You Don't Have to Solve Your Problems: The Gottman Method Relationship Advice

Jumpstart Your Relationship:
info.gottman.com/small-things...
There are some issues between you and your partner that are unsolvable. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Find out how to deal with “perpetual problems” on this episode of Small Things Often.
Sign Up for Love Notes and get the latest on relationships, parenting, therapy and more, from the experts at The Gottman Institute. Includes a free download every month.
info.gottman.com/small-things...

[@ericechevarria5273]

Empathy is the foundation of any conversation. There has to be an honest desire to take turns at practicing empathy, and seek to listen and understand the needs/concerns/hurts of the other person as opposed to the desire of attacking the other person or becoming defensive. As the saying goes; it takes two to tango.

[@a_leaf]

Yes 'taking turns' is the issue.
It requires 2 to exist in relationship.
When people mute their personality and appease their partner it costs them a voice in the relationship because their partner over time adjusts to being both the speaker and audience, a relationship of 1.
P1:Where do u wanna go to dinner?
P2: "Whatever u like is fine with me"
P1: thinks OK self where do u want to go to dinner?

[@SongiGodsgirl]

What if the problem is your partner who has anxiety and depression

[@mariafriedly]

And what happen when your perpetual problem is that you both don’t know how to have a conversation

[@TheRedWabbit]

Apparently, that is a subject that we will not address. We only have advice that keeps you married, miserable and assumes that your partner communicates.

[@TheGottmanInstitute]

Good question! Conversation, like all other skills, can be learned and practiced if both partners are willing to try. Start here: www.gottman.com/blog/dr-gottmans-3-skills-and-1-rule-for-intimate-conversation/#:~:text=John%20and%20Julie%20Gottman%20tell,both%20people%20feel%20totally%20understood.

[@TheGottmanInstitute]

@@TheRedWabbit Communication is the responsibility of both partners in a relationship -- and our research specifically discusses the risks of staying in an unhappy partnership.