Never Be Needy Again By Doing This One Thing

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  • Get rid of co-dependency patterns, neediness and craving validation like THIS!
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    In this video, I'm gonna show you how to never be needy again. I'm gonna share with you what I have a coach that I pay quite a bit of money, 1,500 bucks a month, Shadow Integration Coach. I'm gonna share with you what I have learned from him that has completely transformed my life. Over the last six months, I've had people tell me that they watch my old videos and they hardly recognize me from who I was to who I am now. And I'm gonna share with you what that transformation is, what the practice is, the exercise you can do is that will completely transform your entire life if you do it for a period of time.
    Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video, I'm gonna be showing you how to never be needy again and how to ditch codependent behaviors. If you are somebody that feels like maybe you are craving validation or like you fall into other people's frame, I have an analogy for you that I'm gonna explain to you in a second that I think will clear a lot of this up. But realize that it is rooted and it comes from a point in your past when you were a kid where you craved and you needed something maybe that need wasn't met. And what happens is now you are going and looking for it on the outside somewhere not knowing that what you need is already on the inside. Now, what happens is when people become needy, they are craving something from the outside and the challenge with that is that then because they are needy, they are normally repelling of their people.
    So if you are needy in love, you'll find that you might really like someone then really hope they text you back and then really hope things go a certain way. They'll feel that neediness off of you and a lot of times it then repels them. Now, what this really is is being needy and being codependent, is being attached, you are attached to something on the outside and to a belief that says that unless I have this thing on the outside, then I'm not complete already. So it is rooted in a fundamental belief that says, I need something out there to feel a certain way. And here, I'm gonna share with you my story through this process as well and how it completely transformed. But first let's realize that it comes from that of a childhood experience.
    Now let's imagine like this. When we're kids, we're dependent, we're dependent on our parents. Now what happens is many times let's say this is you, this is mom, this is dad. Let's say when you were a kid, I imagine your mom or your dad came over the crib and it was like, hah, hey, like that, right? It's like, oh, all these expressive faces. Now imagine one day you were there and your mom or dad came up but there was no on their face. Imagine that the, oh, and like all that little baby goggle stuff, imagine that went away. And then all of a sudden you start wondering like I'm not getting attention, I'm not having my needs met. And then what a lot of times happen is as the baby grows up it then says, if I different maybe I can get that love or that approval or that attention. So a lot of times then that person will seek based on the belief that there's something wrong with me, there's a belief that says, there's something wrong with me, I need something on the outside in order for me to feel 100% worthy, whole and complete or in order for me to be enough. So it's a fundamental belief system that simply hasn't been challenged since being a kid.

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  • @AaronDoughty44
    @AaronDoughty44  Před 3 lety +50

    Hey everyone! I'll be going live for 21 days starting on July 1st to help you heal and release love blocks so that you raise your love vibration and become a more magnetic version of you in less than 21 days! Join here: ➡ AaronDoughty.com/Love

  • @1endlesssoul
    @1endlesssoul Před 3 lety +1084

    Once you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you😌

    • @highermind4151
      @highermind4151 Před 3 lety +18

      You are the entire Universe

    • @fnzone
      @fnzone Před 3 lety +1

      True

    • @looslaura1
      @looslaura1 Před 3 lety +1

      Like that🌠

    • @vegetablepolice1
      @vegetablepolice1 Před 3 lety +1

      We all are all connected and family . A lacking there is not a mindset that u have everything u need and are where u need to be Is what thay dont teach u

    • @brookekimbell
      @brookekimbell Před 3 lety

      @@highermind4151 you

  • @UniversalCrystals
    @UniversalCrystals Před 3 lety +453

    *When you stop needing things to be happy that is when they all show up* 🤯

    • @rootedro
      @rootedro Před 3 lety +4

      So truuuue 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @patmorales4159
      @patmorales4159 Před 3 lety +2

      Truth!!!

    • @SBal-kv8tv
      @SBal-kv8tv Před 3 lety +2

      Crazy accurate 😂

    • @tarasapone7887
      @tarasapone7887 Před 3 lety +3

      Really?
      When you're NOT needily looking for it.....it comes☺️
      I'm sick to death of being NOTHING & NO GOOD just cause of a negative _____!😠

    • @Cute_Stuffs
      @Cute_Stuffs Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you Universal

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss Před 3 lety +571

    If you're searching for the one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.❤

    • @ZenfulHaze
      @ZenfulHaze Před 3 lety +4

      The man in the mirror is somewhat alright, but it is not the missing piece to complete that man.

    • @ZenfulHaze
      @ZenfulHaze Před 3 lety +6

      yeah, i know, we don't need anybody except ourselves, true,
      Although, Living an entire life for nothing except myself? idk.
      For me it's either i meet that one person or i head to the 'monk' 'life',
      so i guess it depends on the person.

    • @whatthefox6303
      @whatthefox6303 Před 3 lety +1

      This hit me harder than any CZcams comment has a right to.

    • @MandyJRoss
      @MandyJRoss Před 3 lety +2

      @@whatthefox6303 🙌🏻👑

    • @MandyJRoss
      @MandyJRoss Před 3 lety +1

      @@lorettaelainecorson4035 💗🤍🤎

  • @Emily21134
    @Emily21134 Před 3 lety +495

    “What happens is people who experienced emotional abandonment as a child, as adults, they will then abandon themselves “
    That is the realest thing I’ve heard in years

    • @mateegooknuh5988
      @mateegooknuh5988 Před 3 lety +5

      Unfortunately yes

    • @entitled7665
      @entitled7665 Před 3 lety +10

      Wow 😳 that comment’ stopped me in my tracks! I just had’ an aha’ moment!

    • @meraki4132
      @meraki4132 Před 2 lety +1

      Yells when he talks. Good topics but can’t listen for long.

    • @voleurdepoule2934
      @voleurdepoule2934 Před 2 lety +4

      Ok so i go kill myself again?!
      No! There's a way of getting out of this shit, i know deep in my heart, healing is possible. Parenting ourselves with nice best intentions is possible, maybe when we feel we belong to something bigger than us (can be a band, a family, but can also be some idea as Life) and then we feel that we deserve love too

    • @christinahazzard8086
      @christinahazzard8086 Před 2 lety +1

      @@voleurdepoule2934 NO. Not right away, anyways.
      "deserve"? Yes! That can be IT for some. Unworthiness is a symptom of the "issue-at-hand", whatever that may be in the moment. Mistreating ourselves is a "habit" carried from "before". "We must unlearn" - Yoda. There's a lot of help to be found here on you tube, Vegas nerve exercises, Mental Health advice of various, useful types, and encouragement such as this.

  • @magicmarie8403
    @magicmarie8403 Před 3 lety +343

    This pops up after my boyfriend doesn’t answer his phone. 🤣🤣
    “Never be needy again.”

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 Před 3 lety +25

      And your mind always defaults to the worst possible scenario!

    • @nickli6615
      @nickli6615 Před 3 lety +15

      I just broke up with my ex today, and lucky me I found this

    • @Weeeelium
      @Weeeelium Před 3 lety +9

      @@MJA5 oh yeah that’s the bad part. Sometimes I default to the worst case scenario even if it’s during happy times. Holy

    • @kendraamara6824
      @kendraamara6824 Před 3 lety +2

      This made me crack up🤣

    • @princeekeson12
      @princeekeson12 Před 3 lety +6

      Coincidence? I think not.😄

  • @1endlesssoul
    @1endlesssoul Před 3 lety +447

    Remember you don’t have a soul. You ARE a soul, and you have a body. 😌

  • @inner-worksllctotalthought2131

    My grandmother told me once she said, there is no body or thing outside of you that can make you happy, you need to be happy with you and love you most , so you can enjoy those things outside of you! And she said DONT DWELL !

  • @Valoelify
    @Valoelify Před 3 lety +34

    I cried so hard through the whole video.. I have extreme codependency, neediness, fear of abandonment. I am diagnosed with severe Borderline personality disorder.. but I suffer so much despite many years of treatment. You are saving me with this video Aaron, I am saving me by watching it. Thank you so much for helping lost souls like me, bless you

    • @2008MrsKim
      @2008MrsKim Před 3 lety +4

      I learned to love myself by asking myself " Why" when I give myself the answer, I then ask myself " Why" again. It will get you to the root cause, then ask yourself " Why" are you hanging on to it.
      When sad/mad thoughts comes to mind, sit and go through this list.
      Why are you codependent, Why do you need them to take care of you?
      Why are you needy, why can't you do it on your own?
      Why do you need that to make you feel better?
      Why do you need this to make you happy?
      Why are you blaming childhood memories on your life's choices?
      Why are you letting it bring you down?
      Why are you NOT letting it go?
      Why are you visiting it again just because it comes to mind?
      Why are you not saying " I can do this"
      Why do you need someone to tell you you are good?
      Why do you need someone to validate you?
      Why does the opinion of someone else make you who you are?
      Why are you NOT giving "0" shits about what people think about you?
      Why do you need to please other people?
      Why do you need people to like you?
      "Why Do I Care?"
      Love from a Sister.

    • @paula280690
      @paula280690 Před 3 měsíci

      Have you tried EMDR? It helped me a lot and I know nie everyone heard about it xx

  • @michaelcalvin5847
    @michaelcalvin5847 Před 3 lety +121

    Do not allow yourself to wait for validation from another person. Be the person you have forgotten about who you used to be.

  • @brujalinda
    @brujalinda Před 3 lety +116

    I have abandoned myself but never got real love from the outside. This time I’ll abandoned everyone and be selfish enough to love myself and the hell with everyone.

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +20

      Loving yourself is not selfish. It is the best thing for everyone including me..at the heart we are all the same.... but by truly loving yourself and say "hell with everyone" what you will be doing in reality is RECONNECTING with everyone, not separating but rather healing the wounds that caused the separation in the first place.... but on your Spirit's terms, not others' terms.

    • @sunnygirl9691
      @sunnygirl9691 Před 3 lety +2

      @@TheMediumChannel that’s a nice explantation!

    • @Ladyinred001
      @Ladyinred001 Před 3 lety +5

      @@TheMediumChannel or not reconnect. Some people are narcissistic and drainers. By healing yourself you will come to learn that if they don’t heal as well, you may want to consider to let go of that connection. Or limit the time you spend with them. No matter how much you heal and detach, you’re not a robot. You’ll have triggers, and if some people deliberately trigger you, I think it’s wise to chose what you’re spending your energy on. ♥️

    • @brujalinda
      @brujalinda Před 3 lety +1

      @@Ladyinred001 💯💯

    • @bia0001
      @bia0001 Před 3 lety +4

      Bruja, we dont need to think about "others"; "hell to oders"; or things like "others"... focus on yourself, there's no others..
      Everything is actually about you, darling! Cut off the cables

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 Před 3 lety +84

    This reminds me of learning social skills and the concept of drawing people into your energy, like the party is wherever you are instead of trying to join others people's party.

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331

    ”“Sometimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own blessings by holding onto to the past or thinking negatively. Start letting go.”*
    Love from a small youtuber💙

  • @rootedro
    @rootedro Před 3 lety +217

    Neediness = repulsion 🥀
    Sovereignty = attraction 🌹

  • @wisdom-for-all
    @wisdom-for-all Před 3 lety +159

    When we stop chasing the “wrong things”, we give the “right things” a chance to catch us. “Purge” what does not help you evolve my friends 🖖

    • @familyguy6668
      @familyguy6668 Před 3 lety +1

      I feel free once I quit smoking weed. No it's not bad like other drugs but a good highlight from this video in terms of that is.. being authentic attracts. Being under the influence on weed I feel it has taken away from my authenticity due to it being a superficial state of mind not naturally getting there but being altered by an exterior substance.. like he stated I used weed to become likeable because as a kid all my family left me after my mom died I felt that I wasnt good enough sober so I needed to change myself somehow to have people stay and love me... I never received love by being something I wasnt. If you dont love and know yourself it will be 10xs harder for someone else to. They cant read minds but they can read fronts ... very beautiful video💙💙

  • @aqueen4006
    @aqueen4006 Před 2 lety +2

    I am validation!! I am enough. My life is exactly what I think it should be. I attract not chase ❤😊

  • @VerenaSatriani
    @VerenaSatriani Před 3 lety +42

    When you have courage to say no to what doesn't feel right in your gut... you're amazing.

    • @ig7424
      @ig7424 Před 2 lety

      That's the thing, that when you experienced, child neglect or formed some beliefs your whole life what your gut is telling you is not right. Exactly the point he is trying to make. Don't follow your gut. Get past the co dependent, needy instinct that you formed. When you never had boundaries, and you start drawing them. Is gonna feel unnatural at the start. And your gut is gonna tell you to go back to safety. So ignore it and keep going. At some point you're gonna balance out.

  • @TheMediumChannel
    @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +196

    NEEDY IS CREEPY. Bottom line. Until I did my shadow work and uncovered the source of my neediness in relationships I was playing out the pattern of not getting what I needed emotionally when I was very young...I feel 1000 lbs. lighter now. Thank you brother!

    • @preslytanus
      @preslytanus Před 3 lety +4

      Love this

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +2

      @Mark McKenzie nothing wrong with having needs. we all do. however "neediness" is an energy that feels creepy and it repels and sabotages what you attract into your life. Lord knows I've done it enough times myself. Good day

    • @sarahboan8756
      @sarahboan8756 Před 2 lety

      How do I learn about shadow work

    • @trolloftheyear7963
      @trolloftheyear7963 Před 2 lety +2

      @@TheMediumChannel Neediness is fear arising from the fear of being homeless.

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel Před 2 lety

      Troll of the Year What you’re describing is having needs based upon unfortunate situations in life which sucks, I was homeless for about 4 months once bit that s different than being “needy”, that’s a personality trait that repels that which you think you need, or at least makes it harder to get because it’s vibrationally unattractive

  • @JohannaCastillo17
    @JohannaCastillo17 Před 3 lety +35

    It's boggling my mind how easily I believe that I am "not ok" based on other people's opinions!!

    • @libraempath1523
      @libraempath1523 Před 3 lety +1

      Ohhh girl, I felt that!

    • @whiterobin01
      @whiterobin01 Před 3 lety +2

      We are social creatures who are naturally dependent on the judgment of the "pack" so we have unlearn a lot of things, especially if we experienced abandonment, neglect, alcoholic parents, etc, as children.

    • @victoriabrown2530
      @victoriabrown2530 Před 3 lety

      Lol same

    • @bryanhenton5485
      @bryanhenton5485 Před 2 lety

      Yes ..felt that too

  • @basslife2248
    @basslife2248 Před 2 lety +70

    Very good lesson. I feel I lose a lot of my self when I’m in a relationship thinking more of the other person’s life than my own. Thank you for bringing me back to my frame!

    • @mariannedogge
      @mariannedogge Před 2 lety +2

      Same here. This video brings more perspective. I am the universe. Filling my own cup.

  • @amankarki9074
    @amankarki9074 Před 3 lety +5

    I was texting to a girl for long hour and i was being more than nice to her , i was trying to say i am a nice guy and she was texting late , ignoring and being rude and making fun of me at the same time i clicked into this video and daam my eye opener and immediately i said i don't need any validation with anyone what type of guy i am, i don't need anything and anyone to make me complete and stop texting. I went to take a shower and came back and she said she is so sorry. This is magical my friend ! I like most of your videos, your content are unlike other self help gurus. keep up the good work.👍

  • @abundantras6287
    @abundantras6287 Před 3 lety +113

    “Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life. “- Tony Robbins🌟💯

  • @danielcausevic4403
    @danielcausevic4403 Před 3 lety +52

    This is what I've been battling with for ages now. Far too often I detach from needing validation from other people and in turn I become magnetic, but then my mindset shifts to "yeah, it worked, they like me now" and the opposite happens where I become needy and repulsive. I would really like a meditation where you help me let go of my neediness.

    • @talulahjonesx
      @talulahjonesx Před 3 lety +2

      Story of my life! I’m currently watching this crying because I attracted a relationship I loved, and it was amazing, then obvs I started to loose me and started focusing on him, and boom. Out of the blue he ends it. Now Here I am watching this 🤷🏼‍♀️ well at least we know... and learn to maintain it!! But still... ouch.

    • @Intrepid_Insomniac
      @Intrepid_Insomniac Před 3 lety

      He sounds like an asshole. He should have communicated to you before just leaving. I’m sorry that happened. ❤️‍🩹

  • @flowieedenn
    @flowieedenn Před 3 lety +10

    I am the type of person who is very easily to bond with someone when I jump into a relationship, it's hard for me to detach myself from that person and make me a someone who is needy and become dependent on that person, the only way for me is to separate myself from that person in an energy, and it helps me a lot so I'm not lacking of self anymore, know that I am a whole person and complete...

  • @luminousbeingsemily
    @luminousbeingsemily Před 3 lety +5

    OMG- inner child work completely changed my life. I started this summer and boom: new me!

  • @carlisefarren4236
    @carlisefarren4236 Před 3 lety +71

    Omg Aaron, When you said “they abandon themselves” my world stopped. Thx so much Aaron for walking in your truth as it’s inspired me to walk mine.

  • @Maxhindle
    @Maxhindle Před 3 lety +20

    The art of detachment will change your life for sure 🙏🏽😁❤️ you get when you least want

  • @Jamie-zi2nf
    @Jamie-zi2nf Před 3 lety +3

    Man, I was in the EXACT same frame! I was too attached to my old story; my old self. It kept me chained and bound down to these tracks that led nowhere. I always expected a train to come run over me, and you know what? It didn't for a while, which confused me. But it eventually did. And then I would question why it did. Sometimes I was the one who chose to lay on those tracks, and other times I allowed someone else to push me onto them, but it was still my own doing. Self-sabotaging because of how you were treated as a kid, whether it was to "make" your parents "proud," or to "fit in," or have some sort of false fulfillment meanwhile you felt some void... NONE of it can continue if you simply choose to stop the cycle. STOP the train. STOP the negative self-talk. STOP the FEAR.
    Your videos have worked wonders, Aaron. Thank you for sharing your insight! It definitely resonates with a lot of people, I'm one of them. Keep up the good work!

  • @Rayon.Miller95
    @Rayon.Miller95 Před 3 lety +10

    Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.💙🙏🏽💫

  • @user-es9sp7hw6z
    @user-es9sp7hw6z Před 3 lety +23

    i first understood this whole thing about protecting my energy and being in my own frame, when i watched your videos. it is specific for empathetic and sensitive people. for example in the past i never realized before, that i always felt responsible for others when they felt uncomfortable in a certain situation, so i changed to make everyone comfortable. now i'm more conscious and sometimes it feels a bit selfish, but it's a very good feeling. thank you very much for the videos.

  • @M3Honestly
    @M3Honestly Před 3 lety +46

    Perfect timing with the upload was just looking for something to watch

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331

    “Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Wishing is not enough, we must do”* - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
    Love from a small channel💙

  • @aru2744
    @aru2744 Před 3 lety +3

    Very true. And remember, the only reason you ever lose yourself is so that you can then experience the joy of finding yourself. You forget so that you can remember. That's how duality works. So, if you've been needy, it's only because now you can become the opposite of that. And you are doing it already...❤️

  • @evolvingwithstef
    @evolvingwithstef Před 3 lety +81

    As a person who specializes in healing work and inner child work, you spoke nothing but FACTS in this video 🥳🙌🏽 I honestly feel like this has been one of your best "teaching" videos I've seen this far, Aaron 🔥🔥🔥 Have a great week ahead!

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +2

      Hi Stef, I do psychic coaching too and of course mediumship and I wanted to say hi. .I agree with your assessment of this video as I've done a super amount of shadow work the past year so I could clear the blocks to doing videos after Spirit instructed me to do youtube...to make a long story short I had a full on phobia when it came to performing on camera..I totally reprogrammed myself.and like one of my first teachers said "we are not our bodies we have bodies, we are not our thoughts we have thoughts, we are not our emotions we have emotions". Spirit I Am

    • @Scorpio37
      @Scorpio37 Před 3 lety +1

      Just Subscribed! :)

    • @evolvingwithstef
      @evolvingwithstef Před 3 lety

      @@Scorpio37 Thanks so much 🙏🏽 I hope the content on my channel helps you 💜

    • @evolvingwithstef
      @evolvingwithstef Před 3 lety +1

      @@TheMediumChannel Hi Adam! Lovely to meet you! ☺️ Congrats on all your inner work! It's not always the easiest thing looking at one's shadows but it's well worth it so it's great to hear that you worked through the stuff that kept you from showing up online to share your gifts and light with others 🥳🙌🏽 Keep up the good work!

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +1

      Stef Ventura Coaching - Psychic Coach Thank you. always a work in progress but as you said, so well worth it,

  • @garycordle5295
    @garycordle5295 Před 3 lety +9

    I learned we are responsible for our own happiness, I'm happy by myself and it's like people just want to be around you, and staying positive.

  • @kemsolid
    @kemsolid Před 3 lety +7

    Ironically, this video pops up when I'm connecting more with my real authentic self.

  • @karlashiley5204
    @karlashiley5204 Před 2 lety +3

    I am so like you just described. Years of failed relationships. Definitely parental emotional abuse that went on. I am going to start the meditation. I have read countless books, tried to separate myself from others, especially in relationships, watched videos. I just want to know how to stop. I want to know how to heal that inner child for good. It has definitely taken a toll on my life.

  • @rootedro
    @rootedro Před 3 lety +13

    I totally get this. A lot of us in the spiritual community are too much in the higher chakras and this makes everyday life difficult. We need balance throughout

  • @rastablack5427
    @rastablack5427 Před 3 lety +4

    Hi Aaron & community hope you're all having a good Monday

  • @chaddblaylock7857
    @chaddblaylock7857 Před 3 lety +18

    Wow, I feel like I just healed repressed trauma in my mind, heart, and body. Thank you so much for spreading the wisdom Aaron!

  • @TheTeapotte
    @TheTeapotte Před 3 lety +4

    This makes sense. I've been going back and forth between totally shutting people out and pushing them away, to being needy. My fear of abandonment caused both. I would shut them out for fear of getting attached. Then when I'd finally let them in I'd get overly attached. I think it's finding that balance between the two where you're not afraid of letting people in but not afraid of them abandoning you.

  • @kemina1
    @kemina1 Před 3 lety +28

    P.S: Yes, please do a powerful meditation and I’ll send it to friends and family. I learned how to be in my power over ten years ago now and sadly I learnt the hard way through toxic relationships.

  • @inmyownbubble8
    @inmyownbubble8 Před 3 lety +18

    Great timing. I was struggling with detaching. I don't want to be the empath, nice one or the victim anymore, it doesn't get me anywhere. I still want to be me I just want to be the better version of myself who has it all of my heart desires because I know I deserve to be happy. Thank you for another amazing video, I always learn a lot from your videos and get reminders.

  • @elsquibbs
    @elsquibbs Před 2 lety +1

    The pandemic quarantine is one of the best things to ever happen to me personally. I have always valued my alone time. The quarantine provided all of the alone time that I've dreamed of having. It allowed me the time, space and solitude for proper introspection. I looked at what causes me stress and anxiety. Then I took an honest, objective look at what was internal and what was external. In the end, essentially 100% of my stress and anxiety wasn't the issues in my life. It was how I reacted to them. My perfectionist tendencies were becoming a problem. I made mountains out of molehills for absolutely no reason. Once I realized that, I changed my approach to life. Things changed for the better almost overnight. My stress and anxiety disappeared and I am happier now than I've ever been. I spent years shooting myself in the foot but I'm glad that I fixed it.

  • @retard_activated
    @retard_activated Před 2 lety

    'If I'm different, then I could get that love or attention' (paraphrasing here).... All my life I was TOLD I needed to be different, to change, and my favorite, "We just need to *fix* you" from my own mother. 42 years wasted believing I was broken somehow and STILL trying to love myself. I've had many relationships, but the last one I had was with a person who straight up told me "Do not talk bad about yourself", "You are amazing just as you are" "You are beautiful inside and out".... He said all those things I desperately needed to hear my whole life, and he was so consistent and sincere, he actually made me love myself more and more.
    I don't care who says you need to love yourself first, because sometimes it's not possible without that external validation - especially if you have no point of reference to go from. Finding love within yourself when you've never been shown love is really just hunting for that mythical unicorn - for some people, self love simply cannot manifest itself any other way.
    This isn't a commentary on the video as a whole, I've only just thought I'd pause and chime in. Thank you for your efforts to improve us all, raise our vibrations and educate and inspire us. I can definitely see how this can give some of us that need that external validation, even if we are sometimes shamed for needing it at times. 💖

  • @angelaramsay1778
    @angelaramsay1778 Před 3 lety +31

    Aaron. You are now the older brother version to the younger brother version in your earlier videos. Its quite distinct but also seems very natural.

  • @yugenknows740
    @yugenknows740 Před 3 lety +22

    I need to learn more specifically how to "feel the separation". I can think it but not sure I feel it.

    • @Tubie1111
      @Tubie1111 Před 2 lety

      I think the more you recognize the feeling and stop and deal with it at that moment (reminding yourself it's past trauma and what do you need within yourself) leads to stopping the feeling.

  • @SyilvIsha
    @SyilvIsha Před 2 lety

    love that you touched upon the "dark" side of spirituality, which is forgetting your individuality

  • @xcountryrunner9
    @xcountryrunner9 Před 3 lety +2

    Yup i was the codependent chaser tf and had to remember i was my own totally separate person with distinct needs, issues, desires that i didn't need anyone to accommodate me with. Such a good feeling when you remember or learn to just be yourself and do things for yourself without worrying about what "others will think" or being afraid to "rock the boat" by expressing my truth

  • @abigailgreffe2091
    @abigailgreffe2091 Před 3 lety +4

    I need this guy in my life

  • @Rayon.Miller95
    @Rayon.Miller95 Před 3 lety +5

    Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the one thing that will set you free🙏🏽💙💫

  • @juanpablolopez8595
    @juanpablolopez8595 Před rokem +1

    Not only healing your inner, but also your energy, and BE what you want to attract.

  • @gowthamg2081
    @gowthamg2081 Před 3 lety +2

    Was trying to understand this on my own, but you've just simplified it to a point of easy understanding. Thank you !

  • @jannan2029
    @jannan2029 Před 3 lety +8

    This is exactly my issue right now! I was literally just asking the universe how to fix this in myself and here you are! Please tell me more!!!

  • @damianszymanski5301
    @damianszymanski5301 Před 3 lety +3

    This is just what I needed to hear today on my healing journey, thank you so much Aaron! 🙏🙏

  • @Tracy559
    @Tracy559 Před 3 lety

    Perfect timing! I have been watching you for years and can see the transformation in you. I needed this today. Specifically. I’ve been feeling it but didn’t know exactly what to do!!!!

  • @JzMillinery
    @JzMillinery Před 3 lety +2

    Wow excellent, Aaron! I was just reading last night about detachment in the 'Codependent no more' book. I love your analogy with the eggs, since I'm a visual learner. Thank you so much for helping us all! I know I need to detach from thinking my elderly Narcissitic mother needs me, because she can take care of herself. She asked me to 'help' her 4 years ago and I am still here. I have abandoned my values and life and business for her.

  • @highermind4151
    @highermind4151 Před 3 lety +10

    When you realize that you are God, feeling whole and complete is a side affect and is not forced. Change your identity and you'll change your reality

  • @kemina1
    @kemina1 Před 3 lety +3

    I don’t need anyone but I know some friends and family that have to see this video. Thank you for posting this video brother.

  • @talseren7776
    @talseren7776 Před 3 lety +2

    That was really what I needed and explained exactly what I feel going into level that nobody does. Amazing man!

  • @emmyschaedler5698
    @emmyschaedler5698 Před 3 lety +6

    Your vibe truly is so strong and magnetic, and more masculine! Thank you for sharing all of that recently, your process really helped me in my own xx

  • @monthatis8772
    @monthatis8772 Před 3 lety +14

    I needed to hear this, considering how I'm struggling to let go of my past relationship. 🙏🏽

  • @vickilarochelle4480
    @vickilarochelle4480 Před 3 lety +3

    I’ve been binge watching your videos, I feel like my vibration is already changing. It’s helping so much with depression and anxiety.

  • @flutterbydiva
    @flutterbydiva Před 3 lety

    So cool! When I listened to you, I was thinking about the shift I made from neediness to being at peace and giving myself what I needed... after I had the awareness and worked on it, I’m in a far better suited position to be a leader and serve others rather than trying to take from them through validation or attention.
    Thank you for doing this work. ❤️

  • @majag6138
    @majag6138 Před 3 lety +7

    This is amazing and life changing advice! As a codependent and a highly sensitive person I needed to hear this.

  • @svetlanaaniskina5658
    @svetlanaaniskina5658 Před 3 lety +3

    I would absolutely appreciate the meditation, while practicing the separation 🙌🏼 Thank you very much as always Aaron, I really needed your advice at this moment 🙏🏼

  • @NostalgicNathan
    @NostalgicNathan Před 3 lety +12

    It’s all about detachment. Feeling the separation between you and the flame from the candle 🕯 this is a way of integrating your energy. Thank you Aaron for your the valuable knowledge about being in your frame. This is going to change my perspective on so many things. Much love to you ❤️

  • @sha3698
    @sha3698 Před 3 lety

    Yessss want a meditation video absolutely, thank you soooo much!! This is bomb, you're amazing being yourself Aaron!!

  • @fridamariathomsen
    @fridamariathomsen Před 3 lety +1

    This video was so perfect timing! I’ve been doing a bio code energy meditation healing to balance my chakras and open up the highway/flow and they talk about exactly what you’re talking about with balancing your 3 base chakras first so you can truly follow your other chakras more intuitively. So cool🤍🙌🏻♾🙏🏻✨🧿 you’re a great teacher! I appreciate your videos. Thank you 🌳🌈🌟

  • @spillingtheteawithhenryg9710

    I definitely was that old person because my parents didn’t accept me , once I put myself in my own frame I’m sooo much happier

  • @Cinder1987
    @Cinder1987 Před 3 lety +8

    Keep in mind people don’t like clingers whether it’s a partner or friend. Overly neediness is within and about you.

  • @sarahmountstudios3188
    @sarahmountstudios3188 Před 3 lety

    Yesssss, more content like this please. The way you convey it is so simple, clear, profound and amazing

  • @LoveeKandie
    @LoveeKandie Před 3 lety

    Yes please!
    I’m so glad this message came across me because it totally fits my dilemma at the moment. Thank you Aaron.

  • @kevinschroeder5950
    @kevinschroeder5950 Před 3 lety +13

    Thank you Aaron. I’m in that spiritual awakening. I’m going through a break with my loved one and it’s tearing me up but I am grateful because it allows me to see what I need to work on. Been using your videos to help guide myself to enlightenment, and to overall love myself fully and heal that inner child🙏🏼 thank you so much and I’m looking forward to that meditation

  • @1nfty-
    @1nfty- Před 3 lety +3

    "Being in your frame is being in your body". That alone is pure gold. That line alone made some things click in my head, straight up, more than a lot of your also awesome videos.

  • @summerc1036
    @summerc1036 Před 3 lety +1

    This makes soooooooo much sense and was sooooo helpful. I could never understand why I felt so uncomfortable when alone and always needed strong close relationships with a few people.

  • @shembartlett5314
    @shembartlett5314 Před 2 lety

    Everything you talk about is stuff that I do!! Finally I can understand the trauma of having a narcissistic parent. I’m so happy to have awareness of myself and have practical steps to detach! Thank you Aaron for doing your self work and bringing it to us!

  • @TheMediumChannel
    @TheMediumChannel Před 3 lety +3

    I do a lot of candle meditation too but to create greater connection rather than separation. I teach my students how to make the flame grow and put the flame out with their minds, and that helps them become better mediums and healers. What brother Aaron is saying is absolutely true and I teach grounding aas well nd how to separate too because we need balance but once you are strong in your frame there are ways to achieve oneness with source, with Soul and once that happens you begin consciously creating your reality and everything changes. namaste

  • @joea1377
    @joea1377 Před 3 lety +6

    Very well put! I should have valued my own passions and talents all along. Then I wouldn't have attracted so many narcissists, who chipped away at my self-esteem. I wish I had been able to embrace this concept decades ago. Thanks Aar!

  • @veenaktamang4036
    @veenaktamang4036 Před 2 lety

    I feel like crying n feeling sad for myself.
    Little girl child inside me is transforming now.
    Tha you Aron
    God bless 🦋

  • @ianwylie9064
    @ianwylie9064 Před 2 lety

    Aaron is a good egg. He is a practical man who has experienced certain difficulties and has clearly handled them well.

  • @louryazucena
    @louryazucena Před 3 lety +3

    Hola Aaron thanks so much for this. A meditation would be Amazing. If you get to see this, I am in deep gratitude for all you do and all your shares. By being authenthically you, your videos have helped me to see myself with a different pair of eyes. This video was crucial for me to understand all the years of self sabotage and self abandonment.

  • @crystallizeyourlife839
    @crystallizeyourlife839 Před 3 lety +8

    What if - the eggs are already in their own frame (eggshells)! They just don't know it yet 🤭

  • @jennatoth3903
    @jennatoth3903 Před 3 lety

    I have been with you since the beginning and watching you change and grow and evolve is exhilarating .

  • @davianaj8056
    @davianaj8056 Před 3 lety

    Thank you so much! Definitely interested in a meditation like this! Thank you for taking the time!

  • @shalomgad
    @shalomgad Před 3 lety +4

    I’ll practice it and see how it goes! Thanks 🙏🏼 much light and love to everyone watching this video. ❤️

  • @nolaswitz825
    @nolaswitz825 Před 3 lety

    So much help brother. You help spread love, light and healing. All of your videos are in complete alignment with my life’s trajectory presently. You’re amazing. Doing God’s work. 🙏🏼👑

  • @shirleyannegoguen842
    @shirleyannegoguen842 Před 3 lety

    We appreciate your transparency and love you lots!

  • @thegardenmuse2398
    @thegardenmuse2398 Před 3 lety +4

    "Feel the barrier of the flame"- my new mantra, Thank You Aaron!!!

  • @vanessaclaire999
    @vanessaclaire999 Před 3 lety +6

    *Googles how to become a shadow integration coach*

  • @nadysbunch
    @nadysbunch Před 3 lety

    I'm so here for this 💯💯💯

  • @spiritina
    @spiritina Před 3 lety

    This is exactly what i needed to watch and hear. As a empath and HSP i tend to always forget myself and please other ppl alot. I am for sure gonna try this meditation. I did not get my needs met in my childhood so i understand everything you are saying. Thx so much for this video it makes so much sense!

  • @ingomanz8325
    @ingomanz8325 Před 3 lety

    Wow spot on Aaron! Thanks for this info, man you sure hit it home for me.

  • @SuperEmilyfish
    @SuperEmilyfish Před 3 lety +2

    I love all of your meditations and teachings, you've helped me so much Aaron! I would love a guided meditation for this 💕

  • @jennifervulpitta5292
    @jennifervulpitta5292 Před 2 lety

    Thank you !! Video hits home !! 🙏💫💕

  • @englishforcanada
    @englishforcanada Před rokem

    Thank you for this Aaron. Much gratitude ❤

  • @luxlobos3119
    @luxlobos3119 Před 3 lety

    Worded perfectly!
    As an extroverted feeler, an empath, a people pleaser, etc...I fee like the moments in my life when everything has fallen into place and worked out great I really have been more grounded and in my body, rather than 100% in my heart. Thank you for this reminder and for the meditation technique. 💜

  • @rheakelly6676
    @rheakelly6676 Před 3 lety

    I love it when you talk about the lower three Chakras! Last year I started studying the chakras and frequencies. I discovered the same things that you have discovered and been sharing in your videos, that when wounded we "escape" into the upper chakras. But the secret is starting from the bottom and building up on a strong foundation! 💪

  • @anitaheart
    @anitaheart Před 3 lety

    Thanks Aaron loving your new vibe!

  • @andrearuiz6373
    @andrearuiz6373 Před 3 lety

    I go into grocery stores trying to get validation as you said… never thought that had anything to do with neediness or validation. You’re videos are eye opening and very helpful. Thank you