How frailty leads to loneliness and isolation | Age UK
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I keep my grandma company when I'm off from school and she will tell me the same story's about 20 times but I never complain because I love her. She will never be lonely if I have anything to say about it.
David Brown ,Good for you! Wish there were more like you!
My daughter met a billionaire and dumped me .only wanted me for a sitter for years blocked me from my grandkids phones..guess I'm no longer good enough..miss my grandkids !! Your a sweet person..
good for you. She will need you more than ever as she ages
God bless you darling , you have no idea how much this means to your grandma , how wonderful you are , 🇺🇸✌️💐💐
That is so sweet! She loves you too.
As a HCA myself, i often get the common phrase from people who say: "oh all you do is wipe arse for a living"..... sadly they are so naive about the profession.. healthcare with older persons is so much more than that, you are giving quality care but most importantly a person centred level of care ensuring they can live with independence as much as possible. you are giving clients care, dignity, companionship and trust. tbh majority of my clients i would even call good friends.
I take care of my parents, I won't let them be lonely.
Scott Benedict , that's so Nice of you!
Scott Benedict me too
That is So Sweet of you to take care of them!
In our culture, we take care of our parents. I feel great providing them everything. Take care of your parents, and your kids will take care of you. Love ❤️
It is a privilege to take care of the elderly,I took care of mom 12 years she passed in dec I miss her dearly 👍🏻❤️☮️🕊
I remember driving to work thinking I wouldn’t be able to make it through one more day. How lucky am I to have a home and food now that I’m too old to work.
My aunt is 71 and i always visit her whenever i can just to hang out with her and drive her where she wants to go. We go to dinner and bingo. We have a blast. I love my aunt so very much
Hello
Where are you from please
My mum is 70... still strong, sharp, and able to drive
I’m so tired of everyone being in love with their tv and phones. That has driven us all apart but it also gives us company when lonely.
Hello👋👋
I am nearing 80, live alone on a small island off Ireland. Very isolated indeed but never lonely and not seeking anyone dropping in. My days are well filled and enjoyed although I am semi bedbound. I t is the attitude to solitude? That it is always a bad thing? I knit, read, watch youtube ( ditched the TV decades ago) potter a little in the garden when I can... after all, if we cannot stand our own company? I call one person on the phone many days. Deeply content at this age to be alone.
You are indeed lucky to live in such a peaceful place I hope you have someone to call if you get into trouble. I crave the lifestyle you live but do not have the means to obtain it good luck to you.
And I am so scared of being alone at my 39 age. And more scared of being alone when old. Any advice of how to overcome this? Wish you all the best.
Why is it you are bedbound? Sorry about that. Otherwise I think you live a full and diverse life.
I am 76 and in January I moved from Louisiana USA after 45 years, to Ghana W Africa, my only son had moved here 8years ago.
I am busy to adjust and give new meaning to my life. No time to be lonely.
Hello
My grandfather said he bent down one day when he was younger to fasten his shoe laces, when he looked back up into the mirror he thought who is that old man knowing it was him , said that is how quickly time as past when you look back 🤔 you don't notice time slipping away when you are young till one day you to will look into the mirror and wonder where the young you as gone (FOREVER)
Yes, that's how fast we all grow old.
True
When i was young I heard so many older people talk about being shocked at the older person staring back at them until it happened to me...
Old people are strong, man.
They have their spouses or friends or families passed away and they still stay strong. although of course we can only guess what they feel inside.
I won't leave my mom even if it cost me my career. I can't do it, I'll stay single to stay around her. My father died as he always wanted strong and active.
I'm 63 and every day I think how did I get to be 63 I still remember being 25 , it happens so fast , please take time to smell the roses , my mom told me once youth is wasted on the young and the older you get the faster time flies by , boy was she right , 🇺🇸✌️
Hello
Good morning how are you doing beautiful
Please where are you from
@@ednaperhach2769 hello, hope you're staying safe?
Music is a good cure for loneliness !!
I always say that I didn't ask for this life I would have any body with me
This old age is absolutely horrible especially when mobility is an issue.
Hello Sarah Jones👋
I have children and grandchildren and I also have dogs and a cat...I have my Lord and Savior...I don't think I can ever be lonely
A good thing here is that they have each other.....They are not completely and totally alone...
They are the most great couples ever...God bless them with wisdom...How are you?
It's not just old people who get lonely & depressed. I know someone who is 36 & has pretty much been bed ridden most of the year due to illness. Every now & then she can can get out in her car 🚗 but not for long at all. The rest of the time she is stuck in bed only getting up to go to the toilet 🚽 & back. 😞
Hebe Goncalves
So sorry for your friend. More reason for young people not to make poor choices. Isolation is the same in New Zealand. It's not failure on the government, it's just business. All government are the same. Just different level of turning a blind eye. On the elderly, health system, veterans etc . That's the sad facts. We as individuals do what we can NOW.
I am always with my father but when I will grow old nobody will be with me.
Neelanjana Banerjee God has wonderful plan you don't know how your days will unfold so don't think that you be alone , you never know how God will turn up your life , walk in faith and lord will take care of all
You will, because you are caring. You will make friends and find a way. Don't worry.
My dear ,same situation I have but I must tell you that God looks after you ,even without a soul around there is contentment as have blind faith that your Lord will take care of all .He will never put anything on you ,you cant handle .my dear ,just take each day as it comes and dont cross the bridges before they have arrived. May Lord protect you ameen.
Hello how are you
Good morning how are you doing
I was there for my mother when she grew old. I’m old and nobody’s with me.
This life is too short be wasted alone 😭..where are you from?
They should have a building where young and old can talk,crochet, play cards,etc. Or have a volunteer group that visits and calls them.
I remember the the days when the elderly lived nicely because everyone looked out for each other . Life expectancy was 65. Now that we're living longer and scientists are trying to make us live forever no one cares about the old and have decided that you're old when you're 30! How twisted is that?!
True blue....try getting a corporate job after the age of 30 or 35, very hard...
Hello
I love my grandma so It's obvious that I love elder people cause I like it how they give wisdom to young peopel
I’m old too. Younger people are busy. They don’t have time for themselves much less for me.
I have the same life honey , it's dam lonly ,🇺🇸✌️
@@ednaperhach2769 Why don't you meditate while you are alone? You could make friends, you have internet. I am a Buddhist but I am taking care of my catholic parents in law. Their sons don't take care of them. In fact they never call them. My wife is a professor so she the most of time stays at university. I think solitude is a bliss if you know how to use it.
It’s really nice speaking with you today I would like to know more about you if you don’t mind me asking what are your plans for your future
People forget, once they where young, popular and had an active life. It must be horrible from going from all to nothing :(
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Hello
this breaks my heart, i hope something can be done to care/look after these seniors, seniors are the most important people in britain and should be rallied around and cared for always.
I cry when watching this videos. Where the hell are these people's families?Why would they leave them this lonely?
the_Earl_Of_Belyonville Our children marry. Young ppl are different now. Don't need our knowledge, love or anything from us.
I do my best... and then some to help others. I must be of value to someone. Keeping ...trying to keep ...a purpose to keep on. Just get on with it, you know.
Happy New Year 😊. Bless you.
kym, children have a duty to their parents and it boils down to love and respect
Milzi Jex : Our Children are Too Busy to be bothered with Us! 😔
Crikey, I do understand the sentiment of this very, very important issue but there are two sides to this. Many people don’t necessarily live near their parents due to jobs etc. You work full time, long hours and you have young kids. You take them to umpteen activities after school, have their friends over, cook, chores, do homework with the children, have time enjoying your family, then it’s bath and bed. Weekends you take your parents out, then you do the same for your in laws. Around spending quality time with your husband and children.
You just do your best. It’s not simply about abandonment of the elderly. It’s about putting your children’s and husbands needs first, then fitting in as much as you can around them. There are twenty four hours in a day.
Milzi JexIit’s a juggling act. I want my kids to follow their dreams, do well at school, work hard and get good jobs. But those jobs and when they have families of their own will mean that their free time will be limited to a certain extent. It. will probably mean that they dont work 9-5 and live in the same street as me. That is why it is important
to preserve as much of your independence as possible and keep in touch with other people who live nearby. You cannot have your children as your only focus. That’s not fair to them.
Just folk born earlier than me. I have many older friends. Learn so much and have such great conversations and laughs🙂
You're right love.
I'm 70 and like many pensioners realise this Government and their associates do not give a stuff about us elderly people!
Recently two pensioners were dragged off the streets in their wheelchairs for peacefully protesting!!!
Where was the outcry!!!!!!!
Disgusting!
Hypocritical!!
Two-faced!!!!!
Sad but very,
Very TRUE!!!!!!!+!
It's possible to be old and fit, rather than old and frail. Maintain your physical mobility and strength and, if possible, your ability to drive.
Don't worry old people I listen to elders I have Total Respect
animals are so precious.
Yes, have a friendly dog.
Hello how are you doing beautiful
@@johnfrank9462 who
I'm Frank John and you
@@wendybrierley5412 hello, hope you're staying safe?
Bless them. So much wisdom so much life experience.
We are privileged to have our elders. We need to treasure them.
I hope the elderly have a backup plan for pets. That is to have someone check
on the elderly every day if possible and come and see how the animal is doing
if they haven't heard from the person.
In Asia, we value the elderly, we are more of a collectivist and really put great value in family.
There are rare documentaries about loneliness in general made in America. It shows what a low priority it is here. Depression gets more and more common. Depression stemming from loneliness would be alleviated by simply keeping someone company, but the pharmaceutical companies want to keep selling their pills.
i don't have my grandmas anymore. they were ill and passed away. but they are still in my heart. i miss my grandpa because we cannot reach for him. my mother and my auntie are not good and we are not able to talk to my grandpa because my auntie live with my grandpa. my other grandpa live with his other family because my grandmother and him separated when my father was only 7 years old. i miss them. i miss their advice. i want my grandpas and grandmas to talk to me.
When I was living in England I used to go and do visiting to the older people. They love the company of some one care for them.
Utradaye Bhagwandeen
Hello how are you doing beautiful
More interesting stories than these young CZcamsr influencers have to offer.
My grandmother raised eight children. When it came time for those eight kids to take care of my grandmother they could not do it.
In my country there's a saying...
A mother can take care of ten children but those very children won't be able to to take care of mom when she's old.
Sigh...its true.
I am still single and hope I could get married to grow old with someone
Hello how are you doing beautiful
I think we should make an effort too to talk to others. The lady can't get to church - what about the Church friends come for her. I know they do here where I live.
It is a bit difficult if you are housebound. There are careers and I think they can help you out
to clubs.
It is important to get out if you are able for fresh air, for exercise for change of scenery.
People do care, there are clubs and places you can go. They are lunch clubs everywhere. You can have lunch, games, bingo, chats and friendships for a very small charge for the food, just £3 or so.
Don't wait too long.
Everyone aren't capable! Of what you are capable of...where are you from?
I worry about elderly people having so much furniture and so many things to trip over. We took all of my mother's carpets up so she wouldn't stumble when she got old butt she was 90 and still doing the best she could but someone was always looming in case she needed us
My grandfather was born in 1945 and I'm very interested in talking to him about his childhood
+AnnoyingAsshole ...good. My son used to talk to his Great Uncle who died at 96. He was my sons
best friend in the world (apart from his pet).
You are a Wonderful GrandChild! Bless You! ❤️
AnnoyingAsshole : (I Don't Like Your Name!) BUT: Your GrandFather has a Very Kind GrandSon. Bless You!
Hello
Encourage these folks to speak out, write to local newspapers about their position on Social Security, health system, gun violence, etc. They must have something to say if they have TV and watch the news.
Life can be soooo hard at times....
There are day centres available for the elderly and lonely. I do hope she attends one, they're great. I take my grandad there, but they also have a collection service available.
It is sad that the elderly suffer so much in Western cultures - they get forgotten and cast aside. The younger ppl are not interested in them, don’t have patience or empathy for them. The fellow elderlies, are not interested in learning about you. It is important to have a close relationship with God because an elderly must not and cannot rely on anybody but one’s self and God. In some ways, having dementia might not be such a bad thing.
We used to have some support for old folk as in weekly lunches in a hall or day trips out. Now, all has been cut and denied. People would help out to ferry the older folk around. Even the free television licence is to be denied for the over 75s. Many old people cannot afford the high tv licence fee. What an uncivilised and callous society in which we live, where adult children are in denial that their ageing parents need help and need company. Shame on those adult children who say they are too busy to care about their old mum or dad. They, themselves, will be old one day and as the saying goes, what goes around comes around. Time for old folk to complain about the rotten treatment they get from all quarters and to add to it, receive the lowest old age pension in the civilised world.
I'm 57 yrs old, and lonely. I'm married to a good man, but he's at work most days, and busy with many other things. I feel like an odd ball.Too young for the nursin home, too old for other married women to bother with. Both my parents are now gone, and our family is scattered to the 4 winds. I'm too nervous to drive much, I have some health problems, am somewhat disabled, get tired out by mid-afternoon., and just really don't feel like goin places much. So I while away the days doin light chores, and needleworks, and lookin at CZcams. We have 2 dogs , but I get lonely for simple companionship, and sometimes I need some help with chores. But alas!-I've fallen through the cracks. My younger daughter is comin to live with me in a few months, I'm happy to report, but she'll be workin, and will have her friends to visit with. So what can we do?
Kaite San Hi, Katie. How are you? What is your situation? Are you livin alone?
Kaite San Hi, Katie. How are you these days? Couple of months ago I had emergency surgery for a hernia and blocked bowel. Barely survived it, okay now. My 13 yr old dog Lucy was in such a bad shape we had to have her put to sleep. I miss her so much! I've been embroideryin a lot. Do you have hobbies?
Wonder Granny “ Rejoice in the Lord always ...🎼.,, «
I'm always here to talk to you! ♥️☺
@@llamavibez6247 till you become a drag and a burfden
I have a shopping addiction due to loneliness
Hello
It's difficult being the spouse who stays home due to disability . I used to be very independent and active but my multiple sclerosis has progressed and now I can't walk.
There`s so many things you can do, especially when you got a nice home ! People fall in to the same kind of mind, I think when your old you should listen to ambience and spiritual things.. animals, plants, art, decorating a healing place where you feel good, little water features are good !
Hello
Loneliness is a problem for younger people too. There are young people who don’t have any friends or family. From the ages of 35 to 39 I never saw a single friend or had any visitors come to my house at all and didn’t see any of my family. I met a man and am now married but I still don’t have anyone else …
I recall being a student and living alone and had I died in my flat no one would know for months. I haven’t seen my mother for 7 years because she lives nearly 600 miles away. The only place I get to see people is when I am working.
In some countries they combine elderly houses and nurseries, that would be great if they did it here too.. they are such lovely people, I'd really wish to be their friend, I don't see this sincerity among my age people.. these ladies look so cute, decent, their language is nectar to my ears )))👍👍
Hei！ Lady! Good Morning! Thank you for your help when you were young. You and your country and US help me in my long hard time. Thank you deeply.
Thank you for sharing your experiences, it must not be easy talking about these challenges you faced. Loneliness is a pressing issue, especially for older adults because of the numerous changes occuring with age, from living alone to death of loved ones. Especially with the global pandemic making it a lot more challenging to see each other since staying at home lessens the risk of getting the virus. We're really thankful for technology as it helped us connect older adults to each other through Reviving Mind's programs and the help of our health and wellness programs. We're all one step closer to beating loneliness, let's all help each other stay happy and healthy. You are never alone and we're here to help.
The Lord God hears your cries grandma. Pray to him to lead, guide and direct you. He knows and understands what you are going through.
The elderly must have some contact each day or two days not only for themselves but if they have a pet
and no one discovers their body for ages, the animals would be in deep distress. They must make provision
for their pets if the unthinkable should happen.
Put out three or four big bowls of water for your pet.
Nobody should be lonely. Period.
It's the people who are in deep distress you idiot you wouldn't know loneliness if it slapped your face, wish I could clueless dick head we don't need your stupid comments we don't need your stupidity at all go visit a old person tomorrow and pet their animals if you wish but it's the people who matter first and may you be cursed with loneliness and suffer until you learn your lesson.
AGE UK IS NOT WHAT YOU MIGHT THINK. THEY ABANDONED ME DUE TO THE FACT MY PHONE COULD RECORD THEM. BUT THEY SAY NOTHING ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT OR COMPANIES THAT DO THE SAME AND MORE. SHAME ON THE AGE UK. FOR NOT CARING. I HAVE JUST TURNED 77 LIVE ON MY OWN.
Does anyone know if any of these old people are still with us I love the First Lady and the old guy who lives in the cottage ❤️
That caregiver is a sweet person. Bless her ❤
I feel so sorry for these poor innocent people when,god forbid, one of my two grandparents left die I’m gonna move in with them
I love you. Sorry am so far away from your home. I live in the Trinidad West Indies. I know how you are feeling now. England have change for the worst.
Hello how are you doing beautiful
I am afraid about my future, I couldn't have children because I have a genetic muscle disorder I have a boyfriend that loves me very much. I love socialize but it is too hard for my health conditon I am in bed most of my time
Soooo sad, many elderly die alone
Hello
Pets really help elderly( wise)
When I was a little girl in the Caribbean, all the neighborhood kids woould gather outside my house to play. I don't see that here in the US. So sad.😥
I took care of my parents. Two brothers-nothing. Wasnt easy. Then 2 other people, non family. Their family fo almost nothing. Caring for elderly should be a team effort. Too much for one person. What seldom is said of the caretaker. I have no one to relate to. Here 24/7 with a demented senior. Not much worthwhile conversation. Deal with mental illness is no fun. I occasionally have someone of sound mind to converse with. I spend much time lonly because of caretaking. Few want to visit because the demented senior interferes with my visitations. I have to take her along anywhere I go. My main conversations daily is-what the neighbors are doing, when they come and go and if their house lights are on and who has died and whos still alive. Cant even have a pet! Exytemely boring for me. As she ages more and worsens with memory, my life passing me by because none of her family does squat! By the time she dies I may be in her situation instead of enjoying what years I have left. I suffer from neuropathy, osteoarthritis, spinal stenosis, 3 herniated dics, raynauds, multiple bone spurs. At my rate about 10 years to wheelchsir life according to my doctor. I want to get out and enjoy what I still can.
I deeply understand you and wish you the best. Look after your health. Music in any form's a great savior.
Really a true expression. My wife did on my behalf for my parents. Non of my other siblings were there for decades.
I think we a
Have a minister for loneliness in England
Wonder what she is doing ?
Taking her salary and expenses?
THIS IS 10 YEARS AGO, IM SURE SHE'S NO LONGER LIVING.
I would pick her up, take her out, have her to spens time with my family, etc.....This only going to get worse. People are becoming more and more isolated. WHERE ARE THE SENIOR'S CHILDREN?
Adakan syukur..atas penyetaan Allah sejauh ini..puji Tuhan..anak anak spt yh dirancaddngkan..terimakadih Tuhan
Best make plans for your olx age since it is such a problem everywhere. It will happen to all one day.
If you are filthy rich, you won't be alone - garanteed
I would love to spend time with these folk...
Where are you from
Hello how are you doing beautiful
London
Your neighbors can cure your loneliness if only you start conversation and cup of tea knock on the door ask for sugar then next day ask for tea bags then they will start to talk to you only neighbor is the closest to you.
Hello how are you doing beautiful
age certainly don't come alone, i know
I just wish age uk would help me to help other older people
I am a reasonless fit and able 84 year old and lonely for want of meeting being introduced to anyone in my area
But age uk ? What do they DO?
Nothing
And yes I contacted them a couple of years ago
Too busy organising themselves
Praying for you Pauline.
Hello,how are you doing
Birth is Suffering, Ageing is Suffering, Sickness is Suffering, Death is Suffering, Separation from beloved ones is Suffering, Cohabitation with haters is Suffering, Not fulfilling the basic needs is Suffering. Buddha was right. We can't eradicate natural sufferings but we could be free from man made sufferings if our ignorance and abysmal greed are limited.
Allah forbids Muslims to say even any words demonstrating displeasure when their parents are very old and have to live with them.
NO ONE CARES
Beth Louise no one asked u
I comment on whatever the fuck I please. Unlike islam with no freedom of speech without having your head cut off.
Beth Louise Please educate yourself about Islam. Dont follow the media.
marvelous job
Hei！Dearest！Thank you your help when you were young.😇😍Thank you your country and US' help. Your country and US walk with us in our long hard time. SALUTE TO ALL THE ELDERLY.
Hello
That's nice...where are you from?
Going to happen to me too😞😢
Hi...🙋♂️
Bless you hunny
It’s really nice speaking with you today I would like to know more about you if you don’t mind me asking what are your plans for your future
happens to is all....oh dear
i am lonely
hi Krishan do you have a mens shed near you, you can find out on the website UK mens shed association
no ,i am finding
I'm praying you'll be able to overcome loneliness. 🙏
My grandfather and night
use high tech video calls .,, caregiver must help to connect .., even a 10 sec 🤲🏻 is gd
Hi...🙋♂️
I’m taking care my mom shes 89 now that’s why I’m single up to now
Than you are going to be lonely!
Oh il be your friend pretty lady xxxxxx
Hello
Ahhh poor babies. Not like they didn’t have an entire life of youth to do that. 🤦♂️
Lonely? Find MCGI.
To all who are lonely, find a MCGI (Members Church of God International) community in your country or area - - Google it. No money involved; just be there. You will no longer be lonely, nor find yourself alone. These are very, very, caring people who constantly tries to reach out to anybody. Anybody who is breathing. Just go there, and you'll find yourself ALIVE...again.
My family don't care Am 51 I would not leave any one I could be on the moon My ex gets treated better by my family Why that is the question you can die of a broken heart mine is on its way
Hello,how are you doing
It’s really nice speaking with you today I would like to know more about you if you don’t mind me asking what are your plans for your future
Hello Julie👋
That is so sad.
It’s really nice speaking with you today I would like to know more about you if you don’t mind me asking what are your plans for your future
Is loneliness only in the west 😂😂😂 ...most videos popping are from the West you mean life out there nobody cares about anyone 🤔
I am here in Ghana WAfrica where most families look out for the elderly or old members of the family. There are no old folks homes and the old are revered and respected
No, it is also in the East. There are old age homes, as well as elderly parents living alone as their children find work or settle down in other countries. There are also cases of children who abandon their parents for some reason or another.
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Old age is a curse. I don’t plan to get old. I think you can pay for your death in some countries. I plan to go when I’m 39.
O you sweetheart I'd come over I love older people how cute are they
for a little while then...
Yeah they’re really cute when they beat you, spit at you, insult you, trust me when I say not all old people are sweet.
When i see old peoc
Didn't really think that much My brain is little don't judge me please!!!!