is cheating on me 😂
It would be a lot less of these emails if women just stop ignoring obvious signs. Self esteem gotta be high and stop begging to be with a man. If it doesn’t feel like love it isn’t love. People think because there is a relationship/marriage there is love. Most people just shacking up to not look lonely. It’s sad...I blame the lack of love songs available in 2020 and people are normalizing toxic relationships.
You are so correct Kiwi. People pity me for being single, but I rather maintain positivity and peace in my life than be in a relationship with the wrong person.
@@InspiredUno the problem is people bringing single behavior to marriage. When you are married there are certain things you can not do anymore. Even if you did it in dating, dating is not as serious as marriage.
@@breannn8238 true, and once they show you they want to act single...let them go. Married or not. Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn’t want you!💯
what tony said about a man wanting to ruffle a woman's feathers so she can make the move (to break up, essentially) is TRUE. i asked a friend why guys won't just say they wanna leave? he said straight out his mouth, that they care too much about a woman to hurt her feelings, so they either ghost her or make her mad enough so she can be the one to break up with him. SMH...well i'll be a monkey's auntie.
And yet everything they do to get us to break up with them hurts our feelings. And then they come back....a cycle that makes no sense whatsoever. And it's always after we've moved on...
My husband was “secretive” he would get up at 4/5 in the morning and go to the car and get phone and text, go to the gym or Barber shop but was cheating until I caught him talk to the girl and she told everything. He vowed not to cheat again which was a lie cause he started doing it without shame or a conscience. It was so public the whole town thought I was nuts for staying with him. I finally found myself and my worth and left him and filed for divorce
“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Mark 10:9. Many marriages sanctioned by GOD have been destroyed. People do not always stay with GOD, so when they leave GOD for worldly pleasures, they open wide the door for everything GOD had given them to be taken away. The fact that Jesus said “let not man”, naturally implies mankind has the power to destroy marriages. Jesus also chastised men for wrongfully divorcing their wives. Hebrew men were known for “putting away” the wife of their youth for a “younger woman.”
There shouldn’t be secrecy in a marriage. Y’all married. The two shall become one, once you sign that dotted line 🤷🏾♀️ . Especially with your phone and social media. This is becoming far too prevalent. He sounds like my ex husband. Luckily, I made my exit before he put me in a ⚰️ with his pitiful emotional games.
@@brendaleverick3655 it’s manipulating at its finest. I know Tony often says when you are dating there should be privacy which i agree with to a certain degree, however i feel once we are exclusive, these conversations need to be had. It will certainly save both men and women, the hassle once married. They always give you a preview of their behaviour so please pay attention ❗️
Good advice for all... “Every marriage God did not put together.” “When you dealing with someone acting childish always keep your class.” Thank you for helping others.
I was married 34 years, he cheated from day 1, astonishing how much he accused me of cheating (I never did), he liked getting caught too-also seemed strategic--wanted me to fight over him, I'd then lose weight, he gets attention....I'm free now, so happy I cry.
that's the proper time. like this one parent coach said that the best time to be a great parent and teach a child good manners is before they come into this world. the best time to know what tony is teaching us about men is before you get one.
Yes at least we can watch it from an objective perspective and as Mr Gaskins said we are mentally prepared without letting our emotions overtake the reality
I’m sorry but I’m convinced y’all email this man hoping he’ll enable you’re toxic situations/marriages, because some of these questions are high school as hell...if your gut says he’s cheating then 9x out of 10 he’s cheating. I only say this because I’ve been there but you guys have the answers to your own questions half the time.
Not laughing at Tony but he said he was a criminology major but he did not finish because he was a criminal. What can you say to that? 15 years in and they are playing hide and seek with the cell phone? Something is up...Not sure what. Women are like the FBI....If she wants to find out if he is cheating right in front of her she is going to know. Be Sherlock Holmes and do it quietly not like the character in Psycho!
Yes, my EX-HUSBAND was very secretive. Hiding his phone, taking it everywhere he goes, walks out the room when he takes a call or just doesn’t answer it at all.
My ex husband used to do that towards the end. That’s how I found out he was doing something. I followed the bread trail and after 10 years I had to go.
the fact that he is doing it to push her buttons...she needs to leave that grown boy ALONE. So what y'all been together for 15 years...if he's not treating you right in year 16 it's time to GO...and it looks like he's just acting a fool to act a fool...she doesn't need that nonsense
This man is hiding in plain sight, the respect is gone like Tony said. He so caught up in doing wrong and it feels so good to him, he could careless about getting caught. He looking for an argument from her so he can bounce. I pray that yall can work it out IF you both work towards it, because it takes two willing people and right now he's left the building ( his mind is somewhere else)🙏💖
Hiding the phone is a red flag whatever the situation is. Catch and cut that quickly ladies and gents. Otherwise it's a sure headache. Toxic behavior needs to be cut fast!Don't entertain the wrong people toss them to the lion's quick!
Don’t even bother trying to discuss it. You may be wrong but you’re never in doubt!!! If you stay, wherever his phone rings, you’ll be on edge. Move on.
My ex husband was the same. GTG! I was the fool them come to find out he was “engaged” to another woman for a yr. should’ve left when I started seeing the red flags in this video. I hope yours ends up differently! Also 😶😐😶
My ex of 5 years would jump over furniture if I even look like I was going to touch his phone and I have learned many lessons on how to respect love and honor myself stay strong ❤️
People who have nothing to hide , hide nothing! My ex did this and he was messing around with his ex wife! ( his 5th ex wife that is 🙄 ) I was " crazy " was his answer when I asked why he was doing this! A total player straight up!
@@InspiredUno You're 100% right! I should have known better! I was way too gullible and felt bad for him because he had battled cancer! He used me for money ( I was helping buy his meds and supplies ) and to get back at his ex! So glad I am away from that now!
@@kellyellis6080 oh no!!! Married MULTIPLE times is a big Red Flag! Not usually the women..but it works both ways if a woman marry MULTIPLE times something's NOT right!!
My ex husband was so disrespectful he would have his phone locked and on silent... l sleep much better now with knowing I'm not a foolish woman being cheated on!
My take on this is that if you have to check on somebody’s phone, track them, married or not, try to figure out who they’re talking to, it’s time to leave them.. they obviously don’t love you and they’re looking for an easy out clause by getting caught. The first time that I have to wonder and worry about somebody’s phone, I’m out! I would call his bluff and leave.
This is exactly what happened to me.. I got arrested when I didn’t think and went to the house of the lady he was seeing and caught him. I went crazy I had no class. I’ve learned my lesson now
I’m not in this situation. I’ve been single for quite awhile but, Tony’s words feel like a hot sword🗡 rite though the heart♥️😑 I know he’s completely rite. But, I know my heart would be hurting after listening to his answers.
Don’t lose your cool. Don’t go off. Don’t do nothing. Stay cool, calm and collective. Because you’re classy. You’re respectful. You’re responsible. You know your worth. You can be fine by yourself. So don’t stoop to his level. Don’t throw things. Don’t hit him. - Tony
My sister always say try on those emotions! What is the worst that would happen? If he leave, if you get a divorce, if he dies, and so on! Try on those emotions! Think it through!
I am here for the knowledge and the laughter. On a serious note, may GOD bless her for the decision she have to make. Its not going be easy, but GOD can and will give her the strength to move on.
Sounds like the writer also has a pattern in attracting and entertaining secretive men. She said her dad, uncles etc were secretive. She’s subconsciously used to that. I pray she makes the right decision after doing more research on why he’s acting this way. I wonder if she saw these signs before they got married and/or early in the marriage.
There's nothing Godly about confusion.... Period. There's no confusion or difficulty about Loving someone, it's the easiest, joyous, expression to display. God wouldn't line you up for no hot mess, he wants us to be Blessed.
Tony, how does one (husband) still get butterflies after 15 years? That's mind blowing to me. I'm sure it is awesome; however I don't know any men who would say this.
Phone glued to him, turning phone face down, and about to lost a limb trying to keep you from the phone...9 out 10 he is up to something💯 Signs are CLEARLY there. But like most women...ignore them.
Tony you have great comedic timing; it really helps with the delivery of your message. The way you give advice by adding a bit of comedy is therapeutic.
Thank you so much for bringing your gifts to help shed some light on much needed subjects that are unbiased. You have a powerful delivery and I love the way you joke (in the bathroom Doing the #0) rofl to make light of a situation. May God continue to keep you and bless you and your family and am of your listeners and doers of the word .
'I was a criminology major, I didn't finish naah cause I used to be a criminal' 😂😂 Tony's voice and reactions are so funny. Dropping gems TG, this is better than Netflix 🔥 Bless 👏🏾
tony brung it back at 17:10. this man is the truth. And am convinced that Tony is a great good brother, therapist, teacher, and positive role model. I don't have the audacity to mention this brand to other men to gain such enlightenment, because noone cares enough to give me any guidance on these topics except my mother's brother, but he's not skilled in preaching for helping others.
He is done with the relationship but he wants her to end it just in case it doesn't work out he can try to weasel his way back. The reason he's hiding the phone is the new person.
Awesome message Mr. Tony reminds me of what I went through Thank God for deliverance and as women we see the signs but we ignore them but I'm divorced and ladies always put God in what ever you decide keep up the good work Mr Tony💪💪💪
I'm so happy she asked this question and you made a video about it because it really puzzle me when men behave that way. Why do it if you really have nothing to hide
Tony it feels right for you both because you're right for her and vice versa. You have made the choice to grow from within and be the quality man and not quantity...
Tony, i feel so blessed being able to watch your videos and get all the answers to my questions about relationship, business and life purpose. You're turly The Lord's vessel. May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY AND KEEP SAFE You and Your Beautiful Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
Tony, what you said about your wife..... that was EVERYTHING! It showed me how I need to start looking at my own relationships. Not with just my significant other, but friendships and family as well. Thank you for the message and be blessed.
I love your wisdom. Married for 15 years 1st marriage and 2 years on second marriage, unfortunately due to the damage from the 1st marriage I overthink pretty much everything, I see things that aren't happening. I check things every now and then as well, just to give me peace. But to the point, sometimes there isn't fire, we could be in our heads.
Men only behave secretively when they have something to hide. I know this from personal experience. So glad I choose to level up and love myself again. Wrote a book, became a coach, started a CZcams channel, and will be starting my own online academy 2021.
@@browneyezmzs7312 I will sis!💕
YES!! Just subscribed boo🥰. Please subscribe back ❤️❤️
Just subscribed
Yo go girl!!!😘
Thats beautiful! Thanks for sharing your gift to the world 🌎 🙏
The fact he said his wife gives him "butterflies" it gives me hope, for women.
Warmed my ❤️
Yaaaaasssss 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yes..that was cute. Butterflies after 13 years..that's special...and rare.
Awww that was so sweet of him.🥰
So happy to be apart of the The Blessed Tribe. Coach Tony gives us an excellent standard to go by now as we begin new relationships. Thank you Coach Tony Many Blessings to you and your family always. 🙏🏽❤️
My EX use to sleep wit his phone....he left one weekend and came back to echos in that house....I had packed and bounced....he was definitely cheating....! He hate me to this day for loving myself and not taking abuse from him.....I never looked back ✌
Not echos 😭😌
Good for you, sis. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. You love to see it.
If it didn't fit in the car, i left it.
YES 👍🏾 sis that's how it should be 👍🏾
Good for you. You did the right thing.
Trust your intuition...thats all the evidence you need.
Amen , am learning that the hard way to trust my intuitions
Yes I agreed trust your intuition and never ignore red flags
Truth! I learned this the hard way. 🤦🏾♀️
mine cheated for 37 years, he ruined my intuition, so Yes, I think cheating should be a crime.
Str8 facts! I feel God gave it to us bcuz men will follow logic rather than intuition bcuz to them that's illogical. Problem with that...intuition has never failed. Ladies no matter what always listen to that inner voice/feeling.
What's done in the dark will come to light, and thank God he has created it to operate so!
This is THE entire truth!
You ain’t never lied!!!!!
Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
And thanks for technology. It will expose you every time because it is quick access.
How bout that!
My pre-nuptial agreement will read “I’m not a killa but don’t push me”. I’m so sickkk of deceitful men.
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Classic quote!!
Me too i guess I'll be by myself for a while tired of dating and trying to compromise
🤣🤣🤣 Facts
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Everything Tony said is true! This was also my experience unfortunately-I filed for divorce immediately after I caught my ex husband texting another woman while we were in the bed together and I was reading a book. I’m grateful for the marriage/divorce experience however as I’ve grown tremendously-personally, professionally, spiritually, bought my own home and dream car, put my daughter through college and got 3 promotions all after the divorce! Most importantly I now have PEACE! As Tony would say-“gone bout ya business”! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Girl you was goin bout cha business before Tony even said it 🙌
@@christinewarren8134 Exactly sis! 💪🏾👊🏾
Look at you showing off. You better do yo thang girl CONGRATS!
@@takiyahharper3967 sis i aint made at you. I had to do the same 2 and half years ago. Never looked back.
@@nyny1042 Thank you so much-God is TOO GOOD!
The phone is how I found out my ex husband was having an affair. The turning of the phone screen, putting the phone face down, taking phone calls outside, taking the phone EVERYWHERE he went, sleeping with the phone, never wanting to talk because he’s on the phone, and changed the passcode on his phone and other Apple devices since they are linked. Honey, that phone will tell it all!!
Yes, it will! In reality, I’m glad it does as I broke it off before it became permanent.
Giiiiirrrllll 😞😞😞😞
Glad you left him!
Yes my ex husband was the same way.
Straight facts💯
If you cant look at your husbands phone yall probably shouldnt be together.
You absolutely should NOT be together!!
That part
no trust = no marriage.
Amen phones always kept hid
Key…🔑HUSBAND NO PRIVACY PERIOD!!!
The way Tony is with his wife is the very reason why him and men like him will always have haters. At the same time, windows of heaven pour down and into their lives. Faithfulness will always be rewarded, it's a universal law and principle. His marriage is proof that God redeems, restores and repays our mess ups and repentance. Their is hope! The tide is turning! Thank you Tony for being so transparent!
Well, my faithfulness has rarely been rewarded, unfortunately.
@@brendaleverick3655 You may have to get distance or remove the people who are unfaithful in your life as well in order to receive your blessings because they could be blocking your blessings also.
How can a Man trust in Christ when he restores and repays those who have broken others? Where is the Harmony for those that were hurt? Does Christ send them the same favor? If so what is the point of following Christ when we are going to get the same share? This has me in despair.
Whew some women go through alot in these marriages...life is just too damn short to be tolerating that nonsense.
"She's just calling to tell me what color car in traffic" - TG 😂 I literally busted out laughing. She just wants to talk to her baby, that's so cute.
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Isn’t it! 😍❤️❤️❤️
That was a good one! 😂
That's really how it is when you're in love! Then, when my husband yells at me for calling him and then hangs up on me. Then just went answer! It is heart crushing! I still have my soul!
“You still checking him about his phone, that is a sign that y’all married wrong.” TG
Facts!!!💯
My lord!!
You shouldn’t of married that guy...
"Is it a problem?".... That's EXACTLY what it IS. ..
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🗣 THAT PART ‼️‼️
He’s a clown for that one.
The same here.. my ex asked me: " Is it a problem?" he got so mad! He cheated all the time and he was on dating sites while in a relationship with me..His reaction was: Oh that's 2 years old account 😂😂😂 but he was active! Later he said: "I did it on purpose because I knew you'll looking for me"😂😂😂 Ladies trust your intuitions!!! He will call you insecure and unstable! Noooo, listen to your second brain🙏 bye bye AJR ( his nick name on dating sites) 57 years old grown/ momma's boi🙈😂😳
Cheating should be a crime honestly
Absolutely!!!!!
I agree.
Lol
It used to be a capital punishment.
@@confessionsofagirlpilotgro2594 We should go back to that!
Yep my ex-husband never left his phone around. He was cheating our whole marriage. He is now with the woman he cheated on me with and has been living with her since I left him. He has admitted that he is also cheating on her and he has a second secret phone that he keeps just for cheating lol. She wanted my problems, she got’em!
Lol...lol...lol "She wanted my problems, now she got em"
😂 the way you got him....you know the rest. She think she got some and can change him
She's crazy to believe that she could date a married man and he left his wife to be with her and he would be faithful. That's a fool. Same way she got it, same way she'll lose em
Now that is MESSY!!!!!
It's the "she wanted my problems...she got em" for me🤣 I bet she think she "won" because he with her.🤣 You got the last laugh for sure.
Tony not lying, I was Ms New booty. Luckily I found out he was married before anything life altering at least for me happened. He said they was divorced and literally would spend nights out answer the phone all times of night. It was crazy to me when I discovered he was married. Absolutely no respect for his wife. Scared me honestly that a husband could treat his wife so poorly.
Proud of you for accepting the lesson and releasing the shame. May the Lord continue to strengthen you and heal you so you’re able love like you’ve never experienced this stuff again!
Wow....its good you left....u don't need that Karma....
Respect! You rarely hear women say this.
That’s so sad.. I’d honestly rather stay single forever than be in a marriage like that 😣 prayers up!
Trust me, it’s certainly better
We do live in an extremely matrimony-centric society, but I couldn't agree more!
@@rochelledavenport4054 i agree, that’s our society. but no marriage is worth my peace of mind! I like sleeping peacefully at night knowing no one is cheating on me 😂
If a marriage has no honesty, there is no marriage.
It would be a lot less of these emails if women just stop ignoring obvious signs. Self esteem gotta be high and stop begging to be with a man. If it doesn’t feel like love it isn’t love. People think because there is a relationship/marriage there is love. Most people just shacking up to not look lonely. It’s sad...I blame the lack of love songs available in 2020 and people are normalizing toxic relationships.
You are so correct Kiwi. People pity me for being single, but I rather maintain positivity and peace in my life than be in a relationship with the wrong person.
I was looking for this statement, in my opinion, it's common sense. "Aye gimme that phone." No questions asked.
Misery loves company. Blessings to them.
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Preach Sis. Facts💯
The worst hurt for a fool is a fool by himself. Walk away, without an argument, and never again with that fool💯👍❤💕
Agreed. For me personally - no shelter, boy, good luck with that, now leave
Tony always speaks truth. He says it from a mans perspective-not what you hope to hear but what you MUST hear.
When he says the video is going to be quick ...you know it’s going to be long lol 😂 but I’m not complaining 🙌🙌🙏 thank you for the knowledge!!
My sister's name is Deidra💕
Right....it is never short🤣🤣
You better preach, Tony!! All marriages are not blessed by God...FACTS!!
That man is cheating! Hiding your phone and acting weird is a huge red flag. I hope God gives her the peace and strength to leave if need be.
Everyday, twice on Sunday
I hope so to. Marriage shouldn’t be so desired that you’ll stay in it even when a man has shown you he doesn’t want it.
@@InspiredUno the problem is people bringing single behavior to marriage. When you are married there are certain things you can not do anymore. Even if you did it in dating, dating is not as serious as marriage.
@@breannn8238 true, and once they show you they want to act single...let them go. Married or not. Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn’t want you!💯
Do the same to him show him a mirror. It’s very disrespectful..
what tony said about a man wanting to ruffle a woman's feathers so she can make the move (to break up, essentially) is TRUE. i asked a friend why guys won't just say they wanna leave? he said straight out his mouth, that they care too much about a woman to hurt her feelings, so they either ghost her or make her mad enough so she can be the one to break up with him. SMH...well i'll be a monkey's auntie.
That is so immature. I would rather a man be straight up instead of wasting my time.
There don’t care all that much because they cheat. That hurts our feelings!!!
And yet everything they do to get us to break up with them hurts our feelings. And then they come back....a cycle that makes no sense whatsoever. And it's always after we've moved on...
They don't care too much but they are afraid that if they say it first it will be too difficult to come back whenever they want to
I honestly think grown boys do this to support their "victim" card. They want 2 shift the blame on the female.
My husband was “secretive” he would get up at 4/5 in the morning and go to the car and get phone and text, go to the gym or Barber shop but was cheating until I caught him talk to the girl and she told everything. He vowed not to cheat again which was a lie cause he started doing it without shame or a conscience. It was so public the whole town thought I was nuts for staying with him. I finally found myself and my worth and left him and filed for divorce
The reason why is doing it in front of his wife is because he lost respect for her. He probably has a whole relationship with another women/men.
There's a difference between secrecy and privacy.
Facts !
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Yes! YES !! YES!!" I LOVE THAT!! Finally, someone else who said All marriage IS NOT By GOD!! What God put together no one can "put assunder".
Amen!!!🙏
“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Mark 10:9.
Many marriages sanctioned by GOD have been destroyed. People do not always stay with GOD, so when they leave GOD for worldly pleasures, they open wide the door for everything GOD had given them to be taken away.
The fact that Jesus said “let not man”, naturally implies mankind has the power to destroy marriages. Jesus also chastised men for wrongfully divorcing their wives. Hebrew men were known for “putting away” the wife of their youth for a “younger woman.”
Just love those phone call interruptions you get from your wife
There shouldn’t be secrecy in a marriage. Y’all married. The two shall become one, once you sign that dotted line 🤷🏾♀️ . Especially with your phone and social media. This is becoming far too prevalent. He sounds like my ex husband. Luckily, I made my exit before he put me in a ⚰️ with his pitiful emotional games.
I hate when men have lots of secrets and don't want any questions asked.
@@brendaleverick3655 That makes my blood boil.
@@brendaleverick3655 it’s manipulating at its finest. I know Tony often says when you are dating there should be privacy which i agree with to a certain degree, however i feel once we are exclusive, these conversations need to be had. It will certainly save both men and women, the hassle once married.
They always give you a preview of their behaviour so please pay attention ❗️
Good advice for all...
“Every marriage God did not put together.”
“When you dealing with someone acting childish always keep your class.”
Thank you for helping others.
If my future husband doesn't love me like Tony loves his wife...then he will NOT be in my life. I am worth the wait.
That's a red flag: answering a question with a question
That man trying her like a baser. She needs to come home one day with divorce papers and a uhaul truck. And the truck is for his stuff.
Like a tyler perry movie
I was married 34 years, he cheated from day 1, astonishing how much he accused me of cheating (I never did), he liked getting caught too-also seemed strategic--wanted me to fight over him, I'd then lose weight, he gets attention....I'm free now, so happy I cry.
Taking notes 📝 even if I’m single
Right!!! Me too 😩😩😩
that's the proper time. like this one parent coach said that the best time to be a great parent and teach a child good manners is before they come into this world. the best time to know what tony is teaching us about men is before you get one.
Yes at least we can watch it from an objective perspective and as Mr Gaskins said we are mentally prepared without letting our emotions overtake the reality
Same! I’m single too, this is the best time to take notes! These messages are priceless and life saving!
I’m sorry but I’m convinced y’all email this man hoping he’ll enable you’re toxic situations/marriages, because some of these questions are high school as hell...if your gut says he’s cheating then 9x out of 10 he’s cheating. I only say this because I’ve been there but you guys have the answers to your own questions half the time.
Whewww, I try to be understanding but come on now it’s not that hard.
@@ravenharkins5572Ik Tony bout tired of it 😂
@@Bre.995 yesss lol
Yes, I've thought the same😒
This comment should be the most liked 👍🏾 in the comment section because I swear 😓!!!!...count this as comment 5k 🎉
Not laughing at Tony but he said he was a criminology major but he did not finish because he was a criminal. What can you say to that? 15 years in and they are playing hide and seek with the cell phone? Something is up...Not sure what. Women are like the FBI....If she wants to find out if he is cheating right in front of her she is going to know. Be Sherlock Holmes and do it quietly not like the character in Psycho!
I was in tears when he was talking about being a criminal!!! Hahahaha
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Yes, my EX-HUSBAND was very secretive. Hiding his phone, taking it everywhere he goes, walks out the room when he takes a call or just doesn’t answer it at all.
Yes!!! Not answering it at all says a lot!
My ex husband used to do that towards the end. That’s how I found out he was doing something. I followed the bread trail and after 10 years I had to go.
the fact that he is doing it to push her buttons...she needs to leave that grown boy ALONE. So what y'all been together for 15 years...if he's not treating you right in year 16 it's time to GO...and it looks like he's just acting a fool to act a fool...she doesn't need that nonsense
He did say to check the comments 😆🙌🏾
This man is hiding in plain sight, the respect is gone like Tony said. He so caught up in doing wrong and it feels so good to him, he could careless about getting caught. He looking for an argument from her so he can bounce. I pray that yall can work it out IF you both work towards it, because it takes two willing people and right now he's left the building ( his mind is somewhere else)🙏💖
@@dangdeionn Right!!!!!!
@@dangdeionnlol My thoughts exactly smh
Hiding the phone is a red flag whatever the situation is. Catch and cut that quickly ladies and gents. Otherwise it's a sure headache. Toxic behavior needs to be cut fast!Don't entertain the wrong people toss them to the lion's quick!
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Don’t even bother trying to discuss it. You may be wrong but you’re never in doubt!!! If you stay, wherever his phone rings, you’ll be on edge. Move on.
Ladies please be careful, my ex/son father got violent with me, when our son was 4 months old because I was trying to look at his phone.
If you have to search his phone it’s over!
Tony I love when you talk about Mrs Gaskins and your love. It makes me smile.
That's my husband, never had a problem before with his phone. Now he take it everywhere , it's always in his pocket..
Aw man... mine did that.. and he DID have something to hide. 🤦🏾♀️
Same with my ex, took it all the time in the bathroom to shower, run to the car, every room everywhere
My ex-grown “boy” friend’s phone after eight months started being attached to his hip. He was most definitely hiding something. I broke it off!
My ex husband was the same. GTG! I was the fool them come to find out he was “engaged” to another woman for a yr. should’ve left when I started seeing the red flags in this video.
I hope yours ends up differently! Also 😶😐😶
My ex of 5 years would jump over furniture if I even look like I was going to touch his phone and I have learned many lessons on how to respect love and honor myself stay strong ❤️
Whew child!!!! This is my truth. I am sooo angry I wasted my time with the wrong person.
People who have nothing to hide , hide nothing!
My ex did this and he was messing around with his ex wife! ( his 5th ex wife that is 🙄 )
I was " crazy " was his answer when I asked why he was doing this! A total player straight up!
Girl, the red flag was the multiple ex-wives...so glad you got out of that. Who wants to be the sixth wife?!?! Keep leveling up sis!!!
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You're 100% right! I should have known better! I was way too gullible and felt bad for him because he had battled cancer! He used me for money ( I was helping buy his meds and supplies ) and to get back at his ex! So glad I am away from that now!
@@LA-wv7gf thats a Soultie!!!
@@kellyellis6080 oh no!!! Married MULTIPLE times is a big Red Flag! Not usually the women..but it works both ways if a woman marry MULTIPLE times something's NOT right!!
They all say we are the crazy ones to throw us off. 👦🏾 👋🏾
My ex husband was so disrespectful he would have his phone locked and on silent... l sleep much better now with knowing I'm not a foolish woman being cheated on!
I know I’m not the only one who loves you and Mrs. Sherri’s marriage - now thAT is the real deal folks! 😍❤️❤️
He still gets butterflies?! 😯 You know she does too! ❤️❤️
Tony we don't mind the interruptions, your an amazing husband. Always pick up for Mrs. Gaskins. Merry Christmas, God Bless ❤ you all.
My take on this is that if you have to check on somebody’s phone, track them, married or not, try to figure out who they’re talking to, it’s time to leave them.. they obviously don’t love you and they’re looking for an easy out clause by getting caught.
The first time that I have to wonder and worry about somebody’s phone, I’m out! I would call his bluff and leave.
The ear phones as a purse always have me laughing at Tony lol!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love it when Tony put his fake headphone handbag on and packs his stuff and goes 🤣😂😂
God will reveal it , stay calm, cool and collected God will reveal it .🙏 m
Merry Christmas Gaskins Family God Bless you all 🙏
This is exactly what happened to me.. I got arrested when I didn’t think and went to the house of the lady he was seeing and caught him. I went crazy I had no class. I’ve learned my lesson now
Ouch 😣
I’m not in this situation. I’ve been single for quite awhile but, Tony’s words feel like a hot sword🗡 rite though the heart♥️😑 I know he’s completely rite. But, I know my heart would be hurting after listening to his answers.
I know right 😩😩😩
Don’t lose your cool. Don’t go off. Don’t do nothing. Stay cool, calm and collective. Because you’re classy. You’re respectful. You’re responsible. You know your worth. You can be fine by yourself. So don’t stoop to his level. Don’t throw things. Don’t hit him. - Tony
The phone is the key for sure, but after 15 years that's a huge red flag. Do as Tony says and LEAVE if he doesn't respect your request sis!
Yo Tony! ....... let us pray.
I feel for that lady from the first message u read. I hope she realised she deserves to be happy.
In my experience the guy was still communicating with his ex so he would hide his phone or put it face down when he walked away
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That's what my husband is doing
@@diamonds2diamonds370 sorry 😢
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My sister always say try on those emotions! What is the worst that would happen? If he leave, if you get a divorce, if he dies, and so on! Try on those emotions! Think it through!
“You already know the reality because you live in it. You already know what’s going on. ‘Scratch a text find a cheat!’”
I am here for the knowledge and the laughter. On a serious note, may GOD bless her for the decision she have to make. Its not going be easy, but GOD can and will give her the strength to move on.
Amen I agree Sis
Man I’m glad to here this before I’m married. I’m 29 and looking for the right one. Thanks for this Tony💪🏾
Sounds like the writer also has a pattern in attracting and entertaining secretive men. She said her dad, uncles etc were secretive. She’s subconsciously used to that. I pray she makes the right decision after doing more research on why he’s acting this way. I wonder if she saw these signs before they got married and/or early in the marriage.
There's nothing Godly about confusion.... Period. There's no confusion or difficulty about Loving someone, it's the easiest, joyous, expression to display. God wouldn't line you up for no hot mess, he wants us to be Blessed.
Bro Tony you telling the truth, that man is bold to ask his wife is it a problem. .
“What did you say ya name was? I done forgot. Got to go.” 😂
Tony, how does one (husband) still get butterflies after 15 years? That's mind blowing to me. I'm sure it is awesome; however I don't know any men who would say this.
Phone glued to him, turning phone face down, and about to lost a limb trying to keep you from the phone...9 out 10 he is up to something💯 Signs are CLEARLY there. But like most women...ignore them.
This is good teaching!! He’s so on point. God bless you & lady Charisse!!
So thankful these videos are free and available 🙏🏼
God bless u Tony and your family!! U give me hope . Keep preaching the truth!!!💙👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A women never leave her home. She can take a break to another room and decide if it’s really over.
Aww Tony, you always speak so highly of your queen. I love it 🥰
Tony you have great comedic timing; it really helps with the delivery of your message. The way you give advice by adding a bit of comedy is therapeutic.
“ it feel like I been with my wife 5 MINS. “ 😂🤣 ok Tony we get it, you got a perfect marriage 🙏🏾😂❤️
Yesssssssss, ain't it the greatest! I loves me a good, healthy marriage. Shout out to The Gaskins. Continued Love and Blessings.
Yes Tony has a healthy marriage. Its positive and great. I bless the man of God for his loyalty. I will not curse at all and I am happy for him.
Yes! Secretive behavior. Please share. Thank you for your support and for sharing of your wisdom.
I was a criminal while I was a criminology major. I hollered wasn't ready for that Tony you CRAZY!
“What you say your name was? I done forgot” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 TG I look forward to your videos- learning valuable lessons while getting a good laugh!!
Thank you so much for bringing your gifts to help shed some light on much needed subjects that are unbiased. You have a powerful delivery and I love the way you joke (in the bathroom
Doing the #0) rofl to make light of a situation. May God continue to keep you and bless you and your family and am of your listeners and doers of the word .
My heart is with you sis. You have a right to dig all in! I’ll be thinking about you 💗 you are never alone.
'I was a criminology major, I didn't finish naah cause I used to be a criminal' 😂😂 Tony's voice and reactions are so funny.
Dropping gems TG, this is better than Netflix 🔥 Bless 👏🏾
tony brung it back at 17:10. this man is the truth. And am convinced that Tony is a great good brother, therapist, teacher, and positive role model. I don't have the audacity to mention this brand to other men to gain such enlightenment, because noone cares enough to give me any guidance on these topics except my mother's brother, but he's not skilled in preaching for helping others.
He is done with the relationship but he wants her to end it just in case it doesn't work out he can try to weasel his way back. The reason he's hiding the phone is the new person.
Yay! I've been looking for it today! Thank you Tony!
Awesome message Mr. Tony reminds me of what I went through Thank God for deliverance and as women we see the signs but we ignore them but I'm divorced and ladies always put God in what ever you decide keep up the good work Mr Tony💪💪💪
I'm so happy she asked this question and you made a video about it because it really puzzle me when men behave that way. Why do it if you really have nothing to hide
Tony it feels right for you both because you're right for her and vice versa. You have made the choice to grow from within and be the quality man and not quantity...
Tired of it. After 20 years of Marriage He is still secretive. Rather be by myself now.
Mine too...after 21...almost 22 years of marriage...i hate this
Whew I needed to see these comments! Thank y’all! I’m wishing the best for y’all! Sending my love♥️
I did it after 37 years. you can do it too! You will love it. Can't buy "peace" at the liquor store/ATM.
@@AJ-ls7tn Its ok AJ, this ain't our home, BUT seek the truth, Al-Anon says "love cannot exist for long without the dimension of justice."
@@mmommo-hx4dx How did you get the courage to leave....I salute you...🙋🏽♀️
Tony, i feel so blessed being able to watch your videos and get all the answers to my questions about relationship, business and life purpose. You're turly The Lord's vessel.
May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY AND KEEP SAFE You and Your Beautiful Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST!!!
AMEN!!!!
"Is it a problem" 😭 he is a manipulator
Mrs.Gaskins so lucky !!! Tony keep being so Great to her an shine bright!!!
Tony, what you said about your wife..... that was EVERYTHING! It showed me how I need to start looking at my own relationships. Not with just my significant other, but friendships and family as well. Thank you for the message and be blessed.
I love your wisdom. Married for 15 years 1st marriage and 2 years on second marriage, unfortunately due to the damage from the 1st marriage I overthink pretty much everything, I see things that aren't happening. I check things every now and then as well, just to give me peace. But to the point, sometimes there isn't fire, we could be in our heads.
Thank you for building your life and marriage the right way. This blesses God and everyone!
Amen
🙏🏽🙏🏽 This is a topic I've always been curious about. Yes, fifteen years is a long time. Great message. Darkness will constantly be exposed.