This made me well up. You are so kind. I'm overwhelmed, just so so overwhelmed. I shut down all the time because I am so overwhelmed. Thank you for this.
Hey if you ever need a cheer leader or someone to rant with while we tackle stuff I'm here. I know I am just a complete stranger but sometimes strangers are easier to open up to.
Some how this comment was hidden, I hope you are doing well. It is so easy to become overwhelmed. People who do not struggle with this have no idea what it is like. We'll all get through this together.
I am capable of change and growth. I realized today that a lot of the problems I’ve been having - doom scrolling and wasting time mainly - are because I’m in an area of my life where I’m scared. Even cleaning feels scary. What if everything gets bad again? What if it somehow gets worse? Why am I so weak? But I’m not weak. And there’s no way to tell the future. All I can do is be kind to me and my future self and begin chipping away at the mess. My kindness to myself includes looking the fear I’ve been ignoring and not acknowledging in the face. Saying “I know, it’s scary. Everything is right now. But I can help you and that will help us both. So even if it’s scary, let’s keep moving forward.”
I feel this way too. Tbh it helps knowing I'm not the only one like this. My husband is as understanding as he can be but he's never dealt with it himself. A lot of times my mind talks me out of things by convincing me that it will be ruined by something. For example, don't bother cleaning this because it will get dirty again. Don't order delivery from this place because they'll probably mess up your order anyway. Don't go to the store people will stare at you just order groceries. Don't go out for a walk because it will probably be hot and uncomfortable outside. And it goes on and on and on! It's exhausting. I don't really know how to fix it other than drowning it out with music or TV. We're currently in the process of moving into our first home that we've ever owned, in a different small city in a nicer climate with nicer people. It's been difficult to get the packing done but I keep telling myself to just get through this because I hopefully won't ever have to move again! And I know a lot of people advise against thinking "after X, I'll Y" but in my case I know it's true.. we've been visiting the area for a year and I went to college there. I was a different person back then because my life was simply happier being there with that scenery and the climate wasn't killing me. So I'm making every effort to change my daily life with this move. I am feeling more and more confident that I can do it. I know you can too you just have to keep making your way. 💜
Wow....your words have moved me so much! It never clicked to me that I feel paralyzed to do anything because I AM SCARED! True example of paralysis by analysis! I don't know you and you don't know me but your comment has helped me so much. Thank you❤
After years, I have finally been able to begin to clear a particularly difficult kitchen counter. I used to feel vulnerable seeing the clean open spaces, but that did not happen this time.😊❤
So true! I’m in that moment now. I overwhelmed and don’t know how to start! The depression is so severe that I just can’t even gather the strength or motivation. I have become a helmet and it’s scaring me ..
I'm doing this in therapy, but not with cleaning tho.My therapist calls it, "synaptic restructuring". She said when we do things that are hard for us (breaking patterns/addictions/etc.), we are literally creating new neural pathways that will help break us out of harmful behaviors. It takes A LOT of strength to FORCE your own brain to reroute itself to healthier behavior, but PLEASE try to remember that the "muscles" we use get STRONGER and are EASIER to use with time. Who ever has gone thru this, I'm so so proud of you 🥰🖤
@@ShellyCline It's ALOT of work, and I know that, for me, I WISH I had known that changing it and it getting easier was possible AT ALL. It may seem like common knowledge, but it wasn't for me. I felt I wasn't sure if I wanted to spend the rest of my life FIGHTING. It feels insurmountable and I wanted to make sure someone said it out loud. Thank u so much for interacting with me 🥰🖤
Would it be possible for you to give us a list of what things you've found with your extensive experience can genuinely be cleaned and what things we just need to toss because they can't be recovered when it's like this?
Not her, but it depends on what kind of mess you have I feel. Is it a "clean" mess? Or are there flies? Has food rotted into stuff? Is the dirty stuff expensive and worth the time, or can they be replaced cheaply? Is having the thing more important than the extra space you'd have without it? If you haven't used it in a few months, is it something you could borrow from a friend on the rare occasion you need it? An example I can think of is if I have a container with moldy food that's sat for a good while: if it's glass it can likely be cleaned/sanitized, and glass containers are $$. But plastic/Tupperware? I keep the lid closed and toss it.
@kaydotz Thank you kindly. These are all good points! I have a somewhat unique situation where I am dealing with items damaged in a hurricane (water/ debris/ mold growth inside the house...long story). Naturally, there are some things that are obvious as to can/ cannot be cleaned, but there are a few things I just can't determine whether or not I can get them clean enough to be safe to keep. It's a large random assortment, though, and I figured she likely could easily say which things are definitely not able to be saved.
Congratulations..excellent job. Tks for helping people. They will have a great New oportunity to restart a very clean home. A big hug from Brazil. 🙏🙏💙💙🇧🇷🇧🇷
Moving into an Oxford house has been amazing for me unlearning/relearning how to be uncluttered! $10 fine if you leave a cup out is a great motivator 😅
I took early retirement last fall to recover from so much stress during covid. That was 7 months ago and I am still working on improving myself mentally, physically and emotionally. It's working but it is taking time. My home is looking better as well. Don't give up, keep trying.❤
I'm in the same moment of everyone here. Depression is so awful that every time I see something I'm supposed to do I just go "eww" or "meh". Last night my husband made me notice a dish with some leftover food I left on the counter. I didn't finish it because it wasn't good, but didn't have the heart to toss it. My depression med helps me not having crying fits anymore, but the depression is still there...
ive recently started doing small bits of cleaning every other day just because. i've been in a major funk after losing my pets, but when i did still have my boys i always pushed through to clean even when at my lowest, which now is applying to my more empty apartment. im starting to realize i actually really love cleaning, and i'm trying my best to keep up this habit that my boys seem to have kickstarted in me 💖 starting small is so powerful, truly
I have ocd n was always organized n super big time clean everything but after my mom n all my elders passed n my health physically n mentally 💔 my house is just cluttered n needs like wall n baseboard etc cleaned n a dumpster so mines like kinda different my garage is filled n it's things that was all my loved ones they aren't sentimental to me but was to them 🥹🥹 now I'm caring for my 6mo old granbaby during days n about to have a major surgery n want normality back THANK U YOUR TRULY A BLESSING N A ANGEL
Not that it's a huge thing or that it will work for everyone, but I find it helps of I just look at one small thing. Even if it's just putting a new trash bag in. Then if I have the energy, I try to find one more little thing. Eventually I get and okay amount done. It's not a lot each day but every day builds on the last, and just for me and my situation, it help me keep more or less on top of things.
I had a really good friday, after months of no motivation to clean i had a sudden burst of it and spent the whole day cleaning my kitchen AND made brownies after (:
I wish my mom had this kind of help when I was growing up. There is often lots of fates around cleaning up. And I only learned how to clean in a mad dash.
I dont know if the plants were fake or not, but they all looked healthy, if so. I feel that. I have a ton of houseplants, and even if my house is in need of cleaning, the first thing that ill do is tend to the plants. Watering, pruning, maybe even repotting one or two in need, spraying them down to keep pests away. Its nice to care for ajother living thing when you dont feel like living. Kind of gives you a serotonin boost, and sometimes the motivation.
I find cleaning so hard. My body (with chronic pain) and brain (with a slew of mental health issues) are struggling so hard. I try to do little things every day but it doesn't amount to enough to keep on top of it.
I remember feeling that...then I just forced myself for 10 seconds to clean 1 Sq ft of space..then I did another 10 seconds and another... I got out of it. Then I'll walk away and let my husband throw stuff away when I feel super overwhelmed ❤ This is not to shame anyone. I hope the best for you all!
I truly hope you see this. I need help and advice. My grandma has been struggling with hoarding her entire life and it got worse when her sister was murdered her house is currently at the point where she can’t go in anymore. It’s really depressing to see her like this. Can you please give me advice?
Now, this is the first time I've heard you offer mental advice and not just cleaning. This is what they need, a talking to. So they can possibly move forward , because if you are just going to clean and not help them mentally. Then you're really not helping them.
I tapped on this notification thinking, "oh yeah, I need to state that my comment may have sounded like I was angry, but I wasn't." Then, I couldn't find my comment. I was like, why did you delete my comment?! There wasn't anything bad. Just a couple questions. Then... I realized this is CZcams. My comment must be on the Tiktok version. So, off I go to make sure you don't think THAT comment is angry. Lol
How much do you charge to clean I live my son in apt in Mitchell Indiana I need help is there any way you can help me I don't have alot of money but I will pay you what can please help I need help I am on oxygen 24/7 I have C.O.P.D Amanda as well as I said please help me
Little by little. It creeps up on you until one day you stop and realize what has happened, but by then it has you. The depression just becomes so overwhelming and it makes the littlest thing seem insurmountable. Then you just give up. I look around my place and the disaster it's become and I have horrendous panic attacks because I can't find a starting point. It's just easier to go back and lay on the bed than to work through the mess a little at a time. I wasn't raised like this, but I don't know how to stop it. This is exactly what my entire apartment looks like. Started with the kitchen and just morphed into the whole place. Now I'm beyond overwhelmed. Watching these videos tonight feel like they might have flipped a switch though. I'm going to try to get started in the morning since it's 2 a.m. right now.
you are so blessed to never have been in this situation. there are so many different reasons why people end up in these situations. a common one is older folks who cannot physically do anything about it, and dont have loved ones to help out. a recent video was about a young girl who has both mental and physical illnesses, in and out of surgery, who then lost her mother to cancer. it costs nothing to be kind and understanding, but it can certainly cost a lot to be judgemental.
This made me well up. You are so kind. I'm overwhelmed, just so so overwhelmed. I shut down all the time because I am so overwhelmed.
Thank you for this.
Hey if you ever need a cheer leader or someone to rant with while we tackle stuff I'm here. I know I am just a complete stranger but sometimes strangers are easier to open up to.
Some how this comment was hidden, I hope you are doing well. It is so easy to become overwhelmed. People who do not struggle with this have no idea what it is like. We'll all get through this together.
I'm in the same boat and have been for more years than I care to admit.
Welcome back, you wonderful angel 😇 ❤
I am capable of change and growth. I realized today that a lot of the problems I’ve been having - doom scrolling and wasting time mainly - are because I’m in an area of my life where I’m scared. Even cleaning feels scary. What if everything gets bad again? What if it somehow gets worse? Why am I so weak? But I’m not weak. And there’s no way to tell the future. All I can do is be kind to me and my future self and begin chipping away at the mess.
My kindness to myself includes looking the fear I’ve been ignoring and not acknowledging in the face. Saying “I know, it’s scary. Everything is right now. But I can help you and that will help us both. So even if it’s scary, let’s keep moving forward.”
I feel this way too. Tbh it helps knowing I'm not the only one like this. My husband is as understanding as he can be but he's never dealt with it himself. A lot of times my mind talks me out of things by convincing me that it will be ruined by something. For example, don't bother cleaning this because it will get dirty again. Don't order delivery from this place because they'll probably mess up your order anyway. Don't go to the store people will stare at you just order groceries. Don't go out for a walk because it will probably be hot and uncomfortable outside. And it goes on and on and on! It's exhausting. I don't really know how to fix it other than drowning it out with music or TV. We're currently in the process of moving into our first home that we've ever owned, in a different small city in a nicer climate with nicer people. It's been difficult to get the packing done but I keep telling myself to just get through this because I hopefully won't ever have to move again! And I know a lot of people advise against thinking "after X, I'll Y" but in my case I know it's true.. we've been visiting the area for a year and I went to college there. I was a different person back then because my life was simply happier being there with that scenery and the climate wasn't killing me. So I'm making every effort to change my daily life with this move. I am feeling more and more confident that I can do it. I know you can too you just have to keep making your way. 💜
Wow....your words have moved me so much! It never clicked to me that I feel paralyzed to do anything because I AM SCARED! True example of paralysis by analysis! I don't know you and you don't know me but your comment has helped me so much. Thank you❤
@@lavenderoh❤❤ Enjoy your new home.
Thank you for all of the compassionate content. It is so very rare.
After years, I have finally been able to begin to clear a particularly difficult kitchen counter. I used to feel vulnerable seeing the clean open spaces, but that did not happen this time.😊❤
You inspired me to do the same. I'm tackling my kitchen today after work. Thank you ❤
@@reneeb7180 You're welcome and thank you for the feedback.
I wish you lived in my city because my health is deteriorating so badly & fast that I can't even take my garbage out any more.
POWERFUL!!! I AM PUTTING THIS IN WITH MY DAILY MOTIVATION VIDEOS. THANK YOU. 💜💜💜💜💜🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😻😻😻😻😻
This channel is the best motivation channel😂 aaa im gonna clean the fridge today!!!
How’d it go?
So true! I’m in that moment now. I overwhelmed and don’t know how to start! The depression is so severe that I just can’t even gather the strength or motivation. I have become a helmet and it’s scaring me ..
😢 i am so tired and stressed out. Hard to take care of myself when taking care of everyone else.
It is, but you are more important because you take care of everyone else.
I'm doing this in therapy, but not with cleaning tho.My therapist calls it, "synaptic restructuring". She said when we do things that are hard for us (breaking patterns/addictions/etc.), we are literally creating new neural pathways that will help break us out of harmful behaviors. It takes A LOT of strength to FORCE your own brain to reroute itself to healthier behavior, but PLEASE try to remember that the "muscles" we use get STRONGER and are EASIER to use with time. Who ever has gone thru this, I'm so so proud of you 🥰🖤
EXCELLENT comment. It's definitely EXTREMELY challenging at first but it WILL get easier as new habits are formed and eventually become ingrained.
@@ShellyCline It's ALOT of work, and I know that, for me, I WISH I had known that changing it and it getting easier was possible AT ALL. It may seem like common knowledge, but it wasn't for me. I felt I wasn't sure if I wanted to spend the rest of my life FIGHTING. It feels insurmountable and I wanted to make sure someone said it out loud. Thank u so much for interacting with me 🥰🖤
Would it be possible for you to give us a list of what things you've found with your extensive experience can genuinely be cleaned and what things we just need to toss because they can't be recovered when it's like this?
Not her, but it depends on what kind of mess you have I feel. Is it a "clean" mess? Or are there flies? Has food rotted into stuff? Is the dirty stuff expensive and worth the time, or can they be replaced cheaply? Is having the thing more important than the extra space you'd have without it? If you haven't used it in a few months, is it something you could borrow from a friend on the rare occasion you need it?
An example I can think of is if I have a container with moldy food that's sat for a good while: if it's glass it can likely be cleaned/sanitized, and glass containers are $$. But plastic/Tupperware? I keep the lid closed and toss it.
@kaydotz Thank you kindly. These are all good points! I have a somewhat unique situation where I am dealing with items damaged in a hurricane (water/ debris/ mold growth inside the house...long story). Naturally, there are some things that are obvious as to can/ cannot be cleaned, but there are a few things I just can't determine whether or not I can get them clean enough to be safe to keep. It's a large random assortment, though, and I figured she likely could easily say which things are definitely not able to be saved.
The way you selflessly help and serve people will never not give me hope for humanity
I’m so glad you’re back, your videos keep me motivated and make feel better in my own skin, thank you ❤
Congratulations..excellent job. Tks for helping people. They will have a great New oportunity to restart a very clean home. A big hug from Brazil. 🙏🙏💙💙🇧🇷🇧🇷
Moving into an Oxford house has been amazing for me unlearning/relearning how to be uncluttered!
$10 fine if you leave a cup out is a great motivator 😅
Haha you tell no lie! I’ve been in one almost 2 years and it’s one of the best opportunities I’ve ever had
Dang, my kid needs to go to one...
What a beautiful clean up ❤ you’re such a lifesaver 😊
I took early retirement last fall to recover from so much stress during covid. That was 7 months ago and I am still working on improving myself mentally, physically and emotionally. It's working but it is taking time. My home is looking better as well. Don't give up, keep trying.❤
Thanks! Such kind and encouraging words! ❤
Great speech🙏🏻
I need you in my life. I have no motivation at all. It's good to see your videos again❤
This is simply the most incredible.
I absoluþly LOVE your videos. Ty for posting.
I love how that person found the energy to take care of the plants
I've missed seeing your videos. You motivate me to clean. Thank you.
It’s not just the cleaning…it’s the understanding of the issue and the advice of how to change beautiful ❤
I'm in the same moment of everyone here. Depression is so awful that every time I see something I'm supposed to do I just go "eww" or "meh". Last night my husband made me notice a dish with some leftover food I left on the counter. I didn't finish it because it wasn't good, but didn't have the heart to toss it. My depression med helps me not having crying fits anymore, but the depression is still there...
It's easier to fail than succeed. Taking the path of least resistance. I got motivated by buying new furniture and a fridge. Had to be done.
Excellent!
Thank you very much.
Yeah I just need momentum.
Thank youvfor motivating me to declutter more..❤❤❤
ive recently started doing small bits of cleaning every other day just because. i've been in a major funk after losing my pets, but when i did still have my boys i always pushed through to clean even when at my lowest, which now is applying to my more empty apartment. im starting to realize i actually really love cleaning, and i'm trying my best to keep up this habit that my boys seem to have kickstarted in me 💖
starting small is so powerful, truly
I have ocd n was always organized n super big time clean everything but after my mom n all my elders passed n my health physically n mentally 💔 my house is just cluttered n needs like wall n baseboard etc cleaned n a dumpster so mines like kinda different my garage is filled n it's things that was all my loved ones they aren't sentimental to me but was to them 🥹🥹 now I'm caring for my 6mo old granbaby during days n about to have a major surgery n want normality back THANK U YOUR TRULY A BLESSING N A ANGEL
Good job.
Look at all those healthy plants!🥰
My home is not my issue but your words still inspired me!
The story of my life.
Not that it's a huge thing or that it will work for everyone, but I find it helps of I just look at one small thing. Even if it's just putting a new trash bag in. Then if I have the energy, I try to find one more little thing. Eventually I get and okay amount done. It's not a lot each day but every day builds on the last, and just for me and my situation, it help me keep more or less on top of things.
I had a really good friday, after months of no motivation to clean i had a sudden burst of it and spent the whole day cleaning my kitchen AND made brownies after (:
I pray that God continues to bless you as you continue to bless pthers ❤❤❤
I wish my mom had this kind of help when I was growing up. There is often lots of fates around cleaning up. And I only learned how to clean in a mad dash.
I dont know if the plants were fake or not, but they all looked healthy, if so. I feel that. I have a ton of houseplants, and even if my house is in need of cleaning, the first thing that ill do is tend to the plants. Watering, pruning, maybe even repotting one or two in need, spraying them down to keep pests away. Its nice to care for ajother living thing when you dont feel like living. Kind of gives you a serotonin boost, and sometimes the motivation.
You are such a beautiful soul
Thank you ❤
Beautiful work- this is your passion for sure❤
Thanks.
You have insight and love
Love your posts!... and what you do!
You kept the plans ❤
This was very helpful. Thank you❤
Appreciate you
Welcome back!
I needed this, thank you🥺💖
100% love this so much
You are a Godess! 🙏💔🙏
I find cleaning so hard. My body (with chronic pain) and brain (with a slew of mental health issues) are struggling so hard. I try to do little things every day but it doesn't amount to enough to keep on top of it.
Do you do full videos? I needed to hear this tonight. ❤
Thank you
tears in my eyes… this is my least favorite thing abt me and ive been trying to change for years . looking for that momentum everywhere
I remember feeling that...then I just forced myself for 10 seconds to clean 1 Sq ft of space..then I did another 10 seconds and another...
I got out of it.
Then I'll walk away and let my husband throw stuff away when I feel super overwhelmed ❤
This is not to shame anyone. I hope the best for you all!
Thank you i needed this
Wow! That was amazing!
Gosh, thank you so much
Needed to hear this ❤
Your Amazing🎉🎉🎉🎉
I truly hope you see this. I need help and advice. My grandma has been struggling with hoarding her entire life and it got worse when her sister was murdered her house is currently at the point where she can’t go in anymore. It’s really depressing to see her like this. Can you please give me advice?
Do you have some kind of guide someplace where you tackle some of these problems?
For some reason the plants being alive in all of that kinda broke me
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What is the answer to this issue?
Thanks, Earth Angel. I'm a perfectly organized dynamo living in a sloppy sloth's body. I'll get there someday...
You are amazing. How I wish I can ask help from you
Thank u
Can you come over now?❤
I have a few dishes in my sink, I’m going to wash them now. 😢
Woe
Now, this is the first time I've heard you offer mental advice and not just cleaning. This is what they need, a talking to. So they can possibly move forward , because if you are just going to clean and not help them mentally. Then you're really not helping them.
How do I find help like this for my son
How would someone needed assistance cleaning. How do I get the help?
I tapped on this notification thinking, "oh yeah, I need to state that my comment may have sounded like I was angry, but I wasn't." Then, I couldn't find my comment. I was like, why did you delete my comment?! There wasn't anything bad. Just a couple questions. Then... I realized this is CZcams. My comment must be on the Tiktok version. So, off I go to make sure you don't think THAT comment is angry. Lol
Hey, do you clean bedrooms?😅
What you do is the Lord's work...
How much do you charge to clean I live my son in apt in Mitchell Indiana I need help is there any way you can help me I don't have alot of money but I will pay you what can please help I need help I am on oxygen 24/7 I have C.O.P.D Amanda as well as I said please help me
I always mute this woman’s annoying voice so I can watch the cleaning in silence.
I wonder if she is from Canada 🤔
She is.
@@lavenderoh I knew it! Yes!
@@wolfiethedog76 Nova Scotia 😊
Hmm even if I was depressed one of my family members would have to come round do it or I pay a cleaner no excuse really tbh…
Not everyone has the same resources. Watch her videos
How does one end up like this ?
Depression, exhaustion, health issues.... I could go on and on... maybe question differently next time.
Little by little. It creeps up on you until one day you stop and realize what has happened, but by then it has you. The depression just becomes so overwhelming and it makes the littlest thing seem insurmountable. Then you just give up. I look around my place and the disaster it's become and I have horrendous panic attacks because I can't find a starting point. It's just easier to go back and lay on the bed than to work through the mess a little at a time.
I wasn't raised like this, but I don't know how to stop it. This is exactly what my entire apartment looks like. Started with the kitchen and just morphed into the whole place. Now I'm beyond overwhelmed.
Watching these videos tonight feel like they might have flipped a switch though. I'm going to try to get started in the morning since it's 2 a.m. right now.
There’s no excuse.
you are so blessed to never have been in this situation. there are so many different reasons why people end up in these situations. a common one is older folks who cannot physically do anything about it, and dont have loved ones to help out. a recent video was about a young girl who has both mental and physical illnesses, in and out of surgery, who then lost her mother to cancer. it costs nothing to be kind and understanding, but it can certainly cost a lot to be judgemental.
@@rosalie5358 I’m certainly taking heed to this.
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