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  • Warning: this episode contains content you may find distressing.
    Kate Elysia is a survivor of gang grooming. Kate was just 18 and at college in Telford when the sexual abuse started - and changed her life forever. In this episode she shares what followed after the first horrific attack, her attempts to report the abusers, developing PTSD, and finally finding ways to break away.
    This is an episode of Extraordinary Lives, where we speak to people with a unique life story to tell. From a North Korea escapee to an undercover cop, a Cold War spy to a shipwreck survivor. Hosted by LADbible's Ben-Powell Jones, this series is a window into remarkable experiences - with stories that paint a picture of extraordinary lives.
    Thanks to Kate for taking part! Kate would like other survivors of sexual exploitation know that it can be stopped, you can recover and you're worth more than you know. Kate's twitter: / kateelysiatruth
    Host: Ben Powell-Jones, Twitter: @BenPowellJones
    00:00 - 00:11:39 - Introduction
    00:11:39 - 00:23:25 - First Attack
    00:27:51 - 00:30:18 - Police Failure
    00:34:48 - 00:37:48 - Why Do They Do It - Breaking A Humans Will
    00:39:00 - 00:51:25 - The Party Incident
    00:55;14 - 01:02:03 - Planning An Escape
    01:02:03 -01:08:29 - PTSD Attacks
    01:08:29 - 01:20:31 - The Second Gang
    01:20:31 - 1:11:30 - The Fight For Justice
    01:36:08 - 01:42:00 - Life Lesson
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  • @Alizardlovesyou
    @Alizardlovesyou Před 9 měsíci +50

    Her suicide note was an apology, which sheds new light on how often she apologizes through out telling her story.

    • @louiselouise8133
      @louiselouise8133 Před dnem

      Heartbreaking this, she said she feels guilty about letting him in the door, I wish I could give this poor young woman a huge hug, so so upset right now

  • @esteehanvey5647
    @esteehanvey5647 Před 8 měsíci +108

    you guys picked a really good interviewer - he is very empathetic and supportive while giving these people space to process.

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 Před 4 měsíci +29

    It sounds like a Stockholm syndrome.
    She was at wrong place at the wrong time when it all started. William was probably the main culprit who sold her to his "friends". What a heartbreaking story.

  • @tapashyarasaily1373
    @tapashyarasaily1373 Před 11 měsíci +50

    William was the real culprint...he wasnt just a broken man. he was the reason why she came in contact with the others. he must ve been truly diabolical to do this to her.

    • @billybobdog3815
      @billybobdog3815 Před 4 měsíci +5

      William was the bait that's how grooming gangs work they always have to have a introducer and William was just as fearful of them as she explained

    • @prunelle9051
      @prunelle9051 Před 2 měsíci

      Yep, that's how they do it... they sent ''the covert fragile one'' but in reality he's truly dangerous and most probably sociopathic like the others. This type is the feeder grooming you to trust him... until your ''ready'' or in a sufficient state of confusion not to think that something bad is about to happen, even though your instincts are telling you otherwise.

  • @rebeccajohnson4130
    @rebeccajohnson4130 Před 10 měsíci +106

    As a therapist, I am incredibly thankful that this beautiful young woman had the strength to carry on, and survive this horrific abuse!!! I am also so impressed by the interviewers empathy and genuine ability to listen, put her at ease, and help her to be able to share her journey through this hell and back! Tysm for both of you to bring awareness to this heinous situation!!! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️😞😞😞

    • @vibrationsofhealinglove
      @vibrationsofhealinglove Před 6 měsíci +1

      @rebeccajohnsob4130 i too am a therapist and a clinical trauma support specialist

  • @420Khatz
    @420Khatz Před 8 měsíci +94

    I love that she names the perpetrators- that has to take such strength.

  • @bajan_dw
    @bajan_dw Před rokem +665

    I'm saddened by her constant excuses for William. He sounds just as abusive as the other men she's encountered, but she seems unable to see it. I pray she heals completely 😢🙏🏾

    • @Anti_NWO-WEF
      @Anti_NWO-WEF Před rokem +45

      This very often happens because in her mind that was initially her friend and because she's such a kind hearted person, also studying psychology...she felt pitty for William as he was at a special needs school etc...making excuses for him. He was the only one (guy) whom was kind to her. But William was scared for this gang as well... It's like a coping mechanism to at least still have a person that was good. I have only watched half so I don't know whether William ever graped her as well but if not than the above happens a lot. 😢 I do agree with you 100% though!

    • @gregzeng
      @gregzeng Před 11 měsíci +14

      When William learning eventually what had been happening to her, he did what many decent adults around her also did.
      Eventually they encouraged her to report to the police etc. Everything worked as well as could be expected, over all.

    • @cheese_and_crackers3270
      @cheese_and_crackers3270 Před 11 měsíci +19

      I really cant get my head round why she didnt leave town after the first rape! It doesnt make sence to me.

    • @colettejaques2559
      @colettejaques2559 Před 11 měsíci +38

      ​@@cheese_and_crackers3270well educate yourself

    • @colettejaques2559
      @colettejaques2559 Před 11 měsíci +5

      @@Anti_NWO-WEF SHE was wearing rose colored glasses...it's that simple. PhD

  • @charmainepriestman915
    @charmainepriestman915 Před 11 měsíci +165

    I wish I could take away this young womans pain 💔
    Young lady you are a Phoenix. You rose from the ashes and found the strength and courage to tell your story.
    Sending you love, light and my utmost admiration.

  • @0Flow0
    @0Flow0 Před rokem +343

    Her story stayed with me from the original video because it was so shocking and unbelievable. It was good to hear more about it. She's so brave for telling her story

    • @lesliewind338
      @lesliewind338 Před 11 měsíci +5

      I have watched several videos that were victim-reporting videos. This video stands out for her story and her manner. I will remember her reporting forever.

    • @HillbillyYEEHAA
      @HillbillyYEEHAA Před 11 měsíci

      Sex trafficking normally ends with hundreds of people raping 1 girl or woman. It's not far fetched.

    • @rashedhashlamon7546
      @rashedhashlamon7546 Před 8 měsíci

      Referring to your own words to describe what your mind is processing... You know why her story "stands out" and sounds "unbelievable"?... The reason is because her story is mixed with lies. I don't believe her. It's obvious to me.

    • @emperorhideyoshi3223
      @emperorhideyoshi3223 Před 3 měsíci

      @@rashedhashlamon7546how is she lying

  • @user-uc4zj3hf3q
    @user-uc4zj3hf3q Před 10 měsíci +67

    What a woman - honestly. It takes such strength to be able to share such a horrific story so openly with the world. I don’t doubt that her openness will save other women directly through her work as a nurse and indirectly through interviews like this. Truly inspirational ❤

  • @audreykane4946
    @audreykane4946 Před rokem +158

    What a harrowing story. This woman will save lives sharing her story. She is the epitome of strength

  • @wyldevoices
    @wyldevoices Před 7 měsíci +16

    OMG. My heart breaks for her. And I am so absolutely livid. The police and the counselor she spoke with after the first rape completely failed her. What an incredible survivor.

  • @Natacha_tormey
    @Natacha_tormey Před rokem +169

    No need to ever feel shame. You were the victim and a strong survivor who is bravely speaking out to help others. Really informative and interesting interview that sheds light on terrible crimes that I didn’t know much about. All the best to this lovely lady and I’m sure she will help many other survivors ❤

    • @chanalexa6923
      @chanalexa6923 Před rokem +16

      It breaks my heart that she keeps apologizing for nothing😢

    • @ryantate6447
      @ryantate6447 Před rokem +14

      Terrible, it's disgusting how the authorities turnt a blind eye due to fear of being called racist

    • @lonsdaleslipons9570
      @lonsdaleslipons9570 Před rokem +4

      ​@Ryan Tate pretty much modern day society

    • @upendasana7857
      @upendasana7857 Před 10 měsíci

      @@ryantate6447 Rubbish,this stuff happen with plenty of white boys in gangs and wrong'uns too.Unfortunately many men and young boys raoe abd assault young girls and women.Maybe focus on the men who do this of all sectsors of society rather than making it a race issue.
      Look at how you or friends around you or men talk about women and treat women,this behaviour is all too common and exists in all sectors of society.

  • @kshunatona
    @kshunatona Před 11 měsíci +108

    What a gift that she ended up in Mental Health Nursing. I hope this career helped her understand what happened to her and help others in need. She should hold no blame or responsibility for what happened to her. Being naive and not worldly is an innocent place and she was blessed to come f that place. And above all she’s a survivor and no one can take that from her! Bravo to her and all survivors….without you we will never learn and grow! ❤😢😊

    • @annefairchild3529
      @annefairchild3529 Před 8 měsíci +5

      She still needs help. God be with her.

    • @syon600
      @syon600 Před 5 měsíci

      What a great woman. Agree she came from an innocent place....and is blessed to come from that place. Unfortunately the level of pathology/ deviance in the population make such individuals obvious targets to predators with Eagle eyes who prey on them, traumatising and thus destroying them. I count myself in the traumatised group.

  • @user-so8mf2rg7j
    @user-so8mf2rg7j Před 10 měsíci +33

    Ben, you are such a compassionate, huge hearted man. Your voice is calming and your gentleness is a comfort to your guest(s) as always. This just seemed so hard for her. You make my heart smile.

  • @Dianelee999
    @Dianelee999 Před rokem +184

    That terrible sinking feeling when you realize that your life has taken an awful turn… there is a feeling of resignation from all your hopes and aspirations. I want this young lady to know that her message reaches deep and clear to other victims/survivors of trauma, and to thank her for her demonstrated desire to help others. I hope that she will come to know how strong and beautiful she really is. 🌈💜🇺🇸

    • @brandonfree3059
      @brandonfree3059 Před rokem

      The police masons and hospitals are trafficking women. JFK North Palm Beach Florida drugs rapes and tortures and experiments on young girls and homeless people any woman they can get their hands on they will rape to the point of having no skin down there and you’ll be held long enough to not get a forensic rape exam or a toxicology report while the staff does Satanic ritual abuse on all the people in the hospital behind closed doors all day all night and feed you human meat this is not a joke. The police that are involved in the masons that are in on it think this is fun to then follow the women or anybody who survives afterwards and keep them silent no one is pressing charges and there is so much abuse in that facility it has to be shut down. Elderly are also being extorted of their money & houses bf dying inside there.

    • @gabriellemateljan7765
      @gabriellemateljan7765 Před 10 měsíci +6

      So much of what you have said resonates with me as does this brave woman’s feelings of feeling different and in one moment life as I knew it changed. Bless this woman for speaking out.

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Před 10 měsíci

      i live in leeds road bradford3 mirpuri gangs musli8msw pkies abuse oldme3n diswable get target by t5hese

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Před 10 měsíci +3

      in bradford police dont doe anyt5hi9ng

    • @katiescott2975
      @katiescott2975 Před 9 měsíci +4

      The police system is very flawed as is society and i wish people could do more to change things before people get damaged.

  • @DuchessOfFlamingos
    @DuchessOfFlamingos Před 11 měsíci +37

    William was never her friend. He had a specific role to play in this gang.

  • @rachaelghostcat8584
    @rachaelghostcat8584 Před rokem +76

    I hope this lady finds love and good fortune for what's happened to her. She's one strong woman!

  • @fookinavocado
    @fookinavocado Před rokem +48

    I'm only at the beginning of this story, but it's very interesting hearing her continuously defend "william" (who seemed to be the conduit into this horrific lifestyle) like he wasn't part of the problem (despite potentially being a victim himself)

  • @elizabethannferrario7113
    @elizabethannferrario7113 Před rokem +69

    From one nurse to another your one brave soul , no need to be ashamed i am beside you every step of the way ! in fact i am very proud of you !

  • @meganthememe130
    @meganthememe130 Před 11 měsíci +22

    this interviewer is amazing. he really makes the effort to not pressure her

  • @highlandergrog6041
    @highlandergrog6041 Před 7 měsíci +17

    “Of course”
    It’s such a powerful and healing phrase. When you share the worst things that have happened to you and the other person said “of course.” It makes you feel like “ohhh, of course I was terrified…anyone put in that situation would feel the same way. Thank you to you and everybody you’ve interviewed. Interviewee and interviewer you’ve helped more people than you can imagine, keep doing what you do!!!

  • @lisar7364
    @lisar7364 Před rokem +37

    She still has a long way to go in healing. She still has a scripted excuse for William. William led her to the Lions Den. Just horrible. I pray there is justice some where along the way against each of the perps. So sorry you had to go through all of this.

    • @kateelysia1
      @kateelysia1 Před rokem +15

      At the end of the day William was the same age as me, just a lost teenager, I can’t blame him anymore than I can blame myself. He didn’t rape me. The rapists are the perpetrators, we were just teenagers caught up in a terrible system that was not on our side. It is not good psychology to continue to hold on to grudges. He shows remorse, I forgive him and I forgive myself. I don’t forgive them, the men who raped me, who do not have any remorse for what they did.

    • @lisaliza7009
      @lisaliza7009 Před 11 měsíci +5

      ​@@kateelysia1 We are just mad on your behalf Queen 🎉

    • @MPPG663
      @MPPG663 Před 8 měsíci +10

      ​@@kateelysia1Of course there's an appropriate place for understanding and forgiveness, but that understanding and forgiveness does not mean painting over the facts.
      Perhaps William was afraid. Perhaps he was naive. Perhaps he is remorseful...
      But it seems quite obvious that he wasn't ignorant. He knew what would happen and what was happening.
      Accountability is not evidence of holding a grudge.
      Wishing you and evey person who has emerged from any darkness lasting healing.

  • @alexlief2072
    @alexlief2072 Před rokem +60

    Wow! What this lady went through was tremendously terrible and I think she's incredibly brave. I'm very proud of the fact she done this episode, I wish her the best 💖.

  • @lulumoon6942
    @lulumoon6942 Před 7 měsíci +10

    😍Former longtime Victim Advocate here: The articulate grasp Kate has on the personal & systemic factors of these crimes is STUNNING! I pray that she continues to heal and find the peace she deserves. 👍🙏🕊️

  • @John-lq5kz
    @John-lq5kz Před 11 měsíci +39

    6 and a half years for destroying multiple life's. Absolute joke the UK justice system.

  • @courtneystewart8006
    @courtneystewart8006 Před 11 měsíci +40

    This content is so important to share as it helps viewers recognize and understand what has happened to them or see warning signs that could save them from harm. The interviewer is very respectful and encouraging which allows these survivors to feel safe sharing their stories. So much strength and resilience in this woman and I hope she continues to get therapy to process it all over time.

  • @mariaryan8519
    @mariaryan8519 Před rokem +83

    what an absolute powerful lady . I am a survivor too . keep shining bright . we change so many lives . I would love to chat with you Kate . Best wishes moving forward .

  • @soniauk4284
    @soniauk4284 Před 11 měsíci +28

    What an incredible woman - such strength and resilience through such a horrific crime.
    Just want to give her a big hug 🙏❤️🤗

  • @ShellTramaine
    @ShellTramaine Před 9 měsíci +9

    What an incredible story of survival and courage. This woman is a hero! I also want to thank the interviewer for his sensitive and thoughtful demeanor and his ability to give a safe space to Kate. It takes respect and skill to do that.

  • @noavocadoanymore
    @noavocadoanymore Před rokem +43

    Harrowing. She is so brave and must know how many girls she will be educating and saving moving forwards.

  • @jessicadenningfamily
    @jessicadenningfamily Před 11 měsíci +15

    Thank you for speaking for so many of us.
    Your honesty shines light into the hearts of those who have been marginalized and isolated by abusers.

  • @catherinegrace2366
    @catherinegrace2366 Před 11 měsíci +48

    I appreciate the support shown this brave and beautiful woman. Thank you all!
    We need to support survivors and this is what it looks like.
    I appreciate this woman’s bravery and God bless her for surviving such horrific obstacles. Bless her Lord Jesus.

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Před 10 měsíci

      yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

  • @believeable1965
    @believeable1965 Před 8 měsíci +17

    She is still spiritually connected to William. Praying for her deliverance.

    • @MPPG663
      @MPPG663 Před 8 měsíci +6

      Yup, the way she excuses him and believed he was into her is an indication that she's rewritten the story to cope.

  • @Samfl0wers
    @Samfl0wers Před rokem +35

    I honestly hope that she has the most wonderful life from now on. I know that's unrealistic but what happened to her and others is more than deeply disturbing, I have no words. I truly hope the universe sends her everything she needs and wants. She deserves to live her best life.

  • @patbrumph6769
    @patbrumph6769 Před rokem +22

    Wow! This has really been informative, a truly great interview. Kate is an extraordinary person to be able to speak so matter of factly about so personal and devastating an assault. She really puts to shame the critics who condemn , "Well, why didn't you scream, fight back, run away, go to the police, tell someone. Why didn't you? Why didn't you? Why didn't you? Well, if you had only, but you didn't." How does a person explain the fear, confusion, self-blame, guilt, shame, and other complex emotions and mental processes involved in such a horrible experience. Kate did a great job explaining all these things and was able to keep herself together while doing it.

  • @doodlebug52
    @doodlebug52 Před 11 měsíci +12

    Thats just horrible, that she had to hide away from her flat. The flat is supposed to be a safe haven. And that William is criminal. Prayers for her complete and total healing. 🙏

  • @waytooboring-
    @waytooboring- Před 5 měsíci +6

    stories like these make me feel as though there’s no light in this world, truly and honestly, this is horrifying beyond words can ever describe. i’m so sorry this happened to you

    • @ArkadiaTube
      @ArkadiaTube Před 3 měsíci

      We would not be alive today without the intelligent, caring humans that create solutions. We all can choose to be light bringers despite the suffering.

  • @briellemarsh
    @briellemarsh Před rokem +14

    Incredibly brave to share her story yet again. I cannot imagine the pain this must bring Kate every time she shares this for awareness. Sending an abundance of love and light. May the rest of your life be filled with the most peace and support as possible.

  • @joannebutzerin6448
    @joannebutzerin6448 Před 11 měsíci +18

    They are taught that they are better than other people and have the right to abuse them. I am glad she told what they did. Very brave of her, and few victims can explain it so well. Admire her.

  • @pauldavies9314
    @pauldavies9314 Před rokem +52

    police and your community let you down, you deserve every compliment for fighting through this and trying to help prevent it happening elsewhere ❤

    • @brandonfree3059
      @brandonfree3059 Před rokem

      The police masons and hospitals are trafficking women. JFK North Palm Beach Florida drugs rapes and tortures and experiments on young girls and homeless people any woman they can get their hands on they will rape to the point of having no skin down there and you’ll be held long enough to not get a forensic rape exam or a toxicology report while the staff does Satanic ritual abuse on all the people in the hospital behind closed doors all day all night and feed you human meat this is not a joke. The police that are involved in the masons that are in on it think this is fun to then follow the women or anybody who survives afterwards and keep them silent no one is pressing charges and there is so much abuse in that facility it has to be shut down. Elderly are also being extorted of their money & houses bf dying inside there.

    • @sandyschneider6792
      @sandyschneider6792 Před rokem +10

      She was essentially used by the police too!

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Před 11 měsíci +6

      I really hope things have improved where the police response is concerned. Sadly, SA is a huge problem all over the world, and there needs to be some type of reform in how victims are treated, how we teach our children about the danger or warning signs, etc.

    • @pamelalandon2423
      @pamelalandon2423 Před 10 měsíci

      The British Police don't do much against the Muslim Immigrant Males.

    • @upendasana7857
      @upendasana7857 Před 10 měsíci

      @@zxy78267 Yes very true,the police are supposed to be better trained and more aware of grooming and sexual abuse and should always take reports of rape seriously whether they think they will reach court or not.just because the burden of proof and process is a difficult one should not mean that they simply allow a victim or reported victim to go without following up or offering support and proper counselling.
      They completely failed her and sadly continue to fail those who report sexual violence and DV,they should be on it straight away and have proctocols in place to support victims.
      They more or less sent her off to be abused again and again.

  • @helenh493
    @helenh493 Před 11 měsíci +20

    Poor girl.. I felt bad for her, and disgust for those guys. She was soo naive, she didn't realize William was a part of this rape gang, whether he was "in" this gang or one of the "come-on" (patsy) guys, setting up these lone, naive girls or not, he was a part of it and knew what was going on, and was going to happen. This showed immediately when that rapist told William what he did (or had her do to him), even though he did worse. It was part of the "Good guy, Bad guy" plot. They do all of this to make the young and naive feel off balance and like it was their (the girls) fault. So they will be afraid to report it to anyone, parent or authority. Then they'd gang rape, and start selling her out.. so to speak. It can actually happen to much younger girls then her. But its very sad and disgusting that this happens to anyone.

  • @lovearttherapyalways
    @lovearttherapyalways Před 11 měsíci +38

    What monsters live amongst us...harming women that way!Courageous woman! I hope God restores her completely!

    • @RyanS406
      @RyanS406 Před 11 měsíci +4

      “God” let this happen, grow up

    • @lovearttherapyalways
      @lovearttherapyalways Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@RyanS406 God does not remove free choice that people choose evil or good. God is good and one day there will be justice. And you grow up yourself there buddy boy!

    • @gems5638
      @gems5638 Před 10 měsíci

      God is ready to swoop in and help with healing despite sitting back and having no control over these evil things. As if. Can’t you just wish some one your best without bringing religion in.

    • @danip6648
      @danip6648 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@gems5638 Why be so upset about my response which contains my faith. If you ever are willing to humble yourself to know the truth and God's Word, read Psalm 37. God will not only swoop in at the appointed time but will judge and judge righteously! God bless you, humbly!

    • @DC3Refom
      @DC3Refom Před 19 dny

      you xan thank the cult of psssylyyyum

  • @generalmanager384
    @generalmanager384 Před 11 měsíci +14

    You never need to apologise for other people's actions. You are a beautiful strong woman.
    I wish you nothing but happiness for the rest of your life 🌻

  • @pattyfluegel7816
    @pattyfluegel7816 Před 7 měsíci +8

    Thank you for sharing your story. I work with victims of sexual abuse. It helps me to hear your bravely spoked first hand account of being groomed, and broken...things my clients have also been through and are working to process so that they can live now. I wish you all the healing available. You did nothing wrong. I am so very sorry this all happened to you.

    • @vibrationsofhealinglove
      @vibrationsofhealinglove Před 6 měsíci +1

      @pattyfluegel7816 survivor turned professional clinical trauma support specialist myself

  • @nicksterp2805
    @nicksterp2805 Před rokem +33

    You're so incredible Kate. I don't even know how you finished your studies. So strong and brave. I don't know how you even talk about it publicly. You deserve the best future.

    • @patriciarowe6685
      @patriciarowe6685 Před rokem +7

      More people need to talk about it otherwise it will stay underground.

    • @NothingByHalves
      @NothingByHalves Před 11 měsíci +5

      I know how she finished her studies - she compartmentalised.
      I did the same for my 'A's.
      I don't know how she only failed one, though. I got two Ds!
      She is incredible though, I agree. Very strong and brave.

  • @Elong.
    @Elong. Před 11 měsíci +51

    I’m glad that she studied psychology is school. With her experience she’ll be able to help so many. God bless her❤

    • @dianebarron8362
      @dianebarron8362 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Question Do men think women like and need sex like they do ? BECAUSE WE DON'T ! ! !

  • @sunny9233
    @sunny9233 Před rokem +28

    This woman is amazing. Thank you for shedding a light and exposing these monsters 👏

  • @angiemarriott
    @angiemarriott Před 11 měsíci +11

    Powerful interview. She is such a brave woman and the interviewer was a kind gentleman.

  • @courtnirose516
    @courtnirose516 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This woman's bravery and strength is nothing short of extraordinary... period!!! There is no other way to describe or say about the warrior I just listened to!!! An absolute inspiration in every imaginable sense!!

  • @nerd26373
    @nerd26373 Před rokem +32

    We appreciate videos like this. They're genuinely insightful.

    • @thewayoftheinterceptingfis4194
      @thewayoftheinterceptingfis4194 Před rokem

      Insightful? To be constantly reminded how weak vulnerable pathetic we the white community we can't even protect her own children from ethnic minorities for fear of a word get a grip man insightful

  • @karolinakorona1584
    @karolinakorona1584 Před 10 měsíci +21

    She made a very good point, often victims of coercion don't seem like a kind of person you would like to help. She unashamedly smashes the Hollywood's idea of a victim, the romanticised version that you would so much want to save, and paints the reality with ugly, rough, but pure truth. Very brave woman. Very honest interview. She teaches us that people in those kind of situations are extremely confused and it takes a lot of effort to help them. We need to help them. In truth we should help all of them, victims and abusers alike. That's where William comes in. We don't, they only go back to what they know. Great woman. Great interview. Wish you all the best!

  • @Yggdrasil1844
    @Yggdrasil1844 Před 4 měsíci +3

    When she said she was 18 and then said She said she was mature too. I cry in married at 16.

  • @DanaJunkin
    @DanaJunkin Před 8 měsíci +2

    This is absolutely horrendous! I’m so sorry you endured this for so long. I don’t even want to call you brave or strong because those words feel so hollow. I am in awe of your courage to speak up and tell your truth and share your abuse.

  • @jacobmyers8878
    @jacobmyers8878 Před 10 měsíci +2

    We are proud that you are coming forward , we are with you , and we wish you speedy healing

  • @caitlynmorris55
    @caitlynmorris55 Před rokem +27

    I found it shocking that you said you’re shy because I feel like you’re incredibly well spoken and I loved listening to your videos about your story. The fact you showed immense strength during and after such traumatic experiences in truly inspiring! Your story shows other people you can recover and be happy again.

  • @J.alexandra-3
    @J.alexandra-3 Před rokem +25

    This is a truly Heartbreaking and Devastating story. God bless you Kate, such an incredibly strong and resilient woman. 💛

  • @sandstar8185
    @sandstar8185 Před 6 měsíci +1

    You are so brave to use your unique and insightful position to frame your story. Not many women could be as clear. This will help both victims and other sufferers understand how trauma affects a person, how to get out of it against all odds- AND yet- so graciously use it to help themselves and others. You are a hero. Thank you for sharing Kate! I hope you do ‘Never give up!’

  • @annikajacobsen5205
    @annikajacobsen5205 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I am so incredibly sorry that you went through this, i cannot imagine your pain. None of it was your fault! People let you down, and you were so alone🥺 The strenght you showed in getting away, reporting it, and speaking out is incredible. Hope you truely get healing and get to live a good and happy life❤️

  • @Hipocahontess
    @Hipocahontess Před rokem +69

    The fact that she defending this “friend” is very telling… that’s how this happened. Ladies use your brain. Do not trust anyone. Her “friend” knew she was in danger and allowed it. Implying he is innocent is completely insane. Love yourself

    • @Pampilici
      @Pampilici Před 8 měsíci +7

      Easier said, than done

    • @TJ-bn2cn
      @TJ-bn2cn Před 8 měsíci +7

      @@PampiliciYes, I feel that there’s a lack of understanding in this comment. Things are not black and white, it’s complicated.

    • @TJ-bn2cn
      @TJ-bn2cn Před 8 měsíci +2

      I feel you’re lacking in understanding what this lady is explaining. It’s not about, “using your brain “! And I feel you are insulting, with your ignorance.

    • @holliejane3605
      @holliejane3605 Před 8 měsíci +7

      ‘Use your brain’
      Why don’t you use yours and understand that the depth and complexity of this abuse runs much deeper than we all think.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Před 7 měsíci

      Don't be so rude and judgmental plz. Brainwash, manipulation can mislead the smartest people. Look at cults etc

  • @NaNa-re3wc
    @NaNa-re3wc Před 8 měsíci +18

    A lot of people don’t understand the psychological effects of abuse. It’s easy to say, “just leave” or “don’t go back”, but it becomes like a drug. That dysfunction becomes what you know best and what you’re strangely more comfortable being in even if it is causing you extreme distress; you miss it in a way because it’s your new normal. Everything else, even if healthy, now causes a greater sense of fear. I describe it as the frog in a boiling pot of water; as the temperature is gradually being increased you can’t tell, but eventually when you’re so deep in you’re boiling, you’re now so overwhelmed to the point it feels inescapable and you’re caught in this cycle of gaslighting yourself into thinking it’s somehow your fault. The shame of that becomes all consuming and crippling. It’s like your mind has become a haunted funhouse; you don’t know which way is up, which way is down, what or who to trust (including yourself, your own thoughts/feelings) or how to get out. I commend this woman for getting out, she is strong and beautiful for sharing her story. I know she is educating a lot of people and spreading hope for other survivors.

    • @annsmith8000
      @annsmith8000 Před měsícem

      Most people can’t explain the various states or stages of the situation but you have hit the nail on the head and I thank you so much. I hope people who are struggling or who have found a safe way out read your contribution, folk may well be handled (not a good term, sorry) by qualified specialists but gain nothing from that experience. It is very very sad....Rob

  • @matthewlynas5089
    @matthewlynas5089 Před 9 měsíci +1

    What a wonderful human being, such strength in coming through such horrors and now engaging with those in need.

  • @kirstymoss9810
    @kirstymoss9810 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thank you for sharing such a painful traumatic story, i know there will be many people who will gain strength and healing through being able to access help by hearing it. I absolutely resonate with the assertion that you can live a real life free from mental health issues after abuse, as a survivor that was what allowed me to keep going snd refuse to give up, the promise of having a real life, not just one as a victim. ❤❤

  • @evled8519
    @evled8519 Před 6 měsíci +6

    It's clear the government does NOTHING to stop and fight all of these, and society tolerates this by thinking it's a 'personal issue', but in reality, it's a mass issue and a system that is allowed to exist.

  • @katiescott2975
    @katiescott2975 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thanks for sharing Kate. You are and will help many other survivors.

  • @madcatter972
    @madcatter972 Před 3 měsíci

    As a survivor & a clinician myself, I'm so struck by your strength & courage. Also your beautiful & kind soul, which really shines through in spite of the horror & heartbreak you went through. The interviewer (who was awesome, btw!) is right - you're a very special person. Thank-you for sharing your story & raising awareness. I wish you well, you so deserve it. ❤

  • @careygilchrist1972
    @careygilchrist1972 Před rokem +10

    Thank you for your story and on going will to help and inform others as well as better yourself!
    I’m very greatful to have come across this! You have given me the courage and strength to respect myself more and to help others to do the same!
    I’m damaged from my life and suffer extreme depression, ptsd and anxiety! I know I do not have to live my life anymore as a victim but as a person who knows what comes from wrong intentions and trauma!
    I can be a person who can give back to the ones that cannot give anything for themselves at this time!
    Thank you 🙏 ❤

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Před 11 měsíci

      It is very hard to overcome SA. There are a lot of survivors out there who are surviving, but not without painful memories and anger, regret, etc. I'm angry that the system at the time for me was not a victim positive system. If you weren't attacked by some heinous person jumping out of an alley who also beat you to a pulp, it wasn't an assault. Almost no one my age reported it because we knew we'd be put on trial more than the perpetrator. I think things have improved a little bit, but we have a long way to go.

  • @963ag
    @963ag Před 9 měsíci +6

    As horrible as the perpetrators are, what is even more horrible is that in many countries and cities, the authorities deal with such things with total impunity and corruption is rampant. Oftentimes there is no prosecution, and victims are prevented from even filing a report. The entire process of justice and healing demands change - in many places it is very broken. ( I am in Texas, U S.A.)

  • @LADYJKAYE
    @LADYJKAYE Před 4 měsíci +1

    What a powerful disclosure about your experience. . Thank you for your courage & decision to bring it to Light..

  • @lindaford5605
    @lindaford5605 Před 11 měsíci +13

    Absolutely my 13yr old was groomed and plied with alcohol, filmed semi consciousness, then distributed online. She was so ashamed when school saw it. She blames herself still, says its her fault. Wouldn't push charges because of shame. She 15 now her mental health is fluk now. She uses pot to numb herself. Agree lovely Lady for having the strength to speak up.❤❤

    • @homodeus8713
      @homodeus8713 Před 10 měsíci +7

      You as the parent can prosecute. Name and Shame them and their families when they’re convicted.

    • @lindaford5605
      @lindaford5605 Před 10 měsíci

      @@homodeus8713 I can't unless she testifies. She won't cos she blames herself.❤

    • @judithflom6366
      @judithflom6366 Před 10 měsíci +6

      I don’t understand how the police operate. With a video and her being underage they should be able to prosecute without making her testify. I have heard this in other cases and the worst predatory scum is allowed to keep doing it over and over. They need to do better.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@lindaford5605The state could persecute the abuser.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@judithflom6366Exactly

  • @amyniemann9564
    @amyniemann9564 Před rokem +19

    I’m sorry this happened to you, truly very sorry. I went through some childhood trauma myself and relate to many things you said. You are worthy and good. You are strong and your heart to help others is a blessing.

  • @lelarex888
    @lelarex888 Před rokem +13

    The system NEVER protects the victim😥

  • @aishabenmoussa557
    @aishabenmoussa557 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much for being such a strong person and sharing your story. You will have helped so many people. Sending you love 🌺❤️🌺

  • @carolinekloppert5177
    @carolinekloppert5177 Před 9 měsíci +4

    Dear Kate,, your account fills me with horror as I can completely imagine the incidents you describe. It goes to my gut as I've experienced a kind of parallel dynamic, if less bad and less big. It was not even a gang, just a bunch of young men with toxic levels of hatred against women. They leave you feeling so humiliated you do blame yourself. It is so important that you've articulated your experience and the ambiguity around consent and disempowerment, the breaking of your will. It would help other people who are blaming themselves. I hope things are going well with you now., you're a beautiful flame of illumination in such entrapping darkness.

  • @caseyslove
    @caseyslove Před 11 měsíci +8

    Well spoken woman who was caught in an horrific situation by male violent predators. Then the police didn’t support her or provide her protection or validation. Disgusting!

  • @aycha2445
    @aycha2445 Před 9 měsíci +5

    You are very brave sister and an inspiration to other victims ..turning such a bad experience into something which could help others shows your incredible strength and goodness of your heart which is incomparable....hats off to you sis....and shame on the police for failing their job and may those animals who did wrong with you die a miserably painful death....

  • @OurTube_TheOriginal
    @OurTube_TheOriginal Před 10 měsíci +2

    Brilliant woman in heart and soul and mind. Her insights amazing. The interviewer asks good questions, approaches this sensitively and i like how he said “story, experience” (it is an experience….story is related and not synonymous)

  • @EastWind785
    @EastWind785 Před 10 měsíci +2

    I’m so impressed with Kates courage in coming forward to describe this horrendous abuse. Though it chills me to know now how these gangs and damaged abusive men operate, with the weak following the more aggressive thinking that women deserve this. I hope that Kates witness will bring a positive and progressive change in society, policing, and mental health services to enable women to feel safe to come forward and get help

  • @stephanieprice8916
    @stephanieprice8916 Před 11 měsíci +4

    💞Kate,
    Never stop moving forward.
    Keep fighting the good fight.
    We all have a purpose, a calling.
    Keep your chin up and be proud of everything you have achieved and accomplished. Your courage is admirable.
    I want to thank you for not giving up on yourself.
    Much Love and Respect,
    a small town in Texas.

  • @MuseandherFeelings
    @MuseandherFeelings Před 4 měsíci +1

    You are so strong and dont even know how you speaking your story is also speaking out for other women who went through this. I'm currently getting my doctorate in psychology and I would love to help so many women who have gone through any type of abuse. This is just motivating me even more❤

  • @Shaunicus1
    @Shaunicus1 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Brave, brave lady. It breaks my heart to hear an account like this, with so little justice being brought to fruition, it seems to me. But women like this can and will change the world, so God bless you Kate for your courage and incredible articulation of such heart wrenching experiences. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @johneden3810
    @johneden3810 Před rokem +7

    What a horrific story. Amazing strength to be able to speak about it.

  • @chaitraraghuraman283
    @chaitraraghuraman283 Před 11 měsíci +15

    That guy William has set her up

    • @bdmenne
      @bdmenne Před 9 měsíci

      Stop Victim Blaming. William was vulnerable to foreign gang activity, too. Are you another anti-white male? No mention of the Mohammedans? You don’t blame them, so you are responsible for White girls like her getting r*ped, by foreigners.

  • @hannahwilliams-blakey9892

    Thank you. Your strength is inspiring

  • @gregzeng
    @gregzeng Před 11 měsíci +8

    Long retired social worker now. This story is extremely common, world wide. Here in Australia, we started our Males Against Sexism groups, Sydney October 1975.
    This male event is so strong, that we could not do anything with this city of the Australian feminist movements.

  • @kellyreilly-robinson2130
    @kellyreilly-robinson2130 Před 11 měsíci +14

    You are an amazingly brave human and I hope you thrive ♥️

  • @rosmarybourque2294
    @rosmarybourque2294 Před 11 měsíci +16

    Wow. Thank you so much for this candid laid bare discussion, and thank God you did not succeed in suicide. I totally get it, how a young woman's immature brain, believes they are the blame for every event in their life! Perps /offenders know this too and use it to control the situation. I had not heard this kind of criminal activity happened in a gang scenario but makes sense. Thank you for surviving and sharing as well as the painful process of dissecting.

  • @seagypsiesbellydancers3047
    @seagypsiesbellydancers3047 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Very very sad, the interviewer is absolutely fantastic, so empathetic and gentle. Xx

  • @TJ-bn2cn
    @TJ-bn2cn Před 8 měsíci +1

    A very powerful interview and anyone that this happens to, it’s never your fault! It’s the perpetrators that are evil in every situation. We can learn from this wonderful woman but being a victim, even knowing these things happen, doesn’t mean any harm is your fault or responsibility. ❤

  • @annfeltman8298
    @annfeltman8298 Před 11 měsíci +3

    This woman is so brave and kind. William is such a coward and doesn’t deserve her as a friend

  • @jameswalsh2427
    @jameswalsh2427 Před rokem +11

    So touched by her honesty and courage. She will survive anything after that trauma. Greetings from James J in Limerick city Ireland

  • @scrilla2376
    @scrilla2376 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Omg she is so incredibly brave speaking about this. It's so sad this had to happen to her. You are a very Beautiful strong woman

  • @carolinadecarvalho461
    @carolinadecarvalho461 Před 2 měsíci

    Such a beautiful strong soul. I feel very lucky and grateful for your courage to talk about the topic of grooming and rape. It is so important what you do. Thank you thank you ❤

  • @xJeanMichelNoirx
    @xJeanMichelNoirx Před rokem +15

    So strong. To go through that alone and make it out with such insight is really mind blowing. The cruelty of some people is harrowing.

  • @bananamiriam
    @bananamiriam Před 10 měsíci +3

    Thank you for telling your story, I feel less alone

  • @lindaford5605
    @lindaford5605 Před 11 měsíci +8

    She was broken, don't judge her pls. She was a traumatized person. She was learning to do better. You can't just leave, you need an escape plan.❤❤🇬🇧👍

  • @andreawilliams3473
    @andreawilliams3473 Před rokem +12

    She is so brave. Thank you for sharing your story. I will have my daughter watch this as well.

  • @moogdome2562
    @moogdome2562 Před rokem +15

    Shocking and heartbreaking. Sending my love and best wishes, to this special Lady. So sad.

  • @jackiedonne7715
    @jackiedonne7715 Před rokem +18

    This girl is suffering ptsd. She has been traumatised by events from her teenage years. I hope things get better for her. She is very brave.

  • @lindaford5605
    @lindaford5605 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Kate your fighting the right fight. I showed this to my baby at 15. ❤❤❤❤❤💐💐💐