How to know he’s not ready?

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Komentáře • 815

  • @Glamrocs
    @Glamrocs Před 4 lety +724

    Listen!!!! I escaped to a shelter then a friends couch. I did it with 4 children. I made up my mind he was not going to hit me anymore in front of my children. It wasn’t easy but it’s possible with Gods strength.

    • @marishalewis484
      @marishalewis484 Před 4 lety +21

      Glamrocs Makeup Wow! Thank God you got out of that situation.

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs Před 4 lety +7

      Marisha Lewis Amen

    • @cardiac711
      @cardiac711 Před 4 lety +6

      I so glad you're here to help us. Thank you. God is good.

    • @keysham8494
      @keysham8494 Před 4 lety +8

      Amen, that takes strength and courage but God is going to bless you for putting you and your children first. God bless you.

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs Před 4 lety +3

      Cherlyrese Montgomery Thank you

  • @BeautifulDzyre
    @BeautifulDzyre Před 4 lety +603

    Take aways... you will KNOW if he wants you because he will SHOW you in his ACTIONS. WITHOUT ANY QUESTIONS... if you are confused, or conflicted, the answer is NO! NEXT!

    • @gwenhayden6812
      @gwenhayden6812 Před 4 lety

      L

    • @KalimahSBICeo
      @KalimahSBICeo Před 3 lety +8

      That's my energy! And not just in the beginning the ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP!.. Or not!👋👋👋👋 bye!💃

    • @aleecewhite3919
      @aleecewhite3919 Před 3 lety +5

      Yup had to tell a guy that today, that because I'm confused the answer is no. He said he still wants to pursue me just because, I think he is just lonely.

    • @danyelgarcia3689
      @danyelgarcia3689 Před 3 lety +3

      @@aleecewhite3919 how long for you to realize that you were confused about how he felt? And then until you said something? I know I stayed too long. I needed to end it almost immediately just from my gut alone but I stayed thinking this is a nice guy.

    • @aleecewhite3919
      @aleecewhite3919 Před 3 lety

      @@danyelgarcia3689 We only been talking 3 months, but I knew after 3 weeks. Like, I said he still wants to pursue but we have an understanding that nothing is going tp happen between us for a long time until, I can feel God tell me it is safe to give him a chance. I don't talk with him everyday anymore, I told him that is too much and an emotional attachment is going to cause problems. We only talk 2 days a week now...Sorry I couldn't help you more, but I am still believing in Gods timing! Good luck, and I will pray for you

  • @Tarahsays
    @Tarahsays Před 4 lety +627

    I’m so glad I’m 100% single, I can’t be putting up with all these games. No thanks I’ll just focus on me !

    • @kenishalperkins
      @kenishalperkins Před 4 lety +9

      Shatara Smith Amen. Same here.

    • @merouria6524
      @merouria6524 Před 4 lety +6

      Women claim the don't have time for games but they are about games.

    • @tiaisblessed5961
      @tiaisblessed5961 Před 4 lety +11

      Shatara Smith yes me too I don’t have time

    • @cherh
      @cherh Před 4 lety +9

      Same sis same! 😂

    • @intentionalgreatness
      @intentionalgreatness Před 4 lety +31

      Take a break then jump back in. It's all about understanding and then doing things differently. Dating itself is a game..of gathering info and teaching people how to treat you while loving yourself.

  • @alicea561
    @alicea561 Před 4 lety +554

    Your peace is more important then driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did
    LET IT GO!!!!

  • @saiyansnake
    @saiyansnake Před 4 lety +203

    When a man truly loves a woman, she will never have to question it! Everything he says and does will exude love!

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 Před 2 lety +2

      Thank you 💗 I needed to hear this with tears in my eyes.

    • @disnalee
      @disnalee Před 2 lety +1

      Omg everything he says is what my hubby is doing to me!!! Thank you!!!

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +1

      Been in relationship for a longtime never knew what love is he got caught I left

    • @zen_mindset1
      @zen_mindset1 Před 8 měsíci

      Facts❤

  • @msve3730
    @msve3730 Před 3 lety +84

    Sometimes the grown boy will not tell the woman shes not the one because deep down he knows she will find someone better and will be treated better because she deserves it.

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 Před 4 lety +119

    "He got a warm body, but he got a cold heart..."

  • @overcomingdaily4695
    @overcomingdaily4695 Před 4 lety +157

    Sometimes we see the mix signals and red flags but we go in hoping that it will change. Fear of being single and desperation cause some women to settle for less.

    • @antoinitaviolette4140
      @antoinitaviolette4140 Před 4 lety +3

      Sim Ham Jesus is my everything those red flags are shockers, though some men are so unstable that you can't trust anything they say, or possibly what they might do, but if you lean on Holy Ghost, and really take your time, He will reveal secrets because He is the Light. (A lot of men and women are not ready for relationships. Some font want to miss the opportunity, knowing they are not ready, nor interested, and are full of the devil.)

  • @chelleb2258
    @chelleb2258 Před 4 lety +181

    Tony is a low key comedian.

  • @rachellove4797
    @rachellove4797 Před 4 lety +154

    Children like peace. I wish my parents had separated many days.

    • @nessparadis6948
      @nessparadis6948 Před 4 lety +5

      I was telling this to someone today and she said she felt the same about her parents.

    • @rachellove4797
      @rachellove4797 Před 4 lety +2

      @Eternity With Christ my mom stayed to "honor her vowels". I doubt that's the real reason. But whatever...lol.

    • @wealldeserveloveandhappine7430
      @wealldeserveloveandhappine7430 Před 4 lety

      Oml yess

    • @shirondamoore8833
      @shirondamoore8833 Před 4 lety +2

      This when O made my decision it was over. I spoke with my grown cousins about there parents and I was floored that they wanted their parents to separate.

    • @nessava4965
      @nessava4965 Před 3 lety +2

      And children deserve peace. Too many parents dragging their kids up rather than raising and nurturing them to their highest self love.

  • @jroyal2229
    @jroyal2229 Před 4 lety +61

    I’m gonna be honest, of course I want a husband but, I’m not settling until I feel in my heart/mind that I’m at peace that he’s “the one.” Until then, I’ll remain single & wake up in the morning with a peace of mind.

  • @jojo-coach6927
    @jojo-coach6927 Před 4 lety +119

    I've been in a homeless shelter.. You will get through it .

    • @wowzers6178
      @wowzers6178 Před 4 lety +19

      I was in a shelter, squatted in an empty house, then move to a room in my sister house. Now 16 months later I have a house and I leave for law school in a few months. It gets better.

    • @safaamubarak6659
      @safaamubarak6659 Před 4 lety +1

      @@wowzers6178 That's incredible OMG!!
      If you don't mind tell me how you managed to elevate so i can follow your steps

  • @DeeDee-no7bb
    @DeeDee-no7bb Před 4 lety +199

    We must always be willing to walk away! I had to do this 3 times in my life so far and it gets easier. I refuse to be a used up bitter woman.

    • @sanjeshnidevi982
      @sanjeshnidevi982 Před 4 lety +12

      So true! I leave EARLY and NEVER wasted more than a year with a toxic man. It is so empowering and liberating to make such a proactive decision.

    • @DeeDee-no7bb
      @DeeDee-no7bb Před 4 lety +3

      Lara Srinivasan absolutely!!

    • @PrettiRissa
      @PrettiRissa Před 4 lety +4

      Deidre Allen yess! A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!

    • @doryjo127
      @doryjo127 Před 4 lety +1

      Been there and I have done that many many times. I won’t even give u the chance to act stupid. U are gone!!

  • @chefaonthe1719
    @chefaonthe1719 Před 4 lety +266

    Bottom line Men are about action, look at how they move because like my mama used to say "I can show you better than I can tell you"! If he wants you for his wife he will show you💯

    • @PrettiRissa
      @PrettiRissa Před 4 lety +6

      ChefA Onthe1 Yesss ! A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!

    • @nickbry7357
      @nickbry7357 Před 4 lety +1

      Amen sis

    • @justinenunley9385
      @justinenunley9385 Před 3 lety

      What about the ones that “commit” but still cheat

    • @ntrvlogs2904
      @ntrvlogs2904 Před 3 lety +2

      @@justinenunley9385 lol leave !
      Who wants to be cheated on? You don’t know what he is liable to bring back to your bed and body .

  • @fatimawilliams4959
    @fatimawilliams4959 Před 4 lety +272

    I'm finna give LITTLE UGLY A CHANCE !! LOL 😅😅😅😅😅😅

    • @JayJay999_92
      @JayJay999_92 Před 4 lety +11

      ROSEMARY Williams I had to make sure I heard him right 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @queenofthesouth4205
      @queenofthesouth4205 Před 4 lety +3

      Lol

    • @angelamarshall3867
      @angelamarshall3867 Před 4 lety +3

      Tammy Slade facts

    • @chelleb2258
      @chelleb2258 Před 4 lety +5

      @Tammy Slade Tony didn't say fix him up.

    • @anntoinetteboyd5098
      @anntoinetteboyd5098 Před 4 lety +11

      @Tammy Slade OMG that is so true, but once u fix them up, some other woman start looking at him and he start feeling himself, and will leave you for someone else...true story, not mine but a friend.😁

  • @laclosdubois677
    @laclosdubois677 Před 4 lety +67

    By age 14 I started encouraging my mom to leave my dad (I was too innocent/naive before then, I thought he was “working late” cause that’s what she told me).
    He didn’t hit her but humiliated her and belittled her. We left him when I was 16, she had been married to him for 35 years, she was 56, had never worked outside the home, didn’t speak English, she didn’t know how to drive (and my dad had a lot to do with all of these things), but she left him. We had many, many hard times after that, but our home was healthy and peaceful, and her courage for leaving him (though I was daddy’s girl and it hurt) was one of the most important lessons she or anyone ever taught me.

  • @TeraChantelle
    @TeraChantelle Před 4 lety +68

    "It's going to be a chapter, but it's gonna be the best seller.." FELT THIS.

  • @gwendolynbarry7415
    @gwendolynbarry7415 Před 4 lety +65

    "If you have to wonder if he is the one, then he's not the one". Thank you, Tony. We have a hard time hearing this absolute truth, but the truth makes us free. Also, I want to add that if any of us stayed too long and feel used up, instead of blaming the guy, take responsibility to have higher standards, require respect from the beginning. Take classes and watch many of Tony's videos. I want to also read the new book coming out that you and your wife have written. Thanks again for telling it like it is !

  • @PrettiRissa
    @PrettiRissa Před 4 lety +87

    A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!

  • @tiffanyg5465
    @tiffanyg5465 Před 4 lety +262

    Another good one Tony. I believe if women would wise up the men would have no choice but to do better or do without. We have the power👌

    • @shereses.3298
      @shereses.3298 Před 4 lety +24

      Correct. So many women are so desperate though 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️. I pray that womankind can do better.

    • @tiffanyg5465
      @tiffanyg5465 Před 4 lety +18

      @@shereses.3298 Yes desperation seems to be the trend for many women.

    • @esthernichols4451
      @esthernichols4451 Před 4 lety +2

      You betta say that sis... Yes!!!

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +2

      💯💯💯

    • @mariewalton7079
      @mariewalton7079 Před 4 lety +1

      I agree a 100%

  • @thisgloriouslifee
    @thisgloriouslifee Před 4 lety +64

    Tony this advice just saved a lot of people who are in toxic/abusive relationships.

  • @yvette9305
    @yvette9305 Před 4 lety +57

    Tony you preached this. He was living with me and when he went out I changed the locks on my house and packed all his stuff in tubs my daughter had from college and set them out on the front porch. I had asked him to leave but he wasn’t trying to go anywhere. Now I’m healing and doing the work taking it slow with a wonderful man that I met in the grocery store. Legs closed of course. 😉

  • @marilynking527
    @marilynking527 Před 4 lety +104

    This is accurate I remember when my parents were together and I was a kid I kept asking myself why my mom and dad was together because they never showed each other love smh

  • @krissyhartley6224
    @krissyhartley6224 Před 4 lety +41

    I allowed myself to be drug through the mud by my pony for 8 years, but I've grown by leaps and bounds, and I'm so far past that now. Thank God and Thank you Mr. Gaskins.

  • @iamannettec
    @iamannettec Před 4 lety +110

    Feed your mind and spirit to attract real love. Amen! Be blessed.

  • @pamelawilson2553
    @pamelawilson2553 Před 4 lety +41

    Never need a guy to tell you what he is CLEARLY showing you. We don’t need people to tell us it’s raining when we can clearly see raindrops. A kid knows when it’s thundering and lightning rain is coming. Those are the red flags. Thank God for the heads up . 😉

  • @latonyabell9551
    @latonyabell9551 Před 4 lety +89

    Amen Bro Tony, used up like a piece of gum spit out after all the sugar is gone then put under his feet and stomped on. That's too much pain. Let's get up yall and start 🚶 away.✌

  • @user-ti9gi5zx9s
    @user-ti9gi5zx9s Před 4 lety +22

    We had to stay in a shelter. I told my kid it was a hotel. He still talks about how much fun he had there.

  • @angelasanderlin2722
    @angelasanderlin2722 Před 4 lety +27

    I am not going to stay where I’m not respected. I’m out. If there’s no respect, there’s no love. Don’t ever be afraid to walk away. Trust and believe the blessing is on the other side.

  • @jbs82love7
    @jbs82love7 Před 4 lety +36

    Listen, he done told y'all na..you hear👂 the wisdom of a Man's truth.👂👀👏

  • @Nurseaholic
    @Nurseaholic Před 4 lety +126

    Yes, when I was old enough my sister and I both told my mom that we are better off being by ourselves. We love Dad, but we know she is not happy. 🥺👌🏾 Kids see it and feel the energy. 💯

    • @KalimahSBICeo
      @KalimahSBICeo Před 4 lety +9

      Children know more than we think....see... And can figure it all out... Their logic make sense if u listen.. Children have the innocence we loose as we age... Ijs🤷

    • @cielitasanta-cruz2439
      @cielitasanta-cruz2439 Před 4 lety

      Amen!!!Amen!!!👏🏾🙏🏾👏🏾

  • @Nurseaholic
    @Nurseaholic Před 4 lety +80

    Lmfao Tony Gaskins said “when they grow up cold 🥶, they don’t know how to be warm...”
    Your women voices are hilarious 🤣

  • @latoyablackman8063
    @latoyablackman8063 Před 4 lety +81

    Be blessed. This is so true. Love yourself first. Don’t allow any Human being to be worth more than your peace and happiness.

  • @SheCanSmile
    @SheCanSmile Před 4 lety +92

    A woman who walks away wins - @chloe_

    • @pamelasbutterflylife1312
      @pamelasbutterflylife1312 Před 5 měsíci

      I love Sister chloe_ 💎🌹💄💋! A feminine woman who truly loves herself and did her inner healing can swiftly walk away when love is no longer being served ❤!

  • @a1xluv
    @a1xluv Před 4 lety +34

    Right! Men are natural born hunters! If they want something or someone they will go after them wholeheartedly until they get what they want! So if a man is not pursuing you, then you’re not the one! This concept was so hard for me to understand; this was several reasons why I was always making excuses for men! I was like oh he works a lot, he’s too busy, NO! The thing is, you’re just not what he really and truly wants! That is a hard pill to swallow, ESPECIALLY, when you really want a man, and he’s a good guy!

    • @bosslady9108
      @bosslady9108 Před 3 lety +7

      Those were the exact excuses that I was telling myself. I finally got fed up with making excuses for a man that really didn't want me and walked away.

    • @bellabong8862
      @bellabong8862 Před 3 lety +4

      Same here. Mine was the "warm body with a cold heart." I would never take that MF'er back or entertain another man who gives me anxiety and makes me doubt his words and intentions. Ever! Done.

  • @stacyroberts1890
    @stacyroberts1890 Před 4 lety +117

    Tony talk about an eye opener!!!! I have been in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic Emotionally abusive grown boy for 5 years. I finally got A brain and got him out about 4 weeks ago. Going through a week point in my mind 3 days ago I found one of your CZcams videos I have watched several of them and I have to say you are amazing your words have given me the knowledge and strength to keep me on the right path of self love and growth. This Video in particular at this moment has really spoken to me. Hope to get to one of you seminars soon!

    • @latoyahayes3381
      @latoyahayes3381 Před 4 lety

      🖤🖤🖤

    • @Zee-jv1nb
      @Zee-jv1nb Před 4 lety +5

      Please watch rc blakes too - his channel is on CZcams

    • @andrealmorris8576
      @andrealmorris8576 Před 4 lety

      Stacy Roberts Happy God smile omg you! If you go back ! He will resent it.

  • @fiftyfiftylifestyle456
    @fiftyfiftylifestyle456 Před 4 lety +80

    This is one of the reasons why online dating does not work. We are swiping left on lil ugly when he could be the one. 🤷‍♀️ Dear lil ugly when you see me out and about, come say hi! 🙋‍♀️🙏💗😂.

  • @Rdy2win
    @Rdy2win Před 4 lety +42

    Yes I had to go to a Shelter it was the hardest thing but yet best the thing that ever happened to me and my children. The shelter had 9 mo program that I commented to that help me to start my process to healing. Mentally Spiritually Emotionally Physically and Finically. I became a Candidate for a Rehab home. That me and my children move in 1yr ago. Soon to receive my deed in the next couple of months 🤗 🙌🏽Yes my children said it was a hotel lol I was truly worried about them but they did a awesome job. Thank you! Coach Tony. Coming to be a Certified Coach soon 😊. Thank you for your inspiration and faithfulness. TBT.

  • @Moonpiebye
    @Moonpiebye Před 4 lety +126

    No laying on your back for affection LADIES 💥💥

  • @proudblackwoman4824
    @proudblackwoman4824 Před 2 lety +6

    I think the hardest pill for WOMEN to swallow is the fact that 99% of the men we meet, particularly black men, were never ever really interested in us for more than just sex. And we have to be honest about that. And so that makes us feel like we were never good enough to begin with. When in reality, a lot of black men are HURT themselves, and using women as a scapegoat. This was hard to hear, but it explains so much. Tony is constantly advising women to GET OFF THEIR BACKS because he knows most men only value what is between your legs. That could not be more true, as I have experienced that personally throughout the years. Next month will make a year since I've slept with anyone. I took away the very thing that most men value the most. If you want my time, you will have to get to know me WITHOUT that. Point. Blank. Period. I learned the lesson. Now I play the game by MY rules. Thank you Tony Gaskins!

  • @bre_s9164
    @bre_s9164 Před 4 lety +38

    Tony is the truth. Signed, sealed, and DELIVERT! lol

  • @blackwalnut1943
    @blackwalnut1943 Před 4 lety +97

    “Grown Boys” are always looking for a relationship

    • @grouson11
      @grouson11 Před 4 lety +36

      A relationship that only benefits them = a situationship... I'll pass!

  • @Bgrace15
    @Bgrace15 Před 4 lety +61

    'Lil urgly' is back ya'll 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭 I cannot

  • @drea4373
    @drea4373 Před 4 lety +25

    “Twice a fool since Sunday”🤣🤣🤣.

  • @catricesmith3819
    @catricesmith3819 Před 4 lety +36

    Im so glad that i found you on CZcams.

  • @taynaburton5828
    @taynaburton5828 Před 4 lety +22

    All the aggressive, Tony😁 but I get what you are saying and you are 🎯 My father told me don't let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you! His dogging you out and treating you like dirt is him telling you that he doesn't want you. No one mistreats what they love like crap!

  • @heyyynerdbird9741
    @heyyynerdbird9741 Před 4 lety +26

    We need constant reminders

  • @nancycortez1231
    @nancycortez1231 Před 3 lety +6

    I leave the toxic marriage 10 yrs ago i packed my clothes important papers and i drove with my daughters they were 2 yrs old and 6 yrs old i went from staying at my sister's house sleeping and old mattress but so thankful for her support
    Hard work i was able to purchase my mobile home, my new car
    Been able to take vacations Europe, Africa and Mexico
    All this on 2010 i made the best decision in my life i don't regret
    I start living life in good way
    God is my strength i learned from all that
    Never ever settle for less
    Love yourself to the most

  • @Godislove818
    @Godislove818 Před 4 lety +22

    This is 100% . I,m not staying , been there wasted too many years but now i,ll rather start over and find real love , be Blessed Tony..

  • @mindlifenergy
    @mindlifenergy Před 4 lety +92

    BROTHER TONY this video today is such a complete answer of really understanding I really appreciate the logic behind really getting and moving on and realizing Men can be Grown boys but the enlightenment has helped me realize I need to always be in my POWER and make the steps to preserve ME .....GOD and I don't have time for the foolery ...BLESS YOU BROTHER

  • @shereses.3298
    @shereses.3298 Před 4 lety +16

    "We do better as humans, when we are reacting to what we've been given"....Thanks Mr. Gaskins, so DEEP, so TRUE!

  • @AllThingsTiffanyTV
    @AllThingsTiffanyTV Před 4 lety +17

    The sad part is there are so many men beating on women and the women still stay because they feel Like they can fight back, lonely, or financially can’t survive alone. They put everything before their safety. 😢😢😢

  • @sha2408
    @sha2408 Před 4 lety +60

    21:08 this is saddest part, that’s the example we give our kids when we stay with these good for nothing grown boys! Whether they are their fathers or NOT. You are better off ALONE than staying!

  • @lindawade8137
    @lindawade8137 Před 4 lety +44

    DON"T PLAY YOURSELF

  • @xodierra
    @xodierra Před 3 lety +7

    Walking away really is the hardest part ! Takes a lot of strength

  • @mzlibra7567
    @mzlibra7567 Před 4 lety +56

    I know someone who is waiting on a man been in jail 10 years don't know when he's getting out and he's dogging her out from jail she is stuck don't even wanna talk to another man.. Lord help her please🤦🤦🤦

    • @9188jenni
      @9188jenni Před 4 lety +9

      Pray for her eyes to be opened because that's the only way she'll leave. It don't matter what anyone says to her.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +7

      Lord have mercy. Jesus please be an eye opener and deliverer, that's crazy. 10 years !!! Dang.

    • @mzlibra7567
      @mzlibra7567 Před 4 lety

      Tracy G yes you're absolutely right

    • @aliciag946
      @aliciag946 Před 3 lety

      That's crazy, wow 😳

  • @cheekscheeks5840
    @cheekscheeks5840 Před 4 lety +39

    I’m afraid of starting over yes but I’m not having all those issues . But I moved on it’s hard believe me but following the videos n classes it’s coming along great

  • @dimplez28269
    @dimplez28269 Před 4 lety +23

    Did he just say LIL Ugly at the 2:00 minute mark....I can NOT Brrreeeevve.... baaahahahahahaaaa!!!! 😭🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Moonpiebye
    @Moonpiebye Před 4 lety +45

    don't be the concession stand keep your treats LADIES 💥💥

  • @ulricka2131
    @ulricka2131 Před 4 lety +17

    Tony, it is like you know me personally. This has been my story. His sister has used my Christian faith to try to keep me locked down (because she knows no woman can deal with her brother in long term).
    But i am taking care of myself, getting new knowledge. Self Love and Christ love are what i need for now.
    Thank you brother Tony. Keep up with your excellent work🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +2

      You can do it, dont let anyone manipulate you, you deserve better 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @DynamicallyDC
    @DynamicallyDC Před 4 lety +12

    These are facts Tony..If you're not being treated with love & respect consistently then leave because what you have is not what you need!! It's not worth it dealing with a cold heart, just to have a warm body lying beside you!

  • @RubyRoxxie
    @RubyRoxxie Před 4 lety +7

    “I’m over here talkin to lil ugly..” 🤣🤣🤣 I cant. You’re hilarious, Tony!!!

  • @anointedstilettos
    @anointedstilettos Před 4 lety +21

    I have my money put aside 💲💲💲and my rental car reservation 🚘ready for the self love retreat this year. I'm there.

    • @cedtriciasgymjourney9614
      @cedtriciasgymjourney9614 Před 4 lety +2

      That’s what’s up Sister! Let me look into that 🤓

    • @anointedstilettos
      @anointedstilettos Před 4 lety

      @@cedtriciasgymjourney9614 I paid to go last year, then got my money beck. I'm not doing that this year.

    • @cedtriciasgymjourney9614
      @cedtriciasgymjourney9614 Před 4 lety +1

      Anointed Stilettos Yes Ma’ma! Definitely go. I’m in Seattle I will wait a little bit untill he’s in Cali for the August retreat.

    • @anointedstilettos
      @anointedstilettos Před 4 lety +1

      @@cedtriciasgymjourney9614 I am excited about that retreat.

  • @cass1190
    @cass1190 Před 4 lety +29

    Wow! God bless you Tony. This is exactly what I’m going through with my 7 year relationship. Thank you for your message. You’re giving me the strength to keep pushing forward and to continue to move on.

  • @justsomeideas9594
    @justsomeideas9594 Před 4 lety +23

    Peace of mind is a must! Anything else is a waste of time. This was another banger🔥🔥🔥

  • @greengoddessof75
    @greengoddessof75 Před 4 lety +45

    This is a powerful video!! Blessings to you Tony!! Your saving alot of women including myself with your videos. To all my sister's in the world. Please keep your heads up!!👑🙏🏾✊🏾🐃❤💋

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 Před 2 lety

      AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!

  • @ruthdesrosiers5742
    @ruthdesrosiers5742 Před 4 lety +6

    That mall story is HILARIOUS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. You are too funny Tony and those impressions 😂

  • @sharalove4514
    @sharalove4514 Před 4 lety +10

    😂😂😂😂😂 “Drug through the mud by her ponytail” 😭😭😭 Jesus take the wheel

  • @nakooshaalbert8884
    @nakooshaalbert8884 Před 4 lety +39

    Thank you for posting again! We need the daily message Brother Tony

  • @angelicagabrieli7169
    @angelicagabrieli7169 Před 4 lety +12

    Tony, words cannot express how much I appreciate your work and everything you do for us, women who want to create a healthy and loving relationship with grown men!
    May GOD Bless You and Your Family Abundantly and Richly in everything You do and in all areas of your lives IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST! AMEN!!!❤️

  • @WomanofZion7
    @WomanofZion7 Před 4 lety +21

    Now this is informative!

  • @marshellepayne4020
    @marshellepayne4020 Před 4 lety +20

    Love these videos.. I’m getting stronger every day. Stress-free

  • @ebonyflowers7599
    @ebonyflowers7599 Před 4 lety +15

    Thank you Tony. This was a WORD. you’re helping so many women not be lied to. Be blessed!

  • @dominiqueconner1507
    @dominiqueconner1507 Před 4 lety +12

    I'm not about to play with Tony "lil ugly" lmfao I'm dead!💀🤣🤣🤣

  • @jdilla7142
    @jdilla7142 Před 4 lety +11

    🙏🏿Be Blessed🙏🏿.

  • @bridgetsmalls9851
    @bridgetsmalls9851 Před 4 lety +13

    Wish I knew about you 4 years ago ...
    Thank you 🙏 God bless you Sir 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Shae_3
      @Shae_3 Před 4 lety +1

      Bridget Smalls I be thinking that same thing

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +2

      Right but better late than never.

  • @candaceclark9266
    @candaceclark9266 Před 4 lety +5

    You have never lied!!! Preach!

  • @perspectivelysingle2573
    @perspectivelysingle2573 Před 4 lety +26

    Your reenactments are so funny

  • @user-pn6qh7nk5q
    @user-pn6qh7nk5q Před 4 lety +10

    You are helping so many woman out there Tony 👐👌

  • @marcusthomas2752
    @marcusthomas2752 Před 4 lety +21

    be blessed

  • @bridgettehill68
    @bridgettehill68 Před 3 lety +4

    Tony is telling you the safest way to walk out. AND.. DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE GOING TO LEAVE!!! MOVE IN SILENCE!!!!

  • @KashiAyumi
    @KashiAyumi Před 4 lety +5

    It was a Sad Topic But when he said “ALL THE AGGRESSIVES”😂😂...I agree I’m done being Used up & Giving but being left Empty. I Love myself too much to be Drained. I’ve been doing Self Inventory for 2 years & STILL HAVE SO MUCH LEFT TO LEARN.
    God Bless you brother Tony🌟
    & I’m Dying about the Book Story😂😂

  • @kenishalperkins
    @kenishalperkins Před 4 lety +7

    After hearing this I know I have a book in me 🙌🏿

  • @lasheahill7107
    @lasheahill7107 Před 4 lety +5

    Brother Tony you have a great sense of humor. All jokes aside God bless you and this ministry. Too many kids are watching their mothers getting beat, suffocated, killed. ..It's time we fight the devil back by living holy and righteous the way God has called us to in Jesus name.

  • @girlwakeuppodcast4622
    @girlwakeuppodcast4622 Před 4 lety +11

    This message was EVERYTHING!!!!

  • @cheekscheeks5840
    @cheekscheeks5840 Před 4 lety +8

    Just landed in PHOENIX I’m listening Tony

  • @KalimahSBICeo
    @KalimahSBICeo Před 4 lety +68

    He may get her.. But keeping her is the 🔑...😑

    • @PrettiRissa
      @PrettiRissa Před 4 lety +5

      Kalimah S.B.I. Ceo exactly! A man that is serious will not leave ANY room for guess work! 😩😩😩 so true. Us as ladies have to be the one to stop dealing with them too. Bc they will continue to deal as long as we allow them!

    • @antoinitaviolette4140
      @antoinitaviolette4140 Před 4 lety

      Pretti Rissa deal or 'play.' So true, and then say, I'm a man of God.

    • @dantelong3123
      @dantelong3123 Před 3 lety

      Keeping her is the easy part, getting her is hard. Women are more likely to work things out with a man they already grew to love than venture the scary path of risking heartache with an unfamiliar guy. I observe women’s behavior closely.

    • @KalimahSBICeo
      @KalimahSBICeo Před 3 lety

      @@dantelong3123I understand that...
      & that is true... Also depends on her mindset..and the nature of the offense..

    • @KalimahSBICeo
      @KalimahSBICeo Před 3 lety

      @@PrettiRissa facts!

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter Před 4 lety +53

    Your female impersonation is taking me out! 😂😂😂I'm trying to finish a video but you making it hard. 🤣

    • @vblacksugar7249
      @vblacksugar7249 Před 4 lety +1

      Krystle Laughter
      When Tony smack his lips and roll his head how these women talk...OH my, I’m rolling😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 good stuff and so true.

    • @queenesquiresquad
      @queenesquiresquad Před 4 lety

      Krystle Laughter lmao!🤣🤣🤣right!!🤣🤣🤣

    • @kiwthebeauty
      @kiwthebeauty Před 4 lety

      He need to be a comedian on the side

  • @aaliyahgr3611
    @aaliyahgr3611 Před 4 lety +10

    Wow this is so true!
    Actually brought tears to my eyes lol
    Dropping 💎 GEMS 💎 !!!

  • @lynghee159
    @lynghee159 Před 3 lety +3

    Tony, your wife is blessed! I think you're a Godsend & a genius!
    Never noticed that men set goals, then meet them - women don't approach goals the same way.
    Thank you!

  • @PuriBarbie
    @PuriBarbie Před 4 lety +2

    I left an abusive family with my daughter for a shelter and Tony is absolutely right your kids will think it’s your own place or a hotel. She made friends the the other children. The shelter helped us to move out in our own apartment eventually. You may be in there for a WHILE but work hard and pray everyday. The day I decided to leave I packed a bag while they were away. God bless you Tony. I pray my experience helps a women who is debating on going. Go and be strong your children are resilient.

  • @lovingme6896
    @lovingme6896 Před 4 lety +4

    I am going to order your work book. I am so tired of living this way. I just keep getting myself into more hurt. I have turned away from God so many times just to open my legs and have soul ties with these men whom I truly don’t even know. Then I thought about what you said about a woman opening her legs and getting a soul tie and doing all of these new things with him and then not leaving. I never even thought to leave him. I honestly didn’t even think I had a choice. It was all about him and if he would leave me. I had no boundaries or standards. I ignored all of the red flags thinking it will be different with me because he told me so. Even staying with him when he isn’t emotionally available and wounded. I didn’t want to be alone so I stayed when I knew things would end badly. I really need to heal and go to the lord because I am a mess. I cant live like this anymore!!! Instead of trying to find someone to love me and buying alcohol, I need to invest in myself and work on myself because the things I’ve been doing keeps getting me in the same place. I want to change & need to change.

  • @pimpindymepiece
    @pimpindymepiece Před 3 lety +7

    This man tried for a year to get me, I curved him for a year, then finally gave in. Courting was instant and very intentional- took me on a intl trip, spent money, had me meet his kids and family. it was a whirlwind of us bonding. It was going so well, then at a switch, within a few weeks he was distancing himself and seemingly disinterested. It hurt like hell but I cut it off cause he was trying to all of a sudden date me non exclusively. Men are so confusing!

  • @cheekscheeks5840
    @cheekscheeks5840 Před 4 lety +12

    BE BLESSED.... FACTS 💯💯💯💯💯

  • @josie2919
    @josie2919 Před 3 lety +2

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 lil ugly! He speaking the truth! I love this man! I pray that God continues to bless you!

  • @angelbasham6631
    @angelbasham6631 Před 4 lety

    This is so true needed it !!! Better things ahead !!!

  • @Celeb_tresses
    @Celeb_tresses Před 3 lety +7

    Thanks for this video. I left my relationship in December right before covid-19 came and I have no regrets . He wasn’t abusive but he switched up on me on top of everything else I was fed up with. I felt a storm ⛈ coming. I told him I was leaving he didn’t believe me , so I packed my stuff and left when he was at work

    • @Celeb_tresses
      @Celeb_tresses Před 3 lety +1

      He came home to an empty apartment. I took everything I owned. Looking at that empty apartment made me realize he brung absolutely nothing to that relationship. Lesson learned

  • @domoniquelucas2678
    @domoniquelucas2678 Před 4 lety +9

    Thank you very much for this message. Ive been going through with my kids dad and yesterday was my last straw with him and hearing this message truly clarifies everythg. Thank you.

  • @sabrinahayat4477
    @sabrinahayat4477 Před 4 lety +7

    Freaking hell just I amazed how you described me how I was in my marriage and even after for 2 years ! I’m so happy I found here and you enlightened me so well! We need these lesson here for UK also!

  • @walkbyfaith8557
    @walkbyfaith8557 Před 4 lety +2

    Be Blessed!❤️