How I Survived an Abusive Lesbian Relationship
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- čas přidán 5. 06. 2019
- Sandi, Brittney and Terri never expected that the women they loved could ever hurt them. They never saw themselves as people who could become victims of abuse from their partners. In this video, these three incredible black lesbians share their courageous stories of how they escaped their abusive relationships.
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Most of my intimate especially long term relationships, have been abusive. My latest ex and I went to couples counseling at my request. We had five sessions and a couple of days before the last session she broke up with me accusing me of being rude and mean bc I no longer allowed her to manipulate me anymore. Couples counseling only showed me that I tend to entertain those that love me the way my family did (abuse, manipulate, control, and blame).
Prayers to all you survivors and thank you for sharing your experiences! Thank you for saying about the stereo types based off so called labels...you would be surprised!
i was verbally, mentally and emotionally abused and did not know it reason being my childhood was very similar. It can be harder to recognize and longer to address and definitely harder to move away from. It was extremely hard to tell others this was a form of abuse because there was no physical signs and was told all I have to do is stand up for myself, you both are women, leaving me feeling helpless and trapped. This lasted for 15 years of 17 years with the last 2 years me caring for her before her passing
My condolences to you. I have learned in the past almost 2 years people really do not understand psychological abuse, how damaging it can be as well leave scares. Even some psychologist and counselors do not understand psychological abuse. I'm wishing you all the best as you start a new chapter in your life. I'm a survivor and you will see life will become bright and better again. Wising you well love.
Once an abuser will always be an abuser
You are not alone and you will be okay. I think the universe is trying to protect you and the best thing you can do out of love for someone else and yourself is to let them go and heal. It will surprise how your overall well being starts to improve when you walk away from the toxicity. It’s not easy, it’s okay to have fears, but trust me, do it, and don’t look back
Omg I am still in it 8 yes later I thought I was alone in this I pray for us my daughter is with my mother right now she tried to hurt my baby too I completely understand it’s such a demonic situation
sis please leave before it's to late.
This is sad but I’ve yet to see a long-lasting healthy lesbian relationship that I know personally. I have a couple I follow with 3 cute kids, but irl I don’t. My first who I was deeply in love with and am just getting over after a year put her hands on me, my ex-friend emotionally manipulated and emotionally cheated on all her gfs, another ex-friend got involved with a controlling gf who she married overnight, I thought a NY friend was doing well with hers but they broke up, and someone I looked to as a lesbian mentor/auntie was involved with a sociopathic woman, a ex-friend I knew thru her was involved with a abusive woman too; and they are divorced. Interesting, a lot of these women were abusive and mentally unstable themselves and it affected our friendship. It has made me rethink pursuing same-sex relationships overall, even tho I’m more attracted to women than men. There’s a lot of community issues with mental health that isn’t addressed and atp I just want to be loved and respected no matter the gender.
Holy shit this is spot on!!!
I was a victim verbal, e motionless physical.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you were able to get out and get some healing support.
Good evening ladies I had to stop the video just to exhale because everything literally that you ladies are talking about I just experience blindsided shades down I did not see it coming. First and foremost I'm a professional black Lebisan woman who work as a hospice director. My ex fiance was a cook in a restaurant then she went 🛣️ rogue and decided to live off grid in a used Winnebago she purchased before she met me. This decision was done without any type of discussion or respect given to me on how I would feel about the situation. I wanted to give you ladies a backstory so I can get to the root of it all so here I go. Just a disclaimer, I ask to please not be judged this is the truth. First let me say my ex- finance use to tell me stop 🗣️ speaking educated terms because she wasn't that smart she stated. This was a manipulator tactic for me to start talking in layman's terms or her words bitch dumb up is what she would say. I was afraid to say certain things to the point where I just became a hermit. When I met her on black people meet I thought she was the love of my life the one but oh I was sadly mistaken she literally is a sheep in wolves clothing. Every time she would drink every other day she would look at me if I was there busy or she will FaceTime me and say I drink because I choose to not because I have to. Literally she was an alcoholic that was functionable and in denial she would take the bottle and literally drink it as if it was water even the next morning when she would awake before eating taking care of her hygiene she would take a big gulp out of the e&j bottle. Like I stated earlier I was afraid to say anything because of the backlash the verbal abuse that she would take my heart on as a roller coaster riding me mentally up and down around and around until I begin to feel as if I was losing my mind literally. She would manipulate me to pay for everything once I flew there every other month, due to the fact we lived in two different states. I was okay with that because we were getting to know one another, yes I was more stable than she was I would be reminded consistently of this. Another narcissist trait that she would use so that she would never have to come visit me in the state which I reside in. It didn't bother me until the point where she began to manipulate me and not want to visit me at any given time. During the course of our relationship I begin to ask questions, she would begin to become offensive and turn into the Narcissist. Reverse psychology she knew that game very well, I noticed it all & I was so afraid I begin to walk on eggshells fear that no one else would ever love me. Every time we went places people would hit on me I wouldn't say anything and stay close to her and if I left her side she would scream my name in a store or restaurant as if I were a small child very embarrassing. She would break up every week, doing the course of the breakup she was sending hundreds and hundreds of text messages degrading me as a human. In the same token saying she loved me and she couldn't live without me she played so many mind games I questioned my sanity. Finally I guess she found someone else and after she attempted to drain me financially, break my spirit emotionally and make me feel overall worthless she broke off the engagement about 2 months ago so yes this is very fresh and my heart feels it everyday. I am now in counseling for the lgbtq to make sense of it all and what I've learned so far is that I was introduced to an extremist manipulator, narcissist an abuser. But the funny part of it all, is that I still love her I am a woman who stands on truth and have no filters on my love I find that extremely bizarre but can't get past it. So I am writing this plea to you or to any of the ladies on the panel to please assist me emotionally because right now I feel like a current of 🌊 waves that are never ending. My pain is real sincerely Bruised 😢, Battered💔 & Psychologically Broken Cee Cee Minnesota 🌈 🙏💔🥺🌊😢
I am so glad God removed you from that situation. It's been 9 months since you posted this, I pray that your heart is continuing to heal if not completely healed already. Hugs from Texas.
@@rriddick8571 thank you so much is one day at a time. Some days I smile and other days I cry myself into a deep depression. Thank you so much for the kind words they really mean a lot. Blessings and love Cece