Will our 11 kids go to college??? 📚
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Sarah and Solo, the most important thing is you're "NOT telling your kids that as soon as they turn 18, they are on their own!!!" That's what my father did...with not one single conversation about life on your own. I turned 18 in January of my senior year. On February 2nd my Narcissistic father kicked me out. Now I was a young Christian virgin with zero life experiences especially in finances. He never gave us an allowance so I was just thrown to the wind with no one but the Good Lord watching out for me. I went to work 3rd shift in the cotton mill so I could still go to school. Rented a furnished 1 bedroom apartment. Worked hard and saved. Stayed at the same job until I was 30. Opened my own alterations shop plus made custom window treatments and home fashions. I was so hurt by my father tossing me to the wind that I didn't speak to him for 2 years. So let your kids live at home until they figure out what their career path is going to be. I went hungry many times in those early years. You both are the best parents and that reflects in the wonderful human beings all your children are. God's continued blessing for all your family.
Yes, this happens a lot! Been there
😢 everyone doesn’t need to be a parent
Im sorry you went thru this. Glad you were able to pull through. And you’re a much bigger person than me! That will be a permanent no contact, especially when he became elderly and came back around expecting me to take care of him..
Went I finished high school 1977 my parents said your on your own. I tried college and didn't work. I went to work to pay rent and the following year I got married. I think it's the way the parents in thoses time there mind set and raised. Been married 47th and I found my passion of helping others. Missionary and cooking. But we also have parents that enable there adult children and wonder why there children are living in there basement. I have really over the year grown to love the Lord
@grannys-cooking-faith missionary work and cooking are grand qualities to have.
I was a public school mom and I worked to make sure my sons loved the process of learning too:-) I have 3 sons and only one went to college and has his MBA my middle son hated school and started his own landscaping business in HS and just bought his first home on 10 acres in Maine ( we are from right outside NYC) my youngest joined the military and is a career US Marine. We should all be flexible because it is their life! Love your channel❤
Sarah, red is definitely your color. You are absolutely glowing. Love your whole family and I am so impressed with the way you and Solo are raising them all. God bless you all.❤❤❤
She is a winter ( Color Me beautiful book )
I thought the same thing!
I agree
Agree 💯 % with you🎉
Plumbers, electricians,mechanics, carpenters,etc , are always needed. My dad was a brick Mason and apprenticed many through his 60 years. I am a respiratory therapist and always pushed my children to go to college. My son did 1 year and joined the army, and now is an installer, blinds, and shutters, making a good living. My daughter has an engineering degree, which she never used, and went back for medical transcription, I think it's called. College is very expensive and not for everyone, I just always felt that getting out of poverty was through education, and you do need some kind of skill. Very nice video. Love your channel .
Agree...the trades are the way to go. Too many college graduates are working fast food places because they can't find a job. There will always be a need for plumbers, electricians, construction (handyman/handywomen) etc.
Having a degree is like studying Algebra. You may not use it in your current career but the fact that you stuck with it and stretched your mind to learn the requirements is extremely valuable in life. That is also true of certification in a field that you may not continue in. Not wasted time.
A college degree is not a waste.
But it must be weighted with what debt you have coming out of school.
Sarah you look so beautiful in red - you and Solo are such wonderful parents - keep up the great work
Another thing I encourage is internship. My 15 year old is about to begin his final year of high school in September but at 13 he started showing a keen interest in graphic design. We spoke about it and agreed that if in one year he’s still interested in it , we’ll look into an internship. One year later he was passionate about it and had improved tremendously, so we found a company that was willing to take him in on Saturdays as an intern. The owner was really impressed with him and upgraded him from an intern to a part time job that he goes to on Saturdays whenever he has school, and he spends his spring break, summer and Christmas break working and earning with that company. He’s not only doing the graphic design for signs etc, but they have also taught him how to do the other stuff like making , installing, maintaining and removing the signs. The owner has also offered him a full time job when he’s done with school. At 15 he’s equipped with a skill set that can help make him successful in life.
How to you go about home schooling my daughter wants to homeschool my grandchildren she not sure how to go about doing it
@@kimberlysturgeon4594 First find out about the homeschooling regulations (laws) of your state.
Then search for homeschooling groups in your area (both off and online) for guidance.
I love this! Internship is a great way to ease into what you really want to do in life. They are hard to find though.😮
Have her first look up hslda homeschooling laws in her state they will tell you everything she has to do per the law than find local groups in the area through facebook, church etc... the other homeschoolers can help tremendously@@kimberlysturgeon4594
@@lystramcburnie3297 you've raised a wonderful son. You should be proud of him, as I'm sure you are. He has a good head on his shoulders and a great work ethic.
AMEN!! Thank you for saying this out loud….not every child needs college and can be successful and happy without it! Find your passion and the money will follow. God Bless you and your beautiful family 🤗
@@riggs9962 Absolutely, Amen.
Side note...Sarah, this short cut looks so good on you! It even did great through travel! ❤
I'm glad I went to college. It was 4 years of growth that made a bridge between living under my parent's roof to entering into my own young adulthood. It was a valuable experience and I feel like those 4 years of experiences helped shaped me in a way that likely would have been different had I gone straight into the work world at 18.
Agreed! ❤
Agreed!!! Yes
Agreed!
It depends what debt you have coming out of school. I know kids that when graduated couldn’t get a full time minimum wage job while owing a great amount of money. Talk about pressure!
I am an academic currently pursuing my PhD and running a coaching business that supports mature students and professionals who are seeking university degrees later in their lives or careers. I deeply resonate with many of the points you've made. I live in the U.K. now but was raised in Nigeria and Canada as a young person.
I understand why our parents encouraged schooling, it was our ticket out of poverty. What I will say is that because of where you live and your kid's passport, they don't have to worry about that in the way I or Solo's parent's worried about that.
Most people don't discover their true passions until their late 20s, 30s, 40s, or even beyond. It's at these stages that education often aligns with one's true interests. Encouraging children to explore various opportunities through volunteering or paid experiences can be very beneficial. They shouldn't feel pressured to figure out their path until they're ready.
Many people regret their university choices because they only understand their true passions later in life. There's no rush to determine your career path early on, especially when you haven't had much exposure to different possibilities. Our options are often limited by our immediate surroundings, so actively exploring is essential. Additionally, developing in-demand skills in fields like technology or AI can lead to high-paying jobs while you discover your true passion. I also agree with your point about the importance of trade schools, especially as jobs that don't strain our eyes and keep us outdoors.
One key benefit of university education is the development of critical thinking skills, which help you question and analyse the world around you. Understanding the hierarchy of evidence is crucial-just because something is reported in the news or presented as "science says" doesn't mean it's true. While I don't use my first degree directly, it provided me with invaluable skills that I apply in my business and my PhD work today. This education also empowers me to critically evaluate information and avoid being misled by dubious claims on the internet, on the news or by people around me.
Love your channel. God bless.
I have one child that dropped out of high school and is now making a success of his passion in the kitchen. My second child graduated from a trade school in the Business program and is going into her JR year of business college and is thriving , my youngest graduated from a virtual high school this year and is enrolled in nail tech school for the fall and is owner/operator of her own dog sitting and child care business for the past 18months and learning what she needs to do to grow this business while she works on her passion career.
Everyone takes their own path and our job as parents is to support and help guide our children as much as possible offering them opportunities they may not be aware are out there. Fantastic job 🎉
You just planted a seed. I’m 41, a bookkeeper with no degree. Always wanted to make a shift when my kids were a little older and hearing Judah has his mortgage license at 20, I just had a lightbulb moment and when down a rabbit hole. Deciding to start the process for myself within the next few months. I watch you for so many reasons, never expected it to lead to career inspiration. Thank you!
Me too! I’m 35 with 8 homeschooling children. I have always loved real estate, mortgages, home inspection etc. Definitely gonna look into it for myself as well.
I think it's a crazy idea we always expect an 18 year old to choose what they want to do. When they are still growing learning and finding them selves
They are legally adults and they have the right to decide what they want to do with their lives. How can they find themselves if they are never allowed to make their own decisions in life about their own education?
What I love about your children is the home schooling preserved their joy. Judah smiles all of the time! What I've observed is public schools in particular seem to take the joy out of our children. By middle school, they seem sad with the wind taken out of them. My grandson is 1.5 and we already started "homeschooling." HE ALREADY KNOWS HIS LETTERS! My husband just reads to him most of the day. They BOTH love it and we are amazed at how much he knows and is able to speak at this young age! I think my daughter and her hubby have decided to home school (especially with our help!)
I am a homeschooling grandparent too! There are so many benefits to us grandparents helping with the children. I read to my grandchildren and they are excelling in their education. As small children I focused on reading and talking about the books. Then we started with math and calendar work. My oldest is starting her 6th grade year and it’s going very well! My daughter and son in law are extremely supportive, which is vital!
@mimiohnine Isn't this grandparent part THE BEST!? Your granddaughter will always be blessed and confident having had your love and support! It's a blessing to us too!❤
@@faithlikecalebyes! It really is the best. I prayed for a “do over” button because I missed my children so much and then God have me grandchildren!! Best part is getting to sleep all night 😅 God is good!!
I’m an accountant, but I drive dumpy ❤ in the mines
Mike Rowe would be so proud of you both..🙏🏽💜
If your kids decide to go to college right out of high-school, who pays for it. My daughter went to nursing school. With classes, practicums and studying, she was unable to work to pay for school. We made the decission to pay for her school. It was the best decission we made and she is now a ICU RN making 95 k a year. To help financially, our youngest daughter lived at home through her 4 years in college starting at the community College the first two years. Both girls graduated with no debt which was the agreed upon FAMILY goal.
@@jfife4211 I also went to nursing school and paid my own way. I also had scholarships and lived at home.
My 19 yr old graduated last year, certified in every type of welding, minus pipe. Instead of 100k in college debt he was able to start making good money after graduating. He hates sitting, he has said over and over he has NO desire to be behind a desk!
Unless you wholeheartedly have a passion that requires a specific degree, it isn’t necessary.
My son kept asking me what he should do. Mom kept telling him I couldn’t make those decisions for him, I’m just here to support his decisions!!
Just love your kids, encourage their passions, and never put anyone in a box!
As a parent of a wonderful 30yr. Old male, I pushed & pushed & hammered college to my son. ALL A's throughout schooling, Graduated 2 years early. Sent him to a 2 year AA program, graduated & looked @ me and said " I want to build racing engines " 😳 Well okay then....6 degrees later & Ta Da
He is building speciality racing engines!!!! Loving life & living his dream😊 I couldn't be more proud of him!! Why am I saying all this, he had a full ride paid to STANFORD! As a single mom it was our plan. Come to find out its about what they dream for themselves not what we had dreamt for them. Blessings and Joyful Adventures to all
Mrs. G
Thanks so much for this. I'm in Kenya. My oldest is 19, wants to do college and we encourage her. Besides the academia, it's about gaining independence and 'finding herself' away from her parents. She is aware (and as Solo pointed out) that in Kenya, there are no jobs waiting. College may not solve that problem but, hopefully, it will broaden her horizons.
As a home school mom I really appreciate this video. Our oldest graduated in 2023 and went straight to work in construction to make money to pay for Lineman school. He will be headed there in the fall. Our middle son is a jr and is planning to attend a welding academy after graduation and is working a bagged ice company to earn money. Our youngest (14) son is a wild card. He’s passionate about animals and has always wanted to become a veterinarian. He also loves all things military and would like to be a trained sniper. He is also becoming a great wood worker. He also has a heart for Jesus and loves to preach the gospel to anyone who wants to listen! It will be fun to see what God has in store for his life❤ If you ever need a veterinarian who loves Jesus and can build you a beautiful oak table and has a sure shot on the firing range, let me know 😉
Love your wildcard 😂 The Army has Veterinarians ❤
That last part is too cute and funny . 😂
I agree with you… Not everyone has to have college education. My two oldest sons did, but my youngest two not. One of my son’s professors said it’s not for everyone! Yes, I agree trade school would be great! My third son had a harder time with books but is very much hands on and does very well where he is now.
Colleges don’t all have the same values as parents. I too have noticed that some people think it’s so important to go to college, but never use their degree, but resort to a job that doesn’t match their education and have accumulated big debt!
The children today do seem to be smarter than our generation. It’s a whole different life now from how we were raised. My nephew once said to my brother “Dad, I’m smarter than you are!” My brothers reply was “son you may think you are smarter than me but you do not have the knowledge
that I have!
@lisaadams8974 but teen have this entitlement and I'm going to do what I want to do.
They do not seem smarter than us at all. Sorry. Not sure what teens you are around. You guys make everything about knowing facts, but not about the actual wisdom the person has. Jesus said no student is greater than his teacher.
This was my most favorite video you two have ever done. Masters degree educated and love my job, but it’s not for everyone. Tradesmen and hard workers are invaluable!!!! Thank you for the reality check!
@@johncourrege8660 Thanks for your comment!
As a college professor, I do want to push back on the "waste of time" language, I completely agree that a four year institution is not for everyone nor is it a requirement to be successful in life. But I don't think education is every a "waste of time", you may not "use" your degree but as people with degrees I push back that you didn't learn anything in your college days that help you in life. Plenty of people don't "use" the degree but you do gain skills in college, your worldview expands, you get exposed to different people and experiences different from your own that just generally helps you grow as a person.
I also will say I had a lot of students when I worked in TN who were CNAs first and decided to change their major from nursing so there is definitely value in gaining some experience first.
I just don't think it should be all about money and the framing of college as a waste to me is more harmful. I always think any kind of education - associates, trade schools, bachelor's, and beyond give you new skills and perspectives and anyone with a degree who claims they gained nothing I have a hard time believing that every single bit of that experience was a waste of their time.
I very well might be in the minority in this comment section but I just felt the need to say that
Agreed
well said!
Yeah... experience or exposure regarding college is always valuable, even on a personal level. Life is not always about "I can't make money from this so what do I need it for?"
Agreed 100%
When teenagers don’t know what career path they want to explore I find it, sometimes, easier and less stressful for everyone involved, to ask the child/children what they don’t want to do. Often this method helps the child to feel more settled about their future. Also just because you didn’t go to college straight from high school doesn’t mean you can’t go to college as a mature student.
My husband is a crane operator. He was trained on the job, working up the ranks from the bottom- no college whatsoever. I am ALL for trades jobs: plumbers, electrician, welders, etc. we need them ALL.
Yes!
I went to school for Respiratory Therapy 30 years ago. The market was saturated at the time, and I just wanted my foot in the door at a local hospital. I started working in Admissions/Patient Registration and worked my way up to Supervisor and had a successful career as a supervisor for 25 years in that department. My medical background did help with my future career, but I never did use that education. There are great opportunities within those departments for advancement. I would always recommend it over a college education. Now I am a stay-at-home mom homeschooling my 9-year-old twin girls.
Homeschooling is their "job". As the mom we are directing, managing, and making resources available. Oh, and parenting and household management. Our sons were able to go so much deeper into subjects than I was though I learned so much I had missed in my public education. Now that they are grown and married to amazing young ladies, starting their families, they are homeschooling and anticipating their journey. Keep up the great work! Dual education is such a blessing that we were able to "double dip".
Without a degree, you have less opportunity in the workforce. So many jobs require a bachelors degree.
So many jobs require a 4year degree regardless of what it’s in. It’s not fair but your choices are much limited without one.
So True!
I have barely seen any job that required a college degree without also requiring many years of experience so even those with a degree are not qualified. So what's the point??
I guess it depends on where you live or area of work. I don’t necessarily agree with it. I just know in my area (NJ) that’s the way it is.
If your oldest is 20, then you’ve been homeschooling for 20 years….always teaching the next thing they need to know❤️ Love your perspective- ours is the same👍🏻
I’m a teacher. Thank you Solo for your message. I love my job. It’s not a lucrative career. It’s a passion. ❤
My husband was a marine insulator who worked on ships and in plants… in 1991 he was in a Chemical explosion at work here in Charleston. Ten men were in the building when the explosion occurred and six died in the initial explosion. My husband Frankie and the other three survivors wear taken to the hospital and placed in the intensive care burn unit with severe second and third degree burns over almost seventy percent of his body. He spent four and a half months int the burn unit and was in a medically induced coma the first two months. During that time the other three men died from their injuries and Frankie became the only survivor. It’s a miracle from God he survived.
Today we manage our rental properties and learned much from the Robert Kiasaki Rich Dad Poor Dad book and many of his other books like Rich Dads Prophecy. I encourage everyone to read his books. You will get a great education about business!❤✝️🙏
My husband is a stone mason/bricklayer. He is 69 yrs old and passed retirement but has decided not to leave as there is not enough younger people coming in to the trade. He started doing it when he was 16 years old and still going to school. People should encourage their children to go into a trade as there is jobs open to them. Pay is extremely good and the benefits that so along with it. When you look at the trades there is a lot to choose from.
Unfortunately the body wears out as we age and it is hard to do many of those jobs as we are older. Also benefits can be less, vacations and pensions.
My husband went to MTI for hvac graduated as ambassador of his class n put his efforts in n now teaches at MTI as a hvac instructor n running his hvac business 👏 so proud of him
Thought you meant MIT!
@@bluesky7288 Midwest technical institute
The best thing for teenage years is job shadowing any and every career you think you may have interest.
Such a refreshing way of looking at education. I really appreciated that you were open to sharing the mindset of your older children and how this concept has helped guide them. As a loyal watcher of your family for a very long time it's so fun to watch your kids become adults and grow from all of their real life education.
Our thoughts and goals for/with our children have evolved just the same! Thanks for bringing this conversation to the table.
Such wisdom! I agree with your perspective. So many of our young people are living with crushing debt that follows them for years after college. It took our son into his 30's to pay off college debt. Our daughter waited until she could pay for school herself and completed her degree with no debt by working 2 or sometimes 3 outside jobs and by living at home. The truth is, neither of them are using those degrees in their current job lives. Trade school is a much better option. A plumber will earn far more than I ever did in my teaching career. I like the idea of giving your kids time to decide and using that time for ministry. Those experiences are far more valuable in shaping their lives. Blessings, Janell
Amazing.....am a medical doctor in East Africa but not practising which puzzled too many people to this day....
As a teacher you got great perks. More time off, vacations, sick days, benefits, early retirement and a pension
My husband got to retire from teaching at 59 and get 75% of his pay.
I would love to see an interview with the younger kids to see “what would you like to do when you grow up?” And then check back in later to see what changes. Unless you have done that and I missed it.
Couldn't agree with you more! My daughter finished her nursing degree today and is 36. When she was 18, she was not ready to study at university and worked in the care sector until 5 years ago. She has just landed her dream job after all her study. We guided and supported her throughout these years, and it has worked out very well.
Thank you! With my oldest homeschooled child just turning 17, I think about this all the time right now!
ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!!! We need more people in the trades. My husband and I have had a roofing business for 30 years and we are now in our 60’s and are looking as what we want to do next. But we are not seeing any younger generations being electricians, plumbers, mechanics, carpenters etc. These youngsters, if they were to learn a trade could name their price and really make a successful career of it. 100% society is hung up on keeping everyone in the same box. At age 16-20 you really have no clue what career you want. Life is backwards…kids should be allowed to be kids and then maybe travel and do service in their “college” years and then down the road get the education or schooling needed for what they may want to do in their late 20’s or 30’s. KUDOS to you both and thank you for addressing this!!!
Roofing is a tough job, especially as you age!
Being raised in families that the head of the household worked one job until retirement, it was not ingrained in us to have the entrepreneurial spirit when looking at jobs. I love that you are instilling that into your children. Even if you aren't exceptionally aware of that mindset, knowing and understanding what other types of jobs the child can look into to work into their life scheme is such a gift. It's definitely a whole world view, and that, in and of itself is where you are incredibly smart, Sarah. I love the way you and Solo express your visions, and relay it to us, you both are so well spoken. This was a great topic, and even though my children are adults, I still took away some really great ideas on potential conversation with them. My daughter did not go to college, and my son is opting to. Personality wise, they have done what really suits their personalities, also looking at what their future holds for them. Knowing in the end they have my support and their dad's support is the best.
I understand your mindset. The only point I want to bring up is there are so many jobs that require a degree in anything to make good money. I never got a degree and was a secretary in the administration building of a school district. I made fairly good money, but not as much as I could have with a degree.
My daughter started an Associates degree but never finished and has been told quite a few times in interviews that she would be offered more money if she had finished the degree.
Money isn’t everything
Even for a stay at home mother it is important to have training of some kind to support the family in the event something happens to the spouse.
Yes, yes, yes! We homeschooled all five of our kids. They’re all grown and married and homeschooling their children. But we felt this way as well. The Lord showed us that so many graduated with debt and like you said wasn’t even using what they studied for. One of our children took a year off, worked and prayed and then went to nursing school. She married someone who wanted to become a lawyer so furthering school was what was necessary. But the rest of mine married tradesmen. I’m super proud of each of them! Good on you guys for following through Fathers leading and trusting Him for your children’s future!
Amen and amen! I’m a Catholic school teacher, mom of 5, and I loved listening to your thoughts! For me, it’s all about building the kingdom of God up, however that looks! So far I have a son who works in orthotics, a son who completed a business degree and is now pursuing his electrician certification, a daughter who is an elementary school teacher, a daughter who is nearly finished a business degree, and a special needs son who is the most precious gift - his vocation is definitely to spread joy and delight in God (and his dream is to become a Paralympic wheelchair rugby player for Canada!!). We are all unique yet made in the image of God!!
Hi Sara and Solo, I have a grandson that this is his senior year coming up. He has talked about the military for many years. But also had a passion for becoming a pediatric nurse. He researched and talked to many different branches before even sitting down with his mother to discuss. How proud she was and all of us. Right after his senior year he will be going to Marines . He will pay nothing for his education. They have one of the top pediatric hospital and that is where he will be trained at. He told us he will live on base the whole time so he can bank all of his money.
I’m so happy y’all covered this topic! My son recently graduated high school and the peer pressure from family to force him to go to college is overwhelming. We just don’t want to make the expensive decision to send him without exploring all of his options.
What kind of job will your older son Judah and his girlfriend have to support the family
I was wondering the same. Why are young people marrying so young? He just moved out of parents home, left on a mission, got engaged and getting married. I would support and encourage these children to enjoy life and slow down.
The kids that marry late are mostly not pure or practicing their Christian faith.
Better get married than fornicate.
Can travel together@@mruggier0
They mentioned in the video that he is working with home mortgages and also doing ministry work in their church. She also mentioned he is interested in working in the finance business.
@@Marie-q4z hmm so they marry young to get busy? Super sad if true . Young people need to slow down enjoy young adult hood before rushing into marriage and families. Christian faith or not, is a 20 yo with minimal skills, work experience, and savings, able to provide housing, food and not rely on parents? If answer is yes, then I suppose it will work out. I would encourage an engagement for a period of time to really get to know each other before spending the next 50 years together.
A financial counselor would be a great fit for Belle! She has such a heart for others and is super smart.
Good Morning! We love homeschooling, and we feel the same way. We are walking through our 25th year, and like you, we have 11 children. I agree with you and Solo on College. Our kids are all looking at many different things and have many options! What a great video! God bless you all!
I love Solo’s shirt!
I’m a public school teacher and I believe homeschooling is a decision for individual families.
Sarah that color suits you. I agree with both you regarding rethinking what kids should do after high school. Great conversation.
You neglect the fact that MANY jobs require a college degree to even apply!
Solo you need a channel for you finance business! The new and improved Dave Ramsey 😂 I would watch it. Advice for families.
I agree
I love that y’all are using such a big platform to talk about a topic so important like this. Many people need to hear and understand that College is no longer a necessity and the generations, economy, and our world in general has shifted completely. Thank you for sharing!!!!
Silent follower of your channel, I love your videos! As a young person, it’s refreshing to see parents supporting their children in their dreams and not pushing a certain agenda for what you want and expect out of them, I wish I had more of this. Thank you for showing how to parent so well. XO 🖤
hi you guys! just my two cents. i did go to school for something completely different than my career (i do think my degree helped me land my job, though, regardless of the subject i studied in) but i WILL say that there are no regrets there. i learned so much, met so many people, built connections/ networked, and am in love with the subject i majored in. it really just depends on the person, i suppose! i do understand this may not be feasible for people given loan debts (im luckily not in debt for school). but just wanted to say how grateful i am to have the opportunity for a college education and how much i learned. A college education is definitely a tool that goes beyond what you can earn financially. Im glad you guys are keeping an open mind, not pushing your children to go straight into college but also still considering that possibility.
I was thinking the exact same thing! The most important lessons I learned in 4 years at college weren't in the classroom, but about myself and others. Learning to live independently, developing personal responsibility, engaging with others with very different ways of looking at the world, conversations with professors who were willing to share their wealth of knowledge and experience, creating life-long friendships, opportunities to travel and study abroad in other countries, and so much more. I was also fortunate to graduate debt free, but those types of opportunities and experiences are priceless!
I was a public school teacher, wrote a humanities curriculum adopted statewide by a state school system, and I am a homeschooling parent! I do think one needs to be intentional about homeschooling but it can be done in many different ways. Learning happens every hour of a child’s life and homeschooling enabled my children to seek and explore their own ways of learning.
I agree with Solo that there are more resources now, and I always used technology whether it be tv or computer. I homeschooled for 19 yrs - I have four children spread out - and we also schooled year round. All of my children went to college and now as adults continue to find ways to keep learning. More importantly, they are comfortable learning and know how they learn best.
Once we were the only
Homeschool family in our church and people thought we were crazy. Ha! Now they think I am amazing to have done that! Ha!
I also taught parenting for 30 yrs and just as no two families are identical, no two kids are identical. Thank you for encouraging families to explore their uniqueness and talents.
May God bless.
Ive been following years and you guys have influenced my homeschooling journey in so many ways. Thank you so much for sharing your family journey 🖤
Thank you for this video! I went to college and graduate school and came from a highly educated family, but as I homeschooled my kids, my attitude about college also shifted. I hope more people who have opened their minds to different ways of educating themselves and their children will speak about it publicly. ❤
When our youngest started kindergarten I started college. When she graduated 8th grade I graduated with my Ph.D debt free. I have no regrets. Became a college professor at Purdue and loved working with under and graduate students, doing research, scientific writing, teaching, supervising etc. Hopefully you truly embrace your individual children’s passions and gifts because this video sounds more anti college. With our children we prepared them to succeed at college as you do and did not expect or pressure for college,
It sounds like you've done a fantastic job of planning your college education and that's commendable, but I didn't hear any college bashing in this vlog. What I did hear was being flexible to accept the possibility that your child may not need college in order to be successful.
@@wandawoods6528 I would not call it bashing either but was more on that direction than neutral. I posted before Solo commented more positively/neutrally. I was glad he added those comments. In the end I think they and our family’s view is similar: feed your passion in whatever work you choose.
@@wandawoods6528Definitely a lot of bashing. The “waste of time” phrase was repeated multiple times.
Once I was having some emergency work done on my house. As a special education teacher, I recognized that one of the workers seemed to be low verbal and to have some cognitive differences . I noticed that project manager took a bit more time explaining the task to him, but then left the workman to complete the job.
I appreciated that this guy was given a chance to do a job he was good at and seemed to enjoy.
The project manager said that he was one of their best workers-dependable, trustworthy and kind. And that having a worker that good was worth providing transportation and taking extra time to explain tasks. Then the supervisor looked at me and said, ”You’re a teacher? My wife is too.I pay him more than the state pays y’all.”
My nephew started working at 14 a small town ice cream mfg, that also had a small diner/ ice cream parlor out front. He met some firefighters one day, talked to them. Soon as he could became a firefighter and kept his ice cream job. A few years ago he retired with 30 years from fighting in his early 50's and still works part time delivering ice cream to stores in his later 50's.
This is so encouraging. Thank you so much Sarah and Solo for sharing your story.
Thank you for thos video. Many parents need to learn exactly what you are talking about. No need for college in all professions.. i retired from usps with no college. I had a few jobs beforehand that prepared me for postal work. I think like Sara you have to learn your childs strong points at a younger age and help them grow those desires. Trade schools are wonderful ,many are offering college classes now. My father became a auto mechanic instructor at our local trade school when i was growing up. He did😮 college classes to keep his credentials for teaching. Hes home now in heaven and missed dearly by so man he was a loving person and helped many.❤❤❤
Good morning tribe. Sarah, is your color and that hair that hair never let it grow. It fits your personality it is so you. Love your family so much ❤
I totally agree with you. I know so many young people who don't want to go to college. I encourage them to go to a trade school. My brother didn't go to college but went through a training program to become an electrician. He makes good money and doesn't have any regrets about college. We need more plumbers, electricians, builders and road workers.
I get some of the message here but other parts I don't get. I understand and agree with not rushing into college if you aren't sure of what you want to do (although I will say going to college and taking different courses open up a lot of options for me outside of the traditional careers such as a doctor, lawyer etc.). I also agree that trade schools should be considered and talked about. I even agree that when considering school costs/debt should be a consideration and there are many ways around it. Such as community college, part-time college, working and having your employer pay for part of it, scholarships etc. The public schools (I know that's not your preference) in my area have partnered with local universities to have dual enrollment which reduces the costs. Things I don't get is how almost all of your kids want to do the exact same thing finance/theology (are they exposed to different options). And the example with Belle even if she wouldn't want to do counseling full-time how would that stop her from getting a degree in Psychology? She could do many different things career wise with the degree and still have the ability to counsel individuals as often as she chooses and gets her license..
I can't believe that Judah is engaged, Belle just graduated high school, with 2 coming up right behind them. Where has the time gone. I got a summer job and never went back to college until I was in my 50s and got my AA.. I found that I was good working in the corporate world. Trade school is coming back.
We always need something fixed, installed or updated. Trades are a great and profitable careers.
I’m of the same opinion. I believe in trade school simply because they can focus directly on their goals and not have to take on all of the “unnecessary extras” and it’s way more affordable. I explain it to my kids the same way you explain it
I agree with this 100%! We homeschool too and the flexibility that comes with it is definitely a plus.
My first born will start 11th grade and is beginning course work for interior design through our local community college. We have told our kids that college isn't always necessary and staying out of debt should be part of their plan. Yes. Yes. Yes.
I just like you two so much. I am sure you aren't perfect lol, but the thoughtfulness and integrity you seem to live your life and raise your kids with is amazing ❤
You are right, there is nothing wrong with trades, without them you would not be sitting infront of your beautiful house, like you both said some kids are not collage material as long as they are happy healthy individual. great job Sarah and Solo!
Great conversation! I didn’t stay in college and yet had a 34 year career in research. Yes, without a degree I was passed up for some promotions, but I still raised two healthy kids that both have good work ethics.
Love this video! You two have raised some great kids! It's good to see parents that are willing to change their minds and allow their children make their own way and decisions.
This is a good talk. Thank you!
I love Solo's shirt, it is so true. We are going to homeschool our little boy, I'm worried about it, but I believe God will lead me.
God bless you for opening the door to this very important conversation. May more parents follow in your example.
I agree with you… Not everyone has to have college education. My two oldest sons did, but my youngest two not. One professor said it’s not for everyone! Yes, I agree trade school would be great! My third son had a harder time with books but is very much hands on and does very well where he is now.
Colleges don’t all have the same values as parents.
You both are great parents and are doing a great job your children are respectful and kind and not afraid to work. I love watching your family. Thank you for sharing the lessons you learn along the way.
Forgot to add to my comment. My niece is 9 and homeschooled. I was visiting them in May/June and she went through a college tour already. Yes this generation is so much smarter.
College is very important, especially for children that are homeschooled. My opinion….
Interesting you added in “especially those that are homeschooled.” Yet you spelled college wrong. You missed the whole point of the this video also😑
Not necessarily true, pay attention to the couple
@@sarahgilliland4857 my bad on the spelling. I will correct myself. Well not bad with the other spelling since English is not my mother tongue.
I don’t think I missed the point of the video. I personally believe that college is very very important from several perspectives, the most important being:
- Communication with different people than yourself or your surrounding. That is the key for everything in your life and your achievements.
Hi Sarah and Solo. All of my children are grown, but I'm so glad you did this video about college. My ex mother in-law would always tell my children, you are nothing unless you go to college. I told her not to say that to them, but she continued. One of her son in-laws got a degree in Graphic Design and she said to him, why in the heck would you get a degree in that, you will go nowhere. Needless to say, he now has his own company and makes very good money. Great video!
lol! The roosters. 😂
Sarah, you look absolutely beautiful, red is definitely your color, and Solo is as handsome as always. I think it 's great that Judah is looking to stay in ministry and the family business. And yes, I can see Bell in a professional setting. You know, I think she would make a great school teacher. She just has that teacher vibe to her. I know all your children will do great things in life. They have been brought up in a loving, trusting environment by 2 amazing parents who lives their lives centered around the Lord. I just love following your channel and look forward to all your videos.
The rooster in the background 😂, mine do the same thing so for a minute I thought it was mine but then realized I was driving, lol.
I tell my kids the same thing, college is a resource but not everyone needs it. There are so many other ways to succeed in life.
Sarah thanks for the talk today. I totally agree 👍. I am a mother of 7, and all are over 18 except 1, and I have been seeing the same in my kids, so I'm patiently waiting and supporting them . Times are changing and hopefully they always make good choices! 💕 have a blessed day!
I agree that working in one of the Trades is just a good or better and there will always be a need for them.
Loved this conversation! We have our first (of 5 kids) who will be graduating our homeschool next year so we are having these kinds of conversations as well. So grateful to hear that other families are supporting their kids strengths and passions. Im so glad that trade schools are making a comeback but I wish there were more resources on what is out there and how to find good trade schools. Great suggestion on appraisers… my son is showing interest in the real estate world.
My son is a home appraiser for an insurance company. He went to college and is a Fire Inspector and Fire Safety Educator and never thought that he would end up in the insurance field, but he's married, can work from home and he loves it!
I enjoyed this very much. We homeschooled the entire way as well. Our oldest (21) will graduate with a BS next semester. About halfway through, we figured out college was probably the wrong direction for him… but he was close enough that he didn’t want to stop. He works full time for the University of Georgia (he attends a different school) and his college degree hasn’t helped him in determining what he wants to do or in his current job. Our younger son decided to go to trade school and is excelling!
I do not think college is necessary; I wish we’d put more thought into that decision before it was time for him to attend. He could be much further along in a career.
Great philosophy Sarah and Solo. Your kids will find their own path. Nurse here and I worked my way up the ranks. All hospital trained. That was my calling. 😊😊
I have a BFA in commercial dance (ridiculous i know) and while I don't regret going to college at all, I do think it's kind of crazy that I felt that I HAD to go. I'm grateful my parents support me dancing but they also made it like I had no choice but to go to college. Looking back I'm sure they'd agree I didn't need to do that. So many of my classmates will be in debt for the rest of their lives because of it too. I'm glad to hear your opinions on college have changed! Every child's path is unique!
I love this video and all the advice. It’s confirmation for what God has been telling me about my son who just got out of high school. Right on time
Appreciate the discussion and using youre kids as examples. We all adore your family and love to hear how they are doing school/career wise!
Belle is a wonderful young lady and will be a blessing wherever In whatever she chooses to do
My daughter went to a community college for accounting which is what she wanted. After a year she ask if she could quit. Of course, we said yes but you must work full time. She did go to work. One day taking our neighbor to visit her husband in the nursing home. She realized what she wanted to do. She worked in the hospital while getting her medical technician. She they passed the exam and worked at that position. She thoroughly enjoyed her career.