He STOPPED Texting Me...WHAT NOW?!?
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- Get "He's Lying Sis" here đ bit.ly/HesLyingSisYTSpecial - He STOPPED Texting Me... WHAT NOW?!?... In this dating advice video, I will help you answer the question of why he stopped texting me and discuss what now you need to do. It might be during first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process and he stops texting you and it may make you wonder what now. Take heed to these dating tips and be sure to watch the entire video to learn why he stops texting you and know what now needs to be done.
I don't want you to automatically think that when he stops texting he is not interested in you or he has ghosted you when he stops texting you. I want you to understand men and know that there can be various reasons why he stopped texting that can either be positive or negative.
Again, I donât want you to be quick to react when he stops texting you. Always be willing to put your best foot forward, show interest desire donât assume that now he stopped texting me so I will not reach out to him, no. I want you to take a step back, assess, and be able to reach out so you may gauge what might have caused him to stop texting.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this dating advice video helpful and that you will understand men and know what to do when he stops texting.
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I would like to talk to you, how can i reach out to you?
Thank you for calming me down because I was ready to erase his number assuming he lost interest. We had great chemistry and then I haven't heard from him and yes I was starting to like him.
Are you singel I wish I have a man like you can I give you my number
Hello Stephan are you single?
Thank you for offering a balanced perspective, when most coaches are so extreme to cut them off, especially in the early stage. Thank you.â€
Keep it moving. He stopped communicating because he's not the one for you. He did you a favor. Just know God has someone for you! â€
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
He was playing in my face for the past 5 months of are break up texts phone calls every day invites to his home now he stops because he suddenly has a girlfriend mind you he was my husband 25yrs we been together he has told me over and over he wasn't dating or with Noone so I continued to go over to his home and I countied to respond we was separated yes but very much still involved with each other but he kept lying playing in my face when he could've said im not interested nomore I found someone else that simple we was already separated why lie and lead me on then out the blue boom a women is in the equation smh
Complete wrong... People stop comunicacation because fear,, unfortunately. For how ever you want achieve in life need study get strong and go forward your goals, love relationships is the same..
Lol I said he wasn't the one when we're talking and texting. After I don't hear from him in 2 days I block. He said he wanted this and that but I think he wanted me to calling him and saying how I can come to his house no how about. You ask when can I take you out. He didn't call and I didn't call him.
@@marylevatte4192 Good! Next! Lol
If he stops texting... You are off his priority list. Start practicing self-care n prepare for the worse
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Why am i still dealing with players from the 90s? I will pray to God to send me the right personâ€
I told him to give me my space when he was texting too much and now he is ghosting đą Us women ainât easy to deal with either
T.D. Jakes sermon is so true âif a person can walk away from you,, Let them GOâ!!
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Madea also says let then Go
Amen đđŸ
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If a man stops texting, you do nothing and move on. Do NOT reach out to him and just keep on down the road. It takes a second to send a text. If you reach out, then you look desperate. MOVE ON.
When he stops texting you....he ainât the one.
Amen to that
So true đŻ
Right let the dead bury the dead
1st of all he donât suppose to be texting. He suppose to be calling. You still can get finesse just from texting
Not always true
I was ghosted and blocked a couple days ago and Iâm sick about it. Things were going great. Our connection was amazing on every level. Iâve never been this confused in my life. Men can be downright cruel. đ©
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! đ
You getting played itâs that simple
@@jmar385 Well damn thanks for the observation. I hope when you go through something painful ppl will have more empathy for you. God bless âđŸ
It's awful and people who do these things are awful people themselves.
Prepare yourself incase he contacts you again, especially when you are least expecting it, be strong â€
@@krystaldean5481 well Iâm just being honest. This is a dog eat dog world. You want me to sugarcoat the truth. At least your getting truth from me & not from the person thatâs blocking you. Thatâs where you need to go to. The truth doesnât always suppose to make you feel good, but suppose to set you free. Your confuse when you should focus on yourself. Get out your feelings & move on
If he stops texting, it means somethings up that he has someone else or played you. Iâve had this happen. Once he stops, I cut his ass off. No matter the reason. Communication is paramount to me. Got no time for guessing myself or gaslighting myself to set myself up for hurt. No. Let his ass go boy byeâŒïžâŒïž
I started blocking men that donât text me for 3 weeks. That ended up freeing space for men that were consistent and I got into an amazing relationship
3 weeks is a long time, next time give them just a, week. If they dont reach out, disappear without a trace đ
@@naimam3976 I decided three weeks was the longest that I would tolerate because I know things happen. The man that I ended up in a relationship with has never missed a day of communication since the day we met.
@@EciMajic i happy for you love â€ïž, dating today is like a never ending game. I end it mentally if it hurts my feelings, even if its just 2-3 days. But i move on and delete after one week. You must been doing something right this time around.
@@EciMajic How did you meet this new amazing guy? Was it in person or online? I'm introverted and online dating has been the only route of success for me, sadly.
@@irinaivanovic9792 we met on Tinder lol
Anyone truely interested in you will NOT disappear!!!
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Amen
He didn't stop texting he just stopped texting me.
POINT BLANK!!!!
Ladies (and gents) Ghosting is a blessing! "Rejection is your protection." When you've determined that someone isn't interested (meaning that the person may be having issues, like Steven said)....BUT ONCE IT HAS BEEN DETERMINED....LET THEM GO!
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So true I wish I could paste and copy what you just said
AMENđđđI just went through that back in January.
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It's not as easy as it sounds especially when you truly loved and wanted it to be.
Trust your gut feelings people, if things dont feel right, then that's a clear sign they are not.
That "gut feeling" could be your own insecurities in the way..
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Not really it's about what my intuition tells me before or in a relationship.
@@fiae2897 I'm so confused..
I've gotten a few different messagesđŁ
Ah well.
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It's almost like a spiritual awakening.
Like if you meet a person for the 1st time what feelings do you get. Some people are more sensitive they know when the person is telling the truth or lying. That's when you need to make a decision to keep in contact or not.
But he keeps texting me for what ?
Disagree... ladies, that man knows your number and knows how to reach you just like heâs reaching out to everybody else during the day. NEVER TEXT HIM 1st after he stops texting you. Donât check on him, donât be a pick me and try to get understanding as to why his phone is working but not working to text you or anything like that. It will leave him thinking and hurt his little ego when he feels that he is just as disposable as he feels you are. Gets them thinking, missing you and wondering why u havenât reached out wondering are they not that important...Works every time. Pull back and watch him come back with a better attitude. đ
Talk truth
Exactly. THIS is the honest truth. I appreciate Stephan trying to be helpful but in this particular case I disagree with him too. I agree with EVERY WORD you said. Women need to remember that man knows your number. He's on the same dating app you met on (if you met online) and is choosing to do that and NOT contact you instead. He could call YOU or text YOU instead of exploring and talking to other women. You don't need to reach out to him like a pick me and play aloof. It will just show him that you are wondering about him and now he's got more leverage. Plus if you get no response or a one word response it will suck even more and you'll just feel worse.
@@irinaivanovic9792 exactly, that last part. you will feel absolutely worse if he sends a barely there response or no reply at all. Thats why I eep myself from feeling rejected and don't reach out bc men are hunters and will always go or chase after what they want in the end.
@@universalinternational9401 Yep. This only happened to me with 2 Aries men, btw.
Same. I reached out and and he didnât even respond. Fast forward 6 weeks later he texted me, âHey.â I ignored him. He reached out two days after that with, âHey whatâs up.â I ignored him again. Iâm done bo. Heâs free to chase after the ones whom he deems more worthy. Itâs been 2 months and I havenât looked back.
When someone stop communicate with you do not put energy into it
Right, because as soon as you start showing you'll make the effort instead, it's downhill from there.
Yupppp
I give back the same energy I get!!!! If heâs the right one everything will fall in placeâŠ.
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SO TRUE
Yep
But mirroring gets tiring too eventually⊠it stops you from being yourself. How long would you be able to keep up with the mirroring game? I try but not sure for long more
If he stops texting.. be busy in your own life. His loss
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I đ like this... simply what I like doing when I call it quits..hmm
Ladies donât believe the losing cell phone story.... They can go online and get all the information they need by looking at their monthly bill (frequent numbers they text/call) or just call their phone carrier. If they want to REALLY reach you there is always a way.
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I totally agree. To me thats just a cop-out. I was in a similar situation a few years ago. When he called two weeks later he said he forgot his phone in a friends car. I wasn't born yesterday. Boy bye!!!
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A guy told me recently.. that he was âphonelessâ for awhile and he broke it. He texted hey here and there every 2 or 3 weeks.. and said a lot was going on in his life as well... ? I didnât believe his phone thing but that he was going through a difficult time bc of mental health stuff and other stuff. But he wouldnât open up when I asked him what happened.. he said donât ask. Then he regularly texted me without much to say for about a week and then went missing for a couple days again... weâve been talking online for 4 months now. He asked what I do for a living even tho I told him early on twice that Iâve been looking for jobs? He forgot that important detail about me but claims he felt the same way when I admitted I got attached 2 months ago? Even said âhis world could revolve around me in a couple yearsâ? He joked heâd marry me if I said yes early on. But we werenât in a relationship in his words. When I asked early on what he wanted .. he said mainly conversations(Bc heâs a sucker for convos) but if it turned into a âpassionate affairâ thatâd be great. Heâs curious to see where it goes. No labels. That was before we both admitted we had feelings. Maybe he doesnât have any romantic feelings at all. When he went distant for a month with a few âheysâ here and there I barely texted (he didnât respond to those texts or ask how I was then) thinking heâs playing me. Then he asked later why I havenât messaged all these days? I said he disappeared and didnt read/respond to my messages. He said âand you didnât come looking for me.â Then again with he had a lot of things going on and he was phoneless for awhile and didnât see my messages.
Mine did lol and he found a way email
Iâm not going to text someone again if I was the last one to text. The text should go in a rhythmâŠnot just multiple text from me only. That and I shouldnât have to tell a man that he shouldnât disappear on me. If a man likes you heâs always thinking of you and wants to speak to you. Im not going to waste my time and energy on a man who doesnât wanna reach out to me.
I wish I had your strength but when you have attachment trauma it's very hard to hold back that emotion I find myself double texting and begging it's very embarrassing
But you're right someone wants said that texting and phone calls is like a game of tennis đŸ.
You don't keep batting over if the other side is not batting back. You're totally right there should be a rhythm well said
I think generally women can sense when a man pulls away if its because hes lost interest or if it feels out of character for his behaviour, we often supress those instincts and try to over- analyse the situation, if you feel like hes pulled away cause hes lost interest, give him space see if he reaches out again, if you feel like its unusual behaviour maybe ask if everything is ok and address the silence in a kind and supportive way? Don't let others behaviours destroy the good and kind in you! đ
I love your perspective âŁïž! So true, especially your last statement.
May he rest in peace... lmao!
Ladies someone else caught his interest. Don't waste your time
Exactly. Cut out all the B-S. People will learn that failure to communicate has consequences too. Be careful who you ask: "What's Wrong?" You can quickly remain in that role. The right one will Communicate.
If a Man stop texting me that shows me he is not the one for me.
I took your advice and checked on him. He ended up telling me that he thought I wasnât into him. I explained to him how much I liked him and now weâre on the same page. THANK YOU!â€ïž
đ„đ„đ„ Nice!!
I'm in my 30s and I'm starting to lose hope in all honesty! Thankyou for this video.
Donât lose hope. All things are possible with God
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Same....
Same the dating world is đ itâs really sad đ đ€ŠđŸââïž
I had the same â anxiety â when I was 30s. But I can tell you that waiting for the Godâs timing is a blessing. Do not jump into any wrong relationship if you donât want to miss the right one.
I am guilty of ghosting. I thought I had a legitimate reason but having had it happen to me I should know better. It's better to say to someone this isn't working and move on respectfully
I agree . I feel like Iâm going through this right now & it sucks
Exactly. It's better at least tell that person... and then can "ghost" or even block if they don't get it.
Agree. But, sometimes the texts fizzle out mutually, so it's not really ghosting. I think men primarily ghost because they want to avoid a conversation.
Because you are doing this other people will do it to you!! You are such a coward⊠people like you are horrible tell the guy you are not interested and finish it with that âŠ
â@@JakilynThe top reason why a man would a ghost a woman is because he been ghosted hella times by women in the past and he can see signs of little to no interest. And we all know deep down women don't like no thirsty dude anyway or a dude thats always around so they'll fall back, at least a smart dude would, especially if she's not reciprocating that
One thing I canât stand is inconsistency, especially with communication. If a man doesnât open up to you or respond to your texts within an appropriate time frame. For instance heâs leaving you on read for several days or doesnât respond for weeks or months at a time but mysteriously pops back in and acts like nothing happened. I immediately know heâs not serious and start to slowly distance myself. I was chatting with someone and he was nice overall with a few added compliments here and there but then would turn on me and be disrespectful and cruel. I finally had enough and cut him off permanently! I was tired of his bipolar antics and mean spirited behavior so I finally blocked him and not looking back.
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Amen! I agree with you đŻ..
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Agree with you...!
@@siaitsme6800 listen people already know what they want! If youâre always questioning where you stand with someone itâs pretty clear you need to keep walking đ¶đ»ââïžMaybe one day youâll meet a real one.
You have to set boundaries in the beginning. I put up with a narcissist doing the ghosting mess. After the 2nd time, i was out. Went no contact on them. Noone has time for that instability when grown. Til this day, he still trying to reach me and asking about me. Never again.
I feel you it, definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
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How long ago did you cut them off and how long have they been trying to contact you? Like the time period
@@mariahsmith5380 he's still blocked 8 mths later
Good for you!!
He chased me forever and when I finally gave him the time of day he ran! I discovered later that he suffers from low self-esteem and truly believed that I would end up leaving him because he felt I was out of his league. Course this is after I confronted him about it. I don't have time for games. So knowledge of the situation is vitally important!
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
You say he chased you forever? I understand he has some issues but the question is how long did you make him chase you maybe he got tired of chasing feeling you werenât ready đ€·đŸââïž He may have been giving more than what you were giving back. He shouldnât be chasing either he should be pursuing it should be a mutual thing.
@@Alan_1982 nobody suppose to be chasing nobody. Itâs suppose to be mutual. I would of disappear to. To me he sound like he told her anything though, because he was exhausted from chasing. That as dumb on his part because the energy suppose to be reciprocated not one sided
This was an excuse he never wanted u .
@Tblazer same......im one blink away............. I will ghost this mf im into...........always talking about other girls......and after i told him it makes me jealous, he continued to talk about his exes and showed me pictures of them........and told me a story about him sleeping with his female cousin when he was a teenager..............................................................grown boys...........god blessed them.........
Lack of communication is the worse. It creates room for misunderstandings, insecurities, and conflict. I like men to be straight forward and I try to be straightforward.
So I have to evaluate not only my perception but their's because my quietness and shyness can come off as being rude and standoffish, even intimidating. So I have to recognize when I am giving mixed signals.
My Ex pulled this on međ7months later i let the dead restđ
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Lol I bet he was casket sharpe!!
I used to jump to conclusions and think the worse and stop communicating back, but now I have learnt to take a deep breath and wait before I say anything and it allows me to text him appropriately, instead of emotionally , and it always pays off , however there is some situations that definitely deserve the boot and some that deserve patience and space , we all have boundaries and want space sometimes.đ
Yes! How we react to these situations can make or break the relationship. Sending messages with positive energy yields the best results. No man wants to respond to a woman who sends a text cursing him out or sounding insecure & overly emotional đą
Relatable đđ I'm also trying to breathe in and out or if I feel hurt , vry it out but keeping it to myself or communicate politely. Or I flee to YT.
It's so hard.
I absolutely agree
Save your faces ladies, do not call if he kept you on red. You'll feel worse if you call and he doesn't answer. You can ask questions whenever he feels like calling back and that's if you do pick up. Let's keep our heads up.
You right but I've been crying all night. He hardly contacts me . I'm literally waiting for a reply to a good morning txt I sent. 3hrs ago.
@@HisaLight2mypath Altough I know itâs painful to bear waiting, 3 hours is not that long. Men know women love mystery and wonât always reply back fast. Whereâs the mystery if heâll predictably drop EVERYTHING and ALWAYS reply immediately in order to soothe your insecurities. Preoccupy your mind (self-help, exercise, a hobby, etc.) while fighting the urge to reply. Never double-text. Always wait. No response means itâs not meant to be and move on.
Simply said: u can ask him direct. If he doesnât respond to the question simply move on.
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Yes I had to move on after my boyfriend pretty much texted/video chatted me 1-2 twice a week for less than five minutes
The reality is, he saw something in me that he felt would not make him happy in the long term. I get it, it just hurts that's all.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! đ
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That could be true. I was ghosted by a guy that I liked but I didn't care or lose sleep over it. We weren't compatible and he started talking about polygamy. It was not the kind of relationship I wanted. So when he stopped contacting me I was glad we didn't have to have the closure conversation. He did me a favor.
I feel it goes the same with me too!
What God has for you it is for you.
If he stops texting and calling, delete and block his number and email address from your phone, e-mail account, etc. Forget him!
You wait for how long and delete?
The life you live is more important than the words you speak
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Word!!
That is so true and deep in so many ways. Thank you
I say after 30 days of not hearing from him cut it off. Communication is key, it shows interest, value and respect. I'm learning to set my standards higher and not settle for these type of men.
This is a true test. Give them a one time warning to correct the behavior. We are better than ever and engaged. 3 years in. All the best to those looking to find love.âŁïž
He stopped texting me for 2 months ,i was broken hearted ..after 2 months He texted me back and Said that He s sorry,He had covid,busy with work ⊠this is simply disgusting how men behave and then they expect Real love ..everyone will get what they deserve sooner or later ..i told him Sorry im not interested in you anymore !! byee
Exactly, many come up with 'busy' or having the flu lol
If you are not dying you will text, especially when you want to feel love and care you will contact your new found love.
How did you get through the two months of being rejected like that. đą
Well done. A hi takes a second. If it makes you feel better they do this to everybody else in all aspects of life. So...they are the losers and they don't even understand why....
Yes, agree with your key points. Life happens so we should give the benefit of a doubt first. Seek clarity and allow another chance. The bottom line is find someone who will pour into you as much as you will pour into them, that's a recipe for success.
Amen sis
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Your hard work and efforts are recognized and appreciated. God first, stay blessed.
@@JamaicaLove876 Thank you and stay blessed as well!
Had that pulled on me a few months into the relationship and i called him out on it and i told him there wouldn't be a second time....1 week later the same thing happened and it took him 5 days to finally respond, only he got the same response i got...crickets... he only found out the "relationship" was over when his family told him i had changed my relationship status to single....don't have time for that shit from a 50 year old man....xo
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! đ
@stephan speaks aww don't feel for me I'm well over it and believe people come into your life for two reasons, a lesson or a blessing and I'm glad I learnt what I needed too đ....xo
@@donna2693 I needed to see this. Recently happened to me, again (same guy, 2nd time)... going on 7 days of being ghosted. Left him a message on day 5 BUT shortly after leaving the message i decided to let go in the physical (2 days ago), now with my Father's (God) help I'm in the process of letting go emotionally. I have a feeling he'll be reaching back out to me but I'm praying that I'll be emotionally detached by then. I think he's a good man but not good for me so I have to wait on the RIGHT 1 that is... In the meantime do the self care/spiritual work needed. đ
Yep ole game playing fool.... đ€ He's on the curb ....
Youâre right Stephan, as women most of us automatically jump to the worse case scenario so to speak. If a guy stops communicating with us we automatically assume that heâs playing games or is uninterested. Going forward as I continue to work on myself, I will not jump to conclusions automatically. As you mentioned we should not cut people off so quickly and jump to negative thoughts. Thanks for your advice as always, Iâm definitely taking notes!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Yes! Agreed!
I don't agree
@AliSand exactly!
I'm in this situation right now. He wrote to me, I responded and he didn't. A week later I send another message and nothing. At least I tried
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! đ
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you, but it's only been 3 days since my second message, so perhaps not all is lost, as per your video. It's also not so heavy, I'm sure I can move on if need be. Thank you for your sentiment, though
I'm glad I followed my guts, when he stopped I continued to text and make calls, I worked on my emotions and showed no grudge at him and along the way God brought me a good man. I had healed, worked on my attitude and I kept the friendship.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that đ
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I appreciate you so much for the wisdom you teach us đđŸ
Silence makes people assume the worst
Met this guy , he was consistent with dates , communication , all of a sudden he stopped. Found out his dad was dying and he was overwhelmed and stressed. He has completely shut down but Iâm currently giving him space.
You have been a true blessing to my life! I literally came across one of your videos at the right time in my life!!! I've been happily single for a year now, from a NARCISSISTđđŸđđŸđđŸThank you Father!!!!! I've been tuned in here, gleaning and learning đŻ
When i listened to this ..i feel men are so complicated !! it is too much work!!!
I was talking to a man who is now my boyfriend online for a few months, we were long distance and with time he became more and more distance and I asked what was the matter, things were going cold, he corrected it. He apologized and flew out to see me and we had the best time together he is now relocating in a week. I'm thankful I didn't just let things go and I'm happy I communicated how I felt and what I wanted. He worked on his communication đŹGive them 1 chance to fix it.
Awww this how is it now đđŸ
What did you say?
Busy, he's getting divorced, he's sad and hasn't got the bandwidth for relationship. That's what's wrong. And that's why I don't date guys who are divorcing.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks he's got to heal more.
My moto is, "I Don't want Nobody That Don't Want Me." It still hurtsđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ«đ«đ«đ«! Stop ghosting when YOU are over 60!
The over 50-60 are the worst, they act like teenagers đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
@@zivisomutema8811 It definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! đ
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Oh my goodness. , he is a man / boy.
Best advice ever we all needed to hear this. Because overthiking is real. I want to hear more about learning and not just letting go, I believe many of us cut ppl off to fast.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
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"If a guy walks away, count it all joy"
Donât reach out his silence is a decision. Keep your options open!
I get ghosted so much in this new age of dating. I'm kinda used to it. Most of the time its early on, and they do return with the same BS. So if he leaves its a blessing in disguise
Same here
Im not reaching out to no man! No matter how much i like him ⊠if he donât call or text me thats my answerâŠ
I agree!!! Makes no sense. It literally takes seconds to reach out to someone. It's cowardly and insensitive to ghost or leave someone hanging.
this advice is different, helpful and transparent from a men's point of view and actually is effective because it's more realistic of an approach. the advice that sometimes men want to feel like we care too actually makes a difference.
YOU WERE SO RIGHT. As soon as I sent just a lil Hello, hope you're well text he said he was waiting to hear from me first because he didn't want to bother me............ AWWWW. Good thing I didn't just move on.
The clarity is when he ghost you. Nothing else needs to be said.
This is the best part of dating; don't sell yourself short. Give the best of you and don't accept anything less. Stay strong and know that God didn't make anyone to be worthless. Be a queen to find your king, just saying... Have a blessed day all!
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Stephan is the big bro I never thought I needed. It's painful but really helpful advice, thanksđâĄđ
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through! đ
U need to keep the doors open and if they ghost u then date others there is nothing wrong with it. Always keep ur doors open. Never settle. Even if he ghosts you.
That why I fall back And block the number by killing that vibe to prevent that person from trying too come back and do the same thing so I can work on self like I been doing stay prayed up including building a better life and new chapter in my life for my self I wanna thank u for all the encouragement and motivation
Always be observant when around others. Someone ghosted me and I was able to figure out why they werenât replying due to their behaviour when they were around me. I cut them off without hesitation. Ghost me once, youâre out.
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This came right on time
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Said the same ! I needed this today.
Definitely did!!
Amen StephanđđŸđđŸ everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt
Absolutely!
Thank you for being a bro and father I have never had. May God richly bless you @Stephan Speaks for helping us out.I appreciate you sincerelyđ
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that đ
You absolutely must hear their side. Call and ask. Demand some answers! My man started getting inconsistent with communications and when we did talk it was like nothing was wrong. I tried to wait until he was ready to approach me again but eventually got the courage to call and just breakup as my heart had been bleeding for weeks wondering what was up with this awesome man I've grown to love. He explained so much....much of which was work issues, relocating concerns, anxiety and depression about our long distance relationship. I listened buy still held him accountable and made it clear that I can't work on "us" alone. If he loved me he had to put in the effort no matter what life challenges brought. I can't pray for what I don't know if he doesn't speak up. Emotions are precious and I guard mine dearly. I suggested counseling to him and he was open to do so.
@@contribution741 unfortunately đ no. I broke it off mainly because I got tired of being angry with the unknown. He said he was disappointed that he failed at another relationship. I said it didn't have to be this way I just need him to talk. He asked me to give him a minute to figure things out. That was almost two weeks ago. It boogles my mind everyday about what's going on with him. What did I do or didn't but ultimately it's on him. I can't help with nothing if he doesn't open his mouth đ€·ââïž. It's like he's being held at gun point or something idk but it's still frustrating after the breakup of just not knowing. And all of this took place through text and emails...still no phone call. đ I still love him but am trying to forget him before I need counseling lol. Keep my broken heart and his silent one in your prayers please đ đ đ
Good for you! Never allow someone to keep u with a bleeding heart. If he can call converse like nothing ever happened, don't listen to the other excuses. You will quickly remain in the Chaser Role. And that will drain your heart.
I love your advice the point that stand out in the video is to not sell yourself short.
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Iâm so tired of being drooped all the damn time I try so hard to be a laid back woman no pressure no clingy needy energy I make sure they know Iâm interested and I give space I listen to all these dating coaches and I take notes and carry that in my dating life but still âŠ.. I meet a man heâs seems very interested and tells me heâs interested wants to see me again likes my personality tells me Iâm what heâs been looking for then we have a amazing date then . Dead silence . NOTHING I texted him hey have a nice day I sent a funny video saying heâs something to funny to laugh at . And nothing I heard nothing back . Itâs been two full days nothing . I just donât understand đą this always happens
Darlings, flip the scripts.
Hey don't feel rained on because the same shit happened to me I think it's Bull shit!! These men are so messed up these Days I swear I don't understand what they want??
This always happens to me, too, so work and focus on yourself.
This happens to me often as well but the right one would never just do the disappearing act ! Communication is definitely key ! Manâs rejection is Gods protection ! God has better in store is all !
Dam the same thing I experienced
In such cases I always think that Iâm not good, beautiful enough for him đąđąđą
Thank you, Stephan! Your last point in this video is especially appreciated!
You rock King Stephan, I refuse to sell myself short.
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Thank you. I just had this situation so I just called and asked him what's going on. He said he was distracted with a few crisis regarding his business which I understood but I also gave my expectations regarding communication. Ultimately, I'm glad I refused to play games and decided to operate like an adult..
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Heâs lying .
Thanks Stephan for the great advice this definitely relates to the current situation Iâm in!
Glad I could help!
Im frustrated. I have been dating someone for 2 months and we have fun in person and I feel invested but he doesn't seem to have a interest in calling me or texting me back. He even has been introducing me to his friends and family.
I asked him about why he doesn't call or why we don't talk on the phone and he said its more a issue of time and I know he works a lot.
But while on a trip out of town he said he saw my messages about arriving to my destination and so forth but he just got distracted and didn't respond.
He said he didnt mean anything by it. I addressed it and told him how I feel when he doesnt at least text back.
I want to pull way back and let him just fade out my life. He has been a good guy outside of this issue. But I feel like at 2 months if he doesnt care if he even speaks to me or returns text messages then he just doesn't like me that much.
I experienced the exact same thing!
Same here.
I'm going thru the same currently but on the other side. I really enjoy my girlfriends' company. I do get irritated when she calls, and video chats me several times a day. Most of these calls she doesn't want anything but to see me so It just turns into us starring at each other. I typically call people; to talk business, or to meet up later, but not just to talk for the sake of talking (unless long distance).
I tried this yesterday and it đŻ percent worked. Literally wrote the text message word-for-word đ as I struggled to focus on progress and not my pride. Thank you Stephan Speaks đ
What's the text message?
"What the H*LL is going on" is right! lol đ€Ł
After that I said screw it. He's either dead or not interested.
Dude was NEVER on point to begin with đ
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Wow
Lolđđđđ Not Deadâ or interested! Y'all making my day! I got ghosted after my BD weekend & we celebrated.. now he is to busy with work to text me any more! I'm like ok, boy bye! I'm gonna take on this theory, he is dead or not interested anymore! Its painful but to know I'm not the only 1 this was done 2, make it a little easier to bare! Thank you for sharing! It does help!đ
Iâm going through this right now. We connected through an app and even exchanged numbers. The first date was great and then we agreed on a second date. Second date went better than the first and we even planned a 3rd and 4th date! I made it clear that I was interested in him. He responded positively in the same manner. Then on the day of our 3rd date, I didnât hear from him at all. I did text him later in the evening to see if he was okay but nope. I got nothing. It was so weird considering we talked every day to having two great dates and then he disappears. My other mistake was I should have kept other doors opened but now all those other doors have been closed đ itâs hard trying to talk to other people when there is only one person on your mind. I also told him from the beginning that if he was not interested in me then he needs to be upfront and tell me so I donât waste my time. Itâs been a couple of days and I am trying to wait it out. I feel bad for all of the other guys I couldnât give the same energy to. This is a huge lesson. đ
Did he reach out to you?
@@moniquefacey5760 no he did not. I already accepted that he wonât and am moving on. If he comes back, weâll see but I am not gonna wait around. It is what it is.
@@amandahomsanith896 I struggle with these dating situations too. I find it hard to keep other options open when I met a man and I feel for him, after one or two dates.
I feel like I'm cheating if I keep connecting with others.
What if the guy I met is genuinally serious and I mess up by talking to others......
Result is that I get hurt and I didn't invest in others. It's to much for me to focus on 2 or 3 men.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I agree. I got back on dating apps after this one ghosted me and went on a bunch of dates with different guys. I connected with a different one and saw potential, only to have him tell me heâs not ready. So now I am back to square one.
I learned a lot from all your videos. Thank you so very much,Stephan. God bless you!
Thankfully I had read your Book ,âHeâs Lying Sis!â After 5 years of long distance relationship friendship the book helped me process his excuses and lack of communication and I let him go, but first I had to Forgive him, and Make peace that I was good to him and he gave me good moments too but he showed me his true colors and I am thankful because several weeks before the no contact happened I had prayed â Lord if he is not the one make his calls stop!â Power of prayer! Wow God is good and I am thankful for it! đ€đŸđâ€ïž Thank You Mr. Stephan, amazing content thank U for sharing this amazing great Information! Never shall I settle for this ever again!
This is really balanced perspective. I'm dealing with a friend of 20 years who initiated connection with me. He told me that he does not like texting and that we need to speak by phone. He told me to call him when I need to, but he doesn't call me often. It is a LDR, and he has come to see me, and tells me to come to him. I give him grace in that he owns a business, he is busy, he is an introverted Scorpio, and is laser focused on whatever he is doing. I wish I could say it doesn't bother me that I have to call him, but he gavee clear boundaries of what he needs. I like that you highlighted what other videos don't, in that the person has done things right, but we jump to conclusions. Which is exactly what he told me not to do. I hyperfocus on it, and it is highlighting that I am not secure. I have to make the decision to keep working on myself and see if this is really for me. Or maybe it's a relationship that can help me grow. Sometimes we have to stay open to the possibilities. Thank you for the content.
I had a good friend of 47 years do this to me ,, for a year then he started calling me again,, now after 3 years of rebooting our friendship he said something rude that really offended me so I kindly told him that he really hurt my feeling and Iâm offended,, he hung up on međł I counted to 10 ,, to give a chance to call back with an apology,,, then I blocked him!! Indefinitely!!! Iâm to old for this mess and I have no time to waist,, I live in the Virgin Islands,, living my best life yet,, Iâm home alone but Iâm not lonely,, smh,,,đ
I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
I agree....out of fairness, both sides need to be and feel safe at all times.
He has been through a lot and I have to and we both had taken a lot of steps to improve ourselves and now we both are ready to take the next step forward
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Thank you for this and all your guidance you are changing my mind set and are a great male role model!
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Thank you for this Stephan - really appreciate your approach!! I'm an anxious attacher and I gave the man a month of space to reach out to me after our texting slowed down to him not responding to my last message "in our normal texting flow". I just leaned back and didn't chase, didn't send rapid fire texts and waited to see where he was at and if he reached out and this was very different in his communication style previously. Your video helped me understand the difference between "chasing" and "addressing directly" and getting the clarity as I've been challenged with chasing in the past. I REALLY appreciate the reminder of "grace and kindness" and sent a text to address directly. "Hey XX, I was thinking fondly of our time shared and how much I was enjoying getting to know you.... I havenât heard from you for awhile. Iâm wondering if weâre still trying to get to know one another or have things changed for you?" ... thank you for sharing your man's perspective and script for addressing directly! #PRIDE VS #PROGRESS (mic drop)
How did he respond?
@@michaelaozuka5179 He responded within a few hours and shared he had been thinking about me, did want to get to know me better and had been feeling in a rut in his life. We connected a few days later in person and he was deeply apologetic and owned his behaviour. I got the chance to share that vanishing isn't something I want in the person a I date and he agreed and has been more frequently in touch since! So overall, pretty darn happy about the result!
@@TracyLydiatt Amazing! Thank you for your testimony, it gives me hope... I am in a very similar situation... not sure if I should reach out... but after reading your encouraging story maybe I will. Bless you and all the bestđ
@@TracyLydiatt Awesome! I love how you communicated that & how he showed up in a grown, responsible way. That's a beautiful thingđ
How long did that last are you still together
Stephan, this video advice has definitely helped me understand where we are. I've addressed, I'm now happy to wash my hands and keep moving to the light. (He still in silence) Ty!
Thank you Stephan...I really needed to hear all this and hope it helps me not accept things if i am not getting what I need and want and if a connection is not leading to a serious healthy relationship
amen! Thanks to show us the path of maturity đđœ
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This is a REAL grown up conversation... oh wow, will listen again!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
Stephan! I love that you are so real!
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I just watched this video & have to add a comment.... I was communicating regularly with a guy I met on Match... We hadn't met in person yet, but we began talking on the phone at the beginning of May & I started getting texts from him pretty much daily... It got to the point where I really looked forward to hearing from him during the day, while we were both at work... Unfortunately, now those daily texts have stopped, & I have to honestly admit, I've been feeling in a "funk" ever since, due to feeling so "let down"....
I thought we had a "connection", & I can tell HE is the one shutting down on me, so I HAVE tried reaching out to him, but now our back & forth daily "vibe" has just completely stopped.... đđđ
The man is obviously in a relationship maybe even married or he was rebounding and now she back and or he found someone who holds his interest way more than you did . Forward but itâs the truth and nobody need to be dependent on a message from a mere stranger youâve never met in person so basically donât even know whom he truly is dontcha think. U starting off wrong donât get sprung on a text, how does that happen
Move on DONT text or call that man No more and see what happens if he comes for you donât b so quick to fall for it some of these men are Narcissistic and just plain ol nuts up top and down below too literallyâŠ.. Let the phone ring a few times donât act desperate, continue dating others seems like youâve stopped just by the way you wrote the comment how u looking forward to those text and when they stopped you in the dump or slump or something like that..keep options because when a man does this it actually donât deserve attention further , a person can walk away let them itâs too easy
Plus he donât know u seems like he want u 2 chase him âŠ. DONT
Thank you very much for the inspiring advice!
My pleasure â€
I was just reading the man God has for you... Now onto this video. Great guiding day! Immersing myself in Stephan's guidance
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Very good advice! I have grown a lot and handled these situations like a grown woman, and I thank God when it happens. Patiently waiting for the right one for me.â€
I'm 5 months late on this & its 1:30am in South Africa. I'm UP cz of the situation! Strangest thing is, I was just literally at a crossroads about a situation I'm currently in. I was about to leave a text on his phone cutting him off, BUT God sent Stephan!đ
You're a real blessing! Suddenly I was reminded that he had communicated what he's currently going through, his silence being a result thereof. I nearly made a huge mistake! đČ
He had been doing so great overall and when he suddenly decreased texts, dates and calls, he actually called me to say WHY!
THANK YOU STEPHAN. You're a LOVE saver đ€đâ€
I only wish great things for you. Blessing upon blessing!
yes ! Exactly
COMMUNICATION IS KEY đ
I'm going through the same thing here, thanks for the message .
Such great advice, Steven! Thank you for your insight. A lot of this resonates with me. I need to make serious decisions this year!
Thank you so much. Honestly, iam happy that i searched for other advice than "cut Him off" or "mirror him". And now i know why i searched for it, bc my gut Instinct is telling me that it isnt a adult behavior just to mirror or just to cut him off. Its like you give all control to another. But I HAVE CONTROLL. And bc this is so, i can act like it! I cam communicate my needs And this is NOT NEEDY. I Can say it in a friendly, not needy way And mean it like that. I havent heard 4 days from him And before He Texted every Single day. There is a changed behavior but i have the Power to simply ASK why. And you are totally right - He was since then full of greeeeeen flags, why shouldnt i give him this green flag And ask what is wrong and how we go along? Could be that He dont want to date anymore. Or remains silent. BUT IN THIS CASE THATS MY ANSWER! I will not be more sad than now! And on top i live and Show the behavior i want in future with him: "Look, iam honest And want to talk about it, iam not gonna avoid the negative. We can Figure it out". If He dont Match that need, i can still Decide to cut him off. Iam Sick of games. Iam not that Kind of girl, i want to talk. And youre advice is the best on the inet and opend my eyes. All this "He is toxic and you shouldnt do anything" is really Kind of bs. Whe cant read minds. And iam not Willing to spend my time guessing. He will Tell or no. Now iam living in a unhealthy questionmark, nothing Else.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. Anyway it will went out for me... I will let you know how its going on.