I went through the shaking too. I never knew why, and that was my last child I had who is now 27 I didn’t know why I was shaking. I never never asked, but everything else happened to me too but that was normal. Embarrassing but normal even if you’re in pain, I was still embarrassing Well, at least for me.
Yep! It always helps for your person/people of support present to be informed about all the stuff that can happen. The pretty, the ugly, and everything in between. It can take a lot of stress away from birthing moms, it'll also help the hospital staff to know you're in good hands while the doctor/nurses aren't around if anything happens and you're unable to call for them. 🙂 I can't tell you how many times my father called the nurses or freaked out over normal stuff going on, both before my sibling and I were actually coming out and afterward. My grandmother was there and would be telling him how she's had multiple babies, seen loads of others be born, and that it's a regular part of the process. Just because an actual doctor hadn't explained it to him, he assumed she was just trying to keep him from making my mother panic and called them in anyway, which ended up stressing her more than making her feel comfortable/cared for.. 😅
@@cr8736 Gotta love when men are casually misogynistic. When people don't believe someone who has actually been through the exact same thing multiple times, it makes me want to bang my head against the wall 😂And he should've be attentive enough to your mom to see that it was freaking her out more. Sometimes people lose all functioning in their brains when they freak out 😂
@@Sophie-dd5xr exactly, it's why I've had my fiancé join me at OBGYN appointments whenever possible. He's going to need to understand what'll be going on when baby boy is on the way, I don't want him running to the nurse station constantly for them to say I'm fine or them needing to help explain to him what stuff like a maternity pad or placenta is 😂
I bawled all night after having mine. I was only 19, alone, and it hit me hard. My mom and baby daddy had been there at birth. Mom left and went home, baby daddy left an hour after she left. Had her at 6pm was completely alone by 10pm. I cried and cried. Nurse came in worried somethiny was wrong. I just shook my head no and put my head down. She came in and sat w me, talking to me to help me through it. She's the one who was most important to me tht day. Kinda sad, a stranger helped me more than those who were supposed to be close to me
Thanks for sharing I feel ur pain ur story is pretty similar to how my birth story at the hospital went..n when ur bd leaves u alone there it's embarrassing n scary n u don't wanna tell none the staff bc then thy might start asking u questions...but maybe tht was what was wrong wth my mentality then n maybe I shld have talked to one the nurses...I'm glad tht someone at least stayed with u n shower tht thy care 💗 sending luck n love wherever u r 🙏
Also, the labor pain does NOT go away after birth. It continues while your uterus shrinks, especially while breastfeeding. I wish someone had warned me about that!
@@DevelopingStartupsIt was definitely my experience as well!!! And with all 3 of my babies 👶👶👶...and *ESPECIALLY when breastfeeding!!! At least by the time my 2nd & 3rd babies were born, I at least knew what to expect 🤷🏼♀️. But with my first baby, nobody had explained or given me a heads up about that part and it absolutely would have been sooo appreciated!!!
@@thehobbyisttries currently working with my therapist on another anxieties that i have,but actually thank you for that idea,might be a topic i would need to work on! the video didn't made anxious but wasn't calming,i needed the "no,it's not gonna be easy-be real! it's gonna be tough and you to prepare for this in such a such way,you can do it" kind of talk when it comes to important things
Pooping is not automatic, I only seen someone poop once and they had pitocin. That same person went on to deliver six more times and I don't believe they pooped. I had natural labor twice to completion, without epidural, my body cleared itself out before and I had to poop a lot during labor myself before pushing so did not poop.
@@ASmith-jn7kfthis sounds like you care abt the fact that some women poop. Not sure if thats what you ment to give off but it sounds weird. Like oh i dont poop when i give birth, okay bro no one cares, she saying most women do poop when giving birth. Meaning sometimes women wont poop like you, congragulations you get a cookie. Idk i dont see an issue with the fact that some women poop when giving birth. You just seem so judgemental in ur comment, its not the right place to brag. Youve already had ur moment, time to give other women space. I genuinly dont understand why you felt the need to say ppl in ur life havent and you havent. Okay cool then its not for you, its for women who might poop when delivering. Just not the right place
It's short term suck for long term happiness. I was so petrified of all of these things that I didn't want kids for the longest time. Now I can't imagine life without my son.
My mom was with me in the delivery room as I was having my son, and she couldn’t stop giggling like a child every time I pushed. Took me a min to figure out why… totally not helpful lol
Yeah its good, but you may scare your self too much unnecceserally, like for instance few weeks before my delivery, i talked with my grandma and she told me that they sometimes cut in down there to prevent tearing, I thought about it and was actually really scared that it will hurt damn much. Well fast things forward they did cut in there, but they do it when you are pushing, thus you hardly feel the pain, because it is already terribly painfull from the contractions.😅 So, I was worried for no reason 😂
@@tiesiai_per_aplinkui I guess the more a girl mature the more they would just stop fearing it, I remember not wanting to marry someone or give birth to someone cause I’m afraid with all these things as a teen (I am a science nerd lmao) but now that I reached the understanding that it sure does happen and it’ll just pass somehow, I’d want to take care of someone who would probably be my bff in the future, that’s all that I’m thinking.
Along the same line, there comes a point where your body will not allow you to NOT push when it decides it’s time. I barely made it to the delivery room before my middle child was born. As they were trying to get ready, everyone was yelling “Don’t push!!” Seriously, people?! I cannot control what is happening! My body is ejecting this baby no matter what any of us says or does!
U can't take ur own sweet time while delivering a baby cuz it can lead to respiratory distress in ur baby. There is a time period within which the baby needs to be out which if it doesn't, carries risks of complications to the baby after birth
I just didn't like the eye rolls, fel5 patronizing. For example, the shaving thing, it was imposed by hospitals, most mothers didn't know or didn't care. So the eyerolls should be directed at hospital medical staff.
@@imalrockmei dont think she was rolling her eyes in annoyance i think it was just in a way like “of course you dont have to shave!” in a reassuring way
Not so fun fact: Studies show that lying on your back to give birth actually increases your risk of tearing, breaking your tailbone or pelvis, and needing vacuum assistance (which can leave your baby permanently disabled). It also makes the birthing process longer and more painful. Women giving birth on their back is unnatural. Historically, women have always given birth in an upright position via squatting. This is because gravity will naturally work with you, making it easier for you to push out the baby. Think about it, you wouldn't lie down on your back to poop, would you? Trying to poop while lying down would be much more strenuous on the body.
@@Shield954On the pooping part, that's exactly why it's recommended to place your feet on a stool so your body creates an angle and you're able to work with gravity more easily. Additionally, places where you have to squat to poop, such as restrooms with the toilet in the floor/ground, tend to report less straining.
After my 1st C-section, when I stood up, I bled like crazy...no one told me that would happen (35 years ago), that really scared me. They should tell you these things... it's not as though they don't expect it. It's so nice that this obgyn shares this information.❤
I wasn't allowed to eat before or after my c section, but I was starving and dying of thirst after delivery because it had been almost 24 hours since I was even allowed a sip of water. Overnight, I sent my SO to the vending machines so he could get me something...anything. All they had was tapioca pudding, and it was the BEST thing I had ever eaten! The nurse walked in while I was downing it, and she left the room and came back with a bowl and set it on the bed, and then she left the room while saying she didnt see a thing 😂 It's crazy to me that they don't allow food/water, or even a popsicle at certain hospitals when you are having a c section. I understand why they worry, but starving out a pregnant or postpartum woman is never a good idea. If I was able to feel my legs and wasn't afraid of busting my stitches, I would have marched straight to the kitchen and taken whatever I wanted.
@@TwinMama-jv3zb originally was going to ask did they not give you a IV for fluids, then checked the advice and damn, NHS is pretty much once you feel hungry you can eat/drink, completely different to the US based websites advice.
THANK YOU! I had a c-section at 19 years old and NO ONE told me I was gonna bleed. I got up to walk for the first time and i had a panic attack when I blood went everywhere. They didn’t give me a pad or prepare me in any way. I was terrified. So glad to see a doc teaching these things. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😘
@@pr3ciousara no! They didn’t. I don’t know why but they definitely failed me. My 2nd and 3rd experiences were far better because I was prepared mentally but they traumatized me!
The lack of informed consent in women's healthcare is sad and disturbing. Doctors lie to female patients about the pain of gynecological procedures by saying "it's just a pinch" as a means to try to justify performing procedures on women without anesthesia. Female patients are not given anesthesia or even pain medication for procedures such as uterine biopsies, endometrial biopsies, IUD insertions, etc. Meanwhile, male patients are given both anesthesia and a week's worth of strong opioid pain medication for testicular biopsies, prostate biopsies, and vasectomies. Women's healthcare is inhumane and barbaric.
What the hell-!? I’m convinced most doctors and nurses just don’t care when you’re delivery #8 for the day. 😢 I can’t believe we rely on strangers. I’m terrified of ever becoming pregnant. I don’t think I could have kids.. I mean, willingly
I remembered 27 years ago i had my first child and was shaking like crazy and didn't know what was happening and just getting this information today. Also i was shamed by a hospital cleaner because I pooped myself while giving birth and didn't know it was normal. Thanks for all these information there should be more informative shorts like this coming across our screens
#2 is what actually made me cry during delivery. I was good until I started pooing and then it was over. My husband said it's OK honey, knowing he was not OK! 😂
😂😂 lol counting the number of all the women I’ve helped to deliver I think half of them do poop and it’s completely normal we just wipe and carry on most of them we don’t even tell them they pooped.
Thanks so much for addressing this. I'm a NICU and postpartum nurse. So many women apologize and are embarrassed during the process. It's a bloody and uncomfortable process, and that's normal. I want women to understand how amazing they are to be able to create and birth life. It's a miracle and should be celebrated. Never apologize or be embarrassed by this miraculous process.
Thank you for saying that. 20 years later, I still feel a bit of shame for the utter disaster I was. Shakes. Crying. Ravenous. Messy. Bloody. All of it.
Times sure have changed. My first child was born in 84. One nurse told me she was disgusted I pooped while pushing. Those were the days they gave the woman an enema.
@freedomspromise8519 I'm sorry she attempted to shame you. If you are pushing properly, then you will poop. That's just what happens. There should be no shame during this process. I'm in awe every time I get to witness a birth. It's truly a miracle.
Great advice. I'll never get over these informational vids, where the poster is putting on makeup while speaking seriously. I feel like I'm listening to my mother giving me the riot act before she goes out.
honestly the first one is such a relief i’m only 18 and i’m not having a baby but i always get worried if i do need to do anything down there😭 i hate society shaming women for having hair down there when it’s natural 🙄
I had a nurse RIGHT AFTER GIVING BIRTH ask “um are you okay??” Because I was shaking and so COLD. I felt so abnormal so I am so GLAD YOU MENTIONED THE SHAKES!
I do acupuncture and we say that many women have issues from the loss of blood and adrenaline, often showing up as exhaustion and mental health issues (also doesn’t help that we have very little support in the west). I’ve never actually had a baby so I didn’t think about the shaking but that is obviously a sign of adrenaline overload. We give kidney boosting and blood boosting herbs to balance.. but of course most mothers have no idea anything like this exists… and that nurse DEFINITELY doesn’t ugh
@@Cafeallday222when I gave birth I lost a lot of blood and I won't accept blood transfusions for religious reasons, which they would have given me if I would have accepted. The nurse read in my chart what my religion was and said "so you won't take a blood transfusion, huh?" and when I told her no again, she made me get out of bed unassisted (I also had an epidural and they wouldn't let me out of bed because of it) and walk to the wheelchair to go to the recovery room, practically tossed my newborn into my arms to hold onto while we went to the room, even though I was shaking terribly and felt like passing out. I wanted my husband or my mom to carry him instead because I was afraid I would drop him, I didn't even know how to hold a newborn. But she made it out like I HAD to hold him and gave my mom and husband other responsibilities so they weren't available. When I got to recovery I ordered as many blood building/boosting foods as possible from their menu. Just because I won't take whole blood doesn't mean I won't take other medical interventions. She was so rude to me, she even seemed angry about how hard I was pushing against her while she held my leg in labor...looking back of course I wish I would have been in the state of mind to report her, she was obviously working in the wrong department, maybe even the wrong career.
@@amandak3198she is a very evil person, and I hope she was fired shortly after. I understand that religion can seem weird sometimes (hell, I'm uncomfortable with even the mention of it, even though its in 90% of my art), but treating you like that over something so small is just plain cruel. I hope that horrible experience hasn't affected you too badly 🫂
Oh the shaking! I have rapid births- precipitous labor- my first was born in under 3 hours, my second within 90 min. And yes, that’s from first contraction to holding a new born human in your arms. After the first rapid labor, we try to schedule an induction for the second so I could at least have some pain relief, but she had her own ideas. I remember it mostly like a locomotive tearing through a tunnel that’s too small. I felt like I was shattering inside and bricks were flying everywhere as the train exploded through! It was traumatic- both times- and yet no one ever prepared me for the shaking afterwards. That was almost more scary than what I just went though because I didn’t expect it at all. Thank you for talking about that. It’s important for mothers to know what to expect! ❤
I’m so happy to see all this shared information in advance. The generations before us tactic of teaching critical information was literally “F around and find out.” 😂
LITERALLY I’m a married college student and literally every delivery story was terrifying to me because it was always told through the lens of “so embarrassing and shameful and also I was in immense amounts of torturous pain that made me feel more ashamed and scared plus complications and untrained staff haha” like AHH at least this realistic advice isn’t like freaking horror night over here lol
I was shaking so badly and they said do you want chest to chest and I’m like NNNNN OOOOOO …. 😂 then a second later i felt bad and said YYYEEEESSSS GGGGIVE HER TO MMMMMEEEE….. I didn’t last too long though. I had to give her to my husband because I could not stop shaking and asked for a pile of blankets
The shaking is normal to an extent, after 5 little ones I experienced shaking. But with my 6th the shaking was uncontrollable, it came and went even after a whole day. Doctors kept saying it was normal, my gut told me otherwise. Listen to your gut!!! Shortly after the last doctor told me “it was normal” I went unconscious, turns out I had sepsis and that was causing the shaking not just the adrenaline. Always listen more to your body, doctors aren’t always right!!
The trembling scared me. I could have used this video prior to delivering my first baby. I started to shake/tremble uncontrollably as soon as i was ready to push.
Holy jeez man. The unending list of new horrifying things i learn about pregnancy and birth is expanding again. I want to build a monument for every woman that has ever given birth. Everyone should be constantly thanking all of you. I'm going to call my mom.. Women, especially mothers are the strongest human beings. And gratitude to the professionals helping them through the process, educating all of us and dedicating their lives to medicine and care.
@@umhi9778 Oh I absolutely already do. Abortion rights all the way. Nobody should ever be forced into something like this. Immense respect to any woman deciding to become a mother or finding herself pregnant whichever decision she will make, that decision takes strength and courage and should always be hers entirely.
For me the more information they give, the more anxiety I get. I’ll experience it when the day comes lol, no need to get me anxious 7 years in advance 😅
Wish more nurses were like her because my experience was a Nightmare. Nurses I got were completely out of line and tried to make me Breast feed and did not bring me formula on purpose and they would not let The baby's father hold, change, nor feed. Parental bias was loud at that hospital amongst other things I could get in to. When you do have a baby...advice, Stick up for yourself and do not budge. They can't do anything about it. I should've been more Stern
@@MasteralyssaDon't most hospitals try to get the baby to breastfeed though? I think that's usually the first thing they go with unless the mother specifically mentioned wanting to, or needing to use formula instead. It's terrible that they didn't respect your choice if you brought that up.
@Cindy99765 It's something they asked me before I gave birth when I got admitted into the hospital. I specifically said formula, and there were good reasons for it. My best friend gave birth on the same Floor 10 years later , Got the same Nurse And had to report that nurse because she accidentally left her speaker on through her bed and told her colleague that she was getting really sick of going To her room Every 5 seconds. My best friend's dad was an ER nurse at the same hospital and reported what we heard. We have no idea if she got disciplined or not, but we didn't see her after that. Ten years between and that bitch is as vile as before.
I feel lucky to be giving birth during all the social media apps out there that provide thousands of very informative reels about pregnancy and childbirth. I feel like I may have heard almost everything that could possibly happen during birth! I like surprises, just not medical ones.
Thank you for mentioning that you bleed even with C-sec. I know so many women who thought that bleeding was from the trauma/injury of vaginal birth as opposed to shedding all the tissue in the uterus from making the human.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS !! i wish there was a better education informing us of all these things so i wouldn’t have to find out through a stranger on the internet!
My doctor promised me a Gatorade after I was done. I finished and said I want my Gatorade now… I got it and as I was gulping it down, I could barely hold it due to the shaking. But gulp it down, I did. Then, I fell asleep 😂😂
I knew about all of these except for the shaking. I love my nervous systems and discovering what they do for me. This is absolutely vital and truth that I need to know as woman and queen ⭐️
After a somewhat traumatic birth I had to go in for surgery. I was shaking so violently I could even form a proper sentence. In the operating room - I will never forget the nurse that was like an angel next to my shoulder. They legit dedicated one person to just sit by my head to talk to me. She wrapped me with a hot blanket and was just whispering some calming things. I couldn't even comprehend what she was whispering, I just knew I fucking loved her. Thankful for her to this day, as I was confused, scared and in a lot of pain. She was the only barrier between me staying calm and me panicking to a point where I would have passed out.
I got thrown off a motorcycle a week ago and I can't forget the big blue eyes of the woman telling me to just look at her as other strangers controlled my bleeding. Her name was Josephine. ❤
After my 3rd and last child I starting passing HUGE blood clots and of course i waited a couple days not wanting to be a bother and my dr ended up giving me prescription of a few tiny pills and said if it didnt stop i would have to come back next morning and have surgery! Thank God it stopped!!
My nurses were my heroes. I was 20 and terrified while having a high risk emergency delivery. The doctors and anesthesiologist were cold & rude. My nurses were super supportive, informative, and even defended me whenever I was given shit from the anesthesiologist.
That's the SAME EXACT treatment my 18 year old daughter got. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that because it literally traumatized my daughter! She was scheduled to be induced, but ended up having to have an emergency cesarean. The doctors were so rude and actually really freaked her out. The head nurse screamed at the doctor to calm the hell down, that he was freaking my daughter out. When you're in the midst of chaos and you & your unborn baby are in danger, it really doesn't help when the doctors ADD to that instead of alleviating that fear.
Why are anesthesiologists such a**holes? Mine was just sitting there annoyed that he had to answer my questions during the c-section. Why take a job you don’t actually enjoy?
Facts. Pooped with my first delivery and was shaking really bad after. Also, don't eat or drink anything until doctor/nurse tells you to. You WILL throw up. I begged for just a little sip and the nurse finally buckled. Same nurse had to change clothes after I projectile vomited on her. Second delivery was much easier. Baby popped out before the doctor even got into the room. No poop. No shakes.
I think the reason they don't want you to drink or eat is because Incase you end up having a C section. I was aloud to have ice chips..no vomiting. I was told your digestive system shuts down during labor .
The not needing to shave is what needed to hear 😮💨 like I can’t think of someone looking at cooter and saying “is that the babies hair or did you not shave before this?”
My birth was actually very calm. I had an epidural. My favorite memory pre-pushing was listening to my son’s heartbeat on the monitor in the middle of the night while it felt like the rest of the world was sleeping. The labor itself was overall amazing and I truly think the morning sickness and sciatica was worse than the labor 😂
Epidurals are wonderful. I always wanted one, but ended up having four natural births because of how quick my labors were and it is no joke!! But everyone who has had an epidural said they felt nothing but pressure. I wish that was all I felt lol.
My baby came early… 4 days of labor. Honestly the most painful part was actually having the epidural put in lol oh and then the spinal headache that came after that (I got the blood tap 5 days after labor… don’t wait that long, it was the worst pain I have ever experienced) Everything was so smooth, I was sleeping right before I was actually ready to push.
I am a proud mother of 4 wonderful kids and I have to say this is the most truthful video I have watched!!!! Everything you said is 100 %true. Bless your heart for letting people know ❤
Thank you for telling people this! I’ve had two children and my obgyn didn’t tell me what to expect, nor did the birthing class I took at the hospital. It was just “how to…” But you are telling moms to be what they need to know! 👏👏👏
And as a guy it is very important to be there for support but never ever forget to stay out of here reach , if you get too close then you only have yourself to blame
I wish someone would have told me about the blood that comes out when they have you stand after giving birth. I started to cry and bend down to clean it up. my nurse made me feel a lot better, when she said it happens to everyone. it pills inside of you until you stand up.
FROM A MOM OF THREE THANK YOU FOR SHARING! NO ONE TOLD ME AND I WAS TERRIFIED MY BODY WAS SHAKING AND LIP QUIVERING AND WAS WEAK. ALL NORMAL AS JUST YOUR BODY IN SHOCK/ADRENALINE ❤😊 And when I asked yes I pooped every time lol its so fast its normal don't fret they do this and LOVE their job sis!! Push and be the awesome momma you are!! Go momma go! You've Got this! God's got this and you! Breathe and trust nature and God!
@@sonalithakur1858it’s extremely painful, the worst pain I’ve ever experienced without pain medication. I’ve had 3 without and one medicated. When it’s over, you forget exactly how bad it was.
@@sonalithakur1858it varies for different people but I have contractions that go back to back and I have huge babies. My entire body clamps down trying to push that baby out and there's no controlled pushing or what have you. It's the single most horrific experience I have ever experienced. It's more force and pain than I even knew the body could produce. Just being 100 percent honest. However, I live in Japan where most hospitals do not allow pain meds for mothers. If you like in the west you can try an epidural for pain relief.
Had a argument on here with a GUY about how there's still risk involved when having a baby. He swore that epidurals are some kinda magical medicine that makes having a baby completely safe. Can you make a video about the risks women go through when pregnant and during birthing?
Can you explain the shaking more? The app cut you off for time. Also, can you explain the plus and minus of trying an epidurals and how often it may work partially or why it may only work part way?
I don’t remember shaking but I DO remember pooping. 😂 It was embarrassing but it was SO much easier to deliver after the poo had been passed. Just let it happen and have no shame. You’re going to feel like a goddess after you deliver that baby. It really is an incredible and empowering feeling to bring life into the world. ❤ (cotton pads soaked in witch hazel and frozen overnight are AMAZING after the birth against your down-there. Don’t forget the peri bottle, either. It’s gonna hurt for those first six weeks. Let your body heal.)
Hey I’m also due in November! Baby number 1! I’m just curious how long the shaking is gonna last for me when I finally do give birth- can’t wait to meet baby though 🥰🥰
You got this momma!!!! Don’t go into it with “this is how my birth plan is going and I will do everything to make that happen”. Just go with the flow. You may change your mind and it’s fine! It’s all about a stress free (as possible) and healthy delivery. And no matter how your baby gets here, c section, delivery, etc, you are still amazing and you have brought life to this world. You rock.
I was shaking and threw up immediately after giving birth and asked the nurse "is this normal, am I okay?" And she was like yeah, totally normal, your body just underwent a lot of stress. I read so much while I was pregnant in preparation, literally took childhood development college courses and everything, because the more I know/understand, the less anxiety I feel when something is actually happening. But the shaking and puking were things I'd never learned beforehand. Thank you for the heads up to all future moms.
Please talk about the last push for the placenta sack to come out. That is mortifying and never discussed. I thought I was having twins because it still hurt and when the doctor said there wasn't another baby after the first, I was totally confused, then grossed out as this carryon bag covered in pasta sauce ejected out of my body. I still think about it. 🥺🤢🥺.
I was so glad I read the book series of Call the Midwife, where she really gets into the nitty gritty of delivering babies. We should really learn more about it.
@@pcbassoon3892 Breast feeding too. The hardcore actuality of chaffed nipples that bleed and it's PAINFUL. My baby felt it esoterically and stopped breastfeeding prematurely but was a plump and beautiful little angel. 🥰.
I've had 2 vaginal deliveries and a c-section.. and both of the times I delivered my babes, my delivery of the placenta was nearly as bad because you have nurses pushing on your gut and punching your stomach while its contracting and throbbing and everything hurts so bad I wanted to punch these nurses each time so bad it was so painful and they always said it was super necessary but I ways thought nurses were excessive regarding that placenta delivery 😬
Great job nurse! Such important information to have. I recently became a grandmother and was asked to be in the delivery room with the parents, imagine my surprise when I discovered there had been NO previous classes on what to expect! 🤦🏻♀️ (I gave birth during the height of the Lamaze experience.) They were completely unaware and unprepared. - retired RN
I’m never having a baby but this is so comforting. Thank you for sharing information and being there for your patients. I work in a dental office as a Hygienist and I have so many people apologize for things I really don’t care about 😂
Yeah I didn't know why I had them & my doctor said it's your bodies way of shrinking your uterus back to normal...I was like well damn it fn hurts worse than labor😂
Thank you for posting this! When I was pregnant, I was preparing my kegel muscles for the workout of a lifetime, and had no idea I'd be using another group of muscles until my 3rd trimester! 😅
This happened to me too! XD went a few hrs using my abs to push until the nurse told me to use my poop muscles, and out the baby went. Kinda wished I knew that sooner but oh well lol
@BookieMonsterr wow was it hard to hold the baby? Last time I gave birth they let me hold the baby for one hour before they even touched her. It was amazing😇
@@a2isha mine was the opposite situation :/ Her blood sugar wouldn’t stabilize, so I didn’t even get to hold her for about 2 hours 😭 And then only for a few minutes all bundled up with oxygen tubes. I had stopped shaking so violently by then.
After those nurses went viral basically being horrible about women not being clean shaven and pooping i was so scared for women and how its tramatising enough with the pain and possibly feeling embarassed , THANK YOU !! You are a great woman and surely the best obgyn ive seen on the internet ❤❤ your normalising whats normal and letting us all know its natural ❤😊 I love tou for this ❤❤
@@potato1084or use scissors to trim it! It was easier for me to do this in the shower with my leg up than try to use a razor lol, just grab the ends of a chunk of hair and snip to desired length. You can use sensitive washes ON THE LABIA (outside) too.
I wish and pray from my heart that other countries get to where US is currently, when I delivered my baby it's a luxury indeed to have a maternity hospital, was induced by pitocin, nurses shaved me and was given enema to clear bowel. The doctor arrived just for the episiotomy stitches and wouldn't even have made it if I delivered a bit sooner. Sometimes being HYPER-AWARE of things which are not available in your environment RUINS you.
This is why, I chose the OB/GYN group, that I had with all 4 of my daughters!! They have a doctor constantly in the hospital, they do a 48 hour shift,, and rotate doctors..so there is ALWAYS, a doctor, present on the L&D ward 24/7! I didn't like the idea of other hospitals around where I live, they don't even call the on call Obstetrician, until, you are crowning, and by the time a doctor did show up, the nurses had already delivered your baby! I have seen many new parents, lose their babies, because there was no doctor there, just nurses..if you have any complications, you don't know how long, you would have to wait for the doctor to arrive!! I actually worked at one of those hospitals in Labor and Delivery, for quite a few years, while I was pregnant...and I made it abundantly clear, that if I were to go into labor, while I was at work, they would transport me, to the hospital my doctors on staff!!
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Yes the shaking. I wish someone had told me about the uncontrollable shaking.
It took me back 24 years. My youngest son. I couldn't stop shaking and noone told me why 😊
Right! I thought I was dying!😂 The doctor just patted me and said “no, no, you fine just fluids leaving faster than going in”!
@@robinwallace9655 that sounds intense as heck
I went through the shaking too. I never knew why, and that was my last child I had who is now 27 I didn’t know why I was shaking. I never never asked, but everything else happened to me too but that was normal. Embarrassing but normal even if you’re in pain, I was still embarrassing Well, at least for me.
same here
This isn’t just for the mom to be. This should be known by anyone supporting them in the delivery room too!
Yep! It always helps for your person/people of support present to be informed about all the stuff that can happen. The pretty, the ugly, and everything in between. It can take a lot of stress away from birthing moms, it'll also help the hospital staff to know you're in good hands while the doctor/nurses aren't around if anything happens and you're unable to call for them. 🙂
I can't tell you how many times my father called the nurses or freaked out over normal stuff going on, both before my sibling and I were actually coming out and afterward. My grandmother was there and would be telling him how she's had multiple babies, seen loads of others be born, and that it's a regular part of the process. Just because an actual doctor hadn't explained it to him, he assumed she was just trying to keep him from making my mother panic and called them in anyway, which ended up stressing her more than making her feel comfortable/cared for.. 😅
@@cr8736 Gotta love when men are casually misogynistic. When people don't believe someone who has actually been through the exact same thing multiple times, it makes me want to bang my head against the wall 😂And he should've be attentive enough to your mom to see that it was freaking her out more. Sometimes people lose all functioning in their brains when they freak out 😂
@@Sophie-dd5xr exactly, it's why I've had my fiancé join me at OBGYN appointments whenever possible. He's going to need to understand what'll be going on when baby boy is on the way, I don't want him running to the nurse station constantly for them to say I'm fine or them needing to help explain to him what stuff like a maternity pad or placenta is 😂
that is one of the truest things I’ve heard, agreed!
I shook the worst when I had epidural and delivered rather than non medicated births…
I bawled all night after having mine. I was only 19, alone, and it hit me hard. My mom and baby daddy had been there at birth. Mom left and went home, baby daddy left an hour after she left. Had her at 6pm was completely alone by 10pm. I cried and cried. Nurse came in worried somethiny was wrong. I just shook my head no and put my head down. She came in and sat w me, talking to me to help me through it. She's the one who was most important to me tht day. Kinda sad, a stranger helped me more than those who were supposed to be close to me
I'm so sorry for you❤ i hope you're doing fine now ❤
Deuteronomy 31:8 💙
Damn! I’ve no words😢
So cold of them!! I’m sorry that happened
Thanks for sharing I feel ur pain ur story is pretty similar to how my birth story at the hospital went..n when ur bd leaves u alone there it's embarrassing n scary n u don't wanna tell none the staff bc then thy might start asking u questions...but maybe tht was what was wrong wth my mentality then n maybe I shld have talked to one the nurses...I'm glad tht someone at least stayed with u n shower tht thy care 💗 sending luck n love wherever u r 🙏
Also, the labor pain does NOT go away after birth. It continues while your uterus shrinks, especially while breastfeeding. I wish someone had warned me about that!
I know for sure that that is just your experience. Pain was done as soon as the baby and the baby came out for both my kids
@@DevelopingStartupsI sure hope 😭🩷
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@@DevelopingStartupsIt was definitely my experience as well!!! And with all 3 of my babies 👶👶👶...and *ESPECIALLY when breastfeeding!!! At least by the time my 2nd & 3rd babies were born, I at least knew what to expect 🤷🏼♀️. But with my first baby, nobody had explained or given me a heads up about that part and it absolutely would have been sooo appreciated!!!
The calmness with which you deliver this information is so appreciated…and I’m not even having a baby! 😅
not pregnant,not sure if i wanna ever get pregnant or have kids,her calmness scared me MORE than i already was
@@thehobbyisttries currently working with my therapist on another anxieties that i have,but actually thank you for that idea,might be a topic i would need to work on!
the video didn't made anxious but wasn't calming,i needed the "no,it's not gonna be easy-be real! it's gonna be tough and you to prepare for this in such a such way,you can do it" kind of talk when it comes to important things
Right?! Like I wanna save this for later 😂
Thisss
Love this thread
This is free birth control. Thank you for this.
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The way this had me cackling in agreement 🤣😂🤣😂
Pooping is not automatic, I only seen someone poop once and they had pitocin. That same person went on to deliver six more times and I don't believe they pooped. I had natural labor twice to completion, without epidural, my body cleared itself out before and I had to poop a lot during labor myself before pushing so did not poop.
@@ASmith-jn7kfthis sounds like you care abt the fact that some women poop. Not sure if thats what you ment to give off but it sounds weird. Like oh i dont poop when i give birth, okay bro no one cares, she saying most women do poop when giving birth. Meaning sometimes women wont poop like you, congragulations you get a cookie. Idk i dont see an issue with the fact that some women poop when giving birth. You just seem so judgemental in ur comment, its not the right place to brag. Youve already had ur moment, time to give other women space. I genuinly dont understand why you felt the need to say ppl in ur life havent and you havent. Okay cool then its not for you, its for women who might poop when delivering. Just not the right place
It's short term suck for long term happiness. I was so petrified of all of these things that I didn't want kids for the longest time. Now I can't imagine life without my son.
Me when giving birth to my daughter, “it feels like all I’m doing is pooping”
My husband….”that’s cuz you are”
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This is the funniest thing I’ve read all day 😂😂😂
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Yep. Been there….😂
How nice of him.
My mom was with me in the delivery room as I was having my son, and she couldn’t stop giggling like a child every time I pushed. Took me a min to figure out why… totally not helpful lol
Im 17 im not even close to pregnant but its always good to educate yourself somehow abt being a female ❤
Yeah its good, but you may scare your self too much unnecceserally, like for instance few weeks before my delivery, i talked with my grandma and she told me that they sometimes cut in down there to prevent tearing, I thought about it and was actually really scared that it will hurt damn much.
Well fast things forward they did cut in there, but they do it when you are pushing, thus you hardly feel the pain, because it is already terribly painfull from the contractions.😅 So, I was worried for no reason 😂
@@tiesiai_per_aplinkuibetter be scared then overromatize it like so many women do then end up in the worst case scenario
@@tiesiai_per_aplinkuiyeah. This is one reason why I’m not having kids.
@@tiesiai_per_aplinkui I guess the more a girl mature the more they would just stop fearing it, I remember not wanting to marry someone or give birth to someone cause I’m afraid with all these things as a teen (I am a science nerd lmao) but now that I reached the understanding that it sure does happen and it’ll just pass somehow, I’d want to take care of someone who would probably be my bff in the future, that’s all that I’m thinking.
I’d like to add: your body will tell you when to push. Don’t let people make you feel rushed, it’s your birth and you deserve as much time as you need
love this🫂
I m about to give birth any time soon. Hope i will remember ur tip.
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Along the same line, there comes a point where your body will not allow you to NOT push when it decides it’s time. I barely made it to the delivery room before my middle child was born. As they were trying to get ready, everyone was yelling “Don’t push!!” Seriously, people?! I cannot control what is happening! My body is ejecting this baby no matter what any of us says or does!
U can't take ur own sweet time while delivering a baby cuz it can lead to respiratory distress in ur baby. There is a time period within which the baby needs to be out which if it doesn't, carries risks of complications to the baby after birth
We need more people like you (informative, understanding, empathetic, non-judgmental) in women’s healthcare❤️
I just didn't like the eye rolls, fel5 patronizing. For example, the shaving thing, it was imposed by hospitals, most mothers didn't know or didn't care. So the eyerolls should be directed at hospital medical staff.
@@imalrockmei dont think she was rolling her eyes in annoyance i think it was just in a way like “of course you dont have to shave!” in a reassuring way
Not so fun fact: Studies show that lying on your back to give birth actually increases your risk of tearing, breaking your tailbone or pelvis, and needing vacuum assistance (which can leave your baby permanently disabled). It also makes the birthing process longer and more painful. Women giving birth on their back is unnatural. Historically, women have always given birth in an upright position via squatting. This is because gravity will naturally work with you, making it easier for you to push out the baby. Think about it, you wouldn't lie down on your back to poop, would you? Trying to poop while lying down would be much more strenuous on the body.
There’s a good chunk of us that are ❤
@@Shield954On the pooping part, that's exactly why it's recommended to place your feet on a stool so your body creates an angle and you're able to work with gravity more easily. Additionally, places where you have to squat to poop, such as restrooms with the toilet in the floor/ground, tend to report less straining.
After my 1st C-section, when I stood up, I bled like crazy...no one told me that would happen (35 years ago), that really scared me. They should tell you these things... it's not as though they don't expect it.
It's so nice that this obgyn shares this information.❤
I'm impressed to see this information being said out loud and to the general public. Thank you!
Please add #5: mom is allowed to have whatever treats she'd like after a baby. If she wants a coffee, a cupcake, or both, please get them for her 😅
Yep I drank the shit out of a fanta with a straw while having the baby on my chest. I hadnt had anything to drink or eat during my labour.
A cupcake sounds rlly good rn
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I wasn't allowed to eat before or after my c section, but I was starving and dying of thirst after delivery because it had been almost 24 hours since I was even allowed a sip of water. Overnight, I sent my SO to the vending machines so he could get me something...anything. All they had was tapioca pudding, and it was the BEST thing I had ever eaten! The nurse walked in while I was downing it, and she left the room and came back with a bowl and set it on the bed, and then she left the room while saying she didnt see a thing 😂 It's crazy to me that they don't allow food/water, or even a popsicle at certain hospitals when you are having a c section. I understand why they worry, but starving out a pregnant or postpartum woman is never a good idea. If I was able to feel my legs and wasn't afraid of busting my stitches, I would have marched straight to the kitchen and taken whatever I wanted.
@@TwinMama-jv3zb originally was going to ask did they not give you a IV for fluids, then checked the advice and damn, NHS is pretty much once you feel hungry you can eat/drink, completely different to the US based websites advice.
THANK YOU! I had a c-section at 19 years old and NO ONE told me I was gonna bleed. I got up to walk for the first time and i had a panic attack when I blood went everywhere. They didn’t give me a pad or prepare me in any way. I was terrified. So glad to see a doc teaching these things. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😘
waahht?! they didn't put one of those underwear pads (basically a diaper) on you after you had your baby? that's crazy.. they failed you.
@@pr3ciousara no! They didn’t. I don’t know why but they definitely failed me. My 2nd and 3rd experiences were far better because I was prepared mentally but they traumatized me!
The lack of informed consent in women's healthcare is sad and disturbing. Doctors lie to female patients about the pain of gynecological procedures by saying "it's just a pinch" as a means to try to justify performing procedures on women without anesthesia. Female patients are not given anesthesia or even pain medication for procedures such as uterine biopsies, endometrial biopsies, IUD insertions, etc. Meanwhile, male patients are given both anesthesia and a week's worth of strong opioid pain medication for testicular biopsies, prostate biopsies, and vasectomies. Women's healthcare is inhumane and barbaric.
That sucks. They basically put a puppy pad underneath me.
What the hell-!? I’m convinced most doctors and nurses just don’t care when you’re delivery #8 for the day. 😢 I can’t believe we rely on strangers. I’m terrified of ever becoming pregnant. I don’t think I could have kids.. I mean, willingly
My grandma, bless her sweet heart, thought I was cold because I was shaking so bad after my first baby, she kept getting blankets throwing them on me❤
That's so sweet🥺😍
SO precious❤🥹🥹🥹
I remembered 27 years ago i had my first child and was shaking like crazy and didn't know what was happening and just getting this information today. Also i was shamed by a hospital cleaner because I pooped myself while giving birth and didn't know it was normal. Thanks for all these information there should be more informative shorts like this coming across our screens
#2 is what actually made me cry during delivery. I was good until I started pooing and then it was over. My husband said it's OK honey, knowing he was not OK! 😂
😂😂 lol counting the number of all the women I’ve helped to deliver I think half of them do poop and it’s completely normal we just wipe and carry on most of them we don’t even tell them they pooped.
I thought they had enema's before giving birth when they first go into labor? so that did not happen?@@tinyiko2949
That’s why I won’t let my husband to be with me ,,, I won’t let him see me poop
@@Chris777.it’s natural the baby is pushing on your guts!
@@senorita-qh6bm sure,, but still don’t want my husband to smell or see that
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Thanks so much for addressing this. I'm a NICU and postpartum nurse. So many women apologize and are embarrassed during the process. It's a bloody and uncomfortable process, and that's normal. I want women to understand how amazing they are to be able to create and birth life. It's a miracle and should be celebrated. Never apologize or be embarrassed by this miraculous process.
Thank you for saying that. 20 years later, I still feel a bit of shame for the utter disaster I was. Shakes. Crying. Ravenous. Messy. Bloody. All of it.
Times sure have changed.
My first child was born in 84.
One nurse told me she was disgusted I pooped while pushing.
Those were the days they gave the woman an enema.
@freedomspromise8519 I'm sorry she attempted to shame you. If you are pushing properly, then you will poop. That's just what happens. There should be no shame during this process. I'm in awe every time I get to witness a birth. It's truly a miracle.
Thank you for your service, Ma'am, and for thinking this way.. Bless you!
It is only embarrassing for the first time, I guess, the next time you give a shit, literally. 😂
Great advice. I'll never get over these informational vids, where the poster is putting on makeup while speaking seriously. I feel like I'm listening to my mother giving me the riot act before she goes out.
You're the best! I needed to hear this at 28 weeks pregnant 🤰🏻 wish me luck.🙏 ❤
You've got this❤
Good luck mama!
Thank you so much! ❤❤❤ @@Adelaide672
@@toast4082thank you!! ❤❤❤
Good luck mama! God be with you ❤❤❤
honestly the first one is such a relief i’m only 18 and i’m not having a baby but i always get worried if i do need to do anything down there😭 i hate society shaming women for having hair down there when it’s natural 🙄
Let it grow free, if any has an issue with it they don't deserve to be down there. You deserve complete acceptance of your natural states of being.
Only recent society. We need to go back to the 1970's
Don't EVER feel this is expected of you for Any reason. If this happens, ask the man to do his balls first. See how that goes.
You don't need to do anything, ever. It's totally up to you! Don't listen to people who say otherwise!
@@floridaexplorer6530😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂so true ha ha ha
I had a nurse RIGHT AFTER GIVING BIRTH ask “um are you okay??” Because I was shaking and so COLD. I felt so abnormal so I am so GLAD YOU MENTIONED THE SHAKES!
rude and ignorant
@@akpokemonso a typical nurse
I do acupuncture and we say that many women have issues from the loss of blood and adrenaline, often showing up as exhaustion and mental health issues (also doesn’t help that we have very little support in the west). I’ve never actually had a baby so I didn’t think about the shaking but that is obviously a sign of adrenaline overload. We give kidney boosting and blood boosting herbs to balance.. but of course most mothers have no idea anything like this exists… and that nurse DEFINITELY doesn’t ugh
@@Cafeallday222when I gave birth I lost a lot of blood and I won't accept blood transfusions for religious reasons, which they would have given me if I would have accepted. The nurse read in my chart what my religion was and said "so you won't take a blood transfusion, huh?" and when I told her no again, she made me get out of bed unassisted (I also had an epidural and they wouldn't let me out of bed because of it) and walk to the wheelchair to go to the recovery room, practically tossed my newborn into my arms to hold onto while we went to the room, even though I was shaking terribly and felt like passing out. I wanted my husband or my mom to carry him instead because I was afraid I would drop him, I didn't even know how to hold a newborn. But she made it out like I HAD to hold him and gave my mom and husband other responsibilities so they weren't available. When I got to recovery I ordered as many blood building/boosting foods as possible from their menu. Just because I won't take whole blood doesn't mean I won't take other medical interventions. She was so rude to me, she even seemed angry about how hard I was pushing against her while she held my leg in labor...looking back of course I wish I would have been in the state of mind to report her, she was obviously working in the wrong department, maybe even the wrong career.
@@amandak3198she is a very evil person, and I hope she was fired shortly after. I understand that religion can seem weird sometimes (hell, I'm uncomfortable with even the mention of it, even though its in 90% of my art), but treating you like that over something so small is just plain cruel. I hope that horrible experience hasn't affected you too badly 🫂
35 weeks pregnant, bit nervous since im so small and young but praying for the best 🙏🏻
You seem extremely kind, any mother would be lucky to you as their midwife ❤
I’m so glad you mentioned the shaking!! Pregnant moms need to be told these things so they don’t panic at something completely normal!!
I had a three c sections l was shaking for all three, it's an outta body experience, you know it's finally over but your body just cnt relax
& night sweats!!! 😮☝️☝️🙄
I didn't shake or sweat after, i'm not normal😂
@@oliviad5474same here, I wasn't even hungry 😅
The relaxed attitude with which she delivers this is everything! Would definitely want her on my case if I were having a child
Oh the shaking! I have rapid births- precipitous labor- my first was born in under 3 hours, my second within 90 min. And yes, that’s from first contraction to holding a new born human in your arms. After the first rapid labor, we try to schedule an induction for the second so I could at least have some pain relief, but she had her own ideas. I remember it mostly like a locomotive tearing through a tunnel that’s too small. I felt like I was shattering inside and bricks were flying everywhere as the train exploded through! It was traumatic- both times- and yet no one ever prepared me for the shaking afterwards. That was almost more scary than what I just went though because I didn’t expect it at all. Thank you for talking about that. It’s important for mothers to know what to expect! ❤
Greatest comment ever, and that is exactly what it felt like a train on a breakout run or something. Thank you for saying that.
I’m so happy to see all this shared information in advance. The generations before us tactic of teaching critical information was literally “F around and find out.” 😂
Im not pregnant yet, but every video i see by her helps me be less afraid of delivery. She's doing God's work with a nonchalant attitude
LITERALLY I’m a married college student and literally every delivery story was terrifying to me because it was always told through the lens of “so embarrassing and shameful and also I was in immense amounts of torturous pain that made me feel more ashamed and scared plus complications and untrained staff haha” like AHH at least this realistic advice isn’t like freaking horror night over here lol
😂 it's the 'with a nonchalant attitude' for me
The fact that the poop thing was “number 2” I can’t 😂
Wow 😂 didn’t notice, thanks for pointing it out
what’s funny?
@@annidaskuken3487ever heard of ‘I need to do a number 2?’ number 2 = poop
Lol
Haha, I missed that!😅😂
The fact that you are sharing this shows how much you care. 😭❤️❤️
Involuntary pooping, bleeding, shaking- out of a mama’s control, very good information you passed along ! 💕💙🎀
Shaking is the #1 thing that freaked me out after each of my 3 babies 😅😂
Its from the epidural.
I did not have an epidural and I was shaking very badly
I had a spinal for a c section and something went wrong…I was paralyzed from chin down for 12 hours. It was terrifying.
@@juliennetully4814 Me too!
@@ribbonriveri didn't had one and i shake with my first born
A male dr told me i HAVE to shave, cuz he didn't want to "see that again". Bastard.
I would be volunteering for a life sentence if someone told that to me smh
you can hear women nurses and gynos says the same thing here
He is right and I as nurse agree.
@@azraorucevic2438i hope you lose your license 😊🙏 you're unfit to care for people in such a vulnerable situation ❤
Oh he should be slapped
this is actually very reassuring and takes a load of anxiety off. thank you
But this is amazing to see a nurse tell us it’s okay! No one ever made me feel that comfortable while delivering my baby girl
i was shaking like i was possessed and they still wanted me to carry my baby like maam!😂😂
That’s what I’m scared for! If I get the shakes & then have to hold my baby! Someone is going to have to spot me😂😩 make sure I don’t drop him
@@madisonwilliamson on top of that they start bombarding me with questions like what’s his name? I dont even remember my own sis!🤣
@@rahmatoullahbah5230 😂😂😂😂
I was shaking so badly and they said do you want chest to chest and I’m like NNNNN OOOOOO …. 😂 then a second later i felt bad and said YYYEEEESSSS GGGGIVE HER TO MMMMMEEEE….. I didn’t last too long though. I had to give her to my husband because I could not stop shaking and asked for a pile of blankets
I couldnt even hold my daughter immediately after because of the shaking. I always felt shame about that, I wish I would have known that it was normal
The shaking is normal to an extent, after 5 little ones I experienced shaking. But with my 6th the shaking was uncontrollable, it came and went even after a whole day. Doctors kept saying it was normal, my gut told me otherwise. Listen to your gut!!! Shortly after the last doctor told me “it was normal” I went unconscious, turns out I had sepsis and that was causing the shaking not just the adrenaline. Always listen more to your body, doctors aren’t always right!!
no no, if it's lasting that long after, thats a sign you have extremely low bloodpressure/sugar/something i should know bc i have the same issues
Medical professionals are taught a lot of things are normal just because they are so common.
The trembling scared me. I could have used this video prior to delivering my first baby. I started to shake/tremble uncontrollably as soon as i was ready to push.
THE SHAKES 🤌🏼😂 so underrated, I was like “idk why I’m not cold or anything” holding onto the bars like I’m bouta go coocoo for Cocoa Puffs 🤣
God I needed that laughhhhhhhh thanks! I'll try to remember that whenever it happens to me! "coocoo for cocoa puffs"
@@neenaraj4639 😂🫶🏼 this is a safe place lol
Absolutely hilarious I just about laughed to death at this comment,😂😂.
Holy jeez man. The unending list of new horrifying things i learn about pregnancy and birth is expanding again. I want to build a monument for every woman that has ever given birth. Everyone should be constantly thanking all of you. I'm going to call my mom.. Women, especially mothers are the strongest human beings. And gratitude to the professionals helping them through the process, educating all of us and dedicating their lives to medicine and care.
Thank you so much for this ❤
Support abortion rights so we (and little children) aren't forced into this. There's being strong and then there's being tortured.
@@umhi9778
Oh I absolutely already do. Abortion rights all the way. Nobody should ever be forced into something like this. Immense respect to any woman deciding to become a mother or finding herself pregnant whichever decision she will make, that decision takes strength and courage and should always be hers entirely.
I'm not having a baby yet, but the way you delivered this information is so comforting
For me the more information they give, the more anxiety I get. I’ll experience it when the day comes lol, no need to get me anxious 7 years in advance 😅
Wish more nurses were like her because my experience was a Nightmare. Nurses I got were completely out of line and tried to make me Breast feed and did not bring me formula on purpose and they would not let The baby's father hold, change, nor feed. Parental bias was loud at that hospital amongst other things I could get in to. When you do have a baby...advice, Stick up for yourself and do not budge. They can't do anything about it. I should've been more Stern
@@MasteralyssaDon't most hospitals try to get the baby to breastfeed though? I think that's usually the first thing they go with unless the mother specifically mentioned wanting to, or needing to use formula instead. It's terrible that they didn't respect your choice if you brought that up.
She delivers the info so that we can deliver the babies.
@Cindy99765 It's something they asked me before I gave birth when I got admitted into the hospital. I specifically said formula, and there were good reasons for it. My best friend gave birth on the same Floor 10 years later , Got the same Nurse And had to report that nurse because she accidentally left her speaker on through her bed and told her colleague that she was getting really sick of going To her room Every 5 seconds. My best friend's dad was an ER nurse at the same hospital and reported what we heard. We have no idea if she got disciplined or not, but we didn't see her after that. Ten years between and that bitch is as vile as before.
I wish someone had told me about the shaking. That would have been a hugely helpful piece of information to know why that was happening.
I feel lucky to be giving birth during all the social media apps out there that provide thousands of very informative reels about pregnancy and childbirth. I feel like I may have heard almost everything that could possibly happen during birth! I like surprises, just not medical ones.
These are the things which should be taught, spoken of, in prenatal classes!!
Wait!! They're not talked about there?
I never learned about it! @@jujubeethatsme
Seriously, no one talks about what you’ll go through afterbirth. The soreness, the bleeding, the anxiety and definitely not the shakes.
Thank you for mentioning that you bleed even with C-sec. I know so many women who thought that bleeding was from the trauma/injury of vaginal birth as opposed to shedding all the tissue in the uterus from making the human.
Ohhhh that’s why!?
Right. You're just catching up on all the periods that you missed! 😆
The bleeding is caused by the wound in the uterus from where the placenta detached, and for the shedding of extra lining.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS !! i wish there was a better education informing us of all these things so i wouldn’t have to find out through a stranger on the internet!
My doctor promised me a Gatorade after I was done. I finished and said I want my Gatorade now… I got it and as I was gulping it down, I could barely hold it due to the shaking. But gulp it down, I did. Then, I fell asleep 😂😂
I think I love your doctor for going through that promise hahahaha.... Tasty sugary electrolytes though
That's actually the best option.
Why is this so funny
@@hyeronymus my husband thought it was funny. He said something to me and I was asleep. Just 5 min before I was drinking my Gatorade prize 😆
You have the same demeanor as my 1st OBGYN. Calming and factual. Squashed all my embarrassing fears. ❤
They weren’t embarrassing fears. They were valid concerns. Don’t ever minimize or dismiss them ;)
I knew about all of these except for the shaking. I love my nervous systems and discovering what they do for me. This is absolutely vital and truth that I need to know as woman and queen ⭐️
I shook soooo hard for about 90 minutes, after my twins were born. It was scary and no one even mentioned that might happen.
After a somewhat traumatic birth I had to go in for surgery. I was shaking so violently I could even form a proper sentence.
In the operating room - I will never forget the nurse that was like an angel next to my shoulder. They legit dedicated one person to just sit by my head to talk to me. She wrapped me with a hot blanket and was just whispering some calming things. I couldn't even comprehend what she was whispering, I just knew I fucking loved her.
Thankful for her to this day, as I was confused, scared and in a lot of pain. She was the only barrier between me staying calm and me panicking to a point where I would have passed out.
I got thrown off a motorcycle a week ago and I can't forget the big blue eyes of the woman telling me to just look at her as other strangers controlled my bleeding. Her name was Josephine. ❤
@@Brooklyn0789What an amazing woman. ❤
This was very informative and reassuring... giving birth to my first child next month. Praying for a healthy baby and delivery ❤
Prayers & good luck mama!❤🙏🥹🫶 you got this!
Good luck mama!!
If still pregnant, read my post. Best wishes!
Thanks!! She decided to greet us all earlier than expected (Thanksgiving weekend) lol we're doing great tho!
Goood luck love you!
Bless you for being the first person to tell about the shakes, im 32 and never new this
After my 3rd and last child I starting passing HUGE blood clots and of course i waited a couple days not wanting to be a bother and my dr ended up giving me prescription of a few tiny pills and said if it didnt stop i would have to come back next morning and have surgery! Thank God it stopped!!
My nurses were my heroes. I was 20 and terrified while having a high risk emergency delivery. The doctors and anesthesiologist were cold & rude. My nurses were super supportive, informative, and even defended me whenever I was given shit from the anesthesiologist.
what did the doctors & anesthesio- fucking hell i'm not spelling that, but what did they do? yes, i want to be angry
That's the SAME EXACT treatment my 18 year old daughter got. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that because it literally traumatized my daughter! She was scheduled to be induced, but ended up having to have an emergency cesarean. The doctors were so rude and actually really freaked her out. The head nurse screamed at the doctor to calm the hell down, that he was freaking my daughter out. When you're in the midst of chaos and you & your unborn baby are in danger, it really doesn't help when the doctors ADD to that instead of alleviating that fear.
Nurses are always the ones to do most of the work and actually care about patients.
Why are anesthesiologists such a**holes? Mine was just sitting there annoyed that he had to answer my questions during the c-section. Why take a job you don’t actually enjoy?
@@FernandaRamirezS It's for money. They get paid like 200k per year.
Facts. Pooped with my first delivery and was shaking really bad after. Also, don't eat or drink anything until doctor/nurse tells you to. You WILL throw up. I begged for just a little sip and the nurse finally buckled. Same nurse had to change clothes after I projectile vomited on her. Second delivery was much easier. Baby popped out before the doctor even got into the room. No poop. No shakes.
Had 6 and never vomited
@@makaye3259Good for you! Want a cookie?
@@makaye3259 I vommited, but didn't poop. So, idk everyone is different.
women can eat if they feel like it. birth is strenuous.
I think the reason they don't want you to drink or eat is because Incase you end up having a C section. I was aloud to have ice chips..no vomiting. I was told your digestive system shuts down during labor .
The not needing to shave is what needed to hear 😮💨 like I can’t think of someone looking at cooter and saying “is that the babies hair or did you not shave before this?”
YEES!! THE SHAKING!! Why is this not talked about more!?!?
Everyone in this comment section is so wholesome and respectable of each other's experiences. Appreciate it a bunch 😊❤
My birth was actually very calm. I had an epidural. My favorite memory pre-pushing was listening to my son’s heartbeat on the monitor in the middle of the night while it felt like the rest of the world was sleeping. The labor itself was overall amazing and I truly think the morning sickness and sciatica was worse than the labor 😂
Epidurals are wonderful. I always wanted one, but ended up having four natural births because of how quick my labors were and it is no joke!! But everyone who has had an epidural said they felt nothing but pressure. I wish that was all I felt lol.
What a beautiful memory 💕
I never want to become pregnant. Every video I watch on this topic solidifies that decision. But that sounds nice
My baby came early… 4 days of labor. Honestly the most painful part was actually having the epidural put in lol oh and then the spinal headache that came after that (I got the blood tap 5 days after labor… don’t wait that long, it was the worst pain I have ever experienced) Everything was so smooth, I was sleeping right before I was actually ready to push.
@@brittaneycook4712oop what’s a blood tap 😅
I shook like crazy and all the nurses treated me like I was a big baby over exaggerating and like I was annoying them
I am a proud mother of 4 wonderful kids and I have to say this is the most truthful video I have watched!!!!
Everything you said is 100 %true.
Bless your heart for letting people know ❤
You're very kind. I hope that all medical staff are like you.
Thank you for telling people this! I’ve had two children and my obgyn didn’t tell me what to expect, nor did the birthing class I took at the hospital. It was just “how to…” But you are telling moms to be what they need to know! 👏👏👏
And as a guy it is very important to be there for support but never ever forget to stay out of here reach , if you get too close then you only have yourself to blame
I wish someone would have told me about the blood that comes out when they have you stand after giving birth. I started to cry and bend down to clean it up. my nurse made me feel a lot better, when she said it happens to everyone. it pills inside of you until you stand up.
FROM A MOM OF THREE THANK YOU FOR SHARING! NO ONE TOLD ME AND I WAS TERRIFIED MY BODY WAS SHAKING AND LIP QUIVERING AND WAS WEAK. ALL NORMAL AS JUST YOUR BODY IN SHOCK/ADRENALINE ❤😊
And when I asked yes I pooped every time lol its so fast its normal don't fret they do this and LOVE their job sis!! Push and be the awesome momma you are!! Go momma go! You've Got this! God's got this and you! Breathe and trust nature and God!
Hey how painful is it ? Everyone says it's devestating , Like can you tell how painful and then still have 3 more babies?
@@sonalithakur1858it’s extremely painful, the worst pain I’ve ever experienced without pain medication. I’ve had 3 without and one medicated.
When it’s over, you forget exactly how bad it was.
I had no idea at all😭
@@sonalithakur1858it varies for different people but I have contractions that go back to back and I have huge babies. My entire body clamps down trying to push that baby out and there's no controlled pushing or what have you. It's the single most horrific experience I have ever experienced. It's more force and pain than I even knew the body could produce. Just being 100 percent honest. However, I live in Japan where most hospitals do not allow pain meds for mothers. If you like in the west you can try an epidural for pain relief.
lowkey cringed
Had a argument on here with a GUY about how there's still risk involved when having a baby. He swore that epidurals are some kinda magical medicine that makes having a baby completely safe. Can you make a video about the risks women go through when pregnant and during birthing?
I’m sure this makes a lot of women feel better .. thank u for sharing :)
Can you explain the shaking more? The app cut you off for time. Also, can you explain the plus and minus of trying an epidurals and how often it may work partially or why it may only work part way?
I don’t remember shaking but I DO remember pooping. 😂 It was embarrassing but it was SO much easier to deliver after the poo had been passed. Just let it happen and have no shame. You’re going to feel like a goddess after you deliver that baby. It really is an incredible and empowering feeling to bring life into the world. ❤ (cotton pads soaked in witch hazel and frozen overnight are AMAZING after the birth against your down-there. Don’t forget the peri bottle, either. It’s gonna hurt for those first six weeks. Let your body heal.)
I remember an old Nurse saying one time that "most babies come into this world covered in violets"....(poo) ha ha ha
This is literally me 😳 I’m 5 months pregnant due in November and have so many swirly thoughts and questions and concerns!! Thank you for the video!
Hey I’m also due in November! Baby number 1! I’m just curious how long the shaking is gonna last for me when I finally do give birth- can’t wait to meet baby though 🥰🥰
Not everyone has the shaking. I've given birth twice and never experienced the shaking. Exhausted yes, shaking no.
Samantha Ravndahl has a few great postpartum videos on her channel. Stuff nobody talks about but should.
You got this momma!!!! Don’t go into it with “this is how my birth plan is going and I will do everything to make that happen”. Just go with the flow. You may change your mind and it’s fine! It’s all about a stress free (as possible) and healthy delivery. And no matter how your baby gets here, c section, delivery, etc, you are still amazing and you have brought life to this world. You rock.
So exciting!
Thank you for saying it so calm and making it less scary. I’m not pregnant but hopefully someday and I hope I have nurses and doctors like you. 😊❤
I was shaking and threw up immediately after giving birth and asked the nurse "is this normal, am I okay?" And she was like yeah, totally normal, your body just underwent a lot of stress. I read so much while I was pregnant in preparation, literally took childhood development college courses and everything, because the more I know/understand, the less anxiety I feel when something is actually happening. But the shaking and puking were things I'd never learned beforehand. Thank you for the heads up to all future moms.
Good info. Women need to share what happens, so every stage of our lives isn’t so traumatic.
This!
Please talk about the last push for the placenta sack to come out. That is mortifying and never discussed. I thought I was having twins because it still hurt and when the doctor said there wasn't another baby after the first, I was totally confused, then grossed out as this carryon bag covered in pasta sauce ejected out of my body.
I still think about it.
🥺🤢🥺.
I was so glad I read the book series of Call the Midwife, where she really gets into the nitty gritty of delivering babies. We should really learn more about it.
@@pcbassoon3892 Breast feeding too. The hardcore actuality of chaffed nipples that bleed and it's PAINFUL. My baby felt it esoterically and stopped breastfeeding prematurely but was a plump and beautiful little angel. 🥰.
The placenta is sacred. Have some respect.
@@carolynfehr Ma'am, please tend to yourself. Thank you.
I've had 2 vaginal deliveries and a c-section.. and both of the times I delivered my babes, my delivery of the placenta was nearly as bad because you have nurses pushing on your gut and punching your stomach while its contracting and throbbing and everything hurts so bad I wanted to punch these nurses each time so bad it was so painful and they always said it was super necessary but I ways thought nurses were excessive regarding that placenta delivery 😬
This is giving RN l&d pep talk and I’m here for it 😂😂😂
Great job nurse! Such important information to have. I recently became a grandmother and was asked to be in the delivery room with the parents, imagine my surprise when I discovered there had been NO previous classes on what to expect! 🤦🏻♀️ (I gave birth during the height of the Lamaze experience.) They were completely unaware and unprepared. - retired RN
This is the most realistic advice I've gotten no one talks to you straight...the not knowing makes me afraid and so does knowing. 😅
as a man, I just thankyou for this knowledge.
Am 35 weeks now and honestly am so excited for delivery🙏 can't wait
Safe delivery mama
You are an awesome doctor!!!!
A good and kind human being, your patients are blessed to have you!!!!
I’m never having a baby but this is so comforting. Thank you for sharing information and being there for your patients.
I work in a dental office as a Hygienist and I have so many people apologize for things I really don’t care about 😂
I’m so glad health care professionals are creating content like this!
I wish the people around me shared this with me before I gave birth. Would have been nice to know what to expect.
No shaking. Home birth. And my husband made me postpatrum tea and BORSCH😊
It was the contractions for the few days after my babies were born that surprised me. They were especially painful after #3.
Yeah, apparently they get worse and worse each baby. My mum said on Baby #5 it was like labour level bad, especially when she was feeding...!
It’s sooo baddd
Yeah I didn't know why I had them & my doctor said it's your bodies way of shrinking your uterus back to normal...I was like well damn it fn hurts worse than labor😂
I never had that and I had 7 pregnancies 6 live births
Wow. This is horrifying.
Don’t forget the pain in your uterus trying to shrink back to normal size…every time you breastfeed.
Respect for all women who have or about to have children!!
The shaking is for real! I thought it was a result of the anesthesia for my c-sections! Cool to know!
Thank you for posting this! When I was pregnant, I was preparing my kegel muscles for the workout of a lifetime, and had no idea I'd be using another group of muscles until my 3rd trimester! 😅
This happened to me too! XD went a few hrs using my abs to push until the nurse told me to use my poop muscles, and out the baby went. Kinda wished I knew that sooner but oh well lol
I was shaking SO bad during my c-section that I feared I would bite my tongue off. I had never heard anyone talk about the shaking!
Wow im surprised you had it even after c sections, i dont remember having shaking 🤔 with my 3 babies
@@a2ishaI had the shakes after my c section too. Violent uncontrollable shaking.
@BookieMonsterr wow was it hard to hold the baby? Last time I gave birth they let me hold the baby for one hour before they even touched her. It was amazing😇
@@a2isha mine was the opposite situation :/ Her blood sugar wouldn’t stabilize, so I didn’t even get to hold her for about 2 hours 😭 And then only for a few minutes all bundled up with oxygen tubes. I had stopped shaking so violently by then.
@@a2isha it started DURING and only let up after the procedure when they gave me drugs to start to calm it down.
After those nurses went viral basically being horrible about women not being clean shaven and pooping i was so scared for women and how its tramatising enough with the pain and possibly feeling embarassed , THANK YOU !! You are a great woman and surely the best obgyn ive seen on the internet ❤❤ your normalising whats normal and letting us all know its natural ❤😊 I love tou for this ❤❤
The body shaking terrifies me because it sounds similar to a panic attack and I have an immense fear of panic attacks.
Your voice and facial expressions are so comforting. You make me feel safe 😊❤ I wish my OBs and drs were like you
I heard it’s safer not to shave because the micro cuts increase risk of infection
oh hell yeah. i shaved with my first like a moron.
Yh it’s better to shave like…a week before
Some people get Brazilian waxes beforehand to help with cleanup after birth though
@@raenewnham7490that’s fine but you want to do it early just so you have time to recover from the Brazilian
@@potato1084or use scissors to trim it! It was easier for me to do this in the shower with my leg up than try to use a razor lol, just grab the ends of a chunk of hair and snip to desired length. You can use sensitive washes ON THE LABIA (outside) too.
As someone who's giving birth this August, this made me more nervous for some reason 😭
I wish and pray from my heart that other countries get to where US is currently, when I delivered my baby it's a luxury indeed to have a maternity hospital, was induced by pitocin, nurses shaved me and was given enema to clear bowel. The doctor arrived just for the episiotomy stitches and wouldn't even have made it if I delivered a bit sooner. Sometimes being HYPER-AWARE of things which are not available in your environment RUINS you.
This is why, I chose the OB/GYN group, that I had with all 4 of my daughters!! They have a doctor constantly in the hospital, they do a 48 hour shift,, and rotate doctors..so there is ALWAYS, a doctor, present on the L&D ward 24/7! I didn't like the idea of other hospitals around where I live, they don't even call the on call Obstetrician, until, you are crowning, and by the time a doctor did show up, the nurses had already delivered your baby! I have seen many new parents, lose their babies, because there was no doctor there, just nurses..if you have any complications, you don't know how long, you would have to wait for the doctor to arrive!! I actually worked at one of those hospitals in Labor and Delivery, for quite a few years, while I was pregnant...and I made it abundantly clear, that if I were to go into labor, while I was at work, they would transport me, to the hospital my doctors on staff!!
The instant relief once the baby is out though, I shook and cried so much you have so much going on it’s crazy but so beautiful