What Don't You Understand? - A Short Film about ADHD
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- čas přidán 22. 09. 2022
- ADHD is a very complicated thing, and it is very hard to explain, especially to those without it. This film takes you through common experiences that come with the disorder.
The “you look at the sticky notes on the wall, they’re a good reminder of what you failed to do” actually made me cry, because I have this exact issue, and it burns me every time
same here
So Accurate! I felt this deeply. I stopped trying to use sticky notes because they do become reminders. Reminders of what you DIDN'T do...or Failed at.
I, having ADHD, that funcions like bipolar, I just don't do notes, and live with whaterver comes to mind, I just don't set expectations for myself, It kinda works
Your just lazy
@@user-db9ri4qw8e spam account to hate it fucking WILD lmao
"You're exhausted. You don't know why. You didn't even get anything done today." Is my life almost every day.
I've been feeling this for almost a year now
same omg
Saaaaaame :'(
And everyone says: stop being lazy
same
so many people think of ADHD as just being hyper but there's so much more to it that they'll never understand.
Have you ever found yourself throwing socks in the air and catching them in the morning for no reason... then once you snap out of it you find out you've been doing that for 20 minutes....
Used to scare my mom to death when I used to do that cause I wouldn't stop and wouldn't respond until I suddenly snapped out of it.
I don't do that anymore.... it makes the others uncomfortable.... Now I just blankly stare into space for I don't know how long, thinking about thinking about thinking about thinking about... I forgot what I was thinking about...
I had a psychiatrist so focus on me not having ADD just because I was not hyper active at her eyes... I am 27 and I have never been able to focus to do things, failed countless times to things I could do if I could sit and actually do them interrupted mentally
@@RanVargas Tbh my mind is hyperactive but my body isn't, many psychiatrists dont know the very details of illnesses themselves and how they vary, as an example many dont know that neurodivergent people are likely to have sensory issues even. It's hard to find a good doc. It's just better you tell them exactly what you think of the situation and what they might be misunderstanding, it can feel like you annoy them but anyways after doing that changing for a better one is a good option
Exactly not being able to be organised
AuDHD boyfriend to my combined ADD. He had a difficult time adjusting to my difference.
• He is not time blind
• Can focus on tasks in the sequence of orders as well as explain it rationally and logically to anyone getting them to see it as awkward as they feel
There is no floordrobe
There is 4 times the space on walls to floor. So he uses walls for organizing
Can clean proficiently quicker than most woman who were stay at home moms. Laundry, dishes, 3 story house, 3bed, 3 bath, 10sq feet of lawn and he can maintain it since he was 10… on his own accord
Ask him where he left the last thing he touched - 50/50 chance,
Ask him where the thing is he last touched 3montjs or longer ago up to 5yrs. He knows exactly where it is, box, and location.
He can see 2d,3d, 4d, and sequences faster than most.
Apathy is a light switch that’s always on; empathy is a struggle
Higher IQ than EQ naturally
I suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder 18 years ago as a teenage. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
i watch this and think "how do people without adhd view this film?" because all of us with adhd watching it feels like we're just watching a clip of our life. it feels so normal and accurate. it's so bizarre when i remember some people don't live like this, that this isn't the norm.
I've been diagnosed since I was 7, am currently 25, explaining to others how adhd feels is really difficult that I agree, forgetting things(not to this extreme), or needing several alarms, but also I can't relate with the video, because the video is representing an extreme case, and not everyone has the same symptoms, here is like she has everyone's symptoms combined and cranked to 11.
It's a really good video for getting the point across tho.
this is what’s stopped me when i’ve gone to share this video with family. everything in here fits my situation 100%, to the point where i cried watching it, but to them i don’t know if it’ll just look like more excuses, like more stuff that doesn’t make sense
When I watch this I relate, especially to broken promises and getting distracted. My mom says I don't have adhd, so i might just be more distracted. Where sometimes I zone out or get distracted fro what feels like 5 minutes turns out to be 2 hours and you've lost time. Where zoning out in class for 5 seconds means missing out even more stuff.
same. all i could think was. 'wait. this isn't normal? this isn't just how everyone thinks and acts and feels??' it really is painfully accurate.
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‘Trying to read but your thoughts wash it out. Now you’re reading a sentence, now you’re reading a sentence now you’re reading a sentence.’ That is THE most accurate description of reading with adhd I’ve ever heard like EVER
i dont think its mandatory for adhd though. i have a SEVERE case of adhd and i have a bsolutely no trouble reading. or maybe im a nerd 🤓
@@faerimusicx for me it depends, If I read a book I chose and am interested in, it's a breeze, even with slight afantasia (is that related to ADHD?)
But oh my, if I need to read an assignment or something else for university, a scientific paper...I think it took me a week to read a single paper ( I needed to get at least throu 10)
Is it in anything else? Because I use to have many difficulties with reading like that. Often it's like every few sentences I have to look around to set in up in my head and very often I catch myself reading one sentence many times because my mind is seeing words with no picture behind. I have fabulous imagination but sometimes it's hard to focus, my thoughts are flowing away... Have I ADHD??? :O
@@noctilucera7585 idk. its like i have it with other things. i'm getting ready and then i wanna put on a certain eyeshadow or smth, and i get carried away and suddenly its been an hour. do you get that?
I agree. I manage to read it but the meaning doesn’t sink in, it’s only the words.
Would've been a much better representation of ADHD is when she went to get a drink of water, that she noticed the stove needed cleaning. Then realized the light above it was burnt out. Went to the closet to get another one and noticed the laundry needed to be done, picked some up and on the way to the washer realized she had to go to the bathroom, then when she went to the bathroom she realized that the garbage in there needed to be taken out, and when she took it outside she started talking to someone and after taking the garbage out, went back inside and sat back down.
This is what happens to me. Or at least, similar. Nothing ever gets done, but you're always doing something. Just not the original thing you got up for.
i wouldnt say it would make it "much better" but id say it would of been a nice detail to add. theres nothing wrong with the film as it is
plus its hinted at. she goes back to her room and its dark, she didnt just leave for water
Yep
Trucks, that is me too!
The video have expressed the exact me. Like aiming for something to do and then not doing it unintentionally as you've been wasting your time over something that doesn't even something and zoning out all the time and suddenly realised that you didn't did what you were supposed to do and then regretting about it and wondering that what made you not do that thing and realising may be it's your overthinking or your lethargy or that feeling of anxiety whenever you start doing it or a random thought about someone or that urge to sleep or wanting to listen music all the time while laying to your bed or whatever. It sucksssss so bad
i wish :/ my adhd is like if i thought of all of those things, sat in bed or at my computer thinking about all the things that need to be done. i can kind of remember it.. but once i think about the 50 things i should have done last week, last month, a year ago. then its like my brain powers off then slowly back on again and i turn back to keep playing the same videogame ive played for 3 months straight now as if ive never had a thought in my life
The “you’re reading a sentence” part was SO freaking accurate. I thought I was stupid all these years. I barely got diagnosed at 25 years old. That’s 20+ years of struggle, shame, and embarrassment that I had because I thought I was stupid.
In life, those who appear to not be stupefied are merely faking certainty, or fooling themselves.
I got diagnosed at 56, two years ago. It explained so much of my life. Years I'll never get back.
I remember crying in college because I was trying so hard, I couldn't focus, I couldn't keep my schedule organized, it took me longer to study or do things my peers could do. I dropped out thinking I was a failure, turns out I had untreated adhd diagnosed at 26. It hurts thinking of how things could have turned out differently if I had known sooner.
Got diagnosed at 48. I still remember reading the same sentence again n again … since I was about 16!!
Started medication at 48. Life is still not easy but better…
Try 54 years 😕
I almost cried the first Time I took a shower after starting meds. I didn’t second guess if I had already washed my hair, I knew exactly what step was next, I didn’t agonize over whether it made sense to shave right then, I just- took a shower. It was amazing
Damn that sounds amazing
Oh wow, that's awesome, mind if I ask what meds those were?
@@ChocolateWhispersx I got prescribed vyvanse but obviously what will work or if it will work is different for everybody
I really need to get my medication 🥲
Hey! I'm starting medication on Monday and I'm kina scared? Idk, it just seems so weird that my mind could get a little more clear and I just don't know what to expect of it
I wanna cry, I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD and don't wanna self diagnose but everything is so accurate with what's happening with me.
i agree. :(
If you're anxious about it just ask a doctor to test you, knowing wether or not you do or don't have ADHD can give lots of peace of mind. It did for me at least...
Also if needed there's medication when you've been diagnosed, thery're not perfecgt all the time but do help a lot.
I am also struggling with this but unfortunately I can't just go to a doctor and get tested because I'm 14 and I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents and I feel like if I tell them.they just wont understand
@@Isabella-mb2bc gosh you're relatable...the thought of "they'll think that I'm just a bothersome."
same.
I can relate. I don't remember a time when I've been generally happy. Not even as a child, and I'm in midlife now.
after my trip yesterday, I did understand why mushrooms are praised... you can have some beautiful experiences on them..
I remember having some minor surgery years ago and at that point I had never done any kind of drug at all. I didn't even drink small amounts of coffee or alcohol. They hit me with an intravenous dose of shrooms and I felt so good, so positive, and so thoughtful that I felt like I could've talked Hitler out of a wagging war.
Thats awesome, I'm glad you got a meaningful experience and I hope your as happy with the new you as you sound.
Hey.. I'm interested in trying emm.. where do you fetch ?
dr.rinehartshrooms
i love this sm, i hate always having the “adhd is so fun and creative” stereotype, or people saying “oh i cant focus that well either! do i have adhd?”. its just a cycle of hoping to be productive, failing, feeling guilty, and repeating. i never thought it could be described any better. thank you for this
EDIT: i feel like i didn’t describe what i felt well enough so im here to clarify. i meant people who diagnose themselves over tiktok videos spreading stereotypes or false information about adhd. i usually see the “oh im hyper lol i have adhd” kinda people all over the place and it sucks because its more than that. everyone has a different experience but that was mine. sorry i came off as hateful.
That’s so true to what It is. I realized that when I read it. Siiiiigh:(
Unless you think people are born knowing what ADHD even is I don't think it's fair to shame someone asking if they might have that problem too. People should be allowed to ask questions if I never watched Joyner Lucas's "ADHD with Revenge Intro (official video)" I would have never known I had ADHD because I was still unsure what it even was after watching that video till I looked into it more via Google, CZcams, and even asking people who have been diagnosed with it, and eventually getting tested my self.
I was almost about to go to the doctor to see if I could finally get tested for ADHD, but your comment sent me back into my spiral of "I'm just doing it for attention, I don't have it that bad"
@@Sina-dv1eggo do the tests. 👍🙂
@@Sina-dv1eg i thought i was too. i just mean people who diagnose themselves over stereotypical tiktok videos spreading falls things. im sorry i came off that way. i think you should still go to the doctor if you really think you have adhd because its definitely not fun to have.
I'm crying. I haven't been diagnosed with adhd because i'm too scared to ask my parents to let me go to a therapist. But i can relate to this video so much. Expecially that self-blame, telling yourself "why can't you just focus?" "why can't you listen?" "why do you find it so hard? everyone else can do it." It made me cry.
I'm so much like you :'( I don't want to ask my parents bcs I'm so scared that I might add problems or that it's just me who search excuses for being lazy or even that they might pity me. But everytime I see something about ADHD I can always relate. I have friends who go to a therapist (for other problems) and when they talk about that i can't help but feel jealous they receive the help they need when I don't. I feel horrible for that.
When I was in basic school I was one of the best of my class but teachers tell to my parents "she's a good student but she's sometimes lost in her toughts and doesn't seems to listen but in the end she has good grade so it's ok ! " and I realize now that it was probably that it was probably symptoms that were ignored.
Anyways it was'nt suppose to be about me ^^' I just wanted to say that you're not alone in this case and I hope that things will work out well for you. Let's do our best !!
@@ana-lee4958 omg we are so much alike 😭
@@gnomewithwingssame actually I might have it
I feel you, buddy 😢
@@sitiaqilah6621 Thanks for understanding
"Why didn't you tell me about this sooner?" Hits hard for me. especially when the truth is always labeled as a "lame excuse, try something better next time" from boss figures and teachers
I started getting war flashbacks when he said that I remember hearing that so often at school and then I would just cry lol
That’s why I never ask for help at school even though I should, I would rather just avoid the situation and deal with it later
Shit like this is the reason teachers don't like me, I just tell em to answer the question
And from parents
and especially things like "try harder" or "start trying next time" or even "do you even care?" those kinds of things are so annoying.
“The sticky notes on your wall. They’re good at keeping track of what you’ve failed to do” absolutely broke me. My to do lists keep getting longer and longer and becoming a constant reminder of how little I am actually getting done. So then I drop them and try just living in the moment, but then I descend into chaos and things get forgotten. So then I start the to do lists again and the cycle repeats.
I've kept lists my entire life since I was like eight or ten. And you're right. It's like maybe the perfect list will help me get more done. So I would research lists. Try to figure out better ways to organize my lists. I even told therapists over the years that I had an unhealthy relationship with lists. No one guessed that I had ADHD. I KNEW there was something seriously wrong with my list problem but I didn't know what. Two years ago at age 56 I got diagnosed. Once I started researching it, my entire life made sense. And I went through a grieving process because of everything I could have done but lost because I had this issue and I didn't know what was wrong.
My therapist taught me this, and it helped: Pick 3 things you "have to" do today, and 3 things you "want to" do today. They dont have to be big things, but do the "have to's"... and if you can't, then write down why and work to fix the problem or ask for help. ... personally i struggle with filling up my day with 20 tasks instead of the 3 tasks i should be prioritizing. Lists are deceiving in that way. I cant even make them anymore, its endless. as a mother of 3 daughters with adhd i have to just do things based on urgency.
@@amandapalu4802 This is really cool advice!
What I really like about this is it's using the cinematic language of a time loop psychological horror movie.
Because, in many ways, our lives can feel like being in one.
the fact that I wasn't paying attention for half the video really shows how real this is
No having adhd doesnt mean you can’t focus on anything, it means focusing too much on the wrong things at the wrong time too, it's a dysregulation. If you actually have adhd, this video should be relatable and emotional so you watch it properly
@@ALEXOUKAKOU i know that, i said one thing about it, its not that serious
I was casually scrolling the comments section
then found this comment
you do not have adhd
@@islixxn how do you know if they do or not?
This film should be shown in classrooms so people can understand just how hard it is for people with ADD or ADHD. As someone who has ADD, this is all so true.
What is the difference between ADHD and ADD?
@@Ghost224 nothing, ADD is an outdated term they're the same thing
@@yam4222 no they're not. ADD is attention deficit disorder and adhd is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. People with add tend to be calm on the outside and have the overwhelming chaos in their head turn them depressed, adhd is more external, theyre usually very active, like to talk alot and turn to aggression instead of depression. You can look at it like introverted and extroverted type
@@davidb8192 ADD is now referred to as inattentive ADHD, a subset of ADHD. There is the hyperactive type of ADHD that is more external as you said and the inattentive type of ADHD that is more internal. So ADD is an outdated term, it's just been updated to a subset of ADHD
@@davidb8192 in my case this is not true. I have adhd and I have outer and inner chaos. What the commentor before you said is not a lie. Adhd and add have officially become the same thing and fall now under the umbrella term “adhd”. Altough in non-profesional settings adhd is most comenly seem as the active type and add as the silent type.
Edit: the commentor above me seems to explain it better.
Best way to describe ADHD meds. "It helps."
Nothing more, nothing less.
how they works actually? I never really cared about my adhd (tho i was diagnosed as a kid) and believed that i don't have it it's just "i'm a bit lazy" bc i thought adhd are only hyper loud and naughty kids. I looked at my cousin which also has adhd but he's much more hyper and thought "nah i can't have that i'm not naughty loud kid like him". I'm adult now and struggle a lot, I literally can't do anything "right", I looked back at my whole life and noticed i always been "this way" just now it worsen up too much and thats when i realized I really have adhd. So i've been thinking to get meds but i'm scared bc i heard so many mixed opinions like they help to live like normal people but have so many downsides and that one medicine is killing creativity (it may be so stupid but for me it's really important bc it was my dream to become artist and during my hypers i always do something creative so losing it would make my life empty)
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 If you find that unmedicated, you're more creative (which I personally haven't found to be the case, I found that taking Vyvanse boosts my creativity) -- then you can just not take it on days you want to be creative. All the symptoms of ADHD return after you cut off the meds, so it's not at all a permanent cure. If you don't liike how you are medicated, you don't have to take the medication
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 Don't overthink. Don't overanalyze. I have had the same feelings, and everyone has different experiences with meds. You have to experiment and find what works for you. I was also never hyper or disruptive, although I couldn't make myself do super well in school, despite having the resources and ability to. Later on in adulthood is when the disorder really began to disrupt my life. Meds make me feel like who I really am, and who I want to be. That may be your experience, it may not. Don't obsess over others opinions or experiences. At the end of the day, it's what works for you, and what allows you to live a happy and fulfilling life.
Just got diagnosed last Friday after 8 years of being told ADHD does not exist and that I'm just lazy by my own father whom I live alone with. This video almost made me have a panic attack and for that I'm thankful, because there are people who actually truly understand how it feels and how it is to have ADHD.
get medicines
@@rockfitclub its not that simple :( i also have autism so a lot of the overlapping symptoms remain
@@eykan_ow I have depression with almost 20 years suicide thought and full ADHD and add. I got to doctor for my depression and my ADHD got recognized by doctor too. He gave me medicine and now I'm at least 40 percent better.
I actually cried a little watching this because it's so familiar. And people who don't have these struggles often don't understand and are critical and judge us.
Me too.
so, ADHD is autism ?
I cried a lot
Ryan is so quick to judge me lately
I (yet) haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but I completely understand. I experience so many of these symptoms, even if not at the full scale y'all do, it is so frustrating. I can't remember anything said to me a god damn minute ago. I try to read something but I just don't get it. I read but every time I just go away with my thoughts. If it's not a fun lesson in school, no matter how hard I try, I will always find a way to day dream without realising.
Edit: I am exaggerating but i still experience the symptoms often
"and youre reading a sentence" is how I feel each time I try to read and I'm not even diagnosed with ADHD. Everything in this video is so relatable
Same
Same
Ill be reading anything right
The. ill be like “wait what did I just read?”
ill read it again and do that a million times and wont remember it ever
And I take forever to answer a few questions when theres like 60 of em
And by the time times up ill only have less or sloghtly above half of it done
Im always last to finish
* cant focus for shit
Everything distracts me
Im so fucking chaotic and such a mess
I cant comprehend wtaf people try to explain to me
I feel deaf 99% of the time
Cuz I have no idea what anyone just said
i try to put what i did hear together to figure out what the hell they were talking about but it rarely works
Its fuckin hell
I stopped joining in group assignments cuz all my ideas are always “dumb shit”
If i try to help with somwthing i slow down the process get in the way or make thibfs worse
If I tey to help noone wants me to
💀
And then they’re complaining how i didnt do anything
and wtf am I suppossed to-
and i cant do 99.9% of my assignments without sounding insane so i just take the 0
Sometimes i look at an assignment reread the whole thing over and over and have no clue where to start so i take a 0 and this happens so fucking often
My gpa is crying
C’s get degrees right?
My sisters like “Theres no way she has adhd” Cuz she has it
But ive been asked if ive had it on multiple occasions and at this fucking point im just like
“Fucking hell.”
Maybe I just need therapy
Maybe its just trauma
BUT I Havent been through ShIt
Idfk
But its messing with my academics
and daily life and interactions
so Wtf Can I do?
“cope” as my sister says
I’ll ramble about random shit
talk to myself all the fuckin time
Ymoac
Im always scribbling or ripping paper and it stresses my teacher out but calms me down and keeps me sane
Cuz IM so fucking Chaotic and manic my history teacher literaly is always like “Youre losing your mind”
I KNOw
iDk WhY
I Have nO excuse
IM fucking Sorry
Ill be listening to teachers and forget their directions 2 seconds later after they finish talking
then Ill ask and they think i wasnt listening and they refuse to answer
sometimes they repeat it a million times and i still forget it every fucking time somehow
What is wrong with me?
IDFK
“Which one did we not have to do again?”
“The one that requires you to listen”
THAts NOt A fucking Answer-
I Did LIsten
OMG
I forgot
Ik u repeated it 10 Times
IM Sorry OKAy?!
IDFK Why IM LIKe this
All I Know Is My future is looking very questionable at this rate
could be dyslexia i have dyslexia and this happens to me all the time its a common sign
I remember around when this came out and I was trying to tell my mom how hard it was for me with ADHD, I sent her this video. She didn't watch it of course, stuck in her own head about how ADHD barely affects peoples lives. If only more people could be forced to sit down and watch this I wonder how much better of a place this world would be.
Most people are self centered they won’t take the time to try and understand other peoples struggles
I am damn sure, I am depressed, exhausted, I have lost a huge part of my memory, I have childhood trauma, and it's been 7 months I believe I have ADHD, things get worse and worse as I am not diagnosed yet. Being blamed for making excuses and not understood.
I hope things get better.
I don't think I am gonna live long with this,
My physical health is being effected alot past 2 years.
Yet I am here
My parents don't even agree for an anemia test
😫
Good luck bro with you
I'm sorry to hear that your mother seems so unsupportive and neglectful. I hope you know that you are worthy and important ❤️ and that your struggles are real. I get so sad when I read stuff like this, not only because I've been through the same, but that I'm also a mother myself and it's so strange that adults/parents could treat their kids this way. It literally breaks my heart.
I cried . I’m 48 years old. No one EVER understood. Then the shame I felt taking stimulants. Thank you for the validation. Thank you for such a beautiful portrayal of my (our) truth. BTW we are not dumb, lazy or liars. We have a different brain and we are BRILLIANT, clever and amazing- and not alone! Xoxox
"It helps"
I like how I didn't say "it solved all of your problems" like other people claim.
It really helps, but nothing is perfect.
What is that pill??
@@janascrafts1144 adderall
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO GET SOME GOOD FRIENDS THAT'S IT
@@drawer_kun1 bruh what
@@drawer_kun1 bro i was just asking
When I’m in a classroom, I’m staring at the teacher with no distractions and i can see what they’re writing, hear what they are saying, but i cant actually process it. watching this clip surprised me so much to see how accurately describe ADHD. When i do something, i feel like i need to do it again until i feel like its been done enough, like reading a sentence or staring at a spot out the window.
(A bit of a venting spree lol, I just wanted to get it out of my system)
Absolutely. I always thought, even after I got diagnosed, due to how the visual representation for ADHD is, it is that people black out/ daydream in the middle of class without hearing anything, and suddenly it’s lunch and you heard nothing.
I also have those instances yes, but most (if not all) of the time, it’s me just trying to process what the teacher is saying. I know what they’re saying, and when they say it, I think to myself “oh, yeah, makes sense. I understand that!”
But I move in to the second sentence, understand that sentence, and suddenly the first sentence doesn’t make sense anymore.
But if they talk too slow, the pace would make me think “it’s a very slow sentence” over and over again, and I end up not absorbing anything.
If I somehow got through the whole class, and understood it, I look at the questions, it doesn’t make sense anymore even though it’s the same question, just a different wording. I go back to ask, explain why I got it wrong, then I tell them what I thought they said yesterday, and they reply “that’ll not at all what I said! Did you even listen?” And I’m like ???????? EVERY DAY 😭
@@crackers3978 hey I hope your doing alright. ADHD sucks.
But I just wanted to reply so you know you are not alone. We will get better. We GOTTA get better. ❤❤
If ya wanna talk just vent here again. ❤
@@harriet2956 thank you so much, you are so nice 😭 I really do hope it gets better. I've been trying my best, but this encouraged me to try just a little bit more ❤️
This isn't a vent, moreso a curious question... Does medicine really help? I have been thinking about it. And though I don't think I'll get it yet, but I'd like so know more about medicine. Do you have any input on that? 🤔 (You don't have to answer if you don't have any input by the way, it's just a curious question :) )
@@crackers3978 well honey haven’t tried. But I guess you should give it a try. Because maybe it works for you and then you get better.
Lol I’m literally preparing for my chem test and omg I was in my thoughts when I saw your message. Idk but I guess this is my sign to seek help or get meds. ( idk if it makes any sense ).
Take care❤️
@@harriet2956 true. It's (unfortunately) expensive though, so I'll think about it another time 😅
Oml XDD I'm glad this snapped you out of your thoughts then! And also, good luck with your chem test!! And ALSO also, maybe 🤔 it's been universally recognised to be helpful, so you can think about it? :D But remember to do some research beforehand! So that you know what you're getting yourself into XD
Anyways, you take care too ❤ and I'm sure you'll do fine :D
This is quite possibly on of the best explanations of ADHD. This needs to win some sort of award.
As a girl with black parents , growing up, nobody thought disorders were real. Disorders were you being too fast , out of order. My ADHD was insane in middle school, my grades dropped, I couldn't sleep, I had trouble reading, nothing made sense.. Every day I asked my mo! For medication. Everyday I got the same answer , no. I tried my best to be the best.. But sometimes we need help.
Well, this is me. Diagnosed at 52, now 68. I feel like I just Survived life. A constant loop of undone work, all nighters, leaving friends behind, didn't have children as I could see that I just couldn't keep it together. All day every day this video is a review of my life. At least I know and can now give myself a break.
@@kimgerber7663 big sigh to this, i really hope one day my kids if anything i can be there for them, and if they're anything like me, ill suport them. no one should ever feel this denied of something that seems very true. but congrats , enjoy your life and try your best to be happy 💞💞
The “you’re running out of time” bit really hit me deep. I can’t even begin to think how many times this has happened. The way it spirals, “I only have (time units) left before ___ due”. Then being so stressed about the time limit that you waist hours thinking about the time limit, that you hardly get anything done, then feel like you spent hours working, only to accomplish 10 minutes of actual work. (Like I’m doing right now)
I always get it done last minute.
You realise you can do better. The final product is not what you are satisfied with. But you forget and the cycle repeat
@@ahagotcha Why is it so hard to do better. To be better. Idk
@@abcxyz-dp4rl idk i am struggling with this concept since childhood. Every teacher call my 'gifted child' ass, have the potential to do more but since I was doing just fine. No one look at more detail but things start to become even more ugly for my sanity when i choose high school subjects to study. I hate it. I fail at something for first time so badly i end up given up. No matter what I try to motivate myself my brain refuse to study the subject. Didn't help I live in a third world country where people don't know any idea about mental health. I am once again avoiding important stuff i should instead i am browsing through internet
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I’m a teacher and this has helped me to understand my students with adhd so much better. Thank you
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
I like teachers like you who try to understand their students with mental health problems.
Thank you for caring
Thank you to understand us, we need more teachers like you 💞💞💞
You're going to do incredible, i thank you so much for taking the time to understand us. I'm undiagnosed because my mom won't let me get diagnosed. She believes ADHD to be a "label" and doesn't believe it exists
She believes i am lazy and disobedient. It is a common misconception, and she hasn't been educated about ADHD, so i understand. Thank you for taking the time to educate your students better, they will be better off because of it.
The part where the teacher goes “nice of you to join us. This is the ##%^*%#\\ time this month” felt so real since- sometimes the sound of someone saying something in that send actually sounds like that in my mind.
Wow, this really hit home and made this 35 year old cry. Still struggling with it, only now in addition to feeling like I wasted the day I often feel like I’ve wasted my life. I finally got diagnosed a couple years ago, but adderall and antidepressants haven’t helped me as much as I’d hoped. They did at first, seemingly. I certainly felt better. Different. Got back in school and almost got a BS degree. But soon the same problems swallowed me, I got overwhelmed and stopped succeeding in classes, failed to re-enroll after failing my first class ever, and now have to work three jobs to pay my bills AND my student loans that got me nowhere. ADHD is such a curse. My 8th grade teacher’s words to my parents follow me everywhere “his head is just in the clouds.”
ouch... czre giver words really do stick,,im sorry
Hey, you are very brave for sharing this, thank you so much! SadIy i am not an expert really, but i also suffer. all i can tell is that you are really not alone!! I wish you all the best and hope to hear from you again :)
Try again. I believe in you.
I think one of the most painful things about ADHD for me is ... feeling like I'm trapped in a loop. Every time I try to do something right, I left something else behind. Also the video is very accurate about hte self-hate spirals and internal frustration. My internal negative self-talk is very unrelenting at times; sometimes all I can think about is how I let other people down. The video hurts with how accurate it is, but at the same time, thank you for making it.
Exactly, progress and consistency appear to be unreachable goals
Wow the loop is a perfect example and I relate to that perfectly. O matter how hard I try to get things right I’m always missing something in the process, always.
And the worst is when your in a loop that you can’t figure seemingly how to do anything productive. Not even things you enjoy
SAME i feel like i’m supposed to walk to something but my feet are trapped in glue, but with the glue being my brain
Yes, i think same like you. You know what, i have make my daily list and it already been 3 week ago..
This video hit so deep I'm bleeding 😭
ADHD is absolutely debilitating.
I remember when I was a kid I thought being ADHD was just being silly and disruptive so I never thought to get it checked. I had good grades and was quiet and spaced out a lot so nobody cared about my mind. I was eventually diagnosed as a teenager.
Before then I became suicidal and I still struggle with thoughts of taking my life. I tried so hard to build coping strategies but I always fail. I'm also autistic and have trauma which just makes everything so overwhelming and impossible.
I absolutely feel you.
The suicidal ideation is scarily real, but I want to promise you that you’re not alone in feeling this way, and although it feels physically impossible sometimes to navigate it and the emotions that come with being ‘neuro-spicy’, there’s always a way to push forward.💗💗
My teacher always said I just made “silly mistakes”
@@beccam7294🥺"Neuro-spicy"❤️
I’m not diagnosed but I’ve been looking in to it for 2 years now and, let me tell you going through your day to day life is absolutely draining. I know exactly how you feel because every task or situation feels impossible and extremely overwhelming. Coping is especially hard, too. Mainly because navigating emotions is so damn hard and at the end of the day you just have so much more stress built up.
I just wanted to tell you that Jesus loves you so much...no matter what. He died for you and gave you new life. You can tap into that by simply believing in His sacrifice!
He'll always be with you no matter what. You can carry all your burdens to Him because He will bear them and help you through the toughest situations
"Two valuable weeks, gone,wasted" is exactly what I am feeling right now, and is exactly what I have been feeling for the past years of my life.
I'm 38 and just found this .. I don't just have "learning problems" this explains a lot thank you.
I was just recently fired after being diagnosed with ADHD. I was always being told I was making excuses for my behavior. When in my eyes, I was explaining what was causing me to act in a certain way. Forgetting deadlines, being late on occasion, or even dealing with a family member who had a substance abuse disorder. I resonate with this message.
isn't that illegal to be fired on behalf of a disability? (in America at least, americans with disabilities act), maybe you can take legal action
I find myself wishing for the opportunity to be physically violent toward the people who fired you. I'm thinking something sharp, AND something blunt. Perhaps some sort of cordage could be used. So many uses for cordage.
it feels like every day I have to come up with an excuse and it just makes me feel like I'm a shitty person because I just can't explain why I forgot everything I was meant to do
If you’ve been diagnosed, then depending on where you live, you should be able to sue them.
I live under the constant stress at work that I will be talked to or let go someday due to how many things I am constantly unable to keep up with. Bridges burned. Items falling out of my arms. Always excuses and constant embarrassment.
"You're running out of time" hits me everytime.
I am almost 20, I haven't been diagnosed because I can't even call the reception to take an appointment... I feel so behind in everyway possible. 20 years old and I can't even remember basic things, it feels really pathetic to me.
I tried to explain to ppl around me but they see that as excuses because "You had no problems at school"
For most of my life, I think I tried to supress it by doing things that I don't even want to do. So I am lost because there is something wrong with me and I know it but I don't know if I even have the right to make this call and have a diagnosis.
My life feels pointless to be honest. Feels like walking the same path over and over again without having a water break or something to hold on to.
I don't have my license, I don't get out with friends, I don't know what I am doing most of the time. Feels like someone keeps me alive just for fun and I hate it so much.
I sound crazy when I try to tell ppl that this is what my brain wants to do or say and I can't do anything else.
Anyway, I hope someday I will find courage to call this number and have a test. But I know that having a diagnosis will not change the way my family or friends treats me and it makes me sick to the core knowing that it will not change anything
Hey, ADHD is not something to be ashamed of. Sure, it’s difficult dealing with it in a fast paced society, but it really depends on who you surround yourself with. I know a married couple with ADHD and they fit perfectly together! If you’re experiencing family members or friends putting you down, make sure to cross boundaries and never blame yourself. People are born with conditions, some are born with deadly diseases, it happens. some are born completely fine, but life is full of trials and tribulations for EVERYONE. no matter how perfect a persons life may seem. please don’t beat yourself up for it, just try your best and at the end of the day if you know you’re trying your best that’s all that matters. heck, it’s 3 am and i’m supposed to be finishing up some homework but i’m here writing this haha. you aren’t alone, stay strong and NEVER blame yourself EVER. be gentle with who you are
Heyy. I’m 27f been feeling the same way ever since I remember. For a long time I didn’t even know what was ‘wrong’ with me until adhd gained more attention. I remember the first few times reading other people experiences made me literally cry. That was the first time a kind of understood my self. Anyhow took me over a year to book an appointment with a professional, waiting time was another 6months, however it’s been over 2months I’m getting medicated. The first day I had the pill I was in literal tears. Now I’m not saying it sorts all my problems out but guarantee you the difference is day and night. I wish I was diagnosed earlier. I have sure missed out on a lot over the years. You got this 🙌🙌
It can’t change the way others treat you but it can make ur life easier. U will feel much different once u get treated.
Wasn’t diagnosed until I was 30something.
Call the reception. It will mean the world to get that diagnosis and start getting more help than what you’ve been able to cobble together by yourself.
Step 1: get the phone number.
Step 2: pick up the phone
Step 3: dial
Just start by picking up your phone and dialing. Just that. Don’t think about anything else. All the other steps. Just dial. You can do it.
Hey, exactly same here, almost 20 and the exact same story... I just never talked about it, Idk, I think I'm scared too, because if I end up not having ADHD then it's just a problem with laziness and procrastination, but sometimes I can't just put myself to work. I hope you called for an appointment and had your answers, and that you're feeling better. Personally I hope to take an appointment this year as it's really difficult at university to work on my own
“If only you could just learn your lesson”. This has been my inner critic and cause of guilt and shame all my life
Please don't delete this! I feel oddly comforted by this video and I wanna come back from time to time, it makes me feel less alone
As a teenager with severe ADD, this video perfectly described the struggles in a person’s daily life. This video portrays ADHD in a way that isn’t just the dumb “I’m so quirky because I can’t pay attention” stereotype. It shows what really happens when it goes unmediated, such as not being able to finish things you’ve started, not being able to find things that are in plain sight no matter how observant you are, and not being able to keep track of time, thinking that 2 hours were just a couple of minutes.
The real problem is when its still this bad even with medication.
@@birdyghostly I feel better when in ketosis you could try that.
quick question - i thought ADD was an utdated term?
SAIT A SEC OMORI FAN
@@starryv3n it is. It’s now called ADHD because it’s a spectrum. Though I think it should be called something else because ADHD has the H in it which means “hyperactivity”.
But then again someone with ADD just has hyperactivity in their brain so it still works
This is painfully accurate. Trying to explain ADHD to my best friend was an interesting challenge. He was trying his best to understand what I was saying but I knew that it sounded like I was making excuses for my actions. He knows that’s not what I was doing, and I do too. It’s insane how difficult it can be to live with ADHD, especially as a high school student. It gets to the point where even just thinking about an assignment is mind boggling and even though I’m doing nothing, I push it till the next day. “I’ll get it done during my free period” turns into “I’ll do it at lunch” turns into “I’ll do it when I get home” turns into accidentally falling asleep for 3 hours and now the sun is down and I feel like shit so I’ll just scroll through my phone endlessly until I fall asleep again has become a cycle that I want so badly to end.
That's exactly what I'm go tru every day, and I'm a college student, i feel so useless and helpless watching my grades going down and down
Dude this is me rn 😭
I keep making promises and put it all on a date, its rlly crap ;-;
Something that might help with that (for a short period of time) is to annoy yourself with cell phone alarms. Don't just set one alarm for something you have to do: set a bunch. that way everytime you'll snooze the alarm, a new one will pop up. And you'll end up getting so annoyed that you finally start to do the thing you need to do. Now I have adhd, and the thought of setting a bunch of alarms on my phone even though im on it all the time just sounds like a horrendous task. So try getting a friend to do it for you! ...if you remember to ask them. All I can say is Good. Luck. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I'm 4 years out of college. I'm taking medication and it helps way more than I thought it would. But before that, having an accountability partner was the best thing that worked for me when I needed to get something done. Especially since I'm a people please. Good luck with the rest of your school year.
Okay,i dont know if this will be helpful or not since i dont have ADHD but maybe you could try telling yourself that you would just prepare youself for doing a task, so lets say u wanted to revise, you would just get out you textbook or notes or whatever and then just say to urself, ok, i'll just do 5 minutes and see how you get on. Im not sure if it will help but i hope your situation gets better soon because i know it feels horrible to get nothing done.
bc ur lazy bro
"you're reading a sentence" freaked me out ... very relatable and oddly comforting
I absolutely love this. This should be shown to people to educate them about ADHD. Most people see ADHD as just being hyperactive and not being able to fucus, but there is SO much more to it than that. Its not that you have trouble focusing, you struggle with regulating your focus - going between zoning out and hyperfocus where you forget anything around you exists. There is executive dysfunction which just sounds like an exuse and it is so hard trying to explain to someone that no, you just *cant* do the thing. ADHD is constantly fighting with *yourself*, its a fight where your brain is your enemy. This video is important to show people how ADHD people can struggle and that it is not just "being quirky"
I'm crying
"Live a life of constant noise and distraction and disappointment"
It's the noise that really gets me. The noise and the exhaustion. It feels like years since I've had proper rest.
It's also all the background noise. & when u have to be in a public space, like train, bus, grocery store the overwhelm caused by all the background noise hits u like a hammer. I tend to get really frustrated when this happens, headphones help, but sometimes the music doesn't really knock out the noise overload... do u feel like this too?
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 like 80% of the time I'm hearing stuff in my head. Hearing and seeing stuff. Like there are 2-3 voices all the time, music/noise and random images. As a child I thought everyone had it, but as I grow older, I meet more people, and they deny having it. And what's worse is that it's just getting louder and more overwhelming. Shit basically hit the fan around 5 years ago for me when it finally became too much. Can't even sleep for the most part. I also have this thing where like I'm just about to sleep, I would hear a giant explosion or scream or see a flash. Like nothing all haunted and ghostlike, just annoying.
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 what I do is also use headphones. Saved up money and got myself airpod pros and the sony wh1000xm4. The noise cancelling along with some nice music helps for the most part in crowded places. But when it gets really overwhelming, I do this exercise my therapist taught me. Basically when you get a lot of thoughts, label the thoughts as "thoughts" and the feelings as "feelings". Like visualize the words. Helps a lot actually when it gets bad.
literally!!
This is my life described like to the part my teachers needed to put me in the corner of the class with noise canceling airpods (my own) just doing my work. Helped but i got so exhausted day after day and it is still not sure wether i have ADHD or not but i think so.
When you live in a world where perfect productivity is expected of you, that fuels ableism. There's a ton of ableism when it comes to ADHD, other forms of neurodivergence, and anything that inhibits your producivity, you get treated like a burden. There's shaming by teachers, parents. Everyone treats you like you're choosing to fail instead of suffering from a disorder.
Yup :(
exactly how I feel :( you explained it perfectly
but it gets a little confusing when everyone says having a hard time reading is a key factor of adhd. i was diagnosed at age 3 with severe adhd and yet i was already reading short chapter books at that age. i don't think it's always the case. reading was never a problem... ig it's just me?
@@faerimusicxme too until I got to middle school and started playing music, then that part of my brain was rewired to understand the notes. Tested college age reading comprehension from kindergarten, savant level math skills (not EXTRAORDINARY, but really mfn good. Most people can handle 2-3 digits at a time of mental math, moving valued around.
I am closer to 5.)
I just wish I could mfn be around friends or anywhere in public without all the the damn noise
@faerimusicx I was a "hyperlexic" kid, too. I've never struggled with reading itself - but I often struggle with staying FOCUSED on what I'm reading. Reading the same sentence over and over, or reading pages without actually processing anything I read...
So it's a different type of "hard time" than, say, dyslexia (though dyslexia is highly comorbid with ADHD). It's not the reading itself that's difficult, but the sustained attention.
as someone with adhd, this is probably the most relatble thing i have ever seen.
gonna send this to my dad, hope he finally understands me better :)
I feel like this film is reflecting my life. My parents yell at me. People bully me. They dont listen to what I have to say. I dont remember anything. And it just repeats everyday.
me too
you deserve better, and I know how you feel because my parents always blame me for my adhd
@@lucyy7060 thanks
You can keep it up bro!!
i believe a lot of the negative symtpoms of ADHD is PTSD bc u have different brain structure and u get devalued for it otherwise which makes it worse
I cried while watching this. I’m not sure if I have ADHD, I’ve been thinking that I had it since I was 14.I’m almost 16 now- still not diagnosed, and not sure if I’ll ever be diagnosed. I’ve tried everything to get myself to focus: A separate study room, Notion, tons of studying techniques and I end up taking days to finish a 40 minute video. During my chemistry exam prep, I spent two entire days, ‘reading the textbook’, but really I was only skimming through blurry sentences.
I spend all day, trying to get myself motivated and excited to learn, but I end wasting time, and I’m running out of time. College applications are in a year and I have nothing valuable about myself, final exams are in February and I haven’t even learnt the first few chapters.
I get so exhausted during school but I’m only paying attention to when it’s recess time.
But still, there’s tons of people who procrastinate, and tons of people who don’t pay attention in class, and there’s lots of ADHD’ers who get straight As and do well in school.I don’t understand how people can display similar symptoms to me and still behave like a normal human being.
I’m not sure if I’ve got ADHD.. or if I’m normal and just lazy and stupid.
That reminds me, I was supposed to completing my physics notebook . I’ve been working on it since effing June..
Tengo el mismo problema. Tengo la misma edad y siento que me ha ocurrido lo mismo que tú desde los 14 años. Tengo muchos problemas de concentración y a veces de memoria, que me complican en diversas cosas, y más cuando sé o quiero concentrarme en una actividad que me propuse desde antes. He estado remarcándome horarios, anotando deberes, tanto de ocio como escolares o de hogar diariamente para que no me sienta perdida, ahogada en mis quehaceres. Me repito muchas veces al día, intentando recordar si hice algo, si debo hacer otra cosa, y me pregunto muchas veces si lo que hago es necesario o solo estoy perdiendo el tiempo; a pesar de todo, por todos los sucesos del día a día, la desconcentración se maximiza: alguien me dice algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; leo algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; pienso en algo interesante; pienso más y divago; algo me estreza; me quedo pensando en ello y divago; y así, y así, hasta que me doy cuenta de que estoy procrastinando y veo, que perdí el día completo. Ni siquiera logré hacer una actividad de ocio que me propuse. Nada. Distraigo a mi mente para que no se sienta mal. Procrastino más. Al otro día comienzo pensando, ¿por qué mierda no hice lo que debía? me lo replanteo, lo pienso, divago, me compadezco y me comprendo; no es mi culpa. Tardo 2 horas haciendo eso.
Tampoco sé si realmente tengo ADHD/ADD, pero este problema me afecta mucho, demasiado.
Admito, que en sí no me afecta en la escuela, no en demasía, sé cómo lidiar con esto allí. Sé a veces cómo lidiar con las personas. Pero sí me afecta con mis relaciones, con mis deberes, con mis metas. Últimamente he estado intentando mejorar mi condición, que no sé qué será, pero he estado comenzando a normalizar mi actuar, a aceptar que lo que estoy haciendo no es mi culpa, y he estado intentando organizarme más, y pensar menos. Cuesta, pero realmente noto cambios.
Si tienes los mismos problemas que yo, o al menos parecidos, intenta averiguar qué te afecta, cómo te sientes, tus pensamientos. Vacíate del exceso. Date un día, da igual si lo atrasas por alguna otra cosa, pero dátelo, uno completo. Hazte un ambiente lo más cómodo posible, y haz nada. Haz lo que tengas ganas en ese momento, y entre tanto, piensa en lo que te ocurre, en qué momentos te sientes más exhausta; qué podrías hacer si te sientes así para motivarte. Organízate de la forma que quieras. Intenta entenderte. Desahógate mentalmente; puedes hablarte, puedes escribirte, puedes dibujarte, puedes tejerte. Lo que sea, incluso puedes pedirle a alguien que te dé su tiempo para contarle todo lo que sientes, solo si quieres. Luego de todo, cuando ya sientas que todo está listo, deja de pensar, deja de hacer todo, deja de hacer. Nada por minutos, o incluso horas, y finalmente, comienza a hacer lo que te propusiste, lo que te organizaste. Si haces esto, no sientas que hayas perdido el tiempo, míralo como un momento de reconocerte. Y al momento de actuar, felicítate por lograr las cosas, da igual si lo haces más tarde, si te tardas más, hazlo, siéntete bien por ello, es un avance.
Perdón si escribí mucho, la verdad es que necesitaba de desahogarme. Espero que te sirva mi consejo,, y quizás me puse a escribir todo esto porque acá donde vivo, ahora, es de noche. Espero que te traduzca bien el Traductor de Google porque me dio una flojera traducirlo.
@@miau69 ¡Muchas gracias por tu consejo! El traductor de Google ayudó, estoy escribiendo con él, lo siento si suena raro. Espero que las cosas mejoren para nosotros :)
@@bushral.tasneem5464 You write great in spanish even though you're using translator
I'm almost on the exact same boat as you.
I'm 16 now and I've been suspecting of adhd for the past two years now and it's been a real struggle. I've tried multiple techniques as well but they seem to only work for the first 2 days until they just don't do me any good. I've done so much research about it and found that I really resonate with the inattentive type of adhd, the thing is, I am afraid that by reading into it I've somehow managed to manifest the symptoms somehow. It doesn't help that authority figures have tried to invalidate the struggles. I hope we can get the help we need adhd or not as it is a real struggle that we have noticed in ourselves. It saddens me but the best I can do is wish you luck with everything and keep hope that you'll get through those hard times. Taking the first step of trying to help yourself is something you should be proud of!
@@miau69 No sé de donde seas pero como alguién con padres latinos me da gusto ver que el tdah también es algo que pase en nuestra comunidad. Con mis padres ha sido muy difícil de intentar hacer lo mínimo y explicarles sobre que es el tdah y es mucho menos posible que me creyeran que yo lo tengo. Te agradezco mucho por los consejos que le dejaste a la persona anterior y espero que todo te vaya bien :)
ive never heard a more accurate depiction of my life than this
the view of the teacher was accurate, feel like because he’s asking me a question i have limited time to awnser, there’s so many responses going through my head i have to choose from in under a second but he’s just there staring at me
Anytime I watch a video like this it always focuses on the more common/well-known side of ADHD, the "I can't do my work because I get distracted easily" which yes is true but they never dive deeper into the unknown part that's hard to explain to others. I've used the exact words of "I'm not sure why I can't do it, I just can't" and everyone just takes it as an excuse, this video PERFECTLY describes how I feel on when I say that phrase. Legit made me cry
I had several talks with my mum who just says i am making things up and my dad who makes fun of me saying that he also has adhd because he had one lazy day or forgot one thing. My mom said to me: if you‘ll change your mindeset and say to yourself, ‚it‘ll work out, i‘ll do it‘, it will work out and things will change. And i was sitting in front of her, crying and saying ‚but i CANT, i want to but i Caant, i just CANT. Its not as simple as just ‚doing it‘.‘
I had many many days, sitting in m room and crying about myself that i want to do things so much and live a healthy lifestyle with things i do, but i just cant even tho i want it so bad.
Its so frustrating. Frustrating that NOBODY without this condition does not understand the ‚i CANT‘.
@@schnatalia LITERALLY, ITS SO ANNOYING, I wish there was a better way to say it so people don’t think it’s just “being lazy” but there isn’t 😭✋🏻
It’s so refreshing when someone else can understand what you mean by “I can’t”, like I I want to do things BUT MY BRAIN WONT LET ME 💀
people are under the illusion that we have unrestricted free will
When I try to explain it I say: try to put your hand onto the hot oven. You‘re physically able to do that but your mind is stopping you. It’s not perfect but it kinda helps me to describe it
"Sticky notes are a great way of telling you what you failed to do" hit me hard... I used to write sticky notes but they'd just pile up or get lost on my desk amidst all the other clutter. Using google assistant for reminders has helped me so much. Just being able to voice a reminder so it's out of the way until I need it frees up my thoughts a lot more, as opposed to a bright pink square sitting in my peripheral vision at all times.
I have not taken my ADHD meds in weeks
How did you make that sound as realistically intimidating as it is 💀? From a typical brain's perspective it sounds so dumb, but it's true...
Same, sticky notes never work, they just become part of the object and my mind blurs it out
the way i felt CALLED OUT
I have never related so much to a video in my life. Everything this videos explains it's my life. I forget easily about that one assignment, homework and various other commitments i have to finish. And when they ask me ''what were you doing this whole time then?'' It shatters me.
This hit so hard for me. As someone who struggled their way through high school with adhd it felt like no one understood. I wish I could’ve shown them this video. This encapsulates the struggle of what we go through with every assignment whether it be easy or hard.
THAT “all the promises you’ve made to friends and family that’ve broken over time” HURTS, because I promise to do something for someone or get something for someone but it never ends up happening. I promise to do my homework but something else consumes my time and it repeats. I promise to get my friend a gift but I never end up doing it. It’s hard.
Felt🥺
Real. I've never been able to keep a promise :(
I got OCD ADHD and Anxiety
I’m not sure if i have adhd but I somehow relate to EVERY. SINGLE. THING.
I understand how painful it is to feel like you're constantly letting down the people you care about because promises seem to slip through your fingers. It's a heavy burden to carry, and the cycle of unfulfilled commitments can weigh heavily on your heart. But please know that you are not defined by your struggles. Your intentions are pure, and your desire to fulfill your promises is genuine. It's okay to stumble along the way, but what matters most is your determination to keep trying. Each day is a new opportunity to take small steps forward, to learn from past experiences, and to find strategies that work for you. You are not alone in this journey, and with patience, understanding, and self-compassion, you can navigate through the challenges of ADHD and build stronger connections with those around you.
For anyone suffering with ADHD(just like myself), just remember that when you finally get that assignment done, or get whatever piece of work done, its more valuable and impressive than if a neurotypical person did it because you did it suffering with hardships built in your brain. Just remember that what you do, and when you finally get it done, its so much more impressive even if it takes a little more time than others.
Thanks, I needed this reminder today 🥲
(stupid lil' sniffle) Thank you...💚💜
As a person that also has adhd, this is nice and all but there's no need to put down or try to one up other people just cause they are neurotypical. Theres nothing wrong with acknowledging that we go through more hardships when completing tasks, but our completed work isn't inherently more "valuable". Working past and completing work through the difficulties of adhd is impressive, but our work isn't automatically more worth than neurotypical peoples. That's just belittling them.
@@Jon-dav - I was too emotionally moved to notice that detail the first time. You're absolutely right. Thanks for pointing this out. 🙂👍✨
I mean we've all got our issues, whether or not it's adhd. Idk if I have it and I don't think I have signs of it but I can definitely relate to seeing a deadline and feeling overwhelmed by the mere thought of how much there is to do-
I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to see a video like this.
I was diagnosed with ADHD, or more specifically ADD in 4th grade. I started taking meds after that and I can’t tell you how much better it has been these last few years. But recently there’s been a shortage and I’ve been unable to get more. These last few months have been an extreme struggle for me in and out of school, especially these last few weeks, but it really puts into perspective how well medication really works.
Thank you so much for making this video, and for anyone who’s struggling, diagnosed or undiagnosed, young or old, It will get better. Don’t lose hope, I know how hard that can be, but just know you aren’t alone in this.
After finding out that I had ADHD and I wasn’t actually DUMB, I realised that people will never know how you feel if they aren’t going through the same. My family just loves making fun of me, but they will never understand
Was definitely shocked to see that this vid has so few views, the production quality is amazing! The editing, acting, and sound design really give it an immersive effect.
Totally felt it in my skin, the sounds is amazing
fr it should be a 3 million views video that is on everyone recomandations
3:49 the sudden change to the black background is a really good detail. perfectly portrays the feeling of being confronted about something you forgot and suddenly everything surrounding you fades away
Wow. I'm 66 years old, and this video is exactly how I was growing up. I still haven't been officially diagnosed, but realize from CZcams videos that is exactly what I have.
I would like to make a point: medication doesn't work for everyone. ADHD is a neurological anomaly and as such we don't have a 100% way to fix it. When I was on medicine, it was like putting on glasses, but having the wrong prescription. I was more focused, yes, but I was also irritable, depressed, anxious, I wasn't growing, constantly hungry with no appetite. So I stopped. After two more years of struggling through it alone, I started therapy, which has been absolutely helping me. There are other options. Medicine can work for some, but if it doesn't work for you, there are other ways. Some might find a way by striking a balance between the two, some might do only one or the other, some might have something completely different. ADHD is a complex issue, but it's common enough that there are a lot of potential solutions.
Thank you for this! ADHD runs in my family. My brother was diagnosed as a child, but I had only just gotten diagnosed because mine wasn't so prominent as his. It's definitely getting worse though as I am older and as I entered highschool, focus is taking a huge toll on my life as well as doing small tasks. My brother had medication and it ruined his appetite, gave him tics, and made him almost robot-like. He had no personality when he was on the meds. He hardly spoke or ate, and slept a lot. He wasnt himself. And so, he stopped taking them. He's doing better without the meds than he probably ever would've with them. So thank you for your comment, because medication isn't a 100% fix! It might fix one thing while also ruining another part of you.
This!!!! Medication was hard for me and gave me heart palpitations
Absolutely agree!
Im currently taking medication for my adhd and its been the best thing thats happened for me since i was diagnosed last year, but i understand everyone is different and experiences adhd differently, it's a spectrum, a wide one at that, and i don't think enough people know to what extent
Medication also worked for me too do homework, I finally could focus, but I had soooo many anxiety attacks! And I was a plant, I wasn’t as enthousiastic anymore.. Conversations didn’t go smooth anymore, and I lost a lot of weight
the type of meds you take is also a big role. When i started using adhd meds, I used Concerta 18mg (methylphenid). It was alright, and the wall that prevented me from doing the things i love became a small fence. Sometimes it was still hard, but most of the time i could just step over it. I had also become a bit more snappy and paranoid as it worsened my anxiety a bit, which my parents took quick notice of.
So my doctor decided to have me try vyvance, 18mg. The month or so i was using it was probably one of the worst months ive ever had mentally. I was irritable, emotional and paranoid. My anxiety was through the roof, and the fall off in the afternoon was terrible.
Obviously, i was switched off of that. I am now again taking Concerta, this time 36mg, alongside 10mg of citalopram, a depression/anxiety med. Its been working well for me for the past few months. just like the initial 18mg of Concerta, the wall has now halved in size. But this time, i make it over a bit more consistently.
This changed my perspective of ADHD so much. I have a friend with ADHD, I don’t have it so I’ve never really understood it, whenever the teacher calls on him and he doesn’t know the answer, my teacher gives him a lecture on listening and I see him shed a tear. I thought he was lazy, never listened in class, chatty, then cries when he gets an answer wrong, I thought he was dramatic, but this really helped me learn more about ADHD, thank you for this.
Make sure to give extra love to your ADHD friend. Offer him smiles and understanding and be the outlet for him to unload his fun adhd hobbies and interests to. We internalize the negative talk we receive from our parents, teachers and peers, so, so much and it wrecks the way we see ourselves. Having someone who loves us for who we are and doesn’t make us feel stupid for something out of our control means more than words will ever describe ❤❤❤
That's good you see it. Maybe you can help defend him now. People really don't understand
That is very good to hear. The most important thing to a young person is the support from their peers. It literally changes everything. Maybe you can also help others to understand your friends situation better. It takes a village....be the village.
The amount of appreciation I have for you is immense. Not enough people without adhd care to even try and understand. You are a true friend for even clicking on this video.
I wish I had a friend that would go out of their way to attempt to understand like you have. I hope you know just how much that would mean to your friend, and I hope you are just as supported in your life.
That exhausted part gets me everytime. Its like a car with a messed up tranmission. No matter how hard you try(pushing down on the gas pedal) your brain(engine) ends up tired(running out of gas) and you end up right where you started.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 27. The diagnosis came about during therapy while trying to set my life back on track -- I was suicidal, hated my job (staring at a wall for 11hrs/day), and generally felt impossibly behind my peers. Between my medication and my therapist, it has been profoundly life-changing.
I'm going back to school for aerospace engineering and business management (both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for), and for the first time in a decade I'm actually optimistic and excited about my future. While I feel as though the last 20 years of life were wasted, I know the next 20 are going to be absolutely exceptional.
This video really hit home for me, especially as it's 30 minutes past my bedtime and I'm still watching videos about procrastination. Excellent work!
wishing you the best! :)
"Both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for"
This kinda stuff keeps me up at night... knowing you're good at something, even better than most at it, but you're missing one piece that separates you from someone successful in the field. It's like being a superhero with a broken leg.
Then the retroactive thinking that comes with it and feeling like you're just behind everyone else and there's not enough time to make any sort of headway into doing what you're good at doing. Story of my life...
It sounds like you're doing the right things and paving your path. You can do it and it's okay if things don't work the way you want them to during your journey. Time isn't against you and take it at your own pace! Good luck, you got this!
@@gras0068 I was professionally diagnosed, even got a second opinion from another healthcare provider before starting stimulants
@@livewire42 and here I am trying to finish my PhD with an actually broken ankle, like it wasn't already hard enough.. I was only diagnosed last August at the age of 30 and still trying to find how to manage everything
Proud of you! Keep going
As a person with good grades and mild ADHD, it never even passed my mind that I had ADHD for a very long time. Since my grades were always good and I wasn’t a bad student, it didn’t pass anyone else’s mind either. Not even my mother, a psychologist. I felt like this for a good amount of my life. Zoning out,fidgeting,not sitting still,getting distracted,feeling paralyzed when having to complete a task,procrastinating,being extremely sensitive,feeling like a disappointment,waiting till the last minute to do soemthing,doing things too fast.it’s a lot to take in. You don’t know how to cope. Your reading a sentence,maybe even a math problem,but you know it,your brain is just not processing. You read the sentence and reread and over and over again until your mind eventually gives in. It’s the same thing from people “it’s not that hard”,”what do you mean you don’t understand?”,”you should be able to do this”. And they are right. But it’s really not that easy. Alarms:don’t work,sticky notes:don’t even catch your attention,aderall:works but at the risk of many things. What can you do at this point? You’re a procrastinator who can simply just not sit still or think slow enough to process. You feel like a disappointment. Even if you are diagnosed and have accommodations they aren’t much help. Nothings ever a good enough excuse. No matter what you do it’s not right. Wether your grades or good and your social life and friendships are going downhill,or visa versa, it’s still you having to live with this “thing” that you just can’t walk away from,no matter where you go it follows. The only place you feel even merely safe is ,is your own head,and even then….
I wanted to cry reading this because I re read multiple times the same thing. Knew what the words were but could not process it. Do I have ADHD? I'm almost 30 and I never got diagnosed. I don't even understand how to get checked or if I have the time for it. Thinking about it, makes me feel sick and anxious
It's the same for me, i actually reallly have to read something many times before i get to distinguish the informations, and even then sometimes it's like torture,
Even vidéos i watch, i find myself going back multiple times
People with adhd better choose something they really love to do it's one of the only ways not to feel the torture of Work and forcing urself to focus (without even being able to understand sometimes)
I always was top of my class and I graduated with a first class degree. I got a really high paid job (stressful). But I am always in debt because I can't manage money and I spend stupid amounts when I'm in a new hyperfocus. My house is a mess, I struggle to even shower or hang up my clothes. All I get from my family is mocked and I feel so ashamed. I had a psychotherapist for years and she recently told me there was no way I have ADHD and so I take that to mean I must be choosing to be like this 😢
@@BanjoPixelSnack but u still deserve to see another therapists, someone who can give u a real test, don't stop there, one of the biggest indicators is the feeling of struggle, because ordinary people do have all of these symptômes but just onces in a while so they don't really feel they are struggling...
Some therapists really have their préjudice about ADHD especially when it's not their spéciality, i might guess it's because of ur position that urs though u couldn't get there with ADHD but perhaps u are genuily interested by what u'r doing (in which case u actually have an advantage), also with a therapist u just sit and speak, she can't see when u forget things, how ur house is always a mess, how u can't manage ur time... Etc and perhaps u didn't complain about these things that often because u had other problems... (we kinda tend to try to hide as much as we can the mess that is around us, hoping people won't notice)
Now don't get me wrong, if 2 or 3 other therapist say the same thing u gotta accept their diagnostic, but try to choose one who is specialised...
I hope whatever ur problem is, u'll get better 🙏🙏
Ps: for me it seems to me that u r both smart and hard working so without adhd (it can also be dépression or something else)it would be prety easy for u to be organised... So don't stop here
@@BanjoPixelSnack imo you should go to a different therapist. I've started medication about a week ago and my perception of life has changed drastically- I don't feel like I'm constantly falling apart or like an imposter. My point is the benefits far outweigh the consequences.
Watching this because my friend is getting tested for ADHD. Reminder to everyone who doesn't have it, to respect and support those who do
if i could show this to my family and have them understand that this is what really goes on with me instead of just their forgetful, lazy, "unable to do anything for themselves" child, life would be so much easier.
„A world of constant noise and distraction and disappointment“
That hit me like a truck, I’ve never heard such a good summary
Yeah fr
I'm not sure if I have adhd or not, I have felt a few similar things in this video, and I've looked up the symptoms, and I do have a few but I haven't been medically diagnosed. I've tried to talk to my parents about but they both shut me down saying "ive worked with people who have adhd, you're not like them because you can sit still." Everyone's adhd is different and I don't think they know that. I'm planning on making a slideshow telling them about the different adhd's and other things. I'm definitely going to use this video on there. Thank you for making this.
I have this a lot, I feel like ADHD gets thrown around a lot these days and I don’t want to be thought like that
You may not read this but tell your mom there’s 3 diffrent adhd’s, hyperactive/impulsive type, inattentive and distractible type, and combined type. (Which is the 2 mentioned beforehand combined together.)
It's also possible that you have ADD (this is without the hyperactivity).
I have both the hyperactive and inattentive type of ADHD and i know this is in the replies but you dont have to be fidgety to have ADHD.. my dad has ADHD but only the inattentive type and he doesnt ever fidget, i know it not the same for everybody but it helps to know how real life people act with this disorder rather than reading it from somewhere. ive found it really helps to talk to other people that are diagnosed, i learned about things that i didnt even know were symptoms of ADHD from talking to other who have it
@Sleety D: did they give in?
"and you're reading a sentence" that repetition hurts my head so much 😭😭 but i relate to it, especially when I'm taking an exam, reading it over and over again but even if i keep repeating it in my head, it just won't make sense at all
so incredibly spot on its kindof terrifying as well as in a weird way you can let go thinking there are ppl that get you out there, but still quite a hard but valuable watch
4:40 - 5:00 was powerful for me. "its not like you want to let people down". I catch myself thinking this on a daily basis, especially with my parents. i forget simple chores and each time i try to convince them i dont do it on purpose or because im lazy. gosh, what a great short film you guys have made.
Convincing them you’re not lazy is the hardest part
I get shouted at all day every day and get called “annoying” for it. I sometimes feel bullied because I know I cannot help it. I’m just a “mess” according to them which doesn’t feel fair.
im so grateful for the parents i have. they arent perfect of course but they try and that is somethimg a lot of parents dont do. my mum has adhd as well and my dad has autism. my mum was also a mental health advocate so she understands everything. my dad struggles to understand this stuff becasue of his auticm but he lets mum take care of it and does whatever he can to help, even if its just hugs
@@simonamarsano841yeah🙃 and once time I decide to tell them “I’m tired. Mentally tired. I don’t know i why but just laying on bed it also can make me tired. I run out of passion(to live I want to kms🤡) now.” and “I want to do it but I don’t want to do it(i can’t think now pls shut up and lemme think alone!) so I can’t do it and wait till I can do it.”
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@@gamerxarmymultistan😭😭😭😭👍 good for you
As someone with a bad glasses perscription, the analogy at the end really spoke to me. Theres nothing quite like that profound feeling of joy mixed with despair as you realize... is this what it is like for everyone else all the time? They can read that? I was supposed to be able to read that? How much have I been missing out on?
I don't have ADHD but I can only imagine it is a similar feeling, and i'm very glad that there are medications that can help oeople
I have both ADHD and short sight so u can imagine
I could relate to it more too because I wear glasses. It's weird when you realize you've been seeing things so differently than everyone else has, when you were made to believe the opposite.
hahahah I remember when I first got glasses I was like "WAIT YOU CAN SEE THE TREE LEAVES!??"
Me too. Once I put on some glasses I was amazing about all the detail I was missing in life. I was seriously crying on my way back home. Just staring out the window looking at everything. It felt new.
@@izterp Glad to know I'm not the only one who cried when I put on glasses for the first time 😅
This literally explains everything I've been trying to tell my mom for the past year. Genuinely thought i was the only one going through this. Very relieved to know I'm not.
Lachlan this is incredible, absolutely incredible, i know you have ADHD as you described it like only someone who has suffered with it could, so your storytelling is 10/10 but the cinematography and adding in yourself and the intensity are all also 10/10. I'm just blown away. This should win short film awards and be spread far and wide for any employer who says they are open to neurodiversity in the workplace and the same goes with all in levels of education. Quite simply brilliant and I hope your ADHD hasn't stopped you continuing something you have such a skill in like it has for many of us who haven't don't continue or haven't found that thing.
As a girl with severe ADHD, one of my biggest pet peeves is people expecting my ADHD to be only minor, and not much of a problem because it's oftenly worse in guys. It just doesn't make sense. And it also bugs me how people think my ADHD will be magically "fixed" with my medication.
I don't think ADHD is necessarily "worse" in guys, it's more like it presents differently in guys and girls. For guys it does tend to present more as the can't-sit-still type of ADHD, and everyone can easily physically see that. For girls, it tends to be more of an internal struggle, disorganized/racing thoughts and stuff like that. It's just as severe, but it's more of an invisible disease, and unfortunately, for most people, seeing is believing. Trust is hard to come by these days, so if people have to just trust you when you say you're struggling but they can't actually see it for themselves, it's easier to brush it off as excuses than extend that blind trust.
At least, that's what I've found, both in my experience as a girl with moderate-to-severe ADHD, and in the info I've found while researching more about my ADHD. (But I understand what you're getting at, just wanted to share the info I've found. I didn't know until recently that ADHD presents differently in girls than boys, or that it presents differently in kids than adults.)
Geez, that turned out so much longer than I thought it was, sorry the long response 😝
@@mak_inthebox4817 I definitely have an unorganized, anxious and stressed mind, but I also seem to have the can't-sit-still thing. It's really hard because whenever I'm off medication I'm very squeamish, stressed and uncomfortable while sitting, r even laying down. It's like I don't know what to do with my body while trying to focus. People also get on my nerves WAY easier when I'm not taking my medication. I get angry SO easily, but people just get mad when I say it's because of my ADHD.
@@DieselDog1982 Huh?
I completely agree, I wasn’t diagnosed until I had turned 18. After I told my family they didn’t believe me, they questioned me if I thought the diagnosis was correct, they said it didn’t sound correct and that maybe, at most, I was just on the border of ADHD. I told them it was absolutely correct, I told them I had been diagnosed with moderate-to-severe ADHD and that I was really happy to finally have an answer to what I’ve been feeling. I had to tell them I wasn’t asking for their opinion I was just sharing some good news and if they genuinely want to get to know their daughter they’d ask questions, judgment free.
I’ve struggled with ADHD all my life: I’ve heard it all, “you’re lazy,” “you’re immature,” “you have so much potential, why don’t you use it?” Last year and starting this year I’ve returned to college after I dropped out the first time. It’s still hard, but everyday is a chance to be better.
You’re not alone, you’re not stupid, you’re not lazy, you’re you.
from past 17 years it feels like i am still standing on a same place while everyone is gone ahead
i graduate actually in my 30s. it is possible, but the only reason is, that there have been so many different classes, like everything has been new on almost a weekly schedule. but often, VERY often i did my assignments or even studying for an exam happened the day before. but i´ve been also without a job a full year after i graduated because i´ve been lost and not motivated to truly do the research where i want to end up
My AuDHD boyfriend has accepted his at a very young age. Though he was heavily influenced in the 90s by
Nikolai Tesla, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and anyone who was non society conforming.
Thich Nhat Hanh introduced to him at 15.
Through this his Radical resilience and radical acceptance paired with abuse, military mentality has put his IQ logical brain on steroids lowering his EQ allowing him to focus on thjngs with ease
His troubles; relationships being emotionally available or attentive even though his wiring outcompetes any male I have come across both typical and add.
He has been proud of his by showcasing any individual who could do what DaVinci did and the like had to be a neurodivergent. Science at the time does not allow us to discover any factual truth to the allegation/theory.
In the end: it’s a super power with some hard downsides to overcome
And he works daily to overcome them by removing the unnecessary obstacles
Time blindness - clocks each wall or each room
Schedules - He has impeccable timing in his brain map. Calendars and whiteboards.
Tasks - sequentially thought out and planned slow is smooth, smooth is fast making it efficient. He does not rush them until he has the plot planned out, knowing he won’t be interrupted to finish.
Clothes - keeps it simple
Duluth trading - clothing
Shoes - Keen or Duluth
Pants - 5 pairs of the same
Shirts - 5 under shirts with 3 button downs
No coats every item is utilitarian for dress, fit, hiking , working and looking good meaning less mess for laundry day.
He places a high amount of importance on decision fatigue for energy maintenance
I've never felt so seen, and simultaneously on the verge of an anxiety/panic attack before.
This entire short film might actually be the most accurate portrayal of my experience with ADHD I've ever seen in my life.
At first I wasn't a fan of the grim "it helps" at the end, but after sitting with it for a bit I realize it's entirely accurate. It doesn't magically fix everything, it helps, that's it. Its still a daily struggle, it's still hard. But being diagnosed in my late 20's, and getting on my meds, might actually be the greatest thing that has ever happened to me in my life. Which speaks volumes.
This is exactly the reiteration of my daily life, almost looks like horror film to watch. I haven't really feel so attacked like this.. The noise, the distraction, the disappointments, all of that in one single person is ADHD. Everything feels overwhelming and so fast paced that u can't even cope up with your own task. It feels like time is running out for you and u can't even help to improve yourself. You feel so helpless in ADHD
This made me cry because it is so accurate to what I feel in a single day with my ADHD. I have troubles with explaining it all the time and my class, teachers, and even some schools I have been to all have said I’m just stupid and lazy. I’m lucky tho my family understands and helps me find ways to cope without using meds but some days I just wonder if I did take meds if it would fix me. More people need to see this video.
Technically there is nothing the "fix". The problem is how we live in today's society. It's incredibly structured. This isn't how people lived before agriculture.
Humans created a system that only works for a certain kind of person and then blame us when we don't fit the mold.
Depends entirely on how a person reacts to amphetamines, for me the side effects far outweighed the benefits, but the benefit of added concentration was definitely there but here’s the thing…. Side effects get so bad that you go off the pills which lead to withdrawals but the worst thing is that now you’ve taken the slight benefit for granted because you don’t realise untill it’s gone which will keep you going back on the medication.
The best thing is to find ways to cope without medication because all it’s going to do is trap you. ADHD is just some bullshit label put on people that functioning outside of what’s socially accepted as being "Normal" we shouldn’t have a label for being different and unfortunately taking medication will make us become slaves to the label. We need to learn to cope otherwise the knowingness of having a diagnosis will control us because we say we can’t before we even try.
@@mixer1014 for example, when hunting, gathering, water, and shelter were our main and only concerns ADHD would be an advantage over others
@@mixer1014 that's what it was like for you, medication didn't only help me with concentration but also just overall mental health
Taking medicine wouldn't fix you. It's not the goal. You don't need to be fixed, you just need to take a look at your life from a different perspective.
Oh. This made me cry. I’m 15, and when I was in 5th grade I was diagnosed with ADHD. It sucks. I was put on the medicine immediately, and while it did make everything a lot better, it had so many terrible side effects. I was losing a lot of weight, had lots of mood swings (literally I burst into tears once when my mom told me we had to go to the mall) I was always shaking, etc. I really wish I could send this video to my teachers, because my math and avid teacher always make me feel like everything is my fault. Both of them are like “why don’t you understand? Why don’t you ask for help?” And I just... blank. I don’t know why. They really blame everything on me, and they just don’t realize I can’t control it. God I hate it so so much, should I show this to my mom? I don’t think half my teachers even know about my 504. At least I’m the only one alone
Late reply, but yea you should show everyone that doesn’t immediately understand so they can understand your situation better.
bro outside of most things in this comment just wanna say that the shaking is so relatable. if i try to sit still my body literally shakes. though it's become easier to deal with (bc i had a really young diagnosis, like 3 or 4 years old, maybe earlier. i kinda learned to just go with it), it's so annoying i swear-
I think you should! The traditional education system doesn't cater to students with mental health issues, but by discussing it with your mom maybe you can get accommodations from your teachers or they'll go easier on you. I hope things get better for you!
I relate so much! I was also diagnosed in 5th grade, immideately put on meds, had rapid weight loss, shaking, mood swings, I know exactly what your going through. The medicine works great but it also ruined me at the same time. (I also had no appetite)
@@faerimusicx no because my head will like twitch or kinda move to the side and its so embarrassing i think its probably my medication but i have to like play it off like i was looking at somethingg
ADHD is so many things, and learning to understand it as someone with ADHD even now is tough. I wish more people to see this.
I got it
This video helped me understand more about myself. It put my situation into words I could not put it in. Somehow the fact that other people really are living in this same situation in the same way is really comforting. I am grateful for this video. Very grateful.
Wow. That is accurate af. I struggle with severe ADHD and it is hard :(
Honestly same bro it’s a struggle
Same man, same, it is hard. The amount of time we have been told that we are not good enough, that we aren't listening and stop making excuses.
Even as a senior in high school and being diagnosed with ADHD for 10 years, I’ve never been able to accurately describe it. Thank you so much for this video
Jesus loves you and he died for you. The Love of God Love is sooo big. He can listen to your sorrow, to your doubt, to your depression, to your joy, to your anxiety... Literally everything ! He cares about you, start to care more about him. Read the Bible if you want to learn more ❤
Same. Sometimes people will ask me how it feels to have ADHD, but I can never put it into words
I keep hearing that we can't organize but prioritizing seems to be the bigger problem. When I'm actually focused I'm capable of organizing just fine.
@@Melissa-818 Lol where did that come from?
@@Melissa-818This is so Much. Thank you Melissa. ☺️🧡🧡🧡🧡
This made me cry, this is the perfect representation of every single day, and it always feels like nobody understands, I’m so glad some people do understand.
Thank you for making this, explaining it to people is hard but hopefully I can show this video to a handful of people so they understand it better. Also, I really can't wait until I'm an adult and can get medicine for myself. My mom doesn't let me take ADHD meds, doesn't like the idea. Maybe showing her this video will help, but I sadly doubt it
As someone without ADHD, I feel really bad for anyone who has to deal with this ❤ you guys are so strong!
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
@@OliviaLivy I recently learned that my father struggles with ADHD and my parents think that I have it too. Even as I'm typing this right now I don't really know what I should say aside from that. For the longest time I assumed that I was just...being lazy. And true, maybe some of it is laziness, but...if it isn't me, then what is it, yknow? I want to ask my mom if I should get tested, but I don't want to put her in another bad financial situation. I wanna talk to someone but I just don't feel up to it. I wanna get shit done, but I can't help but fire up Roblox, play a couple songs only to fire up roblox again. It's like focus, but not being focused, or being focused on the wrong thing. I just...I don't know. I don't know.
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Right at the end, the "It helps." bit is perfectly correct. It doesn't fix everything, and some days it doesn't fix anything. Regardless, it blows a few of those sticky notes away, and sometimes that's more than I dare to ask for.
I looked for someone to say this one!🙏🏽🙏🏽
This made me cry. My daughter has it more severely than me, and she definitely struggles at this level. Years after her diagnosis, I was also diagnosed. I noticed after her meds, some of the sticky notes came off the wall, and that’s accurate. Meds help. It’s not a cure all and it doesn’t give you skills, but it can give you a step up for a few hours a day. It’s a pain to obtain and a pain to maintain refills (in the US), but it can help some.
ADHD is a very complicated thing, and it is very hard to explain, especially to those without it. This film takes you through common experiences that come with the disorder.
This was so accurate, that it almost triggered my second one: Anxiety too.
Yup
Wait is anxiety not inherently part of having adhd ? 😅
the "and you're reading a sentence" part really got me.
I feel so comforted and uncomfortable watching this because of how accurate it is
I've been stuck in a burnout for so long and i feel so pathetic for not being as resilient as i used to be
Or maybe everything was just easier back then and i was never resilient in the first place
I keep finding myself making excuses and being all over the place and wanting to change but nothing is just clicking
I'm letting everyone including myself down
Everytime i try to make a little change i just lose myself along the way and before i know it im back to square one, a month has passed, and i havent even finished half of what i was supposed to do
Im stuck between wanting help and comfort from other people and wanting to isolate myself in fear of disrupting everyone else's peace
I try to be more forgiving towards myself but it makes me feel like im being too soft on myself
But if i try to be more disciplined i just end up making "unrealistic" expectations of myself
I feel like a broken record
A phone charger that always needs the right angle just to work and stops working after just the slightest shift
I constantly get paralyzed thinking about what i should do instead of doing
Obviously it's not like this everyday
Sometimes im very capable and productive and feel amazing
Then when i hit a slump again i compare myself to that competent version of me
Telling myself that i was capable of doing almost anything, so why not now?
Why cant i bring her out when i want to
When i NEED to
The funny thing is i have never been diagnosed. I do not want to self-diagnose.
But a part of me just resonates with the possibility that I maybe probably might actually
have ADHD
But my guidance councelor told me that our generation tends to self diagnose and that i should try journaling and breathing exercises and try naming 5 things i can touch, 4 things i can hear, 3, 2, 1
Wait, did i spell exercise right? Whatever
Maybe she is right
What if im just thinking about it too much?
🥹🥹😭😭🫂. ❤
I feel the Same. Each word of your Comment is Just like me. The feeling of this long Burnout, The feeling of Missing my Old Competent self. Or maybe everything was easy? No it wasn't, It was hard... I was Hardworking. But Something is wrong in Brain. Idk. 😭 I can't focus, I can listen for a straight 45min lec. I can't keep track of Anything, work, test assignment. Im overwhelmed. 😭 this is Awful.
(Laying in the Chaos of My Books and Stationary, wasting my life. I... don't know..I was never like this...)
Comparing the present self with the old one. Ahhhh. Same here
I'm diagnosed with severe ADHD. This hit so close to home and is so perfectly worded💜 thank you.
you summoned it really beautifully that right now i am actually cryning..ig we both lives the same life in different body and time zones...sending ❤
You’re not, don’t worry, that’s a very good description and it puts my feelings into words when I never could. Great job, keep going, you can make it, I know you can.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who cries watching this.
It’s like I can finally give space to the hard emotions when I hear someone else say they experience the same struggles I do.
Thank you to everyone who was a part in making this - it is so accurate at showing the everyday horrors of living with ADHD.
"It's been 2 weeks?!!"
2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, all feel equally long ago. I frequently look at the date on a file or doc and am shocked at the amount of time that has passed unnoticed.
I understand how disorienting it can feel when time seems to slip away unnoticed. Whether it's been two weeks, two months, or even longer, the passage of time can blur together in a way that makes it difficult to grasp. Living with ADHD can amplify this sense of time distortion, leaving you feeling disconnected from the present moment. But please know that you are not alone in this experience. Many others share similar struggles, and there are ways to manage and cope with this feeling of time slipping away. By implementing strategies like setting reminders, breaking tasks into smaller chunks, and creating routines, you can regain a sense of control over your time and find moments of clarity amidst the blur. Remember, each day is a new opportunity to start fresh, no matter how much time has passed, and I hope your loved ones can understand and support you in this, and yes i suggest you should get therapies for your own sake.
❤
Ikr
strangely I can cope with my ADHD during school years because the schedule from the school helped me a lot to keep track of everything, was a struggle to stayed focused during class but the adrenaline to get a high score made it exciting so I got high score sometimes. But, now, as an adult. It’s getting hard to keep on with my project. Just like her, drinking water and eating, one day passed just like that. There were times where I made peace with ADHD but there were also times where I feel disappointed at myself. Living with ADHD is hard. It’s not as easy as ‘just do it’, I want to ‘just do it’ but my brain freezes then I get nauseous. Cheer up my fellow ADHRers
You are me
School was somehow fine but since then I am constantly struggling.
Every word and sentence I thought: that's me somehow
But also: I am not alone
adhd people are stupid schizos, yall r over reacting abt everything
God loves you! Repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! go to Jesus and he can give you mercy joy and peace and so much love!
@@rachael5611 ah, nice.
Thanks for that, I already know that, maybe good reminder (?)
By the way, I am interested, are you a bot or a person?
And if you are a person, what's your favourite bible verse?
And why did you post it underneath this particular comment?
Sending love
(to anyone who may read it, I think anyone could need a little bit more kindness) :)
@@rachael5611how does this relate to the conversation at all?
Are you suggesting having ADHD is a sin you must repent for?