How Letting Things Fall Apart Can Actually Help When You Love An Addict

HOW LETTING THINGS FALL APART CAN ACTUALLY HELP WHEN YOU LOVE AN ADDICT // For years I played the role of the fixer and mender. I held it all together. I was the glue. Without me, my ex-husband and his addiction would fall apart.
I thought if I could just run around and excuse his behavior, clean up the messes, hide the evidence, fib to his boss, it would all be okay eventually.
Can you relate?
Well, I was wrong.
Once I learned what I should actually be doing, I dropped that exhausting role of trying to be the glue.
Instead, I let it all go. I let it all fall apart. Everything. I stopped fixing. I stopped lying for him. I stopped covering. I stopped downplaying.
And here’s the thing: it actually helped. I know, that may sound crazy, especially if you’re in the thick of playing this fixer role.
Listen to find out how letting it all fall apart can be the most helpful thing you could do for your partner (and yourself).
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[@angelawilliamsrealtor2637]

I'm so glad I let it all fall apart! So unhealthy for me, never again

[@SunShine-xs7ig]

Your videos are amazing.you put all your efforts to help people like us to deal with addictive partner.you are such a caring person.you deserve best in life.i wish you all the happiness in life and may god always bless you and your children.

[@loveoveraddiction54]

Thank you xoxo

[@rebeccapeterson7405]

I just finished fighting with my alcoholic sister. My enabling her has now fallen apart. It’s a relief for me, really.

[@karlataylor1172]

The hardest thing to do is let go.l am really struggling

[@MandyGood]

My husband admits he’s an alcoholic. My husband hasn’t wanted help when I let things fall apart. He got lost of job/suspended license/I paid all the fees (1000 dollars). Everything he does effects me.

[@loveoveraddiction54]

Hi LaLa, this is Laurie. That's definitely so hard. Sending you so many hugs

[@paulgiro3235]

🙏💖 THANK YOU 🦋 LUCIA

[@monavie6526]

I'm heading to the website! I am really interested in your programs!

[@loveoveraddiction54]

Yay! That makes us happy. Please reach out anytime you need with any questions. Our email address is: [e-mail]. We're here for you

[@jessl1892]

So freaking true

[@Dreakarma1]

😭