Stop Fooling Yourself: The Top 40 Decluttering Myths Exposed!
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Decluttering is not just about making space in our home, but making space in our lives for new experiences, relationships, and growth. And in retirement, our homes should be a sanctuary of peace and joy, not warehouses of "what ifs" and "just in case." Today we talk about the misconceptions and negative feelings surrounding decluttering and discuss the 40 common lies we tell ourselves that hinder our progress towards a more peaceful and organized life. At the end, we unveil a practical five-step process to kickstart your decluttering project and reclaim both your space and your peace of mind.
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00:00 Introduction
06:29 Usefulness
15:03 All or Nothing Fallacy
26:07 Wedding Dress as a Keepsake
33:08 Procrastination
41:37 Assigning Emotional Value
54:33 No One Will Want Your Items
1:01:47 Someone Else is Holding You Back
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55 yr old minimalist here. I would suggest holding on to your most meaningful greeting cards. I vote no to digitalizing cards. My husband recently passed away. His Love notes and cards are a source of comfort to my broken heart, especially since choosing the perfect card was important to him. Physically holding the card in my hands helps me to feel close to him again. I also cherish telegrams my grandfather sent my grandmother while he was overseas/frontlines during World War II - priceless❤️
This is so sweet and thoughtful. Thank you for sharing it.
I agree, those are things to keep and get rid of less personal things
Adding this comment about halfway through (maybe you’ll mention it): we all think we have plenty of time to do this but might not. I was reminded that we don’t know when we’ll need to declutter due to health issues when I saw two friends debilitated overnight by illness. And just recently discovered my estranged sister had to move abruptly to assisted living four years ago. She wasn’t that old (73). I began decluttering my inherited stuff (parents and other sister) seven years ago. I still need to get another 10% out. NOT striving for minimalism but want to be able to move easily, quickly if needed due to health. I have so much out now that I celebrate when I fill a box by driving to my local charity shop and stopping at a favorite coffee shop as a treat. I love the feeling of getting it out. Just started a new box and already have two clothing items I know I don’t need in it. Items deteriorate, even if we’re not using them so it’s better to let someone use it while its condition is still very nice.
Thank you for this. It's a wonderful process and I'm sure others will be inspired
So many great ideas. My kids tell me they don’t want any of my things which makes me kinda sad. I’ve been trying to get rid of things, it’s hard but then when it’s gone you don’t even think about it. Such freedom
Thanks for the comment! I agree… Such freedom!
I am 77 and have three 12 place settings of bone china. I have no children and my brother said he only wants my plastic Bronco tumblers. I use one set of the china for my every day use as I like them. I don’t worry about breaking any pieces as I have so many. My brother’s church has an annual garage sale so I put things I haven’t used in a box in his workshop. If I decide I need it before the garage sale, I can go get it. I didn’t have to pull anything before last month’s garage sale😊. Lots of great ideas plus a reminder that I need to periodically look at what I’m I am keeping. Thanks for sharing !
Your welcome and thank you for sharing!
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Here’s a suggestion regarding inherited china. I bring out the plates I inherited from my great-grandmother when my kids and grandchildren visit. While we eat, we take a moment to remember where we’ve come from and I tell a quick story about her to help keep her name alive. She died at age 97 when I was a teen. When a plate breaks we simply sweep it up and away. The plates aren’t important but they are a catalyst for the stories.
This is great. I remember eating on my grandparents china. It all had such a delicate feel. Now it’s all about durability to withstand dropping and getting banged around.
In an effort to declutter, I recently sold my awesome drum set that I played almost every day for the last 25 years. I was so happy that the older gentleman who bought the drums was absolutely elated to own such a great drum set (and all the hardware) for a fraction of their value. I wasn’t expecting to get so much joy seeing my drums now being played by someone who truly wanted them. He was so happy when he came to play them and pick them up. I know they went to a good home! (His wife didn’t seem as happy).
Such a wonderful story to share. Thank you.
Did you not want to play your drums any more?
@@youngkea4642 I am trying to declutter and downsize my house, so the drums went to a very happy and deserving guy. Now I have to thin out my guitar collection….. (that will be much more difficult).
Thanks for your reply!
People have too much stuff. That's why on every corner there is a storage building here in Florida. Move down here with their stuff and put it in storage. Why?
LOL. I'm laughing because we have a storage unit in CT. I will have that emptied this summer for sure!!!
Haha. If only I’d had the foresight to invest in the storage unit business here in FL several years ago I’d be wealthy beyond measure today! 😡
If you have not used it and can replace in 20 minutes for less than $20. Get rid of it
Thank you.
He has most who needs least. Don’t create needs for yourself.
Yes. Thank you.
15:37 I hear all these comments on many videos so its nothing new but I like hearing it again. I believe in making life easier for whoever we have designated to take care of our estate.
Yes for sure. Thank you
Excellent video! It’s motivated me to do some declutterring. Thank you! ❤
I'm so glad!
We just pass material junk to someone else to clutter their home and cause stress and depression
Yup.
I wish I got to see my mom's wedding gown. I got rid of her things Ina an estate sale in 2015 and to this day I remember stuff that I sold that I wish I had kept. So I don't believe your advice but thanks for sharing
Thank you for your perspective on this topic.
Things that mean something to me but I want to get rid I take a picture of it so that later if I miss it I look at the picture.
Great idea!
I’ve started doing that, too. Keep the memory; lose the stuff!
Another great video! Love you guys ❤️❤️☝️🩷
Thank you!
"Constantly going through the decluttering process".. spot on. And the the hardest to get rid of items are the ones we have attached sentimental value and worth to. But, hanging on to "junk" can also occur.. the rationale being it's too expensive to replace.. I might NEED this some day,, basically an entitlement mentality - based on fear. Ohh, yes, many's the 3AM in the morning I'm awake.. trying to figure out how to deal with STUFF. My son moved out nearly 10 years ago.. taking exactly 2 suitcases and 2 tool boxes.. and leaving behind nearly everything else. So, now I have to spend 100's of $$ to take HIS stuff and junk to him.. because he refuses to deal with this issue.. rather than just sell or toss it. He gets 3 months free storage.. the rest is up to him. I've had friends who moved and threatened to put all their offspring's "left behind" junk out on the curb.. to make them show up. Guess I'm too much of a nice dad.. Thanks for doing this video.
Thanks for the note!
You two are great! So enjoyed it!❤
Thank you!
All good points. I re-frame from phrases like, "will I use it" or "could I use it", which both will go to "well I could". Instead I use "am I likely to use it", which then ends up at "not likely" and out it goes. In planning for things after the employed years (retired), I did keep some things that I didn't know for sure if I would use or not. In getting more acclimated and decided on how I wanted to build this time, I've found some things fit needs for this time and others don't. Obviously I get rid of don'ts. As was one of your points, if not going to use it why hang on to it.
Thank you for this. Great comment.
But what if you put the item in a box in the garage and forget you have it. Then you say you need one and rebuy it. Yikes.
Keep a list in your kitchen junk drawer with the contents of your box. That way you will always know what is there until you donate it
I'm succeeding at decluttering! $ An issue for some of us who must pay for help to move stuff just from room to car or get stuff hauled to dump/ thrift stores
Yes. If you have to pay to get it picked up that’s an added cost.
This is super helpful for anyone looking to simplify their life, especially during retirement. Keep up the great work! -Macy (Team Evan)
Glad it was helpful!
Have a reputable company to empty your home or apartment. Put what you are taking to your new country in the bathtub. Thy can do it in one day. I always used Rubbermaid as storage. Give them a number and use index cards to record contents.
Thank you for sharing this. I love the idea of filling your bathtub!
I have some rules I live by now. 1 in 1 out. If I get anything that I already have like shirts, jeans, cups, glassware, etc. I take an older one and give away or get rid of. For instance I received a gift of new cornhole bags. I had 1 main set and 1 backup set ( because they do get worn and bust open after heavy usage usually in the middle of a game ). So I gave my current used set to a neighbor who needed them and used the new ones. Next one is when clearing out drawers or closets, etc. Have I used this thing in the past year? no? Then I do not need it. Out it goes. I mean how many spatulas does one need? !!! hahaha
Great comment
I enjoy this couple, this video seems like the wife is taking a lot of shots at him 😬😂 Not sure what’s going on here today but is Kind of funny, also kind of feel sorry for him the way he looks at her when she says stuff, is his feelings hurt lol. Probably not as Being married we all have tough skin. I enjoy this couple so much and even their back and forth as it’s true to life. Keep up the videos!,
Thank you. We enjoy each other immensely and try and keep it fun and light.
I Love stuff
I think most people like stuff. It just gets hard when we accumulate so much stuff that we don’t find time to use it.
Good stuff! Thanks 🐷🐽
Our pleasure!
I want to hire your husband to declutter my closet! He doesn't mess around!
lol. I would actually enjoy a job like that.
I love you guys snow shoer lol
Yes snow shoes! We haven’t had snow in years
Oh this is going to be good!!
Was it up to your expectations?
You can’t take it with you and your kids don’t really want you old stuff .They will only value you .I like the idea of asking your children what do they want or what they care about .You will be surprised . Let it go .Im making boxes for my children to have photos and report card’s certificates awards from primary school .I think my grand kids may get a kick outbid it for Father’s Day .
It feels like a constant process of downsizing but better if we do it instead of leaving that chore to our kids.
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Thanks
Wow...a bit much.
In what way? Hope it was helpful.
My first and LAST time listening to these two. He never shuts up and the incessant bickering. Declutter that. DANA K WHITE is the best.
Most of us enjoy the interplay and can identify. It makes the video so much more enjoyable when Jodi and Mark interact rather than just list items or reasons. They always bring a smile to my face (and sometimes even a chuckle!)
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Wow totally unnecessary comment. Thanks for the video… I appreciate it.
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