The #1 Sign That Relationship WON'T LAST... | Esther Perel
Vložit
- čas přidán 21. 07. 2020
- Full interview - • If You Want To BUILD S...
Thank you for Watching this powerful video with Esther Perel! New videos with the World's GREATEST Entrepreneurs, CEO's, Authors, and Minds will be posted Monday-Friday!
Show notes: lewishowes.com/285
Yes, we are talking about relationships again on The School of Greatness. Partly because I love learning as much as possible about how to create and maintain healthy, amazing relationships (and I need a lot of coaching in my love life). But partly because I heard today’s guest speaker at Summit at Sea in November and I knew I had to have her on the podcast. Esther Perel is a world-renowned relationship therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker who has focused her career on exploring the role of sex and eroticism in making and breaking intimate relationships. She has an incredible world-view of relationships in many different cultures, which has allowed her to see what works and what doesn’t on a bigger level. I asked her a ton of questions in our interview and she had answers. You may already have set ideas about what intimate relationships should look like, but I know you’ll get some new perspective from listening to this interview.
You can follow Esther:
www.estherperel.com/
/ esther.perel
/ estherperel / estherperelofficial
You can Follow Lewis here:
Website: lewishowes.com/ Facebook:
/ lewishowes
Twitter: / lewishowes
Instagram: / lewishowes
TokTok: / lewis
Lewis Howes' New Book - The Mask of Masculinity lewishowes.com/man
Lewis Howes is a NY Times Bestselling author, entrepreneur, and former professional Arena League football player. He hosts The School of Greatness, a talk show distributed as a podcast. Learn and hear the stories of various successful people around the world, become inspired, motivated and educated with the SCHOOL OF GREATNESS. lewishowes.com/book
I think what makes a relationship thrive is being happy in your own skin. Your signigicant other is not responsible for your life. They are an addition to your life.
I said exactly this to my boyfriend before we broke up: "You speak to a random stranger with more respect than you do me..."...
Let's face it, if you never learn from your past relationships, you will never be a great partner. Look in the mirror.
Something I noticed in people I know in real life who stay HAPPILY married? Both people make the other persons happiness their first priority.
Her vocabularly is so beautiful! She knows the art of words.
"expectations are often a resentment in the making" this lady is so clear minded, so spot-on. Wow.
This woman is pure gold. So much common sense and wisdom.
Man, Women are hard to understand sometimes
It’s often said that relationships take hard work. I say no, not hard work, it takes effort. If both people are waking up each day thinking of ways to make the other person feel good, then you’re on the right path. Forget hard work - if you don’t even want to make an effort, then the relationship is done.
The weird thing about love is that anyone outside the relationship can clearly see something is wrong, what it is and usually they can figure out how to fix it or when its unfixable... the two people in the relationship are completely blind to all of the above
"We are very resourceful at not owning our own shit." Amen!!
4 things that kill a love relationship:
Indifference is huge. The moment you feel your partner is indifferent to you - get out as soon as possible before it becomes toxic.
Feeling like you're unwanted is absolutely crushing. This can happen in any kind of relationship, personal, casual or professional.
Violence aside, what ends many relationships is boredom and the belief that there is something better outside the relationship. There are also many people who are happiest being single.
“Fathers be good to your daughters, daughters will love like you do”
Damn I wish this woman could be my therapist. Im in the beginning stages of divorce and crying all damn day. So insightful.
Remembering to say please and thank-you is underrated advice. My grandpa thanked my grandma for every single meal she prepared for him, even just boiled sausages, ever since she dumped a serving of spaghetti for eight people over his head when he declared, “Ugh, spaghetti AGAIN?” back in the early 1970s. She worked all day, too. They had six kids, very little money and he had a big drinking problem back then.
Esther was spot on - she dropped so many gems. When she talked about people being replaceable, I felt that. So many people in relationships act like they can never be left. They let themselves go and become extremely cold towards their partners at the same time. It's the quickest way to kill any relationship.
"you are not that important and you are quite replaceable"... Love her