HOW TO MASTER THE ART OF CONVERSATION | THE SECRET TO GREAT COMMUNICATION 2021 | Woman Of Elegance

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  • My Elegant Ladies,
    Good speech is the garment of the mind. What you say and how you say it quickly gives people insight into your true character.
    Use the gift of speech to elevate you and make you, not break you.
    In this video, I give you a few invaluable tips that must be followed if you want to be seen as elegant especially in high society. You can be exceptionally dressed, but if your speech lets you down, this could exclude you from certain social settings.
    Please Like, Comment, Share and Subscribe for weekly videos that will teach you to become elegant, ladylike, classy and polished.
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Komentáře • 122

  • @NaaKomley
    @NaaKomley Před 3 lety +153

    Being a shy person it’s always been difficult to start and carry on with conversations and so tend not to speak much especially in group situations or when I first meet people.These are very good pointers, I’ll try them. Thank you 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @faithtv9117
    @faithtv9117 Před rokem +28

    How to Master the Art of Conversation
    1. Conversation Openers- Do not ask intrusive questions
    2. Avoid Rambling. Contribute to a conversation wisely .
    3. Don`t indulge in Gossip
    4. Don`t get involved in contentious topics. e.g politics, sex talk. Engage in light-hearted topics
    5. Use of Compliments: Don`t behave as though you are overly impressed. Keep compliments simple and moderate
    6.Do not Interrupt conversations
    7. Don`t name drop

  • @britannia5370
    @britannia5370 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Dear Vivienne, I have been enjoying your wonderful clips for a while now and I have to congratulate on their content and variety. I think they are so important in order to present yourself successfully as a lady nowadays, personally and in a business surrounding. I have found myself discovering that I am already a lady and without blowing my own trumpet, this is another good reason to stay onboard. No one is perfect and I am most certainly looking forward to more excellence. My respect and greetings to you.

  • @geniealison7785
    @geniealison7785 Před 2 lety +28

    I truly agree. I am so grateful to be raised in a conservative and well disciplined family especially in femininity and grace, but when I moved to different country I was misinterpreted, and this circle of people that I considered friends took time for me to consider the way they are. I encountered very inappropriate questions during the first meeting and I must say they were taboo expressions that I couldn’t able to answer them nor handle and go along with the conversation. Sometimes, it’s good to have some adjustments on the environment where you are, because some women manner are not totally the same. Though I’m not totally convinced to put my level the way who they are, but to put into balance on how I portrait myself in a different situation and different type of people.

  • @LB-ku6ry
    @LB-ku6ry Před 2 lety +5

    You’re skilled at giving examples of what not to do or do. I’m very happy that I found your channel. I have always been on the expressive side and you are teaching me to reel it in. Ha! Thank you!

  • @josievelasco3695
    @josievelasco3695 Před 2 lety +14

    I find your insights and suggestions to be creative and practical as well. Thank you for teaching "The Art Of Being Elegant". Your manner and accent
    invite participation, as well.

  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071
    @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071 Před 2 lety +15

    Very helpful information. I'm not one to talk alot in settings I'm not comfortable with. And even around those that I do know quite well, I still tend to be more of a listener. I try hard to speak things that are uplifting and encouraging. Thank you.

  • @mildrednitah23
    @mildrednitah23 Před 3 lety +15

    Your channel is a vibe! I love🤗💕

  • @marciagrant8047
    @marciagrant8047 Před 2 lety +5

    Brilliant Vivienne! Picked up a lot of tips here! Thank you for your time...really enjoyed it and feel I've come away with a lot of simple skills that will make a huge difference!

  • @lessonswithdelmi4495
    @lessonswithdelmi4495 Před 2 lety +3

    💕🦁 Again thank you MS. Vivian, I needed this video to become elegant, classy and sophisticated!

  • @SamanthaGTV
    @SamanthaGTV Před 2 lety +8

    Love your videos. I’ve watched a few and they are really helping me to view femininity and elegance in a different light. Thank you ❤️

  • @ld8080
    @ld8080 Před 3 lety +9

    That was great! Thank you ❤️

  • @vkvkvk317
    @vkvkvk317 Před 2 lety +3

    I like how the colours of the flowers mirror the colours on your scarf 😍.
    Thank u so much for the helpful and useful content.

  • @flourishing5168
    @flourishing5168 Před 2 lety +4

    Have just come across your channel, and can't stop watching, repeating some like this one!!!oh and subscribed!!

  • @africanTHEfire
    @africanTHEfire Před 3 lety +24

    Excellent video. The passion for your interests is really showing through. The name dropping part is one many of us must work on. It is not always clear to many that it comes across as pompous and a bit improper.

  • @karencollins2440
    @karencollins2440 Před 2 lety +5

    Lovely, Vivian. Thank you.

  • @yonat3509
    @yonat3509 Před rokem +1

    Am 32 still very shy person , can't hold eye contact , the result of this have short period of relationship & friendship.
    I love watching for video's cos ever words you said explain me , so am trying to change me. Thank u so much

  • @nasrinali2328
    @nasrinali2328 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks Vivianne for mentioning the great points, very helpful. 👍❤️

  • @starbuck5228
    @starbuck5228 Před 2 lety +1

    This is so true seeing it witnessed it and experience it this taught me a valuable lesson well done Vivian posting the video I used this as a tool once again thank you 😊 👍🏽👏🏽

  • @khadijah8269
    @khadijah8269 Před 2 lety +10

    What topics do you recommend would be OK to talk about? I'm already a very shy, quiet, and honest person, and the honesty part just ruins it every time for me. Please make more videos about conversation and topics that are OK to talk about. Thank you for these amazing videos.

  • @user-hg4gw3ng7n
    @user-hg4gw3ng7n Před 4 měsíci

    DEAR MS. VIVIANNE A. I DO LIKE YOUR DETERMINATION, DRIVE, FOCUS TO LEAN ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE LADIES TO BE AND DO THEIR BEST EFFORTS EVER

  • @abdulfathah1812
    @abdulfathah1812 Před 2 lety +2

    Your words vocabulary stunning.... A calm sea with lot of beautiful usages.

  • @marielove1018
    @marielove1018 Před rokem

    Love your lessons, I am happy to be one of your viewers. Keep making these videos.

  • @franchesca8365
    @franchesca8365 Před 2 lety +15

    Thank you so much for these helpful tips on communication. A lot of times we do or say things without much thought. I will be working on improving myself from what I learned today.

  • @marianambemba3227
    @marianambemba3227 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for this video.. wished I knew this !!

  • @sadiaarman363
    @sadiaarman363 Před 2 lety +15

    This is such a good, important video!! When i was a young teen, I wished I could find out about these things from a book! Because I always lived in my own world and didn’t know things out there. Thank you. 🙂

    • @baileysmooth97
      @baileysmooth97 Před 2 lety

      Miss Manners has been around for years etiquette books have been around for Years CZcams and Facebook haven't but the library always has oh, she's teaching the very basic but she is informing people which is great but everyone can't be a conversationalist and everyone is not knowledgeable enough or confident enough to strike up a conversation with strangers, it depends upon your upbringing your exposure to the world my money's people that have a conversation with anyone beat if I'm on a farm be found at the Preakness run from at the Opera I can turn to a stranger at any point time and we can have a conversation and when I meet children or kids like it's been stored I'm like hey how's school going and they'll tell me all about school and I'll tell them you're a great conversationalist because this is a skill that most people don't have because of their own insecurities because they just have never been outside their community and furthermore they don't read they have no clue what's going on in Ukraine they have no clue what's going on in the Senate they have no clue what's going on in their own area so when you are focusing just on your logs how you look how you present yourself and going to the gym and you're not doing the work on yourself the mental is spiritual the educational the nutrition and you stay stuck and trust me you're not alone so many people in the world function on this level did they miss out on the Delight and the beauty of the world that God has created

    • @andraepender4080
      @andraepender4080 Před 2 lety

      @@baileysmooth97 awesome 👌

  • @crystalquartz11
    @crystalquartz11 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for this. I'm shy and introverted, so it's great to have some guidance. x

  • @jsssaggu5068
    @jsssaggu5068 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you so much for excellent guidance about conversation.

  • @srividya9238
    @srividya9238 Před 2 lety +7

    Love your channel and your speech 💋

  • @777AMBASSADORA
    @777AMBASSADORA Před 2 lety +6

    Sent to my college age daughters ❤️

  • @hamsatoyelakin7555
    @hamsatoyelakin7555 Před 2 lety +5

    It’s not a bad thing to compliment a guy, if he looks good. If he does and you want to compliment him, go ahead. It doesn’t make you less a woman. It’s just a Sign of being proud if you think it’s wrong to compliment a guy.

  • @InChrist2024
    @InChrist2024 Před 2 lety

    Great inspiration! Thankyou for sharing.

  • @gigglezillakids7379
    @gigglezillakids7379 Před 2 lety +3

    Binge watching these videos and learning so much!

  • @meki2510
    @meki2510 Před 2 lety +44

    Hi! Thank you for the advice and tips. The only thing I disagree with is when you suggest to "not compliment men". I agree not to over-compliment nor be "thirsty" but men are people who may sometimes struggle with confidence and/or being seen. I believe there must be a balance between exuding elegance/confidence vs. arrogance and/or self-centeredness by only expecting to receive compliments. If I like his beard or his dress shoes, I should be free to say that. What benefit are goodwill sentiments towards a person if you're not free to express them? Can you boost a person's confidence by hoarding the compliment?

    • @eunicetornyi554
      @eunicetornyi554 Před 2 lety +9

      Totally agree with you @Meki... also complimenting people after they compliment is culturally accepted within my ethnic group... if it becomes noticed that you do not return compliments, you would be seen as arrogant and self conceited... aside this, it is a helpful video

    • @meki2510
      @meki2510 Před 2 lety +5

      @@eunicetornyi554 Absolutely you’re seen as arrogant. We glean what we need and leave the rest 😉

    • @siani3726
      @siani3726 Před 2 lety

      Agree

    • @leviawomi7922
      @leviawomi7922 Před 10 měsíci

      Lovely content ❤❤❤

  • @audreypistor4610
    @audreypistor4610 Před 2 lety +6

    I am learning a lot thank you.

  • @fazeelafazal8615
    @fazeelafazal8615 Před rokem

    I love all your videos 🥰Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us🌷

  • @euniceboateng
    @euniceboateng Před 2 lety +5

    Please God bless you.. keep up the good work

  • @lindamannix1247
    @lindamannix1247 Před rokem

    You are an elegant lady ! We want to be like you !!

  • @TriniRoyQuiReyes
    @TriniRoyQuiReyes Před 2 lety +2

    Blessed by this vídeo. Sis keep winning.

  • @huskysc7415
    @huskysc7415 Před rokem +1

    Excellent!

  • @olaotanwilliams4239
    @olaotanwilliams4239 Před 2 lety +3

    Truly inspiring

  • @mlmeek0278
    @mlmeek0278 Před 2 lety +2

    Love your tips very helpful.

  • @KARINA29534
    @KARINA29534 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing ma'am. Please make more of this series. It's quite helpful.

  • @earthandnaturesounds8983

    Thank you for Enlightening us on becoming an Elegant woman!! Our 2 Daughter's and me love watching your videos. We also ove your British accent ❤️🙏🏼🌺🥰

  • @juanitabing2739
    @juanitabing2739 Před 2 lety +2

    Name-dropping is definitely a turnoff. I saw someone I went to college with a few weeks ago and her appearance is one of an elegant lady. However, she proceeds to tell me that she knows one of my sorority sisters and my sorority sister is her employee. It turned me off because she was name-dropping, and she referred to my sorority sister as her employee, yet she reports/answers to someone above her.
    Thank you for bringing light to name-dropping!

  • @lornanation2786
    @lornanation2786 Před rokem

    Thank u for your video it have been keeping me in line..I do have female's friend who do the same has u speck about..love it

  • @blessingmicheal6397
    @blessingmicheal6397 Před 2 lety +4

    Hmmmmmm
    I give compliment alot.
    I am so in love with your videos

  • @adventurousartavia4462
    @adventurousartavia4462 Před 2 lety +3

    I appreciate your channel so much

  • @landyandrade3104
    @landyandrade3104 Před 2 lety +9

    I'm grateful to watch your videos...Thank you kindly

  • @nadya7189
    @nadya7189 Před 2 lety

    Nice.I feel elegant already just watching your videos

  • @mariellegrant6248
    @mariellegrant6248 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much!

  • @simonecato-hall7811
    @simonecato-hall7811 Před 2 lety

    Good one! Thank you.

  • @taylorsaunaturel9312
    @taylorsaunaturel9312 Před rokem +3

    Please could you do a video on times when you have made a social blunder or been embarrassed and how to handle it? It happens when even with the best efforts something I’ve said has been taken wrong or I’ve said something and realised too late it wasn’t right (I try my best not too) but how do you recover/ handle social blunders if they do happen?

  • @brandijohnson1326
    @brandijohnson1326 Před 2 lety +1

    Good video and tips!

  • @mildrednitah23
    @mildrednitah23 Před 3 lety +5

    Very helpful

  • @gracemukemba6330
    @gracemukemba6330 Před rokem +1

    Thank you somach i realy lurnig elot Thank you somach for sharing is realy helping me.

  • @jstkmw2639
    @jstkmw2639 Před 2 lety +1

    I love this channel.

  • @pearlcoviello5471
    @pearlcoviello5471 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you Ma’am

  • @icebreaker652
    @icebreaker652 Před rokem

    I learn a lot from you thank you for sharing this beautiful video

  • @jhunu_editz.
    @jhunu_editz. Před rokem +1

    Hello mam, Thank You for making me a Woman Of Elegance.

  • @mwalimuwaentrepreneurship2797

    its another good video.very important in life..

  • @Espresskonbansu900
    @Espresskonbansu900 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you I just subscribed

  • @jessiemwenga9512
    @jessiemwenga9512 Před 2 lety +1

    Beautiful.

  • @Multifacetinc
    @Multifacetinc Před 2 lety +1

    Love ❤️ this

  • @feliciaarendse7631
    @feliciaarendse7631 Před rokem

    Love listening to you

  • @MohamedMohamed-zk5wz
    @MohamedMohamed-zk5wz Před 2 lety +1

    Lovely

  • @TheEmma0397
    @TheEmma0397 Před 2 lety +6

    I came across your channel 2 weeks ago, I've been hooked ever since.

  • @Juliananaki100
    @Juliananaki100 Před 2 lety

    Thanks please, am learning something.

  • @ankundasheebah4761
    @ankundasheebah4761 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you Miss Vivian. I really love your videos. So inspiring.

  • @judithelouisjean8863
    @judithelouisjean8863 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks

  • @dintlek75
    @dintlek75 Před rokem

    Thank you so much, learned a lot. I made a lot of mistakes🤦‍♀️

  • @laxmibhojane5690
    @laxmibhojane5690 Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @Dannyjh05
    @Dannyjh05 Před 2 lety +1

    Beautiful that's help me

  • @terraiznajem105
    @terraiznajem105 Před rokem

    ❤thank you

  • @siani3726
    @siani3726 Před 2 lety +2

    Lovely video and suggestions… but be mindful- you can start to show up inauthentically. If you have an expressive and outgoing personality- shine. Someone in your presence will love your style. Be confident enough to know you won’t please everyone.

  • @vickykentrota9031
    @vickykentrota9031 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you for all the precious, elegant advices 🌹Greetings from Greece 💙🇬🇷

  • @africanTHEfire
    @africanTHEfire Před 3 lety +6

    I would love maybe next time a follow up on an elegant women using conversation to achieve an aim ...all in an elegant manner rather than just to fill the air ... keep the videos coming. Cant wait to see what is next. I'm sharing with everyone

  • @clowdyywinds
    @clowdyywinds Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for the video... it was really helpful... I've a request can you make a video about how to introduce or how to boom💥 in an interview?

  • @stephonpervez2760
    @stephonpervez2760 Před rokem

    Omg!! I love you so much.. This is a very important topic... So many women don't know how to hold a conversation.. Ladies let me share a secret with y'all.. A real man not only appreciate a conversation.. But we find it very sexy... Y'all don't know how beautiful it makes y'all look when y'all can hold a conversation.. Now I know many women been dog out by men to the point y'all don't want to hear anything any man has to say... But don't let those bad apples discourage you for wanting a good apple.... ✌️ 🙏 Keep up the good work sista... God bless

  • @pamelajohnson9810
    @pamelajohnson9810 Před rokem

    I'm shy too when meeting new people.

  • @euniceboateng
    @euniceboateng Před 2 lety +5

    Hmm. A lot of work to be done ✅

  • @go2yourself
    @go2yourself Před rokem

    ❤❤

  • @ashlynn1362
    @ashlynn1362 Před rokem

  • @Suaveone-mm8yw
    @Suaveone-mm8yw Před rokem

    😊💙

  • @tonyasmithe
    @tonyasmithe Před 2 lety

    Some people are trained to reciprocate in their surroundings when it comes to complimenting someone .

  • @AdaUnleashed
    @AdaUnleashed Před 2 lety +4

    I hear your African accent every now and then. Nice!

    • @godfriedbaning4142
      @godfriedbaning4142 Před 2 lety +2

      I know I’m wondering where she is from ? Lol I think Ghana or Nigeria lol
      I like the British y African accent being Ghanaian myself we like that prim proper gentlemanliness , chivalry , ladylikeness, modesty , royalty . Thanks for the amazing job true British African princess:)

  • @veronical1757
    @veronical1757 Před rokem

    If you do happen to know the person intimately or well (regarding example with name dropping)…what would be the appropriate way to state that you do know them?

  • @FruityHachi
    @FruityHachi Před 2 lety +2

    i have a question about the last point - is it necessary to apologize for not remembering someone´s name? doesn´t it look low self-esteem? because when i was researching assertive communication i learned that we should apologize only if we did something wrong, caused someone trouble or hurt someone"
    therefore i´d suggest to omit the apology and simply say "could you repeat your name, please?" / "i couldn´t quite make out your name, it was noisy, could you repeat it for me please?"

  • @andreastrong3913
    @andreastrong3913 Před rokem +3

    Who makes up these rules? Advise given on this topic seems to be as different as the people giving it. Best objective (in my little book) is to genuinely care about others because that will come across.

  • @minkyteku1100
    @minkyteku1100 Před 2 lety +5

    Okay, that's it.I need to own your book.Your vocabulary,I'm dyieng for.
    I need a copy of your book.How can I get it .It is okay to look at Exclusive book shop.🇿🇦

    • @WomanOfElegance
      @WomanOfElegance  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you dear. Please send a request to info@womanofelegance.com

  • @DaStrangeWeasel
    @DaStrangeWeasel Před 2 lety

    About What not to say... What if the person doesn't catch the hint and says they don't know the person being gossiped about? Wouldn't the gossipers keep talking?

  • @dhenoonokpite3554
    @dhenoonokpite3554 Před rokem

    That why I like to be with a man I can be myself 100% because this life is a work pfff , but I have to do my best 😂.

  • @lorettadavis2195
    @lorettadavis2195 Před rokem +1

    I would say don't tell me tell her I don't like gossip.

  • @tulioquintanilla5087
    @tulioquintanilla5087 Před rokem

    W. Of. Eres bien hermosa. Saludes.

  • @reginapaul5469
    @reginapaul5469 Před 2 lety

    I get this alot where did you
    Get that from whether close things I really don't like this

  • @mw7882
    @mw7882 Před 2 lety

    I am a bit of a mess these days. How can you hit the reset button on elegance if you have blown it?

  • @tulioquintanilla5087
    @tulioquintanilla5087 Před rokem

    W. Of. Madam. Porque usa la pañalera en su cuello. Disculpe. Y gracias.

  • @pinkycandice6855
    @pinkycandice6855 Před 2 lety +2

    1.Conversation opener
    2. In conversation
    3. What not to say
    4.

  • @triplet9213
    @triplet9213 Před rokem

    Please put me to the test.

  • @wardaa.995
    @wardaa.995 Před 2 lety +4

    Politic/religion/sex/money 😑🤐