A Low-Effort Man Thinks You’ll Wait Forever? Try This and Watch The Magic!
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‘’Little effort man doesn’t deserve strong emotions’’ omg such a good way of looking at it 🤩
Whew!! ❤❤ 😮this is such a hard trick to learn!!,😂😂
Yes - like that saying. 😂
I’m done wasting my energy on someone that doesn’t want to reciprocate.
I can always tell when people are invested in others by how passionately they respond.
The true one is effortless. He won't make you cry or fight to keep him.
* * * My Nona always said : Dust settle, not me
❤
You should always listen to your Italian grandmother!
Iconic
@@alspencer3826 And I did it. I married the ONE she liked the most.
@@soyearold Hey that's awesome, and I'm sure you made your grandmother really happy! I wish you and your wife the best. I hope that you have many years of happiness. You know grandmothers can be really funny without tryung to be funny. I can remember my grandmother asking me about I girl I had recently met, this was like 15-20 years ago. What's the first question she asks me about the girl??? Can she cook?? Spoken like a true Italian grannie!!!! I nearly pissed my pants laughing. Oh, and by the way, the girl couldn't cook, needless to say it didn't work out! lol
8:46 This message is so important for women to learn and deeply internalize.
*"He doesn't NOT like you because you asked for what you want. YOU telling him just made it a lot harder for him to string you along."*
This is so true & valuable.
You never lose being direct & asking for what you want, his no to you is ultimately a No to himself as well.✅
I walked away from a guy that wanted me to dim my light and now he wants me back and is realizing he now wants to marry me. I've already moved on, not gonna happen!!!!
Agree. Only desperate people beg and chase. It ain't happening.
Did that when relationship was,getting well established, yet certain behaviors on his part didn't resolve as result of changes i made! (We were too young for the level of emotions lol)
When woman walks away n chances are she will never come back again.
Sounds like he enjoyed the attention
@@sharoncarter6172 definitely, but he thought I'd never leave. Proved him wrong
I think one of the reasons I pulled away from him and created distance is because I felt emotionally drained from trying to make things work out for us.
I fight because I care but when I am really done; I just leave silently 😌
Me too ❤
Same girl. We try our hardest, hurt like hell. Then we take the steps to move on!
@@Amylynnklh900I am sorry you have gone through that but at the end of the day you realise you gotta love and protect yourself first 🥲🥹
@@LeeLee-mn4dv🥹 sending hugs your way. This too shall pass!
@@Amylynnklh900 I am sorry you are going through that but at the end of the day you just realise that you’d better love and protect yourself first before the pain gets too strong. Hugs 😌😊
I said, “I”m not interested in continuing this relationship.” He asked if we could talk. We met at a restaurant and I brought a list of musts. We’re still together.
did he changed?
Well done you👏😁 in many cases they ghost after that or try to play emotional games to keep giving minimum. Best of luck for the future🍀
Applause 👏 😊
How long were you guys together for before that talk?
@@SarahlovesSerge About 4 months. It’s been almost 3 years now.
My alone feels so good. I'll have you only if you're sweeter than my solitude ❤
Yep exactly
Bingo!!! 💯💯💯💯
This🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
I needed this.. I told him how I felt, and the only thing he said was Take Care. It hurt initially, but the last 2 minutes of this video helped me realize it was simply his loss. Thank you for making this video.
Don't ever place anyone on a pedestal higher than your own self. You do need to express your annoyance and if nothing changes, you need to leave if you value your balance.
Never wait or chase the guy. I'm happy married now but it was a long journey. If you have the real deal it's so easy and peaceful ❤
Low-effort man does not deserve strong emotions! Well said!❤
A man Who comes in to stay displays his feelings
If playing games is the only solution to have him, walk away.
I finally met him after a year of Distance situationship. He’s unclear about his intentions on the first date, something was off so i stayed low key, im not chasing until i get my answers.
Something was off because you've never met before, you didn't share body language and energy before and those are make the difference when it comes to someone liking you. Don't lose your time on someone you haven't met in person and went on several dates. Look for those answers within yourself ❤
@@karentrevino6904 we had a second date and it was giving friendly vibes so i couldn’t figure out if he’s being a gentleman or he really didn’t feel chemistry as i did. He asked for a third one before leaving so I’ll clear things out once for all.
I think he had enough time to know, i rather know his true feelings than play dumb games and waste more time on an avoidant immature guy.
"Here is what I need. Good luck.". I love this!
Its hard to go test driving. Im afraid to get my heart hurt if it doesn't work out. There is one man i want but he's taking forever. 😔
It's better to realize it and cut it off, and find another guy the faster the better.
Love your hair!
Just walk away. Waste of time trying to fix a dusty.
Sprinkle sprinkle ✨✨😂😂😂
Dusty mothballs😅
Yes this was truly very helpful, especially the part on how to communicate your standards to a man. I think this is where me and probably other women, get lost a lot of times, as we think a man will understand if we explain him how we feel. But they dont. Because theyre not a woman. But i never knew how to tell a man an expectation and let him be to live up to it.
I absolutely enjoy your videos. The contents really resonate with me. “ Little effort man doesn’t deserve strong emotions “ . I love it .
i guessed thats probably why some high value men are still single, a grown man should know how to pursue the woman he loves n wants a future with her.
I made his life so easy, tried to make him feel so special, shared how I felt and told him exactly what I need a hundred times. He's just won't put in the effort to make me feel special even when he thinks he's going to loose me. Married for over 20 yrs. But it is so depressing.
I just told him that I didn’t expect to see him again and that it was nice to meet him. He immediately responded with “I’ve been crazy busy with work, but that isn’t an excuse for inconsistent communication. I hope I can see you again, but I totally understand if you wouldn’t want to” I said “I was making plans and following up on them before, which clearly didn’t work for either of us, so you would have to step into that role. Others in the past have mistaken my generosity for something else and that was a great misapprehension on their part” and he said “I have experienced that as well, and I not only respect, but appreciate your boundaries” so I said “thank you”. I guess we’ll see if he actually means it. I don’t have any particular investment in either outcome anymore though. I think he realises he fumbled me
So glad this video popped up. I needed to hear this. Thank you Brian
Why didn't I know before! ? I grew up not learning a bit about relationships, and I ended up being broke hearted many times
Same here @yarahejaz1687! I didn't start learning about relationships until I was in my late 30s :(
Thanks Brian for this advice. Not giving a man the spot that is not right for him.
This is what my current situation is, long story we broke up
Now I don’t have time for him
The tables has turned🎉
I have him on a string but don’t urgently want or need him. He has realized with the distance how much I mean to him, he won’t tell me but now he is positive and avilable for the little time I have for him. I have once again found myself and what makes me happy.🎉 inner happiness is key, I’m a sigma female I’m afraid he is a co dependent male.
My ex has just returned to me after being with a woman for 5 years, they are engaged she's 23 years younger than me & 13 years younger than him. He back with me because she puts her friends /pre relationship activities before him.
He was constantly left at home while she did her 'thing' several nights a week & always felt left out at nights out with her friends as she totally ignored him & he had to make conversation with people he'd never met before or been introduced to.
So, for her your ideas definitely didn't work.
You're either a couple or your single. You can't expect to live a single life & live as a couple. It will not work. Yes, you need not to give up your own identity. But don't take it too far!
He wasnt the right person for her.
You let him come back???😮
@@susancampbell7335 my same thought. I'm sorry but he seems he doesn't want to be alone. I hope I'm wrong but probably he will leave again 😢 also I wouldn't never take him back.
Hopefully you sending that man right back where he came from 😂
Good for that other woman, learn from her she’s living her life
I needed this. Moving on but it took a long time.❤
Me too, sis. We're getting there 🙏
The thing about when a guy feels things for you…I need help understanding that. Like, when it happens, how it happens, how to recognize when a guy is feeling things (since they don’t verbalize it) and how to elicit more feelings in him. Guys are supposed to be simple, but my experience shows me that they think things in their heads and then surprise you with them later - both good and bad. So, how to know how it all works is what I’m trying to grasp.
YES. At least the first part about "I thought I wanted one, but...." LOL
Thank you, Brian. I needed this. ❤
Funny guy, you had me cracking up with your analysis of the seven hundred square feet example.I almost missed out on your very wise advice, some reason I just saw the video, watching your videos gets me very excited about the future.Thanks my imaginary brother.
Thank you Geert I appreciate you're videos I'm struggling after a few years of things in that mono vibe no dates despite talking about it, not talking about it, asking, not asking, I'm at a loss I admit I have low confidence from being in a domestic violent relationship in my past which makes me a people pleaser the very thing I'm trying to fix, thank you I will try to put you're Great Advice into practice 💙
I love it when you stay to the very end of you're pep talk videos... Hope it's a Fantabulous week.
Spot on, as always!!
This guy just speaks exactly what I'm going through
Love you Brian, so true what you are trying to teach women and men….thank you!!
5:28 this is what I needed to hear :) thank you so much
5:20 I needed to hear this
I think what is failed to understand is when you have loved someone and been in a committed relationship for a number of years sometimes 2-3 years, maybe more for some people, and its been clear what the feelings are and then you come to find out you are being used and manipulated for what you can do for the guy and how amazing you make them feel with all the beautiful incredible love they have coming into their life and this is just some ego boost for them after a while and you realize you are being taken advantage of it makes a person very upset, so just saying this is what I want and then walking away is a very rudimentary impractical unrealistic next step, thats not how it works out, there will be a brutal slaying of emotions that takes place and there is no other way to get out of that process other than walking through it one day at a time.
It’s not y’all just scared. Stop prolonging the inevitable and walk away it’s simple
And when we’re done waiting, there’s no going back!
Thank you!!! From the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤
This was, hands down
The BEST video you have ever made
Ever
And that's saying something 😊
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brian you are the best thank you
i love watching your videos 🤍
another great one, THANK YOU
Perfect Brian, thank you so much, I always stay to the end of your insightful,helpful video's, love Donna from Sydney Australia 😇
"Test driving"? Yeah, no.
Yes this makes a lot of sense. I think I now know what I need to do. Thank you
THANK YOU, thank you, thank you for this. I really needed to hear this right now! Long distance is hard, but I spelt it out last night that I can’t do long distance part-time. It needs to be full-time or nothing because that’s what I deserve. We’ll see what happens next…
I needed to hear this today! Thank you 🙏🏼
I always say if you like someone, look at the way they treat others! He might look like he care about himself, he might just want attention, he has low self esteem
Brian, you are one of the best guys on CZcams for relationship advice!!
Thank you!
Bravo 👏🏾 Thank you Brian!
Low effort is so perfect a description.
The power house guy is like night and day.
You are such an amazing person. I love watching your videos. Wish I could have watched it earlier ❤
This guy that was pursuing me and I thought things would get more serious, all of a sudden he tells me he is afraid to fall in love....so now he says he does not want to date now😡😡😡
Love this great idea! 👍
I so love you Brian.....you are so right. ❤
Thank you Brian, but the hardest part is replacing him with someone as special😢
What is the difference between a narc and an avoidant when they come back? What sentence/ do they use?
'let's say he sees you going away...' He did see me going away. Forever ;)
Thank you Brian!!! I needed to hear this
Thank you so much for this
This was excellent
Excellent!
His therapist or mother?! 🤢😢🤮😢
Thank you so much!😊
I really wish for a guy I could make all those“mistakes” with only to have him do the same with me. We would both get so high on each other that none of us would have any sense left to think what’s smart and what’s not. I’m really done pretending I’m cool when in fact I’m burning from desire. I neeed a constant quench!
EXACTLY THAT
Omgod....so so so needed this at this time,where im struggling to come out of virtual situationship n no real dating....thnku so much for this video...
low effort men will be met with the same …..it’s ok .
Mommy once told me only to date "finished product" men. No such thing as fixing a man. You are not a plumber or a mechanic. One red flag and you must flee, said my mom. Period. I love and like and admire my dad so much, and I want a man who cherish me as my dad cherish my mom, so I guess I'll beter believe in my mom.
I can listen to your wonderful advice all day long, thank you so much
You're awesome--especially with the analogies! LOL
Brian Nox ? Knox ..😊this is great stuff!! Hair doo is awesome too.
I lost aggregate 18 years on dudes who would never meet me where I am and assure me they’re into me. This is so so true
His triggers seem key to many things. Some men have too many past triggers that may never be deactivated.
Thank you so much, I needed to hear this 🥺
Urgh I could be a pro coach at this point. But retiring now thank you v much 🙌🏾
Beautiful video Brian. I am in a funny spot with someone I just met who seems “low effort.” It gets really confusing on what to do. I want him to step up on his own. Not sure what to do next.
I am 52 , I never met a guy I would feel comfortable sleeping next to 😂
Thank you, the nail.☦️ neutral is not the choice. No is the decision.
Excellent pep talk!
Such a great video! Much love
The person won't have to worry about that neither will I because I won't be interested
I just found your page and started to watch your video's. I like your video's, but it would be amazing if you can put subtitles to them, not automatic subtitles. Sometimes it is not easy to catch up with your words or sentences.
knock knock Knox (: A fun Pen name would be Richard Robert. Knox, you always wear black so I think you’ll understand 😉
This is such a great video. Thank you ❤
Shouldn't have to do either 😊
then you don't know how it works...
@@mariaathena7910I left a fake guy who thinks the world owes him because of his apparently bad upbringing 😂 So.. .I don't think so somehow 😊
Fantastic advice!! ❤
The person won't have to worry about that neither will I because I won't be interested.
Was any man on here with giving advice on not to chase any man first of all I'm not chasing any men online I'm minding my own business like that person should be doing instead of being worried about what I'm doing when I am not even chasing any man on here. Also if there's no romantic relationship with whomever that I thought it was and there's nothing there then and I can go on with my life not be bothered by the whomever like that.
So we perceive respect that we want for others differently. That is ok
07:55 "you set the the standard...the right guy will get there" Sounds like a nice idea, but I don't think that it could work out in real life. No guy will put up with women's high standards, they don't have time for this. Men are already low energy and effort when your demands are on a "normal" spectrum, they surely will not put in more effort when they sense high maintenance or standards. They'd back off in an instant. The only exception for them to do something nice for us, is when they get something out if it themselves, i. e. vacation, a vehicle they will drive too, but if something is for the woman only, never ever will they invest. Nevertheless, ladies, listen closely ❤ to this passage: 07:05-10:15
❤ Thanks for this video.
excellent ! ❤
Excellent video! Appreciate your insight. Thanks
What if im married with kids? There are so many things to consider not to mention major loss of money
Thank you
Thank you Brian ❤
You’re a great guy!
You're brilliant
Definitely not trying to receive validation, either you like me or you don't