i used to work with children in shelters that had very bad behaviour - really violent, loud etc. - but if you understand the situation you often can solve it. believe me: it is easy to be patient when you know what you are doing and when you know it (allmost all the time) works. you also get all the reward. all that connection and love - it gives you so much strength. i also was in schools that are named "problem schools". i worked in classes with a dog and one teacher was crying because with me his students "worked" and he felt himself a failure. but he was not. i used to talk a lot with those teachers discussing all the situations and talking why i did what. sometimes even why i stood left or right in the room. why my dog was in front or behind me. so much happened without even seen as intervention. i made the class a team. and young students then love you. they WANT to love you in the end. and these teachers later came up to me: no more burn outs: with so much love from 25 or more students every morning - you can go into the world like on clouds. this does not mean you are not tired in the evening and your body sometimes hurts because there are also physical challenges but in the end if your heart gets joy every day and often - there is no burn out. there is a wish to get up every day and participate in this wonderfull world. it needs patience in the beginning because we are triggered when we suffered from violent upbringing. but more and more the tool you learn and put in place overwrite the old programs and you even get to be a new person. and look how much her children trust her: they are honnest because nothing will follow that they can not stand. they subconsciously expect solutions and love - not punishment and pain. even being sent to the room is not so difficult because it is not done to break the childs spirit. so mom is rewarded with her tools working and children cooperating most of the time and so much love in the end. this gives her the power to do this. how much better she feels than a mom that would slap her children and put them in time out and let them feel like a broken relationship which has to be earned back. these parents feel so much stressed out. and loose so much energy. and even later the apology is forced not comming from the heart. the harsh parents would also not allow the smallest to bring his love into the group. they would say the "eveldoer" would not deserve it. he has to feel he does not get love now. he has to be ashamed and feel pain. she does not make them feel pain (more than just comming from the situation). so they also are not shutting down but are so open for love and cooperation. everyone is winning in this game shown here - not only the children who are not beaten up but also mom who has children that exchange a lot of love and learn and mature like you really can watch and who cooperate and reward you as a parent all the time. so this patience is an investion that pays back soooo well.
This woman needs to teach a workshop for toddler and preschool teachers. So many of them just tell the child to say sorry and then move on. What she is doing is teaching empathy which unfortunately is lacking in today's society. Well done Mom!
Or if mothers do have empathy today, unfortunately, too many of them are busy staring down at their phones and not involved with their children like this mother is.
You are a champion, mommy! Your patience and knowledge are so commendable. I raised 3 children of my own, and i thought i was a great patient mommy then I see you and your parenting magic, and I know exactly the grandmother i want to be.❤
This is almost exactly what I do in my classroom (k-5) albeit adjusted for time, space and age group. I hardly ever have to send kids to the office. I listen to both sides of the story and help them understand each other. The only time I send kids to the office is if they refuse to listen or work through things. Most of the time they’re just too overstimulated at that point.
I need a video on how to teach boys to play with other aggressive boys in a park or something 🥺 cause you can control not being aggressive at home but how to teach them to protect themselves while putting clear boundaries to others who want to hurt them
I like how after she redirected the energy because as an adult after conflict I don’t know how to get things back on track: it’s always weird or the silent treatment. Not because I want to but because I genuinely don’t know how. Just feels like the other person still is upset with me
Patience is the most important trait of a parent outside of love. Too many parents don’t understand that. Anytime a parent is angry, especially at kids younger than teen years, it’s a reflection of a needed parenting moment…sometimes it means you need to adjust how you parent. Kids cannot be expected to think like adults or feel like adults. So much in the world is new to them and they try, but so much is not understood by them. Parents are to guide and teach them. I hate it when parents yell at or scold toddlers or babies. Those parents need a good face whack. I love that this mother shares her good parenting knowledge, so others may see what children need.
You are such a great mother and you handle these situations very nicely and when I have kids one day I will be looking up to you when I have to tell my kids not to hit or push their siblings down or friends down
It says so much that in all these videos, her children aren’t so terrified of her that they won’t admit when they did a bad thing. They know they will be corrected, but they’re not afraid of mom to the point they try to lie. That says everything.
Well done young lady. Keep it up. You will inspire to so many women. That's the way to handle toddlers and the response was good and I love it. God bless you
Genuine question: how did you learn how to manage such situations? I want to become a mother in a couple of years and am wondering what I can do to learn about gentleparenting
Can't say I agree with this approach. The ideal thing is for your child to want to be emotionally open with you, and as another commenter pointed out, by sending the kid away for expressing his emotions rather than being a safety net for him to let it out, it encourages the exact opposite. This is one way to ensure your kids will keep secrets from you, or even sneak out at night when older. Then you'll be all upset about it and take the frustration out on the kids, and the cycle will just worsen until, at worst, they downright resent or even fear you.
This is actually bad and abusive parenting. She's selling her children's privacy online there is no excuse for violating your children's privacy this way.
@@ruckyg3177 I don't really have a problem with that aspect, as the purpose is educating other moms who may well be unsure of how to go about in certain situations with their kids. It's not like the kids will understand they're being shown on the web. As they grow older, though, they should get a say in whether the content remains on YT for the public to see.
look how honest the boy is in the first place and how soft her hands send him to the room. he knows that he is not punished. he goes there without problems. no one is overly tense. on contrary. look the difference how the supernanny-kids are treated in time outs. this is suppressing. these kids here are able to be honest because she gives them tools for containment and solutions. their frustration in this stage of maturing is not building up but she allways gives them appropriate tools (not all in one vid). she often explains to the middle child how to come from non-verbal to verbal. so he can express his feelings more appropriate. this is perfect for his stage of development. he also seems a bit sick so he might have regressed a bit.
@@ruckyg3177 I understand what you mean, but I agree with arvid, too, that for the purpose of teaching moms how to handle these situations with their kids, I approve of the mother recording these videos for this reason. As arvid said, as the kids grow older, they will probably have more of a say in what their mom can record and show on the internet.
if you are raised otherwise you will be triggered all the time and also loose your temper sometimes. but you can literally train these kind of interactions. and everytime they are so rewarding even for you as a parent. you have to intervene 1000 times till your child even goes to school. you will need to 1000 times yell and hit or to 1000 times do it loving and affectionate. first way will burn you out. look how tired parents feel who are aggressive. and how physically tired but emotionally filled up such a mom can feel. so yes - you will give your children some experiences that will result from you being triggered and now knowing better yet. but you will learn if you practise these ways and learn and reflect - and also you will feel these good outcomes and have so much reward and after times they will become second nature and also your own inner child will be healed on the way. all will be well.
Don’t send your child in his Room! The core idea behind sending a child to her room is so that they can sit in solitude away from others, calm their emotions down, but also have a good think about their actions. It’s also considered a much better option than smacking, hitting, shouting and yelling; and allows parents to handle a difficult situation with a consistent ‘one size fits all’ approach without actually having to deal with any of the negative or uncomfortable behaviours their child has shown! However, experts believe it can send the wrong message to kids about their behaviour, long-term. According to Laura Markham, a psychologist from Aha! Parenting, even though children may emerge from their rooms calmer, they have missed out on an opportunity for development. “Under anger, there’s always fear or hurt or powerlessness,” she says (as reported by The Atlantic). And so when you send your child to their room, you’re also sending the message for them to suppress these underlying emotions until they’re ready to act with the world again, instead of expressing why they feel that way and getting to the bottom of the problem.
these kids are not sent to their rooms to be lonely and think it through alone. she takes responsability for teaching them and offering solutions like it is appropriate for such young children. look how soft her hands are - and he can take the affection and these hands show him how to feel better. he is not like totally seperated when in his room for a short time. the bond is held up by those touches. of course she knows about those feelings. the middle boy is managing the staging from being reactive and non verbal to be verbal. she often explains how to ask instead for crying or hurting - so there is no longer a feeling of powerlessness and less frustration, less anger etc. she does not just suppress the feelings or make the children suppress them. she gives them tool to be competent and no longer fall in so many trapps...
I raised 14 other people's sons. Different heights...I always got down to their level, eye to eye, to speak to/with them. Always worked for me. Eye to eye, just as thus mom did.
Patience is the key. They don’t understand why they do things. They just react. It’s our job to make it make sense. Great job mom. But sending them to their room is a form of punishment. They don’t need to be punished because they don’t understand that yet.
i would like to give an example: i have twin nephews their names are Z and P when they were your children's age, they had made a huge fight with crying and screaming. and also Z had slapped to P. i questioned them to find the cause of the incident. i asked Z why she slapped to her sister P. she told me why. then i asked P why she do to Z that thing. she said me the reason. i tried for about 20 minutes. i asked one after another. they were very fond of each other because my sister died. in the end the truth turned out: they had just started school. their father had put them in separate classes. one day P had made a picture of herself in art class. then near to herself she had drew a picture of his classmate. but she hadn't painted his sister Z. the weird thing is: P was unaware of her sister Z's resentment. the incident had grew and grew and eventually broke out for another reason. satan sows the seeds of discord among people step by step like this.
One thing; is asking if they are sorry versus telling them to say sorry. You aren’t teaching what sorry means (empathy) when you make it a rote response.
When I see these videos I cannot help but remind something Jordan peterson (a psychologist) says a lot. He says "You have to make your kids socially desirable. It's your damn job." THIS IS DEFINETLY THE WAY TO DO IT.
The worst: when you think, they have to handle those situatons alone or they will figure out themselves. No, they won't. They dont know, we have to teach them and live it this way. How many adults even do not know how to argue and fight with friends or partners. So you have start with yourself. Which also means, you have to work with your traumas / childhood / regulate your nervous system.
Dude this is getting scary... like the mom that was posting how good of a mom she was just to find out she had her kids tied up and would untie them to just make videos like these. Some one needs to go check on these kids
just because she was horrible doesn't mean all social media moms are i mean she is kinda bad for sharing their faces on internet but doesn't necessarily mean she ties them up bro
Exactly. This is bad and abusive parenting. She's selling her children's privacy online there is no excuse for violating your children's privacy this way.
@@ruckyg3177 i personaly agree with most of her parenting style and learn from her. and i think she could still talk sbout it and educate us about her experiences without filming tantrums and sharing their names, locations and personal feelings. i always watch this mom vloggers thinking how easy it is for someone to kidnapp their kid by gaining their trust saying i know your siblings your birthday i have pics of you all in my phone etc. social media is such a horrible place for children.
Oh girl you're great 👍 I want you to keep uploading. It's been just a week that I have been following your time out method and it has changed my parenting completely. Although i am still learning and making some mistakes here and there. However practice will make me better. 😊 May Allah bless you.
How did it make you feel when you hit your brother? Do you think hitting is okay? Is gentle parenting, having talks right away, it’s communication over emotion, this is lecturing but calmly, but still strict parenting. You dont really give a learning opportunity here, just punishment and then forced apology.
@@mountaincliff_bayvalleyfor context this women claims to offer this videos as lessons for gentle parenting but she doesnt have any knowledge or experience with gentle parenting. Its like watching a new dog owner give tips to other dog owners. Gentle parenting isnt being nice to your kids, its giving them tools and resources to learn on their own without letting your emotions show. Asking them the questions i said above offers them an opportunity to learn on their own which will stick with them, when you demand it from them and punish them until they say the exact think you want them to say theyre not learning, theyre just repeating in order to make you happy and not get punished more. Punishments plus demanding apologies literally doesn’t teach the child a single thing.
@@mountaincliff_bayvalleydo you know who else used forced apologies and punishment as a tool for parenting? Ruby frank and her messed up business partner. She also gave these exact same lessons on how to parent, they even had a podcast. Im not ever going to stop watching this mom cause i know as her kids get older they will be more at risk of her narcissistic behavior
Time outs are not the answer if you want to teach your kids about emotional regulation. By sending a child to be on their own in their sadness, you are teaching them that their emotions are not okay and rather than going to you when they feel sad, they will instead learn to withdraw. Distracting them from their emotions is also not effective because you teach them that only "positive" emotions are okay to feel, to be rewarded. Affirm all emotions to make a child feel heard, validated, and not alone. I recommend circle of security parenting program! look it up to learn more about it.
Bu kadının yaptığı bence büyük bir sanat büyük bir ince işçilik. İnce ve zor işçilik yapan sanatkârlardan çok daha büyük bir iş yapıyor. Tebrik ederim.
I am struggling and am hoping for some insight or advice. I have four boys, my oldest, and 3 toddlers. My middle child WILL NOT APOLOGIZE for anything. I have literally tried everything and he will either make excuses or just flat out NOT DO IT. I don’t understand why he does this, because he hears us apologize for things. What is it about I’m sorry that he just WILL NOT say it? Of course I want him to mean it when he says it but the fact he will not even utter the words is really bothering me and I’m not sure how to go about it anymore. He is the most strong willed and a little bit rebellious. Not sure if it stems from him being the middle child, and having younger twin brothers.. He didn’t get to be the baby for long. Not that it’s an excuse for him being rude or anything… I am just having a hard time. Hoping maybe someone’s been through the same and has some sort of advice.
Fake apologies should NEVER be encouraged as that's a form of emotional manipulation. I'd recommend seeing a specialized child psychologist and giving a completely accurate and honest description of what's going on, so that the situation can be properly assessed. My amateur guess is your middle child feels unfairly treated in one way or the other with his "payback" being disobedience and rebelliousness.
Her patience is unbelievable. God bless her. Her husband should thank God every day for having such a wonderful wife and mother to his sons.
And daughters
Dad’s presumably busy filming his sons having meltdowns
i used to work with children in shelters that had very bad behaviour - really violent, loud etc. - but if you understand the situation you often can solve it. believe me: it is easy to be patient when you know what you are doing and when you know it (allmost all the time) works. you also get all the reward. all that connection and love - it gives you so much strength. i also was in schools that are named "problem schools". i worked in classes with a dog and one teacher was crying because with me his students "worked" and he felt himself a failure. but he was not. i used to talk a lot with those teachers discussing all the situations and talking why i did what. sometimes even why i stood left or right in the room. why my dog was in front or behind me. so much happened without even seen as intervention. i made the class a team. and young students then love you. they WANT to love you in the end. and these teachers later came up to me: no more burn outs: with so much love from 25 or more students every morning - you can go into the world like on clouds. this does not mean you are not tired in the evening and your body sometimes hurts because there are also physical challenges but in the end if your heart gets joy every day and often - there is no burn out. there is a wish to get up every day and participate in this wonderfull world. it needs patience in the beginning because we are triggered when we suffered from violent upbringing. but more and more the tool you learn and put in place overwrite the old programs and you even get to be a new person. and look how much her children trust her: they are honnest because nothing will follow that they can not stand. they subconsciously expect solutions and love - not punishment and pain. even being sent to the room is not so difficult because it is not done to break the childs spirit. so mom is rewarded with her tools working and children cooperating most of the time and so much love in the end. this gives her the power to do this. how much better she feels than a mom that would slap her children and put them in time out and let them feel like a broken relationship which has to be earned back. these parents feel so much stressed out. and loose so much energy. and even later the apology is forced not comming from the heart. the harsh parents would also not allow the smallest to bring his love into the group. they would say the "eveldoer" would not deserve it. he has to feel he does not get love now. he has to be ashamed and feel pain. she does not make them feel pain (more than just comming from the situation). so they also are not shutting down but are so open for love and cooperation. everyone is winning in this game shown here - not only the children who are not beaten up but also mom who has children that exchange a lot of love and learn and mature like you really can watch and who cooperate and reward you as a parent all the time. so this patience is an investion that pays back soooo well.
@@darasmith4069 ikr
Really unbelievable patience she has to handle kids
The youngest brother is always helping her at the end 🤣❤️ i love him he always comes in the right time and hugs everyone
Bless this young mother. She is doing things the right way!
This woman needs to teach a workshop for toddler and preschool teachers. So many of them just tell the child to say sorry and then move on. What she is doing is teaching empathy which unfortunately is lacking in today's society. Well done Mom!
Or if mothers do have empathy today, unfortunately, too many of them are busy staring down at their phones and not involved with their children like this mother is.
@@brynne77exactly
Rightly said ❤
The perfect mommy! She knows exactly what she doing!! Well done mommy
no one’s perfect babe
Don’t be fooled by what they show online.
Love it how the little one came over and hugs everyone❤
The littlest boy is just a love bomb-the way he toddles up to his bigger brothers and tries to hug them-I melt every single time❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
your parenting is just too good, I watch all your videos just for these adorable little boys 🥺😭
😢😮
the youngest is a source of tenderness and love😊
I like how she softly grabs his hands and holds them - he focused well after that as he was grabbing his face before - well done mom
Does she softly grab his hands to get his attention so the child will focus on her and what she's saying?
You are a champion, mommy! Your patience and knowledge are so commendable. I raised 3 children of my own, and i thought i was a great patient mommy then I see you and your parenting magic, and I know exactly the grandmother i want to be.❤
If I ever become a mom, I will try my best to be like this. ❤
My goodness. She keeps calm and her parenting comes through her calmness wonderful very very wonderful..
That's very important, don't get mad at your kids, don't scream at them.
You are the "teacher mommy " what are you doing is an amazing work 👌👍👏❤
the way he went to the room on the first ask ❤ No wonder y'all have so many kids..y'all do such a great job at raising them
This is beautiful!!! If more parents did this with there kids there wouldn’t be so many kids that make poor choice and are unkind
This is almost exactly what I do in my classroom (k-5) albeit adjusted for time, space and age group. I hardly ever have to send kids to the office. I listen to both sides of the story and help them understand each other. The only time I send kids to the office is if they refuse to listen or work through things. Most of the time they’re just too overstimulated at that point.
I need a video on how to teach boys to play with other aggressive boys in a park or something 🥺 cause you can control not being aggressive at home but how to teach them to protect themselves while putting clear boundaries to others who want to hurt them
Agree
Yeah. They should learn martial arts along with learning compassion.
Those lil hugs is so cute haha
Good job mom. Wish all parents had your skills. 👍🏽
She has a magical influence on kids to listen to her. May Allah bless her to become an amazing mother
I like how after she redirected the energy because as an adult after conflict I don’t know how to get things back on track: it’s always weird or the silent treatment. Not because I want to but because I genuinely don’t know how. Just feels like the other person still is upset with me
I love how you educate your children so much ❤❤❤❤
Patience is the most important trait of a parent outside of love. Too many parents don’t understand that. Anytime a parent is angry, especially at kids younger than teen years, it’s a reflection of a needed parenting moment…sometimes it means you need to adjust how you parent. Kids cannot be expected to think like adults or feel like adults. So much in the world is new to them and they try, but so much is not understood by them. Parents are to guide and teach them.
I hate it when parents yell at or scold toddlers or babies. Those parents need a good face whack.
I love that this mother shares her good parenting knowledge, so others may see what children need.
You are so calm when you talk to them like I’m so proud of you
BEST MOM EVER!!
You are such a great mother and you handle these situations very nicely and when I have kids one day I will be looking up to you when I have to tell my kids not to hit or push their siblings down or friends down
Wonderful wife and mother to his son's ❤. Im breast cancer survivor I love my life 🧬🧬❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are such a great mom and a great role model for your children I hope you and your family have an awesome day 😊
It says so much that in all these videos, her children aren’t so terrified of her that they won’t admit when they did a bad thing. They know they will be corrected, but they’re not afraid of mom to the point they try to lie. That says everything.
I love cutie Roman ! Please give him a BIG beary hug from my side ❤
I love how you always end it on a good note. Amazing parenting! 💕
Well done young lady. Keep it up. You will inspire to so many women. That's the way to handle toddlers and the response was good and I love it. God bless you
Genuine question: how did you learn how to manage such situations? I want to become a mother in a couple of years and am wondering what I can do to learn about gentleparenting
What a great mom.
I have one son and four daughthers, when I see your video, you remind me my patience, my tendresse and my love with them ❤❤
Can't say I agree with this approach. The ideal thing is for your child to want to be emotionally open with you, and as another commenter pointed out, by sending the kid away for expressing his emotions rather than being a safety net for him to let it out, it encourages the exact opposite. This is one way to ensure your kids will keep secrets from you, or even sneak out at night when older. Then you'll be all upset about it and take the frustration out on the kids, and the cycle will just worsen until, at worst, they downright resent or even fear you.
But she sends him to the room to calm down, then speaks to him. He would not listen at the beginning because he was angry and defensive.
This is actually bad and abusive parenting. She's selling her children's privacy online there is no excuse for violating your children's privacy this way.
@@ruckyg3177 I don't really have a problem with that aspect, as the purpose is educating other moms who may well be unsure of how to go about in certain situations with their kids. It's not like the kids will understand they're being shown on the web. As they grow older, though, they should get a say in whether the content remains on YT for the public to see.
look how honest the boy is in the first place and how soft her hands send him to the room. he knows that he is not punished. he goes there without problems. no one is overly tense. on contrary. look the difference how the supernanny-kids are treated in time outs. this is suppressing. these kids here are able to be honest because she gives them tools for containment and solutions. their frustration in this stage of maturing is not building up but she allways gives them appropriate tools (not all in one vid). she often explains to the middle child how to come from non-verbal to verbal. so he can express his feelings more appropriate. this is perfect for his stage of development. he also seems a bit sick so he might have regressed a bit.
@@ruckyg3177 I understand what you mean, but I agree with arvid, too, that for the purpose of teaching moms how to handle these situations with their kids, I approve of the mother recording these videos for this reason. As arvid said, as the kids grow older, they will probably have more of a say in what their mom can record and show on the internet.
Your such a good mom your parenting is on point ❤❤❤❤
Just i wanna tell u that ur such a beautiful and kind mommy..may god blees u🥺❤️
It so cute big bro playing touching little bro, when mum talking to middle bro ❤
Well informed, intentional and well-mannered mum. You sparkle like diamond. Kudos to you!👍
I hope that I can get this type of patience and attitude with my kids. ❤❤❤
if you are raised otherwise you will be triggered all the time and also loose your temper sometimes. but you can literally train these kind of interactions. and everytime they are so rewarding even for you as a parent. you have to intervene 1000 times till your child even goes to school. you will need to 1000 times yell and hit or to 1000 times do it loving and affectionate. first way will burn you out. look how tired parents feel who are aggressive. and how physically tired but emotionally filled up such a mom can feel. so yes - you will give your children some experiences that will result from you being triggered and now knowing better yet. but you will learn if you practise these ways and learn and reflect - and also you will feel these good outcomes and have so much reward and after times they will become second nature and also your own inner child will be healed on the way. all will be well.
@@ChiefHerzensCoach Thanks 😊
Now THAT, people, is what I call a lesson well learned
The littlest one is a . . . LOVE instigator!☺️
Don’t send your child in his Room! The core idea behind sending a child to her room is so that they can sit in solitude away from others, calm their emotions down, but also have a good think about their actions. It’s also considered a much better option than smacking, hitting, shouting and yelling; and allows parents to handle a difficult situation with a consistent ‘one size fits all’ approach without actually having to deal with any of the negative or uncomfortable behaviours their child has shown! However, experts believe it can send the wrong message to kids about their behaviour, long-term. According to Laura Markham, a psychologist from Aha! Parenting, even though children may emerge from their rooms calmer, they have missed out on an opportunity for development.
“Under anger, there’s always fear or hurt or powerlessness,” she says (as reported by The Atlantic). And so when you send your child to their room, you’re also sending the message for them to suppress these underlying emotions until they’re ready to act with the world again, instead of expressing why they feel that way and getting to the bottom of the problem.
these kids are not sent to their rooms to be lonely and think it through alone. she takes responsability for teaching them and offering solutions like it is appropriate for such young children. look how soft her hands are - and he can take the affection and these hands show him how to feel better. he is not like totally seperated when in his room for a short time. the bond is held up by those touches. of course she knows about those feelings. the middle boy is managing the staging from being reactive and non verbal to be verbal. she often explains how to ask instead for crying or hurting - so there is no longer a feeling of powerlessness and less frustration, less anger etc. she does not just suppress the feelings or make the children suppress them. she gives them tool to be competent and no longer fall in so many trapps...
Such good communication skills for your boys👏👏
Great mom!! ❤❤
Thanks for the reminders of time gone by❤
I raised 14 other people's sons. Different heights...I always got down to their level, eye to eye, to speak to/with them. Always worked for me. Eye to eye, just as thus mom did.
Patience is the key. They don’t understand why they do things. They just react. It’s our job to make it make sense. Great job mom. But sending them to their room is a form of punishment. They don’t need to be punished because they don’t understand that yet.
She us a GREAT mother
This lady is amazing❤
They are good brothers and sisters ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love how you say people and not your brother. Teaching your children at such a young age not to be unkind to others
I just need the level of patience and situation handling expertise she has❤
I love this mom more than her kids no offence 😊
This video ❤️ you guys make melt my heart
You are a best mother love from India 😊😊
So precious! Praise God. ❤
❤Warms my heart so much ❤
Now this is parenting ! 😊
You have such cute adorable baby boys😍😍😍
Such beautiful parenting. What a stunning family ❤️❤️❤️
i would like to give an example:
i have twin nephews
their names are Z and P
when they were your children's age, they had made a huge fight with crying and screaming.
and also Z had slapped to P.
i questioned them to find the cause of the incident.
i asked Z why she slapped to her sister P. she told me why.
then i asked P why she do to Z that thing. she said me the reason.
i tried for about 20 minutes. i asked one after another.
they were very fond of each other because my sister died.
in the end the truth turned out:
they had just started school. their father had put them in separate classes.
one day P had made a picture of herself in art class. then near to herself she had drew a picture of his classmate. but she hadn't painted his sister Z.
the weird thing is:
P was unaware of her sister Z's resentment.
the incident had grew and grew and eventually broke out for another reason.
satan sows the seeds of discord among people step by step like this.
just the best! see how she teaches???? learn it now!!!
Well, and gently said mum well done
Amazing mum
so adorable kids.
So simple, so clear❤
Amazing !
One thing; is asking if they are sorry versus telling them to say sorry. You aren’t teaching what sorry means (empathy) when you make it a rote response.
She has a nice way to tell them what to do
Awwwwww 🥰🥰🥰🥰 I'm learning so much!
Great parenting...❤
When I see these videos I cannot help but remind something Jordan peterson (a psychologist) says a lot. He says "You have to make your kids socially desirable. It's your damn job." THIS IS DEFINETLY THE WAY TO DO IT.
they are happy well behaved children
The worst: when you think, they have to handle those situatons alone or they will figure out themselves. No, they won't. They dont know, we have to teach them and live it this way. How many adults even do not know how to argue and fight with friends or partners.
So you have start with yourself. Which also means, you have to work with your traumas / childhood / regulate your nervous system.
You make a good point about arguing with friends in a calm manner (I guess by talking it out calmly).
She is like my grandma in teaching disciplines.
Never use a childs room as punishment! Use a chair or a different room, never the room they should feel.safe in
How come? Not disputing it, just interested in your reasoning behind it.
Beautiful ❤️
Dude this is getting scary... like the mom that was posting how good of a mom she was just to find out she had her kids tied up and would untie them to just make videos like these. Some one needs to go check on these kids
just because she was horrible doesn't mean all social media moms are
i mean she is kinda bad for sharing their faces on internet but doesn't necessarily mean she ties them up bro
Exactly. This is bad and abusive parenting. She's selling her children's privacy online there is no excuse for violating your children's privacy this way.
@@ruckyg3177 i personaly agree with most of her parenting style and learn from her. and i think she could still talk sbout it and educate us about her experiences without filming tantrums and sharing their names, locations and personal feelings. i always watch this mom vloggers thinking how easy it is for someone to kidnapp their kid by gaining their trust saying i know your siblings your birthday i have pics of you all in my phone etc. social media is such a horrible place for children.
Yep
Mommy dearest your soooo full of your self
God bless them all ❤🙏❤
Oh girl you're great 👍
I want you to keep uploading.
It's been just a week that I have been following your time out method and it has changed my parenting completely. Although i am still learning and making some mistakes here and there. However practice will make me better. 😊
May Allah bless you.
Mother of the century.
Oooh i luv you guys ❤❤
How did it make you feel when you hit your brother? Do you think hitting is okay? Is gentle parenting, having talks right away, it’s communication over emotion, this is lecturing but calmly, but still strict parenting. You dont really give a learning opportunity here, just punishment and then forced apology.
Your comment makes zero sense
@@mountaincliff_bayvalleyfor context this women claims to offer this videos as lessons for gentle parenting but she doesnt have any knowledge or experience with gentle parenting. Its like watching a new dog owner give tips to other dog owners. Gentle parenting isnt being nice to your kids, its giving them tools and resources to learn on their own without letting your emotions show. Asking them the questions i said above offers them an opportunity to learn on their own which will stick with them, when you demand it from them and punish them until they say the exact think you want them to say theyre not learning, theyre just repeating in order to make you happy and not get punished more. Punishments plus demanding apologies literally doesn’t teach the child a single thing.
@@mountaincliff_bayvalleydo you know who else used forced apologies and punishment as a tool for parenting? Ruby frank and her messed up business partner. She also gave these exact same lessons on how to parent, they even had a podcast. Im not ever going to stop watching this mom cause i know as her kids get older they will be more at risk of her narcissistic behavior
@@kenzus96 Thanks for clarifying. I quite agree!
You are my favorite CZcams channel
Time outs are not the answer if you want to teach your kids about emotional regulation. By sending a child to be on their own in their sadness, you are teaching them that their emotions are not okay and rather than going to you when they feel sad, they will instead learn to withdraw. Distracting them from their emotions is also not effective because you teach them that only "positive" emotions are okay to feel, to be rewarded. Affirm all emotions to make a child feel heard, validated, and not alone. I recommend circle of security parenting program! look it up to learn more about it.
Please listen to this @livjowen, because it's spot on! This is a recipe for getting them NOT to be emotionally open with you when they grow up.
Guardo questa meravigliosa mamma e piango, di gioia per loro, e infinito dolore per me , per tutto il male che ho seminato!!!
So cute children
Mother of The Year.....
You're the best.
Good job you are the best of the best’s.
Make more videos, please, and also for new moms.
Bu kadının yaptığı bence büyük bir sanat büyük bir ince işçilik. İnce ve zor işçilik yapan sanatkârlardan çok daha büyük bir iş yapıyor. Tebrik ederim.
Love mommy ❤❤
I am struggling and am hoping for some insight or advice. I have four boys, my oldest, and 3 toddlers. My middle child WILL NOT APOLOGIZE for anything. I have literally tried everything and he will either make excuses or just flat out NOT DO IT. I don’t understand why he does this, because he hears us apologize for things. What is it about I’m sorry that he just WILL NOT say it? Of course I want him to mean it when he says it but the fact he will not even utter the words is really bothering me and I’m not sure how to go about it anymore. He is the most strong willed and a little bit rebellious. Not sure if it stems from him being the middle child, and having younger twin brothers.. He didn’t get to be the baby for long. Not that it’s an excuse for him being rude or anything… I am just having a hard time. Hoping maybe someone’s been through the same and has some sort of advice.
Could be a personality disorder of some kind
Fake apologies should NEVER be encouraged as that's a form of emotional manipulation. I'd recommend seeing a specialized child psychologist and giving a completely accurate and honest description of what's going on, so that the situation can be properly assessed. My amateur guess is your middle child feels unfairly treated in one way or the other with his "payback" being disobedience and rebelliousness.
Good parenting.
She knows they be cussing her out and acting a fool outside!!