How Does Permissive Parenting Affect The Child?
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- čas přidán 9. 06. 2024
- Permissive parenting isn't good for your children because it causes so many negative side effects for your children even in the long run. Listen in to today's episode as I tell you some of the effects of this type of parenting on your children now and in the future.
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Nicholeen Peck
Teaching Self-Government
Key Moments in this Episode
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00:00 Intro
00:23 Effects of Permissive Parenting
03:10 Entitlement
04:17 Loneliness
05:31 Lack of respect for authority
06:27 Poor family bond
07:33 Lack of foresight
08:59 Why people resort to it
09:50 They want to be babied
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About Nicholeen Peck
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Despite your best efforts at raising children, is your family dysfunctional? Do your children set the rules and have control of your home instead of you? Are you looking for parenting skills that will help you create a united, happy family?
Then meet Nicholeen Peck, one of the world’s most effective parenting experts. Whether you want to fix child behavioral issues, create more unity in the home, or simply strengthen your family relationships, her proven system - Teaching Self-Government - can help you turn chaos into calm.
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Since 1999, her seminars, workshops, one-on-one training sessions, parenting videos and books have helped thousands of families worldwide regain peace, be happy and maintain unity in their home. The secret? Learning how to use effective family systems based on parenting that’s deliberate and pro-active (instead of reactive). It all starts with the principles of self-government. If you’re a family of faith, you’ll especially love how your faith and values can be woven into her parenting system.
In 2009, Nicholeen and her husband starred in the BBC reality TV show, “The World’s Strictest Parents” (watch here: bit.do/StrictestParents). She became an overnight sensation by turning around two out-of-control teenagers from England after just one week - without shouting, threats or manipulation. Her amazing success comes from the positive parenting techniques of using calmness, effective communication and principles of self-government.
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* Author of “Parenting: A House United,” “Popular Parenting Methods: Are They Really Working?,” “Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success” and many other books and magazine articles.
* President of The Worldwide Organization for Women (WOW).
* Nicholeen regularly speaks at the United Nations and other congresses around the world as an advocate for strengthening families and motherhood.
* In 2009 her family was featured on the BBC reality show, “The World’s Strictest Parents.
* Trained as a foster parent for Utah Youth Village.
* Has parented many troubled foster children.
* Successfully raised (and raising) four children of her own.
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This is my ex best friend. Growing up, her parents let her do whatever, have whatever and disrespect them in any way. She is very selfish, she expects everything handed to her, she does not like advice, she does not see ahead to the woman she is becoming, she gets angry when people don’t listen to her, she is very depressed and anxious and finds herself in controlling romantic relationships to find the authority she so secretly craved. None of her friendships lasts on account of her. It’s a shame our friendship had to end because I started setting up personal and financial boundaries which she did not like.
This sounds like my ex best friend too! I had to set boundaries and that’s when she finally stopped speaking to me. She does permissive parenting to her two kids and they are growing up to be just as bad as her
My little nieces are headed this way. Unfortunately, I can't intervene.
Thank mom and dad for saying “NO” seriously I get it now
Right? I'm so grateful my parents told me "no" as well. Great life lessons learned!
The single most helpful parenting video I’ve seen since my child was born 5 years ago
I was highly blessed to have an upbringing that was firm without being overly strict. It's made me learn independence and at school I wanted to pass but didn't care for the highest of grades.
Same
I remember her from World's Strictest Parents! She is fab. And absolutely right. The worst thing I hear a parent say is " my child is my best friend ". Meal time and bed time structures and pleases and thank yous are the basic starting points.
This is some great insight. My step son has all of these qualities to a T. Its really hard to watch his parents be permissive. I know what he needs but being the step mom limits me and he has been parented like this for 13 years. He is with us every other weekend so its not easy. I'm trying to find tools for my husband to be able to change his ways for his sons benefit. He is 13 years old and I see it getting worse. The child really needs counseling and so much more but hes not getting any of that. I will continue to watch your videos. they are great.
I'm so glad this was helpful! Dual parenting and households is so hard for everyone involved. Consistency is rarely a reality and everyone has different ideas for how to raise the children that are bouncing between parents and houses. The best thing for you to do is talk with your husband about it, then try and get both of you on the same page. Perhaps show him some of these videos or look on my website at some of the courses we have available. The TSG Parenting Course is super helpful and it's something the 13-year-old could participate in as well!
Here's the link for the course, if you're interested: teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
I wish you the best!
Very good! Permissive parenting is incredibly destructive!
It definitely is!
I have these parents. I despise them for the way they raised me. I’m 16 now and am suffering greatly. They apologise way too much. There’s also a lack of drive and passion in the family. They’re always negative and one of them is abusive, manipulative and neglectful. Whenever I have an issue I respond immaturely in anger and just leave the room. They always end up apologising which makes me confused and upset. In some ways, it feels like I’m more mature than them.
Because one of them is abusive, the other parent is so lenient and allowing for them that whatever one parent asks of them, the other does for them, almost like a maid. One time my dad was taking a bath and spilled quite a large amount of water on the floor and my mother just cleaned it up. It made me so furious because if someone makes a mess, that is their responsibility to clean it up. And my father isn’t disabled or anything, he can 100% clean up after himself. It’s ridiculous. I despise my father the most. He is currently unwell and almost died and maybe this is very sick to think, but I genuinely just don’t care how he is feeling. In fact, I’d rather him dead (again probably a very messed up thing to say). But things would be 50% better if he wasn’t here living with my mother and I. I don’t understand how my mother ended up with a man 12 years older than her that somehow still acts like a child.
Also like I mentioned, my parents are neglectful. My mother probably doesn’t realise it or meant to be this way but they both are. I’ll give some examples: Until the 7th grade, I didn’t know you were supposed to use soap when showering. I didn’t know you were supposed to floss your teeth until recent. I thought deodorant was optional etc. I was never taught about puberty, s3x, life lessons, NOTHING. And when I recently became vocal about the fact that I don’t brush my teeth, my mother said that I’m almost a woman and should know how to be hygienic. How the hell am I supposed to be hygienic when you only taught me it one time? They were and are never consistent with anything they teach or instil in me.
Ive never seen the house not messy and not dirty at the same time. I have never seen my dad use a vacuum. There is dried food and stains everywhere around the house. Ever since my dad moved in last year (because my parents very divorced but my father had to move back here since my grandmother died) there has been multiple mice in the roof, backyard and in the house. This has never happened prior to last year because my mother and I have lived together without him.
Sorry for the long essay-like comment but i need to express what’s happening. I don’t know what to do anymore. I struggle with being productive and cleaning because the house is never clean anyways and my parents never force me to do anything. I absolutely hate it here. It’s as if I was in hell. I’m incredibly jealous of my friends because they have parents and homes that are normal. Like I mentioned earlier I’m 16 and I would like to be more independent but my parents baby me so much to the point where I don’t know how to carry myself. How do I develop self discipline, being emotionally mature, respectful and independent? It’s like I’m left to raise myself since they never did. If anyone could give me some tips on how to be a basic hygienic human being that would be greatly appreciated.
It sounds like a heavy load to think about or have on your mind. I am NOT a parenting expert but I am a parent and I was an emotionally neglected child - at least to my recollection.
I currently have a 16 yr old son who hates to be reminded to do things and yet blames us for not reminding him to do them. It is very frustrating for us.
Now, as an adult and parent who is on a healing journey, the best thing I could offer to you right now, based on the situation you are in, is to do a self inventory. Most importantly, remember this one critical factor, we all - parents and children alike - do the best we can with what we know and know how to do. Tools without a toolbox get lost, broken or misused. A toolbox with no tools inside is only an empty box.
With that out of the way, to the items that bother you about what your parents do or don’t do, ask yourself what the healthiest way to approach resolving those issues might look like. Look at and for healthy and regulated examples and find out what is working in those models/examples. You are coming of age where you may desire to have leadership but maybe also feel reluctant to submit to it too. You won’t be able to heal your parents BUT you can start your own healing journey right now by loving and respecting yourself enough to not wait for them. Start by forgiving (releasing) others who you feel indifferent or oppositional towards. Next, find and print or copy out the most detailed emotion wheel you can find. Seek out for yourself (on YT) emotional regulation, secure attachment, empathetic and compassionate inquiry. Get a couple of journals and start writing down things that come out. The wheel will come in handy here.
As you identify the core feelings, anger, disgust, sadness, happy, fear and surprise, you can flow back and identify the second and third layers of emotions that weren’t attended to or acknowledged that led to core one. An example is, “I am afraid because I feel insecure and I feel insecure because I feel inadequate or worthless. I feel this way because that one time (?) I thought I was being brave or felt confident trying something new but nobody noticed or encouraged me or they made a comment that hurt me.” So after that you help yourself and encourage yourself with a healthy response that is validating and supportive like, “wow! Look at you go! That was brave of you to do and you tackled it. I’m really proud of the effort you put into that!” Now replace you with “me” or “I” and say it to yourself.😉🥰
Don’t put any undue energy or focus on waiting for your parents ti fix anything because they might not. They could but they might not. The best thing you can do for yourself if you desire change is to start stepping into growth and maturity because that what you want. In the meantime, give yourself and others some grace and space to grow and always treat yourself and others with respect - not because they deserve it but because it’s the person who you are deciding to become.
It is with much encouragement and hope, I pray you find the information you need for own journey and someday help encourage someone else who is struggling as well.🥰
I hope you are doing well since posting, My heart went out to you reading this. Not a parent yet, but I can relate to feeling like an out of place teenager. Don’t despair! Life lessons come with time, teenage hood always feels heavy and all important and that every feeling you have is so strong. It will get better. Your parents may not be able to help you grow, but the great thing is we can learn to be good humans on our own. As for hygiene? Soap is good, ( fragrance free for sensitive areas) regular hair wash with shampoo. Brushing teeth pretty straight forward with brush and paste. You may want to try a razor if you want to shave, maybe start with armpits? Soap area before you shave! Pull across the hairs carefully, then rinse the blade and go again. Deodorant each morning. I Dunno if that helps but that’s the basics I guess! Bless you
my parents have a very similar dynamic and i’m 16 too. i always hated growing up like that. like feeling like i was always missing something or that there was something wrong with me. in actuality i was facing neglect. they didn’t take care of me. i’ve had to learn everything from scratch, including how to cultivate a work ethic, motivation, and start caring for myself more. the last part is the most difficult; how am i to care for myself when my own parents barely ever did? but i’ve had to start looking outside of myself and my fucked up family and towards bigger things i’m looking forward to. for example i’d love to pursue a higher education and find a fulfilling job when i’m older. id also love to join varsity sports team. so i know that to achieve these goals i need to get good grades and work on my fitness, so it’s what i’ve been doing. in the end it comes down to how willing you are to make changes. i ended up hating how i turned out from such lousy parenting and ir sounds horrible but i channeled my anger for my parents into becoming an excellent student and i’m getting fitter everyday.
@@aliasgirl9 see this comment was a while back, but it is such valuable advice in a very warm, unjudgmental supportive manner. 👏🏽👏🏽
I was raised by 2 authoritarian parents and now I’m a permissive parent. I have a long standing history of long standing depression and some days I don’t have the energy to discipline my children.
I know exactly how you feel. I've gone through times of depression myself. I made a video about it that I think will help you:
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You've got this!
I've been raised by a permissive parent for a long long time and I'm not yet an adult and I admit I'm selfish, lazy, and I lack work ethic. But I also have severe anxiety and I'm depressed sometimes and feel alone. I dont look like j have anxiety so, this never has alerted my my. I dont like authority from my Mom or people that I feel dont deserve my respect. I wouldn't say I'm horrible but I'm bad enough sometimes. I dont like to talk about things with my Mom so, is there anything I could do to help myself? Maybe to find a work ethic and follow through? I'm just an extreme procrastinator and I am lazy. But when I'm motivated I work hard and I'm happy to do it. If there's anything you think could help me help myself please let me know.
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This is exactly what I needed. My step daughter, who’s 4, her mother parents like this but my husband and I don’t. We aren’t strict but we believe through wrong doings, there’s consequences, learning to self regulate, work hard for things and gain independence. Her mom, complete opposite. Just lets her do whatever, endless screen time, doesn’t discipline, and we can see the change in her by how she parents. Sense of entitlement, wants everything, can’t stand to hear no, struggles with self regulating, she tells us to put her things away for her, I can just go on and on. It’s horrible. Her mom completely enables her, and even though we are teaching a child, they will forever be an adult and a child once
Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts!
Thank you so much for this video. It has woken me up to the fact that perhaps we have been parenting our 7 year old son in this way for quite some time now.. It would be great to have some kind of follow up video maybe with strategies for parents who have permissive parented and who wish to overcome this. Your video sent shivers down my spine
Omg. I love your video. Your message helps me notice my blind spots. Stuff I overlook by being loving and permissive. I have neurological challenges so struggle with routine and structure myself so i kind of disregard enforcing this with my child. But the way you explain it.. makes me want to try harder to try bring some structure into our lives.
Wonderful! Set goals and make plans to reach those goals. Then be consistent and you should do great!
Oh, my word, I have the same struggles 😣 the neurological problems. So discipline - eating at the same time, going to bed at the same time, even worse - at a descent time consistently is THE HARDEST thing for me 😫 So I’m always exhausted, always 15 steps behind and falling into the passive parenting trap for lack of energy and time 🤦♀️ I feel awful to not give my kids more structure and the mom they need. And I hate that that’s what see from the grownup they spend the most time with. But I can’t seem to get a hold of changing these bad habits 🤦♀️ I hear these videos and I get a boost of motivation to do better at self governing myself every time. I just keep falling short 😓 I’ll keep trying though 🙏🏼
I love your honesty, this is hard info to hear but critical to parenting properly. Thank you.
This is me but my child is now 16 so I'm guessing it's too late now. I wish I knew this before. Excellent video. Thank you for this!
A lot of people think that it's too late once their children are older. However, I've had many grandparents and parents of grown children take my courses and implement TSG in their homes and it's been a huge blessing for them! Teaching Self-Government isn't just parenting. It's meant to improve relationships of all kinds, no matter where you are in life. The skills we teach are life-long skills needed in every sort of relationship. Don't give up! You still have plenty of time to improve your relationship with your child.
Wow! You nailed the descriptions! I was raised by a permissive, single mother. Lets just say.. My early adulthood (17-21 years old, once I was officially on my own) was an absolute disaster:
No understanding of rules or consequences. Very risky behavior. Narcissistic. Lazy, fat. BPD. No friends. Just an overall, terribel person.
Thank you heavens above, an angel walked into my life (my best friend and partner) and showed me the light (naturally, not intentionally) and I've fixed most of these problems. However, it is very hard to reverse narcissistic tendencies I will say.
That's rough! I'm so glad you have changed the trajectory of your life and found someone to help support you in your healing and heart-changing journey.
My brother and his wife have this parenting style. She is only 5 but she always gets what she wants. She starts crying for whatever demand she wants fulfilled and her parents give up as soon as she starts crying. She frequently calls other adults in the house idiots with no consequences. Although she has been caught lying on several occasions but she is resorting more and more to lying because there hasn't been any consequences for it. She constantly hits adults in the house. Her screen time is around 6 hours per day. I told them that kids should understand the authority of adults and learn discipline. My brother somewhat agreed with me but his wife asked me not to interfere.
It sounds like there's an issue with family roles. While your brother's wife is within her role as Mother to ask you not to interfere, there's no harm in recommending resources that could help or simply pointing out what their daughter's behavior is doing to others. Also, you can take note and see what you don't want in your own parenting and relationships and make the changes you need to to shift behaviors and mindsets.
Just discovered you. Excellent content, presented so nicely and clearly. Thank you very much!
You're very welcome!
I really appreciate this and committed to learn and do better!
Thanks wonderful!
Didn’t expect this. Amazing
I'm glad you were able to learn something new!
Quite honestly surprised this doesn't have as many likes as it should :/ But glad i found this video all the same^-^ Liked and subscribed, thanks for making this video:):)
Thank you so much!
my mother was lackadasical and THIS i feel, SPEAKS to me!
I have a brother.
he was the trouble maker,
and I was the lonely one.
This is me I had two permissive parents and now I struggle . I don’t respect authority , I have a small friend group , I dropped out of middle school , I don’t have family that I talk to . But im trying to learn so I can help my child grow up with a sense of reality . My dad and mother literally had physically to die for me to leave the nest. I was 22 homeless and a prostitute .Now I work a legal job , am a wife and I am a mother at 24 I’m very codependent now . I love my parents and regret nothing this is just the life that was given to me I’m just working on what I can give myself and my family
I love your perspective and positive outlook! Keep working on improving yourself and what you have to work with!
How does your model work when the parents themselves need healing? Is it done at the same time or is it line the oxygen mask where the parents “get their oxygen first” before they can hand off to another?
I e got oodles and oodles of parenting books and workshops in my head but none of them have ever been REALLY effective until I learned this past year that I have to deal with my own traumas that made me permissive in the first place. My growth so far has been wonderful but I still struggle to make and maintain boundaries. My hunch is that my trauma is boundary-based and I need to have that resolved first. Does your workshop help with that?
God, i feel this. lol, My parents are permissive parents, Thanks Mam for the video.
Some authoritarian parents reading this like "I knew I was being too nice"
Maybe so! :D
OH. MY. GOD! You literally just described my nephew! You might as well have replaced all pronouns w/his name! I searched passive parenting because I have been trying to figure out & understand the root of his behavior, & I am fully aware of my sister's bad parenting. My nephew has been slowly changing since he was about 3 - 3.5 or so. Last year, OCS took the kids (he was about 4.5, and his sister was about 13 mos at the time), & placed them w/me. I've spent a lot of time w/them, but didn't realize the depth of his behavior problems until they lived here. And in that 7 mos, he didn't change one single bit. It was EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING! He would infuriate me! When he was around, it was constant chaos. My saving grace was when he went to school 4x/week. It was literally quiet. Well, after my sister got them back, she wouldn't allow me to talk to them for 2.5 mos, until she came back to town for a week. He didn't come initially, only his sister. She's changed a bit, but when he came, it took less than a day for the chaos to begin! It. Is. Constant. The problem is, my sister is SO toxic, that she won't listen to ANYTHING she doesn't like. So, my fear is that he will not only continue to get worse, because of her guilt parenting, but the baby will go down the same road. Idk if I can deal with him coming to visit in the future if he doesn't change. Is there ANYTHING I can do to help w/o my actually telling my sister? Sorry that this is so long.
remember that the kids weren't just allowed to do whatever they wanted, they were emotionally neglected, that's worse. They aren't taught how to manage their feelings. Kids can teach themselves motivation when they get older but the pain caused by the emotional neglect will follow them around and even stop them learning how to motivate themselves.
Can you help your sister get help? What was it in your family of origin that made you get "infuriated" by a child and made her just completely check out of parenting all together? Did your parents teach you both how to manage frustration and how to feel and notice and manage other emotions? It sounds like she avoids emotions and you blame others for your emotions? That last part is total speculation, it just sounded like you somehow thought the children were responsible for your getting infuriated.
Recognizing what happened for both of you, that could be an olive branch to convince her she could benefit from help, if you admit you could benefit from it too
Sorry for the late response! That is quite the situation! The full response to your comment is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your questions on one of my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
How can I help my mom see that this is the parenting style she is stuck in with my little brother? I have tried to very gently suggest it to her, but she gets so defensive because she feels I am being mean / attacking her. I think self-awareness is so important! It's the only way to make real changes.
Are you still in the home? Or have you moved out and are seeing things from an outside perspective now?
The full answer to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
I think this is exactly how i grew up. I’m narcissistic but don’t have confidence. How can i fix this? Sorry for bad english
Practice things that make you uncomfortable
Many shooters murderers had parents like this. Ted Bundy, Martin Bryant, many school shootings in US. They always say they came from a good family and the parents were always so nice. Look closer; all had very permissive parents. Ted Bundy described his grandmother as timid and obedient, his parents did not care that he had no friends, he was charged with burglary and auto theft as a teen with no punishment or interventions. Read Marin Bryant's parenting style. They did not intervene or punish with any of his distrubing behaviour, they bought him guns, were nice. The dad was really nice and calm. In the end Bryant killed his father (it is listed as something else but it is not true) and the mum just didn't do anything at all. Repeat, repeat for all of them....
No. The majority of serial killers have been abused children. Ottis Toole, Charles Manson, Ed Kemper were all abused as children, even the experts say so. You are confusing permissive parenting with parental neglect. Neglect is a form of abuse. There are school shootings because mental disorders are not treated in your country and guns are legal. Most people in the Nordic countries were raised by very loving parents and are not criminals. Criminals come from abusive or neglectful families. They grew up in an environment where violence was commonplace and valued. They were not loved by their children. An individual raised in love and kindness rarely becomes evil. Human beings reproduce what they see and experience.
Ya this is really frightening. I don't know if I watch too many crime shows but I know certain personality traits are what these serial killers have. I didn't know Ted Bundy's parents were permissive. But its common sense that if there are no boundaries, no consequences these kids will have a lot of issues. Its so sad
Interesting thoughts.
Thank you for this video! my sister in law AND brother in law are permissive parents. They have a 2.5 year that has been throwing constant tantrums, hitting her own mom, hurting her 7 month sister like biting her. You can’t give her sister anything like a toy to play with without claiming it for herself. Around my 1 year old daughter, she is hitting, biting, and taking toys (just to name a few misbehaviors) at all cost to get what she wants. She constantly must get what she wants, and her parents regularly oblige, such as giving her the toy she wants, even at the expense of my daughters happiness in order to avoid her extensive, loud tantrums. When it comes to discipline, even when she has hurt someone, her parents simply tell her “stop. Don’t do that. No!” And that’s it. sometimes this happens across the room. No timeouts, privileges taken, etc. But I’ve had enough since she started hitting my daughter. I cringe every time I’m told they’re coming over or we’re visiting. She’s such a smart, smart girl and I love my niece but her misbehavior and the permissiveness of her parents is hard to watch. And it’s just getting more and more obsessive and ridiculous. She follows my daughter to take her toys (my daughter’s) in our home, she doesn’t let my daughter sit or be alone with their Granpa, and anything my daughter does, such as dance, she needs to dance too to get the attention. My emotions are up and down in this situation. I hope things get better.
In this case, it's totally appropriate to set boundaries and tell your sister and brother-in-law what you will do if you see negative behavior directed towards and hurting your child. If they have a hard time accepting that, just let them know that they either won't be able to come over, since your family is getting physically hurt, and you'll have to leave if it happens at their home. Tell them that you're protecting your family and trying to teach your children about correct, positive behaviors and that interacting with the cousin isn't helping, so you might have to take a break, then return to visits and playdates when you have skills and principles in place.
Huh. I was worried I’d see my own parenting here but I’m realizing…this was my parents. I won’t be passing it on.
How bad of an idea is it to send this video to a permissive parent? Would they be able to take away anything useful, or will it push them deeper into their delusion?
what if 1 parent is permisive and other is authoritative?
Then authoritative parent suffers as this chid is resentful to them
How does someone become addicted to thinking about their feelings? Where’s the research on that? Where is your degree in child development from? Have you taken any classes on child development from an accredited university? Where are you pulling your information. Speak to any mental health profession and they will tell you there is no such thing as emotional addiction.
What’s your opinion on permissive parenting to a child who has cancer?
A child who’s been on chemotherapy since 6 months old and currently 3.5 years.
I have people who tell me I permissive parent because I myself had a terrible child hood. Yes this is true, I want to love my child better than I was loved. However, I feel like until she’s off of chemotherapy I should be more permissive until she is off of treatment.
Each parent has to seek inspiration for their own situation. Without being there and seeing the situation, I can't judge it. But, I can say that children are always happier when they have boundaries and when people have mercy on them during hard times or sadness. It isn't merciful to allow a child to be sad, complain, be aggressive, or bossy etc. It is merciful to correct them so that they get the opportunity to form a new habit and choose happiness. You can't manipulate happiness in another person. They have to choose it. This means good parents give their children skills and aren't afraid to correct misbehavior for a future happier person. Parents have to have the long view, not just try to bandaid emotions in the short term. I hope this helps. teachingselfgovernment.com/store/
why do people with health issues always end up telling others how to live