What is Suffering? The Hidden Truth | Nonduality
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 19. 06. 2024
- đ” Try 7- Min Morning Practice to Dissolve Anxiety by Erasing a Metaphorical Selfie. More info on my web: livunbound.com/morning Are you ready to transform the way you understand suffering? After watching this video, youâll gain a new perspective on why we suffer and how to stop it. We often view suffering as something dramatic-like losing a loved one or facing a severe illness-but it's the daily compromises and hidden self-identities that truly marinate us in mental suffering.
In this video, we dive deep into the philosophy of why we suffer in life and uncover the true nature of suffering. Weâll explore how we endure situations and relationships, settling for less than we deserve, and putting up with things because we believe we have no other choice. You'll learn how these hidden self-identities create a relentless inner critic, keeping us in a cycle of dissatisfaction. Weâll challenge the modern badge of honor that comes from appearing problem-free and reveal the storm that often rages beneath. By recognizing and dismantling the beliefs and identities that cause suffering, youâll see that suffering is not a given, but a choice.
If you're wondering why you suffer so much, why you feel mental suffering, or how non-duality can help, this video is for you. Weâll discuss the concept of non-duality suffering and how connecting with your Core Self can lead to emotional freedom even in the face of profound challenges.
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I think that social media is a good example of constant unrealized suffering. I think for most people, if they quit social media, they would be happier. Social media and is just not natural. It takes away from the natural joys and processes of life living. Unfortunately, Iâm afraid that weâre generally at a point of no return as a species. đ
I definitely agree and I really wish more people were aware of it. Being 21 and struggling to make friends and have connections, despite trying really hard, I can see how many other people my age (and I can imagine it extends to all ages) are easily avoidant of relationships and interaction with others because they can get just enough to fulfill themselves online - like watching CZcamsrs for example. People can be seemingly outgoing, but not proactive to hang out with people and push through the awkwardness that is interaction to get to know someone and eventually comfortable with them - because it's much more comfortable to stay at home and get what you need mostly online. I'm definitely letting myself do this too at this point in time, because I've used up all my energy trying to change this in other people so we can experience life together and it hasn't worked out. I've ended up ghosted and just left feeling entirely underappreciated. So now I'm just waiting to find someone that actually also has desire to explore the world and themselves, as I can't do that for them. It's just sad because you can only make your own fun for so long and I just don't get how other people don't get so frustrated about it and are fine living like that - particularly at this age. I feel like a lot of people I know are wasting their time and only put in effort with Uni work, their jobs, or giving all of their attention only to their partners - which they mostly just sit around at home with.
Also, social media is run by advertising which is just a constant stream of 'you don't have enough' - rarely are advertisements trying to promote a product to just help people. Plus with people posting the best version of themselves, it's hard not to feel bad about yourself as that's all you have to compare to.
I just think that without social media, people would be made to be more aware of their own lives and how lonely and unfulfilled they really are and would be more driven to actually live life and make real connections.
Wow I believe it was no mistake, and that I was definitely supposed to hear this today. Ty for the reminder that I am suffering, putting up with, things I DO have a choice to change. Sometimes that's all you need to hear. I've been following you now for over 10 yrs and you btw look amazing but have always helped me and shared your wisdom and knowledge, I will never be able to express how grateful I am. Ty â€
This was extremely timely for me; thank you for sharing your wonderful perspective with us.
Glad it was helpful!
I feel super compelled to chime in here. Because my own use of this concept of suffering is significantly different than you have described, but still maybe it is useful for somebody. For me it isnât that Iâm tolerating some kind of constant negativity on âmeâ that I can decide to avoid. One way of understanding it is that suffering is taking the ascribing of meaning, either good or bad, too seriously, and letting it disrupt the natural flow of events. Itâs that reality is essentially a bunch of stuff happening, and all the meaning is just invented in our mind. Essentially, a series of thoughts that come in that we interpret as being an identity.
suffering is attachment to the self identity. You kind of want to get to a place where you are a bit aloof, and not take everything seriously, but you just let it happen. So for example, you might see something horrifying. But you donât let that mark you and brand you for life. You just noticed that horror happened. I think the basic idea is âchill, dudeâ.
Thanks for chiming in! I appreciate your perspective. Youâre right that suffering is created by ascribing meaning to everything, which leads us to tolerate situations that donât serve us. It sounds like youâre suggesting that we take this meaning too seriously, and I'd like to challenge that a bit.
When the story held by the false identity is in place, we donât have a choice, even though it always feels like there is something we can do. We can try to âchillâ and let things happen, but we will inevitably sabotage ourselves because those underlying stories are still controlling the way we react to others and the world. The only real choice, if we can call it that, is to question these stories and allow them to collapse along with the false identities they support. What follows is a natural, effortless action without the burden of suffering.
Thanks again for your insight, and Iâd love to hear more of your thoughts on this!
The self is always suffering. It believes in the illusion of itself and wanting more. More money. More food. More sex. More knowledge. As it appears to aquire More it becomes increasingly frustrated that it can't overcome its desire for 'things' what it really wants is the end of seeking. But it continues to look for it with more things.
Hi! I refuse suffering. But I have trouble now bonding with others. Can you do a video about emotional bonding?
Great topic, thank you for the idea! I just wonder, Why do you think you have trouble now bonding with others?
@@LivKissper I experienced a near death betrayal. I have no hard feelings, no anxious thoughts, and no thoughts of any of it at all. After all, it has been 3 years later. Now, I donât have the desire to form any meaningful relationships. People connect to me, but I cannot connect to them and all of my emotions are passive. Maybe I am too suffering, but differently.
No one has been able to touch me as deep as Iâve been hurt.. no meaningful platonic closeness, friendship, bonding over the same core passion. Iâm an emotional rock and I donât want to be.
@@ejcovington7372 I'm really sorry you had to go through that, it sounds awful and I can't even begin imagine what that would be like. I'm wondering if you could try just letting someone you logically know is stable in a little bit- like just a little snippet of a part of you that feels deeply towards something and see how it goes. Then, you can open up to them more and more and that will make you feel more vulnerable and open in a stable way. It could make you feel more desire to connect with people again, as the potential of it happening will become real. You could even open up to a stranger about something (could be even through an anonymous chat room or something) and see how it goes. I'm thinking to challenge your beliefs about how people will treat you, but it'll be hard as you'll need to figure out what you can open up about that isn't so deep to hurt you so deeply again. Also just remember that while you could possibly get a shit reaction from someone, you'll always have yourself to rely on - the fact you're aware of your own problems and want to fix it shows you care about yourself enough. Now it's just to find others that you can also rely on and care for each other to whatever degree both of you are able.
I don't know your situation exactly, but I hope that this might be of some help to you and I wish you all the best.