Diane Confronts Her Family - black-ish

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  • čas přidán 14. 01. 2019
  • When Bow (Tracee Ellis Ross) and Dre (Anthony Anderson) realize Diane (Marsai Martin) isn’t lit properly in her class photo, a challenging conversation about skin complexion arises. Watch black-ish Tuesdays at 9|8c on ABC.
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  • @ladyphoenix9752
    @ladyphoenix9752 Před 5 lety +10410

    No wonder she's the youngest producer in Hollywood . good acting and a solid head on her shoulders. she will go far 😎

    • @Dyamanti22
      @Dyamanti22 Před 5 lety +209

      Hold up, that girl Diane caracter is a Hollywood producer?

    • @mikaylabeee
      @mikaylabeee Před 5 lety +245

      Dyamanti22 Yeah. She has a movie coming out called “Little”

    • @anachristina9543
      @anachristina9543 Před 5 lety +79

      Christine Davis she literally makes my day just the best

    • @anitadimaya
      @anitadimaya Před 5 lety +44

      Oh shit for real?? Right on!!

    • @nilajakamau7854
      @nilajakamau7854 Před 5 lety +69

      Marsai is the product having the kind of parents who chose to provide HOME SCHOOLING as a building block. this style of formal education has allowed Marsai to get acquainted and secure with herself in how and what she learns rather than being mired in and distracted by forced conformity, calamitous benign neglect, cognitive dissonance, etc. there's very little legitimate salubrious diversity in the american education system, especially for children of colour. ijs

  • @sherylsmallwood-valdivia5375
    @sherylsmallwood-valdivia5375 Před 5 lety +10910

    I wanted to slap that woman who said she was georgeous for a "dark skin girl". She's georgeous, period!

    • @GothEvilButterfly91
      @GothEvilButterfly91 Před 5 lety +61

      I would of done the same thing too.

    • @jessicavictoriacarrillo7254
      @jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 Před 5 lety +221

      Almost as bad as "you have such a pretty face for a fat girl". Just tell someone they're pretty or gorgeous and leave it at that

    • @witchplease9695
      @witchplease9695 Před 5 lety +131

      @@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 "Almost as bad" Fat white girls can lose weight. We can't change our skin.

    • @Kimeesunshine
      @Kimeesunshine Před 5 lety +61

      @@witchplease9695 that's why it's ALMOST as bad..

    • @KelliM
      @KelliM Před 5 lety +71

      Yeah. But I think the writer was trying to imply what some dark skin people hear. Growing up I heard that a lot in school by other black kids. In high school they said my boyfriend and I looked like a good couple because we were both dark skin. As an adult I've heard this from guys as well..."I usually date light skin women but you're pretty for a dark skin woman." Sadly, it's something that I've heard multiple times.

  • @stewiesewe
    @stewiesewe Před 5 lety +8716

    Colourism is everywhere. Even in the black community. Dianne, girl thanks for bringing out this issue so well.

    • @Powerduo88
      @Powerduo88 Před 5 lety +217

      I would say ESPECIALLY in the black community. That's where I have experienced it the most.

    • @stewiesewe
      @stewiesewe Před 5 lety +55

      Even in India

    • @MsBettyRubble
      @MsBettyRubble Před 5 lety +57

      @@Powerduo88 yes, and especially within families. It's pathetic and sad.

    • @stanjones7054
      @stanjones7054 Před 5 lety +13

      Take back your mind:
      1. Chains and Images of Psychological Slavery - Na'im Akbar
      2. Mind Control 101 - Dantalion Jones
      3. Melanin (A Key To Freedom) - Richard King
      4. Blacked Out Through Whitewash - SUZAR

    • @SASSY13169
      @SASSY13169 Před 5 lety +6

      @@Powerduo88 Thank you! I completely agree. It was so normal to hear about it growing up.

  • @TC-ym1vk
    @TC-ym1vk Před 5 lety +6754

    Pretty for a dark skin girl😔That one always hurt

    • @TC-ym1vk
      @TC-ym1vk Před 5 lety +25

      SARA Thanks😘

    • @pinkcoko51
      @pinkcoko51 Před 5 lety +70

      Yea it did. I hated when people would say that IGNORANT mess.

    • @comedianpottymouth
      @comedianpottymouth Před 5 lety +32

      I GOT WITH AN AFRICAN TO GET A DARK SKIN BABY THAT SMOOTH SHINY BLACK SKIN I WANTED MY DAUGHTER TO HAVE IT. When we watched this episode together I said do u suffer from that she said no cause she light skinned conpared to her african side she laughed and then said plus you tell me all the time you wanted a chocolate baby and tell me how perfect my skin all my life all u do is brag about my dark skin and being around the africans she never felt to dark I didn't realize how much I put in her I always liked chocolate girls it was these twins with perfect skin and eyelashes in 3rd grade all the way up to highschool it was so black and shiny and i wanted it i used to sit in the sun and put on cocoa butter but you wanna know why i wanted to be dark cause where i grew up LIGHT SKINNED GIRLS GOT TEASED they got they hair cut off they got beat up So sad but true i was scared to get to light but now i just embrace my brown skin

    • @Jessicaqu5
      @Jessicaqu5 Před 5 lety +1

      Kali Love I totally agree with you

    • @Facepoliceworld
      @Facepoliceworld Před 5 lety +1

      Just say so are you, or if it’s a light skin say ur pretty for a light skin .

  • @vitomcsween974
    @vitomcsween974 Před 5 lety +8068

    you know after 5 season I think I'm finally starting to understand Diane the reason why she's so harsh majority of the time it is because she trying to figure out who she is

    • @lorettayoung3088
      @lorettayoung3088 Před 5 lety +62

      It's called ACTING. She is getting paid to act harsh.

    • @ambre4144
      @ambre4144 Před 5 lety +675

      loretta young she’s talking about Diane the character not Marsai the actress

    • @ceejay3813
      @ceejay3813 Před 5 lety +10

      @@lorettayoung3088 Exactly.

    • @matxalenc8410
      @matxalenc8410 Před 5 lety +176

      I thought she got it from her mean-ass grandma. I love them both, though.

    • @shaheedsimon24
      @shaheedsimon24 Před 5 lety +117

      always has to be that one "they're just acting" comment

  • @jtsctv5
    @jtsctv5 Před 5 lety +1894

    The most saddest of this truth is that its primarily our own race of black people that have issues with darker skinned black people.

    • @Crawfordsfive
      @Crawfordsfive Před 5 lety +74

      t v Nope. Sorry. Its ALL RACES..All cultures. Everywhere. asians, east indians, Africans, dominican rep, latinx, europeans, americans, everyfuckingbody.. The disdain for darker skin (on women and girls in particular) is a worldwide pandemic my friend.

    • @MissLadyG99
      @MissLadyG99 Před 4 lety +3

      @Faffy Sorry that you suffered through those comments. Did you tell your mom how that made you feel?

    • @godsbabeborn-again5945
      @godsbabeborn-again5945 Před 3 lety +4

      @Faffy 😳🥺 I'm sorry but your mom is so wrong! I hope you love yourself and your skin tone.

    • @phoebern3078
      @phoebern3078 Před 3 lety +1

      @Faffy 😥 I can't imagine how that would have made you feel.

    • @magzjay2458
      @magzjay2458 Před 3 lety +10

      Truth. Colorism occurs in ones own race more often then not.

  • @SimoneUmba
    @SimoneUmba Před 5 lety +3730

    I wanna hug Diane right now😭

    • @pusheenkitty7613
      @pusheenkitty7613 Před 5 lety +8

      Me too😢

    • @yalanarashton
      @yalanarashton Před 5 lety +11

      Me too!! I was her at that age too

    • @fattysl26
      @fattysl26 Před 5 lety +7

      *sigh* It took a lot of years to unpick all the bullshit people on me because I was darker. Just trying to blend in with neutral natural colours, now you can’t keep me away from bright colours

    • @joeypleasants4014
      @joeypleasants4014 Před 5 lety +3

      I would too. I have high functioning autism and it makes me feel different and different is a good thing. It is sad she said she didn't want to be different.

    • @Joles0
      @Joles0 Před 5 lety +1

      No pity. Teach her the truth about her beautiful complexion

  • @oliviatavistock1485
    @oliviatavistock1485 Před 5 lety +6615

    I'm a dark skinned woman with a mixed race daughter. Family members who had no time for me are falling over themselves to get to my baby. She's pale with straight hair. I know they are glad she doesn't look like me. Colourism is real. I spent my teenage years using nail polish remover trying to scrub my skin off. I wish I had been as smart and strong as Diane.

    • @maryclark6661
      @maryclark6661 Před 5 lety +234

      I’m so sorry you had to go thru that. 😢

    • @smilealwaysnatasha3423
      @smilealwaysnatasha3423 Před 5 lety +253

      Is that why you decided to have a mixed race, lighter tone baby?

    • @sherina926
      @sherina926 Před 5 lety +233

      @@smilealwaysnatasha3423 I was just about to say that. Sounds like she had some deep self-hate issues. Like when she realized she can't be white, she went after a white guy and had a mixed child. Same thing happened to my co worker. She said she grew up in a white neighborhood and got bullied and made fun of by whites. But ironically... she prefers white men and went and found a white husband. Very odd, right? You would think the opposite. But yea... they dont see the self-hate, most of us don't unfortunately.. Therapy is what is needed.

    • @oceaniamonarch5404
      @oceaniamonarch5404 Před 5 lety +42

      OMG.....that just broke my heart.....

    • @deenabee6279
      @deenabee6279 Před 5 lety +7

      What did they do to my comment- its so hacked up.....

  • @downthetube23
    @downthetube23 Před 5 lety +294

    I never understood the whole “dark skin women can’t wear red lipstick” thing to me they’re the ones who look most beautiful with it on.

  • @faithpeter5809
    @faithpeter5809 Před 5 lety +1807

    The myth about red lipstick.

    • @jnicolebean2468
      @jnicolebean2468 Před 5 lety +369

      I dont care how dark or pale anyone is. A sexy shade of red looks good on EVERYONE.

    • @HealingEraWithTricia
      @HealingEraWithTricia Před 5 lety +29

      faith peter that’s all I wear ❤️😍🥰💄

    • @jasminepearls1047
      @jasminepearls1047 Před 5 lety +53

      It depends on the shade and the actual person. Ashy lipsticks look weird on me and I like a darker red,

    • @faithpeter5809
      @faithpeter5809 Před 5 lety +94

      @@jasminepearls1047 That is true, but people are out here telling black people that they can't wear red lipstick in general. I sympathize with this clip because I was told plenty of times that I could not wear red lipstick. Now that I have tried it is my favorite lip color, the brighter the better. :)

    • @MUde-ph7gr
      @MUde-ph7gr Před 5 lety +6

      Exactly!!! I wear red lipstick all the time and get compliments.

  • @PDro11
    @PDro11 Před 5 lety +3261

    A show this woke lasted this long on TV. Im impressed. These conversations are divisive, but needed. Wish the Latin community would do the same. Alot of colorism there too.

    • @deenabee6279
      @deenabee6279 Před 5 lety +79

      DRO NOYB - YES! so glad u said that. Been telling people this for years about the Latino community

    • @deenabee6279
      @deenabee6279 Před 5 lety +107

      DRO NOYB - Been to Mexico, Ecuador, Guatemala, and Venezuela ( before the empty shelves and economic downfall) and its horrible the way they treat dark skinned and indigenous peoples!! I actually witnessed a woman tell an indigenous woman to sit in the back of the bus. True story unfortunately.

    • @PDro11
      @PDro11 Před 5 lety +36

      @@deenabee6279 just stating the facts. I'm Hispanic but darker complected than the average. I see it quite a bit.

    • @PDro11
      @PDro11 Před 5 lety +23

      @@deenabee6279 I've been to several South American countries as well and trust me, I know how you feel. I felt very uncomfortable with the looks I got in some places. Mixed race couples aren't looked too highly upon either.

    • @PDro11
      @PDro11 Před 5 lety +19

      @Bean That's what makes the conversation divisive. One side will always claim the other is privileged. It's a touchy subject.

  • @cassiebaby2319
    @cassiebaby2319 Před 5 lety +819

    My mom and I watched this together and she started crying and hugging me for 30 minutes asking me if I ever felt that way and I told her "All my life". I'm 30 and the darkest in my family and some of my own family members would call me "blackie". This has always hurt me especially when it came to my siblings and I going to the same school and being told that I couldn't be related to my lighter siblings because we didn't look the same, also being told my guys that my sisters were cuter than me because of their complexion. I have grown to love my skin and I'm soooo glad that something like this exists to teach everyone, dark or light, how unknowingly cruel the world can be.

    • @bbygirl_chay2422
      @bbygirl_chay2422 Před 5 lety +25

      As a lightskin teenager, I’m really disappointed and disgusted with how you family would called you blackie. Black woman is all shades of beautiful and I’m sad that even our black culture is tearing and seperating all of us apart. We are all one and should stick together as such. We have so much variety of shades and they are all poppin, periodT!

    • @bbygirl_chay2422
      @bbygirl_chay2422 Před 5 lety +31

      I also hate how black men degrades darker skin tones and praises lighter and whiter skin tones. Don’t get me wrong, preferences are okay but not in a way where we degrade and put down other races because they aren’t our type. Even African American women put darker complexions down even though this is a sisterhood. We are all in this together but make other women or men want to bleach their skins to get approval and accepted? LaND oF ThE FreE my butt.....

    • @jordanmarie1673
      @jordanmarie1673 Před 5 lety +8

      Cassidy Samantha I was called “blackie” too😭

    • @AshaEll
      @AshaEll Před 4 lety +7

      I'm glad that moment happened with ur mom that u felt like someone understood ur pain, I wish I cud hav that with my parents. I am also that sibling, and I understand how family can be harsh. ❤ glad you grew from it. Honestly feel hurt what u went through.

    • @kingfiction5747
      @kingfiction5747 Před 4 lety +3

      Cassidy Samantha same I'm the darkest in my family

  • @princessracquelle14
    @princessracquelle14 Před 5 lety +860

    I had ppl verbally tell me what color clothes ppl my skin color should wear. Mind yo business son. Mind you, I never asked

    • @keyannaharllee6725
      @keyannaharllee6725 Před 5 lety +13

      Racquelle Char fuck them sis. You are gorgeous

    • @princessracquelle14
      @princessracquelle14 Před 5 lety +5

      Exactly like the bright pinks and yellows. That's when I get the most compliments. It's crazy

    • @princessracquelle14
      @princessracquelle14 Před 5 lety

      @@keyannaharllee6725 thank you

    • @samchampion9492
      @samchampion9492 Před 5 lety

      facts

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez Před 4 lety +1

      Well, there is truth to that. Mostly what they're talking about is skin tone and whether or not you're warm or cool. If you have yellow or blue undertone. There are some colors you should flat out not wear. They drown you out.

  • @kcurtis7616
    @kcurtis7616 Před 5 lety +1210

    I have a dark skinned little girl and I'm thankful that at 10 she loves her skin tone and knows how beautiful it is.

    • @jasminee1357
      @jasminee1357 Před 5 lety +38

      I came here to say the same thing! My daughter is 10 also and this episode hit home because her complexion is darker than the rest of her siblings and my husband and I... but to see her so naturally love her skin makes me happy

    • @TheSuperNats
      @TheSuperNats Před 5 lety +24

      You guys must be doing a wonderful job making them feel beautiful.

    • @wambuikomu
      @wambuikomu Před 5 lety +6

      TheSuperNats and crazii_creole what did you guys do to achieve that. I have a young girl that dislikes her color.

    • @jasminee1357
      @jasminee1357 Před 5 lety +19

      @@wambuikomu oh no😔 honestly, it took a little bit (and this was a few years ago) where there was a video they gave a white doll and a black doll to kids as an experiment, and then asked questions like "which one is good? pretty? nice? Which one is mean? Bad? Ugly?".... pretty much all of them chose the white doll for all the good traits and the black doll for the bad traits, even some of the black kids. My daughter started crying and said "nobody thinks we're beautiful and nobody thinks we're good enough" and it broke my heart. So since she was into princesses, I showed her video after video of successful and beautiful women through the years.... royalty, movie stars, etc. She's also a science buff so when I explained melanin to her, and that its the reason we often look younger and more beautiful as we age, and that the fact that she has more of it means that she'll be beautiful for longer lol she thought that was cool. We also talked about how people use the idea of colorism only because they want to feel superior to others, even when they're not. There is also a cute book to help reinforce and encourage our girls called "dark skin in the mirror".

    • @kcurtis7616
      @kcurtis7616 Před 5 lety +4

      One thing I will say is if family or anyone she loves ever says anything about her skin that she takes in a negative way even if it's a joke, that can make her not like it cause kids are smart and know the real meaning, if you have anyone in your family that does that you might want to check them, I've noticed older people are worse with it. If they ever hear someone complain about their color that will make them think it's something wrong with theirs too. They say when you don't like something about yourself and a kid heard it they take on your problems, I was trying to lose weight and complaining about my stomach and next I knew my little girl thought she should too so never complain about physical looks, not saying that you do though.When she was little I would compliment everything including her skin color, and when we would see someone like angela bassett, lupita nyongo or gabrielle union on tv I would say yall have the same beautiful skin color, there is also this youtuber being neicey that has a very similar color to her and she always talks about she loves her skin and she does natural hair videos. Last summer she took swim classes and got very dark and one person in the store said something like you must be in the sun a lot looks like youve gotten a tan because you could see the swimsuit marks on her arm, and she looked at the lady and said thanks cause she was loving someone noticed. I think if you love it she will too my family always tells her how flawless smooth and beautiful her skin is because it really is it like glows. The good thing is she's young so there is time to see how beautiful she is and the fact that you even asked shows that your a good mom, I know that was really long but I hope it helps.

  • @paulbernard2785
    @paulbernard2785 Před 5 lety +312

    I watched this episode last night and it was extremely powerful and well written...great performances by the entire cast...this show continues to raise the bar and Marsai Martin is without a doubt, one of the best younger actresses on television right now...the sky's the limit with this young lady

  • @saraojut4697
    @saraojut4697 Před 5 lety +112

    I felt the “You’re pretty for a dark skin girl” That ish still gets to me. Love Blackish for this!!!

    • @DarlingNikki2
      @DarlingNikki2 Před 5 lety +4

      I hate that quantifier "for a" so much! It's as bad as "no offense, but".

    • @judydevallon
      @judydevallon Před 2 lety +1

      Omg yess !!!

  • @deedeehun1705
    @deedeehun1705 Před 5 lety +333

    I was waiting for this episode for a long long time! Colorism has caused so much pain in so many families, expecially between siblings!

  • @lamoskgr
    @lamoskgr Před 5 lety +69

    I love her character. This is the story of my life. I'm the darkest in my family. I was the only Black person in my school. I was always the best friend, never the girlfriend. I was always "cute for a dark-skinned girl". I loved that Diane stood up for herself ❤️❤️

  • @witchplease9695
    @witchplease9695 Před 5 lety +75

    My future daughter will be Dark skinned and my husband and I can't wait to show her how beautiful she is. Dark skin is lovely and always will be.

  • @ran9yakumo
    @ran9yakumo Před 5 lety +52

    i work at ulta and all the white girls there were always confused whenever i said i know nothing about foundation until i told them “why should i learn about it when products will never have my shade”. Dark skin problems 😔

    • @brokenquill9277
      @brokenquill9277 Před 3 lety +1

      I’m not all that light but admittedly I’ve never had a problem finding my shade, maybe that’s my privilege?

  • @00ghostcobra
    @00ghostcobra Před 5 lety +37

    This episode was something else.. Diane is a beautiful little girl.

  • @elll3s
    @elll3s Před 5 lety +34

    I really felt this episode....I can totally relate to Diane!

  • @jpowers55
    @jpowers55 Před 5 lety +348

    Can you say Emmy moment?

    • @jovanym2931
      @jovanym2931 Před 5 lety +3

      jpowers55
      No

    • @bewchie7431
      @bewchie7431 Před 5 lety

      @@jovanym2931 duh you have a spiderman pfp you can't read yet😍

    • @jovanym2931
      @jovanym2931 Před 5 lety

      @@bewchie7431
      are you dumb ? or what this is generic asf

  • @vanessagebatez123
    @vanessagebatez123 Před 5 lety +759

    Why can’t dark skin women wear red lipstick???

    • @lizpizano7684
      @lizpizano7684 Před 5 lety +168

      i think they can probably pull it off better i love dark rich tones on my nails and lips i feel like its something woman of darker complextion have always been told and its a lie.....red is for everyone!!!

    • @lizpizano7684
      @lizpizano7684 Před 5 lety +7

      Oh btw light skined Latina just myoption not trying to speak for nobody

    • @cocobean6281
      @cocobean6281 Před 5 lety +71

      I dont get why too !! For me Red Lipstivk suits every skin color/tone from the palest to the darkest 🌸

    • @ajallen9674
      @ajallen9674 Před 5 lety +21

      Meh, red is such a hard color to pull off, especially when you're either really dark or really pale. You're supposed to wear subdued colors, because they match better. I have really pale skin, and bright red looks awful on me.

    • @vanessagebatez123
      @vanessagebatez123 Před 5 lety +77

      @@ajallen9674 Red looks good on everyone

  • @brittanythompson2326
    @brittanythompson2326 Před 5 lety +19

    This made me cry when I saw it on Hulu. When I got work I cried thinking about it. I watched it last night and cried. Watching it now and crying. I was Diane. I was the darkest girl in my family. Ive been told im pretty for my complexion. Ive bee ridculed by my famil. By friends. As if my darkness is something to be ashamed off. I was singled out because my friends were lighter than me when we went out. Ive always loved being dark skinned though. Ive always looked for girls like me on tv. So I cry because little girls that are like me have a Diane to watch every week they have a Tika Sumpter. A Danai Guarai . A Lupita. That beautiful black girl from Star. Gabby Sidobhe and they arent the background. They arent the steretype. They just are..... because we exist and it is so beautiful.

  • @yalanarashton
    @yalanarashton Před 5 lety +20

    I can relate to Diane as I was in similar situations as her too. It's something we don't talk about but my husband and I had that conversation since he's mixed (white, black, Filipino, Jamaican). Our experiences with colorism made us understand each other more. I love my chocolate skin and it's important that we teach our children about self-love.

  • @entertainmentstarz1
    @entertainmentstarz1 Před 5 lety +126

    Asians have to deal with this colorism too. I'm Asian and when I was a kid I heard some Asian kids in my school talked about Asian people with dark skin will most of time won't be treated fairly. Asian people with light skin will get better treatment. Asian people don't talk much about colorism either. I remember some of my Asian friends said that their parents made them eat white rice b/c it will give them lighter skin. Their parents didn't let them eat brown rice so their kids won't have darker skin. Also their parents bought skin cream from Asia to put it on my friends to have lighter skin. I have kinda light tan-ish skin and all my life people thought that I was Latin or mixed race of Asian, Latin or white and none of that wasn't true. They said that I don't look full Asian b/c of my skin and my features. My family and relatives have light skin to light tan-ish skin. I still sure colorism is an issue for Asians too. We don't talk much about it, basically Asian people don't talk about anything with emotions or how we feel on any topics. We just act like we are tough people and we don't have any problems. Deep down we do have emotions and problems, but we have to hide it. I think now young Asian generation are speaking up on colorism and anything.

    • @nanaesio.nyarkoh2858
      @nanaesio.nyarkoh2858 Před 5 lety +38

      entertainmentstarz1 colorism is is every non-white ethnicity. Colonialism created the image that whiter is better.

    • @mattiec3320
      @mattiec3320 Před 5 lety +12

      @@nanaesio.nyarkoh2858 actually Asian colorism has nothing to do with colonialism.

    • @Keke-oh6zd
      @Keke-oh6zd Před 5 lety +15

      I'm happy the new generation Asians are becoming more vocal on issues, especially colorism. The white worship I see from Asians saddens me. I saw a beautiful Asian girl getting rid of her nice eye folds to look more "Western". If they are more vocal for rights and representation, maybe they can find the beauty in Asian features.

    • @entertainmentstarz1
      @entertainmentstarz1 Před 5 lety +3

      I also do see some Asians, but mainly some Asian girls do that to their eyes and dye their hair blonde or light brown. I don't know...maybe they don't find themselves beautiful or Asian people aren't attractive? I do hear and experience that Asians, especially Asian guys aren't attractive. I guess that's why some Asians change their Asian features to look more Western. It's kinda sad to see that.

    • @Keke-oh6zd
      @Keke-oh6zd Před 5 lety +10

      @@entertainmentstarz1 most non-whites have bad PR. Whites set the standards because they pillaged and conquered the world. If Asians did the same, everyone would try to look Asian. If Africans conquered, the world would try to look African. We all just need to keep that in mind that there is beauty in every group, even if it's not in media. Asian men like black women suffer from bad PR. It wasn't until I went to college that I found out most Asian men aren't nerdy, awkward, and effeminate. I met some really attractive and outgoing Asian men! I wish white media could show images like that more often. Just like the image of black women as loud, ghetto, mean, promiscuous etc; is not representative of most black women I knew, yet people tend to assume I'm that way until they get to know me. Media powerful and can affect people's perception of you and control opportunities for jobs, dating etc;. That's why every group must fight for positive representation.

  • @michaelglass7047
    @michaelglass7047 Před 5 lety +133

    I Looved this episode of blackish 👍

  • @byronrideaux
    @byronrideaux Před 5 lety +205

    I thought she was gonna cry

    • @PoshSpice-89
      @PoshSpice-89 Před 5 lety +31

      byron Rideaux Diane never cries.

    • @byronrideaux
      @byronrideaux Před 5 lety +6

      @@PoshSpice-89 Diane did cry in the penultimate episode of the 4th season

    • @TC-ym1vk
      @TC-ym1vk Před 5 lety +9

      byron Rideaux I thought I was gonna cry 😩

    • @fifinanti80
      @fifinanti80 Před 5 lety +8

      Diane is cold and don't cry. The family is afraid of her😂😂

  • @thelatebloomer8786
    @thelatebloomer8786 Před 5 lety +13

    I really hope when the time comes she gets her own spin off or just a show of her own💜💜💜

  • @nataleesimone9222
    @nataleesimone9222 Před 5 lety +15

    This is so real, and I've been there. One of the few in my family whose darker. My father used to tell me, "You're not black, you're Indian", which hurt me because I'm both and other things as well. But, thanks to my mom and other strong black women in my life, I learned the differentiation between some of my family and I as well as peers is what makes me who I am. Furthermore, what's entwined into this toffee skin is culture, great history, and victory.
    **Edit: My dad is still learning, but can overall celebrate me in regard to my skin tone and hair texture, which is another topic we need to continue to discuss - there's no such thing as "good hair".

  • @sinceyouasked394
    @sinceyouasked394 Před 5 lety +229

    sigh, a coworker showed me a picture of her grandchild and before I could say anything she says 'She's so dark, right?'

    • @lemoncookie7238
      @lemoncookie7238 Před 5 lety +79

      Wow..she needed to tune in to this episode

    • @PoshSpice-89
      @PoshSpice-89 Před 5 lety +24

      Carly Schindler make her watch this.

    • @deenabee6279
      @deenabee6279 Před 5 lety +61

      Carly Schindler - similar thing happened to me and I was super shocked. But it was a latino family. Me and my husband were living on a mitary base and our neighbors were Puerto Rican. They were both light/white looking. But their kids were dark. I was talking to the mom and she said to me after I met her daughter (yes she said this to a black person!!) "She's almost the perfect daughter - except she's so dark..what a shame" WHO SAYS THAT?!?!? Her daughter was beautiful, excellent student, well mannered. She was perfect just as she was, as God made her -Period. If her daughter was so flawed bc of her darker latina complexion then what was I as her black neighbor - the loch ness monster? I still can't believe that till this day.

    • @Kashleighsays
      @Kashleighsays Před 5 lety +3

      💔

    • @giovanahc
      @giovanahc Před 5 lety +23

      @@deenabee6279 You should have said something after your shock. I'm learning to say stuff in the moment to people who say or do things I don't like. At least they are going to be in disbelief and not just you.

  • @JuanitoJones1983
    @JuanitoJones1983 Před 5 lety +55

    This episode had me crying real tears.

    • @JuanitoJones1983
      @JuanitoJones1983 Před 5 lety +2

      @ais y it's episode 10 of season 5. It's titled, Black Like Us.

    • @DavidLee-vp3nr
      @DavidLee-vp3nr Před 5 lety

      How are you even in this country? trump didn't build that wall yet?

    • @glamour101girl8
      @glamour101girl8 Před 5 lety +11

      David Lee that was uncalled for

    • @GreenBlue8840
      @GreenBlue8840 Před 3 lety

      @@glamour101girl8 It's comment history speaks for itself.

  • @frogwhisperer2067
    @frogwhisperer2067 Před 5 lety +12

    So many movies and tv shows are so quick to spout that “different is good!” message, but very rarely do they actually go into the complex emotions that come with being dark-skinned or gay or disabled etc

  • @SaharaKnows
    @SaharaKnows Před 5 lety +202

    They need stop type casting Diane’s character as aggressive mean, manipulative. They would never do this to zoeys character. I would love to see a story line with her dating a boy and being feminine. I would never have my Young dark skin daughter watch the show. They The gag is that the show in itself is colorist. The light skin mixed love interest. Like we haven’t seen that before....

    • @angelaharris9714
      @angelaharris9714 Před 4 lety +25

      While I understand why you say this, I don’t want them to do that with diane’s character. That’s what I love about her character. It makes her so funny and interesting. She has me cracking up. The episode when she got her period was hilarious 😂. However I have enough common sense to know that this isn’t a default character trait of dark skin people. If anything I think they dialed down the character traits over the seasons. But I understand why you say that though.

    • @tubailey2459
      @tubailey2459 Před 4 lety +20

      I don’t see it that way. I just figured Diane was practicing to be a really smooth business owner some day! She’s got Grandma Ruby’s cold hearted ways...I always saw her as smart!!! I think she’s funny because she messes with people’s heads like Damien from the “Omen.”

    • @tubailey2459
      @tubailey2459 Před 4 lety +14

      And I’m saying this as a brown skinned female whose sisters are all fair. I don’t see it that way! Diane has got serious skills and she’s a BOSS already!!

    • @angelaharris9714
      @angelaharris9714 Před 4 lety +3

      Tu Bailey exactly. That’s what makes her character the best and hilarious.

    • @life0093
      @life0093 Před 4 lety +1

      They made Zoey an annoying b***h. Haha

  • @essencetaylor5956
    @essencetaylor5956 Před 5 lety +16

    Pro tip: most all of lipstick shades can be worn by us black girls when using a lip liner. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't wear pink or red!

  • @cadiiiiii
    @cadiiiiii Před 5 lety +19

    This is a great message to put in the show for young black girls out there. Every black girl is beautiful where you’re light skinned or dark skinned. I love Diane btw 😊💕

  • @ambre4144
    @ambre4144 Před 5 lety +228

    I was about to cry. I’ve always been the darkest one out of all me 4 siblings and my family used to say to my mom « why is she so dark compared to her brothers and sisters?! » but my mom always Tom me that I was beautiful the way I was and I don’t feel bad about it but all my friend are like always saying that light skinned girls are prettier so🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @julieperez7505
      @julieperez7505 Před 5 lety +15

      MAIT Mait I’m sorry sorry you had to experience that. Iv never experienced colorism (and never really will) but I really want you to know how beautiful dark skin is regardless of what anyone else has to say about that. It’s a shame our society works this way. Sending you peace and love ❤️

    • @ambre4144
      @ambre4144 Před 5 lety +4

      Julie Perez in fact it is a shame. But I’ve learned to live with it and now I don’t feel sad anymore. Thank you for your support 💛☺️
      The world needs more humans like you !

    • @PoshSpice-89
      @PoshSpice-89 Před 5 lety +16

      Your friends lied and were brainwashed by tv.

    • @nalichaantoine6977
      @nalichaantoine6977 Před 5 lety +1

      MAIT Mait same I'm darker than my half sister and she keeps on making fun of me for it.

    • @reginanamaemba4521
      @reginanamaemba4521 Před 5 lety +1

      Story of my life

  • @deborah7765
    @deborah7765 Před 5 lety +10

    “I’m not dark dark” that took me out 😂😂

  • @justanotherisekaiprotagoni7293

    “It’s everyone I talk to” 😂😂😂ik this scene is emotional but that skit had me dying when she looked at the camera n was “like ik this lady did not just say that to me😂”

  • @ElleBrOw
    @ElleBrOw Před 5 lety +3

    I absolutely luv the confidence given to Dianne's character AND its evident in the young lady Marsai Martin has become. We can look forward to her bright on/off screen future 🤩

  • @tejayjr.9893
    @tejayjr.9893 Před 5 lety +6

    This was a great episode probably the best one yet...👍🏽👍🏾👍🏿 ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿

  • @poeticlovee
    @poeticlovee Před 5 lety +2

    Wow. This gave me chills. I’ve had this convo with my daughter as well.

  • @Indielizard711
    @Indielizard711 Před 4 lety

    I just saw this episode last night, and it appeared today. She’s so great! I have chills...

  • @vanimaduray5473
    @vanimaduray5473 Před 5 lety +3

    I felt so bad for Diane in this episode, but it was Ruby speaking about her childhood that almost me in tears. Flipping through that album and talking about not being allowed to play in the front yard with her lighter-skinned cousins... Her pain was so real. If anything, that moment deserved all the awards. As an Indian person living in South Africa, I can relate to colourism in our communities, but this was done so beautifully. Well done to everyone on the team for opening up this topic for discussion

  • @lilrose7936
    @lilrose7936 Před 3 lety +10

    Honestly, they tell lighter black skinned people that they arent” black” then tell dark skinned people that they are to dark or ugly . Make up y’all’s mind

  • @hellobye4154
    @hellobye4154 Před 5 lety +1

    In Europe we are at season 3.. listening to this , her voice changed so much. She grew up.. we love you diane , just the way you are

  • @DorlaChristie
    @DorlaChristie Před 5 lety +1

    This was so well written. I haven’t watched this show in a while but I may have to check it out.

  • @TheRozberry
    @TheRozberry Před 5 lety +6

    I'm anxious to go back and watch this episode because I missed it the other night. I hope it is explained to Diane that sometimes people's DNA sometimes reaches back and grabs the skin-tone of a past ancestor which I guess is sometimes viewed as a "recessive gene". I seen it in lots of families...even in my own. My dad had seven brothers and four sisters and all of them are light-skinned like my grandmother and grandfather except for one of my uncles who is dark-skinned but he has the same facial features as the rest of the siblings.

  • @manboi1794
    @manboi1794 Před 3 lety +7

    I just want to point out that unlike almost every child in modern day Hollywood This girl stands out as one of the best child actors.

  • @manualjuridico9204
    @manualjuridico9204 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Esse episódio é um soco no estômago. PERFEITO!

  • @jasonlawrence7607
    @jasonlawrence7607 Před 5 lety

    This was a dopeass episode. Im glad I just started watching this show for the first time didn't know they had so many episodes

  • @bronzebellezza7123
    @bronzebellezza7123 Před 5 lety +5

    It’s very interesting because her skin color and the person who plays her twin skin color is not drastically different. She isn’t even really “dark skin” she is more medium toned. And was drastically lighter than the person who told her women like us don’t wear red lol.

    • @a.augustine1234
      @a.augustine1234 Před 3 lety

      People r different at perceiving skin tones, I'm also mid-brown skinned. Sum ppl c me as lighter skin. Sum think I have darker skin. My cuz is also quite a lot darker than me too, she said I'm dark. I'm lighter than my nephew, he thinks I'm dark too whereas other ppl have a different opinion about my skin. Colourism is defo an issue for all shades! I can't b brown I'm either 1 or the other to ppl

  • @ladygodiva2187
    @ladygodiva2187 Před 5 lety +17

    The whole episode should’ve been from her pov.

  • @Gully.1
    @Gully.1 Před 3 lety +1

    Being different is a good thing that shows how unique you are.

  • @rachelo7075
    @rachelo7075 Před 5 lety

    Just watched this episode so empowering and a lesson made

  • @yupitsme9713
    @yupitsme9713 Před 5 lety +18

    I always wanted to be darker because my mom was and she was beautiful. That was my idea of beauty, darker skin. My eyes still gravitate towards darker skin because of its beauty. 😍

    • @bbhalocapricorn2321
      @bbhalocapricorn2321 Před 4 lety +1

      Mz Chee your still dark girl but I guess you mean chocolate

    • @fijitearss
      @fijitearss Před 4 lety

      You’re still really dark though, unless you mean lupitas complexion

    • @jessidiary4884
      @jessidiary4884 Před 3 lety

      U are beautiful just the way u are and so are all skin colours, beauty is beauty, it should not be defined by skin colour.

    • @grace3485
      @grace3485 Před 3 lety +2

      @@fijitearss nahh she's brown skin lol

  • @jasminejackson1319
    @jasminejackson1319 Před 5 lety +6

    I'm dark skin and so is my 20 yr daughter and both love the skin we in 😘

  • @KaneneProductions
    @KaneneProductions Před 5 lety

    *May this show never leave the air*

  • @taesugnx
    @taesugnx Před 4 lety

    I'm so glad Dianne shared this with her family, they need to understand whatever she is feeling and comfort her.

  • @shea2655
    @shea2655 Před 5 lety +198

    All I could think of during this episode is how the show's casting promotes the exact stereotypes they "addressed"

    • @ellcally508
      @ellcally508 Před 5 lety +41

      Yup. Darker man with lighter woman.

    • @tessymay933
      @tessymay933 Před 5 lety +2

      Exactly. Human beings are funny

    • @shea2655
      @shea2655 Před 5 lety +39

      Ell Cally The darkest main character, Diane, is aggressive and evil. The lightest, junior, is soft, nerdy, less masculine. The father figure is a joke and buffoon with emotional instability because of an absent father. The list goes on. This show is a joke.

    • @arj8383
      @arj8383 Před 5 lety +34

      Shea Butter Beauty aggressive? Evil? You’re really using those descriptors about a little girl?
      Maybe that’s your own bias doing the talking.

    • @cherylelliotcrnaelliot2997
      @cherylelliotcrnaelliot2997 Před 5 lety +1

      I confess, I was thinking that myself.

  • @noxolosikakane8257
    @noxolosikakane8257 Před 5 lety +4

    Omg. I want Diane to have her own show 😭

  • @broman54561
    @broman54561 Před 4 lety

    This issue really hits home

  • @s.a7766
    @s.a7766 Před 4 lety

    This was one of my favourite episodes by far

  • @drabsyo5490
    @drabsyo5490 Před 5 lety +3

    I dont even watch this show but I love her so much

  • @BeautyforAshess
    @BeautyforAshess Před 2 lety +5

    1. Darkskin girls with red lipstick is BEAUTIFUL .

  • @sunshineramirez7766
    @sunshineramirez7766 Před 3 lety +2

    As a dark skin Afro Latina I 100% get this. Til this day I stay away from colors like olive green and maroon because my mother drilled it into me that girls my complexion shouldn’t wear dark colors because “I’d look six shades blacker”

  • @frankinsaneandmyrrh1202
    @frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 Před 5 lety +3

    everything she said is so important ugh I'm glad this show is addressing this
    p.s. I love Diane and Marsai is beautiful!

  • @mariedaparellio5686
    @mariedaparellio5686 Před 5 lety +5

    The bandaid thing got me when I was like 3. I didn’t think bandaids were actually intended to be “skin colored” until I saw them on light skin children.

  • @ashleythomas0417
    @ashleythomas0417 Před 5 lety +8

    I've been waiting for this episode. 😏

  • @nichettucker8972
    @nichettucker8972 Před 5 lety

    This was so real. This young lady is a very talented actress.

  • @rebekahredd5545
    @rebekahredd5545 Před rokem +2

    "Being black is not what I'm trying to be, it's who I am!"
    -Carlton Banks

  • @lemoncookie7238
    @lemoncookie7238 Před 5 lety +11

    My Favorite show great topics

  • @CassidyStarke
    @CassidyStarke Před 4 lety +6

    I have the same thing. My mom is dark skinned and my dad is light skinned.
    I’m kinda in the middle but when i’m with my mom’s family i’m the lightest and when i’m with my dad’s family i’m the darkest.

  • @paulina5344
    @paulina5344 Před 5 lety

    Was waiting for this

  • @nicolestanford8154
    @nicolestanford8154 Před 5 lety +1

    This show inspired me to write on this topic for one of my major sociology course .

  • @6ix_KG
    @6ix_KG Před 3 lety +4

    As a dark skin man myself I can relate. It was tough growing up but at least we had Wesley Snipes who made it cool to be dark. Kids these days will have their own role models

  • @NoName-ot8kl
    @NoName-ot8kl Před 4 lety +16

    Can we also talk about black males who purposefully have children with women of any other race, bi-racial, or light skinned just so that their kid will have lighter complexion and/or wavy hair? I see it all the time. Ive noticed more dark skinned women are doing this too. I think it’s because we lack opportunities to be with black males but you never know.

  • @mlindo49
    @mlindo49 Před 5 lety

    I loved this episode, they took a hard topic in our households and made America hear. Thank you we needed this!!!

  • @lolabigcups7121
    @lolabigcups7121 Před 5 lety

    This episode sparked a whole family phone tree conversation in my family. I got real and it got deep. I can't say we fully where we need to be but we not where we used to be.

  • @blm_multifandomgurl946
    @blm_multifandomgurl946 Před 4 lety +6

    I actually understand how she feels... like I’m dark and so is my mum but I feel darker than her and people make fun of me...
    She is such amazing actors thank you blackish for doing this scene

  • @marvinscott3364
    @marvinscott3364 Před 5 lety +8

    This shit hit home. So real and honest ... Society would have you believing dark is ugly. And if your not strong enough, you'll agree. It's the opposite and I wouldn't change for anything. I'm glad this show is bringing colorism up in conversation

  • @ashleywills8761
    @ashleywills8761 Před 2 lety +1

    I loved this episode I had the same issues in my family too it’s sad that it’s still an on going problem

  • @byronroberts2720
    @byronroberts2720 Před 3 lety +1

    Her words cut deep,
    Deeper than any blade I ever used.

  • @kaylathompson8218
    @kaylathompson8218 Před 4 lety +5

    As a light skin girl myself, I did not know about this issue until last year. I've always loved dark skin girls and their beautiful chocolate skin... If anybody who is dark skinned is out here reading this, you are beautiful! 💛

  • @shrishti6406
    @shrishti6406 Před 3 lety +3

    I know this show is talking about colourism in black society but as an Indian I can relate to it so hard...

  • @delanismith641
    @delanismith641 Před 4 lety +1

    All the scenarios that happens to Diane happened to me. Thank god for a show like this

  • @HealingEraWithTricia
    @HealingEraWithTricia Před 5 lety

    This episode was GOOD!

  • @paolankwuzor2923
    @paolankwuzor2923 Před 5 lety +11

    Marsai Martin, the world is yours. I can't wait for this girl to get the recognition that the bi-racial actresses (I forgot their names) are getting. If she doesn't, it will prove all that we have been saying regarding colorism especially with Black women.

  • @shaniamontara8057
    @shaniamontara8057 Před 4 lety +7

    My mother is dark skin and no cap I’ve always wanted to look like her . I think she is one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen. However my family calls me red bone and used to say shit like “girl you getting dark you need to stay outta the sun” never changed my perspective on my mom it made me love darker skin women. That shit could’ve made me hate my own moms skin. Gotta be careful what you say to kids

  • @Wow-br7tm
    @Wow-br7tm Před 5 lety

    Wow this was needed

  • @sisi429
    @sisi429 Před 3 lety +1

    As hilarious and light-hearted as this show is, I am continuously surprised at how deep and complex this show real is!

  • @ebenezernyenwe1677
    @ebenezernyenwe1677 Před 5 lety +3

    Thank you Diane

  • @minnied84
    @minnied84 Před 5 lety +4

    As a member of the darkest person in my family club I feel this.

  • @taylordowning2533
    @taylordowning2533 Před 5 lety

    I'm so glad there is a show finally addressing this issue. This hurt, but its true

  • @keishajpmes1103
    @keishajpmes1103 Před 5 lety

    This was a great episode

  • @aaronmartinez9431
    @aaronmartinez9431 Před 5 lety +10

    Growing up my grandmother showered my cousins with attention. My cousins were light skin, green eyes. We we're dark skin, black hair. My grandma would tell my mother that we looked dirty all the time. (Bc of our skin tone). My beautiful mother cursed her out and we never said her again. My grandma was a mean shrew of woman. Lol

  • @niyah1229
    @niyah1229 Před 5 lety +10

    I’m dark skin and deal with the same thing...people of your own race being discriminative towards you because of your complexion😰😥

  • @LG-kx8xl
    @LG-kx8xl Před 5 lety +2

    She was so cute with her beautiful dimpled smile & now she's coming up as she gets older. I can see this girl being an Amazing serious actress like Angela Bassett. Yara Shahidi (older sister on the show) got a lot of attention (she looks exactly like her mom except lighter, shes a commercial actress). Yara has Hollywood ties due to her dad being a photographer too. He was Prince's personal photographer & she knew him well. I think she's good but I don't see her as serious, more comedic. I can't wait to see how "Diane" blossoms in this industry. This clip here is really moving. She's Great already!

  • @ahimsaclosetboutique
    @ahimsaclosetboutique Před 5 lety

    This hit home 😢😢