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- Young I.T. professional Stuart loves to buy the latest must-haves. An avid collector of all things electrical, he is obsessed with having the newest gadgets, boy's toys and designer clothes. From stereos and computers to smartphones and TV's, Stuart has invested thousands of pounds in equipment and clothes he has only used and worn a few times. Stuart's modern Manchester apartment which he shares with girlfriend Anna is packed to the rafters with his hoard, and Anna is forced to keep her belongings in a tiny cupboard.
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Anna, run. Run, run, run, run, run.......... He has known for years that you always wanted a little vanity to get ready for your day. He has never conceded even this much space for you, much less bought you one, while he has spent thousands on unnecessaries and monopolized every inch of this tiny flat, which you are supposed to be half owner of. Run!!!
I'd say this is about 8 years old. She seems like a lovely woman. I really hope she broke up with this incredibly selfish, shopping addicted manchild who inevitably would drive them further into debt.
Whose bright idea was it to hire a DESIGNER instead of a THERAPIST?!? 👎👎👎
Let's see. You take a person with a mental health condition and ignore treating that. You try to solve that issue by triggering the problem further. Then you mix in a "Designer" who consistently ignores what her clients wishes and then you walk away with no plan for aftercare. Yup, this is really helpful.
If he’s just a boyfriend just get rid of him
@@Jane5720 Yeah man *bin 'im!*
@@Jane5720 yeah, he kinda sucks
@@Jane5720 even if he was a husband, she needs to get out. hoarders dont stop.
i dont actually think its a bad idea...just becasue having a clean home that actually looks lke a home, will hopefully be enough to give his partner the impetus to put her foot down and refuse to allow him to bring in more tat. He wont stop the hoarding otherwise, regardless of therapy. You can tell by his behaviour at the sale. No intention of changing anything. When he's asked whats the worst that could happen if he carries on, he lists food, mortgage etc..only mentions his partner when the other guy pushes him..and then mutters, laughing.. 'she might leave'. I really hope she has.
The fact Stewart thought of spending NOTHING on his gf says everything
I wonder if the show producers will ever realise how much the designer is despised??
I hate her. She just doesn't make sense with her choices nor respect what the clients want.
After watching 4 of these now, the designer is just issuing the same eclectic style in each house. Wacky colours with bold, gaudy clashing of colour and style. She's not listening to what these people want, she's just doing her own thing.
I was running to the comments. Either this hasn’t aged well or that woman is an absolute menace. That apartment was perfectly fine before she made a casserole out of it.
Most designers have their own style which they somewhat repeat
the designers are just a beautiful name for a selfish person that want to impose his views over the necesities of others
The way he lights up when he talks about buying and stuff ..... Run girl, run!
*2 Key takeaways from this :*
1. The designer sucks big time. How did she steal a living as one ?
2. The Slob will go back to his hoarding ways soon enough. The girlfriend needs to leave him....NOW !
“… and she signed up for it”
Okay I would be gone. He clearly doesn’t care how living like this affects her.
They never do...or they wouldnt have treated them like that in the first place. I hope she left as soon as he started bringing more rubbish in..be casue he will..
Yea. This made me want to scream. I dislike him greatly.
Plus they’re not married
she's to be blame too.
@@josecarlosxyz How? She's obviously tried to get him to stop before. at least now when he starts again, which he obviously will, she can just leave without feeling too bad. or feeling that she didn't try and help him. Most people who really love someone who takes advantage of them and treats them badly can take a long time to give up on them. that doesnt mean they're at fault. She's the one who's asked the show to help
I don't think this guy will change until he gets intensive therapy. The girlfriend shouldn't have to police him. Run girl, run!
Right
I don't know what's worse, his addiction or the designer redesigning.
Stuart's a spoiled manchild, and Anna is not wise to stay with him. He seems barely aware of her.
Yes. She is a smart attractive woman and could do better. This show is pretty old. I wonder how they are doing now?
@Jade Ravenwolf One teddy bear equals a houseful of stuff!!? Explain that please.
@Jade Ravenwolf Really? Her one bear is the same as shopping for stuff you'll never use until you can't afford groceries?
@Jade Ravenwolf that teddy bear doesn't cost as much as anything he has bought
Yep
Nope sorry, I wouldn't want her re-decorating my home, it's just a jumbled mess, it's actually horrific.
Very, she’s not a good designer at all
Agreed, every show is the same, her taste is utterly vile but inflicting it on others is just cruel imo
When they're looking at the cleared space, he's got a "deer in the headlights" look. He's not excited, he's horrified. No way he wants to do this.
why is she letting a bf run her into bankruptcy? he's just a bf, not even a fiance; isn't bad enough if it was a fiance, but a bf is just insanity.
The decorator says "I think they'll totally love it." Let's see, maybe she could ASK THEM?
Isn't it ironic that they made the hoarder sell his collections and then gave the money to the designer who spent 3K! on tat.
How is painting a flag on the living room wall supposed to cure him of his shopping addiction? That makes zero sense to me.
Exactly
Sorry but this is just stupid. This is a super nice flat. They don't need to re-model it. They should put the money from the sales into their savings because with all his spending, I can't believe they would have proper savings.
Also, if someone is a hoarder, a funky wallpaper and a make-up table won't stop him from doing that?
The whole concept of this show is just weird to me.
The girlfriend needs to wake up..yes he has a massive problem with hourding, he needs actual psychological help to get to the root cause of his addiction, not moving everything out and getting an interior designer to add design..which surely will make it worse
Fake fireplace is useless but gal got a shelf to call her own 😅
The fake fireplace gives me anxiety. The photos of logs on the wall is tacky and just plain awful. I hate the makeover. Where is the chair for her to sit and do her make up .where is their dinner table ? It's a big fail for me .
Would be interested in a follow-up in a year. Am not convinced the problem was addressed, let alone solved. Merely getting rid of a hoarder's "stuff" is not a cure!
Hoarder shows don't do follow-ups because about 85% of hoarders revert.
ANNA someday you are going to wake up and regret not leaving this guy ! he doesnt respect or care about making room in his life for you! he is married to 'stuff' !!
I’m always amazed at how smug someone is about buying the latest iPhone or whatever their addiction is, being more important to them than their devoted long suffering partners. You don’t deserve them.
Right! It really is sad to see the other party and the sadness when they say it's the stuff or the relationship.. , i really hope the said people can see what and how much they have spent and what they could have..
Been there from US. They suck us in by promising they'll change. I ran!!!
I a recovering shopaholic and hoarder I find doing gardening having a allotment helped stopped accumulating stuff as busy maintenance to vegetables good for mental health being out in nature I get see birds like robins come seeing me. Find it more rewarding and beneficial strategy
Love this 😍
I could never live in that apartment the way it was re-decorated. Yes, this couple most definitely needed counselling in addition to help selling things, and third priority should be a redesign. I hope they did check beforehand if any of those things were truly collectable - some of those items which were small perhaps could have been stored at a different location while they were being offered for sale online.
But Stewart really needs some type of therapy to get to the root of his problem! Perhaps he had an extremely deprived childhood, and is trying to compensate by purchasing expensive things. It’s just like other addictive behaviours - a symptom of the root problem. Makeover and clear-out do not fix the problem. I really wonder how they are doing today, if they are even still together? He was definitely not being very considerate of his girlfriend! With her a little shelf I would’ve at least given her a mirror!!
Several things about the makeover/redesign were very annoying to me. I could never feel at home in that place. The fireplace she had installed has no purpose. It would have been much better if it at least had an electric or gas fire! Did the designer even consult with them about their colour preferences or style?
I agree. At least put the sofa in front of the fireplace and then use the other half of the room for a lovely dining table and chairs, which can double as laptop workspace, etc. 👍
She did consult them.
The designer is clueless about hoarding...
And about interior-design...
That guy will never stop his spending addiction.
Love the lounge..
that wide eyed look in his eyes is not convincing me he's given up shopping lol
I noticed when he was asked what he could lose by his continuing hoarding poor Anna didn't get a mention.......she needs to cut her loses and go. He doesn't love her, he loves his things.
how shallow this man must be that material things mean so much to him. Stuart thinks it is funny, when it is actually tragic. His totally selfless girl friend seems to be just happy as long as she is with him. I wonder how much he buys her. It probably never crossed his selfish mind.
The designer is nerve wrecking and totally misses the point. She is the kitsch-queen.
Run, Anna!
You will always be undervalued if valued at all.
He seems to value himself on his latest gadgets.
So clear and sell all those collectibles and replace with tacky and somewhat hideous decor and a fake fire place. Yuck 🤢
Fake zebra rug (NOT suggesting real zebra, of course), fake flag. Just too much " faux ", just tacky.
@@blacksheep9772 I actually quite like the plushy zebra rug...
I wonder if the decorator saw the hoard and expected more money in the budget than she ended up with, and maybe she had actually intended to install a gas fireplace. If the couple is living paycheque to paycheque, they may have not authorized all the funds go to decorating, either. As for style, fashion differs in different parts of the world. I'm from Canada and I don't think that's "hip" here, but maybe it is there. Not sure how a floating shelf fulfills the need for a vanity, though.
1/29/23...WHY didn't the designer put in an electric plug-in fireplace?
And the lesson is not to stop buying when it comes to tech, it’s just knowing how long a piece of tech should last and then being able to get rid of the item when upgrading.
Your losing money, serious money and your still with this boyfriend! What are you thinking ? That man needs to go don’t kid yourself. You can’t move on, you can’t marry open your eyes
You're* losing money... you're* still with...
No way this blokes changing,ever. He doesn't really want to, you can see it a mile off.
Girlfriend, sell the apartment,take 3 quarters of the money half from flat,rest as your share of money he's wasted. Then walk and never look back.. He's probably already ruined your Credit rating.
Why the moose, 'Anna's makeup shelf ' with not even a mirror and chair, and why couldn't they get a proper fireplace , a decent old one from a reclamation yard. They have beautiful ones for great prices which would increase the value of the home.
She needs better clothes and do some work out, she can find a better dude
I wonder how much Stewart has spent taking his gf on dates or gifts for her. I notice he has nice clothes, expensive ties and a ton of HIS hobbies, but she has almost nothing. She pays half of the bills yet has no space
For this show to have any real effect, they need to add a professional mental health person to the team. These people are not equipped to deal with the real problem behind hoarding and over buying. As for the decor, wouldn’t a dining table or at least an electrical fire place made more sense?
Nice little shelf, perfect for displaying the next lot of toys he buys. I am sure Anna won’t mind.
Invite the mates in to admire our moose 😂 meanwhile Stewarts mind is ticking over 'what can I buy next?' Run Anna run🏃♀️
One tiny shelf when the lady wanted a dresser/vanity for all her stuff?! She got screwed by this designer, where did she spend all that money!!
Vivian Westwood wallpaper?
😂💯
So the interieur designer buys a Vivian Westwood wallpaper ,which is probably way to overpriced, of a freakn flag and then worries about the budget.
😆
Stewart is delusional. I don’t think he’s changed. Visit him again in 7 months. I bet he’s back in the same position. Everything seems like it’s a joke to him.
If someone is a terrible driver, giving them an expensive car isn't going to prevent accidents. Teach them to drive. Slapping wallpaper in a living space isn't going to fix their compulsion, or impulsivity, or mental health concern.
I so agree. And the guy doesn't exhibit much trouble letting go of his 'hoard.' He's not throwing a fit or showing any real emotion like those who are true hosrders would. He might like to collect but seems ok to flip the stuff. However, taking their much needed cash and redecorating isn't a public service, it's somewhst unethical. Giving the girlfriend her voice through therapy would be so much more effective in the long run.
Anna literaly believes she can't get better but in Uk, she can get a better match
Jeez that terrible ‘designer’ is obsessed with the ‘New York skyline’ - this is the third episode I’ve seen where she’s used it.
One thing she forgot to mention is online shopping, bank details are stored, so I hope she monitored that too.
yes cutting up the card is pointless as far as online shopping goes.
I love all the comments about mental illness. This guy is not a hoarder, he's immature. Immaturity, while seemingly chronic in so many men, is NOT a mental illness. But I agree this show doesn't help in any case, but I would say they didn't design the show to help anyone, they made it to be entertaining, & getting mad at people is a form of entertainment. lol
Facts. I saw a man child.
Ah yesss, it this programm again! Wonder how the designer will uglify the flat this time!
It looks like a thrift shop threw up in there and exploded its contents everywhere !!!
OMG! They sold the Vintage boxed millennium falcon for 50 pounds! That is worth at least 250 pounds on Ebay!!!!!!!!!!!!! Same goes for the Vintage Jurassic park t rex...worth around 200 pounds! Total idiots! The unopened iPhones are still worth a good amount on ebay!
omg that hurts someone got an absolute bargain on that
Why not use the money to pay the debts?
Or his parents
" I love the whole retail experience"! What IS it that women see in men like this? A decade of this? Yikes!
This guy needs serious psychological help. That interior designers idea of giving him a flat he will LOVE so much isn’t going to work. He had a lovely flat to start out with. That kind of thinking works for a normal person not a hoarder. There is a reason why he is hoarding and I don’t believe that it’s because he wants to look rich. He must have suffered some serious loss or trauma in his life.
Anna gets a shelf? No dining table and chairs?
You can’t live with a hoarder you can only live around them and their stuff while you slowly disappear as a person.
A place to put her make up.....gives her a shelf......also hows it feel having some man breathing down your neck to sell things for so much less than their actual value. Wish id been there to get that Millennium Falcon for £50 WITH BOX. I also love the toy collecting is childish stigma....and why the funk would you think a giant light up moose head was good decorating?
It's so awful .I'd rather a wall of toys in a glass case .that designer is off her rocker .
At 36th minutes, when she takes the credit/debit cards, you can see his eyes moving and his little smile that he is thinking about all the other solutions he put in place to buy more stuff without anybody knowing 🤣
Stewart is so in love with himself, he doesn't need a woman. All she is is someone to pay bills and food. Certainly not an equal partner.
What's also concerning is the boyfriend is just making light heart of the situation that is serious situation
Where did Stelios go? We need him back 🥲
Poor Anna! Get a backbone and be the strong woman you were meant to be before the oaf!
Yep, doing a follow up 2 months later is not a cure for the hoarders. No aftercare can be a downfall for them. Also the resentment toward their partners/relatives can be very negative. Just changing their living environment is not enough.
The best part was how happy his girlfriend was after the redesign of the apartment. With an improved relationship, maybe all the "stuff" will be less important.
He needs to be on another show. Shopaholics
How stupid! Interior design does not in any way Cure hoarding or shopoholism! And these people have a brand new, good looking flat! Why not put the money toward a future deposit, paying Lons or whatever?!
Anna must have had very low self-esteem and been desperate for a man, ANY man, to settle for Stuart. I don't know what the heck she was thinking, but she was clutching a Hello Kitty toy at the hotel; that might explain a lot about her.
How is replacing hoarding with the buzz of something else a good idea? He needs help not a bossy interior designer and someone to flog his stuff for the show. He’ll probably relapse and hoard even worse… it’s a disorder not a little habit or hobby
WONDERFUL therapy for them to see ALL of their things in the warehouse. Brilliant strategy !! The living room is kind of nice, except for that moose head over the fireplace, which is very tacky. And I like the kitchen, but the bedroom is awful. I couldn't stand having someone else decorate my home. Time to put a ring on it Stuart !!💍
Time for a new boyfriend
Ditch this "designer." She's has terrifyingly bad taste.
She needs to run . He isn't going to improve
But she needs to get her share of the equity before she leaves
Sooo... No Table nor actual Chairs. Smacked an Ikea shelf, bought some furniture and cheap looking and distasteful mishmash of "ornaments".. ah yes.. And the wallpaper.. let us not forget the wallpaper. Also.. that dresser for two people and no drawers whatsoever?! They can barely fit their raincoats in there..
I hated all of the wallpaper especially the flag .
"Classy" in Manchester is another way of saying that the toilet flushes.
Tacky decor whose 'trendiness' is likely already outmoded... Better to have stuck with a classic foundation and swap out pillow covers and accessories to update..and use most of the budget for storage solutions.
The designer's designs are hideous.
I hope that magazine she ripped up wasn’t collectible :S
Honestly I think they were.
That decoupaged table was so awful 😖
they were, not as valuable as some but still woulda sold on ebay auction, people collect them :(
All the money went to the wallpaper I guess. She could not buy even a vanity or a mirror and a closet for Anna... And even for the man he deserved a dedicated shelf wall for the remaining items to put on display rather than a disfunctional fireplace. She spent their money recklessly...
This designer only knows how to make one look - tacky.
She gets a shelf? An empty shelf? The designer is a one trick pony. Such a shame
Success is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have. We covet what we see. If we don't see it, we won't buy it.
The decoration and renovation they've provided lack some little details like designer's facial imprints on the wall.
😂 good one
Yes!! That REALLY would’ve been better!!
I not keen on that flag looked like it was taken from a battle field
Had my doubts, but love the new space. Hopefully he gets on-going therapy. Hoarding doesn't just go away.
He will go back to spending he needs professional help not a bad designer and a man
I would never put yellow in a bedroom, soft colors like soft blues and especially muted sage, promote comfort. Stewart nervously laughing, is concerning.
Wondering if Stewart has another flat or storage facility nearby? Something ain't right
Poor Anna still doen't get her own little corner with a vanity unit. What use is a shelf? They could've put a mirror on the wall at least.
Loved watching this 💕
I am happy that Stewart decided to move forward and make a change... He made enough money and they both got what they wanted
"Affluent Soho apartment".... The result was very off
Like things, love people. Mixing the two up will never lead to peace.
LOVE WATCHING YOU GUYS WORK TO HELP OTHERS IN NEED GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL YOU DO 🙏
If you're not a musician (professional or otherwise) or roadie, *WHY IN THE HECKING HECK DO YOU HAVE A SOUND MIXING TABLE?!*
He needs to deal with anxiety that is at the core of it, some sort of past trauma that must have happened to him...maybe anti anxiety meds would help and some therapy. He has shopping addiction, which I have had as well and later realized it was feeling anxious and insecure which was the real cause of it not that i was just bad with money as I thought at the time...
She keeps designing the same space in each of the episodes. Cheap modern tat.
I hate shopping and I still have tshirts that are 20 and 30 yrs old and wear them. I however have four baby chickens in my bathroom because it is 106F outside. I have 10 dogs, 3 cats, chickens, ducks, geese and horses. I also have the room for everyone. I surround my self with what I love and every single animal knows how much I love them except for maybe the geese who continue to try and bite me. Material things mean nothing and I havent had a tv for 12 years. I can sit for hours and watch the farm animals play.
Yet here you are on CZcams watching old TV shows.
@@BlackRain_ lmao u got a point
You're describing a different type of hoarding.
@@BlackRain_ hahaha Exactly.
I agree that watching animals is therapeutic and amusing! Just think about how those little lambs and calves bounce around full of joy in the springtime! How can that fail to put a smile on your face?
It’s a little bit different if you do have space for everything and can keep it organized. When there’s no space to walk, when you can’t even find things that you know you have, when you can’t invite friends over, when there’s any negative impact on your health- this is when you truly need to get help.
I think a therapist would be more effective than a designer
Hate the moose. A beautiful mirror would have been perfect
Yes,if one had class,unlike the so-called designer .absolute rubbish
That interior design is all over the place and trash… And doesn’t seem to reflect to people who are in the tech world looks like they went to IKEA on a budget
Just started watching if the designer touches the bricks I will explode